1020. Q&AF: Pushing Through Hard Times, Being "Too Nice" & Leadership Struggles

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You make fun of me or something? No, my tan? You are getting tan, yeah. You are getting tan, do I? Yeah.

About time for me to pass you. That's the time of year where I pass you up in tennis. Usually it's like June, yeah. June has been a really set day, start. It's kind of fun, 'cause like half the year,

you're the black guy. And then the other half, I am. So it works.

“Yeah, you start had your wallet and that's your hat.”

Yeah, it just goes back and forth. You stole my bike, I steal it back. [LAUGHTER] Oh, man, must be July and you got me. It's going on the way.

I'm just glad I get the bikes in the summertime. That's right, it's right. Yeah, that's all I know, man. Just doing a thing, man. Things will be in done.

That's right. That's right, man. Hell yeah, dude. Yeah, everything's over you. Yeah, things are good on this in, bro.

Look, good, man. 269 this morning. Really? Yeah, really? Like real 269, real 269.

Yeah, real 269, real 269. No, no, like on the scale. 269. Is there any witnesses? Uh, God.

No, it doesn't count. Yeah. I'll take a picture in the morning. I'll show you. I'm there now, God, I'm listening.

I'm right there, bro. Oh, well, I'm right there. I know you're doing good. Yeah, we're cruising, bro. We're cruising.

It feels good.

You're finally lifted now.

That's what it is. It makes a big difference. It's a big difference. I do got to incorporate some more hit, though. It just got more time, bro.

It's just going to take, I mean, look, it just takes time. Dude, I was fucking gasped on Tuesday, bro. We had to do this shit. Yeah. Gasped.

Yeah, bro. I got to get some more hit, though. That's hard stuff, man. It is wrestling. And all that.

That's one of the hardest things you can do. So, yeah, you got to get a shit for that. That's your bro. It's a different thing, but... Yeah, just shoot everybody.

I mean, you can't, I let, well, you can. I can't. Three times. Yeah, no. No, that's good, though, man.

Things are good. Bro, I'm happy to be here. It's a beautiful Monday. And we're going to make people better. Cool.

Let's dive into it. I got three supplements for you. Guys, Andy, question number one, Andy, 32 years old. I manage a real estate flips. I'm coordinating investors and contractors.

I'm working 12 hour days, fixing mistakes.

How did you push through this stage and keep going when you're bank account and your goals

were so far away from each other? One other option do you have? What are you going to do? You're going to go work at McDonald's? I didn't have any other options.

That's what made me push through. This is why we talk about this concept of zero option mentality. When you're in the beginning of your business, it's very easy to keep pushing through. And to be honest, where you're at right now is the easiest.

It's going to be to stay focused and push through because you don't have anything else you can go to. Maybe you do. Maybe you have a rich family. Maybe you have an inheritance coming.

I don't know what it is. I didn't have that. The thing that kept me going was very simply that I had had experiences doing manual labor growing up pretty much my whole life growing up. I wasn't qualified to do anything else.

I didn't have a college degree back then you had to have a degree to even get an interview. And so I didn't have any other options. And that made it very easy for me to continue going down the path because every time I felt like how you're feeling right now I just thought, well, this is better than digging ditches.

And that's what kept me going. I would love to say, oh, you know, it was just big vision for all these things. And I wanted to do all these great things in this map, but in the beginning, man, it was very simply I just didn't have anything else to do. Now, that changes as you start to make money and it changes a lot when you start to make

good money and it changes a lot more when you make great money.

“And you have to remember what you're feeling like right now because what's ultimately”

going to make you successful over the course of your life is being able to manipulate your own mind into believing that you have no other option, but to continue down the path. This path that you were on is very difficult. It would be much easier for you. And the short term to just get a job, get paid, go home, live everybody else's life.

But that is going to hurt you in the long term. All right. So the honest truth is this dude. What else are you going to do? What else are you going to do?

And by the way, from a tactical standpoint, when you're first getting going and you're trying

to do things, you have to figure out ways to bring in the money that may not be in the avenue that you're in. Now, you're 32 years old. You're working 12 hours a day. You're doing all these things.

I'm a little confused on why you would still be broke. Okay, so you have to ask yourself, are you doing the right things that are going to pay off? Have you made a good decision in the path that you're on? What levers do you need to pull?

“What knobs do you need to adjust to make this a profitable endeavor for you?”

All right. Because there's so much entrepreneur information out here. And a lot of people just say, follow your passion, follow what you want to do. But sometimes those things, they don't have the payoff that you're actually looking for. So you have to understand.

What am I doing in 5, 10 years does this have the potential to pay me and provide the life that I'm going to want then if I continue down the path?

If the answer is no, then you have to do what you have to do right now and find a way

to get there. But if the answer is yes, you have to double down and get more effective. Time put in is not the same as effective time. All right, we have two different ideas and most people believe that the more time they put in, that that's going to equate to more money or the more effort they put in.

That's going to equate to more money. I know a lot of people that are worked very hard their whole lives very long hours and never really got paid. So effort and time put in doesn't necessarily equal pay. You have to be on the right path.

“You have to be on the path that's going to provide you with the outcome that you're looking”

for. So there's a lot of things here that you need to evaluate because in less you just started this, like it didn't give how long he's been doing and I don't think it. Unless you just started this, then by this time you should be making some money. Now I'm going to assume that you probably just started this.

All right, so what I want you to do is I want you to sit down. I want you to look out five years, look out ten years. I want you to look around it peers, people that you may know that are doing the same thing. Are they living the kind of life that you want to live out there in the in the future?

Are they still broke? All right.

Because if other people could do it, you could do it and you could do it better.

All right. But if these other people have put ten years in and they're still struggling, that's probably a time for you to read just your path.

“But you have to understand this fundamental reality, dude, is that effort put in and time”

put in is not what it is. It's effectiveness. It's the skill set that you have. It's how good you are at what you do. And if you're great at what you do and it takes you half the time, you're going to get

paid more than the guy who's put in double time, that's not great at what he does. So what's your skill set, like, are you good at what you do? Are you effective? It sounds like right now, maybe you're not effective. So you're going to have to, if you're putting in the time and you're putting in the

effort, you say you are, then it's a skill problem, or it's a time problem. Okay. Which you gotta be honest with yourself. Yeah. That's right.

You gotta assess it. Everybody thinks that they can just work hard and everybody thinks that they can just put time in. And then there's this other group of people who think, "Ah, it's not about work and hard.

It's about work. It's smart." You're wrong about that. It's actually both. You have to work hard.

“You have to work enough time and you have to work effectively.”

It's not one or the other. It's all of them. And that's a fundamental problem, especially with you young bucks out there who are trying to build shit. You guys hear these people say these things, these cliches, like the average millionaire

has seven sources of income. Yeah, maybe when they're 50, maybe when they're 40, not when they're 20 or 21 or 22, you have to become great at that one thing that produces income. And you leverage that income into other things that bring in more cash flow and more enterprise value to your portfolio, which is what you're building right now.

So the reality of that is there's a lot I'm saying here, but at the end of the day, it's not work hard, it's not work smart, it's not be great. It's all of those things, and that's how you win. So don't listen to these people who say this shit on the internet. Most of them are broke, most of them are trying to make money, just trying to sell you

how to make money, and they've never really built anything, but I'm going to tell you

as someone who's built many things, a sizable nature, eight, nine figures, worth 10 figures. It's all of those things, and it's for a long time. How important to, man, like, I mean, let's go back, bro, you were 22, 23 years old, or even, you know, not from the age standpoint, but just simply early in business, you know, in business, right?

At the new age.

“How important is it during that time to be skinny with your spending?”

Oh, it's huge. Huge deal. Yeah. Okay. You have to understand that there is going to be a time in your entrepreneur journey, where

you are going to starve. That is reality, if you want to make it. Now, if you don't want to make it long term, which is what a lot of these younger kids are doing, because the examples that they look to are these internet hustlers, all right? What they do is they make a little cash, they go out and spend a bunch of money to look

more successful, and then they try to, like, use that to get more, more business, right? It doesn't work like that, man. It doesn't work like that. You have to understand, you got to live way below your means, and it's okay to be embarrassed about it.

Dude, do you think I wasn't embarrassed when I was living in the back of my store? Do you think I wasn't embarrassed when I had to move back in my dad at 27 years old? That's embarrassing. 27 years. Yeah, at 27 years old, seven years into my business.

I had to move eight years into my business. I had to move back in my dad. You know how embarrassing that was? Bro, but if I hadn't done that, I wouldn't be here. So you have to be willing to eat a little shit along the way, knowing that the end result

is going to pay off. All right, and all those people that were making fun of me, you know, telling me things like, man, Andy, you know, you've been at this for a long time, and now you're having to move back with your dad, like, you know, right, bro? Yeah, like, when are you going to get serious about your life?

You know, now all those same people are saying, oh, Andy, I'm so proud of you, I can't believe, you know, I remember back when, and it's like, dude, you were the guy telling me to quit, you know, so all those people that are laughing at you, all those people that are making little remarks, and those are, that's fuel, dude, you should be grateful

for that, because I never forgot it.

I still remember, I remember every single person, all of them, and for any of you listening, that ever such shit to me, I remember you, too, okay, I remember all of it. I'm like an elephant. I have, like, this permanent memory, especially when it comes to the negative energy that I receive for people, because I've become very good at taking that negative energy and

then transforming it into productive action. And a lot of people talk about, oh, well, that's not the right way to do it, you know, you should be doing it for the right reasons. Well, what the fuck is the right reason if the result happens, okay, doesn't matter, doesn't

you're trying to get to this place, and you have to use the right kind of fuel to get

to this place. This is like saying, hey, I'm trying to drive to California, and, you know, I ran out of gas, and I could get ethanol, but I don't want to put ethanol in there because that's not the right kind of fuel. So you just sit there, all right, you got to use all the fuel, and you got to be great

for for it. So when these people do these things to you guys, especially when you're younger, just remember, there's going to come a time where they have to eat their mother fucking words, and you're going to have the last laugh, all right. So don't be afraid to downsize, don't be afraid to get your spending in order.

Don't be afraid to, you know, maybe get a little bit smaller place, or drive a shudder car, or minimize your bills in a way, or eat ramen, or whatever you got to do. There was a long time, man, in the beginning days of business, where, you know, the way that we ate was because we were bartenders, you know, there's the bartender code where you go to other bars, and they give you the hook up.

We go, we go eat, right, and we get free food because we knew these guys, and we took care of them.

“We do what we had to do, and you have to, too, that's the name of the game.”

The good thing I will say for all of you guys out there trying to do it is that you live in an age where there's more opportunity for speed and velocity of what you're trying to create than that ever was for people that are my age. Okay. We didn't have social media.

We didn't have digital aspect. We didn't have any of this shit. We had radio TV newspaper and hopefully word them out that we did a good job, which I'm thankful for because it gave us the fundamentals to understand what business is really all about. But that's a very slow process.

So even though you might be feeling frustrated right now, you have to understand, you're in a much better position than I was ever in, and if I'm being completely honest, and this is real truth, I swear, this is real shit. If I could trade places with any of you guys that we're 20 right now, I fucking would. I give up everything I have, and I'd start over at 20 because of the technology that's

available to go at velocity. So, yeah, I love that dude, I love it. If we had what you all have, I would have created this entire thing in like seven years. I'd been 27 years old, you know, and it's proof.

“There's other guys out there doing big business now, there are 30 years old, okay?”

Because of the technology that's available, it used to be the anomaly, like the Zuckerberg product. No, I mean even in CPG brothers, guys out here who are doing shit at 25, 30, you know, 35. They're doing big things that wasn't possible for people that grew up in my era because the technology didn't exist.

But the cool thing is, is, and I'm grateful for this, is that I built businesses before technology, so I understand the fundamentals, psychology of people much better than what they do. See what I'm saying? So there's advantages to both, you know, you're not going to get that experience because

it doesn't exist anymore, but take it for me, you guys are in a really good spot. I love it, dude. I love it. I love it, man. Guys, Andy, question number two, Andy, I struggle with being

too nice sometimes.

I always try to bring others in or share in things I've worked hard for any tips on how

to actually be more selfish or keeping my hard work and effort for myself. I feel like I'm limiting my outcomes by being too nice in this way. You are. I struggle with that same problem, believe it or not, what you guys see on the internet. I always want to give more than than I probably should.

I think it served me well in a long term. I've gotten screwed over a lot. I've had a lot of people take advantage of me, and my advice to you would be to try and keep that good heart of giving, try to keep that good part of you, that's selfless part of you there, but learn where the boundaries are and learn what your responsibilities are and

what they aren't. If you are there can be such a thing as toxic responsibility, the amount like when you start to feel, and this happens to me, this is happening to me a lot, I take a very serious when someone decides to bet on me, for example, like an employee or any of you guys, or anybody that's relying on me to pay their bills.

I take that very seriously, very, very, very seriously, and because I always want to help

people win, sometimes I've been too generous to where it becomes a thing where they become entitled, and once they become entitled, they're no longer an asset to your mission, then they become a drag.

“So, this is just a boundary question, you have to decide where your boundaries are going”

to be, and you have to make decisions about what you think they should be, and stop, a lot

No, when I grew up, when I grew up, I didn't get a lot of praise, I didn't ever feel

like I was appreciated, and it created this thing in me where I felt like I needed to make everybody happy, and then take care of everybody, and sometimes when you try to take care of people, they don't want to take care of themselves, and you can't want it more than them, and that's something that took me a very long time to understand, and it burned me a lot, a few years ago, I would say five, six years ago, I learned, okay, well, there's boundaries to this.

“All right, if they show me, I can come towards them, but they got to meet me halfway, right?”

So, I don't think there's anything wrong fundamentally with wanting to be a good person, wanting to help other people be successful, but remember this, man, you're going to be able to help a lot more people when you are in a financial place to give, and by you doing what you're doing, you're trying to give before you even have, you're preventing yourself from actually getting, which prevents you from actually giving at scale. So, you got to be selfish to be selfless,

and that's something that we talk about a lot. You've got to take care of yourself first,

and then when you take care of yourself, you're able to take care of people much better. So, my advice to you would be very simply to understand, you don't owe anybody anything, and whatever you decide to help them with is your good heart, and if people try to leverage

“you and make you feel guilty, there's last people we should help. All right, so,”

learn to say no, learn where the line is, stick to it even when it's hard, because it will be hard. You're going to have to say no to people, and you're going to walk out of the room, they're going to be upset with you, and you're going to think, man, I do that wrong,

or you know, and then they're going to guilt trip you and manipulate you and gaslight you,

and honestly, you start to realize who's really on your team and who's really not, right? You start to see it a little more clearly. And when you're a good person, and this is a lot of what's going on in society right now, when you're a good person, and you don't want to hurt people and you want to help people, it's really hard to see the bad and other people, right? Like, all you know is that you have a good heart, all you know is how you feel,

“all you know is, I want to help people, so everybody must be like me, but the truth is they're”

not. Most people aren't that way, and that's why most people are most people, and you're working and not become most people, and you have to become that before you can actually help at scale. You're Kevin O'Leary has a really good, I remember seeing this clip of him on this topic, and his rule of thumb is, "I will help anybody once." And like, I heard that I'm like, damn, okay, what do you mean by that? He got goes into, he's like, you know, I don't care if

it's family, if it's friends, whoever, I will help you. Like, you coming to me, you need 200 grand. Yeah, I got you. I don't want to back. Well, that's another thing. I mean, you don't loan, yeah, but don't ever, and he tells me, don't ever ask. That's another thing, okay. One of my rules is absolutely, I do not loan money, I give money. Okay, so if I ever give someone, some help, I don't make it alone. I make it a give. And the reason is, is because

99% of the time, you're not going to get the money back. That's right. You're not. And it's going to ruin relationships with people that you love and care about and friends. And you've got to be able to do it once and say no next time. And the other thing to realize here, dude, is that every time you save someone, you're preventing them from learning lessons, it's going to make them better anyway. Okay, so when you, when someone gets themselves in a bad position, let's say, you know,

I don't know, they got a drug problem or they got behind on their bills or whatever. And you get in there and save them. They're just going to go do that same thing again because you didn't allow them to learn lesson. And when you think about like the damage you're doing to someone long term by saying yes, like that, it becomes easier to say no. Right? So and when you're young, when you're 20, you don't understand this. You don't understand that people have to learn their own lessons.

And you're not the karma police, bro. You're not the protector of the bad karma. Yeah. And one thing that will happen, man, and this is true. If you step in the way of someone else's karma, you're the one that takes the punch of it. And that's not good for you. So you've got to learn where you can help, and where you can't, and I would highly suggest that if you do get in a position

advice is really good, just one time. One time, I hope you won't. Yeah. And if they, if they turn that into something, then maybe you can help them a little more, you know, like maybe, maybe, like there's been guys I've helped who have taken it and ran with it and become built really good things with it. And then they come back and they say, hey, we need a little cash flow, or we need an investment, and I'm like, well, fuck, okay, you've proven that you're that kind of person. Let's go.

Yeah, right? Absolutely. So I want to hit on this too on the same point because I feel like this

“could also get missed. Being selfish to be selfish, this also doesn't mean you have to be an”

asshole. No. You know what I'm saying? I was like, how do you, how do you, how do you, I mean, you got to take care of number one, bro? Yeah. Number one is you, and that's okay. That is okay. Yeah. And people will guilt you, and they'll make you feel bad, and they're, you know, they'll who humility signal in the gaslight. No, they'll do all this shit to make it feel like you're a bad

person, bro. Every single human on this planet takes care of themselves first. Every single

person on this planet that makes a big difference takes care of themselves first, gets them to a point where they can help, then they help. All right, and you can help along the way. All right, when I didn't have much, when I didn't have, you know, like, dude, I could remember giving, look, man, people won't believe when I say this, but I know it's true, and I've got people that can validate it. Like, there's times in my life where, you know, I'm out of had a thousand dollars

total cash, and I saw someone really struggling. I gave them a hundred bucks. That's a fucking tenth of my money I have, right? But I also believe that when you do good, you get good, and I've

always believed that, and it's shown to be true in my life. And so I always gave what I could, man,

“and I think that's a big reason why, you know, opportunities have happened for me. There's not a”

logical reason for it. I can't explain it, but God in the universe and everything that's, you know, that we can't see rewards that, but you can't do it to a point where it's damaging you or holding you back if you're on life. Yeah, that's so real, man. That's real. Let's get to a third of final question, man. I've got a leadership question, I guess. Guys, Andy, question number three, Andy, as I grow in my career, I find myself leading people who I previously had either had negative

experiences with or wrong impressions of. Most of the time, it was the way I handled myself in the way that I led. I've changed the way I not only lead myself, but the people on the round. Now, I have this burning desire to have one-on-one conversations and air things out for lack of a better phrase. Is this my insecurities? Or do you feel it's necessary for me to do to have a new relationship with these individuals? I'm also aware that talk is cheap and my actions will have to

“back these conversations up. But that's why I question if the chat is even necessary. It's not.”

I just share my actions. It's not. Just make the change start doing it. They'll notice. And here's the problem with explaining everything like you want to do. And by the way, I did

I've done that. So I'm not just like, I understand where you're coming from because here's what

happens. You handle something poorly. You do something wrong and you're like, "Fuck, I feel bad about that." And while it might be okay to go back up to them and say, "Hey, man, I could have handled that a little better, but you understand when I'm getting there." We got to do this. We got to do that. That's okay. But when you start to overexplain it and you start to show too much vulnerability in that situation, it comes off as insecurity, which, by the way, weakens your ability

and you respect to lead these people. And also shows them where your vulnerability is. And if they're not the right kind of person, they'll press that over and over and over again to get you to like even feel worse. Okay? Because they feel like it benefits them. It doesn't, but they feel like it does. So my advice is that if you've been a poor leader and you recognize that you've been a poor leader, then just change the way that you're leading and the rest of the team will follow suit.

They will talk amongst themselves. They will say, "Man, you know what?" And he's like, "Really changed." You know, he's doing things a lot different. And that will earn the respect as opposed to trying to sell them on having respect through a conversation. Now, like I said, if you do handle something poorly, there is a proper way to handle that. But it's not some long drawn out discussion. Yeah. You walk up to him. You say, "Hey Steve, look dude. Sorry I got a little upset there. Here's

the deal." I got upset because of this. It's nothing personal, but you understand why, right? I definitely could have handled it better, but you understand when I'm getting that, right? Yeah,

change the message that I was delivering. Yeah. All right. For sure. And that's those are the kind of ways

that you kind of do that. Yeah. From this and do this, I was like, this might have been like years ago. And now you're in like an actual, I don't know, and like now you're trying to address shit that happened years ago. It's about, they probably forgot that shit, right? No, they probably didn't, but the longer that you go behaving the right way, they will, right? They will forget that. And by the way, you shouldn't care if they forget it or not, man. Because if they forget it,

then they don't recognize the progress you're making as a leader, right? So that's a them problem. Yeah, but I'm saying like you don't you want them to recognize that you're making progress? Yeah. Okay. Well, if they forgot about how you were before, then how can they recognize that you're doing a better job? I see what you're saying. Right. That's real. So it's irrelevant what they think before, what's relevant now is how you behave now and moving forward. And it sounds like you've

“already figured out what the problem is and all you have to do is adjust your behavior. And one of the”

most important things that you can do as a leader is to understand this. Leadership is a lifelong journey.

You are going, there is no finish line for becoming a great leader. The leader that you are 20, the leader you are 30, the leader you are 40 at 50 at 60 is always going to be a better version. All the way up until you stop leading or die, all right? So it's a lifelong process and all of us develop a different rates and we're all making mistakes. So it's not like all these leaders that you look up to who you see that you want to be like haven't made these same mistakes. They all do it.

You just don't see it. All right. So it doesn't mean that you're not a good leader. It means you're going through the process. In fact, I would argue the fact that you feel bad says that you really care about being a great leader. The worst kind of leaders of the ones that lead don't give a fuck if they feel bad. All right. So I think the struggle and the question that you're asking is actually a sign of the awareness that you're going to become a great leader, dude. All right. So

you just have to understand. Change the behavior, start working forward. Don't worry about it. Forgive yourself for what you did in the past. Realize that is a part of the process. Just like when you start to learn how to write a bite, dude. Guess what? You're going to fall over a whole bunch of times. You know, you don't fall over a whole bunch of times and learn how to write the

“bite. And then say, I'm like, I was so stupid. I fell over. That's what everybody does. It's just”

the great leaders that you recognize as great leaders. You don't see them becoming great because they don't get recognized until they're great. So like you don't see John Wooden, you didn't see John Wooden, the greatest NCAA basketball coach ever. You didn't see him when he sucked his leader. All right. Great leader right now on social media is a echelon front, Jaco. Yeah. Okay. Jaco and life. You didn't see them learning how to lead. You see them now. All right. You don't see these people

when they're learning. All right. So you're learning and you're moving and you're keep moving forward and you're going to get better and better and better. And I think you're on the right trap. Yeah. Hell yeah, bro. You're maybe things like, dude, we're in the room of Zurie, bro. This is Shelby State. Yeah. Just show them. Yeah. Just fucking show them. Yeah, bro. I mean, he said it. Talk is cheap. No one cares about your talk. Especially if you already have a negative

reputation. Like if your team doesn't like you right now because they think you're a bad leader and you go up and try to say like, oh, I'm going to be a better leader. It's no different than when they come to you and they've been fucking off for the last two years and they say, Andy, I swear this time, I'm really going to change it. I'm like, okay. Okay. Dude. Right. It's so different than your overweight friend who says, oh, dude, I'm going to lose weight. I'm going to lose weight.

I'm going to lose weight. I'm going to lose weight and he says it for 10 years and then he gets pissed off that nobody believes him. All right. Like you got to follow through, man. If you want respect as a leader, it's the same thing. If you want respect in any area, you get your actions.

“It's not your words. So don't worry about these conversations that you feel like you need to have.”

Maybe that's something you need to have with yourself and forgive yourself or in your prayer or whatever it is that you do. But let it go, dude, and see it as a part of your journey. This is what you are trying to become. And the fact that you are struggling is the evidence that you are working to become it. So dude, just change. Yeah. Get better. It's okay. Everybody fucks up. Everybody struggles. Leadership is hard. Management is hard. I think it's the hardest job that you could ever have.

And it takes a long time to become great. This is why you don't see a lot of great coaches that are under 50 years old, man. Yeah, they exist. But they're anomalies. All right. It takes time.

But you can do it, dude. And it doesn't matter if you were a leader before. But I was never a

leader. I was never a leader. I wasn't the captains of my teams. I was always one of the best players. I was never a leader, dude. I was I was I was never a captain. I was never voted. I never even couldn't. I didn't even understand why. I'm like, I'm like, shit, dude. I'm I'm I'm beating everybody's ass out here. I run their captain. Yeah, but I wasn't leading. I was worried about myself. I

When I was playing football, I wanted to know how many yards I got. How many tackles I got.

“I didn't care what the score was on the scoreboard. All right. That's not leadership. That's”

selfish in a negative way. You see what I'm saying? Absolutely. So absolutely. Well, it's the

process, man. And if you find yourself working to become anything and it's very hard,

“that's a sign that you're on the right path. That's not a negative thing. Anything worth”

while it's hard. Don't run from that. No. That it's a sign that you're on the right path.

I love it, dude. Fuck man. That was a quick hit or bro? Yeah. I'm I'm with a dog. Yeah. I'm I'm fired up.

“Hey, man. You know, it is what it is. Let's get out there and beat some ass there, right? Let's do it.”

We will see you tomorrow on CTI. Don't be a hoe. Let's try the shot. Got a on bank road, can't vote. This is no hit. Shot, case, close, close.