The Reality of Outgrowing Friendships

I feel like a different person. Okay, because I have been so consumed. I have been so just not focused on anything in my life other than reading this one goddamn book series and I have turned into a monster Matt at night is like I know I'm like still working but like like put your book down like pretend

you're paying attention to me and I'm like but you're working he's like I know but like you never

look at me anymore this book is consuming your life and I'm like it's amazing it's everything I need right now let me just tell you it's called fourth wing I am so late to the party for all the fourth wingers that are like babe like this has been out for so long I know but to anyone that has not read this book I just want you to know that like it has changed my life and I was okay I love ac guitar I had Sarah J. Mas on the podcast you guys know that but I had never read fourth wing for some reason

“and Lauren had told me like you need to read it you need to read it it's one of my favorite series”

and dumbly I could not sleep one night it's like 12 30 Matt's dead asleep annoying as fuck snoring in my ear I'm like I will ruin your life and I'm trying to not scroll on social media and I'm like maybe I just need to open a book and so I'm going through to look at downloading like what can I download and I see fourth wing on the list and like you know what that's probably like a really long book it's like romanticy but it probably will take a while to get into probably

bore me to sleep perfect guys eight chapters three a.m. eyes wide open I literally went into work

the next day like hello everyone I looked so tired I was obsessed the first sentence had me hooked

and that has been consuming my life so um it just ended I read the third book and now the next one doesn't come out for like a year so I'm kind of like tweaking out I'm going through with draws I feel a little bit like unsure of myself I'm weary I don't know who I am but let me just say having a good book in your life I am someone who goes through spurts of reading and then I will stop reading and I will just go through like a couple months where I just don't read anything but when you

have a good book in your life your mood is up your vibe is up you're glowing you look more

“gorgeous you sound more gorgeous everything in life is less annoying no one's annoying me that”

much because I'm like I'm just like I'm barely listening to you because I'm just focused on

when it's the next time I'm going to go pick up my book and read and so there's just this happiness that I find whenever I have a really good book so this is your sign if you've been in a book rut if you want to get back to it pick up fourth wing or if you're not into like romance to see although let me tell you girl it's steamy it'll it'll impact your sex life it'll impact your life like you'll be good to go if you read it so enjoy violet and zade in are the main characters and

I'm obsessed with them and I don't care if I'm coming off like a door great now I don't care I need a new book guys comment down below what romanticie book should I read next and it needs to be romanticie I don't want something that has like human beings that don't have any type of like power I want dragons I want fairies I want smut bitch okay so comment down below what is the next book I need to read I love that you guys are loving the Sunday sessions lately and a lot

of the times I open with kind of just a topic but I felt like today was important to just fully poor me into you and just give you guys as much wisdom as I can good advice maybe bad advice I don't know I just want to talk through what you guys are going through and do a full episode of questions of the mother fucking week so let's get into it Question number one like this is so relatable to probably everyone watching depending on the side

you're on but here we go hi Alex I feel like I'm in a weird stage with my friends right now

“I don't know if I'm the problem I'm 25 and honestly still having my fun era I like going out”

traveling meeting new people and not taking myself too seriously but a lot of my friends have started to move to a more serious phase of life they're settling down with long-term partners focusing heavily on their careers talking about buying houses getting engaged all of that and lately when we hang out I can feel this subtle judgment from them about the way that I'm living my life I love my friends and we've been close for years but lately we've been in completely different

wavelengths is it just a normal phase that will pass or are these friendships at the end of their course

it is the most I just feel like honest and relatable topic to probably everyone in their 30s

“and their 20s and even their 40s so I don't think that you are insane for feeling this way”

I do think my first bit of advice is like when friends start to all go in different directions because

someone's like yes getting married and buying the house and they're doing that part doesn't mean they're ahead in life that's just where they're at and then you're still like enjoying your single life and you're partying that is going to obviously cause a little bit of division within a friendship just because you guys are on such different pages that the related ability of like topical conversation when you see each other it's just not there and so if anything it's more

just like listening and understanding trying to understand and be supportive rather than being able to relate which friendship most of our friendships are built on being able to relate

oh my god we're in high school together we're going through this or oh my god we're in college

“other we're going through this or at the same job I think sometimes people even experience it”

if you meet a friend that you're at a job with and they leave or you leave it kind of can disrupt the friendship because so much of your relationship was built on being at work together and then when that is not the case anymore you're like what is our friendship based off of if not what it was originally started off of right and so I think you saying that these friends are phasing into this clearly you guys were at one point on the same page and so I

want to validate you that like this is a huge separation to some capacity of your genuine honest start to the relationship of what you guys related on and now it has completely diverted what I will say is to give my personal little anecdote I am relating to this because I have two friend groups essentially and in one of my friend groups I am the kind of like oldest ish and in

“terms of like life I'm the more like serious settle down I guess you would call it like you just”

referred to like I got the house I got married I am very serious about my career Matt and I have been talking about kids like these are all things that we're working towards and then I all my other friends and that kind of friend group are a little bit on different pages whether they're not married yet but some of them have boyfriend or some of them are fully single enjoying clubbing life all the good things or some of them are kind of getting more serious thinking about marriage but

like I'm the one that has kind of gotten all of those pieces of my life that I don't even I don't want to call it more established because it's just not like it's all subjective right but in that category I'm there then in my other friend group I am the youngest I am the person that is like everyone of my friends in this group has kids and I'm just constantly sitting there where they're talking about oh my god and I have to bring him here and I have to get my daughter here and this

and this was a disaster and this and well oh my god and the baby sitter and I constantly I'm like trying to remind myself that my problems do matter I'm like whenever I'm around them sometimes I'm like oh my god I don't even have a complaint because they have so much going on with these kids and I don't have kids so I'm like uh yeah they're like what's going on in your life I'm like oh yeah Bruce and Henry were really stressing me out last night like no it's not even comparable but I

recognize that I still can exist as me and still share things with that group of people and I do but I do get it like I'm a little bit like oh like you guys are so much more ahead of me in that department and I kind of like it's not that I don't matter but it's just a thing that we go through right my advice to you is with that group of friends who is more like established and has kids around me

they have never made me feel like I am less than because I don't have kids yet or because I'm not

in that pre-school phase of life if anything what I love about them is they're so not threatened and in their life and they're happy with their life that they always ask me like okay what's going on what's happening like tell me the hot gossip like tell us everything and they enjoy almost like sinking their teeth into my part of life because they're not jealous they're excited to find out about what's going on in my life and I feel for you that you can differentiate pretty quickly

are your friends making subtle jabs or are you insecure that you feel distance from them so you're taking them talking about their situation as them being insensitive which is so fair because you're internalizing it but maybe they're not being actually assholes you're just getting insecure or are they actually making comments like God Christa like you got to get it together like how many more club floors can you like throw up on and you're like I plan a couple more I think like

but the overall I guess advice in this situation is I think sometimes with friendships we have this

really intense need to hold on to the best part of the friendship that sometimes evolve and change and we want to get back to that place that it started and it's sometimes just not possible sometimes people grow people change circumstances change and it's okay if you are not as close to someone as you were and maybe it will swing back around like I've had so many friends where we started so close then we had a little bit of distance because similar to what you're going through she ended up getting

married I was still on the streets in New York doing my thing like we kind of didn't have much in common anymore we'd catch up lightly but it wasn't the same and then when I met Matt and I

got married like we had so much more to bond over and then we got closer again not that we weren't

friends but just the actual closeness and the relatability was there I also think we have to remember that in your 20s and your 30s everyone is like having to be a little selfish right everyone has to be focused on their own life be focused on their careers and their romantic relationships and if they want kids or don't they want kids or if they're struggling to have kids like

“they're so much and family shit don't even get me started so I think the weight of life”

really comes at us in our 20s and 30s and I think friendship is something that has to kind of been flow because it is inevitable that so many people are going to be on different pages and if you are not willing to just like lightly adjust as it hurts it sucks if you're not as close with someone but if you're not willing to recognize like oh we're just not as close right now because like we're on different pages it stings a little bit but it's worse when you try to like

fit the peg in the round hole or whatever the fuck it's called and you keep trying to force something that just right now maybe it needs a little bit of space so I'm sorry you're going through that but just know I feel like that's literally every one of my friends and I talk about this and we have so many different friend groups that you can kind of put yourself into a different scenario for like the fact that I'm you and one of my friend groups and then I'm the women you're

“talking about in another friend group it's all it's life like that's what's gonna happen and you just”

have to not be too hard on yourself and maybe find some more friends who are in that phase of life with you and how beautiful like that will be a fun new group that you can hang out with doesn't mean you have to get rid of your old friends okay next hi Alex I'm a 42 year old woman living in North Carolina the dating scene is pretty bad here but I was at the gym last weekend and this guy was checking me out I didn't think anything of it until he asked for my number when I was leaving

okay just pausing there like so proud of a man actually fucking approaching woman don't love it is that the gym but I love that you specify that it's when you're leaving not when you're like mid rep and he's like hi Janice want to want to bang in the bathroom maybe that would have been hot I don't know um you said as we were texting to set a date I found out he is only 25 years old I don't get hit on by hot guys often anymore so I don't want to pass up the opportunity but

is it insane to still go on a date with this guy girl no are you kidding me this is what this is

“what life is about I mean listen I don't know if I'm 42 in single like what I'll be looking for”

but I'm sure it would be like a hot fuck like if my not a hot divorce I was 42 in single like maybe you're looking for something like that you just had you haven't been hit on like you want to explore you're not making this man your husband please for the love god don't make this man your husband but have fun I think that sometimes when you are single no matter the age we sometimes need

to get outside of our comfort zone like you probably go for the same man you probably always go

for the same type and this will make you maybe this will make you come alive like maybe you can teach this boy something right I also just think like men do it all the time like why can't women he's of age this is not creepy it's a hookup he approached you you were looking hot at the gym imagine how hot you're gonna look on a date I think we bang him and I yeah I mean we I think we bang him and you let us know how it goes and you're in your milk era like there could be a

world where you in this reignite something in you like maybe you scored on his face I don't know you never know until you try so Janice that's not your name but you know what I mean get out there I love that for you guys remember the other Sunday session I did where I was like nobody is approaching anyone in person anymore I used to say a man approaching woman at the gym was a cardinal sin and it is but you were leaving and there's something that we're gonna take man approaching women

gonna say going a date with a man if he ever approaches you and you're not repulsed by him and he

“doesn't come off his creepy and you're like huh go on the date next question hi daddy I have been”

dating someone for about three years and he is obsessed with his morning routine he has a 5 a.m. alarm every morning followed by a meditation app called shower 30 minutes of journaling and a green juice there are no off days when we first started dating I pretended I was into it I'd wake up early drink the juice dude the meditating oh girl you're strong but now that we're actually in her relationship I'm exhausted it makes me dread sleeping over at his place how do I admit I'm not into

this without disappointing him oh my god oh my god this is my fucking nightmare oh my god okay um you

should never dread sleeping over your boyfriend's house this should be a fun activity this should be

oh I'm taking an everything shower kind of night you know I'm gonna shave my legs for this man I'm gonna shave my underarms for this man and the bush canash like this is supposed to be fairy tales rainbows butterflies and sex and instead you are like sleeping at night literally so stiff praying to god you're like is it 5 a.m yet you're like tweaking out because you're so anxious about his 10 alarms that he fucking sets and then he literally wakes up at 5 a.m he's like

let's get after it baby and you want to cry but you've committed to the lie oh my god that's the worst it's like when I lied about like liking EDM to this one guy in college and I was like oh my god me EDM uh he's like have you ever been to firefly festival I was like obviously and he's like who's your favorite program and I was literally like every one how could I pick was yours and any names of EDM or that I don't even know and I was like no wait that was 100% my favorite

you're so right and I kept on this lie to the point where he invited me to a concert and I was like hey hey I didn't know what thing about EDM okay I didn't even I don't even know what EDM sounds like and I went so far so far down this I changed my Facebook settings to be like EDM girl music I was like stalking him putting some of the songs that he had that he liked on his Facebook

into my legs like I was deep in the trenches thankfully I never made this man my boyfriend so I

wasn't like in that car listening to EDM on our way to church in the morning I never went to church in college but you don't I'm saying this is your boyfriend like you committed to this man you're speaking of this man's house and you are green juicing it up wellness hitting hard left right smacking it harder than ever in the morning you want to die you literally want to die you want cheetos and a bagel and you want to be hungover in bed watching sex in the city on your Sunday

and instead you're doing burpees like this is my this is my personal health here's my advice oh what would I do what would I do because to his credit he is thinking you're you're you're one

with him like he's thinking like we're both getting spoiled together bro so the problem is how far

you've taken the lie what I do think you can just say it's like hey babe hey babe um i i'm so always the sandwich right i'm so inspired by how serious you commit to and take your morning routine

“and i love how healthy you are but i think i got on that flow with you and i really”

i haven't enjoyed a lot of the moments these are crying you like no i really haven't enjoyed it it's like it's stop um you like i really enjoyed it but i think i'm realizing that i have just like a different need and want for my mornings and for the way that i approach my wellness journey let's say and i think sometimes it's getting to the point where like there are some mornings where i want to lay in bed and relax and enjoy myself after like a long week of work and i feel like i

have to get up and go go go with you and i was wondering if it would be no don't even ask this man for permission so i think i'm going to do some mornings where i don't participate and if you don't mind just like being a little quiet in the morning and just like sneaking out and going into your

“thing of course i don't want to tell you not to do it but i think i'm going to like think i'm”

going to chill a little bit here i'm getting a little burnt out if this man is like wait so you're not coming to join with me if i what do you mean what do you mean we just went to Lulemon together we bought news we bought new spanks like we got matching outfits like what do you mean babe what do you fucking mean as he's like doing another ginger shot this may be not your

to break the fucking and and start eating like a bagel in front of his face and be like i'm not

“going okay okay fuck off i think you can do that i don't imagine a world where this man would”

be like what the fuck is wrong with you i think if anything like i said girl i've been there uh you just built the lie out a little too long and a little too hard you committed so hard to the lie you're now reaping the repercussions this man's kind of done nothing to you and thank god he's not the opposite end where it's like big belly beer bob who's just like 18 cases deep

watching the fucking sporting event never gets off the couch literally is pounding beers his whole

body is just like desiccating before your eyes and you're like oh my god this man is so unhealthy and he like never does anything like the at least his man's like taking care of his body like this is someone that will have longevity potentially in life and cares about well let's make sure he doesn't care about his appearance too much like are there like me or selfies that are going along with the his 5 a.m. jons because if there are oh oh Sarah i fear i fear this for you

maybe let's really didn't look at him look at the actions and look if you just ended up basically

“getting involved with like a soul cycle and structure and you're literally like i think i got a”

little too carried away i think a little too carried away i got hooked i feel like i'm a living with

group and i got to go um that's for you to decide but damn because there's nothing better than like hitting them with like a little one-two punch of like a little white lie a little white lie in the beginning and you're just like oh my god that white lie just made us actually go to the next level and like it's so white lie like it doesn't matter and then they like fully commit and they're like oh my god you do like that and you're like mm mm yeah i love that and they're like oh my god

do i have plans for us and you're like oh my god no way and then you actually are four years in and you're doing something you fucking hate but then it's like you can't blame them because you're the liar oh man i'm actually crying this is so funny oh my god i used to do that all the time it's such an easy thing like men are so stupid too so like you can like white lie to pretend like you like something with them and like there's obviously like the innocent one

like oh my god you like the cowboys i love the cowboys easy you buy a fucking jersey you shake your tits every Sunday and you watch Peyton Manning or who's this that's not you whatever whatever fucking quarterback he's retired um whatever quarterback and you're fine you're fine but when those lies baby girl impact your life to the point where it takes over your life to the point where you're trying to run so far in the other direction like you're like like i wanted to listen to

heavy metal by the time i was dealt with that man okay EDM was so taking over my life i was like i want screamo music how about that i want to fucking bash my head into the wall and i want to go listen to Metallica it really can drive you somewhere where you didn't necessarily intend to be

“but you're kind of fucked so take care of yourself girl and honestly like get a sleep mask some”

earplugs at the alarm for your normal time and let's see if this man can respect your fucking boundaries oh those are good one please comment down below what are some embarrassing lies that you said to a man that like seems like so innocent at the time like oh this will just make this look easier and then you were so far down in the lie train that you're like oh my god why did i ever lie to this man now i have to pretend to like this for the rest of my life

next hey father i have been no context with my mom for almost a year after realizing in therapy that my anxiety came from being her emotional support growing up my brother is also no contact but my sister still has a close relationship with her my sister understands why we stepped away and even acknowledges the unhealthy dynamics but she refuses to set boundaries or be honest with our mom it's starting to strain our relationship because i don't understand how

she can see the issue and still stay so close do i confront her about it and try to convince her to go no contact or just let her have her own relationship with our mom okay um whoa that is

oh damn going no contact with a parent is from what i understand i've never done it but i've

talked to friends who have done it and i've talked to therapists like it seems like one of the most

point primary caregiver or lack thereof should have been um has pushed you so far to a point

that you have essentially had to cut them off in a way that like literally feels like death like it feels and it's almost harder than that because you're like they're still out there but i am actively choosing to not engage in a relationship with them and the strength that it takes to do that i can end anyone who has been able to do it because from what i have talked with therapists and everything like it is one of the hardest decisions you'll ever make in your life not because like it's

hard to not give in to a parent right who raised you no matter how toxic they are what i feel like with your sister and i had a situation in my life recently that's not fully applicable but like

when it came to grief we were talking about it and like i was watching two people grief so

so differently and so it was just such a significant difference and they were just as close to the same person and it was a whole thing and you're watching these two people and you're like wow how can two people grieve so differently but that's life right like their relationship to the person clearly was different in their eyes and their reactions are different and their emotions are different and that's you and your sister like this doesn't mean that your sister is not so wounded on the

inside and in so much pain and wanting your mom to get healthy and to not do what she's doing but your sister has not been able to go no contact for a reason that i almost think you can

“and but thighs with her while still maintaining boundaries i think you going no contact is your decision”

but to try to like pull your sister into that i actually think it will only make you feel

like you could she will feel resentment almost towards you if she decided to do that for you and not for herself i also think what's probably really painful for you is like this is your mother and in some way you had you made the hard decision to go no contact but your sister is still speaking to her and so i don't want to speak for you but i'm trying to put myself in your shoes like there also could be some subconscious thing where you're

also feeling guilty like she hasn't abandoned mom even though we all should abandon this woman but i have and like the only tie i still have to my mother is through my sister and so you're seeing still the dysfunction through your sister and that's understandably so triggering to you and so you want your sister to get removed from it so you are fully removed from it and i think

“the answer to this is you need to just set boundaries with your sister i never want to tell you”

what to do with mom i know we all have such different situations with her and i know it is beyond complicated but i have made such a painful decision for myself that i knew i needed to go no contact and in order to maintain a relationship with you i need you to respect my no contact with mom which means i don't want to hear about her like when we're together i need us to talk about our relationship and what's going on in your life in my life and i do not want to know

or talk about mom because you're the only thing in my life that's threading me to her and i have actively made the decision to remove her from my life overall i just will say like and i i talk about this all the time with my mom and my therapist and my friends like family shit when it comes to parents who are dysfunctional and immature toxic abusive it is one of the biggest minefucks you will ever experience in your life and i have so much empathy for i've

watched so many of my friends go through this and it is it is it ruins families it ruins parts of your life until you're able to be like oh my god i can't let this fucking person control my life anymore yes you are my mother or my father growing up but like this is my life and i need to take ownership of it and get away from you because you're so fucking toxic but saying that about a parent it like it's close to impossible right especially a mother like you

came out of this woman like this woman is a part of you you are a part of her like there's so much complexity there if you guys whatever want me to have like a therapist on to talk about like the specifics of dysfunction and families when it is stemming from one of the parental figures i would be more than happy to do that and even if you guys write in like really specific scenarios because i bet a therapist would be so helpful in breaking that down of how to handle those situations

“i remember back back in the day one of my episodes i did was cutting off a parent who is”

narcissistic and i had a therapist on and so many of you really related and it broke my heart because i think it's more common to have a parent like that than to have a healthy parent and that is

i believe you can do this and i really i think that your sister will understand i think it's just

gonna take a couple of hard conversations okay next um hi Alex i need some help i've been dating my boyfriend for a little over year i love him and he's my best friend but i feel like i'm not sexually fulfilled by him in the past i've been with toxic men and the sex was really good i can't tell if i'm just settling now or maybe i'm not recognizing a healthy connection i feel like i need a dominant man and i can't communicate that to my partner without killing the vibe help oh oh fuck it's so hard

when you go from like toxic men to like a healthy man and you're like all right um you're like cracking your neck you're like this is good for us and your brain is like toxic and you're like

no this is stable and they're like let's go back to Johnny and you're like shut the fuck up

Johnny was horrible to us and it's like but the sex was fun and we were on the edge and you're like stop it your brain is such crazy things to you when you've been in these like toxic push and pull relationships they're toxic and they're toxic for a reason but when you get out of them there's a romantic a romanticization i don't know if i just said that right and a glamourization that happens in our brains where it's like we lose all of the negativity and then we just like

remember the good and then all of a sudden we're like that was such a thrill hey and then we turn on like a movie and like the bad guy and the girl found love and you're like hey maybe Johnny wasn't so bad and it's like he was just as bad if not worse than you remember and going back to him

“will only ruin yourself worth even more but we remember those things and i think sex when you”

have a toxic partner that is the one thing that becomes really really fucked up when you get out of a toxic situation is the memory of the push and pull and your literal brain going from oh my god i'm in fighter flight and i think i'm gonna lose this person and we just had a fight and then we got back together and then we had crazy good sex that's not normal to constantly be going up and down and up and down in a relationship but it is then normal for your brain to get a high when you guys

get back together and have that makeup sex so then when you find a normal partner that stable and sweet and kind and is not gonna fuck with your emotions and scream at you for what you're wearing and get in a fight and then you don't go out with your friends and then you make up and then you have sex and you're all over the place emotionally your dysregulated emotions cause sex to feel so heightened with a toxic partner that that just doesn't exist with a normal partner and what i

“know is that you have to retrain your brain you guys because you also can't survive forever on that”

toxic partner you're going to literally self just deplete yourself and then you're going to self abandon you're not going to be an individual anymore so like you also have to go through okay is this partner actually someone you love pause on sex for a minute because you obviously have such a negative connotation towards it even though you think it's positive do you love this partner their stable you're saying what did you say you said like

i can't tell if the like i'm sexually fully fulfilled by him i want a dominant man do you want a dominant man or toxic man don't lie to my face do you want a toxic man a dominant man i mean sure you could ask him to throw you up against the wall and like he can still be a nice man that treats you nicely right i think that if you genuinely have this healthy connection

“the first part is you should feel safe enough to express this to your partner babe i love you”

i you know i was thinking about our sex life and i'm like i want to spice things up i want to try some things new and like i really want to do xyz i think there's more times than not a

partner's always like oh okay i'm down if you position it like i was thinking about you i

don't i was like at work i don't know what the fuck i was doing that was bored and i literally just started thinking about our sex life and i was like i really want to try this like were you're more dominant and i'm kind of submissive and blah blah the god he's going to be like whoa like okay like where did this come from you're like i don't know like i just i want to try something new together great but if you feel like you can't tell that to him

or if you actually think no he'll do that it's just you're missing the toxicity then you need to get therapy because poor Garrett is going to be like i just flung you over my shoulder i walked us up stairs i threw you against the bed i handcuffed your arms to the headboard i spread your legs i did it all i brought the toys i brought it and and and you still were like thinking about johnny therapy or have the conversation with him and let him tie you up

the last statement though is there is a chance that you're just not physically connected to this

man and it has nothing to do with that he's a good guy like he could be toxic for all you no i'm not even going to go there there is a chance there's just no physical connection and you don't physically

“enjoy him that's fair you have to figure that out for yourself is it because you want him to be toxic”

or is it because you literally don't have a connection with him i unfortunately can't get in bed with you do an answer but for you so you are going to have to do the hard hitting on the ground research and then get back to me

okay next oh god okay hi daddy i need help because i think i'm jealous of a dog okay let's listen

i've been in a situation ship for a while where i'm constantly wanting more tension and reassurance from the sky and barely getting it he's emotionally distant from me but with his dog he's obsessed baby voice cuddling instagram stories constant infection the dog is treated like royalty so i know this guy's capable of what i'm looking for but i'm just not getting it how do i stop feeling

“insecure over a literal terrier first of all you guys know i'm a dog mom i love oh he takes”

instagram stories constant infection cuddling i love this man with his dog yeah this isn't about the dog though put the dog aside let's pretend there is no dog you just sadly have something to compare it to and unfortunately it's a four-legged creature which is even more sad this man unfortunately you're watching him give attention to a dog being like i wish i could get that cuddle that's really that's really this we're we're we're bottom of the barrel right now we are low we are low britney

we are lower than the bar is low it's one thing if you see him like with his mom you're like oh that's weird or the sister or friend we're talking about a terrier okay a little terrier who has no ill will torts you okay the he shits and he pees and he eats his dinner and he cuddles his dad what your upset about is he's not giving you any reassurance because there's nothing to reassure you about it's a situation ship he's coming and going as he pleases and he doesn't

clearly like you enough to actually give you the energy that you are looking that his dog is even

“getting i just think you have to always look at yourself when you're yearning for more from a man”

when you're like oh i want more i wish he would give it stop don't ever wish a man would give you more if he's not that's your answer if you're like but i just feel like if he could just i want a la la la la la la no if he wanted to cuddle you and take Instagram stories with you like he's doing with his dog he would you'd be right in between the terrier would be right in between you and him okay frank terrier britney boom a fucking sandwich if you have it be a heavenly Sunday

your old just cuddling together you're not there you're not even getting the invite like i don't think that this is the dog's problem i think that this man is fully showing you where his allegiance lies and it's not to his dog it's just not to you it's not fun it's not fun i know and i know some people like god that's so harsh this is the harsh reality we need to when whenever we write in saying i feel this and i feel like i wish he would do this and i wish he would do that

wishup when you wish upon a star i don't know what the rest of the song is and if it's dreams come true well cut that okay because dreams don't come true when you wish for anything with a man if he wants you you will know whoa let's get a load of this one help all caps i accidentally hooked up with my building's door man after all i'm so obsessed with you okay we have an addressed its sense but i have to see him basically every day and it's so awkward knowing

i have to face him when i go down to get my hungover breakfast burrito delivery and the is the bane of my existence right now i'm attracted to him and down to hook up again but the vibe is really awkward right now and i don't know how to move forward oh my god first of all you lucky dog

i have never in the history of ever had a hot door man there's never been in a door man in my life

that i was like hmm bird you want a bang like never oh my god and also the best part for you is you didn't wake up and be like oh my god look at jerry he's like 65 but when i was hammered he

up i thought i thought this old man like no you woke up and you said i would again and now it's just about finding that rhythm i kind of love this there's something really hot that could go down here because ooh what if he goes on his little break but his break is to go up to the six

floor and go into 602 and do you imagine the things that you could do now the problem is if this

“doesn't work out then it's just gonna continue to be awkward so i think that this is what you're”

gonna do take the risk you know take a risk take a jails and break away i think you're gonna go down next time you're going down because it's you got to outside and i think if he's there you could either get your food delivery so it's a little bit more of like a pause so you've a reason to like stay there for a second or if there's like the males near him and like make sure you like wear those yoga pants but i think you just be like hey how have you been i think it's that fucking chill

this man think about this from his perspective door man manny let's call him manny oh manny you

sexy little man doorman manny is not trying to get fired bro doorman manny is like damn i

fuck that bitch in 602 and she's hottest fuck and i can't believe that i fuck that bitch in 602 that's hottest fuck and man he's not trying to get his job whacked for him okay so man he's just trying to man the desk and man he's trying to keep his eyes above you know the neck level he's not trying to look at your cleavage when you're coming down he's not trying to make eye contact to do because you got to be the one to initiate right nothing there's an HR i wonder if there's

HR issues when it comes to door men and residents regardless yeah you could make you like feel unsafe in your home you know so you could like whatever but you're not unsafe you want more from many so i think you just have to approach him because he's not going to approach you because that think about it he's being so respectful door man manny is like i'll wait for my queen to come back to me i'll wait for my princess to get up from her slumber she must have had a hard night last night

“and i think you have to be the one and i think it's going to be as easy as a hey how have you been”

and it may take a second he may be so thrown off he may be like not knowing if it's a trap

so he may be like yeah i've been good how are you and then you're like good and then you can like walk by or you can have the balls and you can be like good like what are you doing this weekend like do you have any like i don't know what their times are called like do you have any time off like from from the building do you have any time off like when i hang literally go for it manny what is that song manny doesn't know that's not a song what's not a song you are so in

it's crazy it's now just fully on you and i think that it's more awkward to skirt around man dog than to just get in there and fuck his bones again and you can also establish i know that this is awkward you're literally in my building like this could go wrong but like let's have fun while last and don't they rotate like dormant rotate okay so like while you're fucking him get his schedule so if things do go south um girl you know his every fucking move and you will beat

bob boop around whenever he's down there you're taking the south exit or you know you're crawling on the floor to get past manny or you're just not leaving your home for four days so you don't have to see manny it's a classic i love that for you so much everyone world story this week

“is a fuck your dormant and get in there where you need to get in there um what else did we talk”

about really good stuff today really good important stuff i am feeling so inspired i hope you guys enjoyed this episode i wanted to just be a light fun bright episode um with a little sprinkle of family trauma that's a classic on call her daddy um i love you guys so much i hope you have a wonderful wonderful upcoming week i know you're probably sitting there thinking oh god tomorrow's Monday no no it's not it's only a Monday if you make it pretend it's Friday tomorrow and then after

you realize it's not Friday then you can tell yourself but don't let yourself get the hang anxiety and the stress of the Sunday's carries we're not doing it here on call our daddy today okay um love you guys so much i will see you fuckers on Wednesday goodbye [Music]