You are not alone.
Whatever the case is, let's get rid of that old story.
Let's rewrite a new one and let me help you step into your full power. Because I know what your capable love and I want you to see that as well. Kasha Day is a resilient purpose-driven life coach and the founder of Deep Wave's life coaching. Drawing from her journey of overcoming abuse, loss, and adversity.
She empowers survivors to heal, reclaim their voice, and transform pain into purpose. A lot of us are stuck in this in that mindset of, I'm probably going to die this way. No, but it doesn't have to be like that, you guys. That's the thing.
“So awareness is number one. You have to understand what it is that you're feeling.”
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“Welcome back to another episode of the Living Your Legacy podcast.”
The women in power addition for Insight's success. I am Ray Gutierrez. Joining me today. Oh, what? What a day. It's a day.
I've got a cheat sheet here. It says here, "Tosh a day is a woman in power because she transforms pain into purpose, guiding others to heal through deep waves of life coaching." Yes, sir. Thank you so much for having me here today.
It's a pleasure. Right on, do you, your energy is radiating. As I bounce my microphone back and forth. You clearly just finished filming your episode for a woman in power. Yes.
I can tell. Yes. What are we going to learn about you?
“You're going to learn how to take all of the trauma and the abuse and the chaos that you have lived in your life.”
And I'm going to teach you to rewrite that. Break free from those limiting beliefs and rewrite your story with strength, power, and authenticity. I love all that. You mentioned my life. How about generational trauma?
The stuff that I didn't even know happened. Exactly. A generational trauma. That's a good question. You bring that up because there's a thing called epigenetics.
And that gets carried through our grandmothers down to our mothers down to us. So initially, what happens is we don't know this, but we do carry on our grandmothers trauma. It is in our genome. And once I started recognizing signs in my own children of depression and my daughter really struggling with suicidal thoughts and stuff right after my mom passed away, I knew that I had to do something within myself so that she wouldn't feel this pain anymore.
So it started with me and now it trickles on to her. So I have put in all of the shadow work, all of the generational trauma work that you could possibly think of. And here I am breaking those chains today. Fantastic. I'm all about this, especially for someone that was raised by their grandmother.
I am completely familiar with generational trauma. Yeah. Talk about how you're empowering folks and educating folks about this trauma that is unseen, but it's very much, very much felt. It is felt. And it is silently carried by a lot of us.
And what we need to realize is that you are not alone. There are so many people struggling with abuse and addiction. Whatever the case is. And my job is to step in there. Help you rewrite your story because I know that it's been dictated by so many other influences in your life.
Most likely friends and family. So let's get rid of that old story. Let's rewrite a new one. And let's let me help you step into your full power because I know what your capable of. And I want you to see that as well.
I love that you're your your your intonation, your musical tone is nice and high.
But I'm sure it hasn't always been that way.
I'm sure there was a darker part of of your story. Let's let's dive deep a little deeper. Yeah, I struggled with depression and anxiety. Most of my life, but I started really feeling it in my teens. I suffered an ectopic pregnancy.
I dropped out of high school. I've been through so much.
Of my parents.
has to end and I'm gonna prove it. So hold my beard and watch this. I love it. So folks that are truly walking the divine path. Well, out even knowing are thrown these miraculously dark challenges and they
“figure out, wow, that was quite a lesson. If it wasn't for XYZ, I wouldn't be ZAB. You know what I'm saying?”
Exactly. How are you putting light on this on this subject matter? Because boy, there's a lot of darkness out there and there's a lot of folks that are angry. How are you truly putting a light on their
day? Yeah, good question. So the most important thing for me is awareness. Awareness is key. If you don't
know what you're suffering with, then how are you supposed to fix it? Oh yeah. So we're gonna dive deep into your childhood traumas and your past. Recognize where you came from and realize that that doesn't have to be you. You can be something else and someone else. I always like to say this is like every time you open up a comic book or watch a Star Wars movie or listen to a song, that all that is about you. It just happens to be created by someone else. That's actually you,
you, and you're like, it's a whole different podcast. No, yeah, it totally is. I was born and raised away. I mean, I figured out all this stuff when I moved out to the West Coast, if you catch my meaning. And I'm back in Miami. Now I'm, I feel like I'm sort of like a weird wizard in front of this
microphone. I love that. So I appreciate you coming on the show and making me feel a little less crazy.
They know this. I have my own podcast show. So I know how it feels. It's okay. All right on. How are you reacting to folks being attractive to such a bizarre message? Like, things suck, but they will get better. Right. And that's where a lot of us are stuck in this and in that mindset of, I'm probably gonna die this way. Right? Yeah. It's like literally. I am, what, what do I do?
“Or in the waking up and go fuck? Yeah, we would do that. You should be miserable forever. Yeah.”
No, but it doesn't have to be like that. You guys, that's the thing. So awareness is number one. You have to understand what it is that you're feeling. And because our emotions create our thoughts. Oh, yeah. And then in turn, our thoughts create our actions. So if we can go back and rewrite our emotions where they really come from, I'm going to emotionally regulate you as what's going to happen. And I'm going to build up yourself confidence to where you're not going to recognize yourself.
You're going to be like, oh my god, who am I? That's what happened for me. Oh, yeah. So I know it's possible. I mean, there were so many nice and years even of me not wanting to get about a bed and me close nearly the death almost. Oh, yeah. I have an anniversary date. Yeah, I do too. Yeah. So yeah. Yeah. It's, it's kind of scary to be a survivor per se. Because now you're just like, well, you know, I'm going to do the life thing. But at the same time, I have the
ability to to stop. It's, that's a, that way the way it really works. That's a power that's not really shouldn't be blessed to anyone because we are our divine energy. And I'm going to go on this whole ramp. But I don't want to solve all of you. No, no, no, this is all about you. I'm going to persuade this rent into your energy. What is your daily grind? What is your daily affirmations? You, crawl at a bed and now you're seeing the light and feeling in your heart. Yes. And you spring out.
What's the first thing you do? Practice gratitude. And the first thing I do every single morning is
name three things that I'm grateful for. And it could be the socks you're wearing. It could be the air and your lungs that you're breathing. It could be the food you're eating. But that's where it starts is gratitude. Practicing gratitude will open up your heart chakra, which has been closed off for
“so long. Right. That's what it does. It does very much the thing. And so really opening up that”
heart space, that's when the power of manifestation becomes real. Oh. And it becomes aligned with who you are at your core essence. So gratitude and awareness are the top two. The gratitude and awareness. Let's let's talk about the awareness. Most folks aren't aware that there is a spiritual warfare happening around. There is. There's tons of frequencies. There's all sorts of photons and protons and darks matter that we do not see. We're not designed to see it. We're just
we're just divine humans. I use 10% of their brain and our eyes are only a design to see what we're allowed to see. How do you educate the folks about what they're not seeing and what they really should be feeling? It's not about the science about the field. Right. So how I would do that is a lot of chakra work. You are totally unaligned. So we would do body scans. We would check where you're aligned. Check where you're not aligned. See, that's the thing is recognize what no longer serves you
anymore. And you know what? If it leaves you lonely, which it will, because you're going to take out all the trash in the garbage, right? Because we're rewriting your whole life story. Get rid of the trash. Step into your clear mindset and let your creativity just flow. So I'm going to tap into your
Heart chakra.
want me to or not. But you're going to be there. Obviously, you want, you want me to do the work for you
and with you. And I'm absolutely all for that. But those are the things that I'm going to really teach you how to do, really tap into that heart space. Because that's really where it starts. I love all this. But I got to ask, how do you onboard the devil's advocate, the skeptic? That's like, what are you talking about? The clearly the barriers are up and no one's getting in. How do you start nicking up that energy and going? It's real. The forces real. It is real. Follow the heart.
Like how do you, is it a zoom call? You said energy scans and like it goes beyond next
“range. This is like different kind of X-ray. It is. And board me. How does this work?”
And I am a truly dark empath and so when I. So when I do that 15 minute onboarding call with my client, I'm going to see if our energies, I can feel energy within like 10 seconds. I can read you within 10 seconds. So I'm already by that conversation. I'm going to know whether I want to work with you or not. Is that great? That is great. So if you are one of those people that's like a skeptic and you don't believe in this stuff, I can't work with you. I literally can't because that's going
to drain me and my energy. So if you're like, I caution, I am so broken inside. Help me, please, please help me. Ben, I will work with you. Yeah, that almost sounds like a prayer doesn't it? Like you're speaking on and someone's come to help you. Absolutely. Yeah. No, you're so right. It's funny how that works. Gosh, I want to dive a little deeper. What is your tribe look like today? Is it just you and a partner? Is it just you and a camera? Is it a flock?
Like my tribe is so beautiful now. I can't even tell you. I came from people who abused me my entire life. So I like to say that I am two years clean and sober from chaos. Wow. Wow. That's just a great way of putting it. And the way that I did that is I built up this community by starting my own podcast show and with that comes a lot of people that I have interviewed like authors and doctors and psychedelic facilitators and just everybody that's in the healing
“community, I can't believe I never even knew this other world existed before trauma, right?”
Yep. But here I am building this community and I'm like, oh my god, you guys are fuel for my soul. And we just have this, it's beautiful. Yeah. So start by finding your tribe, finding your community based off of what you feel in your soul and in your gut. Don't base it off of someone else's story. Yeah, things don't happen to you. That happened for you. For you. Yeah. And being a negative positive, when I had my anniversary about a couple of years ago,
I went through that process where it's like, this is going to take about five years for the whole universe that kind of just evolved. So for those five years, Ray, let's isolate and hide. No posting, no nothing. Just heal. Yeah. Just heal. Take five years off. Yeah. And when you figure out a time compressed those five years, I'm going to feel like five minutes. Yeah. And it truly feels like it happened to yesterday. Yeah. It's so true. And I was taught when I began my healing journey
believe it or not, the very first piece of information I picked up was the book called the secret.
Oh gosh. Here we go. Yeah. Oh, from there and just literally took off. I'm like, ooh, I want to know more. I don't know more. Then now I'm into secret geometry. Now I'm into this. And this isn't just like, ooh, give me more, more, more, more, more, more, more, more. So yeah, the more that I learn, I'm able to help my clients so that they don't have to do the work. I already know.
“Mixed with my medical background, that's what sets me apart from most life coaches or therapists.”
Yeah. That's beautiful because a lot of folks will step into this reality and kind of just wave their arms around and pretend they know what they're saying and then they succumb to like their own ego and then everyone's in pain. Yeah. Nothing gets fixed. And I know tons of life coaches that are just, I got their certificate. Now I'm life coaching. Well, that's great and downy, but that's the knowledge and the experience behind that. And I guarantee you, these are the
life coaches that are always stuck in traffic never find the parking at the right time. Nothing's
aligned to them. And when you can feel that this alignment, you got to just stop and what are the Jedi's do? They meditate. They meditate. Absolutely. You have to meditate. And if you a lot of people don't know what meditation is, right? No. Well, meditation is literally just sitting alone in a quiet space with your thoughts. Okay? Listen to what it's telling you because we're so stuck in the stuck in this grind. Go, go, go. But nobody's sitting for five minutes to listen to
what your heart really needs inside. So what it looks like is just sitting, I don't care where you sit on your bed outside on a mat with your dogs. I don't care where you sit, sit, close your eyes for five minutes. Focus on your breathing. What is your breath doing? Are you holding it? Is it too much? Is it fast? Is it slow? Pay attention to your breathing. Pay attention to the grounding techniques. So like if you are overwhelmed and you get into a panic attack,
reach for those 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 grounding techniques that really get a little grounded. Exactly.
Yeah.
thing called a remarkable. And I've noticed that I don't like to type digitally anymore. I've said
this is AI. I need to tell my users thing. It's going to be an AI thing. It's right in me. The real me is going to be writing. Exactly. Even if I'm writing the same thing over and over again, there's a reason why my body's saying let it out. And I can see my anger, my pain, what I'm going through that moment in the way I'm writing in the way I'm writing. Why is that? Because
“you have a lot of somatic therapy work that you need to do with yourself. Your body is so stuck”
literally. And I don't know if you've heard the book The Body Keeps a Score, but it is a real thing.
It is real. And I'm keeping a score. I'm like, oh shit. Yeah. And so that's why writing feels so
good. If you're moving, dancing, singing, humming, you're expressing energy. And while you're doing that and you're going to the gym, you're doing the same thing. You're releasing that energy to bring you back into a calm state of mind. And there you can meditate from there. Because it's already in a calm state and you feel good. Your endorphins are going. The, woo, the happy emotions and the, ooh, feel goods are going. So yeah. I love this. It's very easy to be celebrating
on this side of the spectrum. But then there's all the Sith lords and the darkness, the folks that
“are thriving in that in that field of dark, but are still very motivated to be light. Talk about”
folks like me that are in that world and going, yo, black and gold is cool. Damn, you know, these other bright colors are great. Why does all great? I get it, especially as a as a as a some tiddle. Color means something. It means something to the energy. Without the light, there is no dark and without the dark. There is definitely no light. Right. Yink to yank, talk to folks that are still stuck there. And they're literally going. And they're like, well, maybe I should
do this, please a listen to us. I am so glad you, you just did that because that's where I used to be. Literally, I wanted to end my life. I didn't care. However, if I were to take that TV screen and turn it around, what would be on the back of it? Yeah, it's just the table, right? But when you turn it around and you see that where you see that beautiful painting right there, eyes open. So what does that mean? Perspective. As long as we can change our perspective, we can get our mindset right,
because that's where we need to start is in our mindset and listening to motivational speakers and really educating yourself with books and podcasts and everything you can get your hands on open up your perspective because, oh my gosh, it's so beautiful. When you take those glasses off, we're like, oh, it's beautiful. Yeah, it's great. Gosh, what a great phenomenal way to end our and wrap up our Thursday. What's a great place to find you and continue to discover more about
you and your journey? You can find me on Facebook and Instagram @deepwaveslifecoaching and you can find me on my website at deepwavescoaching.com. Deepwavescoaching.com. The real deal right here, and I can feel it. Any closing comments? Anything you'd like to say? I would just, I want to leave the audience with this. Your story, wherever you may be at right now, you may think that you're disqualified, right, based off of your story. But that disqualification
is only someone else's perspective. Use that disqualification what you think won't fix you, get your story out there because you could possibly save someone's life one day with
“your story. That's what I'm hoping to do with mine, and I know it's working. So the more we talk”
about it and the more we release it and show that it's okay to talk about these sensitive subjects, the more people will come out of their shell and be like, oh, okay, she's talking about it. I want to talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Yeah, yeah, let's talk about it. Gosh, now we have to stop talking about it because this concludes our podcast. But with that, I'm sure folks are going to continue finding more about you and gosh, to be continued.
I'm already looking forward to your second episode. Yeah, that'd be great. For Insight's Success,
this is Tasha Day, and I am Rigotiers.
