Jia Tolentino on ‘Our Plastic Surgery Nightmare’

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Something strange is happening to the human face. Plastic surgery in the U.S. is increasingly designed to be invisible and it's working. Faces are being lifted, filled and reshaped to look naturally youthful and at the same time unnatural.

“I guess today, writer Gia Tolentino says this new era of cosmetic enhancement is quietly”

changing the way people think about aging and what we believe a real face should look like.

In her latest New Yorker piece, our Plastic Surgery Nightmare, Dolantino reports that cosmetic procedures like Botox and fillers, wants to associate it with middle age, are now becoming popular for teenagers, with Plastic Surgeons reporting a significant uptick of patients under 30. Some are even posting photos online asking strangers whether a facelift is their only hope.

One influencer got famous by striking his jawline with a hammer. As part of the online movement known as Luxemaxing, other young men followed suit, an artificial intelligence trained on millions of these new faces is generating new beauty standards. Tolentino argues that what's changing isn't just our appearance, it's our relationship to reality. Her argument is that when every face can be optimized, filtered, or surgically refined,

the face itself begins to lose its status as evidence of a life-lived. She argues that the thing we've long treated as a window into another person is becoming less human and more like a product. Gia Tolentino is a staff writer at The New Yorker and the best selling author of the essay collection Trick Mirror. Seven years ago, she coined the phrase "Instagram Face", capturing the beauty ideal of the social media era. Her new essay asks,

"What that face has become?" And Gia Tolentino welcome back to fresh air. Thank you so much for having me. Okay, as I mentioned to you, this piece has hit a

nerve and so much of the reaction is basically, yes, we are seeing this, we are feeling this,

what can we actually do about it? And the same thing actually happened seven years ago when you coined this term "Instagram Face" and so I thought before we actually get into your latest piece, remind us what Instagram face is or was. Right, so sometime last decade, if you were on Instagram, you probably noticed that most of the most prominent, most highly visible faces who generally all belong to white female influencers, they started to kind of converge on a singular face.

“I remember someone I am makeup artist described it as a sexy baby tiger. You know, it was the kind of”

Kim Kardashian looks like Kendall Jenner looks like Bella Hadid looks like Emily Radikowski. There was this kind of convergence of the face towards a certain mean that seemed to me to be very overtly shaped by the algorithm. The face looked like the beauty filters that Snapchat and Instagram provided to kind of lift your cheeks and plump your lips and, you know, make your eyes bigger and make your chin a little more heart-shaped and, you know,

you could press a button or you could use face-toon to digitally alter your face to fit this kind of algorithmically approved beauty standard. This was a face that the algorithm liked. If your face looked like this, you would get more views on your pictures and then, you know, concurrently there were these technologies. This was kind of the rise of injectables, Botox, filler, these little tweaks that you could do in real life to match the tweaks that

you could do digitally. And I wanted to write about it then because it just seemed interesting that faces were becoming the same, that these highly visible faces were becoming the same. And the incentives didn't necessarily seem to be coming from within. They seem to be coming from without it. And I wondered what is going to happen in the future and now we're kind of living. Right. So for those who aren't maybe online enough to really pick up the changes

over the last seven years, paint a picture for us what is coming out of this new era on our screens. Not just on our screens too, but also in real life. What are we actually seeing? What does this new aesthetic actually look like? So this began as kind of niche behavior among the professionally

necessarily visually overrepresented. And what those women do trickles down into the desire for

“the general population. And in the nearly, let's say, decade that has elapsed, when I was”

starting to research this piece, I started just Googling cities in the United States. I started Googling mid-sized cities everywhere outside the coasts to check, you know, how widespread is this behavior actually? There are some proxies like the Reddit for R/plastic surgery. It has almost as many weekly visitors as the Reddit forum for R/running. You know, so there are some proxies where you can tell this is becoming a quite generalized interest. If you are on social media,

you see the way that people's faces have become on canny. The foreheads are freezing. The lips are plump. Instagram face has kind of trickled down to the general population. You can get it at your

local strip mall, basically anywhere you are in the U.S. and people certainly do. And now the faces

of the the rich and famous and professionally beautiful now it's changing. Now there's facelifts. Now there's these invisible facelifts. They're the flickers of desire in the general population people being like, well, should I get a facelift at age 30? This seems to be the next wave of what's happening that the facelifts are becoming the kind of soon to be normalized desire. Yeah, and the facelifts themselves are providing a look that maybe is taking us in another

direction of trying to look more natural. You mentioned some of those more popular Reddit pages. There are also so many plastic surgeons now who have these these accounts that are very

“popular showing before and afters of these deep plain facelifts. Which art for the faint of heart?”

Yeah, well something I think about this. Yeah, I find it, you know, it's just it's interesting, right? The Instagram face, the procedures themselves were kind of fundamentally non-violent, a little needle there back to the office, right? But people kind of looked obviously altered. If you think about, I mean the Kardashians are the easiest proxy for this. You could see their faces changing in real time, Kim Kardashian published a selfie book called Selfish, where you

could see how her face had changed. The work was on display, even though the procedures themselves were fairly minor. The facelift is interesting because the procedure itself is kind of extraordinarily violent. You're severing all these layers of muscle and fat and fascia. Bridget Reed did a piece for New York Magazine where she describes a plastic surgeon lifting the face off of its bones, like a Halloween mask and rearranging it. But the results are almost supernatural. You know,

there's almost something mystical and nostalgic about it, where there's this, they kind of imply

“this complex secret knowledge. And as you mentioned, there's kind of a cottage industry that has”

been growing over the last decade because these things are interesting to look out on screens. We love looking at faces. And we love looking at faces because as I was writing, you know,

the face is traditionally how we come to know each other, how we, the first glimpse we have

of a person's temperament and soul and life history. Right. And it tells us, it answers so many questions. Also, you can tell if a person is tired. You can tell if they're sick. You can tell their emotions. Do they laugh a lot by their laugh lines? It's a marker of allowing us to see if we can even trust a person. I mean, you're basically arguing that we're entering a world where these faces don't communicate because Botox and some of these other treatments freeze the face.

We're losing the ability to read one another. Yeah, absolutely. I mean, it seems like, you know, like you were saying, they're plastic surgeons on Instagram and TikTok. They're all of these influencers that are just for kind of forensically analyzing what people may and may not have done. We love to look at faces. We're still looking at faces. But increasingly, online, especially if you are a girl or your woman, your, your feet is likely tailored towards these sort of things.

The face is being presented to us as a consumer guide and a disciplinary manual rather than a human repository of disposition than life. And, you know, I don't think this in and of itself, I don't think individually, there's anything immoral or wrong about plasticity, about changing your looks. You know, individually, these cases are not very interesting to me and not worth judging on an individual level whatsoever. But it just does seem collectively like that shift has

happened that the face is not something that especially if you are socialized as a woman,

to show on your face that's really being reconfigured as kind of an object that should stand up

under digital surveillance. Aside from the $100,000 face lifts, what are those who are not in the

“top brackets doing? It's a lot of injectables. You know, I think there's kind of the non-surgical”

face lift that a lot of people that's certainly quite popular in the suburbs of Houston where I grew up where it's like just well placed Botox and filler to shape, you know, you can put it in your jawline to thin your cheeks. You know, you can kind of lift your brow with Botox. You can kind of plump and reshape your face. People are getting eyelifts, you know, they're they're getting buffer of plastics on their upper and lower lids. There's kind of threads. You can get in your

forehead to lift. There's necklifts. There's mini lipo. There's all sorts of stuff. There's the realm of just constant facial resurfacing with laser and you know, and all of these things, you know, again, it's like individually whatever, right? You know, individually let people live.

“However, collectively, it just what is this reframing the face as? It's not just our faces,”

either our producer Molly points out that BBL's Brazilian butt lifts are being reversed and people are taking off their nails and lashes are going out of style. It's kind of turning into the clean girl aesthetic. Is that sort of under the same phenomenon? One thing that is just kind of

blanket true will always be true about beauty standards for women is that they're never static.

There's never a final point. Well, at least from the point of view of the industry is dictating it, which now include the surveillance technologies of the phone and social media. There is never a fixed point at which contentment is prescribed or incentivized or, you know, or okay. It's what is prescribed is just a perpetual work, a perpetual outlet of money and time and most importantly concern, a sense of the self as something that must always be optimized, perfected, improved. And, you know,

this is beauty standards have been punitive, disciplinary, they have served the interests of those in power for basically all of human history and every human culture. But there's something interesting about it right now in that it seems more explicitly anti-human right now than ever before. There seem to be something that's dovetailing with the age of AI. And AI is where the consequences of Instagram face, they are already quite clear, right? The fact that so many of the most visible

women on the internet kind of resemble each other have this look that, if you're an Instagram, you can probably close your eyes and summon, you know, the fact that that is kind of what a woman on the internet looks like to the data scraping engines that are powering AI. You know, the Washington Post did this great investigation a couple of years ago. They asked, you know, AI image generators multiple of them to produce an image of a normal woman. Almost every face

that was generated was white, young and beautiful. You know, there's already been such a distinct effect. And one wonders, AI is something that I personally, you know, take issue with for the way that it kind of programmatically positions what is specifically human as inferior for being specifically human, for being bounded, for being imperfect. When in fact our boundedness,

“our imperfection, our kind of imminence, that's the best thing about us, that's what makes us”

actually human. And so the way that all of this is manifesting through the face is really what I wanted to write about. I find it interesting, I want to go back a little bit to your Instagram face, some of the things that you found about how these faces are very racialized, but in a way that sort of combines all of these different attributes of every race to make this prototype, this face, and by which AI then uses it to build an AI-generated woman. This woman is white, but remind

us what you found back then, and what happened to that racial dimension now that we have entered this era of invisible surgery. Yeah, I remember there was something about Instagram face. It was

sort of this, what I found to be kind of a rootless exoticism, but it was always on almost always

on a white woman. Or it was always most profitable and most visible on a white woman. And there was a way where the face had kind of captured signifiers of other ethnicities, of kind of borrowed the sense of, you know, of something other while always kind of resoundingly serving whiteness itself.

influence with the browser and I shape an African-American influence with the lip, a Caucasian

“nose, a cheek structure that's predominantly Native American and Middle Eastern. And that, you know,”

10 years later has resulted when you ask AI to generate an image, let's say, of a beautiful woman, they are almost exclusively, yeah, white, thin, young, but they have those features. And so there's this erasure of other forms of faces, certainly other forms of beauty. There's this in your total erasure based on what the AI just scraping, Instagram, scraping faces, scraping the kind of racial hierarchies and preferences that are built into every system in our country. It's now AI thinks

and will tell people, this is what a normal woman is, this is what a beautiful woman is. Okay, I've got to tell you something that happened to me. So I downloaded one of those apps that makes your photos look like they were shot on a 90s point in shoot. And so when I ran one of my pictures through it, though, it didn't give me the flash effect that I wanted. It handed me back, I'm black, so it handed me back myself as a white woman with a thinner nose and lighter skin. And what you're

describing is why this happened. So AI has been trained on all of these Instagram faces, but this is scary because I mean, people are doing this to such a degree, what are you finding about maybe like, you know, dysmorphia on what someone's face actually looks like, what is that doing to us? When we're continually doing this, and then people are posting these things out into the world. I mean, some people are actually blind to it. I was horrified by it. Also kind of disappointed

“because I paid some money for this app, you know. You should sue them. No, that's horrible.”

That's, I mean, that's horrible. And imagine if you were 16, right? It's crushing to think about. And, you know, to be a teenage girl is a nightmare as it is, you know, we have no end of studies about how anytime on visual social media is profoundly destructive to the mental health and confidence and kind of sense of autonomy in young girls and teenagers and young women. But yeah, you see it everywhere. There was, there was a 12 year old that went viral on TikTok

for her anti-aging skin routine. If you look on non-visual forms of social media, you know, like on Reddit, you'll, or on Twitter on any, any place, you'll find teenagers wondering, you know, should I start getting Botox? I'm 18. Like I'm starting to see signs of aging. You will have 20 somethings wondering if they should get a facelift because they think they have jowls. I'm in my late 30s and I was Googling, you know, I'm 37. Should I get a facelift? Just trying to see

what one would see if one were to, one were to Google this. And, you know, all, I, I tried it on my

husband's phone. I tried it on my, you know, I tried it on incognito. And all of the first search results

say, you know, probably not a full one, but a mini one could be good. And the most in they saying opinion I could find was someone saying no, just to Botox instead, just to Botox and injectables instead. Don't get a, you know, don't get a full just mini or Botox. Basically, if you're a young woman and you are interfacing with the internet, there is essentially no system that will tell you your face is good as it is. And there's no end to the systems that

will say, improve it, perfect it. And there's something interesting happening where young people are getting Botox in their 20s. Like there was, you know, a recent statistic, there was a 75% increase

“from 2019 to 2022 in people under the age of 20, getting Botox in filler. I think there were”

something like 50,000 injectable procedures performed in 2024 on people age 20 or younger. You know, these are not massive numbers, but that's, you know, it's pretty wild to think about. Right, because this is interesting that you try to search on other people's phones, including your husband's phone, because I guess you assume that because he's a male, he's part of a different

algorithm, and it might have a different output for you. So you're basically saying, if you're,

if you're on online, there's kind of no way to get around it. Yeah, there's just, there is, there is nothing online right now that is telling people that what is human is good specifically for being human, right? It's just, the drive towards optimization that has, you know, that has encompassed and driven like every tech industry, all of Silicon Valley for the past 20 years. It's really, it's come to roost in our faces and bodies

that I had that made me start writing this, it was, I was just like, the face is kind of

“separating from the person and the person is separating from the soul, and this is being”

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about it. At NPR, we stand for your right to be curious and indulge your cultural curiosity. Follow it's been a minute wherever you get your podcasts. And we'll break down the zeitgeisty topics that are feeling your feed. This is fresh air. I'm Tony Mosley. And my guest today is Gia Tolentino, staff writer at the New Yorker. Seven years ago, she coined the term "Instagram

“Face," capturing the beauty ideal of the social media era. Her latest piece, our plastic surgery”

nightmare, argues that we've entered a new age of cosmetic enhancement. One designed to be invisible with face lifts that leave no trace. Teenagers asking strangers online of surgery is their only hope and artificial intelligence generating flawless faces that are resetting the beauty standard. Tolentino says, "What's changing isn't just how we look, it's our relationship to reality itself. She is also the author of the best-selling essay collection, trick mirror. One of the

paradoxes at the center of this essay is also that plastic surgery is becoming both detectable and more extreme at the same time. And the Mara Lago face in particular is a good example of this. Can you describe it for us?" I feel kind of a fondness for what's called Mara Lago face because it's almost like, it's almost quaint. So Mara Lago face is if you have observed

the faces of the women of the second Trump administration, this is Mara Lago face. It's kind of like

Instagram face. It's as if kind of the Kardashian-esque beauty standard of 2016 has ported itself ten years later to the seat of American power and added quite a lot of makeup to it. It's this, it's what plastic surgery used to be, where it flots itself, where it kind of flots its lack of relationship to human reality, which I find kind of funny and I find almost quaint. And it also, you know, there's a way in which it mirrors the actual political policy of the Trump

administration where power is displayed in, you know, proudly disconnecting from reality altogether. And in that way, you're saying that these botox and filler faces and the approach to governing

are basically the same gesture. It's saying that what is given what is human doesn't matter.

I'm going to slash it to bits and, you know, put some gold and lipstick on it and we're going to, you know, it's the equivalent of the Trump ballroom, basically, in human in human face form. And, you know, there's also something, it's quite, it's so aggressively female, you know, it's, there's something, this is certainly not a new observation, but it's very interesting to watch, you know, people that are very much against trans healthcare, gender-affirming, you know,

medical care, display a beauty look that is nothing if not gender-affirming. It's fundamentally gender-affirming surgery, like much plastic surgery is. So, for like a Mara Lago woman, she's performing maximal femininity. And for the men, which we're going to get into, this looks Maxing, they're kind of surgically building maximal malness, totally. It's all like drag.

I mean, it's, it literally, it's drag, which is why it's always been so funny to me to see

Republicans be so against drag and children's exposure to drag and against, again, like trans,

the hair transplants that men are getting in Turkey, you know, the breast implants and nose

jobs of, you know, a more innocent time of the 80s and 90s when those were the only things that, you know, that people may be got. That's, it's gender-affirming surgery. So, there is a version of this playing out with the "Tradwife" trend. These influencers who have lots of followers, sometimes millions of followers, they're, they're kind of performing a femininity in another way, too, with their kids standing in their kitchens and in these pre-readresses, they're being domestic,

they're performing submission. It's, it's femininity content in a way. And how does this kind of

“fit into what you're describing this world of face altering? Well, I think that there is the,”

the "Tradwife" thing, you know, there's some very kind of obvious built-in contradictions and paradoxes in it, right, where the women that are most famous as "Tradwives," they are not "Tradwives,"

they are million-dollar business people, right? They, they are entrepreneurs, they make more

money than their husbands, you know, their, you know, their heads of enormous businesses. And, you know, there's a similar kind of contradiction with the kind of "Marlago Face Territory" where let's say, you know, the Trump administration, it's point of view on public health, is, you know, it's funny to have the beauty look of the second Trump administration be so overtly artificial, one that is only possible with injecting, you know, synthetic substances into your face and at the same time they're

saying, raw milk, only, you know, that's got to be more like a vaccine schedule. Yeah, like there's, there's a, there's a similar built-in contradiction between the, you know, the aggressively prescribed naturalness, quote-unquote, and then what the face is look like and what actually has to go into the faces for them to look like that. Let's take a short break. If you're just joining us, my guest is Gia Toletino, staff writer at the New Yorker. Her latest piece is called our plastic surgery

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It's been a minute. We talk about the many shapes and forms they come in and the scrutiny they face. See what shaping culture this week? Watch or listen to it's been a minute on the NPR app or YouTube. This is fresh air. And today, I'm talking with Gia Tolentino of the New Yorker. Her latest piece is about the new era of invisible plastic surgery from six figure facelifts to AI-generated faces. And why she says it's eroding our connection

to reality. We have been more or less talking about women, but I want to bring men into this conversation because some of the strangest reporting in this piece is about young men. There is a 20-year-old influencer who got famous for, among other things, hitting his own jaw with the hammer to look hotter. And what's interesting is I brought this up to my kids. And they were like, oh yeah,

they knew his name right away. So for listeners who have never heard the word, looks maxing

“and this guy, tell us about both. What is looks maxing and who is this guy?”

Well, if you'll permit me to again rewind a little bit to last decade. So looks maxing is a fundamentally reactionary anti-feminist ideology that came out of something, these larger political and discursive changes that happened on the internet last decade, right? So if we can travel our minds through time to an era where Obama was president and there were women's magazines

rather than whatever it is now. And so there were all of these social changes where young women,

you know, feminism was ascendant. It was kind of culturally dominant. There was an annoying strain of it that, you know, I'm sure you remember there were kind of t-shirts that were like, "Lord grant me the confidence of a mediocre white man," you know, there were mugs that said

“male tears. And you know, this came with a, I think a pretty flippant version of beauty. This also”

came with a sort of dove real beauty where it was like, it was positioned as an issue of feminist importance to make sure all women were beautiful. And I remember being in my twenties and thinking, no, no, no, we should say that beauty matters less, not more. Say more about that because that was the time period when, yes, the dove commercials were really big. There was sort of the burgeoning body positivity movement. Yeah, and, you know, the body positivity movement, it's,

you know, there's, it was wonderful and it carried these negative consequences, right? Like it was, it was incredibly meaningful in that the body positivity movement was trying to say and also to commercialize the idea that any kind of body is gorgeous. And any, you know, all bodies, all skin tones, all levels of physical ability that there's beauty in every human, which is something that I believe but underneath it, there was, there was a need, you know, to prove that to render that ideology

kind of workable culturally, what had to be attached was that these bodies can be kind of commercially declared beautiful. And, and that to me is where the danger crept in, where it was like, we're going to have to successfully commodify every different kind of body to prove that all

“bodies are beautiful. And I remember being, I worked for the website Jezebel at the time,”

and I remember feeling like this was a little bit of a trap. Like that we were making it politically important to designate everyone as beautiful, like in an ad campaign or something, where I actually think the trap for women to begin with is the idea that everyone needs to be beautiful. So, right, so it looks maxing comes from these men's groups on the internet and they were organized

around this conviction that basically women don't have or don't deserve equal rights.

And this guy in particular that hit his, hit his face with the jaw, I mean, where does he, who is he and where does he come in and all of this? So, we're talking about Clivicular, who is the 20-year-old influencer who's gotten very famous for, you know, having done micro doses of meth since he was a teenager to lose weight and on these peptides and hitting his jaw with a hammer to, you know, become more beautiful. But again, yes, he's part of a community called Luxemaxers, which all came

up in reaction to the chatter of feminism that was happening last decade. Women asserting themselves as people, they're reacting to me too to women saying you cannot sexually assault us in the workplace, et cetera, et cetera. There was this kind of wave of confidence. You know, I have two young daughters, like girls learn as early as elementary school that they have to be kind of all these things, charming and, and, and, pert and competent and interesting and, and they should try to be pretty

in order to evade kind of the male contempt that hangs in the world, like the cloud, like atmosphere, for the first time last decade there was kind of visible female contempt in the air as well, you know, that you could maybe see through those mugs that said male tears, et cetera. And this tipped this particular community of men, the kind of men's rights, manosphere people into this reactionary you know, political ideology that held like women or subhuman, they're stupid, they're superficial,

you know, they're, they're lesser than us. And Luxemaxing came out of, of this paradigm of men of the world of dating apps and men for the first time being judged the way that women have historically

“been judged by men, you know, men's bodies and faces for the first time, really I think through”

dating app culture could be dissected the way that women's looks have always been dissected.

But here is the part, okay. So, Gia, here's the part that I'm still trying to wrap my head around with this. So, in particular, is so popular, he gets other guys to also do this thing. They think that, you know, breaking their jaw kind of, like, helps make their jawline stronger and working out a lot and all of that kind of stuff. But for all of this obsession around their looks and being hot, you write that the Luxemaxers don't actually seem interested in sex and there is a similar

phenomenon with young women too, what is all this beauty for if not desire? Right. So, that's the thing, right, because Luxemaxing is an ideology that came out of kind of

beautiful, whereas I write, you know, in my kind of degraded millennial youth, if you wanted to get

“hotter really fast, you usually were trying to, usually you were trying to have some sort of fun”

exciting new sex, you know, out of it. And that is so conspicuously absent. It is, like you said, it is beauty. It is, it is trying to summon kind of hotness, but with almost this unbelievably cold, hateful attitude towards not just the bodies of others, but even your own, right? It's, it's, there's eros is totally absent. There's no desire to get closer to the body of another person when the Luxemaxers talk about women who they call foides short for female humanoids.

They want to get hotter so that they can attract women, but as a display of dominance and conquest exclusively. Like any sense that it is pleasurable in and of itself to be with another person, to be intimate with another person, you know, to show yourself to another person and to be seen and to see them that's so conspicuously absent from the way that they talk about their bodies and the bodies of others. And that, too, is part of the, the larger sense that, you know,

we're decoupling from the physical entirely, which is so strange because we're talking about

the face and the body. So if it's not for desire, if it's not to attract someone, ultimately,

“who is it for? Well, increasingly, it seems to be for the disembodied collective, right?”

It seems to be for the, for the virtual audience. Like there's this, I, I feel, you know, I feel that I sense a kind of an eroticization of disembodied collective attention, like maximal, like, maximal viewers. And again, for, you know, for young people, that does kind of convert into maximal profit. I mean, collovicular, it only became collovicular because he's doing this all so ostentatiously that people will watch and he can make tapping himself on the jaw with a hammer

on a twitch stream, his full-time job and actually get quite rich because of it. And so there's kind of an eroticization through that almost of capital itself, which is, again, probably the most anti-human thing you could ever eroticize. Are there other time periods that rhyme with this time period? I mean, you, you actually did gesture in your piece to the way that looks maxors, sea race and disability kind of similar to how a you-genist would.

Yeah, if you, if you go on the, the big looks maxor forums, you know, they have these message boards with all of these ways that you can improve your faces and bodies and, you know, they get really, they get really arcane. And, you know, it, yeah, it happens. Because this is all about,

“like, face symmetry and all of those types of things. That's what we're talking about. Yeah,”

and looks maxing is, is overtly racist the way that, you know, Instagram face that was kind of tacitly racist. It looks maxors are pretty overtly white supremacists. They, they pretty overtly see the kind of white male quote unquote Chad as kind of the alpha human and non-white males as inferior and the same with women. You know, it's a, it's a reactionary retreat against last decade's idea that what if everyone was worthy. It's a really clear reaction against that

and a repudiation of that. Let's talk a little bit about who's fighting against this trend, because you mentioned before that you have written for several feminist publications in the past, Jezebel and the hairpin, those feminist blogs from the 2010s, that whole ecosystem seems to have gone away. So what do you think was lost when those kinds of magazines closed and what's replaced them? I don't think anything has replaced it. You know, the conspicuous absence of any women's

media really, you know, let alone explicitly feminist media where 10 years ago there were,

you know, there were many websites that were ex-designated explicitly feminist that are basically

not functioning or gone now. You can, you can feel the absence of it. You could feel it in the coverage of the Epstein files of the Platner story, right? There is not a healthy conversation about women's lives and the political dimensions of it and these things. There's really no, there's been no replacement whatsoever. And I thought about, so I started, I worked at these websites in the 2010s, but when Jezebel launched in 2007, one of their first posts was kind of about this.

They offered $10,000 to anyone who could give them a non-retouched photo that had appeared on the cover of a woman's glossy magazine because they said, "We are distorting what women actually

we should be." And they got that image. It was a image of Faith Hill on the cover of Red Book. And I thought, you know, 20 years later, how, doesn't that feel wildly quaint to you? I mean, it feels, I found it so almost moving, right, that we thought that we could still hold the line like this, that we thought that we could push back in this way. And now we're swamped in a tsunami

“of unreality. And I think that right now, it feels almost like I'm making a second wave argument”

even in talking to you about this, right? I think what's replaced it is now this idea. There's almost no source. It's like when I was saying I googled, like, should I get a facelift at, you know, in my 30s? And the most cautionary words I could find were, no, no, just do

Botox and filler instead, right? There's a real, there's a conspicuous absence of critical feminist

dialogue saying, here are the structural forces, here are the hierarchical, here's the economic, you know, laying out the political dimensions of even something as superficial as what we're doing to our faces. They're real, and I do think they matter, and there's an absence of publications, you know, red book is itself out of business, all the glossy magazines that Jezebel was protesting in the first place. They don't publish anymore. If you're just joining us, my guest is New Yorker

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You mentioned, you mentioned your children earlier, and you also wrote in your piece, how Kylie Jenner, who was famous for among other things, altering her face, says she'd be heartbroken if her daughter got surgery as a teenager, and I'm just wondering when you look at your kids, what do you see coming for them, and what is your plan to navigate it? Let me illustrate this with an anecdote. So a few months ago, my five-year-old daughter had seen a friend

that had been handed a phone at drop-off or had been handed a phone at pick-up or something. She was like, "Mom, one, can I get a phone?" And my husband was walking real hallway, and he just started laughing, and my daughter was like, "Why did he laugh?" And he was like, because I know that how much that broke her heart, and she was like, "Well, Mom, why did that break your heart?" And I was like, "How do I explain this to a five-year-old?" And what I said to her, as I was like,

"You, your imagination, your sense of freedom, your sense of what's possible is the most beautiful thing about you." And as soon as you get a phone, all of that will start to shrink, all of that will become endangered. The most wonderful things about you will will be captured and rendered inadequate by the phone. And I think that's true, you know, with, I think that will be true with her inevitably her relationship to her physical self. She'll find

herself perfect and amazing until she sees the things on the screen that start to tell her, you know,

you can find fault, and you can improve. And I, you know, I guess I think about my own behavior

“is the only thing I can really control. I guess I want her to see me valorizing the human,”

and valorizing, you know, the actual human and not trying to improve and protect and beautify myself in my life in a way that where it seems like that's a priority. How do you do that? Because I mean, you write that the beauty ideal is basically a mark of obedience. And then you admit on many days you still want it. You want to be seen as conventionally attractive.

something that you still want? Yeah. I think that's the question, right? I think that's the question that this, that I hope that this piece raises, right? And it's a larger question. It doesn't just

“have to do with beauty. How do we look at a world where the incentives are so anti-human?”

And how do we deal with it? How do we live within it? And how do we where do we hold our ground?

And I think the answer is specific to every person. But I think, I think specifically with me,

I wrote about optimization in my book in 2017. And after I wrote about it, it became clear, that I could feel a difference within myself. I could feel a difference from wanting to perpetually improve and perfect versus trying to take care. And I think just on a personal level, that's the division I'm trying to draw for myself, right? That I can enjoy going yoga, trying to get stronger. I mean, I die my hair blonde. I wear makeup every day. I have no

cred as a second wave radical that's resisting this altogether. And I don't think it's wrong to want

“to be beautiful. And there's one of the reasons I think there's a pleasure from a young age,”

we probably also understood there's kind of a pleasure in seeing what could I be? Girls are lovely girls want to self-improve the way that, and the way that that gets captured by these systems is almost what I want to, you know, what I feel the desire to protect in my daughter. How do we separate the desire to kind of make something of yourself from the desire that will

lead you straight to capture in all of these systems? And I think for me, you know, I just never

want her to see me becoming deranged by this, becoming actually captured by it. I think I think she will see me her whole life, you know, responding to it, living within the system, you know, but I never want her to think. I never want her to see within me that the purpose of being a woman

“is to be as beautiful as possible all the time, you know, and to never look old, to never”

change, to always look like I did when I was 26. I never want her to see those incentives that exist on the internet be written on my actual activities in life, and I hope I can hold myself to that for her sake, you know. Gia Tolentino, thank you so much for this conversation. Thank you so much for having me. Gia Tolentino is a staff writer at the New Yorker. Her new piece is called "Our Plastic Surgery Nightmare." Tomorrow on Fresh Air, the creator of the Netflix

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