The depths of the girl who wouldn't die, I'm talking about facing death at gu...
I'm talking about facing death in medical malpractice lawsuits, medical professionals
“look me in the face and in tears as I'm waking up from 11 hours, surgery and saying”
baby girl you died my arms 10 times today. God just gave me the strength to overcome those times so that I can share my story with the world. Ashley Thrasher is an author, entrepreneur, speaker, and the bestselling author of the girl who wouldn't die. After overcoming childhood trauma and becoming a teenage mother, she turned her experiences into a mission of healing, resilience, and helping others rewrite their stories.
Don't give up on yourself, like learn to really love even those darkest parts of you,
but it's what keeps me shining because I've never, you can't dim my light now, you know,
like I've lived in the darkest parts of it. So this is the best time of my life and I thought I already lived that and ready to do this, ready to share my story and be part of a change in the world
“that I can only dream of being, this is just the beginning of the big picture.”
Living your legacy podcast for those who live to leave a legacy. Oh, that is sensational to open. She covered with the latest and Paul is the foxes not on the planet. You can live your dream. Welcome back to another amazing episode of the Living Your Legacy podcast for Insights
Success. I am Riga Tarras. It's been a mile, but we finally have a legacy maker.
Now that we've, we've, we've graduated to other shows like Women in Power, Operations CEO. It's nice to bring in home, even almost call it retro. Unlegacy Maker. Joining me today is Ashley Thrasher. She is an author, but she is most importantly a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a Cinderella cleaning co and the author of the girl
“who wouldn't die. What a title. What a, what a story. We just finished filming your episode for”
legacy makers. First of all, how do you feel? I feel like I'm living my dream like this is a dream. This is a dream come true. I'm, I feel magical. I'm really excited. Well, we spent a lot of time together. I know we just met and I, I feel like I'm just getting to know you, but you share a lot of, a dark stories, but followed with much brighter outcome. Where do we, where would you like to begin present day or in the past? Where would you like to start? I'd like to go talk to my
past self five years ago and just take girl look at us now. Yeah. Yeah. Like, just give her a big hug and tell her how much I love her. Now how much I loved her then, but how far have really come, you know, like, grown as a person for sure. And ready to do this. Ready to share my story and and be part of a change in the world that that I can only dream of being, you know, for sure. That seems more of a reality these days. I was gonna say five years ago. The world was a different
place, but you experienced ten times far, I would say a plague with darker, like your, your timeline was far more challenging. And you, you've, you've bounced back to here. Would you like to talk about some of these, these moments these dark memories? All right. I would like to say thank you to God, like thank you to God that my story didn't end in those dark places that you're referring to where I lost sight of who I was or my want to or drive to even continue on for my kids and
those things that I had claimed to be doing it for for so many years, you know, going through the motions of working and being a mom and being a wife and being a daughter and a sister and a friend and all these roles that you juggle raising a family, you know, but I had fun doing it at the same time. It was, it was, it wasn't a reality of the darkness that I was covering up in that everyday-day life, you know, like the things that I was suffering behind closed doors, you know,
in my marriage or in my addiction or in my family struggles, those kind of things that I kept quiet and put on a smiling face and stayed strong for the kids and for my job. You know, I was at the teacher. I was teaching these little kids. I was finding my joy and happiness through their joy and happiness for sure. That meant well, but was not necessarily authentic because of the things that I was going through that I can recognize in myself and say, hey, that's okay, you know, I've picked it until
I made it kind of figure a lot of times that that was best for my children, you know, like a assistant, you don't have to see me suffering in the depths that I really had had been suffering before
Even in that time, you know, the boys, same thing, my little boys, they got t...
mommy most of the time, you know, and they inspired me to keep going because they, I had so much fun
“with them. My favorite times in my life was being miss Ashley and being their mom and taking them”
to church and, well, showing off my cute little babies, you know, like being a mom of three was,
was my dream, you know, it's, it's my greatest accomplishment still, like I'm always going to be
their mom for, you know, but in that I've learned to love Ashley, to be proud of Ashley, to be excited for Ashley, you know, like, um, and really get to know myself. Such a powerful last name, the trash or thrash or like, you're, you're kind of thrash your way through reality, like you, you really are a, a light, but with a different frequency, talk about finding that frequency and how it's uniquely yours. I have to first laugh because I'm actually thrash or now, but I've had many other
last week, so it's, you know, so it's cute to go back to it and identify as that little girl Ashley thrash or an elementary school to Ashley thrash or the author of my, of my book, The Girl Who
“wouldn't die and that's turning into the podcast and the movie and the TV show and the, the program”
that it, that it is and the growth that it's making just gets me really excited. Um, I, I'm,
in proud of her, you know, I'm just excited. It has been a hell of a life, you know, being a thrash or comes with a lot, for sure. I have mug shots from all over the country, you know, that, um, just kind of comes with the name, I guess. Yeah, I was, I was just going to say she really just be thrash or with just that mug shot of. Yeah, it really sure. You know, it should be, it might be the cover of the killer. Yeah, for sure. That's crazy cool. Like,
talk about these bigger than grandeur than life names and how it's attracting the quality clients or people that can relate to you. Because it was that serious, you know, the depths of the girl who wouldn't die. I'm talking about facing death at gunpoint. I'm talking about facing death in medical malpractice lawsuits and things that were, the unheard of, you know, the how on the heck did this one girl go through these over and over and over again, situations of,
literally facing death, you know, of having medical professionals look me in the face and in tears, as I'm waking up from 11 hours, surgery and saying baby girl, you died my arms 10 times today. And I was being beat by my boyfriend at the time and didn't even comprehend what she meant, you know, like, and now to go back and look at her and say, look at you now, like, in beat real and raw with myself about what I was facing and the the strength that I must have
carried and the resilience that I had built in that God just gave me the strength to overcome those times so that I can share my story with the world. Yeah, I feel like other folks that would
“be hosting this podcast were like, oh, wow, oh gosh, no, I'm here like, no, that's how it works.”
Like, you're going to, you're just going to face the lava, the pain, the tribulations and if you, the fight, they're little where you go, the higher you rise. That's exactly it. It's the phoenix, out of the ashes, it's the rising from nothing to the top like that, you know, and Trudden, it just being burned down so many times, you know, it's funny when I was married to the millionaire from Waco, Texas. I love it. That's the only way that you know, like, your son is defined.
There was like mine, like, who were you dating? Well, I was in, that's just like, oh yeah, he owned a building called the phoenix. It literally had been burned down several times, like, from the 1900s throughout, you know, and this building would not burn down and he turned it into a venue that they had weddings and events there, concerts and big events, people in Waco. You know, if you were somebody you had your wedding there or whatever, in that town and
we lived upstairs, like the whole upstairs with our house, you know, and we had this cool basement that we could go down in that felt like dead people were in there, you know, for sure. Yeah, for sure. Just really good times of playing around and that you could go to the roof even of this building. There was not anything to look at for, for God's sake. So you were in Waco, Texas. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get, I get, I got really creative there. Yeah, it did. I grew up in Dallas, Fort Worth area, and then going to Austin, Texas, where my middle son was born Andrew was born in Austin, Texas, in 2004.
And 2007, Aiden, my baby was born in Waco, Texas. Right on. Shout out to East Ulter Street. Got an Austin, that's where I lived. I lived it on for three years. That's really awesome. I loved Austin. She went to a great school there, Laurel Mountain Elementary School that we got to drive up in the mountains every morning and see the deer, just eating and fulcling in the, the meadow literally just in the beautiful hill country of Texas, beautiful place to live for sure. And raise a family. Waco, Texas, it's just kind of where we ended up. Yeah, no, it's awesome. Like that's definitely a different topic for a different podcast.
But the fact that like I always tell people, I'm from Miami, born and raised like, wow, wow, native. I'm like, yeah, but then you add the history of like
Where you live.
Absolutely. You know, we have a different way. We're very resilient. Like, yeah, I hear your trials and
tribulations and you kind of just kick the door down and accept the darkness. A lot of folks aren't designed for that. Here you are. Yeah, it's like even my, my new book that the killers. Great name coming that's following the girl who wouldn't die and it's going to give you the raw insight of the killers, you know, that I call my dear friends and family right now. You know that for whatever reason, whatever role they played in this, it was to the depths of that, whether it's coming from my perspective or theirs, you know,
that they're my heroes, you know, like I love them. I love them deeply. I want them to see the raw reality of what's happened here and understand like this was meant to be the big story that it is and to be heard through it, heard throughout the world, you know, like to change the lives of others, like that and for them to be part of it, you know, because this is exciting for all of us and I say that with my heart full of love and gratitude for each one of them, even the ones not speaking to me,
the ones I miss desperately, you know, that I shed tears for at night when I pray for them, you know, like, um, because I hope they come back around and see this for what it really is at.
My intentions are always from the heart and for the good of everyone, um, even each husband that I had,
you know, each abuser, abuse of relationship I've been in, um, with the boyfriend or fiances, like I said, ex-husbands, I carry a special place in the heart for each one of them and what they mean to the story. Oh, yeah. And the power that comes with it, you know. Oh, yeah, you know, you know, not even anybody out. Yeah, I'm the same way, you know, live harder, live a love harder. Yeah, I absolutely understand. I have forgiven all my evil exes, the Avengers, I like the column.
“Yeah, yeah, I'm the Avengers, I have the killers, you know. It's the key. What sign are you by the way?”
I'm a Gemini. You're Gemini. I'm a Leo. No wonder we have this chemistry. Yeah. Cool. Very cool. So let's talk about your today. Like, you are now out of the pacific, you're, you're looking at the water. It's not the Atlantic out here in the East Coast. What's that energy like being in California? There's a different energy from Texas versus California. Let me tell you, just waving at my neighbors on Catalina Island from my bedroom every day,
just makes me excited. Yeah. I have to tell you if it needs to be. I went over there to visit one time and I had been having a great day and being an adult and drinking adult beverages and tried to rent a golf cart because that's like thing to do in Catalina Island. Well, the gentleman that I was trying to rent the golf cart from took my drink from me and said, "Mam, you've been drinking alcohol through it away." And said, "You're not allowed to ride the golf carts here."
So being in my bedroom, overlooking the pacific, waving to my neighbors in Catalina Island, I have a great time just laughing at the funny of how my life has changed from living in this apartment with my daughter during that time and the things that I, the silly choices I was even making at that in that time. For sure. To be standing there now, living my dream life, like living my dream life with my baby girl in the other room, my biggest fan, you know,
our pets, our two dogs, Noah and Chief and... What screams? Yeah, and then we have Tango, the cat that runs the neighborhood, he is security. You know, you got anything you need,
“you need to take it up with Tango, he's out on the front porch waiting to talk to you.”
For sure, for sure. That's awesome. It's a good time. I got to ask for some of that's on this nice peak. A cloud nine, as they say. Yeah. I was there once and I am in now, but I, I've reached a peak where I lived in Switzerland. My window was like limone. I thought I had it all, but I felt nothing. I wanted more. Now that you feel like you have the more, how do you hold on to that? Do you have a fear of going the darkness would be back or something's going to take
this away from me? How do you just live in the, in the knowing of confidence that no one's going to take this from me now? Because of the depth of the darkness and the suffering that I face, I know I've overcome it all in that way because I found the peace and the joy and the love and the happiness in the depths of that darkness that are incomparable to that bright light. Yeah. It can't be taken from me now. I am it. And this is just like foothoo stuff.
“No, it's a told drill. No, it's a told drill. Yes, it's a told drill. You should be”
definitely. I've been told it so many times. I laugh at it. You know, like in that devious like ha ha ha ha. I've got the laugh of just like go tell somebody else because like it's my story's not over. You know like I imagine myself I was in a class in a, you know, a woman nation class with these women. This woman that was running the class was 81 years old. Wow. I'm 41 years old and this woman is full of life and excitement and teaching me things about my
womb that I've never even considered mind you and I connected with her and she just to hold my hand
and hers say baby you're here at least 40 more years. I give you five deers, 60 and I'm just like yes,
Like I get to go live this until my story to that capacity for that for decad...
you know from from now. So I can't lose sight of it. Now this is this is just the beginning of the
“big picture, you know. Did you somehow we see them movies all the time with like you know the spider”
verse and people be driving through these warm holes. Did you know in your darkest times did you hear yourself in the future calling out to yourself think it's going to be okay? Absolutely. I saw I saw Ashley Thrasher as number one, ballad Victorian you know teachers pet a straight-a student
always in the top five you know like just the number one I'm I'm winning you know like I was always
going to come out of it whatever it was and I was facing you know like it wasn't over yet you know. So talk about what's next for you. An author you're working on a podcast you're getting your message out there you've got a legacy it's in the room with us what's next for you. Man just continue to live it and just love it like I'm loving it and share it with as many people as I possibly can I'm I'm taking it all over the world you know I'm I'm going to speak at events that friends are
hosting all over the world I have friends in South Africa and Tel Aviv Israel you know that are welcoming me with loving arms and can't wait to have me in their country to share these stories that they've got to be part of with me these women worked with me in cleaning houses you know like
“they've faced hard times too you know like you don't start cleaning houses because life is good”
it's funny because you name all these like eccentric cities and it's almost like a modeling catalog but it's like this is the talent that you've recruited to start a cleaning company that is Cinderella cleaning co you talk about some of the lore as to why the name is Cinderella cleaning co Cinderella cleaning co because it stands for literally the that rags to riches story of like you don't start cleaning houses because you're living the best life like you just don't go
live in that you know you let that happens to you because it's a part of your story you know like and like I said I was a millionaire before I owned the I was married to a millionaire before I was
the owner of Cinderella I think of some of my life as always lived in this reverse form you know
like I had a child when I was 15 years old and married three times by the time I was 30 you know that's literally like married and divorce mind you three times by the age of 30 so
“so for to be like wow that's insane you're just like I'm just living as well as part of”
my life and listen as fun as I can think it and as wild and I love telling the stories because there's some funny things that like that can't be you know like that can't be that I can tell someone else and hear myself telling it and just laugh with that older version of or that younger version of myself that I don't recognize her anymore even you know it's a lover and say girl look at us now all like this is incredible so how can folks learn more about you like how can
they find your book is there a website yeah there's uh WW dot the girl who went and died dot com and it is going to tell you everything from start to finish on how to follow my podcast how to watch my TV series when it comes out and my movie when it comes out and who's gonna be starring and how it's all gonna be playing out um the second book the killers when it's coming out how to purchase the first book and the program that it also offers and the journal that comes with it
uh the app that you can um follow or put on your phone to follow along with the program and the journal it's just really it's turned into a whole um a whole movement to love it you know for folks that are watching and they have yet to learn or find out how to find their inner thraster what do you tell them what's some more of advice man don't give up on yourself like learn to really love even those darkest parts of you you know like those days when you
don't know how you're gonna get up and continue on those of the days to really hold on to it and not lose sight of because it's what keeps me going you know like it like I told you before
like it's what keeps me shining because I've never my you can't dim my light now you know like
I've lived in the darkest parts of it yeah so this is the best time of my life and I thought I already lived that you know I just told you raising my three children has been the best gift and the most precious gift I've ever received from God himself to get to spend that intimate time with them as babies and to really be part of um they're growing up and who they are today you know and spending that one on one time and playing with them because I was a child too and I really
got to get in the floor and play with them and love on them and nap with them and do everything with them as part of who I was and who I am and I carry that with me every day one of my greatest gifts is to be able to go and just feel each one of them in my belly at any given time of just knowing what it is to connect with a soul and another human being from the depths of that place you know like man they they're my reason for all of this what what's the one that holds your power in your story
what what are some of your morning daily affirmations do you have like a daily ritual that keeps you in
That balance that you know you're gonna love this yeah so I have um my my dev...
along with a Bible scripture that Alexis and I read together Alexis does her taro reading
“very cool for me at the same time we have just a very routine morning of of sharing those two”
intimate times together of me sharing the devotional and reading the scripture to her her doing the the cards her pulling the taro cards and she does these divine feminine cards that she pulls for me that I can identify with these women from you know centuries and a history that I can't even comprehend you know the depths of how I relate to them and um we hit hey we break and we go our separate ways and we meditate on the beach and we do our own thing to come back and
just have breakfast together and enjoy our pets and say man this is the life we get to live and let's see what today brings us because it's been it's magical every day yeah it's absolutely attainable and really is it's if we jump on the e-bikes and go down pch on the e-bikes if we grab the um paddleboards and and cross the road literally to the base side and jump on the paddleboards and take a take a picnic lunch on base side of paddleboards I mean we have a good time it's
“beautiful because it's kind of lifestyle that you're talking about his yet is now just now my”
greeting to Miami Miami's very luscious and big and peeing and turquoise and Miami yeah but the mental the the the the regimen the SOPs of that lifestyle are you now just transcending to the world I love you it's just not it's happening in brickle like this this movement it's happening where like Miami's still very much the old ways where you got to jump in a car and drive to the ends of the earth and by the time you get through your upset yeah we're going to bet a festin you just have a thought
you walk out you feel dopamine and and and expand and it's yeah you connect with it yeah yeah I feel the movement because of my movement front my literal movement from Texas to Florida from Florida to Texas again back to Florida for a minute back to and then to California and I'm just part of that change that's evolving that you're speaking of because I've carried it with me you know like I started it in Florida and living it like to its fullest in California now it's from the
Atlantic to the Pacific I literally lived on Atlantic Avenue in Daytona Beach to not live on Pacific Avenue in sunset Beach California and can you tell me real quickly before we wrap up there truly is something different in the water it's it's there's something it's just different yeah and it's home I'm home in in California I love Florida I can't wait to get back to California because it's home and I connect with God and everything in between when I get there you know like
it's just it's where I've always wanted to live I'll wrap up with this when I was a little girl my
parents took me to Madonna's house of course when I was about nine years old and to do the walk of fame the stars in Hollywood and I'm gonna have my own star one day very soon and I cried at Madonna's house because I just wanted to go in her house and see how she lived and in all these things because I just wanted to know what it was like to be like Madonna you know like it and I've carried that with me my whole life my sister and I had a lack of prayer dance that we still
know to this day that we could video tape in front of everybody if we wanted to be silly about it
“just to remember those two little girls that went to Madonna's house in California all those years ago”
you know it's so funny that you picked that story because one of my very first early gigs when behind the scenes was now becoming a thing in folks were burning DVDs it was me filming a gig at Madonna's house oh my god and in this guy at the Miami house not the all-in-house but she oh she has she has she used to have a house in my viscaya cute bungalow with gated
one I first earlier gigs and they would Madonna's she had a pink it was literally pink gated
place in Beverly Hills my parents took me this year and oh I just remember standing there and taking pictures with the polaroid or the little snap camera that I'm on had just standing crying when I'm to go in so bad you know it's crazy how Madonna was preaching this like very thing that was real back then in the 80s and 90s and now everyone can do it today it's so beautiful right I'm living what she was preaching to us and it just makes me feel good like what a music video would
be an artist whatever I booked let's do it let's make it happen and it was so hot ahead of its time really it is really welcome to back to the future future to the back here we are here yeah thank you so much yeah then the last last question why do you feel you were chosen as a legacy maker because my world is my my story is gonna change the world literally it's going to change the world just in giving hope to the lost and hope to the broken in a capacity that you can't deny like I said
you can't you can't put my light out now you know right on if I can survive it we all can you know what a way to end the podcast and with that this is actually throusher and I am raga chairs and we are inside success
