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And he's an eraser and I don't think he'll stop unless he's made to stop. I'm Andrea Gunning and this is Betrayal. A show about the people we trust the most and the deception that change everything. Today we're sharing Hazel's story. She feels more comfortable telling her story with his pseudonym,
but the rest of the names and details in this story are unchanged. Hazel lives in a small town in the UK. It's a village with two shops and there's not really a lot there to be honest. Hazel married her husband Mikey when she was 18. In her early 20s she started studying to be a social worker.
I started college and working a lot so I wasn't really home.
“And I think Mikey's reaction to that was he was at home bought so it had a drink.”
Mikey's drinking turned from a habit to an addiction. It was awful. It was awful. He couldn't keep a job because it was safe in our coach Pendant. So that put more pressure on me, habits pay the bills, make sure you've got money. Hazel was working hard to build a full life. She had big dreams, but over time it became clear that Mikey couldn't grow with her.
I wanted to better myself and get a better career and do something meaningful and he was kind of stuck. Mikey's struggle with addiction changed him. He began lashing out at Hazel. He'd tell her that he wasn't drinking, but she started to see that he was just hiding it.
When I'd come down in the morning, I'd have made me a coffee, and he'd have o...
be vodka in his coffee. My anxiety was through the roof. It was just horrendous. Hazel realized she couldn't trust him anymore. We tried to save our marriage, but they just got worse over the next couple of years. Things weren't good. Eventually it was clear that Mikey needed professional support and Hazel needed a supportive partner and neither of them could be that for each other. "Just go out, control." She and Mikey decided to divorce. The day he left,
Hazel helped him pack up his things. Finally, she grabbed the last box and put it in his car.
When she opened the trunk, it was filled with empty bottles as vodka, whiskey, then Mikey drove away.
“That's how Hazel found herself living alone for the first time as an adult.”
Well, almost alone. I had a dog called Wico. He was my little rescue dog. He rescued me as much as I rescued him. I called him my soul dog. She was learning how to do a lot of things on her own. Just a few days after Mikey moved out,
Hazel went to take a shower and discovered the water was freezing cold. I had no hot water.
So I had to ring this company up and say, "You're back at my water. I don't have any hot water." So they said, "We'll send somebody out the next day." Sure enough, the next morning she heard a knock on her door. It was a repairman from the gas company.
“"He was very tall, but didn't think anything of him. Just a gasman."”
He got to work on the hot water heater. He has all went back to the living room where she was hanging out with her best friend. We'd known each other since Play Group, you know, really, really close. So she of course was the person I rang when I'd realised that, "Yeah, that's it. Marriage is over. I was on the floor. I was at my most vulnerable. A hundred percent." It was a relief to have her best friend there to listen. I was talking about
Mikey and his alcohol dependency and the lies and just that I couldn't do it anymore. Eventually the repairman finished fixing the boiler. He popped his head into the living room, told Hazel he was done and left.
“"So my hot water was fixed. My friend had left. It didn't really fit to be in the house on my own.”
So I went over to my mom's. Just trying to keep myself busy." She was at her mom's sitting on the couch, doing the same thing she'd been doing for days. I sat thinking about, you know, the end of my marriage, then her phone buzzed. "I got a text message from a number that I didn't know." said it's Mark. The gas engineer, "Can I just ask did I leave my laptop case at your house?" I told him what I'd have a look.
And when I got home there was no laptop case. So I message them and said, "Oh, you know, it's not here maybe you left it another job." Then he texted an emoji. He put one of those kiss-face emojis. He lit emojis with a little blow-in-out heart. And then he apologized for sending the emoji. He said it was an accident. And I said it was okay, I did it mind. And then he sent another one. That made her laugh. See in that little emoji, he made me feel a little bit like, "Oh, okay."
We just started texting, we just started talking, just general things. Mark's texts were a welcomed distraction. I didn't have to think about my marriage ending, I didn't have to think about all the stress that brought on. They started flirting and bantering over text. And it made me feel good to it made me feel, "Oh my God, you know, somebody could actually care about me." They started talking on the phone sometimes, too. After a couple of weeks, he messaged and said, "Oh, I've got a
job in the corner, come on, pop him for a coffee." And I was like, "Oh my gosh, yeah, sure, come over." 10 minutes later, she heard a knock on her door. When she opened it, Mark was standing in front of her smiling. They'd been flirting for weeks. And now in person, she clearly felt the chemistry. The first thing he did was put me up against the wall and kissed me, which, of course,
blown me off my feet, like, "Oh my gosh, I've never had that before." He's always nervous that
hanging out in person might turn out to be an awkward endeavor, but to her surprise, we got on
We laughed and it was nice.
comfortable. After that day, they started hanging out more often. He would come and see me while
“I was working nights. While I was studying, he was making me laugh. She had spent years in her”
marriage taking care of her ex-husband. Mark was a breath of fresh air. It was different with Mark. It was so much affection. We said it was a passion night, neither invested felt before. Mark made her feel sexy and wanted, but for a long, they started dating officially. When Mark got off work, he would go to Hazel's place and they would spend their evenings together. Mark made even mundane things feel exciting. Mark was stupid funny. He would make a
toss out of himself and you would just be laughing at him rather than with him. He'd start doing
really silly dances around the house if a song came on and he'd start stripping his clothes off. And I'm just sad with what you do. But it was really funny. And we just got on. It just felt so
“natural. And that laughter got me through. Mark texted Hazel all the time. He didn't hide his”
feelings for her. He would draw hearts on his phone and tell me how beautiful I was. He would send a message and he would say, "I, L, and then dash dash, U, and I was like, "Well, is that like or is that love?" Obviously, it was love. When he wasn't around,
she messed him. There was passion there. I'd never felt before. And it felt really nice. It felt
wonderful. She finally found someone that could meet her halfway. He had a stable job with a big company. The pension was really good and obviously I was trading to be a social worker. As Timeline on, Hazel started imagining what life with Mark could look like. I thought that this is great. Neither of us have got children. We could have two good incomes. He's got a stable job. He's funny. He makes me laugh. He makes me so good about myself. There's a future here.
Hazel's friends were worried about how fast their relationship was moving. One of my friends, Vicky said, "It's too quick, it's too fast." She said it would be headline in the newspaper. Merged by the gas man, you know, jokingly, but Hazel wasn't amused. Come on. Sometimes things happen like this, you know. It was a big stream, but her friend was suspicious. And she had a good reason to be worried. [MUSIC]
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“Is this how you're going to say what you're going to say to me?”
I'm not a person, I know that love's the yellow star version. This is sweet for your five. Listen to sweet for your five with lelepons as part of my tortura podcast network. I heard radio app, apple podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. A few days after Hazel's husband moved out, she called the gas company to fix her hot
water. That led to a meet-cute with a man named Mark. After weeks of flirting over text, their relationship developed into something real. They began hanging out whenever they could find time. I thought that this is great, he's got a stable job, he's funny, he makes me laugh,
he makes me so good about myself, there's a future here. The only complication was that he lived 30 minutes away, but luckily, he was often in her town for work, they would make a date of it. I would cook for him, he would come over, he made me so good about myself, telling me how beautiful I was and how wonderful I was and how we were perfect for each other.
At the time, Hazel was still in school training to be a social worker.
Her schedule was packed, it helped that Mark was always willing to make the drive to her
place. I was so busy, I was studying, working, so it just worked, it just fitted. Mark had to work early mornings, so he rarely spent the night.
“There was one day for some reason, I think I needed to go and get something from the shop”
to visit about half six, so I was driving to the shop and I saw Mark walking his dog in my area. This was weird, why would Mark be walking his dog so far from his own house? And I stopped the car and I was like, what are you doing here? And he said, oh my uncle lives around the corner, so sometimes I'll bring the dog over
and walk the dog around here, it's got a really nice dog walking field. That's okay, bit weird, but all right.
He'd never mentioned he had family in her area, but that made things even more convenient.
A few days later, Mark came over to Hazel's house, she went outside and greeted him as he got out of his truck, actually hugged him, her eyes landed on the front seat, I saw an Amazon parcel within a dress on it, two loads from where I live, Mark lived a half hour away, why would he have a package addressed to a home in her neighborhood, I thought, maybe he just got it delivered to his own close house, maybe that was easier for him, I don't
know. She made a metal note of the address. Hazel and Mark had been dating for months, they'd become a part of each other's daily lives. Many nights after work, they'd walk her dog where he'd go together.
Mark loved Rico as much as she did, and when they weren't together, they texted and called each other constantly. Talking on the phone all the time, texting all the time, if we ran out of things to say, we would just send hearts to each other, then we'd play games and things on Snapchat. It was easy, for the first time in a long time, Hazel felt settled in her life.
She decided to buy the house she'd been renting for the past few years, and s...
to consider asking Mark to take a big step with her, I saw about in moving in here, living
together, having a stable relationship which I hadn't had in such a long time. One day, Hazel went on a hike with one of her friends, she went to a place called Simmons Yatt, and it's a big lake, big forest, and we walked round the woods, such a beautiful place. After a few hours of hiking and catching up, they headed home.
On their drive back, she spotted what looked like Mark's work fan. He was parked on the side of the road.
“Hazel did a double take, what was Mark doing out here?”
Maybe it wasn't him, but as they drove closer, she was sure it was Mark.
And he was out of his farm, and he was looking at his man.
And we just parroted on driving. Over the next few weeks, Hazel started seeing Mark's work fan more and more. When she asked him about it, he said he had a lot of repairs in the area, but how many boilers could be broken on her street. I felt really uneasy, I often said that, but I thought, no, it's fine, it's fine.
One weekend, Mark told Hazel he was going on a trip. He was going to his friend's house that was in the middle of nowhere, and he was spending all weekend there, and he was repiping the whole house. So he wasn't able to talk to me, so I was like, that's fine, there's no problem.
“She knew he couldn't talk while he was at his friend's house, but she figured his drive”
there would be a great time to catch up. So I was like, "I'll ring it on the way." She called Mark, usually he picked up right away, but this time it went to voicemail. He didn't answer, so I thought, okay, something's not by, he was answers to phone, the phone has wronged, so he's got signal.
Hazel had a bad feeling, she thought back to the Amazon package on his front seat, it was addressed to a street just around the corner. So that's all by, I'm going to get him or call, and I'm going to jump down that road. She drove down the road, scanning each driveway nervously. She wasn't sure what she was looking for, or if she'd find anything.
After a few minutes, she saw something that made her hit the brakes. "I saw his van pout on the drive." She drove closer, and sure enough, it was his license plate. "We're talking two minutes, two minutes drive from my house." He said he was with a friend far away in the countryside with no phone service, but his car
was parked right down the street from her. She texted Mark and told him, "She saw his van parked in the neighborhood." He then went into kind of panic mode, he told me that he'd gone up the road to find some signal to ring me. Mark insisted that he was visiting his friend, that he was miles away, he's like a send
you my location. He sent her a screenshot of a map, he'd gone on to Google Maps, and it sent me a screenshot, and it was a little dull in the middle of nowhere.
For a second, it did look like Mark was in the countryside, a small dot surrounded by big
green fields, but as Hazel looked closer at the screenshot, she noticed something was off. "He'd cropped out the time, and the date," I said, "I'm not stupid." "I know you're not there right now, if he was there right now, you wouldn't have cropped out of the time."
He carried on making up more lines, telling me I'm being paranoid, everything was in my head, but Hazel was staring straight at his van. She was certain this was real. Whenever Mark came to Hazel's, he parked on the street, but here at this house, he was parked in the driveway.
Did Mark live here? It all felt suspicious, and he was clearly lying to her.
“"This is it. I can't be in another relationship where there's this honestly, once the”
trust is gone, the trust is gone. You can't get it back." I said, "I'm done. I'm done. It's over. I can't do this anymore." As soon as she said that, Mark's tone shifted. He responded right away, and began telling Hazel that this was all her fault. It's all because of my ex-husband while I'm so broken, but I don't deserve him... really just horrible messages.
No matter what he said to her, Hazel knew what she'd seen.
in the act. That's when Mark stopped pretending. He admitted that he lived in that house,
just two minutes away from her. "I'll change my thoughts as I die."
“At this point, Mark knew all his lies were unraveling.”
So, he admitted the full truth. "He then told me about his girlfriend and his daughter. I was in a state of shock, lying about where he lived was one thing. But this was so much darker than that. Mark was lying about his entire life. He lived in the same area as me, and he's been lying from day one. Hazel was disgusted. But then reflecting on it, it all makes sense.
Never spent the night. I thought it was because it fitted in with me,
and it fitted in with my work really well, but at the end, made sense, and won it. Did I not crack on to give it probably some of the downs?" Mark was grasping its jaws, trying to get her back. He told her he would leave his family for her.
“"When she said she didn't want that, it turns blame me, maybe think it was all in my head.”
You know, real gaslight in horrible ways, yeah." Mark was being cruel in a way she had never experienced before. "And I was like, "I'm done. Get used to that. Gamma house. I don't want you anywhere near me." At the time, Hazel was working at a women's center, where she was training to be a social worker. Which was the perfect place for me to be going through this, because I had on-hand support.
And they advised me to not block people, don't block people like that, because if they don't have a channel of communication, that's when they start turning up, and then obviously you were a bigger risk, so I didn't block him." Mark was messaging her incessantly, braiding her, trying everything to get her attention. It was horrendous. It brought back so many feelings that I'd kind of buried from
my relationship with my husband. I felt all the anxiety was coming back mistrust. I felt sick or couldn't eat. I lost so much weight. Mark was getting increasingly agitated and desperate. Then she got an alarming message from him saying that he'd had a hard attack. And it was in hospital and me, it almost died. And I thought, "Oh my God, have I done this?"
I fell, awful. I'm messaging her back and sitting in. You're going to be okay. You're in the right place. Mark responded right away. He told her that he was about to go in for hard surgery. He was texting me from his hospital bed saying that he was being pushed towards theatre. And he could see the lights above his head because he was led flat. That's all he was trying to focus on. He's also concerned, melted away and was replaced by skepticism.
"I've had enough operations in my life to know you don't take your phone to an operating theatre. All your belongings get bad and they get put safely away somewhere. So I was like, "Come on." At this point, I'm just like, "This is bullshit. This isn't true." When he's all ignored Mark's texts, she started getting harassing coercive messages from unknown numbers. I then got messages on Facebook, Signal, and I messages played in apologizing.
When she first met Mark, she thought he was her ticket out of a dark period of her life.
But now, he was pulling her further and deeper into despair in isolation. "I was managing to eat crackers and drink water. That was all I could kind of keep down at the time. And that just kind of escalated and, you know, I was already kind of burning out with what I was doing, but they're not being able to eat and keep food down. I was just burning out even more."
“She decided to get on a dating app. "I think I was just looking for somebody to make me feel better”
because I couldn't make myself feel better." She matched with a few guys and started messaging one of them more regularly. Eventually, they moved their conversation off the app and on to Facebook Messenger. But then, "I start getting messages from Mark about the things that I was saying with this guy, my private message is to this guy." He knew the boat's name,
He knew what the contacts we were talking about.
"He's always scared." "How do you know that?"
"I haven't spoken to you." He said, "The guy has messaged me and told me and sent me screenshots." But this guy didn't even know that Mark existed. That's when it dawned on his own. "You've hacked into my Facebook." She changed her Facebook password, but that was only a temporary solution. She was getting calls and texts from unknown numbers at all hours of the day. "The message is carried on and then it got kind of really nasty so he started calling
me a whole start calling me a slut for moving on so quickly." Mark's behavior was escalating. "He's all decided to reach out for support." "I ran 101, which is our non-emergency police line, but they said they've gotten away of tracking him. Try my network provider. My network provider
“did offer for me to have block numbers stopped. But actually sometimes the important people”
ring on block numbers. The police ring on block numbers. The doctors do. So actually that would be
impacting my life more. So he's always left to deal with Mark on her own.
Knowing that he lived in her neighborhood was terrifying. She was scared he was hiding around every corner. I couldn't drive past his house so I was doing a detour. Every time I saw one of those vans I'd get panic attacks. He remembered how often she ran into him when they were dating. Now she wondered, had that really been a coincidence. She checked find my friends on her phone and saw that Mark had access to her location. But she'd never given it to him. He must have
got my find at some point while we were together and set my locations so he could see it. He was tracking her and maybe he'd been tracking her since the very beginning. She didn't know what else he knew or what other ways he might be watching her. I didn't feel safe. It was horrible. It was invasive. She lived in a state of paranoia for months. One morning I'd come downstairs and we've got candles. They're called Imperial candles and they smell
absolutely beautiful and they've got jewelry inside. So I'd come downstairs in the candle had burnt down enough, but I could get the jewelry out. He's also stood by the breakfast bar, fishing out the jewelry from the candle. So I was stood there for quite a while because they're quite hard to get out. Then she heard something. I heard, I could, is it noise? She looked up slowly.
In the corner of her living room she kept a pet camera. I always had the camera pointing at the
front door because that was where Rika would always out. But now the camera was turning slowly, looking around the room. Somebody was controlling it remotely. When it was pointing directly at her,
“the camera stopped. And I just froze. I think he's in my camera.”
[Music] [Music] If your service lasts on, trust the checks with the train. That's us. 270 hours with zero complaining. They train under the hood. They train down in the pit. Down in 270 hours means there. Trainings legit. It's the smart choice for smart folk and care for their
steed. So trust the instant oil, change that starts without the lean. Now the lean instant oil change. Change wisely. Hey, Portlandia fans. Carry brown scene in front of our mission here. You know us or rather, you know them. Tony and Candace, Nina and Lance, Spike and yes, the chicken. We've played a lot of iconic characters over the years, but today we're showing up other cells to tell you about Podlandia, AO rewatch, our brand new podcast. Each week
will revisit an episode of Portlandia from the very beginning. Breaking down the sketches, exploring the back stories of our most iconic characters, revisiting the Portland locations you
“know and love, and opening up about our creative process. How did any of this get made?”
Why do you think that was a good idea? We're ready to talk about it. And we'll also be joined by the people who helped bring it all to life. guest stars, collaborators and friends, including director Jonathan Christle, the mayor himself, Kyle McGlockland, legendary musician, Amy Man, and many more. Kyle is going for it here. You fully improvised, not just words,
A song about it.
I remember you thinking that. Listen to Podlandia. AO rewatch on the I Heart Radio App,
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So Kelsey Finler, she became the first female solo roger to go from California to Hawaii.
My first husband was like, what's up with the snacks? Like, what do we eat? The highlights, the rivalries, the breakout stars, the moments that take over your entire timeline. In the conversations that start during the game and somehow keep going all week, every week, we're breaking down the biggest stories across women's sports. Naomi Osaka, showing out, she beat, sublinka.
Shout out to you, Naomi. You get the palm, Naomi. You get the palm for that. Because we're not just interested in what happened. We're interested in why everyone's talking about it. Because everyone watches women's sports. Listen to everyone watches women's sports. On the I Heart Radio App, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts.
My first guest is Harry Sultan, Shatira, Luke, and Yerin.
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“I'm a nerd. I'm a nerd. I'm an adult. How can I tell you?”
I would like to work with this person. This is Sweet Peel Five. Listen to Sweet Peel Five with Lele Ponce as part of my Tiltura Podcast network. On the I Heart Radio App, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. After Hazel broke up with Mark, he began harassing her. It started with insesit text messages and calls. Then he hacked into her Facebook account. And then, one morning,
Hazel was in her living room when she heard her pet camera move. Someone was controlling it remotely. When it was pointing directly at her, the camera stopped. And I just stood and I just froze. I didn't know what to do. She grabbed her phone and logged into the pet camera app, and it said two
views. So me and somebody else. Now I didn't live with a new mouse. Never given the access to anybody.
“No one else should have had any access to the camera. This had to be Mark. And with the camera pointed”
straight at her, she knew he was watching her. That very moment. I thought, okay, just trying to normal. I picked up my keys. I picked up my phone. And I just left the house. Hazel was rattled. What's going to happen next? I don't know what to do. If I, out of my camera, is he going to start turning up? She ran through options in her mind. I deleted all of his messages at one point because I didn't want to read them again, I didn't want to relive it. So I thought,
okay, if I ring the place, I've got no evidence. So it's my word against his, eventually she decided to confront Mark directly. My message to him, and I said, "I know he's been in my camera. I know you've been watching me." And to her surprise. They admitted it. He said that it was because he missed me so much, and they didn't know how else for me to be part of his life. His words were alarming, but he's all gained something valuable.
I had evidence. He didn't met it in writing, what he'd done, and why he did it. He's all reported him to the police. The police came out to see me the next day, took a full statement, asked me what I wanted to do, and they gave me three options. They said, "They can have a word with him and tell him to stop. They can arrest him, or they can just record it, in case something else happens, and then they've got a bigger picture."
And I sat there and I just thought, "If something else happens." Her mind went to dark places. What did they mean if something else happens? And that kind of sat with me, and I thought it's escalated to the point already, which is horrendous, didn't feel safe in my own home.
She told the police, she'd made her decision.
because I don't know where this is going to end. He's a liar. He's a minute-pulator.
And he's an abuser, and I don't think he'll stop unless he's made to stop. A few days later, Mark was arrested. He'd been arrested on suspicion of stalking an arrestman. He's all new he was still employed by the gas company. She called them and explained that Mark was a liability to their customer safety.
I was just trying to get my point of course and say that this man is dangerous,
“and you've got him going into people's homes, and you need to get him out.”
They said it was the wireless heating system company's problem.
So he's all called them. And then they said, "It's the gas company's problem."
So it's just getting bounced from the two companies and I was on the phone for hours. This pathway wasn't working. Nobody she spoke to knew how to help. But Mark's trial coming up, he's all decided she wanted her story to serve a broader purpose. She wanted to spread awareness about stalking, and perpetrators like Mark. Before Mark's trial, he is all reached out to her local newspaper.
To make sure that was if we were pulled to that, because I thought this isn't going under the carpet. On the day of Mark's trial, he's all went to court. I felt that I needed to be there to show him that he hadn't broken me.
“I had probably about seven or eight friends with me that had come to be there and to support me.”
I read my victim impact statement and my hands, they were really, really shaking. There was overwhelming evidence of Mark's harassment and stalking, including his own confession to Hazel. He pled guilty. He got an 18-week prison sentence, suspended for 12 months. He got an indefinite restraining order, preventing any contact with myself,
and he's not allowed in my road. Two days later, the local newspaper reported on Hazel's story and Mark's crimes. Over the coming weeks and months, the story spread to other outlets across the UK. "I don't pay for writing to me and magazines writing to me." We've had voice actors read some of the headlines. We've anatomized the name of Mark's former employer.
Gas engineer who hacked into X's pet camera to spy on her, avoids jail. This is what it's like to be stalked in your own home. Gloucestershire women's full account of how X gas engineer hacked into her camera's after fixing her boiler. Gas engineer stalked X-girlfriend by hacking pet camera inside her home. Telling her story was challenging at first, but she has continued to tell it,
“because she knows how important it is to put language to her experience.”
"I didn't think of harassment in stalking. I just saw it as it's got a screw loose and it just needs to leave me alone. It wasn't until the police said stalking in harassment that I really started to reflect on what I had gone through and I serious it was."
When Mark showed up at her house to fix her boiler, he is always at her most vulnerable.
When she was talking with her friend about her divorce, Mark was in the next room. He was listening to everything. He told me that later on. He was listening to the fact that I was crying. He heard her desperation and just hours later he swooped in and started flirting with her. Mark saw Hazel was lost because of that. She'd make the perfect target.
One night Hazel got a call from an unknown number. Lows like, "Oh, we're good." "The restraining order has a word. None of this has worked." "You think she can message me again and ring me?" "Nervously, she picked up the phone. She braised herself to hear Mark's voice." Instead, it was the CEO of the gas company.
"And he said that he'd read the article. He terminated Mark's contract with immediate effect. He already had people going to his house to collect the van, cats with the equipment. And he was very sympathetic as to what happened. The gas company connected her with mental health services. Big gave me councillor through their councillor service,
which helped me a lot, used CBT, which really did change my view on him.
He wasn't scary anymore.
my time, my fault, my energy."
Even though it had taken a stocking conviction, it was meaningful that the company reached out to support her. "I received an apology, and lots of reassurance, and they actually use that case now in training."
“"Move forward." So that's really positive, I think.”
"If something like that happened again, that maybe it would be dealt with differently." Hazel suspects that Mark's girlfriend found out that he was cheating on her. After Hazel broke up with him, she learned that his girlfriend had also kicked him out of the house.
But more recently, Hazel saw Mark and his girlfriend together in their driveway.
That means Mark is still too roads away. "So I drive past his house most days, but I do it with my head how high." "They didn't win." Hazel has a permanent restraining order against Mark. He's not allowed on her road, but that only offers so much protection. It was scary knowing that Mark lived around the corner.
“For a while, Hazel thought about moving, but in the end she decided to stay.”
It didn't seem right that she should be the one forced out of their neighborhood. For Hazel, staying in her home symbolizes, "He didn't win this. He didn't break me." She didn't want Mark to be the reason she left a place she loves deeply. She wanted to rebuild, and make her home somewhere she felt comfortable again. So she decided to renovate.
"I completely ripped out everything and started again. I kind of took back the safety of my house and made it so different that if you walked in and I wouldn't recognize it." She refuses to uproot her life because of what Mark did. Instead, she's leaned into her community and shifted her mindset.
“"It's made me stronger. I will not take any shit. I won't. I will not put up with anything.”
I will not be told I can't do something or be spoken about just respectfully by anybody." Knowing the realities of stalking and harassment firsthand has informed her career. "It's made me a better social worker. In cases like this, I will share some of my story with some families. We'll sit and we'll talk about red flags." We asked Hazel to share the signs she encourages people to look out for.
"The massive one is love-bombin. If somebody is in love with you after a couple of days, run for the hills. Run for the hills. You can't be in love with somebody after a couple of days." We had every weekly episode with the same question. "Why do you want to share your story?" "What happens to me? I lighted the gaps in how people are protected.
There's professionals that are coming into your home. You would expect them to be safe. You would expect them to have checks done on them to know that they are safe to be entering people's homes. This isn't just my story. It's about awareness, accountability,
and reminds in people to put their safety first."
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