>> Hi, guys.
>> Press it. >> And here we are. >> So, the episode, we're just, I don't know, just shooting the shit over here with washani. And I'll, unlike literally the most mundane, like, unimportant shit, my hair. And if it's darker or lighter, then it used to be.
>> What do you guys think? >> And if, yeah, so what do you think?
>> And I got a little bit of a trim, that's basically the big conversation topic.
I'm going to tune out and just move on to the next thing. No, I'm joking. Okay, let's move on. Let's talk about something that I was thinking about last night, which is this idea of what you focus on.
“I think this is actually really interesting because I like to focus on things that I think”
about not how I feel before I do something, but how I will feel after I do something. >> Right. So, I don't allow how I feel before to shape and decide what I'm going to do. Because a lot of times, the things that you feel bad about later are the things that you feel good about before, and the things that you kind of feel, like, you don't want to do actually make you feel better after.
So, focus on how you feel after something, not how you feel before something, like exercise, right? No one would ever say they felt worse after working out. But they would say they felt worse after drinking a leader of Tequila, but at the time they decided to do it, they were super psyched and excited and happy, and they felt really good about it, and it was going to be a good time, and then they do it and they felt like
shit after. So, think about those things, because if you focus on health versus happiness, you know, health leads you to happiness, as opposed to focusing on being happy, being happy, but not doing any of the right steps and making the right choices and doing the right decisions to get you to that place. >> I love that.
“>> Wait, that's so great. This idea of, I think so many people are waiting to feel good”
before they pursue a lot of these things. >> Yeah, they're waiting to thinking that pursuing these things will lead you to feeling good. >> Right. That's the whole thing, like you switch it on its head, right? We're all waiting for this moment when we feel happy and feel a certain way to then go after something or do something versus what I just said, which is this idea that you focus on being mentally healthy, physically healthy, in relationships
that are healthy, and all of those things will end up morphing into happiness. By doing the things that make you happy in all of those pursuits. So, don't focus on how you feel at that moment. Think about how you feel after that thing. >> That's such good motivation. It's actually a practice for motivation with the gym, like sitting there thinking to yourself, okay, obviously don't want to go, but how am I going
to feel, like self-talk your way through, going to the actual gym? >> And the gym is like
“a one exam, but I think the gym is a good example, because at this point, like a lot”
of times, I don't want to go to the gym. There's a million things I'd rather do than work out, right? Because, you know, I'm tired. I know energy. I have a laundry list of things to do. Laundry being maybe one of them, you know? And if I focus on all of those things, then it doesn't be whoove me. Versus, if I focus on how I feel after the fact, like, I feel great after I work out that I'm going to have the energy to actually do all those other
things and pursue all those other things. But it's also, like I said, about like pursuing
anything, the focus is always on the before and never on the after, right? Like, like I said,
the one at stand or drinking a, you know, a leader of Tequila, all these things that will make you feel like shit after I would die with a leader of Tequila. I'm just making that up for the great day. Well, yeah, well, I don't drink that much for, I just think, like, the drinking can be drinking to me is so gross. Like, I don't understand how it's such a popular past time, because in the moment, it's like, that only thing is good about it in the moment, but really
soon thereafter, it's gross. You can't sleep well. It's bloating. You feel gross. Like, you get a headache. You can, like, I mean, what is the attraction so much? I love the feeling of being drunk, but I literally hate the taste of alcohol, so more than I love the feeling of being drunk, that I refuse to drink it, because it's so gross. The exact, I guess, okay, just answer
my own question. I literally hate the taste of alcohol so much that I have to basically, it's
like, it's so hard to even drink add drink for me because the taste is so gross. But I guess there are people actually like the taste. So if you like the taste, I mean, if you like the taste,
It makes more sense to me, or it's like, it's a social lubricant, right?
as like a social lubricant, right? Because it makes everything much easier, and it's,
you lose your inhibitions. You can talk to the people that you otherwise would feel uncomfortable to talk to. It will make you feel more comfortable in your skin, but really, do that, fine line turns really quickly, where you become sloppy, and you know, you're drooling, and your mouth is dry, and it, there's like, it doesn't last that long, like the good effect, the happiness part doesn't last that long. The repercussions are so much worse.
I feel like inhibitions are good, at least for me, like I need some, like I need something to show me up just a little bit. Well, you need some boundary. Yeah, it's so shiny, has no filter, and there's little boundary. I have, I actually have a lot of filter. I don't say a lot that comes out of my mind. I just have so much to say. I honestly probably spew, like, two percent of what I'm feeling. Really? Yeah, yeah. Well, it's not shocking. It's not shocking considering how
much I spew, but it's just for them. Wow. I know, I give myself a headache, just with my own self, oh my gosh, that is for just so, yeah. So anyway, those are my two cents on what you should be
“focusing on, or like, how you should think of what you should focus on. I like it. Do I add anything?”
Well, I had a question for you. What are some other examples other than working out? I was trying to think in my head. I think like having hard conversations is one of the things. No, I think that, no, a couple other things. I said, like, you know, alcohol and drinking. You make poor decisions when you're out. Also, I should forgot about that, but you make poor decisions when you usually have drink. Oh, yeah, how do you not mention that? That's like the worst part of it. Like how you feel
afterwards. Like I said, the one I stand was just one brand, I'm like, or sleep, whatever, like cooking up with some whatever it is. I don't know what it is, but it's just one way that that can kind of work. So what are things that make you feel good after? Those are things that make you feel bad. Like what's something that's really hard before, but that makes you feel good kind of like exercise, but I think having difficult conversations with people and, you know, procrastinating and putting
them off. And then when you actually do it, you feel really relieved after. And usually things are
never as bad as you and you think it will be. Like a lot of times like we tend to like over think
something, something to be so horrible. And like in our heads, everything seems much more awful, worse daunting. And then when it actually happens, it's never as bad as what you thought it was going to be. That's so true. Right. Like it's never as bad, but we tend to like we re-ruminate. Rumination is awful. So it's the worst because then you actually suffer twice. You suffer while
“you're ruminating the entire time, leaning up to it. And then you have to have the conversation,”
right, which is also a bit of suffering. And it's just, but it also like just it sets you up for more of rumination, right? Because rumination equals more rumination because then you procrastinate and the fear of doing something just makes you ruminated about it more. Versus if you just like do it and get it done. And then realize that it wasn't as bad as you actually thought it would be. So that would be one having difficult conversations. For crossings, it's a good one because it's
like, you know, it's schoolwork. I always had this, especially with like essays and stuff,
and put it off for so long because it felt good not to do it right now. Or anything hard. That's what you're going to wait. I just think, and I think the point that I'm trying to make is doing anything that's difficult will weigh you down at the beginning beforehand. And you'll think of all the reasons why not to do something because it's difficult. It's not easy. It's hard all the other euphemisms. But once you actually do it, the feeling of accomplishment after is
so much better than the feeling of that that uncomfortable feeling before. So if you can just focus
“on that feeling afterwards, that's how you should make your decision. Not around the not wanting”
or uncomfortable or how you feel prior. Let's just leave it at that because we're just like talking about the same thing over and over again. I like it. I think this is actually really important. Yeah. I did it. Well, should we take a bite? Yeah, subscribe, like, follow, subscribe to the podcast, like and follow. That's it. Thank you. Bye.
