Ep 1297 | You’re Being Gaslit About Love … and Most People Don’t See It

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for Hillsdale and it's John Luke and Christian and Zach and Zach. Where do you go to sign up for the courses? Because we encourage people to take the courses with us and then listen along with our podcast. Yeah, we're at Unashamed for Hillsdale.com. You know, they're in their free and so it's good context too because now we last podcast we brought it. Filo and Jason, you were kind of randomly studying him as well. We were

doing it as I brought him up, but you were already kind of on your little own rabbit hole. I did some stuff. You noticed a philosopher named Filo who predominantly used the great word for love, which is a friendship, which is what? Where they get Philadelphia. There's a lot

“of Phil, Philio. Yeah. And that's what the other really love. Jason said he should have been”

a have a nistic juice. Have a nistic. Have a nistic versus Philly. I thought that was funny. But it's clever. It's time to say five minutes again. No, I thought it was a great point that I did not come up with on my own, but they said the great philosophers didn't use what became the great word for the ultimate love, which is a gope. It was rarely used until Jesus got here. And then all of a sudden. Yeah, that was breaking news to me. Yes, I did not know that. I did not

have someone wrote a book about that. I'm sorry. I can't remember who that was. I didn't read the book, but they said that was in the book. And I think it was like an Italian scholar. Notice that. And I just thought it was awesome, because, you know, I had this song stuck in my head. I want to know what love is. And I told you about all the Google search. That was every 80's sound, right? That was good. Well, that one is stuck in my head. What was

the other one that I'm all the, oh, love is in the air? Is that a song? Yeah. And I have a new one because I thought, oh, I'm going to do a great podcast segment because from my childhood, my dad listened to rock and roll every day, all day in the duck call shop. So I have all

“these songs in my head. And one of them he loved was, I'll see if you remember this. Love”

is like oxygen. I love this. Yeah. Now, my dad liked it because of the guitar, which went something like that. But when I looked up the lyrics of that song, I was kind of embarrassed that, I mean, I'm glad I didn't listen to the words of the song, but I thought, okay, this is stupid. Because it's like if you get too much, you get too high and not enough and you're going to die. They said, oh, that's it. That's it. Listen, a song about that. So they repeat that line

over and over. But who is that? Who's that? I don't think that's biblical defined love by Jesus, because you can't get enough of this. And high is love for us. So what did, so I want to know

“what love is. That's foreign. I thought I remember that from 84. Love is like oxygen is sweet,”

sweet the name of the band, late 70s. I always like Tina Turner. What's love got to do with it?

What's love got to do with it? Which was one. Point is everybody's looking for love and all the wrong places. That's what Lisa uses. Lisa uses that in her testimony. She's the ever heard that making a daily song, looking for love and all the wrong faces, looking for love and too many faces. Apparently that's the next lesson. But I mean, I thought I had an epiphany notice in that the first time love is mentioned. It was in a sacrificial context. You had the evil one presenting

himself early in creation when two humans that God created male and female to become one flesh.

Well, that's when he entered upon the scene. And he's never left that alone. I mean, you're

think about in our culture. There is a, there is an attack on children. I mean, which is just fascinating to me from the spiritual forces of evil. Let me just think about where our culture dividing lands are. I mean, killing children, which they say, well, naming names, not a child and a mother's

That it's a human, man. It's just a small human. But I think that shows you where the attack is. And even this revolution of having women outside the home and all this. What about the kids? What are we doing? Think about the attempt to take away just the human part of us and who we are because we've advanced now in technologies where you can have a pill that you can send anywhere in the world and to anybody in the world. And there's very little being done to regulate it at all.

Where basically, like you take a pill like for, you know, I'd be proficient for a headache,

you take a pill because you're pregnant to get rid of a living human being. And it's just like the same. The, the ideas, we have, that's just, you know, what you do. You just, that's a problem. And it's like a headache. You know, you just got to take a pill and take care of it. But it's so much deeper

“than that. We know that. I mean, this is the person, as you said, well, that's what I'm saying.”

That's not love. No, that's not love. That is the, well, the, because the byproduct of, at least the physical, the physical love connection in the, in the, in the bearish bed is life. I mean, that's, that's literally how life happens is you have two people coming together in one

flesh and then they reproduce, reproduce more life. And you understand, if you start to start thinking

about that and, and allowing yourself to think about the intention, the purpose, the design of even the human body and how everything functions in this way, then all of a sudden, you understand why the evil wants to shut it down. The, the, the point of, of humanity, the vocation of humanity, the job that we were given to do is, in other words, saying that like, what am I supposed to be doing here? Genesis 1, 28, be fruitful and multiply, subdue the earth and fill it up. I mean, that's, it, that

is the call. And so there's a reason why, I think the evil one attacks sexuality and he also attacks through, obviously, the, the right to even live. He goes there primarily and that's for most of the

emphasis is, is put because that is the epicenter of what it means to be human. So if the, if the

evil one can actually tear that down and he can turn sexuality instead of, it being something that is primarily used for reproducing instead of it could be something that you consume for your own, just what you're on in the moment, then he can actually thwart the entire purpose of humanity.

“And that, that is kind of what the, the big fights about, if you want to say, if you want to say”

to fight him, I think it is. It's like, that's the battle that we're up against. And then, and then we're, we've been so inadated with a different story about sexuality that it's really difficult for any of us, even those race and the church to access the story that God, the God is written, the one that is actually true. It's hard for us to access that, but, but through the power of the Holy Spirit, we can, we can actually experience what love is and God's called us in to that. And so I

think that's, that's so important that if you can wrap it up in, and what is, what is to tell us, what's the intention? What's the difference? It's exactly, even, you're so right, and even think about it, in terms of how in culture, I mean, we've seen it pretty, it happened quickly, where we,

“even the terminology, because words matter, we would call two people together in a relationship,”

and a covenant relationship, especially we call it making love, which is a great term for it. It is. It's two people that love each other, and they're making love. When that happens, they do produce something, they produce a birth, and then there's more love, and there's excitement, and there's this idea that it just, and it goes generationally. And then somewhere along the way, we quit calling it that, and they just started calling it sex. So then it could be with anybody.

Whether covenant or not, any relationship, male to male, female to female, but yeah, that's still, but we get away from the love aspect of it. I'm going to say in that, from their perspective, love may not be there, but even our terminology changed, and then the evil one just keeps winning, the further this gets away from the will of God, and then it just destroys and just is catastrophic in the results that you see. So much bad happens. Instead of the idea,

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“Chase mentioned in the last episode how graphic Song of Solomon was, if you want to read something”

super graphic and I'm in graphic. You read this whole story and what you actually see as the progression of her sexuality and in the end of it, they were brutally raped and murdered. It was the end of law, the thing that she gave herself to into that taking her life and it was the most brutal ending. That's why you see that for Israel, that was a story of Israel but that really is all of our story. If we're not, somehow it's the Holy Spirit as an intervene in us. This is where we end up at.

And I think that so we have to talk about what real love is. Real love is not being taken over by lust and just being consumed by the consumption of another human being. It actually is about the mingling of souls or the bar from Matt Chandler's book or the union of souls. It's becoming one. It reflects the very nature of God. Well, I'm thinking about Chase in the last podcast, Chase went to Mark and Mark 12 and where Jesus was talking about the idea of love being one,

one God and then that love that then goes to one another. And again, you see that no more closely than you do in the relationship and the covenant of marriage because that is when we become one, you know, two become one. And so in essence, we're striving after the same relationship that God has with us, that we strive to have with him. And then we aim that to another person.

And for the first time, we get the ability to create like God created because we create life

“and then that life is born. And we get to have that love come back for us and that love that”

goes to a child. I mean, what's more loving than a little baby that you have to care for. So this keeps going back to this idea about being born and being born again. So you see how all these metaphors come together, whether you're talking about Israel and God or either talking about us and God and being reborn or us in marriage. It's the same concept over and over in the one common denominator of destruction is the evil one. And then when we send and we follow his will

and our own will instead of the will of God, that's when things start to break down at any level at a personal level, at a relationship level, at any level. And when you put any parameter around that, I think that accusation that you'll get from the world is you can't tell me what to do.

You can't tell me what to do with my own sexuality and the answer is yeah, you do whatever you want.

I mean, God's answer is do whatever you want to do. I mean, he doesn't stop us from acting out

“in any way that we want to act out. God's like, you do what you want to do. And if that's what you”

want to go do, then go do that. But God's sin is, but if you want the abundant life, this is the pathway. And you may not want that. You can't force that on people, right? I mean, people can they're going to do what they're going to do. But God's offering us something that's much more fulfilling because he's actually saying, I'm going to connect you with your actual purpose

relationship with me. What does the two greatest commands? I've created you with the intention

that when you would love me, you'd love the logic out with all your heart, so mind and strength, we would be in right relationship. And then as a as a as a byproduct of that, you would love one another. And you would be in a relationship with one another. I want you to experience the fullness of of what I am speaking to as if I'm gone here. I want you to experience the fullness of what it's like inside the inner life of God. You may not want that. And if you don't want that,

then you can go choose hell and you can choose the other, the other route. But the question is, why would you do that? Well, it's it's a good point because you come up with this idea a lot of times you'll hear sort of in the protests where all this, you know, we don't want to be tolerated, we want to be celebrated. And the idea is, you can't tell me what I'm doing as wrong,

which my retort is always, well, I can tell you, you just, you don't have to believe it if you don't

want to, that's up to you. But I can tell you, it is wrong. And there will be a price to be paid.

“And you can't tell me what to do. I mean, it's not true. I mean, I think that's it. That's the way I”

frame it up. That's that's not true. Now, they may say what's true for me. And I say, okay, I think I do what you're going to do. I mean, I don't, I don't feel really a burden to like enforce, you know, what the Holy Spirit is revealed to me on anybody mainly because when I read the Apostle Paul, he says that the natural mind cannot accept the things that the Spirit. So my, my goal, and even talking about this stuff, like, if I'm in like like an open setting with non-believers,

I'm going to share with them the truth of God's Word, but at the same time, they're like, that didn't make any sense to me. I'll play. Well, of course, that, yeah, I'm explaining to you the things of Spirit. Well, you can't make somebody believe, but, but it is still true. That's true. Well, I say, there is no God. No, there is a God. If you choose whether you believe

“it or not, but he's still there, or even him or not. That's true. That's why they irony of all this,”

which is why I said, if you, you know, if I had to go with one definition of that agape love, which Jesus redefined the word when he was on the planet, you know, live a life of love, like Jesus, which is why, you know, when you read the red letters, I mean, there's, there's a lot of great characters in the Bible, and you could get some pointers in how to do different things. But when it comes to love, he is the model. It is God's love in human form, which we're humans.

So if you're trying to figure out what love is, but over and over the Bible,

writers say in the context of love, here's what love is, this is how we know. Jesus gave

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So the irony of all this is why I said about the culture and the evil and attacking that first

marriage is because these lifestyles in our culture that have rationalized, oh, I was born that way or it's my choice or you know, these different arguments that people come up with, these things end in death. So I heard an interesting sermon by Tim Macky and the reason I'll listen to it's because of the title, it said love is not a black hole. I thought, oh, got to go listen to that. And so he equated the scientific phenomenon, which Cousants just tells you how things work.

So we have these black holes in our universe, which if you go down that rabbit hole, let me just

go ahead and spoiler alert, they have no idea. But all they know is is that anything that goes into it is gone into the living. It does it come, it just sucks up energy, not even light can function there. And so there's one thing that there's one thing that could that can come out. What? It's called Hawken Radiation. Well, they say that's the cure for black holes.

“Yeah. I'll solve that term. But that's the only thing more heat than I got. Yeah. That's more”

heat than I got. What the point, what the point remains, that a black hole sucks in everything around it.

End of what? Just oblivion and the end of a singularity. Yeah. And it ends in destruction. And whatever said thing is. And so you see what's point where love is you got one man, one woman, in multiplies, generations happen. It's a contagion. And God is love. So it's kind of the opposite of a black hole, which is a good rule of thumb when you're trying to figure out these cultural issues. Does it, does it lead to death and extinction and destruction? I mean, think about the

speaking of graphic stories, the proverb seven about warning about the adulterous wife.

“I remember my dad. He would, I mean, bring that up because the story is so, it has all that”

camouflage of a guy. Here's a young man in proverb seven. You can rate it in your own time. But he's just walking down the streets about dark because you're like, why is it why's a young man walking down the streets about dark? Well, he's looking into windows and he's seeing who's out. And you know, here comes out comes this woman dressed like a prostitute. This is verse 10 of proverb seven with crafty intent. She lurks on the streets in the squares at every corner.

She lurks. She took hold of him and kissed him. And with a brazen face, she said, I have fellowship offering to my house. I have fulfilled my vial. So I came out to meet you. I look for you and I've found you. I mean, look, what guy wouldn't like this? You're the one I've been looking for. This sounds like one of the way, it website. She just is dressed, frankly. Yeah, she's dress with crafty intent. What does that mean? She doesn't have me in clothes on. She's, she's accentuating her positives.

And then at now I found you. And now look, I've covered my bed with colored linens. Nothing about what we're doing in the bed. Look, I just, come look at my bed. You're not on the way. I could just got a new pillow saying I want you to see. Check out her sheets and the linings and see. Look, and I've actually put perfume on my bed. Oh, boy. Look, here's why I want to read this. Proverbs 718. Come, let's drink deep of love till morning. Let's enjoy ourselves with love.

So here's one case where the word love, I don't think is laying down your life and looking at someone else's interest in front of your own. And here's the key line that

purse filled with money and will not be home till full moon. With persuasive words, she let him astray. She did seduce him with her smooth talk. And then all of a sudden, the story takes a turn for the worst. He gets graphic in a violent way. All it wants, he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter. Like a deer stepping into a news. There's an alternate word. It's a book in the, oh, it's just the meaning of this Hebrew word is uncertain the news. Till an arrow pierces his liver,

like a bird darting into a snare or coming into decoys. You know, it's fixed-amp, boom, boom, boom, boom. Little knowing it will cost him his life.

I said that that big butt that Jay's always looking for is when he's chasing that dose,

when he comes across that road. When Lado had about 16 or 17, he had a slow boy that was like in her and we were at the lake and I watched her or wherever he would go at the lake. She'd follow her around. I just like right behind everywhere she went. And I said, hey, I won't say his thing because we may listen to the podcast. I said, hey, come here real quick. Let me, I want to ask you a question. And he said, yeah, yes, sir, Mr. Daesh, I said, do you know anything about deer hunting? He said,

yeah, I know a little bit about it. I said, what do you know in the best time of year to kill a deer? If you want to kill you a buck, when's the best time? He said, I don't know.

And he started naming months. I said, now I'm going to come out months. I'm going to tell

about what season, he didn't, he didn't know where I was going. I said, when they're in the rut. And I just, and I just, I just stopped and I paused. And he's looking at me. All right. You know what that means? I said, when they're chasing the female, that's the, that's when you kill, that's when you kill them. Yeah. I just, I just stopped. I said, you said, don't chase my daughter around. But I said, yeah, but I tell Max and all my boys that say, I said, yeah, I mean, this is, I mean,

“that's, I think it's right there in the Bible too apparently. Yes. Well, that's why I'm”

reading this because I wanted to bring up an obscure love song that I think will help follow Worship Jesus, especially man. And here it comes in Proverbs 7. There's a love song that, and I mean, love in the context of Proverbs 7 where she said, let's drink deep of love till morning. So the song is introduced thousands of years ago and then it came out. Let me see when the song came out before I introduce it. I'm trying to get you on the edge of your

seat. I'm there. Do you know what it is? I do not. In verse 27 of chapter 7, he gets to the end of the story after the deer. You know, you got to arrow when you're liver. You know, when you went to the perfume bed with the husband, not there, and it started when you were just looking. You know, walking along the bed when you,

“because that's how all the stories start, you know, when we talk about divorce and adultery and”

pornography and all, it started when you started walking down the street about dark. Looking. So let me see when the song came out. It's like, one guy said, "Lontal, go to his, when you're nowhere in particular, you're somewhere in general." So here's the, here's the love song. It was released in 1979. I was 10 years old. And I was a freshman in high school. Well, you might have been on this this.

I probably, well, I probably was. So he gets to verse 26. He said, "Many are the victim. She has brought down her slain or a mighty throne." And then here's the love song that came out

and based on this verse. "Her house is a highway to hell." So you never realized that

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use promo code unashained. Jayce, and it's so amazing that you said all this because that is exactly, that is exactly the time period in the exact scenario that led me down the path away from Christ. It was in 1972. I don't know, you know, it wasn't the song itself, but right in the school bus and a girl walked on the bus and I had seen her the year before

and she walked on the bus that year and she looked a lot different and then I started thinking a lot different and that started it. I'm telling you, I can remember it. I can remember when

the evil intent awakened in my heart. Well, here's what's interesting as you're reading that.

What I was thinking of. I was thinking of how even what we're saying. I mean, think about the absurdity of this. What we are saying right here is controversial. It's very controversial. It's

“kind of stuff to get you canceled and you think, oh, why? There has to be a limit to what you have to”

put guard rails around it. What we're saying is is that the guard rails aren't arbitrary guard rails. They're actually the guard rail is what fits into reality and the way that you can test that is what you just said, Jason, very simply, this asks this question, does it lead to a death work, or does it lead to a life work? And if you say no to the death work, yes to the life work, you're going to live a life. That's the whole thing. This whole thing is about living and living

life to the fullest. So just ask yourself the question, what's the end result? Isolation death and loneliness, or is it abundance, community, and life? And if you choose the latter, you're going to find yourself in what we call the kingdom of God. But you nailed it. They're analyzed the hypocrisy. Since Jason brought up ACDC, who I quite loved during this era of my life, you got you shook me all night long song and then compared to highway to hell song, which is hypocritical in its own nature as you're

describing. Because what happens is when you're unfettered, when you throw off anything and call it love, then you wind up finding yourself on a path of destruction. But then you want to curb other people

“that you don't agree with. Yeah, it's a rearing gas flip. And so think about that that's what the”

evil one does. He gas lights us. But we talked about this and I'm not sure if it's aired yet, but in one of the episodes on Hillsdale with the ancient Christianity, the professor, what's his name again, professor Calvert. He was talking about in the garden of Eden,

and I never thought about this. In the garden of Eden, when you got the first original sin,

the base of Adam was there, but Eve was the one who was actually deceived and took the fruit and ate it first. And that's one of the things that Paul brings up later on. In the Bible, when he talks about gender roles, he says, Adam was formed first, and I think he says something like it wasn't, it was Eve who became deceived and ate the fruit. And so he's anchoring in kind of these different gender roles in the creation of that and also the event of the fall. And I never really understood

what that second part meant when he said, Eve was the one that became deceived because I'm like, well, Adam, you know, he was there too. He was in on, I see like Paul's blame and Eve. That's not actually what he's saying. And I didn't understand this until like literally last week when we were doing this, that lecture, Adam received the instruction from God before Eve was ever even on the scene. So all that existed was Adam and God and God said to Adam, you could eat

from any tree in the garden except for one. That was the instruction, two Adam, not Eve to Adam,

comes and he says, hey, the God say that you can't eat from any tree in the garden.

“Now, now, the Eve was the one that responded, but Adam, I think about it, Eve wasn't there when”

that conversation was even had with between Adam and Adam was the one who felt, Adam did not protect his wife. Adam did not protect her. He knew he knew he was the one that had the conversation with God. And he should have said, well, well, hold on, actually, hold on. No, that's not what happened. Or he could have gotten about that to God. He said, God, the devil's here telling us to this, like, like, that's not what you meant when you like, what's going on here, but he didn't, he did nothing.

He sat back. He advocated his responsibility. He fed his wife to the, to the wolves and boom, sin enters into the world. And that's when death entered in itself. So I think that that's interesting when you start thinking about how God set this whole order up. It's not, I mean, this, the order is actually set up for human flourishing. Like, this is actually the way

“to human flourishing. So if you want to have a conversation about that, that's, that'd be an”

interesting conversation, but you never noticed that no one wants to have a conversation about

what leads to human flourishing, what people want to have a conversation about is, you can't limit me. That's not, it's a, it's a great gaslighting. I agree. And I've always thought that my opinion was that Adam was waiting to see what was going to happen to you, that he really wanted as much as he did, but he, he threw it under the bus to let her try and see what it was because, you know, the concept was, which would you die. And when she didn't fall over dead, then he ate some.

So I, I firmly believe it's a violation of the first order, and that was to protect, you know, he was, who's supposed to protect the guard. That was, that was the original sin. That was the

exactly right. That was it. That's the first one. Yep. I agree. Well, what I wanted to say is, you know,

this is a, this gets me upset because, you know, he's in first John getting back there when he's like, he brings up that beam born and being born again, which we talked about it being a little children, and it's love is woven all through this. We read that first John 47, their friends let us love one another for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. What upsets me is all their stuff leads to death, the, not knowing what the real definition

of love is or where it comes from, which we've, we got the answers here. This self-sacrificial giving up, well, it sounds like death. And so when you think about being born again and you throw in the idea of baptism, you know, God's given us an opportunity to die, to give up our self, which is the definition of love. And 100% Jesus' death on a cross and his resurrection saved us, 100%. So you get that opportunity, though, and think Romans 6, or there's numerous passages

about, you can give your life up, you can give your life to him. And these religious people

“start saying, well, I don't know if you have to do that. I don't know. And I'm like,”

it is infuriating to me. I wear some debate. Some debate came up about whether you should do that or not. Or what if you don't and all these questions that I'm like, what am I, I've been given the opportunity to participate in God's love, which the definition is giving your life up. That's why I read those verses where it says, "The level of love is Jesus, love does, who gave himself up force." So you hear the story of Jesus, and you're like, "I want to give my life to him." And you go

up to the past, or you're like, "Well, you don't have to do that." Well, no, he wouldn't say that, but when you read the Bible for what it says, you have an opportunity to do this. And that's why I think he chose to do that. Where you literally humble yourself and say, "Yeah, I'm reenacting this, and what I'm going to die so that I can live," which is what Jesus did for all of us. That's exactly how he defined love.

Hi, I think it's even more than, I mean, we have a hard time in the language. It's more than the way he defined love. It's the way love is because the two he is. And so when you said something right there, this is a deep thought. This is a very deep thought. I don't probably can even articulate it. You said, "Given your life up," and you said, "That sounds

it sounds like death." So how do you reconcile that? Here's how you reconcile it. It's the resurrection.

“The crisis, his resurrection, it's more than just giving us an escape hatch out of, you know,”

off the planet. It's more than just like putting life into my physical body, with his resurrection, what it actually accomplishes is it's actually showing you. The no, actually dying to self is not actual death. To give your life away is not actual death. Now, if there was no resurrection, yeah, it would, Paul says, "We are to be pitted more than all men. Go out and consume as much as you can possibly get on this side because it's all you got.

Go get after it." But if there is a resurrection of the dead, if that is true, this is the whole point of the apostle Paul's teaching,

if there is a resurrection of the dead, then now we can actually enter into the way.

We can actually live our life as Christ lived his life. We can actually embody the same attitude of Christ Jesus, who being in very nature God did not even consider Equality with God something to be grasped, but made Himself nothing taking on the very nature of a servant being found in the appearances of man. He humbled Himself and became obedient to death even death on a cross. Therefore, God exhausted him to the highest place. So that Philippians,

two passages of Paul's writing about, the reason why we can live a sacrificial life very simply is because Christ was from the dead. He conquered it. And so we too can conquer it. And now we can actually give our life away without fear that it's going to end in death. It's going to actually end quite the opposite. Well, it's interesting because I had a perfect deal of stress in this yesterday. A man came up to me in his wife and they had their youngest son with them,

who's a grown man and married and was also at the marriage refresh they were at. And he said, "I was just going to tell you this has just been two of the best weekends of my life." He said, "I just got baptized last Sunday here." And I said, "Oh, congratulations." You know, New Berkeley said, "Oh, you're just, you don't know how to have it." Then he gave me about a five-minute, you know, quick recap of his life growing up with an alcoholic father, abuse, all things that were there.

Then he abused his wife and his kids and was just a terrible person and, you know, was becoming an alcoholic himself. And then finally, realize that somewhere along the way and first he's just tried to be

better, but he never fully surrendered and he finally did. And so he was just telling me and

with tears as about how this what this weekend had meant to him because now he's hearing things in a different perspective. And I told him I said, "It's because you're a newborn, you're new." And now you have the Holy Spirit. And for the first time you're listening with ears

“and you're seeing with eyes that see things differently and that's why it's penetrating your hearts.”

So, so fully. And then I looked at his son and I was like, "And you are the benefit of this." And he said, "I've learned more from my sons than I ever did for my fathers." And I said, "Well, praise God for that." But now look what's going to happen because they see their dad surrendering. And they see that's the opportunity for them as they go forward. I said, "What you did, brothers, you broke the generational curse that the evil one has put on your family."

And you're saying, "I'm not going to be this." And your son's already ahead of you. Now, you're going, there's no telling where this family's going to be. You know, three, four generations down the road. This is how it works. But it doesn't happen until somebody goes into a grave and comes out new. That's how it has to happen. I got to read this now. So, we're all in six where it's said, we died to sin. How can we live in any longer? Six to you. Don't you know that all of us

who are bad peasants across bad peasants are dead? We were raised through the glory of the Father so that we may live a new life. So, then he gets to verse eight and he says, "Now, we died with Christ. We believe that we will also live with Him." Now, he's already said in verse five,

“that if we died like this, we'll be united with Him in his resurrection. So, I believe in verse eight,”

he's talking about, "Now, what's left of your life? Being born and now you have the opportunity of love." And to that point, verse nine, because we know that Christ, since Christ, was raised from the dead, he could not die again, death no longer has mastery of it. The death he died, he died to sin once for all, but the life he lives, he lives to God. In the same way, counter-sales, dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. So, when you compare that to where he would later say in Romans

chapter 12 to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God, this is the way you worship. Don't conform any longer to the pattern of the world. Well, this sounds familiar with

three days and he linked that to the temple. Destroy this temple and I'll come back in three days.

“Watch what he says in 1 Corinthians 6, kind of with the highway to hell in the back of our mind,”

he says everything is permissible, verse 12, but not everything's beneficial. Food for the stomach, verse 13, and stomach for food, but God will destroy them both. And then he starts talking about the body. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, which would be sex that's not right, just not moral, which implies there is a sex that is right, and he's fixing to bring that up. The body is not meant for sexual immorality. Watch this statement, but for the Lord,

which is why he said in Ephesians 5, "Level life of love just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for so we give ourselves to the Lord." By His power, God raised the Lord from the dead, and He will raise us also, same language as Romans 6. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ Himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a

prostitute? Should I go down the highway to hell? Oh no. Never. Do you not know that He who

unites Himself for the prostitute is one with her and in body? For it is said, "What's what He brings up? The two will become one flesh." Now we're back to the garden and the creation and that's where the E1 showed up. But He who unites Himself with the Lord is one with Him in spirit. And this is so profound. "Flee from sexual immorality." All other sins of man commits our outside his body. But He who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body

is a temple the Holy Spirit? You tell him about a verse that's been missed in churches. I've heard

more sermons about don't smoke because your body is a temple the Holy Spirit. Yeah, it's spoken

okay, yes. So you can make a case for it. But don't go here and make that case. He's not talking about that. He's talking about one thing. I miss definition of what love is. It's that proverb seven. You're going out there about dark or you're getting on the internet and doom scrolling. Looking for love and all the wrong places and all the wrong faces and you ain't looking anybody's face on the internet. You're looking from the neck down. But I do think when He brings

up that where the temple the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you've received from God, you are not your own. You were bought at a price. Therefore God, therefore honor God with your body. What's he told me about? "Balt at a price." That's the definition of love. God showed you. This is how we know what love is. He laid down his life. And that is what we're called to do. And I think

“it starts in our marriage and in our family. Because if you want to be a father,”

I guess what is going to take? Sacrifice. If you want to be a mom, as soon as you give birth, I guess what your fix today for the rest of your life. You're going to be a living sacrifice. Because that's what it's all giving. That's why that sermon about the black hole was, it was a good analogy. Well, I think that's a good verse to end on because I think where we've not equipped people to have this conversation that church is we have, we've honestly, unfortunately,

bought into an eschatology that is not biblical. Your body is a temple. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. Not waiting on something out in the future. The Bible says, "Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit." And what that means is your body is the connecting place of heaven and earth where God actually dwells now. God lives in your Himm embodied. Every other sin of man commits is outside of his body except for the one that you mentioned. The misappropriated

quest for love except for sexual immorality. All others sitting dip in smoke and not good for you. Those aren't sins against the body. That possible is very clear. The only sin of man commits

“against his body is this one and this is why it's so important because what it does is it actually”

diminishes your ability to actually find the oneness of God to find oneness with God. You were created for a purpose to be with God. And so if you want that integration then you're going to

simple. That's good. We're out of time. We will continue this discussion on love and the reason why I

“have spent so much time here is because John does. And there's some still profound things to learn”

in this text which are great so we'll pick it up next time. I don't understand. Thanks for listening

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