Most Replayed Moment: Your Excuses Will Destroy You, To Be Disciplined Is To Be Free!

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So those are the two sort of units that we get compared to the most. And so an AV seal is a part of the Navy, but you're the special operations component of the Navy. And the term seal is actually an acronym, which stands for C, air and land. Because even though we're in the Navy, we are trained to operate in the sea in the air.

So in the sea, meaning we dive in the air, meaning we parachute and repel.

And then on the land, meaning we conduct land warfare operations.

“And you take all those things, combine them together, and that's what our job consists of.”

I was under the assumption that to become an AV seal or to be in the SAS, you had to have 10, 20 years of military service. You had to have like an established military service, and then you get some pop-up on your computer, and it says, "But come to this building over here." And so to hear that you applied at 19 years old, I was like, "Oh, I didn't know teenagers could apply."

Yeah, I know I was 18 years old when I joined the Navy, and I joined on a contract that got me sent to seal training. It took a year to get through, so I was 19 when I finished that up.

But there is always debates about, "Well, don't you want someone that's more experienced?"

And I actually loved the fact that I was basically raised in the SEAL teams. It was just awesome. It was an awesome way to grow up. It was an awesome way to spend those years of your life learning the trade that you wanted to learn.

“And so I thought it was awesome, and I think it worked out pretty well.”

There is usually, the percentage of people that make it through SEAL training is about 20%. People that are under the age of 20, it goes down to about 5%. So, yeah, I was one of those small percentage of people that are very young, but still make it through. And what is the characteristics that they're ultimately testing with the design of that training? What are they testing for?

Will you keep going? In the face of whatever. Well, they, they cool the, one of the weeks hell week, don't they? So, they try to simulate hell by the sounds of it. Yeah, they try to simulate hell.

It's, they actually were trying to simulate combat initially when they created that week. They wanted to take as much combat simulation from World War II at the time and put it into a very compressed schedule. So, they could create these frog men to go overseas and conduct operations because World War II was going on. And so, they needed to compress the training cycle. So, they compressed a bunch of that combat simulation into, it's about five and a half days.

No sleep, lots of physical activity, lots of stress, lots of pain, and lots of people quit. How many people quit in that particular week? I would say most of the people that quit probably of, it's probably 80% of the quitters quit in that week.

“It's been long discussed, I think there's a book called Grid, where they discuss what it takes in terms of character traits to get through these kinds of endurance tasks.”

Some people often think it's those that have the biggest muscles or that do the most out of their cardiovascular exercise. But from what you've observed, and this is maybe a broader point of adversity in life, is there any similarities in the people that are able to get themselves through adversity? It's, there's, there's some internal drive that you either have or you don't have. And if you have it, you won't quit, and if you don't have it, you're going to quit, and it breaks people. The other thing is, you might be an exceptional swimmer, and you might be exceptional upper body strength, but you're not that fast runner, they're going to find that out.

Or you might be a fast runner, but a bad swimmer, they're going to find out what your weakness is. You might not like the cold, they're going to see it. You might not like the boat on your head, they're going to see it. They might see that you have a bad temper, they're going to find that, and they're going to pick at that thing to either make you come out the other side.

It's a pretty, it's a pretty amazing thing. It's a pretty, it's a pretty amazing thing. It's a pretty profound thing to look at from the outside, and see it. Because when I was going through it, it was just sort of, I was young, I didn't care. I was going to do it.

There was nothing that they were going to tell me that was going to make me quit.

I never thought about quitting.

If they told me to get back in the water again, let's go. They told me to put that log on on my shoulder, let's go. Put the boat on my head, let's go. I didn't care. Can you teach that?

Let's go. We're going to jump back in the water. Let's go.

“I think that's one of the few things that you learn in basic seal training is to shrug your shoulders and go forward.”

One of the things they do is they'll line you up on the ocean. And this is in California. Sometimes people think that California is nice warm water, but it's not. Fifty-five degrees. I don't know what that translates to in Senate grade, but it's cold.

And one of the things they do is they'll line you up and they say interlock arms and you get arm and arm with the guy next you and they say forward march and you walk march in the water. And they say take seats and you sit down and they leave you in there.

And it's called surf torture.

And you just sit there. And they'll after a while they'll pull you up out of the water, they'll line you up. And the doctor will come down and see if anyone has hypothermia. And if no one has hypothermia or signs of hypothermia yet, get back in the water.

And they just keep doing that. And so, yeah, it's what you learn to do is, okay, I'm going to go forward. There's no, I can't get out of this. I'm going to go forward. I'm not going to quit.

So I'm going to go forward. Bring it on.

“And I think if there's anything that you learn, it's to keep pushing through things that suck.”

And I would love to say like, oh, some keep pushing through adversity, but this is an adversity. This is just things that suck. It's one level below adversity, adversity is when you're having a challenge. This is just something that's going to suck. And you're going to have to push through it.

You talked about the role that having a wide place. And I was thinking about, you know, if I just, if I just lost my girlfriend or someone I'd gone through some severe rejection or someone in my life had died and their part, my part in promised to them was I was going to do this. The role that having some kind of reason to carry on plays in how we handle

adversity or things that suck, did you see, have you seen any patterns in that? Is it important? Because books behind me that literally say, start with your why and those kinds of things. Yeah. And, you know, that's anything from, oh, my girlfriend dumped me and I'm going to prove it wrong.

To something that much more significant, which is my girlfriend died and I told her I was going to do this. And I'm going to do it for her. Both those things, depending on the human being, can be a strong enough, a strong enough wide to get through. And I have, I have friends that were,

I have one friend that was in the Vietnam, he was in Vietnam. And when he showed up, she was trying to, he didn't know what it was. He thought he was volunteering to be like a diver, a diver that would do construction under boats. And he thought, well, that, that one was and so he showed up. And they're like, this is seal training.

He's like, what's the seal? And they kind of explained it to him and then he went, made it through. All that torture, all that mayhem. And why? Because that was what they were telling her to do and he was fine.

Okay, that's what we're doing. Let's go. So again, I would love to be able to, you know, give you this profound anchor that people need to have. But it's like, oh, do you want to do this or not?

“Which is what I think a lot of it boils down to.”

Do you actually want to do this or not? Do you actually want to do this or not? Because if you actually want to do it, what's going to stop you? Nothing. And if you don't really want to do it, what's going to stop you?

Just about anything that comes up. Just about any obstacle that gets in your way. It becomes an excuse. It becomes a reason. It comes a rationale for not proceeding down that path.

And this is interesting too. When you talk to people that went to seal training, they didn't make it. Most of the time, it's some reason. There's a medical reason. There's a family problem.

There's very few people that look at you and say, oh, I quit because it's sucked. Which is what, by the way, which is what happens to the vast majority of people. The vast majority of people that don't make it through seal training.

And by this, I mean, 80, 90 percent of the people that don't make it through seal training.

They didn't make it through because they quit. Then there's a small percentage that had a medical problem. And then there's a small percentage that got performance dropped. They couldn't perform the runs, the swims, the technical aspects of the job and they failed. And they get dropped.

But the vast majority of people, they quit. But they don't usually say that. And even in their mind, they probably don't believe it. They probably believe, well, you know, there's my leg. And once my leg was hurting, I knew I was going to have our time on the run.

But it wasn't really quitting.

It was because my leg. So it's, it's, like I said, it's a very, it's a very strange and, and, and really kind of a mystical thing. Excuses. You're talking there about people making excuses. Yeah.

“What if you come to learn about the nature of excuses?”

And if they are our friends, our enemies, if they're either useful. Your excuses will destroy you and take everything that you ever wanted from you. If you let them.

Doesn't sound like a friend.

Well, it's definitely not a friend. It can seem like a friend. Just like your friend that keeps feeding you drinks at the bar can seem like a friend. But are they really helping you in any way shape or form? No, they're not.

They're not. So when when your excuses make you feel a little bit better about the fact that you didn't execute on what you needed to execute on, then they can make you feel better, but they're not helping you. They're not helping you at all.

“Is that when you think about extreme ownership, which is the title of this book here in front of me?”

Is our excuses the opposite? Excuses in blame? Is that the opposite of extreme ownership? That is the opposite of extreme ownership. Extreme ownership is this went wrong.

This failed. Didn't accomplish this. And it's not the fault of my boss. It's not the fault of my girlfriend. It's not the fault of my parents.

It's not the fault of the weather. It's my fault. And I'm going to take ownership of it and I'm going to fix it. That's what extreme ownership is. And this is a very difficult thing to do because it hurts.

Because when you look around at your life and you look around at your job and your financial situation and your relationship and your physical health. And when you look at all those things and all the problems that you may have with those things. And you say the reason I have all those problems is because of me. That can hurt. That can sting.

And a lot of times our ego rejects that and makes excuses and lies. And then we don't have to change anything. And then nothing changes. If someone was on the extreme end of that disease of excuse and blame and all of those things.

“Is there anything that you could do or you would advise them to do to kind of walk back from that to get over the other side?”

Because I think we can all think of people in our lives. And maybe even ourselves at times who have gotten into a chronic pattern of using excuses and blame as a form of self-defense. Because we don't want to turn that mirror back at us and have to confront reality. Like I think sometimes, if I think about some of my closest friends, those that have the lowest self-esteem will use excuses and blame the most. Because it's, you know, personal responsibility might not in the short time at least do anything for my already low self-esteem.

So I'm going to blame the world as self-defense. What step one to get out of that? Well, unfortunately, what happens a lot. And you may or may not have seen this, but I would assume you've seen this at some point in your life. People, and this is a term, there's a term, it's rock bottom. But this is a term that we hear for someone that's addicted, someone that's an alcoholic, someone that's physically let themselves go.

Someone that's put themselves into a situation with their finances or their work or whatever, where they reach rock bottom. And that rock bottom, what happens is you, I believe what rock bottom is is as you look around all the excuses that you've made, they're not there anymore.

And so now what rock bottom is you realize that this problem, whether it's alcohol, whether it's your finances, the problem is you.

And normally, or hopefully in the best case scenario, rock bottom is the beginning of the upward climb, the upward path. Sometimes rock rock bottom leads to disaster and complete abandonment of hope, but when it, when it, when the excuses all go away, and people can actually confront the fact that this is all because of me, and this is, it hurts, but is also unbelievably empowering, because if these problems are because of me. Then I'm capable of fixing these problems. So even though extreme ownership hurts and is painful, it's also liberating because now you have control over your fate and over your destiny, and that is a glorious thing.

This freedom, the title of your, your book here, discipline equals freedom. Now that seems like it's untrue because when people think of discipline, they think of rigidity and take away their freedom, having to be disciplined.

Because the more discipline you have in your life, the more freedom you will end up with.

So if you lack the discipline to exercise and eat healthy, you will end up being a slave to disease. If you lack the discipline to work hard, save your money, you will end up a slave to finances. If you lack the discipline to manage your time correctly, you will end up with no free time. If you have self-discipline, if you have the discipline to save your money and work hard and invest your money properly, if you have the discipline to manage your time correctly and not waste a bunch of time, if you have the discipline to exercise and eat healthy, you will end up with freedom.

And it's, I know it's a counter-intuitive, it's contrarian, but I've seen this over and over and over again.

“If you want freedom in your life, you have to have discipline.”

It's going to be some kid listening to this now, I always think about the person listening and they are eating Doritos off that belly.

I know they taste good, and there's some immediate gratification, and I get that, but I'm going to tell you it starts right now, throw that bag of Doritos away, get rid of it, go do some pushups, go spend $12 at the hardware store and hang up a pull-up on your room and start doing pull-ups, and if you can't do one pull-up, hang on that bar, and you're going to start to get a little bit stronger. You're going to start to get a little bit healthier, you're going to start to get more focused, you're going to start to become more resilient, and you're going to start to be able to do a pull-up, and you're going to start to eat healthy all the time, and you're going to start to understand the world better, and you're going to start to progress in every aspect of your life.

And you'll see that if you have that kind of discipline right now, you're going to end up with freedom. And if you don't have that kind of discipline, and you keep eating those Doritos, and you don't work hard, and you don't exercise, and you don't apply yourself, you're going to end up

you're going to end up shackled, you're going to end up shackled by a boss that you don't like doing a job that you don't like to do with

sicknesses and diseases that you don't want, relying on people that you can't even count on, alone, and you don't have to. But if you have discipline, if you have discipline, you will attain freedom. And it starts with just spinning the Doritos out, starts with spinning the Doritos out, yes indeed.

“One of the things you do, which is, I mean, you're super famous for it, is this idea of waking up early?”

Now I'm not someone that wakes up early. I know you no long clock, and you're usually up by 11. No meetings before 11. Okay, so I stay up quite late. What's the best case you could give me for changing that? And do I need to change that? Because what I do is, you know, I flew into LA, I'm in jet lag, I'm flying back in a couple of days, I'm going to be jet lag when I land as well.

“So what I'm trying to do is just protect my sleep at all costs, because I've come to learn that it's really the foundation of my performance.”

So if I'm unslapped and I show up at work, the chance that I'm not going to show up correctly in a variety of ways, emotionally, creatively, whatever, is high, and that for me is the greatest risk. Yeah, so I just, in the last sort of year or two of my life, I've just said okay, I'm proud to sleep, because then everything else seems to follow. But when I heard that you wake up sometimes at 445 or 430, like pretty much all the time,

and you, I've literally seen you on social media, upload your alarm clock day after day after day. Okay, shit, maybe I should rethink. No, I think if you've got a system that's working well for you, and then I wouldn't change anything, right?

you're a naturally more of a late night, late morning type person.

I'd run with it. It's, if you were telling me, yeah, sometimes I get up, sometimes I don't, sometimes I work late, sometimes I don't, I'm not, don't work out every day. You know, sometimes I feel groggy, if you were telling me that kind of thing, I'd say okay, pick a time and start waking up at that time every day. It doesn't have to be 440, it could be 8 o'clock, it could be 7 o'clock, it doesn't matter.

It could be 11 o'clock, but trying to go to bed around the same time and trying to wake up around the same time, and that's going to be a great foundation for everything that you're doing. And I would say, when you wake up in the morning, do some kind of exercise,

“because I think that is very helpful in getting your day started correctly.”

What are you in one of my negotiables, in your life, in terms of habits, routines, disciplines?

I wake up early and I work out every day.

That's, that's kind of my, that's, those are the minimum requirements in my life. Change your jitsu. I don't get to change it to every single day, but if I can change your jitsu, I'm going to change your jitsu. I'm going to work out every day. If I can surf, I'm going to surf, you know.

I obviously have to work every day. I work every day, doing something, you know, I've got a bunch of different companies. I've got to write books, podcasts, so I work every day. Are you ever in discipline? Oh, yeah, yeah.

Chocolate chip cookies. There are discipline laps for me. Yeah, so yeah, I'm not a cyborg. Struggles sucks. Depends on how you frame it.

Right? Depends on how you frame it.

“Because I'm thinking about you, stood at the beach at the, you know, and they say,”

"Walk out, Jokka. Link harm some walk out." You describe that as sucking. Yep. But what you're also saying is there's huge value in things that suck. On the other side is something that sucks is something worth cherishing.

I would say not just huge value, but the value. You want to know if you're talking about young men that might not have any direction right now, go do something that's hard. Go try and accomplish something that's hard. You may win, you may lose, you may succeed, you may fail.

I'll tell you what, you'll be better. If you avoid those things that are hard, if you don't accept that challenge, if you don't step up and step into that cold water, and you sit on your couch and eat Doritos, I can tell you, this is not a good move. This is not a good move.

Don't do that. Don't do that. Just get up. Move towards that challenge, whatever that challenge is. Move towards that challenge and go attack it. And you may be successful, and you may not be successful, but you will be better.

And the next challenge, you're going to be more prepared for. And the next challenge after that, you're going to be even more prepared for. And you're going to fail, and you're going to fail, and you're going to fail, and then you're going to win. And that's life.

Life without those challenges, it's just existence. Don't just exist. Go live. What you just listened to was a most replayed moment from a previous episode.

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