How to Rebuild Your Life When Everything Feels Broken | Ed Mylett

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All right, welcome back to the show everybody. So, grateful you decided to join me again this week, and I just really feel like this week's going to be special. As I was preparing my message for the week, I just felt really good about sharing these thoughts with you. This week is really more about perspective and focusing on how blessed we are in our lives. And we often lose, we lose track of that, we lose perspective.

With all the stressors of daily life and all the things that are coming our way at any given time, whether that be what's going on in the world politically, or the geopolitics going around the globe, or our own financial issues, or relationship strife, or uncovering trauma from our lives and emotions, and all the stuff that comes bills to pay, and appointments to have places to get things to do, stuff you got to have an opinion on, things to worry about.

We can lose perspective on how blessed we are to be here, especially during these times. This is the greatest time ever to be alive, access to the most information, where the most connected in some ways we've ever been through technology. You could argue in some ways personally disconnected, which I'll talk about today, but we're really blessed. You are really blessed. And just for a little while today, let's just talk about you,

and just give you some perspective on you and your life that maybe you need. Certainly I needed preparing for it today. You know, just be in born in general. I mean, I know you got it. I know. I won the contest. No, no, no. Don't you think about this just for a second. Where you come from? You.

You we never do. We never really stop and think about us. Us. You know, those of you that go

to church like I do. You have that occasional time on Sundays when you go. It's once a week, or your Bible study, to reflect. That's usually just one perspective, which is your relationship

“with God, which is the most important perspective. Obviously, if you watch my work, you know that,”

I feel that way. But let's just break it down to you just for a second, and how much God really has blessed you. You know, in order to be born, you needed two parents. This is where you come from. Just think this through how miraculous it is that we got to you that you exist. You need a two parents. You needed four grandparents. That means you had eight great grandparents. 16 great great grandparents. 32 third great grandparents, 64 fourth great grandparents. Think about that for

second. 64 people to you. 128 fifth great grandparents. 256 great grandparents. 512 7th great

grandparents. And 1224 eighth great grandparents. Is that amazing? We keep going, 248 nights.

Over the past 12 generations, spanning about 400 years, you needed a total of about 4,094 ancestors to come into existence. You are the result of thousands of lives, choices, and

ancestry, tragedy, atrocities that have happened, and you come from that. I know you're very,

“very proud of maybe where you come from or your ethnicity or maybe your parents are great”

grandparents. But if you ever thought about the thousands of lives that had do exist that were shaped to you, and now where do you? This reminds us of how precious and unique just our existence is. It's a gift shaped by generations of ancestors. I want to challenge you today to just give

that some thought. These thousands of people that are yours that you've never met before that

lived lives before you, that there's sell memory passed on to you. The scriptures talk about the sins of the father and the blessings moving through generations. And that no matter what's happened in your family, in this generation, you can change your bloodline forever. You can. And every family I talk about, they're being the one that changes a family. I want to challenge you with these 4,000 ancestors of years that's led to today to honor their legacy by living with purpose and

“gratitude, because someday someone's going to be thousands of people removed from you.”

You know, I've been having these dreams the last year about my granddaughter. She's not been born

and as far as I know, neither one of my kids or even close to having a baby. But I've been having

these dreams about her. And I've been thinking about all the things I do every day and how that's going to impact her life. Some day she'll have a granddaughter. I imagine and just a legacy of what I do every day, what you do every day. And now this thing is much bigger than us. We forget that don't we? Don't we forget how much bigger this is than us? I know I do from time to time. What a blessing it is. I was at an event recently and it was a VIP room and this mother had won and she brought

her instead of her husband coming. She brought her son who was 25 years old and they all got to ask me a question and he said, Mr. Mylet, if you could come back in time and talk to the 25 year old you, now that you're almost 55 years old, I'm 53, you know, what would you, what advice would you give you at 25? I really thought about it for a minute and I said, you know, I'm going to tell you

“something very honestly. Number one, I would tell me that I'm as young and as healthy as I'll”

ever be in my life more than likely right now and that this is the greatest time of my life. I said, you know, young man, I've been able to accumulate hundreds of millions of dollars of net worth, and I've been able to have all the material things in life you would probably ever want, you know, jets and islands and houses and just I've been really blessed for a dude who grew up started out on welfare. That's pretty cool. Alcoholic dad, you know, God's been really good to me. I said,

but let me say something to you. I would give you all of that back if I could be 25 years old again. I'll give it all back to you. And I said, by the way, 10 years from now, I will be 63 years old and probably wealthier than I am now. And I would trade every dollar that I'll make between 53 and 63. I promise you when I get to 63, I'd give all of that money back if I could go back and be 53 years old again. And I'd give you all I got right now to go back and be 25 years old again.

And so time is the greatest blessing. Youth is the greatest blessing. No matter what age you are, you're as young and as healthy as you're ever going to be and having some

understanding of how incredible this moment is that you're not one of the 80 percent of the

people that live on earth today that don't have clean water that you've had three meals today. And I know you go, yeah, that's great. I've heard this, you know, I know, I got a blanket in the place to live. No, you know, the things that you worry about every single day that you have made larger than life that are stealing your joy that seems so big in this moment that won't matter at all 10 years from now or on your death bed that won't matter at all in those moments.

You let rule your life. You let become these big, huge things when 4,000 people had to exist for just to get to you. And someday you're going to have that granddaughter or great granddaughter that looks to your legacy. Some of them won't even ever know you. But you will have made a difference in their lives. You will have changed their bloodline forever and to understand what a blessing it is to be alive in this moment. Have a shot. Have some hope.

Have a gift. I've had multiple friends in the last several weeks. One of my dearest friends just found out that she's got she had melanoma and she's found out now. Most of you know, this is a public thing. Teddy Melon camp. My friend has done it. She had she said melanoma for years.

tumors in her brain three and one spot two and another had them removed and she's got this scars on her head and then flew it on an unbelievable pain. She's got this precious family and prior to that. She'd been going through some real things in her life and it's just perspective on what really matters in life. So I'm having a bad day compared to what someone today woke up and lost the love of their life. Right? Someone didn't wake up today. The Bible says in one Peter five

verse 10 and that the God of all grace who's called you to his internal glory in Christ. After you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you firm and steadfast. Life can be heavy but if you'll just wait around long enough, it's not unbearable. Right when it feels unbearable, paint a linger and prayers can be answered in your life. But take heart suffering is not the end of your story. Here's the truth. You're playing with house money. You can't lose. You can't lose. If you're a

person of faith, you know where you're going. You know how the story ends in the meantime. You're playing with house money. Play your hand. Not everybody gets the same hand but you got a hand to play and people with worse hands than you have won. You can't lose. Listen, one thing I know when this whole game's over as long as I get to go to heaven someday, I can't lose. He already died for me. The case has been made. I'm just running up the score. By the way, I know how a lot of you feel like I get these

men's at. I'm slipping. It's like a rope. I'm slipping. It's slipping. I'm feeling like I'm slipping. Tie a knot.

Tie a knot and hold on for a while. Please. I'm serious. You don't always have to be climbing.

Sometimes you've got to tie the knot and just hold on when it feels like life's slipping away. This left you. That relationships gone. That money's gone. That business has got tie a knot and hold on for one more day. The power of one more is real. My book is real. Tie a knot. Hold on for one more day. Catch your breath and then start climbing again. Just don't quit for one more day. You got one more in you. I can promise you. The greatest blessing

“of your life is one more day. You know, my dad got cancer. My dad was a man's man. I'm never”

forget. Here my voice. My dad had my voice. Had this deep voice. My dad got cancer and he says,

hey, look, I just got to tell you. Here's what's happened and you know, here's what I'm going to do.

I'm going to fight it once. 20 told me. I'm a fight at once. I'll do the chemo thing, the surgery. I'll fight it one time. But Eddie, I'm not going on one of these, you know, year after year, you get all shriveled up, you're getting sick, you're hair, all that. I'm not doing that whole routine. But I will fight it once. And I remember saying, hey, dad, that's fair. I actually understand that. I might not either. But I will fight it once to what my dad said. That's not what happened. He fought it for eight

years, multiple surgeries, multiple chemos, radiation, proton therapy, experimental chemo. And everything that he said, he didn't want to have happened happened. He did shrivel up. He was vomiting blood. He did go through times where he couldn't breathe and had to have help breathing. He did lose his hair. His skin did change. He did get lesions and I'd go dad, why are you going through this? You literally said you don't only do it once that you didn't want to go through all this

suffering. He goes, Eddie, I'm not suffering. I'm in pain, but suffering you choose. I'm not suffering. I got to have dinner with mom again tonight. That's not suffering. I'm in some pain. He goes,

“here's what I did in those sun. Please remember this. And I'm going to share this with you,”

the words of a man dying of cancer. He said, here's what I didn't know, man. I get emotional

telling you this. He goes, I didn't know what it would be like to actually face not having one more day with my family. Sounds good and theory. You know, I'll fight at once, but I'm not going to and he goes until I realized I won't get to have another night with your mom. I won't have one more time to talk to you, my best friend. I won't talk to my daughters or see them or hug my daughters. Because you know, you'll do anything to get one more day once you're threatened to not

have one more day with your family. Because Eddie, I'll do anything. Heck, I maybe I'll get to my granddaughter's weddings. Maybe I'll go see Max play golf one more time. I'll do anything to say play.

“See Max play one more time. Remember, my dad showed up to one of Max's golf tournaments after a”

really rough treatment round. It was a very hot day. In fact, I left that day. It was so hot.

chemo. All 18 holes in his 70s struggling with all of the poison in his body from the chemo.

And he watched every shot all day long. I didn't my dad did. And the reason was he goes, I don't know if I'll ever get to see Max play golf again. I'll do anything to get to watch and play one more time. Anything to see little Jack play basketball again or Brett or Blake play baseball. Love to get to my daughter's wedding. My granddaughter's wedding. And so the greatest gift is one more day with your family. Don't wait around until you're threatened

with not getting any more to realize that. Listen, here's the truth. You get the life you focus on.

“If you want to life where it's stress and worry and down and you're a victim and it's pain and”

it's depressing, you can get it. Just look around for it. It's there. Or you can have a life of blessing and gratitude and bliss. And I'm not saying you can't even have both because I don't live on the side where I just get all the good. I get a little bit of both. I like the contrast. I do see pain in hurt. It was horrible when my dad passed away. It has been horrible struggling with my health this year. But I got another day. I got to wake up and see my beautiful family. I got to wake up

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already overcome in your life. Just look at you. You're freaking incredible. You don't give

yourself enough credit. Now am I saying accept everything about you that's not any good? Absolutely not. But your filter of life matters. Have you forgotten all you've overcome already? Have you forgotten all you've been through? And still standing? Maybe a little wobble? Maybe a little hurt? Maybe maybe a more injured than you've ever been? Maybe wounded? But you're still standing? You still got one more day? These 4,000 people's lives, generation after generation after generation,

generation after generation, that sacrificed and suffered probably for you to be here. And I promise you, 20 years from now, you'll trade everything that you have 20 years from now, to come back to this moment right now and to be you again and to be young. However, young you are 75 years young or 15 years young, listen to this. Years young and as healthy as you probably are ever going to be. And everything you need is within you right now to be happy and to win.

You're going to get that life you see that you filter in. There's so much for you to be blessed about. You woke up today with another breath. Thank you, God. Thank you, God, for another day. What a gift. Now, what am I going to do with it? Open up that gift. It's a present.

got to dig it out. You've got to find it. You've got to tap into it. And you can not tap into that

“when you are in victim mode. You can not tap into that when you're looking your wounds.”

You tap into that when you're in gratitude. When you're in strength, when you walk boldly with your faith. Whatever your faith is, just listen to me right now. I'm going to express it through my faith, but out of respect to you. I say this to you with whatever your faith is. But in my faith is a Christian. His hands are not just holding you. They're rebuilding you. The storm you are facing will not destroy you. It will refine you. The clouds cleared, they go away. The darkness eventually dissipates.

And you're going to end up standing much bolder, much more steadfast, much stronger. A whole

lot more confident when this thing blows over. And just know this. He's never going to let you go.

You're in the palm of his hand at any time, all the time. Just hold on. Tie the knot. Hold on for one more day. God is working in your life. He is going to shape something beautiful out of this mess. Out of your trials, out of your tribulations. Your trial is a trial. He is trying to bring you. You say, well, why is it that we have to go through these things? All that stuff

“answered later. All I know is I think it's to draw us closer to him. All I know is that other people”

are depending on you. There's someone out there right now who's depending on you stepping up that needs you. Maybe it's someone in your family, maybe it's someone in your friend circle, maybe it's a client or a customer, maybe it's somebody you haven't met yet and won't meet for a decade. But I can tell you, I didn't know that when I was a little boy, the lessons I was learning from my dad's alcoholism and drug addiction, would somehow serve people 30 and 40 years later.

God's infinite wisdom. He's holding you in this hand going, I'm going to turn this into something awesome. But you got to believe that and you got to hold on. It's not slipping away. You're stronger than you think. This is going to rebuild you. You are going to be remade. There is a purpose to your pain. Look for it. My beautiful friend. You're a miracle. Right? Isn't this cool? And right now, in a thought, you can change your life. In one decision you can change your life.

Now a lot of people are quoting me lately on Instagram and evidently in all their means, but you can go back 30 years ago and you will see me talking about one decision will change your life. You can go back a book 15 years ago. I'm not saying I coined the phrase or I own it, but dad gum, but I've been talking about this for a long time. You're one decision away from

“changing your life. Remember this, your decisions shape your destiny. Your decisions shape your destiny.”

You can make a whole new decision right now to see a different life, to focus on a different life, to make different decisions, to change that filter. You can make a decision today to change your mindset, to work on you, to rise from the ashes of where you are. You can make a decision that you're blessed, that you're favored, that there's a purpose to your pain. Or you can just

let the world come at you some more. You can be a victim. You can just always react all the

rest of your life rather than step up and start dictating the terms. You can be alone all your life or you can be with God all the time. And by the way, all that is is your awareness because he's with you, whether you realize it or not. You're in the palm of his hand anyway. What if you just started to give it up all your worries, all your fears to him and just started to play the game with house money? Because it ends the same way. Oh, by the way, I have news for you. You're not getting

out of this alive. It ends for all of us the same way. It ends. So we know the end. What we don't know is what happens between now and then. And hopefully you do know what happens after. But in the meantime, all we have is this moment right now. The past, that does not exist. It's a figment of your imagination. You know, no, no, I know exactly what happened. I'm just telling you you're not living it now. You're imagining it. You're not living it now. You may try to as best you can. You can't live the past.

And the future, that's just a wish. You know, a bunch of people woke up this morning. About six o'clock had all these big bold plans for their day. They had a big future ahead. And for some of them by noon, they're on their way to heaven. All you have is this moment. And it's a beautiful moment. It's a blessed moment. And so many people have sacrificed for you to be here today. Will you sacrifice for the next generation? Will you sacrifice for them? Will you make a difference? See,

pain you will feel if you don't. Life long regret to get to the end of a life and look back on it.

And it's a life unlived, a life out of fear is a tragedy. I said this in last week's show, but I want to reiterate this to you. When you get to the end of your life, you will not regret the things you tried and fail that. You're going to regret the things that you didn't try. And I don't even think it's that. I think you'll regret the jidnav more faith, more gratitude,

“and more belief. It's some point in your life. You have to decide that you're going to your own”

biggest fan. Your own biggest supporter that you're going to talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend that you're going to believe in yourself like you would believe in your children.

Because you only have one you. You were born with a responsibility to start with to take care of

one human being. You, you're the person you were born to take care of. In fact, you really can't care in your full capacity for other people if you don't care for yourself. Do you hear me? You can't transfer to someone that which you are not really experiencing. You really can't. You can transfer a little bit, but you can't give them all of it. Your jobs to take care of you. Yes, you, you were giving you to take care of, to believe in, to nurture, to grow, to push, to love, to challenge,

to celebrate, to laugh with, to comfort. If you don't give that to you and you only get that

“through God, you can't really give it to other people in the way that you should. I'm really”

emotional the last few weeks about the podcast we're doing because of all the messages I get from

so many of you. So many of you live with an enemy within you. You've taken the mistakes of your past and you use them as weapons against yourself. You're constantly hitting yourself over the head with this mistake or that setback or this thing. And you keep carrying these bricks with you through your life. It's almost like you want to keep reminding you of your own weaknesses, your own sins, your own mistakes. And the adversary's got you convinced that means you're not going to win.

And the truth of the matter is God wants to use these mistakes, these setbacks, these things you're ashamed of, these average ordinary things, these times you've felt invisible in your life. He wants to use those somehow in the service of other people, but he can only do that if you

“overcome it. But when you get to the other side of it, now there's a story. Now there's a message,”

your mess has a message, your test has a testimony. Maybe you heard that before. Why don't you live it? You were born to do something great with your life, do not end this thing by not finding out who the heck you are, what the heck you're capable of. Today is a blessing. You are a blessing. And next week I'm going to come back. I'm going to be heavy tactics and strategies for you on, you know, literally how to build that. But for this week, will you please step back and have

some perspective on how blessed you are, how far you've come, how much you've overcome, and that ought to give you some idea of where you're going. Me, you not be able to see it. You might know exactly what it's going to look like or what it's going to feel like, but he's rebuilding you. This storm is not going to destroy you. In fact, eventually at one point the wind's going to be at your back and you better be in full speed when it happens. Because once that wind's

at your back and you start knocking down barriers and you start overcoming things and you start getting momentum again in your life, I promise you, I promise you, it's going to change other people's lives because you went through what you're going through right now. And when you get to that end of your life, there was this great study recently that said the top five regrets of the dying. It's the whole reason I did today's show. Let me tell you what they are, big survey that they just

did. Number one regretted the dying. They said, I wish I would have stayed in touch more with my friends. I said maybe 500 times on the show that people matter and things don't, but we get so caught up in the pursuit of things, so busy in our lives. But I can tell you the biggest regrets of the dying, one of the five is they wish they would have stayed in touch more with their friends. Number two thing they regret in no order. I wish I would have expressed how I really felt

more often. So many people go through their entire lives and don't express how they really feel the love they feel for somebody, how they're really feeling inside about themselves, how they feel about the people that they work with. They feel like they're going to see them forever.

But they do it anyway. They agree to go to things and participate in things. They don't want to do.

But they're afraid to express themselves and say, no, I don't really want to do that. Maybe they participated in so much gossip in their lives. They wish they would have just expressed this makes me uncomfortable. I don't like this. They spent time with people. They didn't really want to spend time with. They did not tell the people that they loved often enough. How much they loved them and what they loved about them. Number three is I wish I would have lived a life

more true to myself and not lived by the expectations of others. So many people live a life and a script. Somebody else handed them. Maybe they didn't live by the virtuals and morals that they wanted to live by. Maybe they didn't say no enough. Maybe they didn't express what their dreams and visions and goals were. You imagine getting to the end of your life in one of the three biggest regrets of the five. I didn't live a life on my own terms. I let the expectations

of other people guide me. By the way, expectations are limiting beliefs. This dream stealers of life. The people we held on to in our lives weigh too long that no longer fulfilled us. No longer brought us joy and bliss and laughter and love and happiness. The places we didn't go because our spouse

didn't want to go and see it or things we wanted to do and achieve and try that we never did

because the expectations of other people were we weren't good enough or it wasn't going to work out or they projected their own fears and limiting beliefs on to us but at the end of life people wish they stayed in touch with their friends more. They wish they would have expressed themselves and how they really felt. They wish they would have lived a life on their own terms and not on the expectations of others. Number four, I wish I would have let myself be happier.

“I think it's so fascinating how that was worded. Let myself because that's really what it is.”

Happiness is already within us at any given time. We can tap into it any time I want. They didn't say I just wish I was happier. It's not when someone says at the end of their life. They say,

I wish I would have let myself be happier. Just let myself because it's always there. It lives

within us. It's part of who we are but we allow all these other things to blunt it and block it stress, worry, depression, fear, anxiety, stuff instead of just letting happiness be in our lives. At the end of your life when you've got very few hours left, days left. Don't regret that you didn't stay in contact with your friends more. People matter things don't. Don't ever get out of this life without expressing how you really feel.

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“I remember when my uncle Mike passed away. He was very young. He was 48 years old and”

someone got up. It was his son at the funeral. I was still pretty young myself. And my cousin said, "And he loved his dad as a very hard worker." He said, "I think daddy

had worked so hard. And you don't want to just work all your life. Experience life.

Work is one of the great things in my life. It's service. It's an expression of who I am. It's my art form. But the same time there's a life away from work. And I think you know that as well. Those are the five regrets of the dying. Now here's the cool part. At the end of your life, I want to have you have the five things you're most grateful for. You're most proud of. The moments, the memories, the contribution, the people, the difference you made, the things you saw and felt and experienced.

We don't have to get to the end of our lives with five regrets. We can get to the end of our lives with five things we're most proud of. Five things we want to honor. Five things we want to

“pass on to the next generation. Five things we want to celebrate. And that's what I want at the end of my”

life. And it's what I want for you at the end of your life. And hopefully today show helped you get there.

Very short in our mission here folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Now on to our next guest. Welcome back to Max Out with Ed Mylet. To my left here is Dave Meltzer. Welcome, brother. I talk about brother. You are a brother from another mother. You can't believe the similarities. All right. I hope it's interesting to other people. We think it's interesting. But hopefully,

hopefully it's interesting for all of you. Dave's a CEO of Sports One Marketing. He's also one of the great philanthropists in the country. And he's an interesting man. And that's why this conversation today. I think an alter year life too because he's a sports agent. But he's also does all these other things. He's been successful in the real estate space in the technology space.

He's now a sort of the life strategy and coaching space as well. But when I first started to read

about you, I thought I'm going to meet this sports agent guy. He's going to be intense. He's going to be kind of a grinder. And I found out it was almost like a meet in the Wayne Dyer of sports agents. You know, I'm in this very zen, very energy-based guy like I am. And so we share a whole lot in common. So today's conversation, I think you're going to love everybody. So people that are watching this, we all have a lot of friends who are thinkers, meditators, prayers. And they don't ever

produce results, right? And I think the reason for that is because there's the workers, like yeah, I'll work everybody, which I subscribe to. I know you do too. But having said that, I so agree with

“getting a line first. But I think a lot of people, yeah, that's pluffery because this is important”

for you to know. A lot of these folks who kind of get a line also leave out part beat. Would you agree with them? Which is the work part? I have this saying. And I'm sure it changes the message. Yeah, I have this saying, right? You're not going to ever find me sitting at home, high on my mom's couch, trying to manifest a Ferrari. Right, exactly. Right, that's not going to happen with your airplane. Right, that's not going to happen. Yes. What I did learn is I will

sit for 10 to 20 minutes and manifest. And then go out very clear, balanced and focused on what I want, which gives me confidence, which opens me up to receive. You just literally describe what I do. I mean, I think we do almost the exact same thing. The other thing we're both big and two, you want to go through a couple like stuff. Yeah. We're both being at a gratitude and the power of gratitude and how it can impact the rest of your life. Can you speak to that

“a little bit about how gratitude plays into your whole life? It is the cornerstone of my life.”

It gives me perspective. Yeah. And I try to give gratitude to everything and everyone. And when I tell you, like I'm the guy who stops and it's not about having money or not, I stop and give people who need it what they need out of gratitude. It could be time. It could be a compliment. I mean, you're a tensioner. Yeah. And I open a door out of gratitude. And I look at everything I have and I'm constantly fighting myself to make sure when things don't seem

as if I should be grateful. It freaks people out. Yeah. But like these two words, when someone's attacking you, realize that the mathematics of the universe, if someone's attacking you, if all you hold is gratitude, they can't attack you anymore. You can't allow them to take your joy. They can, they're energy, an attack has to have a attacking energy. It'll dissipate when you have gratitude. Wow. If someone attacks you and you say,

thank you. Yeah. And I really appreciate that. It takes all the energy out of the attack. So true. I had a good friend that was having difficulty with another friend and I ended up being on his podcast 'cause entrepreneur wanted me to do it. Okay. And he started attacking me on the show. No call me right after. Personal attack to him. Disrespectful. You know, the ego. Need to be a better guy. You know, I could say was, you know what? I did not even think about that. Thank you.

Thank you for teaching me how to be a better friend. I mean, you know, I'm sure our relationship being that we're so close and it did hurt your feelings. We'll definitely survive this. But the old Dave Meltzer, we're going to write back out of it. Or preach out of it. Yeah. And then I

ability. No way. Go away. Thank you. That's wonderful. Thank you. I need to hear that by the way. That's one for me because I'm a big gratitude guy, but not to that extent. Yeah. That's, that's a place where I get to learn it. You know, I think sometimes I, that's good for me. That's good for a lot of you. They're listening to this too. It's funny because I inspire and teach a lot of kids. Yeah. And so if you go against gratitude, forgiveness, accountability, or effective communication, I use the

Lamberti. It's in my system because I learn that way. Yeah. Kind of Lamberti football. Yes. And so now I'm trying to figure out how do you take a grateful approach for someone not learning gratitude? Right. Thank you so much for not listening to me, but thank you. But not quite working.

But the principle applies and you're absolutely right because there's no, what I always do when

“I hear a theory is what I do when you should be listening to this podcast, everybody. I hear a theory”

and I put it through different situations that are real world. It does it apply. What you just set applies. There's not going to be a scenario where it doesn't apply. That's how powerful it is. It is powerful. It's super powerful. I'm curious. Talk about kids. And I read a little bit about you. You do a lot of work with kids. You alluded to that. And also in kind of non-profit charitable work you do too. What do you, what does the organization you're involved with that helps with kids?

Yeah. So I'm a chairman of the unstoppable foundation. That's what it is. That's what it is. It's Cynthia Cursey about 10 years ago. On her 50th birthday. Okay. It took money instead of gifts to help kids in Africa and Kenya. So not only kids, but communities with water, education, financial, literacy, medical care, and it's a volume. 75,000 people have been impacted. And so now these

girls who never would have been an educated, mostly girls that never would have been educated are graduating

college. That's wonderful. I turn 50 a month and a half ago and I'm doing 50 birthday parties on this. And for the 50, I'm going to raise over a million. Notice no limitation. Yeah. Over a million is fast as I can in these 50 parties to build an empowerment and leadership center to take all these

“people we impacted and teach them how to empower others. Wow. That's what it scales. That's what I”

did scale. One thing people ask me because I do warm moon is my business partner. We have crescent moon foundation. We've given hundreds of scholarships and kids to go to college. Which is still important. We hear in America. Sure. Our high schools. The last me Dave, there's a lot to do in America. Why are you doing this in Africa? Yeah. Watching what's going on in the world. And if we can stabilize some of these other places, it only benefits here. That's a wonderful

work brother. So it's really fun. Now, why would you all have no about him that's really interesting because you're going to learn this lesson in your business too? These principles. Remember, this is a guy who attracts to him some of the top athletes in the world that he represents. Right? In other agents, we talk about let's negotiate the shoe contract. Right? Let's, let's, you know, get the percentage done. Let's get your guaranteed this. And I know that's part of what you do.

But he takes his very unique approach. Right? And the approach is almost, you begin to talk to the

athletes about their giving first and what they could do with their giving and their time.

Speak to that for a second, which makes you so unique. Because we don't want you here. So unique in the space you're in. Because the sports world can be very cutthroat. The dollar now, short term, short term, short term. You run a model that's different than that and a message.

“And again, I apply it through anything. The same principles apply if you want to dry cleaners.”

If you want to, a gym, if you have a, you know, you run a life insurance business. Whatever the heck your business is, this principle he's about to share with you, would distinguish you, make you happier and probably grow your business as a buy product. It's not the reason to do it, but it is a buy product. We grow your business. So talk about that. And to give credit, I learned it from Lee Steinberg. Okay.

Because of Berkeley guy. Okay. Jeremy McGuire. Okay. Co-produced from Kevin Crow, League Famous, or any taught me, I said, why do you require every one of our athletes to have a foundation? He said for two reasons, one, I know it's right. And the truth vibrates the fastest. He didn't put it in those words, but that's what he was saying. And then he said, but beyond that, because I started learning that, by giving back,

I actually qualified the people I surrounded myself with. If an athlete wasn't willing to give back, I was only going to have problems later on. And so throughout my whole career since I've been working with Lee, whether it's athletes, companies, media, or even interviews, I only do people that work with people that will give back. Every project I have has to have a charitable component or cause to it. Every single one, or we won't take it. And it just has really increased

a collective belief or a vibration for our entire community, not just our business. Don't you think it's important? I heard you talk about this. And we both said this separate of each other. But the reason there's also power to that, by the way, it's wonderful seeds you're selling, right? The other part of it is, like, I think it's important in business that you show up different than people expect you to. Yeah. You know, I see you talk about, I talk about that all the time, too. Like,

in my case, you know, if I've got some big arms and I've got tattoos on there and I show up as this guy that's talking about loving people and blissful dissatisfaction and making a difference we're like, wait a minute, I thought you're going to talk about smashing people in the face. You know, I think that's been an advantage of mine that maybe I'm not as I appear, right? And is that true also? Would you give that advice to somebody in business or even in his life? Absolutely. You have to take advantage.

and have a lot of fun. A lot of people ask me, why do you say make a lot of money, Dave? You're this philanthropic. Right. This, you're right. But I do tip out a lot of athletes and celebrities for money. So I call myself a philanthropic. Why do you do that? It's because literally if you don't have, you can't give. That's right. I say that about forgiveness. If you don't forgive yourself, it's right. Can you ever forgive? Right. And so I say to everyone, make money for yourself first.

You'll figure out where to put it. Yep. My mom is a great catalyst. siblings did extremely well. Sure. But my mom has to still be supported by her kids today that it takes away from her own pride.

There you go. Of course. Right. And because you never cared about making money yourself. Yes. And I really

“believe it's really important if you have the skills and knowledge and desire that you should”

make as much money as you can. Yes. And take care of everyone around you. I believe that's so much. And the point is too is that what Dave's sharing with you is you can't transfer to somebody that what you're not experiencing yourself. You can't give me love if you don't feel it. You can't give me gratitude. You can't give me energy. You can't give me confidence. You can't give me money. You can't give me these things if you're not experiencing on yourself. So that was a great conversation.

And if you want to hear the full interview be sure to follow the Ed My Let's Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest. Welcome back to Max Out with Ed My Let. This man to my left. I think is one of the most inspiring people on Planet Earth today. Thank you. And an unbelievable public speaker for the record that you're

going to hear about in a minute. But this is Nick San Francisco. And as you can tell, Nick and I have

been friends now for a while. But Nick has a story to tell as you can tell is probably different than anyone you've ever heard before. And so I'm excited to have you here today, Brad. I'm hopeful for that opportunity. You know how much I've wanted you here. And we've been connecting through social media for a while. And I consider you a friend. I appreciate that. And I'm so excited that I'm going to help even get you further exposure to the world. I'm excited. I'm excited.

I am too brilliant. And so they need to know more about you. So I'm curious. You did sort of getting to this sort of, you know, you said there was the hardest time in your life was middle school in high school. These would be getting a high school. Did you kind of go into a little bit of a depression, sort of down on yourself. And then if you did, how did you get out of it? Yeah. So middle school high school, I was at an all-time low for me. You know, and my big

question was why. You know, I realized I was different. And I realized, you know, some of the negativity of kids there. And I mean, I was just like, why? You know, there's billions of people, why do I have to be on this earth with no legs and one arm? These kids don't know what I'm going through. Like why? And I was pissed off, you know, the universe god, but ever maybe I was just pissed off that I was in the situation. And when I got into high school, I realized, you know, that I was

in the slump. And I realized that, you know, confidence is a skill. It's not just something that

“you wake up with. And that's what I thought. When I thought in middle school and high school, I was like,”

I guess I'm just not born with confidence. You know, I thought you either had it or you didn't, but to show people that to skill and you gradually work on it. So I need to work on myself. And I'm lucky that I realized that the only person that's going to make a drastic change in your life, you know, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, like you were talking about is you, you know, you have to take control of yourself. And I realized I was like, man, like, one choice.

You have one choice. I can either look at all the negative I have in my life and focus on that, which won't propel me. It will dig me to a hole. Or I can focus on all the good and all and capable of doing. And that will elevate me. So when I was, when I was freshman year, it was funny, my best friend was still best friends of this day. And all my wrestler best friends are, all right, you know, we're so best friends. But he was a bowler. And in my high school, you know,

I was like, man, if I could be part of a team, you know, just like a group, something, a support system. I'll feel better about myself. I'll be labeled as, you know, an athlete, if it's a bowler, whatever it may be. Right. You know, I'm an athlete, next to an athlete. So I, that fired me up. So I remember our varsity team was super good and our JV bowling team was undefeated until I joined the team. And I joined the JV team. And I remember, I see that I totally remember, they didn't have

the correct jersey for me. I had an older jersey. So like, it's me. And like, people are like, how does this kid going to bowl? And I was just throwing a ball down the lane. And I realized that I wanted much more that it just, it wasn't challenging me enough. And I wanted something more physical. And so I got my, I got into my sophomore year and all my best friends. So that best friend wrestled his younger years in like Matt Ratz when he was younger. And so sophomore year, they all were

on the wrestling team. They all were like all stud wrestlers for my high school. My older brother was

a wrestler for that same high school, but I never got to go to high school with them. So like the

coaches knew me. They knew your family. And so I was like, man, I thought wrestlers were the coolest thing. You know, the hardest physical sport, like physically and mentally, I want to be a wrestler. So at the time, this arm was about five inches longer than it is now. And my bone was growing faster than my skin. So it was like your finger, but super poiny. So I couldn't really touch it on things. It was super sensitive. It was painful too, right? Yeah, painful. So I used to tuck it because if I

“would hit my arm hard enough, my bone would've came through. That's how like, yeah, sorry. But that's”

how like, you know, light it is. And so I made that, made that decision to myself. I said, if I could become a wrestler, you know, if I could be with my friends, you just get after it in the room,

home one day and I said, mom and dad, I want to be a wrestler. And I remember I waited for my dad

“to be home. And my parents supported me and everything and anything throughout my life. You know,”

as long as long as you're happy, you know, who want you to do it. But this was a little bit different. As a mom and dad, I want to be a wrestler. My mom was like, oh my god, Nick, you know, wrestling's most physical sport if you're out there, you hit your arm. And I was like, I was a 17, 18, you know, kid. I looked at him. I said, can we cut it off? Oh my gosh, bro. And they were like, what? And I'm like, can we take care of this? Like, it's not helping. And you know, it took me a couple

hours. But I persuaded my parents to schedule an invitation. So we found like the best doctor and they basically lathered five inches of my arm off and did a skin graft. So they pulled

extra skin and pulled it over my bone. So I'd have, you know, padding. And I always tell people

the only little mountain, the only little challenge that I saw that was stopping me from wrestling was the fact that my arm hurt. It wasn't the fact that I was born with no legs of my arm. I mean crazy. I knew that my hard work and dedication, if I if I worked harder than the able body, it would make up for my lack of limbs. If I put the work in, you know, work my butt off that I would this wouldn't matter. You know, it wouldn't matter. So I made that decision. And so

my sophomore year, I always say I was the happiest kid to cut his arm off. Like, I was a one. Yeah. So we implicated him all on my sophomore year. And remember, I love food. We're Italian. And I missed Halloween that year because I was, I was in a cast. I had like, you know, 17 stitches of my arm. And I remember going back to school and I was so happy. Like I said, happiest kid to just cut his arm off. And people like, dude, what did you just do? Yeah.

And I'm like, oh, I implicated him all arm. I'm going to be a wrestler. And it was the same cycle. It was the same cycle. It was people, dude, you can't wrestle. You know, it was, dude, how are you going to be a wrestler? You have no legs of one arm. Like, dude, let's be real. Right. You know, the outside noise, the nasi is the haters. And I looked, I said, you're right. I'm not going to become a wrestler. I'm going to become a varsity wrestler. And, and, you know,

“I think, I think from the earliest of ages from, you know, my parents telling me what the doctors”

told me and all this, I always cared a little bit of chip on my shoulder to show people what I'm

truly capable of doing. Bro, can we just stop for a second here? We just stop. You to go, to go wrestle. So, there's all these, by the way, a lot of you are parents or you're a young athlete watching this, you go, man, I'm wrestling, man, it's hard. So hard to cut weight. Or I got to go to the gym or man, I got to miss my party on the weekend to go to practice. It's got cut as arm off to go wrestle, right? And, and, and by the way, that's going into it knowing, I don't actually have every other

thing going for me to go dominate in this sport. It's actually after bowling, which, by the way, I would love to see you ball. That this to me is like the coolest visual in the world. But the fact that you go for bowling just to belong to a team, you're like, you know what, screw it, I'm going to a next standard, and next level, I want to go wrestle. Then, do you have your parents kind of still back it, though, man? And do you have that extreme? Like, what are you willing to do to chase your

dream? You guys want to cut his arm off, right? Part of it. I mean, what are you willing to do to chase your dream? What's the sacrifice you're willing to make? And how's it compared to that? Right? And with no guarantee makes a team. And then, up the ante, go, you're right, I'm not going to wrestle. I'm going to varsity wrestle. I, I don't know this, by the way, did that actually happen? So, my junior year, I remember getting in the room, and I said to my, to my buddies, because most

of my buddies, they're all my buddies now, you know, and it's like beat me up. I said beat me up,

“slam my face in the man as hard as you can, you know, do whatever you need to do because if you”

hold back on me, I'm not going to know how to become the best restaurant so I could possibly be. And that's the same thing for my parents. If my parents held back and gave me everything, you know, I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have the mindset to have. I wouldn't be the man I am today if people held back on me. So, that was my first thing, my message to everyone, you know, beat me up, like don't feel bad. Like, I'm here. I'm here for me, like beat me up.

So, my junior year, what I was doing was basically just trying to figure out where my strengths were, like what, what I was good at. And with wrestling, if you go to your back, if you both your shoulder blades touched, it's a pin, it's six points. And that's the most amount of points you can give up. So, I knew that, you know, I needed to work on staying off my back. You know, even if I couldn't win, if they could tech fall me and get, you know, a lesser

amount of points at a pin, I'm winning. So, my junior year, I was like, like I said, I was like one and twenty. And my coach threw me out for a four-fit win. So, again, my varsity jacket. And I

came off, I was like, I want it. You know, I never even got my varsity jacket. I never got it.

And I, because to me, I didn't earn it. You know, it was given to me. And I didn't want to wear something that, you know, it was just given to me. So, my junior year got my butt kick, big learning experience in between the summer of junior year and senior year. I kind of got in the wait room a little bit, not too much. But my senior year, I came out as Central Regionals 106 pound varsity wrestler for my high school. Oh, I did. And you know, like I said, we talk about

moments of confirmation moments of reassurance. It was just like, this is what you're, you know, regardless of, you know, how I got 106 pound varsity wrestler, it was, you know, I stuck through the journey and I made it. So, at that point, I'm still trying to find my wife. You know, next confidence is, you know, I got a little bit, you know, I'm part of the wrestling. I'm hanging with the wrestlers. I'm a senior wrestler, you know, my varsity wrestler. But I would go out.

I lost. And I, I was, I hated it. I was like, why are you clapping for me? If I just got my butt

kick, you know, I did give it my all, you know, I always gave it my all, but why are you clapping

for me? I'm not supposed to be a plot losing. I'm a competitor. And I came off the mat one day

“and this lady came up to me and she was crying and I'm like, oh my god, you know, what did I do wrong?”

Yeah. And she said, Nick, I want to thank you. And I said, for what, you know, 17 years old, 18 year old, get what? And she said, my son or daughter never wanted to do a sport. My son or daughter never wanted to do an extra curricular activity. They want to try all these things. They saw you on the mat and they're like, oh my god, I want to try this mom. I want to try that. And that was my quantum moment of, I was just trying to live my life to the fullest. I was trying to find my

purpose and I was motivating and passively. I was motivating a changing lives passively on the sideline. I imagine how many people I could change for the better, how many perspectives I can change for the better and motivate people if I focus my energy in helping people. And that's when I realize that I boom, here's your why, Nick. You are an example. Yeah. You are an example. You know, like, you, you accepted this life before you even were in here and you are here to be an example

for those that think they don't can. You'll land turn. I'll land turn for others to spread light. Dude, you are that and I told everybody when we started you would inspire. I'm trying right now not to tackle you myself because I'm so freaking fired up and I'm afraid you might rustle me back to the ground. I don't want to be pinned. But I'll be honest with you, brother. Like, there's so much here. Usually in interviews, I want to jump in and add, but this is too good. And so I do want to say one thing to you.

That part about letting the guys to beat you up is such a great lesson for everybody to be watching this because you wanted to go through the real deal. And I'm thinking about, I'm thinking about all the things that people use to, they use as an excuse to stop. They use as an excuse to hold back,

right? And you've just, you've never done that before. And it's, it's sort of just crazy to me.

And one of the things I found out about you, obviously you're a competitor, right? But you're also

“real grateful. And I think that would surprise a lot of people that someone who, you know, got a little bit”

bullied and teases a young guy. Nothing came out perfect. Nothing's easy for you, right? But yet you're really a great full dude to talk about how important gratitude is for you. In addition to all of this intense competition you've been through. How important is gratitude? I feel like gratitude if a person can just live in a say to gratitude, it could change their whole entire life. And I can make this quick and simple and easy for everyone to comprehend me. A man went no legs and one arm. There are

millions of people, as we sit in this couch, I would switch places with me in an instant because they just don't have it like me. There are kids and adults that are confined in wheelchair beds. There are kids and adults that are paralyzing wheelchair that look outside and say, man, I wish I could just go outside and breathe the fresh air. I wish I could just listen to the birds. I wish I could get out of this hospital bed. Like it gives me chills. That's all the motivation

I need because I know that my situation isn't bad. And the sad thing is that there's people when full bodies that say, oh man, his life's bad. No, it's not. You know, the biggest disability is a bad mindset. It's not this. It is not this. It's people don't have their mind right, Ed. People are just like, oh my god, I can't do this. I can't do that. No, you're truly capable of anything. You put limits on yourself. The only limits you have are the ones you put on

yourself. So to go back to gratitude, like, I'm start being grateful for that. You woke up today. You know, start being grateful that you were in a bed. There's people sleeping. You can go outside. There's people sleeping on the sidewalk. Like how can you not be grateful? You know, so living in a state of gratitude and waking up and starting your day of gratitude, you know, listening five things you're grateful for. Thinking about five things you're grateful for. You'll

notice that your mind gets in a rhythm and at first it may be big things like, oh my family, my house, whatever may be. But then your mind will get in the rhythm and start thinking about the little things. The little things you're grateful for like, man, I got good health or man, I got food in the refrigerator or you know, I got friends, you know, the little things your mind starts to just become grateful for the things around you and you realize that the things you complained about

on the day-to-day basis and the grand seem of life, but not problem. We don't have a problem. Man, you know, you know, I'm saying that. I do, but you live it and I think there's something powerful about people who are authentic who actually walk the walk to do the things they say they're going to do, which is what you do. And like, you're walking the walk isn't the same as other people,

“because you have to walk differently. Are there days you're down? Are there days you're like,”

hey, man, even today are there days now? This, look, you're accomplished. You've, you're now a

sought-after speaker, right? You inspire people like me who any easy to always inspire me, right?

Like there's got to be something special about someone to inspire me, like sitting here with you. I can feel my emotions. I'm trying to hold them, right? Like my intensity, my passion, my tears for some reason, like I'm holding it in because I want to have a good interview with you, right? But like you do that in people you're special. But are there days you're down?

I do have the low days. Yeah. And I actually had a low day. I'll be honest. I had a low day. It was

my birthday, the May 20th. And that weekend we went to Miami and I had a low day because you know, I went out in public and just trying to, just trying to, you know, mingle and talk to girls, what? Right? And maybe the one interaction with a girl didn't go the way I wanted to. And all these thoughts going in my head, oh my God, she thinks you're disgusting, it's because you have no legs when arm. And you know, these are the things that you go through,

“those moments of like down. And I always down. Like those guys, they were like, do you want to go out?”

And I'm like, no, like, I'm good. I'm due to your birthday week and now I'm good. Because like one moment, it's important to know that one moment can, can induce those toxic thoughts on your head. But the important thing about that is when I'm in those low moments and this is for everyone needs to do this. When you're in those low moments, embrace it. What are you feeling? How are you breathing? How do you feel? And realize that this is not a state I want to be in. So embrace that

low time, like, oh my God, I feel like I feel like poop. You know, I don't feel good. I feel, this is my low state. You know, these are all the things that I don't want to go through in the thoughts that I don't want to think about. And that's the thing, you know, embrace that time, embrace that state and realize that, oh my God, I don't want to feel like this. And then get out of it. And the way to get out of it is start thinking positive affirmations. You know,

start thinking about, because you're my only thing about one thought. So if you're thinking about something negative, you know, change that thought. So I start to think to myself, I am beautiful. I am confident. I am an athlete. I, if that girl doesn't want to talk to me, that it's an organic filter. And that's a type of people that I don't want to be around. Nick, Nick, it was, it was helping you. She's not the girl you want to be around. She's looking at you for this. Right.

You know, so that's one of the things that helped me so much, because I'm not going to lie, girls is still, still, apart from me, you know. And you know, especially as a 22 year old guy, you know, sure, it's a hard, it's a low point for me, but to realize that me being in the situation, it, like we said about the tribes, it organically attracts the right people you want to be with. So for girls, going to not talk to me or, you know, just not even respect me for my lack of limbs.

Okay. Fine. Like take a hike, you know, because you are not the person that I want to be around.

“Remember, remind yourself of that, please, because that's shoot. This is good. Like it's so true,”

because there's all guys, 22 years old, or like have these deficient. And then, by the way, why does she, like, you're like, you just because you're good looking? That's the reverse. She's like, you just because you got a couple bucks. She's like, you just because you're an athlete. Then you end up, it's an odd filter for you that's actually to your benefit, because it is because eventually, you're going to find a woman who loves you for you. And as you're blowing up,

like you are now, six and a half year for you, where it's like, if you do have money, if you are

successful, if you're like, someone's mind perfect looking or whatever, right? Like, you'll never know

if they love the you that you, so you actually have this, it's bizarre that you're right about that. And I want to acknowledge that you're right about that. And thank you for being honest about it, too. Before we start the interview with my next guest, just want to remind you all that you can subscribe to the show on YouTube or follow the show on Apple or Spotify. We have all the links in our show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. Now on with the show.

“Welcome back, everybody. My guest today played 12 years in the major leagues. Let me just”

tell you something. He could flat mash this dude could hit at least a watch him going. That's the natural. He should call him the natural. But then the more I got to know his story turns out it wasn't natural that he worked really hard to build this incredible swing three time all start. And I'm just telling you guys, any of you that know baseball, this dude could flat out hit. But today we're going to talk about, you know, you got someone here that played in the big leagues and the major

leagues that long. There's a mental aspect to what they did and how they live and what they do now that got them there. So we're going to talk about peak performance today and overcoming adversity,

all kinds of incredible stuff with Sean Casey Casey, welcome to the show. Thanks for having

me on dude so fired up to be here. So it came all the way in flew from Pennsylvania to be here today. So thank you for being here. I know you got a lot of family stuff going right now. Dude, I just wanted to say too, like before we get going, like listen in your podcast, they're like, who's the guy? Who's the voice of like, oh, good. Who is that guy? The guy that does the he introduces the show. He used to do. Yeah, he used to do something for the NFL and I heard his voice just way back in

the day. It's so funny. Seven years ago, I'm like, I told my team, I don't know who that dude is. I want that voice saying my name. And which funny about that thing is too, is that even to this day, he still can't say my let correctly. It's welcome to the head. Mile it. He still doesn't even say my name right, but his voice is so good. I'm like, okay, he can just say my, he says my name wrong on my own. Go. But he says it was such a great voice. I'm like, let's just leave it.

Every time he does the takes, I'm like, can you get him to say my latin? Like, no, it's my life. Whatever. Anyway, this conversation I knew was going to be special, but like, I did it know was going to go to this depth. And you know, you are he is working for the MLB network. He's great on there. I've watched him on there for, you know, quite a while now. But now you're starting

this thing, like, I, it took me back. He said it to Jim. And I like replayed it. And then I sent

it to my son and then I sent it to my daughter. And it's this good. So I want you to share with my audience about the gaps. And it was so good that I've actually, I'm not going to, I'm sending it to some of the athletes I work with too. So talk about that, but it's because it's a baseball analogy, but it's a life analogy. It's huge. Yeah. Well, you know, I was, you know, I want to get in, I'm, I'm not wanting to get in. I'm into coaching. I coach, you know, obviously college athletes,

high school, some pro players and all that stuff. But I, you know, this program I developed, it's called the powers and the gaps. And I just wanted to relate it to baseball because when you think of baseball and you know, you know, as well as I do, you want to be one of the best players in the game. You play in the gaps. Right. You play in the gaps. You've got to shoot the gaps to be one of the best power haters. You want to hit the ball out in the gaps to be one of the best in the game at

the end of the day, right? Your center fielders, your right foot, they got to fly into the gaps to

“make a play, right? And so I look at that, like, hey, the powers and the gaps in life, too. That's why”

I love about baseball. It mirrors life. Yeah. It's like baseball's not easy. Hey, life's not easy, too. It wasn't meant to be. Baseball wasn't meant to be. The life's not meant to be easy. Like, none of us are exonerated from the uncertainty that hard work, right? And the struggles of life. And the struggles of baseball, right? At the end of the day. So the powers and the gaps. And I thought about what is it, man. So the G of the gaps is that gratitude, man. Are we showing up every

day? Are we connecting to what this is all about? Are we connecting to the gratitude of like when you wake up in the morning? Are you saying, hey, thank you. Oh, man. I got a, I, I, I, and I do, I say this, I say this, I say this to my kids all the time. If they listen to the bragging, listen to this podcast, they're like, oh, here goes dad, jump it off his, every morning, I say to my kids, like my two daughters are still home calling and doing another home, but my

stunts are in college, and I still tell them. And I say, man, the chances you being here of a human being are 100, 400 trillion, right? And you know that, too. You win the life lottery every

“day, like right, right? And so the, and I think of generational gratitude, right? I think of this.”

Like, so your parents had to meet, then your grandparents had to meet. And then if I go back to my Irish heritage in County, Kork Island, the potato family came, some more cases had to side to have kids. And then if you go back to generations, it's like, it's so ridiculous, like a tenth generation grandparent, four thousand of those people had to get together, ran my lead to be here, crazy,

right? It's incredible. So however he's awesome, you think you are an awesome thing, think are,

yeah, you are. And I want to tell people that, I want to be like, good, you're in, you're a walking lottery ticket bro. Why do you start living like it, right? Why do you start living like it? And that's like, that's that gratitude, right? Like, oh, yeah, I got up through my hit the thing. Hey, thank you. To the life for some, my heart's going to pump today 100,000 times. I have no idea on that's happening. So it's the ultimate gift. Well, I'm going to breathe 25,000 times today.

How is that happening? I got a 50 trillion sales digest in my food. What? Yes. I'm a walking miracle. And so with you, let's only want to add my lead, man. There's eight billion dudes out there in women. There's only one I had my lead. There's only one showcase. And for anyone else out there, guess what? If you think life is tough and isn't that, why don't you change it? Why don't you change the narrative? If you start to look and you go, no, no, no, no, the narrative really is you're one of a

kind brother. You're one of a kind. And if we all started to think like that, I don't know.

“I think the world be a different place. That's how I think. So when I say the powers in the gaps,”

it's in the gratitude, right? It's in the A, the accountability for who you are of how you think of what narratives you tell your stuff, what are your stories? It's also in the perspective that you take in the P perspective in your process. And the, and the, and the S of the gaps, it's also in the service. If you want to connect to, to this world and connect to people, hey man, serve someone, serve somebody. How many times is somebody asked you for direction to go, hey, beat it, dude.

If somebody comes up, you ask your rescue rescue. Hey, man, two blocks down here. If you're in Pittsburgh, you're on a street name, you're like two blocks down here, don't on a street name. You make a left at the 7 11, but to do people want to help people want to, so find people to serve. You don't necessarily have to go to a soup kitchen and serve your kids, serve your dad if you have to when he's struggling or your mom or like you're doing. Yeah, serve people

that are in the grocery store. Say hi. You know what I mean? Because they're, they're one of a kind too. Yeah, brother, the gaps that fires me up. I don't know that I've ever felt that much energy that doesn't work out. No, but I love it because like, I also think a lot of things in life

is in our energy. It's actually how you feel. People you're always making people feel something. Right.

It blows my mind how few human beings are intentional about that thing. Like, you're always making another person feel something. So why not be intentional about what is, by the way, you are always feeling something. Take some control over that. Right. Take some control over your own energy. Energy is influence. Energy is people respond to what they feel way more than the actual words you say.

roll off the road. They were, they were at level six on the ground. They're at 10. And when it's done, they'll be two or three. You're going to remember the gaps. They're going to remember your high school

“story. But the other going to remember how they felt how you made them feel. That's how when you”

think about someone you love, you can't describe like they're smart. They're like, now it's how I make you feel. Right. So it's the how you feel part of your life. Like, that's what's, that's one of your magic things, man, is like, anytime I've listened to it's why I want people to follow you too, makes it, what's Instagram? My Instagram is at the mayor's office, MLB. Yeah, by the way, what is, that's really not easy to remember. At the mayor's office, MLB. What's the mayor thing?

Dude, okay, a guy who's the head coach at Ohio State right now when I was in the Cape College, Scott Bill Moses Gallo, you know, he was like, he was a real serious guy at the time. Man, this guy, I don't know because guy likes me. He's so serious, you know, and I'm, you know, me and I'm coming in. Hey, what's going on? And he's like, bro, he's like, Dude, he's like, you talk to everybody. He goes, it's almost like you're lobbying for votes to be the mayor's

something. Hey, don't you think? Yeah. And it kind of stuck. And I remember Carl Ravich one time,

I hit a ball on the gap in 1999. I, I, you know, sliding in second place, you know, he's like,

hey, and that's a rocket right there by the, they call him the mayor. Shark, it's all of a sudden, you know, it just adds stuff. So it's just because I'm talking to everybody at first and Dude, I don't know man, it's, it is. It's that energy. I remember like, you know, who's your favorite guy? Man, Lance Perkman would come to my energy, but he'd come to first. It's a great conversation.

“But I just, you know, I love people. I think that energy is the most important thing. And I, like,”

when, when Romy told me to talk, he goes, Dude, you don't believe this guy's energy. You're literally not going to believe this dude's energy. And I already watched you and knew you, but actually meeting you. It's like, it's a fact. And like, I root for you now. Like, I root for you. That was a great conversation. Be sure to follow the Ed My Let's Show on Apple

and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way.

All right. Welcome back to the show, everybody. I'm honored today. Today's special. And I think it's going to be a show that you'll never forget the rest of your life. That's, that's my outcome for today. And I invited two friends of mine, two people that I'm proud to have any association with. And we're going to talk about Afghanistan today. We're going to talk about the Middle East. Just an even our role in general in the world with the military. And then we're also going to

talk about why you should care. Why is it matter to you, right? With all the things you have going on in your life is easy to disregard these things. And I didn't want this to be one of these CNN Fox news, you know, filtered type stuff. I didn't want one of these generals on here. I wanted real warriors. People that have been on the ground that have operated that can give you real feedback. And it's the two people that I've had. I'm sure that I respect the most of my life. And so

I'm honored to have with me today first, Rob O'Neill, Rob's out over 400 combat missions. It's

life that we know of. You know, you've all heard Rob on my show before. He was part of the lone survivor rescue, first guy on the boat and Captain Phillips raid. And there's probably best known for killing a guy named Osama bin Laden. And when I talked to Rob, I said, Rob, I got a new friend named Rich to Vinnie. He says, that's the finest seal I ever served with. So that's pretty high praise. Rich 20 years, seal commander, 13 deployments, 11 of them in Afghanistan and Iraq. And he trained

a, he was a trainer for a group that were not supposed to name that rhymes with seal team six. It rhymes with that. And so he's got some significant experience to share with us, too. So gentlemen, thank you for being here today, honor to have you. I had a great to be with you. Yeah, great to be here and let me just give you a call up because, you know, Rob and I, you know, we lost contact. We lost touch and that happens just because, you know, when you leave the military, it's kind of a natural

progression. But, you know, you were the reason that Rob and I got to finally talk to each other. I think it was five or six years. It had been. So yeah, it's been a long time. And it actually sent me a message saying to the interview and I said, I wouldn't sure if I didn't mention you by name at the time, Rich. But I had quoted you. I think two or three times when I was on Ed's podcast, first time. And I didn't know if you were either going to love me or hate me

for doing that. Like I was stealing your material. But I know that a lot of stuff you said to me when we were working together, we can get into that has stuck with me, not just in the Navy, not just the Sealty 6, but afterwards in the 10, 10, whatever years I've been in the private sector. Well, I appreciate that, I do. Yeah. It's good to be with this group. And really it's that's nice. Yeah. It's certainly, and thank you both for your service. I didn't say that.

I wish this was the conversation that's been had in the country the last three weeks and it's ongoing. You know, some disagreement, we said we're going to elevate the conversation, a real information, real understanding of the dynamics and how things happen and how they work, decisions that are made. And this is how it should be because Rich and Rob don't agree on everything. Right? And I don't agree with both of them on everything. And I have no basis for

“half of the things that I believe. That's why I've been asking these guys these questions today.”

But I, what I, Rob, it made me think about, you know, the other thing with you guys that strikes

protected our country for, protected the world for. And Rob, just for a minute, I don't, you've been on the show, we've covered it before and I went on to go through the whole story. But I just think this stuff just sounds like a video game to even someone like me. Right? These are just like, it's, it's literally a video game. Then there's the real world men and women that are on the ground protecting the world, protecting

the country. And I said this many times, Rob, since I've met you and people asked me about you, I said that whatever you were doing the day that Osama bin Laden was killed, whatever you were worried about, whatever was your big problem that day. Imagine what O'Neill and his dudes were doing that day. What they think, the bravery level of you and your, your, your partners there. I just want to take it through them. I want them just to feel this for a minute of what's gone

on to give you the freedom to argue whether we should an open closed border, to go protest if you want to, to argue over guns, or argue over taxes to vote in an election, these things matter. And I don't think people understand this. This is not promised forever. And there's guys like Rob and people like Rich, that ensure the fact that we get to have these arguments where we live in our freedoms. So Rob, just, the thing that you said to me about the bin Laden rate, all of this

remarkable. But you said to me, I knew I was dead. I was, it already dead. I was tired of thinking about it. I'm just going over here. Let me just die. I want you all imagined. Whatever you're worried about today, whatever you're doing today. So take us just for a minute if you would in brief, but just let them feel this for a minute. Everything's led up. You now know that it's him. You now know you're going to get him. And you're on the helicopter. Leave an Afghanistan

coming over. What's going through? This is what has happened to protect us, everybody. Well, I mean, it's the human element because there's, there's humanity involved with everything. I don't care who, who it is that you kill. Someone loved them. And you get to a level where you're questioning, are we killing each other just because we were born and different parts of the world had it been different? Would we have gotten along? We're stuff like that. But I even

had a conversation with my father right before the launch on the bin Laden rate. And he, he would always

say to me, I wish I was going with you when I'd call him prior. And I'd say, yeah, I wish you were too dead. But this time he said, I wish I was going with you. And I said, don't worry, Dad, I'm with some really great people. And so I knew I was going there with my brothers. And we knew that this is what we're here for. This is, this is why we came, this is why we joined and the acceptance, once the acceptance of giving your life for the greater good, you kind of lose the, you kind of

lose the fear a little bit because the realization that if I could, I could pull myself off this mission any time. But I'm letting them down. And if I live to be 90 years old, what I give every single day to have one shot of this, this is why I'm here. I'm here to fight for the men and women to die in the town. I'm here for the Americans, the first America is to fight Al Qaeda on flight 93.

“And before they fought Al Qaeda, they voted. And that's what that's, that's what America is.”

That's what the Western ideology is. That's freedom. And there's, there's just so much there, it's, I'm with these guys, I'm, I'm, I'm, I might die, but I'm safe. I'm good. And just getting there, it's kind of like taking everything, because these are real people that can barely afford their mortgages. Now we're in a bottle about Pakistan. And I was in the back because of where we

ended up. And I'm watching guys, we could blow up at any second, but everyone's doing their jobs.

Like we, like we taught each other slowest moves fast. But then like Rich said shooting someone, but then running across the room to grab a child, because I don't want that kid to be more afraid than he needs to be. And just realizing these are the good guys. And this is what we're fighting for. It's that is bigger than this. It's not just us here. This is for everyone. And when we got up to the room, I just followed a guy that was brave of the me up the last that is theirs. And he went

one way. And I went the other. And after I even shot them on, his two-year-old son was standing there.

“And I remember as a father thinking, this poor kid has got nothing to do with this. So this is”

real human emotions. And you know, Belan, you know, millions of people loved them. It's all because of the different ideologies. That's all because of different educations. Was he an asshole yet? Is he deserved to die? Absolutely. Do I feel bad for you to take them alive? No. But this is what we're, this is it. And these are the good guys. But then when you get away from it, too, you know, this is a really big world, but it's a really small world. And

and, you know, it's, it's like, you know, yes, we need to meet force with force at the point of origin. And there needs to be people there willing to do it. But you know, there's a, there's a, there's just, there seems to me to be a bigger, a bigger picture of them. And we mentioned

people that have never been there and played a video game. Whenever I see someone walking down the street

with the, I like to kick doors and shoot, there's in the face. My reaction is, no, you don't, because you've never been done it. Yeah. And you could, and you probably wouldn't be able to. It's funny. And let me just add one thing because it's interesting. And it was a conversation I

“had with another friend of, a mutual friend of ours. Obviously, I won't give his name. But I remember”

he and I were, at one point, we came back and we were a little upset because we came back to a nation after, you know, I don't know what tour it was. And it just seemed like everyone was hyper-focused

to remember us seven coffee and we're talking about. And, and we came to a realization and the realization was was this and, and again, Rob will, will feel this one. We used to leave for these deployments usually in the middle of the night because of the way the flight's worked, right? So, so we have to go muster it like 11 pm and then get on a plane like midnight and fly out. And so, so my kids who were

small, they were always in bed, you know. And I'd always go into their room and just watch them.

And, you know, every parent cry does this, but I always, you know, watch my, I always used to watch my kids sleep. But especially on the nights that I was leaving, I'd go into watch them. And I'd wonder what they were dreaming about. And I would hope, I always, I always, I hope they were dreaming about like Disneyland and sugar plums and fairy, whatever it is, right? And I realize and,

“and my buddy and I realize that that's why we do it. We do it because we don't want our kids”

to have to see the stuff we see. We don't want our kids to have to think about the stuff that we think about. We want to preserve a little bit of that blissful ignorance. And, and honestly, we do that happily. We do that with, we do that with, you know, with great pride. And, and that's cool. It really is. And so, and so, and so, I'm not mad at the Kardashians anymore. I just, you're, you're both, uh, special, special men. You just start. And, uh, takes my breath.

I, I, uh, when you talk, it's just sense of emotion in me. Um, that's not just gratitude. I'm not sure what it is, uh, with both of you. Every time I've talked with each of you, I'm curious. I don't think I've ever asked you this, Rob. I, and maybe you can't share it. Maybe you don't know. How is this, how is this journey of yours? You spend most of your life doing this? Like, you were one guy when you were, uh, you're not even sure what's group of the military you were

joining initially, right? Yeah. And then you're another guy sitting there right now, having had experiences that, uh, are unconscionable that, almost no human being that's ever walked the earth.

“That's how the experiences you've had, right? And you've had a, a life experience. Yeah.”

The situations and environments that, uh, the combination of which you may be the only one, or one of the very few. Do you know how it's affected you? Do you, do you, do you, can you describe it if you are even aware? Well, I'm just, I'm just lucky because that, you know, every day I used to, I was forced to go to work with people who were better than me. But I learned

being a dude from Montana who joined the Navy basically because the Marine recruiter was in the office.

I couldn't swim and I ended up in Bitlong's bedroom as a Navy seal. It proved to me that, uh, it doesn't matter what you look like or where you're from. You can do anything as long as, as long as you keep a positive attitude. One of the things that sealed training that an instructor said to me that the, the bridge version was, when you feel like quitting what you will, do not quit now, quit tomorrow. If you can keep quitting tomorrow, you can do anything,

anything you want to do in life. Just wait till tomorrow. I was going to quit today, but I'll just quit tomorrow and quit tomorrow. And then, and as far as, that was the best experience of my life. I missed a lot of time in the United States. I missed a lot of time away from my daughters, but I was over there. And it's, when you get into the, when you're the number two man, number three man going through the door, you're no longer fighting for the political party in charge. You're fighting

for the men of women next to you. And, and so it's very important for a lot of these veterans to realize what, what they did was not in vain because it comes to a point where someone needs to take a stand and you took the stand. And, and that's it. And there's people that don't have the platforms that that I do, they, they need the recognition. You know, the Marines that were out there walking in a ridiculously hot sun through the might fields with the people next to a group seen their brothers and sisters killed an action.

What they did was not in vain. And the message I would just tell them is, is, you know, a lot of people are going through it. And the important thing is once in a while, don't try to self-medicate. You know, put the bottle down, call someone. Even if you're, if you're having a bad day, call someone, because they might be having a good day. And when you're, you know, when you, or you're having a great day, you get out of the gym and you have the endorphins going, call someone because they might be having a bad day.

And we can get through this together, you know, nothing you did was in vain. It doesn't, you know, it doesn't matter who made a bad decision. You made the right decision to be there. And again, we're the good guys. Yeah, well, I let me, I'll add something because I think this is, well, what about, well, I lost what, well, we lost several friends. I lost one of my friends right before I got the, the Navy, actually, and we were, we were at over, we were receiving his,

his remains. And there was a bunch of us buddies who, who did that. And, and one of our, one of the

guys pulled us all over me said, hey, guys, let's just get it in the room here for a second. And he said,

hey, we need to tell each other we love each other more often. We need to, we need to, we need to,

“we need to remember to do that. Okay. We're not doing it enough. And so that's what I would say to”

everybody out there, tell the people that you care about, that you love them more often. Okay, because because it only does good. It really does. And I know, you, you, you have, couple, well, we're not Navy SEALS anymore. We're former Navy SEALS, right? But couple, former Navy SEALS here. And if we can sit here and tell people to tell them, tell people that you love them more often, do it, right? This is what we need in this country. We need to love each other more. We need to have empathy.

It's okay to disagree with each other. What's not okay is if we don't talk to each other. So empathy, love, and discourse is what we need. Oh, my God. You see what? He was such a great

So last, by the way, you guys, it goes not saying thank you. It's, uh, I keep getting emotional because I know how special this conversation is. I know that so many people need it. I kind of feel like, well, you guys need it, too. Like, oh, you're not. Yeah, no, no, no, no, no. Very short in our mission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes.

Now on to our next guest. All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. So the man that we're going to

“talk with today is very important, man to me. There are not five people on planet earth”

that I would rather speak to today than this young man. And, uh, my dream list for people that would be on this podcast, he is at the very, very top of the list because, uh, he's a story of resiliency, faith, strength, come back. And, um, you all know his story on January 2nd, 2023 with about five minutes and 58 seconds left in the game against the Cincinnati Bengals. My dear friend here, uh, tackled wider receiver, T Higgins. It was running with the ball. He hit tomorrow. And, uh, in the chest with

his helmet and, uh, tomorrow made the tackle as he always does. And, uh, he got up after that tackle,

stood up for a second and then collapsed on the field. And, uh, in that moment, uh, our country was captivated and literally hundreds of millions of people were in prayer for this, uh, precious young man. I don't know that I've ever said this and meant that more. I am so grateful that you are here today and welcome to the show, tomorrow, Hamlin. Good to have you here, brother. Somebody who's going through

“of, they're on the bottom right now, right now in their life. They're like, man, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm down”

right now. You know, I just, nothing's working out. You know, I, my business just failed. I just broke up with my relationship or, man, just nothing. I've done's been clicking for years. I don't feel good about myself. I'm down. And this may sound like an interesting metaphor, but they need sort of a life version of CPR to get back up again. They need some life breathe back into them literally. What would you say to somebody who's just down right now and wants to make a comeback? What would

you say to that person to struggling with that right now? First thing I would say is, man, you can't,

you can't conquer a world of one day. So, you know, just take yourself out of that big perspective and see how you can take one step and put the right foot and find the left foot. You know, um, something I've heard a while is, you can't sit in the pool of pity. You know, so even when you feel that feeling of, you know, you want the heart bond, your, your situation or your circumstances too much,

“get up and move like literally, I mean, get up and move, you know, so you get yourself out of the”

film before you get some deep into it. That's the first way I would say just, you know, to deal with the emotions that come off of your situation. Don't allow yourself to sit in and get up and move and don't think you can just know that you can't conquer the world on day. So wherever it is, you want to be, you know, you gotta take it step by step one day at a time. I knew that I had to take it step by step one day at a time. I could have worry about, you know, trying to suit up and play

and play off. So again, I drove myself crazy. Literally, I would've drove myself and sang, I had to know that it's going to be a journey. And even through this season that I just went through, I, you know, people deal with ACLs and don't come back on the time period that I did or any other injuries that don't come back in the time period that I did. So I know it's going to be a journey.

Even when some people return off of ACLs, they're not, they're not their same selves. That first

season, they're back. They need time. They need steps. They got to put the right foot in front of the left and they got to walk the journey. They got to go through the ugly faces. You know, I feel like I just went through ugly faces whole season. You know what I mean? But I'm super proud of myself. You know, so go through the ugly faces. Don't be afraid of it and brace it. That's the biggest part of it all. Focus on taking one foot in front of the right, go through the ugly faces and just continue to

try to get better one day out of time once that by the time right now, which you feel is necessary to accomplish what you want to get done and then follow it. Make known negotiations with yourself, look down for one ever. You set the plan up. Like if you say you're going to do certain things, I have certain times or with certain people, make sure you're doing knowing I may own yourself to a different standard and accountability so that you can get out of your situation. You know,

you can't get out of a situation during the same things that put you into the situation. So, you know, that's like insanity. You're doing the same things and expecting different results. You know, and I'm kind of, you know, preaching that message to, you know, a lot of my personal friends in my life, you know, who are? No, they complain about certain things or they bring certain things to my attention and then, you know, they keep doing the same things. I'm at the point

where you slide. No, you're going to keep dealing with the same certain type of things. Don't even tell them

where to accept the same things. I got you where you are. If you want to get yourself to a

“different situation, you got to do different things to get different results. That's my perspective.”

That's so good. I'd rather I'm just sitting here going. You got to be kidding me. It's so good. You know what you are? You're a great perspective giver. Just who you are. I got to tell you, today was a particularly not great morning for me and I was talking to my daughter and I said, she goes, how you doing today, Daddy? I said, I'm not having a great morning, Bella. I'm not having a good day. And then we hung up and I was kind of just re, I've been so excited about this interview

for so long. It's kind of like repreparing a little bit. And then I literally said to myself, I just everybody here this for whatever you're going through. I said, really, you're not having a great day compared to what? The day tomorrow had on January 2nd, 2023 in that moment. That's a bad day. Compared to me, I met a couple meetings not go the right way, right? And this man was in front of millions of people, literally fighting for his life. Does it give you a perspective, brother, like,

when you're having what was used to be a bad day, you're like, well, I'm not compared to,

“like, compared to what, right? Do you ever have that thought? Is it a give you perspective on that?”

Man, every day, every day to be honest, you know, there's no day where I can, you know, allow myself to get too low anymore because, you know, I have the appreciation of life. You know, so no matter what's going on in life, just to still be here is a bustle because we all know some people who are not. And we all wish that we can have some people still with us. So no matter my situation, I'm able to allow myself to appreciate something. You know, it's hard to appreciate everything.

You know, especially when you know, for people that are listening, especially when you know, you're going through situations where your emotions are rising. Again, you know, you, you're

feeling whatever you're feeling in the most, but I'm always able to, to bring myself to appreciate

at least one point. No matter what it is, no matter if it's the ability to still play football,

“because I could have been taken away from me. No matter if it's, you know, just appreciate family.”

I have my little brother, my mom, my dad, you know, no matter if it's just, you know, appreciate a deep breath, or appreciate wherever I am in the world. No, if I'm in California, if I'm in, at home, if I'm anywhere in the world, no, I always bring myself to find at least one thing that I can appreciate when it shapes your perspective differently. It really does. Brother, I love you. I'm two things I got one last question. One, I'm grateful for you.

You was grateful. Thank you for that. So, it's very, very good. Well, me too, and millions of people.

The second thing is I just, as a brother, I'm proud, I'm shoot, I'm getting a, I'm just very proud of you.

Very proud of you. You're, uh, you're remarkable. All the football questions, because we'll be pissed if I don't ask. So, are you free agent? No. Okay. So you're on the contrary. For those bills, I have a buffalo bill. Okay. Because I read something today, bills mafia, I read something today. You know, I ask you about later, like, hey, I wouldn't mind end in my career playing for the Steelers, right? Is that an accurate quote? Like, I just make you

awkward. I asked you, I didn't push you too hard. I don't want to happen on the field. So I got to, like, is like, people want to know, what's going to happen with this young man? So we know you're, you're a bill, but is there a little party to be eventually would love to finish up with the Steelers or you want to be a bill for life? I want to be a bill for life. You know, that's the team that truly took a chance on me and getting the opportunity to, you know, to show what I can

do. You know, I'm a late ground draft pick throughout the whole entire draft. You know, I watch my names sit as the first name to best take in, you know, for like two, three rounds. You know, and I'm just, like, will I ever get my opportunity? You know, I know I have an expectation of, but, you know,

opportunity, like preparation does not always meet opportunity. I went prepared, but I didn't know

the opportunity was going to come. So, you know, the bills when they selected me, you know, I was, I was, I felt so blessed, you know, and I didn't know anything about Buffalo, I didn't know anything about Bill's mafia at the time, but, you know, it didn't take long for me to, for them to show me what exactly what they were, and, you know, for me personally, and then during my research as well, just seeing how they treated their players, how they treated other players on other teams,

you know, like, donated $80,000 to other people's team, like, to other teams, foundations, like, it was, it was just unbelievable of, like, the support that Bill's mafia has for the players of the Buffalo Bill. So, first of all, I want to clear all the air. I want to be a Buffalo Bill for

you know, I answered it from the perspective of, you know, a childhood perspective, you know, a kid that, you know, grew up his entire life. Like, I told you when I had the dream for a long time, I had the dream for a long time, you know, just making it to the NFL and just being able to have an opportunity to, you know, take care of my family and give back to my community, something that

I did it have as a kid growing up, you know, so that was always my driving force, but you know,

as a kid, you know, like, playing a game, I always created myself as a stiller, and I always, you know, played the game like that, just as a kid. So the question they asked me, I answered it from a childhood perspective, and then I also answered it from the perspective of, no, I don't want to play for the stillers right now, because I'm a Buffalo Bill. You know, when I mean, like, I'm still under contract with the Buffalo Bill's, and then on top of that,

and then on top of that, you know, I spent five years at the University of Pittsburgh,

“and I shared the facility with the stillers. That's how I built a close relationship, you know,”

with them, and then, um, so that's college five years, and then four years of high school where we had championship games at, you know, the stadium. So, uh, you know, I've had my fair share of time there. Um, how I answered the question ones, it would more so be a dream to finish career then to be playing now. You know, and I'm, and I say that, I said that lightly, because, um, you know, you see players all the time who have career, they'll have, like, an

eight, ten year career with this team, and then they'll go play for this team for XMR and time, and then when they finally retired, they'll go saying that one dollar contract, uh, with the team, I've been felt most connected to, and then retired with that team, um, you know, so, you know, it was, it was a lightning answer question that kind of like, super stirred up social media, but, um, to be honest, you know, even through all the chaos of it that it caused,

I'm just super excited to finally see people excited to see me play football. Yeah. No, but I mean, that was a great feeling. That, uh, above all those. No, above all the chaos it might have caused. That was just a great feeling. You know what I mean? I dealt with so much, um, you know, controversy and, you know, like just craziness all year long, just if, if I needed to point, if I needed to be playing, if I was just all of a sudden, just trash player. If I just

was never good at football and I'm only famous for one thing and it's in that, um, you know, so,

I went through a whole year that, you know, and, you know, just chirping, you know, I don't allow none of that to enter my intermediaries, but, um, you know, it was super exciting to see people, you know, excited to see me play football again. So, like, no, it turned me up a little bit, man, and maybe go harder and the gym, uh, maybe go harder in the gym those days because, you know, I'm excited for them to see what I got in the tent too. That was a great conversation. And if you

want to hear the full interview, be sure to follow the ed my let's show on Apple and Spotify, links are in the show notes. Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest. What is a singular transformative thought that somebody could think that would change that because I know you discuss it in the book and so I really want to drill down on that. What is one thought,

“one thing that we could think like, I'm stuck, how do I get out? Yeah, you have to evaluate the”

meaning you take from things. So it's not the events of your life. First off, what's thinking?

Like, let's just look at that. What's thinking? Thinking is the process of asking and answering questions to ourselves. I get really deep on that in the book. So thoughts are created by questions. So you have a repeated question that you ask yourself regularly. So two things you need to change the question you ask yourself. Not the statement you make yourself with the question you ask yourself. And I'll give you a thought about that. I literally list like 50 questions to ask yourself.

But the other thing is that it's not the events of our life that define us. It's the meaning we take from that meaning and creates an emotion that emotion causes us to take a decision. Okay? So for example, you and I, God forbid, worst thing ever. We walked out the house when I leave here. And there was a car accident. And someone was killed right here. And we had to walk to the scene of that accident. So that's an event. You and I would go to that event and go to my gosh, this is one of the worst tragedies. The worst

tragedy of our experience in my life. We'd be sad. We'd create a series of emotions. Same exact event. Mother Teresa was here. She would tell you that it was the honor of her lifetime to be present when someone's soul leaves their body and goes to heaven. Same exact event.

“Totally different meaning, totally different emotion. That's an extreme example. So you have to”

start asking yourself, when something happens, this may seem weird, what would I need to believe about this so that would serve me? My dad's drinking. I could be the son of an alcoholic, and I could have all those negatives in there, and that's where I come from. And my dad was this, my dad was that, or I could say, what do I need to mean? What do I need to believe about that about? What would I need to believe in, which is true, is that's where I got my best skill sets.

What I did is I learned about redemption. What I learned is what I didn't want to have.

When you have a negative thought, awareness of a thought makes it lose its power over you.

So for me, I have those thoughts sometimes too, and I'll go, I'm doing it again. And then you get above your thought. When you get above your thought, it's almost like a little gain you're watching play. It can't impact you like it does when you're in the thought. So get above your thought. You don't have to believe everything you think. And most of the stuff you think is bullshit, most of the time, installed out of a flawed question, you keep asking yourself.

“So just ask yourself, what would I need to believe about this so that it would serve to me?”

And then sometimes you can ask yourself, what would so-and-so do in this situation? Use one of your models. How would Jasmine handle this situation? I do that often. How would one of my mentors handle this situation? So it's ask a better question. You'll get a better answer. You'll take away a better meaning.

I love this. So again, let's get super granular.

What is a common question that you see people asking and be like, there's a better question. What is the common question? What is the better question? Yeah, one of the common questions is, what do I need to worry about right now? Well, we all have a question going on in our mind all the time. So like, when you wake up in the morning, there's a question you've asked yourself upon waking that creates an emotion for you.

For many people before they even lead the bed, what do I need to worry about today? Ooh. Here's another one. Here's the big one, even though we don't say it that way.

“Like, what am I afraid of right now? My dad, till he died, when I would get off the phone with”

me go, hey, be careful. I don't even know what it meant. You ever have a parent saying, hey, be careful. I'm like, I'm 40 years old. Like, hey, careful. You didn't even know he was saying it, right? But what does that note take when you say that to a child, all of their life, be careful. What, oh, what should I be afraid of? And I want to be a good boy. And I want to behave. And I want to all of these little things that happen. There's these

und these really quiet questions you're asking yourself all the time. For me, I learned one thing about me. Of all these tools I have, it was like about five years ago. I was like, you know, it's interesting, man. I create chaos in my life. Like, I stir things up and they're doing good. And I, and I'm like, and I, instead of, I, I function so well in chaos, because I do. And I'm really familiar with it. But the reason I create chaos is I grew up in it.

Right? So I, no matter what's going on in my life, I find a way to get my chaos. I'm going to find a way to get my chaos. We all in the book, I got about emotions.

“We all have like the five or six emotions we get on a weekly basis, regardless of the circumstances.”

So if those emotions are fear, worry, anxiety, lack, depression, anger, down, whatever they might be, you find a way to get them, don't you? You find a way to get these emotions. No matter what the conditions are, maybe a day or two you don't. But over a week, I got my anxiety. I got my fear. I got my worry. I got my lack. Or you could say, the emotions I want are joy, ecstasy passion. Right? For me, I got all the ones I want. But there was this lingering

one, which was chaos. And how do I get rid of it? It's really hard. It still comes up. But what I do, is I go, I'm doing it again. I'm doing the chaos thing. I'm doing it. You dummy, I'm doing it. And I get above the thought. And almost becomes like, watch a little carnival ride down here that I'm doing. I'm like, you dumb ass. What are you doing again? Chaos again. What would I need to believe about this? So it wasn't chaotic. And I want to do it. I need to believe about this.

What do I need to believe about it? What's the meaning I got to take care of? Yeah. And I'm like, like, I've got, I've got happiness, joy, and ecstasy, and passion, and all that other stuff. But there's this one dude. He said fear and worrying anxiety. You know, I probably saw a little little worry thing where I'm like, what am I worried about right now? You ever just, you're driving your car, you're doing something like, I don't even know what I'm worried about

right now. Yes. You ever have that house? I sometimes think my mind maps too. What do I need to worry about right now? It's exactly what it's doing. It's literally looking for something to worry about. It is your RAS. And it is your map. It is a pattern. The perfect word for it is map. So it's being aware of it when it happens. And then beginning to be intentional and replacing it with the other thing. It's exactly what's happening. And it's me too. Yeah. Well, if you have beings have this. And

here's the other thing. It's never gone. If that software was installed in you when you were a child.

And by the way, you could say, no, no, my parents have one of the most loving, unbelievable people know, it's just my dad was a dad meant to protect me. By going, hey, be careful. Be careful. What a weird thing to go on under the world thing. I'm going to be careful. I'm going to be careful. I'm going to be careful. That's not a way to live your life underneath that is fear. And let me say one last thing. No, I say in the book, emotions are negative or positive. All of

they just are. It's the dosage. Like if I never had fear, fear makes you focus. Right. Fear was given to us in the caveman days. So like T-Rex didn't need us. Right. So like fear's healthy, in doses, but to live in it, it's concerning. Inside is not that bad for me a little bit of it because we need to prepare. Right. Right. If you had no anxiety about this conversation, perhaps you wouldn't have prepared. Right. So it's the dosage of it. Just realize that. Don't beat yourself up when you have

them. It's to the extent that you get it. Oh. Yeah. Okay. You can see that right now. I mean, people could have stopped listening at like five minutes in and got it got a good dose of it my life.

that it's stupid. No, not at all. Like this street is like my safe space. You mean,

“that's all you can do? Yeah, exactly. Like this street is like the street that is just a little bit”

different. The street is like a job or a house. It's like a street. It's like a street. I don't want to be like

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