How a Bodybuilding Champion Found Real Self-Worth

And sometimes it's a thing that you don't notice.

So sometimes now this is one little excerpt is buying people you trust and you love like what

“is it something great about me that you look up to right and it's got people that are honestly”

coming from that space that you know they're being sincere and you can actually sit back and think to that stuff like a lot of people have told me I have a really great way of just being positive people want to be cheered up they call me. Christine Clark Skalka is a dedicated strategic and market savvy real estate professional and the driving force behind her upon a Miss Brand Christine Jane Clark.

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I believe that we all came from the essence of love but with through the situations of life that we your raised in and the environment we're in all of a sudden we start a questionnaire value. Are we enough or are we good enough? We're not just one person. We're not just not just a business owner. You know, we're not just a woman. I'm going to be a wife. I'm a mother.

“I'm a friend. It goes on and expands on and on and that's what love is all about.”

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The living your legacy podcast for those who live to leave a legacy. You can live your dream. Hello and welcome back to another episode of Legacy Makers. Joining me today is Christina and she has been on a journey from Persians to Bodybuilding to become an entrepreneur real estate. Now a whole new mission where she's a speaker podcaster writing a book really to help people

with you know that love is the answer and I'm going to leave it open there and let her explain that. So welcome to the show. Thank you so much, Ritty. So talk to us about this new, you know, it's very different to quarantine and doing weights and deadlifting and bodybuilding and now you know you've kind of gone into this new venture and it's you know about love and all these great things we were talking about offline. So can you explain this new mission

and venture? Yeah it's quite a difference, you know when you go to weightlifting, bodybuilding,

“you know what you have to do like so many reps, so many weight up your weight, you want to get”

able to book up you know what do you need to eat? All these things right now. It comes to a morbid journey of loving yourself. It's a totally different aspect. There's not a checklist of what to do or which order to do it but it's in a awakening of opening inside and saying what is that I'm missing inside that I'm feeling this emptiness and it's something that's missing here that only you can get. You can't get it validated from the outside world. When it's also the

opposite bodybuilding is very visual, right? It's on the outside how you look in the mirror and you know whereas this is hard to contextualize right? A monitor and you can't see it necessarily. So what got you into this new venture? I think it's just my whole life. There's been a path

inside of me. It's always been calming for something bigger. I wouldn't say more but bigger in the

way is helping other people more than just myself, right? It's like bodybuilding and you're saying it's easy to go on stage. Well it's not easy. It's not easy on stage. That bikini is the itty video stringy thing that you're going to ever probably wear. Well I'm going to wear. So to put that on stage and whenever everyone is so vulnerable but the fact is that when you get done like you were talking about you know you get that accolade to get people looking at you you get judged

on it but when you get done you don't look like that anymore. Then you really question to who am I because I don't look like that stage fit person anymore? Like oh my gosh I drink too much water and I have some salt and I'm pregnant and I'm not right? So I think this the message I have is that the love has to come from inside because if you knew who you were you know you to understand all this is part of the body. This is how it's responding. This is what the process is. It doesn't

make me less of a person. It doesn't make me less fit just because I'm going back into drinking more water that is good for your body. So my discovery here is waking up inside and saying I am loved and I think that is actually the essence of who we all are and once we acknowledge that and see it within ourself is easy to radiate that to others and it comes like this contagious. So you're really like when I piece us together it's you know for the audience it's kind of you're really

helping people with many aspects of psychology self-esteem right and I think that's so missing in society right now like I meet so many people and they actually even successful people they look really great from the outside and much like body building and it's very common in the body

are super insecure that's why they get into it which is really ironic and I actually see the same in business some successful people I get to know them and you can pick up these patterns

“that are actually really insecure and that's why they do all the showing off on the business”

sign the jets and the yachts and the blah blah blah so it's I think very much needed but why

why did you why did you now get into this what's the story behind that well the truth is I'm

50 years old and I have this one life to live so what's the message I want to leave with everybody it's not that I've won a crown it's not that I won the pro card I will say one of my greatest accomplishments at being a mom I have four kids right and that rate is trophy ever right there but the fact is when I leave I want the legacy of people to realize that by being who I am and being authentic and then being authentic like no more doing what everybody else expects to do and I think

sometimes that's the thing that wakes people up to is something fills off and doesn't flow right just because of people are saying like the acknowledgement you know I understand the acknowledgement of saying like you said people that are successful in business and I was saying you see their true life and it's like whoa I'm not quite as strength there when you look inside yourself and you find out that that's just kind of an entry reward and look at side and you say you know I'm valuable

and I am enough and I am loved and I am the essence of love it just changes things you look at things a little bit different a little more upbeat you know going through a lot of different changes in my life for you know everybody has a story right it was like when I was a child this happened and then you grow up and these become who you are those stories you've lived but how can we change those around to empower us and to see the love it was it actually the essence of everything that was

there and then when you own that with in yourself it's easy to share that with other people when it's funny you brought up one thing that about you know when you were a child where is the more I've dived into and got to me you know a lot of great people saying this chair around you know self esteem and psychology and mental health most of it actually roots from childhood you know it made me realize I had a very lucky good childhood because I don't necessarily have a lot

of these self esteem problems and problems are a lot of people suffer with for a very long time so I want to ask you if someone's listening and they are maybe successful on the outside whatever they have a six pack or a six hundred thousand dollars in the bank account either or both but they do struggle with a self esteem sign they don't maybe love themselves how how do they work to fix that I think the easiest way is to look inside and find what you're great before

and sometimes it's a thing that you don't notice so sometimes now this is one little excerpt is find people you trust and you love like what is it that's something great about me that you look at you right and it's got people that are honestly coming from that space that you know they're being sincere and you can actually sit back and think to that stuff like a lot of people have told me I have a really great way of just being positive people want to be

cheered up they call me I didn't realize that was a gift right so some of us have this gift inside other people don't see like hey what is my gift that you see and if you say you start to see it then start acknowledging it inside like oh my gosh and find the greatness for it like I am so happy and grateful that I am able to look at something and as terrible as it's been being to flip it around and see something positive out of that situation so I think that's the

“thing that would be important for people like that because I think is important to look from”

a different lens right so even in business you know you're often in your own business that's why you bring in consultants because you're so in the weeds you can't see from the 30,000 foot view and I think it's the same in this context of like you see yourself a certain way and and often something you're great at you assume it's normal or everyone's great at it so you're like whatever that's just normal whereas actually someone else might be like no you know I love

you for that and no one else is like that and that's what makes you cool and special and yeah that's maybe a great way to start to hear that enough times that you kind of think okay that's that's my thing or that's one thing that's great about me and then assuming you brought up with the

grateful side is and I try and remind people of this and always myself too like contextually most

of us in an least America we still do have a pretty great life even like you know I always try and remember if I get down or it's like there's a lot of people starving and dying and in war zones

“around the world so I think that contextual side is so important to stay like rooted to what's”

great for you in your life because it's always easy to figure out what's going wrong even the billionaires have a lot of things going wrong right or whoever right there's someone that wins an Oscar or the rock you know they have things going wrong but they have a lot of great things too correct and I think also when you keep focusing on that great thing you just see more right because like a magnet just like negative people can sit around I mean how and for me being a woman and

having children it's crazy how you can talk about your birth story and everybody has a worse

birth story than you now interesting it's like oh yeah but for me I always a labor for 24 now

I don't I don't have one of those just like well that's why I'm saying for women right something but everybody has like something worse I was in the start of that path of like negativity

my life is so great like I get up every day I have clean water you know even thought that today I'm saying this hotel I got up and the water is cold and I don't like cold water I like a hot hot shower right I'm going oh my gosh okay Christine be grateful it's clean it's at least clean water let's go to the junction right this is someone would just love to have a roof over the head or an or water in general right in Africa wherever so yeah I think it's so you know the first

“well problem jokes right it's really a thing and I do think it's you know obviously you should”

optimize your life and and as you get more successful those you should always keep optimizing it

to get to what you have this perfect environment so that's just important but the flip side is yet not letting it affect your whole day which I mean is what a lot of people do correct they do you know you're talking about like first world problems I work with the home builder you know do you have me people coming and be grateful for the house and I'll have people that will nick pick every little detail and it's fun to sit back and go okay this is a third world of

problems you know this is a first world problem that nobody else in a third world problem would even see yeah so I totally agree on that so let's talk about the book and the podcast and speak and what what are some of the topics and things you're doing there well I'm brave enough to love again it's about the journey of discovering who you are because I believe that we all came from the essence of love but but through the situations of life that we your raised in an environment

we're in obviously we start to question our value are we enough are we good enough you know a lot of people don't have that self esteem which I'm so glad that you were taught in a way that it sounds like you had a great childhood you know and I think that's amazing and so I think people if they can remember they were made they're amazing as they are and that the essence of who they are is love

“and that's what the book's about but also the tagline I know is confessions of a healing heart”

because there's always some part of you that has felt hurt or betrayed and you got to go inside

and fix that and find the love for yourself even going through those situations and sometimes you think things are healed they'll show up again for you and you'll see and go and why thought I had this all hit they had it fixed but let me go back into it and love myself and see what it is well there's triggers right just like if a wall veteran has PTSD they can get over most of it but if there's a bang you know that might trigger them and then it's the coping mechanisms so that's

work for that but and let me ask you if someone's wondering because I wanted this too and I first met you how much is it about like love relationship love anything to do with it is there an interest wine how so great yes that because I'm getting married to some you know it was married from a three years god divorce getting remarried it someone different not the same guy and my daughter when I told her the book she's 18 she said mom I really don't want to hear

about you and just relationship like come on and I said no honey this is about you learning to love you yeah but also when I learned to love me then I found this great love of my life as well so right it becomes a smag me that all of a sudden that things will show up I even opened up

me opening up about I actually met my birth that I had never met in 50 years I heard about him so

all of a sudden that became a healing process that I didn't know I needed they him just type in the simple words I love you even though I had never met him before I started crying like whoa what was that I had had no idea that trigger was gonna give me that way I thought I was fine I didn't need a dad I'm 50 I'm a wrong woman you know with kids of my own so I think that's the

“amazing thing is love is the essence of who we are and so that's what the book is about but it”

applies in relationships finding your own love me yeah and then a business right and then friendships and pretty much everything you know your life's all about right yeah so so how could just for I understand but for everyone listen how does it connect all those big elements of life because I think it's all all incorporates who you are right we're not just one person we're not just you're not just a business owner yeah you know we're not just a woman I'm gonna be a wife I'm a

mother I'm a friend I'm it goes on and expands on and on and that's what love is all about it incorporates in every and Susan every portion of life that you have so if the essence of who you are is love it is the groundbreaking it's kind of like the soil gets the water right it's the water that comes to soil helps grow the plant when I mean it's also fundamental for success in all those areas because I mean if you don't have that entirely you're always chasing the next thing

and you're empty yeah you're chasing the next million dollars or the next win in the race or the bodybuilding contest if it's health and fitness or in relationships I mean the stereotype of typical one is you're chasing love off someone else because you don't have it internally right great and that's just empty calories right because you're it's like eating a Twinkie that has no nutritional value you didn't you're like okay got here and now I don't feel like I thought I was

going to fill that's because you don't fix it inside yeah if it's yourself first good so just as we wrap up you know something you said earlier stuck with me and it's the reason you're on this show and part of this show and everyone sat there is you woke up one day and realized well you know maybe bodybuilding isn't my future right or what I want to be remembered for my own business and want to eat chicken rice the rest of my life so like let's talk the legacy side it seems to be

like this is you found the thing that you really want to be remembered for and spread around the world and empower people with is that is that the case that is the case so that it starts at home I

then I want to spend it on on out yeah well and I think you know the kids things interesting I'm

done have kids and like and I've always wanted kids a little later because I wanted to mature and

get my business is good and I'm glad I have because in the last five years or so it's I really you

“know developed as a person I think I've realized and again I'm not parents I'm not an expert”

but probably the most powerful thing you can give your kids is self esteem like if you can give

them that then they'll probably be okay in every aspect to my eye and I have a really strong feeling you're gonna be amazing father when the time comes pretty yeah yeah yeah yeah you were good and and just you know talking about the legacy side what is something that someone will learn

“from your full episode that they've maybe not heard about in this podcast I think the biggest”

thing to go is you are the essence of love embrace that honor it see it appreciate it because when you appreciate it you'll it will grow great and last question if someone's like you know really kind of listening in and they're fascinated by this and this whole concept and maybe they're

“going I need to get on this right like I know that's maybe a weakness of mine a lingering weakness”

I've had because money people carry this for years from why understand them people I meet right where do they start with you like where's the best place how do they find you find me on my podcast okay what's it just let's go through that where's the podcast it's brave enough to love again yep and that's the podcast that's right and social media anywhere good time you don't change in clerk and one more time with the book that's coming up yeah the book is brave enough to love

again confessions of a healing heart there we go all right guys well that's a wrap hopefully you enjoyed today's episode obviously go check out the full episode and the story neverting

else behind it that we think of today and as always keep working hard having impact and build

a legacy I'll see you soon take care