OPRAH WINFREY: The Life Lessons That Changed Everything

if you was like, "I'm not kidding you. Can we please do that?" Well, we can actually do it.

“We're going to do it. I'll give you the list too. Who else is there? You know, who else should be there?”

Please. Chris Jenner should be there. I love Chris. Ellen should be there because we were just talking about you. This wonderful guy, Alan Levi, who's written this wonderful book called The Old Golden, should be there. I mean, anyway, we'll talk about you guys soon. We'll talk about you guys soon. We'll talk about you. It's okay? Hey, it's Jay. I don't know what your day's been like, but I was just thinking about you for a minute. And I hope you're being a little patient with yourself because you deserve it. And yeah, I hope you're soon.

Oprah Winfrey, welcome to On Purpose. I am so excited to be able to have this conversation with you. Oprah, I have to say to you, and I say this to you, when I see you, I said this to you, when we had few interactions during the pandemic digitally. Yeah. This show on purpose exists because of you inspiration. Oh, thank you so so much of what I do is

inspired by you and powered by you, the incredible work that you did, the conversations that you

“continue to have the eager ear that you have to continue to listen to learn to grow.”

I feel extremely humbled today that you came and trusted me in my platform that you've given me the opportunity to have this conversation with you. I'm completely all of you online offline by the scenes for the last few decades of my life. And so this is the greatest gift you could have ever given me. And knowing that I get to have dinner with you is just that we're going to do it in my mind right now.

We're going to do it. Everyone in the world knows you're a swim free. Everyone in the world knows all the incredible things you've done.

But when I think about you, I think about it before the TV show, before the production company, before the success. And there's a little girl in Mississippi and I want to ask you what's a childhood memory that you have that you feel you hold on to the most after all these years. That's so interesting to ask because I just was looking at a picture of myself before I came here.

“That sits on my desk of my little eight year old self with the braids and I think, wow, that girl could not have imagined this life.”

That my dreams were not big enough to hold what has actually happened to me. I had no idea that the world could be this vast, this big with this many possibilities. The memory that I hold on to is one I often share when speaking to people who are interested in manifesting or not sure about manifesting for themselves. It's being four between four and five years old on the back porch with my grandmother hanging close out on a line. She was a domestic worker and she had brought all of this laundry home from the white family that she was caring for.

It was cold and I could see the moisture from her lips and she was saying, "Oper gale, you better watch me now because one day you will have to learn to do this for yourself." And I was turning butter. Do you know what that is? Turning butter because we had no running water, no electricity. You know, we killed the chickens. We killed the hog. With hog killing time. I took the cow out the pasture. I took the pea pot out to empty it every morning so we were living like the pioneers. But all of that is a foundation for me being who I am today and also having such deep appreciation for where I've come from.

But I remember my grandmother saying, "Oper gale, you better watch me now because one day you will have to learn how to do this for yourself." And she was taking the clothes pins out of her apron holding them in her mouth and putting on line. And I remember this feeling Jay. It said, "Mm-hmm, that will not be my life." But I had sense of not to say it out loud. But I could sense that this isn't whatever you're doing, this isn't going to be for me. I have held on to that connection to that feeling my entire life. And every forward moving decision that I've made that has come to any level of success has come from going back to that feeling.

What is that feeling you felt when you knew that your life was going to be bigger than the back porch in Mississippi, than the dirt road in Mississippi?

But I want to say, "If you ever felt it, you don't have to meditate for hours. You don't have to do anything but go back to what that feeling is that allowed you to know what you knew."

And so that's my fondest greatest memory of Mississippi and leaving there. And I will tell you that not until probably 2020, just during the pandemic, when I was going over a book that I had written with Dr. Bruce Perry about what happened to you. And in that book, I was telling the story of growing up my grandmother and one night her being accosted by my grandfather and being afraid in the bed and then for years and years and years having fear in my home and not realizing that that's where that fear came from.

But I was looking back at the story of my grandmother, I lived with my grandmother from 1 to 6, and was supposed to start kindergarten. And two weeks before I was supposed to start kindergarten, my grandmother was in an accident. And I got sent away from my grandmother as a six-year-old who's only known my grandmother, has only slept in the bed with my grandmother.

“And sent to Milwaukee to live. I thought for many years that that is the worst thing that had ever happened to me.”

But instantly going to Milwaukee, I knew I wasn't going to see my grandmother again. So I never was the kind of person or child even that would hang onto.

I wish I had my grandmother because that feeling, the same thing that told me this isn't going to be your life, said you're not going to see your grandmother again. And so I knew that I was supposed to start kindergarten in a part-eyed Mississippi. I would have started in a classroom either with a black teacher or with a white teacher. Who's belief about who I could be as a young black girl didn't go beyond the borders of Mississippi and what a black child could be or do at that time. Instead, I get sent to Milwaukee and I walk into a classroom with brown and a couple of white and black children, all playing kindergarten with their ABC blocks.

I looked at those kids and I thought, I do not belong here. I got to get myself out of here. And on that day, wrote my kindergarten teacher a letter saying, I don't belong here. I know a lot of big words. And I wrote out all the books of the Bible because my grandmother, who couldn't read, but taught me the Bible. So I knew all the books of the Bible. I was reciting all the books of the Bible in church. And so, beginning with Genesis all the way to the revelations when I finished all those books of the Bible,

handed them to my kindergarten teacher. She said, who did this? And I said, I did miss knew. And she marges me to the principal's office and said, this girl said, she did this. The principal made me do it again. And I was put in first grade that day. So I did it again and I got put in first grade.

“So that's why I first learned speaking up for yourself, taking agency for yourself in that moment. When I walked into that classroom and saw kids who were not the same color as I.”

I felt empowered. I felt like I can do this and I can get myself out of here and I'm not going to be playing with those ABC blocks because I know more than you.

And that feeling has carried me through my whole life. It is why I have never, ever experienced a moment of imposter syndrome.

So when people started talking about imposter imposter, I was like, well, please explain to me what that means. Because I remember feeling like, well, I know I don't belong here, so I'm going to prove to you that I need to be someplace else. Yeah. The reason I share this story is because for everybody who's had something really bad happened to you in your childhood.

“And you think that that was the worst thing that could possibly happen to you. That thing is the foundation and the builder for growth to come in ways that you cannot even imagine.”

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The first thing that I wanted to point out to everyone who was listening, which was just so powerful,

was this idea that even Oprah did not dream as big as your life has become. No! And I love that for people because I think we're living at a time now where everyone's dreams may be trying to be bigger than they are, but then our actions are smaller. And what you

“see on your side is your dreams aren't even that big. You just know you need to get out of here.”

I didn't know. I mean, now I have to say I am blessed to live this exalted life. I am in awe because I didn't even know. I remember on the dirt road next to my grandmother,

there was this airfield on the other side and there'd be these little prop planes. I didn't

know they were prop planes at the time. I used to just dream of being on a plane like that. What would it mean to be on that plane? What would it mean to be able to be able to fly? I didn't even know that there was such a thing to aspire to. So what I have done, I will say, is lean into God's dream for me. I believe that the universe, the creator, the divine, the life force by whatever name you call it, has a dream for all of us. And that's why you were born

“and I was born. And each one of us is here to fulfill the purpose of that dream. And so that's why”

I love that your podcast is called on purpose. And I feel that what you are doing here on Netflix and throughout the world is an extension of what we started to do on the Oprah show. Absolutely. And I feel that you are one of my children because when we started it, you couldn't even say the word spirit. I remember doing a show with Carolyn Mays who wrote the book Anatomy of Spirit. And we were sitting there with the audience in the nineties, early nineties. And she'd written

the book called Anatomy of Spirit. And we were talking about mind, body and spirit. And I could see the audience glazing over. Looking at their shoes, picking their nails, doing the thing. So I stopped the show and said, hey, hey, guys, what's going on? And a woman said, I'm saying, we don't know what she's talking about. What is she's talking about? Is she talking about Jesus? Somebody says she talking about Moses? What is she talking about? I said, what no, she's talking, you know, you have a

mind, right? And you have a body, right? And you have a spirit. Nobody in the audience in the early nineties, knew what that was. Wow. So I started doing a little segment on the show called remembering your spirit, trying to teach people that there is more to us than our body and our mind. Unbelievable. In their early nineties. Yeah. And now you're sitting up with a podcast on Netflix, talking about it every day with you. Yeah. I know, but I'm telling you. And at the time when I started

talking about it, because it was so important to me, I was on my own spiritual journey. I was taking God out of the box, because I grew up really strictly religious. But God was in a box. If you did this, if you wore pants on a Sunday, or you danced, or you wore earrings, and then it started to hurt me. How could you be an omnipotent power universal divine energy and be upset over somebody's earrings? Yeah, whether they were dancing or whether they danced on Sunday or more pants. I mean,

it just started to not make sense to me. And so around the time that I started to take God out of the religious dogma box and opened it up to God is all. God is all things and all things in us. And through God, all things are possible. I started to lean into that dream for myself. What is God's dream for me? So I am where I am and continue to be where I am because the prayer that I have

“prayed and the question that I have asked for my life is I think one that can be useful. So anybody”

watching or listening us today is how can you use me? Use me. Use me. Show me. Use me. And lift me. How do I rise to the calling that was my life? How do I do that? So I've been in search of

that answer since I was a little girl. Yeah. And first it was news and then it was the talk show and

then it was the national talk show. And now we're sitting here with you on Netflix talking about this thing talking about the stuff, opening up your life to all that it could be, all that it can be.

met. His name was Shula Prabhupada and he wrote a prayer that said, "God, I'm simply your puppet. Make me dance, make me dance, make me dance, use me, use me, utilize me." Yeah. And as I was listening to say that, I also want people to get the perspective. I mean, is it true that you, your way of playing, was to interview concoct dolls? Yeah, it is a true story. I mean, I had concoct dolls and I'd sit there and I talked to them. I mean, as a little girl,

growing up in a small rural area with your grandmother and a senal grandfather, I had to invent ways of entertaining myself. And I do know for sure that it's growing up with the church as my foundation that gave me the confidence to speak in front of audiences, that gave me the ability to feel like I was valued. Because, you know, my grandmother was harsh,

she, you know, I got with things and, you know, I never really felt loved. But I felt valued

when I would speak in public. And I'd been speaking in public since I was three, four years old, speaking, doing pieces for the church. Jesus rose on Easter day, hallelujah, hallelujah. All the angels did proclaim. I was doing in Victus by William Ernest Henley. By the time I was

“seven, eight years old, out of the night that covers me, black as a pit from pole to pole, I think”

whatever God's there be for my incongruable soul. And in that, you know, he talks about, I am the master of my fate. I'm the captain of my soul. I didn't know what I was saying, but I would put it on my mirror. And I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul. Which became sort of a mantra for me as a young girl. So I have, I've been led by, I would say, the hand of God by divine guidance, my whole life. And I've been trying to listen to it, listen to it.

And follow the path that has been laid from now. Have I made a lot of mistakes? And every time I made a mistake. It's because I didn't listen. Yeah. I mean, can you, if anybody listen? Yeah. Any time you made, you made a mistake. It's because you overload that feeling. That's still small voice. That's within every one of us that says, now you shouldn't do that. You should go this way. And you're like,

“no, no, no, I think I should do. You shouldn't do that. You should go this way. And so for a lot of”

people that take you a lot of, a lot of detours to get back to where you should have been when you let your head over rule what you know your spirit is trying to tell you. So I'll say, yeah, don't you think? So I was talking about this with friends. So how many people are walking down the aisle and listening to us right now? There's a wedding coming up. And you know, you should not be going down that out. Wow. Yeah. But the invitations have gone out. The party planners, the flowers have

been picked. The thunder, thunder, thunder, and what are people going to say? And the bigger question is, what are you going to say? When you're in the life that you know, I mean, don't you feel this way, Jay, that everybody makes mistakes. But when you know ahead of time that it's going to be a mistake, you just want to slap yourself. Those are the worst. You want to slap yourself. You want to slap yourself, because I knew better. Yeah, you knew better. You saw the red flag. I saw the red flag and I kept going.

Yeah. I kept going. Yes. And everybody gets the red flags. Yes. We know. We know. And that's when we're more upset ourselves. We're not upset because we're surprised by what happened. We're upset

because we're always new. You know, we know. I always say it comes in a whisper and the whisper.

It's just like a hmm. That's odd. Hmm. I should do that. It's just a tiny tiny tiny. It's tiny.

“The truth is quiet. It's quiet. It's quiet. It's quiet. It's quiet. And it gets louder and louder and”

louder when you're not listening. And some people just have to have a tsunami. They just have to be hit over the head. Yeah. The literally was talking about the other day with someone that it almost feels like God and the universe has an alarm clock that we keep putting on snooze. So the first thing that's really good. I like something and you put it on snooze. Yeah. Then it gets a bit louder and you go, no, no, no, I'm going to snooze again. And then ultimately the alarm clock, the people are

really doing relationships. They do it in relationships with personal relationships and they do in relationships with themselves. They ignore the sign. But I think about what are the great lessons that I have learned that I would want to pass on. One of the greatest ones is that exactly what

Glinda the Good Witch was trying to tell Dorothy. You've always had it. You've always had the power.

That there's none of us who's been raised by, you know, decent parents with a sense of values of knowing what's right and wrong, who doesn't feel that thing inside of you and that most people

and they ask everybody else. Yes. Or they are subconsciously always asking society in the world

“to tell you or them who you are or what you should do or how I should make this move or what”

you're doing and you always had it. Yes. Nobody has the answer other than you. Yes. And so you can ask all of your friends, even if you're going to buy bad pair shoes, if you love the shoe, you don't have to ask anybody. But when you're not sure, you ask everybody else. Yes, everybody. Yes, everybody. You ask the woman in the store and she goes, well, I think it looks really good. Of course, yeah, of course she does. And so my thing is come back to that still small voice that is

the knowing inside yourself and be guided by that. And if everybody could just do that, but it's just so much noise, Jay. So much noise. That's why I'm so fascinated by you sharing your early stories and days as you are so beautifully because I think when someone's been prominent for a long time and as you have a close decades, we forget that everybody thinks I just grew up with a hundred percent. And I woke up and I had all that I had. Hundred percent. And dirt road.

Yeah. I mean, not only dirt road, dirt road, where people were eating the dirt on the road.

“Because there is a certain, I don't know. I think when women are pregnant or something in the”

south, they like to eat the darn people would come on the road and they get the dirt, maybe the road. I mean, literally I grew up with, you know, my little chores, which I was too young to have those responsibilities, but taking the cow out to pasture, milking the cow in the morning, bringing the milk in, going to the well. I shouldn't have been sit to the well. There are things called wells. People where you go to the water and you pull up the water and you,

so I started from zip. I remember speaking in a third grade in the Bronx years ago in this,

and I was telling that story and a little girl raised her hand and she said, "Did you know Abraham Lincoln?" I said, "You know, I didn't know Abraham Lincoln, but we did grow up the same. Yeah, that's good. Similar living circumstances. Did you know Abraham Lincoln?" Yeah, but I feel like for you all she talked about this, they're abusive experienced. You were pregnant at 14 years old. I was not supposed to be here. This is really difficult,

traumatic, tragic circumstances. Like genuinely, like these are, this is not an easy life. At the time that I became pregnant, y'all, in 1968, I'd been molested since I was nine. So by the time I became pregnant and I wasn't even sure Jay, how babies got here, but the girl had told me on the playground and explained to me that what I was doing,

“what I was secretly doing being molested, that that's how babies came.”

So I remember at nine years old after being raped for the first time and hearing this girl on the

playground talk about where babies came from. I remember thinking then, I must be pregnant then, I must, I'm going to have a baby and going to whole year being terrified. So I was first molested by a cousin and then molested by another relative and then molested by a friend of the family and then molested my uncle. I was just speaking to someone yesterday who was overcoming this trauma in an institution trying to deal with all of it and they were saying, you know, it was like,

did I have a sign on my head? I go, no, it's not a sign on your head, but every molester knows the child who's lonely, knows the child who won't tell, who's afraid to tell. And I said, I was one of those kids and you obviously were one of those kids because I have, in it since interviewed many molesters over the years because in an attempt to try to understand what it happened to me and help other people, they have told me with their own voices that they choose

the kids and groom the kids that they think will not tell. Actually the thing that freed me when I was 42 and did this interview on the open show up until that time, I still carried the guilt. Even though I was telling everybody else and I'd read all the books and I'd done all the research and interviewed many people saying, it's not your fault, it's not your fault. There was a part of me that felt that my nine-year-old self was still responsible. And then I started looking at nine-year-old

girls. When you look at a little nine-year-old girl, you just can't imagine that somebody would rape that girl. And then I interviewed a guy who said that he tried for six months

did be games with everybody and then the games became more like playing twister on the ground and then

“he said I tried to touch her knee and then I touched her thigh and then he said, one day it took me six”

months to get to the point where I felt I was comfortable enough to touch her breasts and he said, I just rubbed up against her breasts but I held my arm there too long and she said, hey, what are you doing? And he thought, oh, I went too far and I went and told the wife, he said, I hate it when people call their wives the wife. I went and told the wife he said and I got to her before her daughter did because I knew that if I got to her before her daughter did, she would believe me and not her

daughter and that is what freed me. Do you understand? That is what freed me because I realized

for the first time. It was planned. It was planned. I was set up and every kid who has been

the lesson was set up. They planned it. They thought about it. They strategized and so the tickling that I had for years blamed myself because I let him tickle me. He started tickling the bottom of my feet and then it grew to touching my body parts and before I knew it, it was out of control. And so for years I blamed myself for the tickling until that guy on the upper shelf explained how he had

“groomed his daughter and I realized, oh, the tickling had been planned. And I remember when I went”

to tell my father after his brother had violated me, my father said, I was 42 and my father said,

well, was it really rape? And I realized, oh, this is why I never told. And I said, Dad, I was 14

and he was 49. So it would not have mattered if I had walked into the room and buck naked. He had the responsibility of an adult. This is the reason why I never shared it before. So yeah, I became pregnant at 14. I didn't even know that I was pregnant and I'd been sent to live with my father. So I was living with my mother and I get sent away to live with my father. And when I came into the house, he hadn't seen me for years. And my father said,

well, I tell you one thing, you've been in Milwaukee and you've not had the rules and regulations, but in this household, you do what I say. And he said, I would rather see a daughter of mine floating down the Cumberland River, which is a river in Tennessee than to bring shame on this family. Oh, my gosh, with pregnancy. So you're going to have a curfew. You're going to be home by 10 o'clock. You're going to be that I was already pregnant. And I knew that if my father found out my father would,

you know, you want to kill me? He said, I'd rather see you floating down the Cumberland River.

“I can't imagine how you felt in that moment. And I remember being sent to the doctor at 14,”

after my ankle swollen. And the doctor said, either this is a biggest tumor I've ever seen or your daughter is pregnant. He said to my father, and my father's sense of shame, I took that shame on. I left the hospital in the baby, died a couple of weeks or a couple of months afterwards. Now, I don't even remember the time frame. I just remember I came home and I was in sort of a suspended reality. I'd gone back to school,

nobody at school knew because of anybody at school had known how to been kicked out of school. Those were the rules then. And my father had said that now you can no longer go to school because you have a child. So now this is going to be your responsibility. And so after the baby died,

my father said to me, this is your second chance. This is your second chance.

And if I were you, I would take advantage of it. And I did. I became a major,

were about performing. And I was doing that to prove that I was worthy of being a good person.

“And it wasn't until I was 42 and did that show with like five different molesters”

that I freed myself from the shame. Because I carried the shame. No matter what you saw, I still carried the shame of still my fault. I was still my fault. And I realized my family, you know, now a girl gets pregnant, the family either embraces it, the child is adopted, they bring the child into the family. It's not the scarlet letter. And you have brought shame upon this family. But in my family at the time, it was it was scorned. It was it was a really bad

thing. And I thought of myself is, you know, I'm this person who can achieve a lot. But I have this thing behind me. It was my greatest shame. And a member of my family, my sister, my sister, who's no longer with us, became a drug addict and went to the tablets and shared that story. Oh my god. And I thought that that was going to be the end of my life. I thought, okay,

“that's it. It's over. And it wasn't. And it wasn't. So I remember getting the call from the”

National Enquirer saying your sister is sitting here in our offices. And she has a story. And when that story came out, I was not able to get out of bed. I just thought, that's it. It's over. Because I had a lawyer at the time who said, to me, what would it or any stories that you wouldn't want to get out or you wouldn't want to tell me everything,

you know? And I told him that story and he goes, never share that story, never share that story.

So I always thought, if you ever shared the story, everybody's going to think you're really, really, really bad, terrible person. And they didn't. And that's the double shame you're carrying. Yeah. Because it's almost like you're carrying the shame from feeling like it was your fault. 100. And now you're carrying the shame of what will people think of you from now? Because my father said, I'd rather see floating that horrible and river than to bring shame on the

name of this family, it actually became the most liberating thing I could have done for myself. Because after the tabloids, I felt free to discuss on the show my own abuse and me being able to talk about it in front of, you know, audiences of women, open up the floodgates and you realize, wow, you are not the only one. You are not the only one. I'd heard this woman when I was doing a talk show in Baltimore in the early years, had told the story of her, of herself being

raped, molested by an uncle. And as she's telling the story on the air, I'm just like, whoa, this has happened to somebody else. And I went into the green room afterwards and said to her,

“I can't believe. I can't believe that's my story. And she said, why didn't you say something?”

And I said, I was too ashamed. I couldn't. And so the next time somebody shared something on the air, I said it, I came out with it. But still hadn't said, and I had a baby. And I had a child. And I was molested and I had a child. Anyway, thanks for the therapy, Jay.

No, I mean, thank you for taking us back there at such a painful moment, but also how incredible

that you were so curious and so open to healing and growth that you were willing to sit and interview molesters. And that became the thing. And how poignant at the point you're making is so powerful. And I feel like anyone who's listening who's been through anything like that would feel so liberated and freed here. And you say that because we don't realize that the person who's been hurt is the one carrying the blame. The person who's been taken advantage of is the one carrying the

blame, thinking they allowed that they did that to themselves. I still talked to people all the time. Just yesterday, the day before I was talking to a man who's like, in his 50s saying the same thing, but why didn't I tell and why didn't I think? I call you didn't tell because you didn't feel

who is any good at it is going to pick the child who's not going to tell. And every molester

wants you to believe that it was your fault. Every molester is it's a seduction. So you're laughing because you're getting tickled. You're enjoying it. You're having a good time. And then before you know it, your pants are down or his hands are in your panties. And you don't know how did I get here. So I just feel like there's still so many people who are carrying the shame that I carried. I have the tears, but the tears are really for the girl that carried that shame. I don't

feel that anymore at all. I absolutely was able to free myself and release myself when I understood, and I went in search, as you said, I went in search to find out and that wasn't even the first group of molesters. I started talking to molesters because I wanted to understand how and why they did it. What was their motivation for doing it and how they were able to do it and live with themselves

“and doing it. I interviewed a young boy and I think it was in his thirties at the time who started”

molesting his sister when he was 17 and his sister was five. And he said, it would have been better if I had killed her. I would have been better off murdering her because I just murdered and ruined

her life. So she will never be the person that she was supposed to be because of that molestation.

So I, you know, over the years, I probably did 250 shows on, you know, sexual assault, molestation, children, because I was in search of the answers for myself. What have you learned about the difference between someone who that becomes the breakdown of their life and for you how it became the breakthrough of your life? Like what have you learned about the difference in how people who are hearing and they may be in a breakdown can actually go, oh, that's not going to stop

me. That actually could propel me forward. Well, I think for myself being able to have a level of success after the pregnancy. For example, if I had been taken out of school, none of this would have happened to me. If I had, I had been deprived of an education and then had to go get a job at a whatever salary, working for whatever, just to take care of my child, I might have had a very, very, very different attitude about life. But because I was able to go back to school and as my father said,

“take this second chance, I was able to see that you are not the worst thing that has happened to you.”

You can go forward, you can continue, you can have successes in your life. And I think for a lot of people who didn't get that chance for whom having the child then put you in a circumstance where now you've got to work and then you've got to take care of yourself and you've got to pay the rent and you've got to do the life just keeps piling, piling, piling, piling, piling on. And you feel like you've been put into position where you no longer have a choice. Well, I can see from

certainly my perspective that you always had a choice and even if I had been given a low-paying

job and then you try to get another job and a better job, it just would have been a, well, I've never ever would have made it here. But it would have been a longer route to whatever we call success being able to be comfortable in your life and being taken out of school and not having an education would have just been the end of me. Yeah, it would have been the end of me. And so the difference

“between picking yourself up and allowing it to be an open window to something else, I think”

depends on what happens and how it happens and who you're surrounded by. I will say that through all of this, I still was listening to that voice. I was saying to God, how did this happen to me? Why is this happening to me? What do I now need to do? And even when I was thinking about ending it all for myself, I didn't really want to end it. I didn't want to be in that kind of pain and suffering. You know, as I think a lot of people who attempt suicide, they don't want to die.

You just want this to end. Yeah, I want this pain to stop. I want this to be over. And so,

my whole life. There is just no other explanation for me a black girl from rural Mississippi

to have been in the places that I've been and exposed to the things that I've been exposed to. In an era where I would have to say, I didn't even think it was hard, Jay. I look back at, you know, my early career in Baltimore and my early career in Nashville. And I was off in the only black person in the room and certainly the only woman in the room and only me. But it didn't even occur to me that that was a problem. Because I thought, well,

if I got the opportunity to be here, it means I'm supposed to be here. And so, this is how it happened. I want to contest because shortly after this pregnancy, I was one of the kids chosen to go to the White House for the White House Conference on Youth. I was speaking. I was an orator. I was doing all these things in school that gave me a higher profile. I was chosen by a local radio station

to be in a contest for the Miss Spire Prevention Contest. I win that contest. I'm in the first black

girl ever to even be in the contest. Nobody did ever. So this is 1970. And I win the contest.

“I'm shocked. It's always everybody else shocked out it. I win. And I win the contest. Why?”

So all the girls are in this pageant. And you're asked the question of, what do you want to be and do with your life? I was going to be a teacher. Two of the girls had used the teacher explanation. So they had said teacher. Somebody else had said teacher. I got to come with something other than teacher. I was thinking, God help me. God help me. What could I be? What could I be? And I thought the thought comes in my head. I'd seen Barbara Walters on the today show that morning.

I'd pass the TV. The TV was on. And I saw Barbara Walters sitting there being Barbara Walters. And out of nowhere, this answer comes into my mind. And I say, I want to be a journalist, a broadcast journalist. And I want to use journalism to help stories, to tell stories so that people can see the best of themselves in these stories. I don't know, I pull that out. That's crazy. There's, yeah, yeah, came down. And so I go back to the radio station to pick up my prize,

which is Long Jean Watch and the digital clock radio. Once it blip. And there's a DJ waiting in the corridor. And he says, oh, you're that kid that just won that contest. He goes, have you ever heard your voice on tape? You want to come in? You want to come in my studio? You want to hear your voice on tape? And this DJ sits to me down. His name was John Heidelberg, sits to me down, tears off some copy from the AP wire machine to say, here read this. And I'm

going to record your voice and let you play back and let you hear your voice. And I started reading like Barbara Waters. And that guy says, hey, Larry, come in here, read, come in here, hear this kid read. And before you know it, I was surrounded by five guys watching this kid read,

“because I've been reading since I was a since my grandmother. And that's how I got my first job in”

radio. Unbelievable. Unbelievable. Unbelievable. Hand to God. Yeah. Hand to God. But I can you can see it. Yeah. Yeah. But you're listening. But I'm listening. You're listening. You're tuned in. I'm tuned in. You're you're following it. And you're ready. And I'm ready. You're ready because you walked into that room. You'd already had all these skills that. Yeah. That's what I say, luck is luck is preparation, meeting the moment of opportunity. Because I could have been a kid

stumbling through the thing. And he just said, okay, here kid, here's your tape. Yeah. Instead, I was a kid who read like I knew what I was doing. And he calls in everybody else to listen to me and they say, would you like a job in radio? And I ended up working after school. I was 16. And then I get a call from the local television station when I was 18 in college still saying, we are interested in hiring you for TV. And I'm like, well, I don't know if I can do TV because

“my dad, I had a 10 o'clock curfew. And my dad was like, you have to be home. But I'm doing the news.”

And the news isn't on until today. That's hilarious. That's so good. And so I had to have my professor, Mr. Cox talk my dad into letting me have the jobs that could be on the news. Because

I had a 10 o'clock curfew. I did. That's amazing. All right. You're going to do that news. You're

going to be home. That's amazing. That's amazing. That's amazing. And so from there, you know,

you know inside yourself. I had the feeling that New York wasn't for me. I had the feeling that

LA wasn't for me. I had the feeling that Chicago was for me. And I was feeling there you go. To feel the trends. Not the trend. Everybody is trying to get to New York. That's the number one market. It's the number one market. And LA is the number two market. And at the time, Chicago was the number three market. And I was on someone else's audition tape. And I get the call. I knew at the time that the call came that it was time to go. I could feel it. And everybody listening to us,

you're working at a job right now. You're in a relationship right now. You feel already. The whispers that it's time to move. And if you lean into that feeling and allow yourself to be

“open to it, you can manifest for yourself. I believe what is the calling for your life.”

But you've got to be willing to respond to it. I mean, you know all this. No, no, no, no, you know all this because this is how you're sitting here. Oh, no, it's so reassuring and reaffirming. It's affirming because you've already done it. And now you see it. I'm just mirroring it back to you. There's so much more confidence in hearing you say it. Yes, but it's so much more. It's gravitas and wait for me to hear it from you. I'm telling you it's the truth. You are the master

of your fate. That thing that I had learned seven, eight years old from Invictus, you are the captain of your soul. You are the one. You are also working with the greater forces of your life. And

“regardless of what you call it, what put you here? What is the reason why you are here? That's what I'm”

trying to do right now. I mean, I went to the spear to see you too. Okay. Oh, you were at that legendary. I was on that moment. I was on that moment. Yeah, iconic moment. What's there? Well, overall feeds. No, no, I wasn't there. I just watched it on the feed. Like it was all on my TikTok. Oh, my god. That was nice. It was a night at the end of the YouTube concert where we've been screaming. It's a beautiful night. I went to the edge of the of the seating and I couldn't tell

what it just happened because it all disappeared. And I couldn't tell, was that the sun where we outside was like the what just happened. And and I just stood there and I tell you, Jay, I had that feeling again. I thought this was fantastic. What I just experienced. But this sphere could be a tool for taking people to the edge of the universe. And you could have the most fantastical experience.

A meditation and consolation with yourself. I just thought, wow, what an incredible tool,

what an incredible instrument for creation. Yes. And allowing people to have a multisensory experience. So I went back and I called my friend Jennifer Rudolph Walsh. And I said, Jennifer, I was just that spirit thing. And it was unbelievable. And I think you could do something really, really fantastical there that would allow people to touch the inner parts of themselves in

“a way that they never have. But I just let it go. And Jennifer says, well, you should do that.”

You should get this person. And this person, I'm saying, it's not about the people as much as it is about the experience. How do we create an experience that immerses people in awareness of why you've come to the planet? I want to remind people of why you're here. Why are you scared? It shows, why did you come? What is your mission? And are you on mission or are you off course? How do we get you back on course and ignite the light of your life in such a way that you see

the highest possibility for yourself and your connection to the rest of the world, the wholeness of everything. And that you leave fired up inspired from the inside out. How do you do that? You tell us, I mean, okay. So I'm doing it. I want to know, wait. So you have this experience that you too, you feel this. Yeah. You, you, you, you can visualize it. You're more serious. I can see it. I'm today, you guys are going to tell us what this is. I want to know. I'm doing it. I'm actually doing it. So we're calling

it, aha, aha, aha, moments of awe, hope and aliveness. Oh my gosh, are you kidding me? That's amazing.

on the go for show, I just love every time anybody have it. Aha, moment. And aha isn't to me telling you something. And aha is you remembering what you already knew. Yes, real awakening,

something you forgot. It's real awakening, what you always known. I was thinking about

everybody's like, you're not speaking up about politics. And you're not doing this. And you should be

“saying this. So you should be doing this. And I think it's hard to be heard in a world where there's so”

much noise. How do I get people to come back to the stillness of themselves? And the stillness of what we know is the source of all things. And reconnect to that thing and ignite that within themselves. So that you go out in the world and you show your light and your grace in ways that lift the world up. How do I get people to do that in a way that they actually see the rising of their life? You see your connection to nature and your trees and the, you know, to divine all of it.

And you were able to do that in a way that makes you feel lighter and better. So that's what we're going to do. That's beautiful. And so we can people come by tickets. They can come. They can come. So we're about 20 and third, fourth. We're turning Sin City into Soul City. I love that. So 20,000 people. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 18,000 people. 18,000 people per per show at three years. Four shows.

“Four shows. Yeah. Two shows on Sunday. I want to come. Well, you must come. I would love to be”

you must be there. It just fell into place with all of these great creators, Ethan Topman, who did

the Ares Tour for Taylor as Devlin, who did Gaga's tour, who did Beyonce's to creating these incredible

sets and experiences. So it's visual, it's sonic, it's atmospheric. So we're using all the tools of the sphere. Oh, wow. To allow people to immerse themselves in this experience of music, of dance, of meditation, and singing. And you know, Jacob Collier. Do you know Jacob Collier? Of course. Obviously, they're going to be performers. But the audience is its own performance. Yeah. So we have Jacob Collier with the audience being its own performer. That's beautiful. I mean, I saw the

Wizard of Oz their last year. Yeah. And that was I didn't believe it. But I can't imagine meditating in that space. I can't imagine dancing in that space. I can't imagine experiencing that.

“That's why I went to get that went to see the monks. I told you I went to the monastery recently.”

I went to visit the monks to see what that experience would be like. And then I imagine that's experience meditating with your own creating a sound bath with 160,000 speakers. Okay. Not to mention, Max Richter, one of the world's great composers who is sonically designing the entire experience from the time you walk in. That feels like the most iconic historic monumental event of this type experience ever. Uh-huh. Yeah. I got that. You know what I feel like

it is? I feel like it's my offering to the world at this time. Right now. I felt like the world

needs to feel its own heart beating. And each of us to feel that in such a singular, powerful way

that we know that regardless of the chaos and the confusion and all the drama, drama, drama, noise, noise, noise, that there is a reason why you were here. And the Ahah experience that we're creating at the sphere is to cause a remembering. It's to cause people to remember. This episode is brought to you by Ultra, making space for ourselves matters, having time and room to try new things, our feet benefit from more space too. That's why

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there's so much noise. And it's almost like the only thing that breaks through the noise isn't Ahah mobile. Yeah, isn't Ahah mobile? You're absolutely right. Yeah, that's the only thing. When we all have that moment where you sign it going, you know, you have that awe-inspiring moment, that's the only thing that breaks through noise. I know. And so you're actually giving us the

is that everybody that comes along comes in without ego, with full collaboration, with the desire

that we're all working towards one thing. This is our gift, our offering to the world. Yes, you're going to pay for the ticket, but it's a way of saying peace be with you to the world. So needed right now. I mean, I was going to ask you that as you've had this,

“your own Ahah to put on the event and the experience. When you see the noise, what do you do?”

And what do you encourage others to do in the noise? Listen, stillness speaks to me. And I protect myself from all of the craziness, really. I mean, you can do or say anything, and all of a sudden you're getting vitriol from all the thing and people are slamming you in order to, and I have learned to just insulate myself from the chaos and the noise of the world by practicing stillness for myself in such a way that I feel that I can still hear the voice

of God and not be drowned out by the noise of the world. So I have limited myself on the amount of news that I take in. I used to just be in it every day and I just like, it was a regular thing. I don't do that anymore. If there's nothing I can do about it, I will take it in so at least I'm aware of what's happening in the world, but I don't let myself get into the, what are we going

“around? Yeah, and it's interesting, isn't it, that we get really comfortable in that space?”

Exactly. People get comfortable in this space and you just get mire down in it. And so I was thinking, you know, my whole career trajectory, since I was able to make decisions for myself about the show and not be dictated by my bosses, but since I took ownership of the show, my whole goal has been to bring light into people's lives. And I remember when I made the decision to purposely, on purpose, operate the show with intention. I had read Gary Zuko,

Cobb's book in 1989 called "Seat of the Soul." And in that book, he speaks of intention being one with cause and effect. That became my religion. Say that again, because that is so beautiful. Intention is at one with cause and effect. You cannot participate in the cause without experiencing the effect of the intention. So the intention is what's going to drive

everything. And so when I first got that principle in 1989, I mean, I got it, got it, got it, got it,

and started practicing it with every guest, just like you before your show, you're the only person ever done this other than myself is before the show you asked me what my intention was. I started doing that in 1989. Well, and the very first show I did at a woman had lost her daughter, had been murdered by her 18-year-old boyfriend, 16-year-old daughter. And I went into the green woman and I said, "So what is your intention in being here?" And she said, "I'm here because your

producers asked me to be here." And I said, "But why did you say yes? What is the reason? Why?" And she said, "I said yes because I wanted to talk about my daughter's life and everybody else wants to talk about her death. But she had a life. She was loved by her sibling. She was loved by her parents. We loved her grandparents loved her. She was loved, but all people want to talk about is how did it happen and why didn't I see it and talk about the murder? And I said, "Well,

I'm going to exploit your daughter's life to the point where people can see their daughter in your daughter." That's my intention. My intention is to every story I ask you about your daughter. I'm not trying to be a warrior. I'm trying to get you to tell a story. So every person in that audience said, "Oh, my daughter did that. My daughter was like that because people think it can't

“happen to their daughter. But you know it can. So that's what we're going to do. We're going to”

exalt and elevate your daughter's life. So her death would not have been in vain. That's my intention. So I will make sure you get your intention. And that changed the way I did every

show. When you look at your career, it's just it's trailblazing because it's always ahead of the

game. You were talking about things when people didn't even know they wanted to hear about them. Because you talk about fertility. You're talking about grief. You're talking about loss. You're talking about rape and abuse. I remember when we were going about alcoholism and people were like, "Now, just put the bottle down. There's no such thing as alcoholism. It can't be a disease." I mean,

developed a sense of knowing that my intention was a pure intention that I was on the journey with them.

You know, I've always said that I am just a surrogate viewer. I get to ask the questions that you all

would want to, but I just have the microphone. And I think the people could feel, for me, that wow, I was in the midst of my own discovery. All of these spiritual learnings, it's spiritual practices, remembering your spirit. I was learning that too. So when I first learned that intention worked, I now want to share everybody. Hey, y'all, look at this. This principle actually is working in my life. I believe it can work for you too. And that has been my philosophy since I was a little girl

on that dirt road in Mississippi. I'd get a candy bar. I'd hold on to it. I'd hold on to it. It would melt in my pocket. The peanuts would be falling out of the payday bar. Until my cousins

“came from down the road. And I could say, "Well, some isn't this good because I believe life is better”

when you are able to share it and experience it." That's why, whether it's the experience of the spirit that we're doing or whether it's an idea or a book, you know, the whole book club started because I love books. One of my producers love books. And she said, "Why don't we just do this with the whole audience?" And I got, "Well, how are you going to get the audience to read a book?" And she said, "Well, you're going to tell them to read the book." And then you're going to come back and

talk about the book. I was like, "You think we could tell people just to read a book?" And they've done it. And they did it. Now that's thirty years later. I know you know this, but it's important to say,

I hope you know just what an incredible service you've done to the billions of people on the planet

that have been affected by you. Well, thank you for this. And millions of people like me that you've impacted in order for us to do our mission and perform our service and operate from that. But do you know what we do? We'd sit around in the room. It used to be, you know, started out with five of us and twelve of us, and you know, being five hundred eighty of us. But we'd sit around the room and say, "Okay, what's going on in your life? And what's happening

at the beauty shop? Well, you go to there. What if people talk?" It's about talking about and

“even now, yes, same thing you're doing on your podcast. When talking about, what is everyone talking about?”

Yes. What is stirring the souls of people? What's coming up at the kitchen table? What's coming up at the grocery store? What's coming up at the grocery store? What's coming up at the grocery store? What's coming up? You know, one of the most popular, you know, podcast I've done was this idea, no contact with families. Yes. Which is so huge for people. And in the air, I was coming up with, when I was when we were telling the sick yellow girls, I didn't even know that was allowed. I loved that.

I gave them nothing. That's amazing. I knew you were allowed. Not to speak to your parents. That's amazing. So, yeah, that started a whole movement. There was a whole conversation. A whole whole whole thing around that. But I think so much of what our shows were built on is like, what it is resonating in the hearts and minds of people who are watching. What do they

“want to know? But here's the big secret, okay? About 10 years in, I had a doctor's appointment”

and couldn't do the two shows a day. I was doing two shows a day. And I realized, I couldn't shake hands with the, I was shake hands and do autographs. I would do 350 autographs. After every show, after every show. So, 700. I would be sitting there, autographed. And I would just

never look up. I was just signing. What's your name? What's your name? What's your name? And then

this day I had a doctor's appointment. I came back and I had so much energy. I went, wow, I did not realize how draining that is just to do that for an hour and a half. Absolutely. And so, I asked myself the most important question, what do I want? I thought I really don't like doing autographs. But what would I really want to do? I would want to sit and talk to people about where they come from and why they came. And you brought your sister-in-law. You came with your cousin. Oh,

your mother and your sister. You got your husband to come. Oh my God. So, I started doing that about 10 years in. And the show lifted. It just lifted because all of our ideas were coming from what people were telling us was going on in their lives. So, we just started listing this. What I heard, Jay, I heard women say over and over. In one form or another, I did this right. I married right. I did the things. I have the kids of them. But I feel like something's

there's something more. There's something missing. There's something more. There's something missing. And I said to my team, you know, that's a thing. People keep saying it in one form or another. I did this right. I still feel like, huh, I don't know. What else is there for me? I go,

How do we get people to see that for themselves? Even amidst the ridicule of Oprah's trying to

“start our own church and Oprah's trying to do. We started because I was there. I was looking”

for that for myself. Yeah. And I know that if I feel it, got to be a million other people who are

also feeling the same thing. But there's got to be something more. There's something deeper. There's something more profound than just going to work every day. And, you know, shuffling along. Oprah, we created a couple of games for you that we wanted to play with you. Okay. This is called interviewer on interviewer because I'm interviewing the interviewer. Okay. So this question is, what interview viewers were you most nervous for? The most nervous I've ever, ever been

was Diana Ross, my very first time interviewing Diana Ross. Because, because I was a little black girl with the hair brush watching the Supremes on the Ed Sullivan Show. I was there the first night that they came on. Diana Ross was the first time I'd ever seen a black woman who was a beautiful on television. And I just thought, there's a beautiful point by Nick and Giovanni that says, she went to school in Sunday school and heard about Nebuchadneza who was King of the Jews.

She heard about Shadrak, Mishak, and Abindigo in the fire. And then she heard of Shiba. And she said, ah, want to be like that. Well, when I saw Diana Ross and the Supremes on the Ed Sullivan Show for the first time I thought, ah, want to be like that. And it was just, imagine you're living in a

“world when nobody looks like you. Yeah. Nothing reflected in the world looks like you. Remember”

that famous concert, maybe you're not old enough to remember, but she had a famous concert in Central Park where it rained and the water was dripping down her hair and she was wearing diamond earrings and those great big Diana Ross eyes and her mascara did not run. That was like 70 something because I remember calling. I was working in the newsroom and I called at the credits her production company the next day and I asked them, what was the mascara Diana Ross's wit? Because it

didn't run because it didn't run. It's a land calm waterproof. They told me and how many carrots were those diamond earrings? And they told me 10 carrots. So for years, my whole goal was to get 10 carrot diamond earrings. Did you get them? Like, I got them. Like Diana Ross. So the night before Diana Ross comes on the show, I go to my home and I cry myself out Jay. I sit in the bathtub and I cry until I like released every kind of emotion like

pretentious here and you're speaking to her and now you said this and now he said that and I just start balling crying so that I would not make a fool of myself the next day with Diana Ross. And I still cry, but I didn't go into ugly cry. I got my ugly cry out in the tub the night before so that I would not know the cry. So that's the answer to that. Diana Ross, which interview deeply impacted you the most? A little boy, a little freckled face boy who's a day

“I don't remember, but he looked like OP Taylor from the Andy Griffith show. He was about seven”

or eight years old and it was a show on children of divorce and I remember him saying he tried to get his mother to stay. He says I bought a wing, I bought a wing and she still didn't stay and that sadness he started crying and since a rejection that that little boy felt still I remember because

it had never occurred to me that divorce impacted children so so strongly and on that same show

we did adult children of divorce and there are people 40 and 50 years old who still were never told why they're parents divorced and so the shows where I had my own aha moment were like oh I didn't I never thought of it that way before and another show we did with a woman who just or had been murdered and she said she was going to go home and try and kill herself afterwards because she said my last thing was going to be doing the Oprah show and then I was going to

go home and kill myself and her daughter had been dead for some time she still hadn't changed the room and the expert on that show said to her why don't you start celebrating your daughter's

life instead of your daughter's death and she said I never thought of it that way before

yeah so she was inspired by someone else inspired that yeah I'm believing so I'm inspired by the shows where the reason why we're calling the show at the sphere of the aha because there's nothing more exciting to me than aha yeah I agree I agree nothing more exciting because you never forget

thousands and thousands and thousands of imprints people left on my heart I am a fuller

“why more wiser more humanly expanded being because of my encounters with thousands and”

thousands of people sharing their stories and you know it is humbled me and allowed me to see the thing that we obviously both know but allowed me to feel it in my bones and my guts and my spirit we are as my eye underlaw we said more light than we're different and I could see the threads I mean there's really only like six or seven different stories and just Joey tell us yes yeah no what I'm hearing you say though is that we don't hear people stories enough what I'm hearing

from you as a life lived listening to sharing spotlighting people stories I have paid attention I am not just sitting up there talking of course I have literally paid attention

“one of the things my angel used to say to me girl one of the reasons God has blessed you so”

much is because you're obedient I have been I will say blessed in my life because I'm obedient to the call of my life and I would say to anybody who's watching or listening right now if things feel out of order it's because you're not paying attention to the true call you might be paying attention to what it's in your head you think you want but why are you here

is the most important question you can ask yourself and are you about the business of why you are here

or are you about somebody else's business or are you about your idea of what your business should be but why are you here that's really what our whole sphere event is about causing people to deeply research that question for themselves Zhukov says this in see that the soul that when the personality comes to serve the energy of the soul it's personality

“aligns with the energy of the soul that is authentic empowerment and that's the only way you can”

get it you can only get it when you're using your personality to serve something that's bigger than yourself and when you combine your personality with the real reason why you have been called to the planet earth nobody can stop you there's nobody like you there's nobody who's in the vibrational force field you nobody can stop you you just become your own phenomenon because you have done the thing that you came to do and that's what I'm all about is trying

to keep myself on the course of why I really came and did you know this story the miracle

of my life is that my parents never married and they were only together one time

I was in afternoon delight on the way home from school I was a mistake I was born out of wedlock I was a bastard child I was all those things it was one try on one miracle I was isn't yeah but so is everybody yeah so is everybody I mean Alan Lightman just wrote this wonderful article in the Atlantic talking about the impossibility of which of us being born like the one sperm hitting that egg in that moment makes you and he was saying in that article that

if you put a ruler from here to Pluto the possibility of you being born as you is just like tiny little fragment of an inch of that ruler and so we're also rare we're also rare and so getting people to understand that for themselves is really what my journey has been about and now my big offering is about it's the culmination of getting people to see it and I've done it you know for years on my show but now to be able to have this master class of music and musicians

and composers and artists all coming together with this offering of aha I can't even believe to imagine the level of aha moments people are going to have in my space like it's just either it's like it makes my heart rejoice yeah to have the full 360 degree sensory experience and to be with 1799 and 99 other people to do it together I mean that's a dream come true that's going to reverberate for decades afterwards in people's lives and even if it just reverberates for the people

one of the greatest most peaceful resolving lessons that I got from my teacher my angel who

was this lesson about legacy and when I come back from doing my school opening my school in 2007 I went to our house and I said my gosh I wish you could have been there because you had the flu and she could come and they said because it's going to be this school is just going to be my greatest legacy and she said you have no idea which are legacy because your legacy isn't your name on a building it's not buildings I don't know it's not buildings but it's going to be the

girls they're going to be the girls she said I said you have no idea because it's not just the girls it's actually every show you've ever done it's every person you've ever met it's every life you've ever touched so your legacy she said is not one thing Jay she said your legacy is every life you touch so I feel like you you having this platform to speak to people you have no idea how many people here's something that you say something that I say something that all of

your guests say and how that reaches out into the world in such a way they are moved and for every person who is moved was inspired who is encouraged who's given some hope that's your legacy that's your legacy it's not the books it's not the things it's not the appearances it's not the thing it's every life you touch and that is true for you and for everyone who's watching and listening to us it's the work that you do and the kindness is that you offer into the world and the

unkindness is you know yeah that thing that Maya also says is that people may forget what you did

“or what you said they never forget the way you make the feel so thank you for doing that so beautifully”

are you doing that so beautiful thank you I'm on purpose now I have that in your words my life is perfect now I've been your voice sorry my one my life is perfect with Jay Shetty

now that's gonna be an amazing Spotify is gonna use that everywhere what does it feel like for you

to have reached this pinnacle because this is definitely a pinnacle moment for you and what does it actually feel like I feel like I'm at the beginning of where I've not even imagined being so I feel like I'm at the beginning it feels like a new responsibility a new chapter of personal growth and offering of service and and a new opportunity to raise our standards and levels and our ability to give more to serve more to really live with a greater sense of purpose and to say

this is our moment and opportunity to really push the boundaries on how we can help others and

“serve others that's what this has given us well I just love the fact that you've used the word”

serve and service multiple times because that is the key you know everything it's everything and I say to anybody who is stuck in life right now or not knowing where to go or feeling a sense of confusion that if you switch the paradigm of whatever it is you're doing to ask the question how do I use who I am and what I'm doing in service to something bigger than myself the answer to that will lift you out of whatever it is you're being stuck won't it absolutely I I couldn't agree more when I

met the monks there were two things that appealed to me about them the first was the mastery of

emotions in the mind and the second was their dedication to service and half the day was spent in silence and stillness and the other half was spent in service and offered yeah and that's what moved me because I thought well that's life isn't it taking care of your own mind and body and spirit and then being of service to others using all of that it was so simple and it made so at sense to me that to simply use your skills talents and gifts in the service of others there's

no great a thing there is no great and also no great or fulfillment for people I mean and everything

“can be used every talent every gift every whatever you have I think some of those people feel like”

oh but I'm not a speaker or I'm not a singer or whatever it may be and it's like no you could be an accountant a lawyer you know this I'm also one of the things I've learned to have you you you probably figured this out too that the thing that causes people to really experience the deepest sense of awe is when they see moral beauty when they see someone in service to someone else and they didn't have to be yes you know you see those guys and women handing you know one back

warms your heart because you know that could be you and yeah I mean it's those acts of moral beauty

and service that really causes us to feel yeah you're reminding me of this is beautiful statement from emison where he said plant trees under who shade you do not plan to sit yeah and I love that that is my philosophy yeah I fully agree it's like that's the great come to my house and you will see all the trees are planted on the street I will not eventually you know that those they're going to grow to have done like three tunnels that yeah like twenty years from now when I'm no longer here

“they will be flourishing but that's what you do yes I believe it yeah yeah well yeah 20 and I'll be”

90 11 11 no one will have better energy upper we end every interview with the final five these

questions have to be answered in one sentence so per win free these are final five the first question is

what is the best advice you've ever had ever received best advice I ever heard was from my angel who said baby when people show you who they are you need to believe them yes the first time your problem is takes you about 29 times and they're still showing you the same thing so when people show you who they are believe them the first time second question is if you could save every couple one unnecessary argument what would you tell them mirror back to the person your validation

for what you've heard because my greatest lesson coming from the upper show was that all of us are

looking to be seen to be heard and to know that we matter and if you can let a person in the midst of

when the argument starts or the discussion gets heated you mirror back to them I hear you what you're saying to me is you want me to do blank blank blank I hear that I don't think I could do it or I do think I could do it or I think I can do it in this time but mirroring back to the person and validating that they are being heard you do see them and what they're saying actually matters to you whether

“you can do it or not if you can do that you can end a lot of arguments because that's what”

everybody is looking for yeah so true yeah so they're just looking to know but you're not hearing hearing you're not listening to me you're not listening to me yeah I'm listening to you this is what you're saying yeah and then you mirror back you're saying that and now I'm saying this can you hear that question number three if you had to choose a life of only certainty or only curiosity which one would you choose and why curiosity yeah one of my favorite sayings is happiness is

having something to look forward to and reason you're looking forward to it is because you're curious about how it's going to fulfill itself and so I love the idea of being cured if I had already known this was going to happen how do you continue with the same amount of vigor and determination

“and all I think it's the curiosity that allows for the adventure otherwise is just like let me sit”

back and wait on that plane to come it's funny though because we live in all positions sometimes yes we we live wishing everything we said we're certain yeah yeah that it's true if you actually only had a life of certainty but then what is it to aspire to absolutely that be a movement yeah question number four what's more difficult for giving yourself or for giving someone else definitely for giving myself I can forgive other people best definition I ever heard for forgiveness

also came from the show giving up the hope that the past could be any different give up the hope that the past could be any different so so many people are still stuck because they're hoping wishing indenial about and aggravated because it was it happened the way it happened give up the hope that it could be any different and get to acceptance for given this really is is allowing yourself to move forward you forgive not for the other person you forgive for

yourself so that you're not stuck holding on to the thing yeah so good is that a good one oh good we need a book of opera isms from the show where it defines everywhere yeah like almost like a glossary of like you know like an index and so we have some beautiful definitions yeah we're talking about definitions of intention forgiveness yeah but I have learned something I was paying I mean I feel like I do sit in a wise seat right now that I have earned yes because I was

listening listening with my inner heart and inner ear and discernment with a sense of discernment

which I think is what's missing from the world is people don't have discernment so I learned

“through the show and determining those those person telling the truth is this person now just trying”

to make up something is for you know a great sense of discernment and that's been really

very helpful to me yes absolutely a fifth and final question what's the aha moment that you want the world to have right now that you are the light you seek you're the one you've been waiting for it's right there it's within you it's within you inside you it's within you because you come from the greater source and there is no disconnection unless you refuse to see the connection

“and so the light is within the uc key and we're gonna show it to you what is being”

absolutely tell us the days again please April 2nd April 3rd and 4th get your check it's now in light the light hello this has been delightful we have to do it in real time though

“you have to you when you have to come sit under the tree I would love to have any time I've got”

some trees I would love that and I would love to do this again online offline online offline and the I mean really we got some story I could talk for more I could talk to you for three more hours I could I could I'm just being respectful of it like I could give me all this time

not up here on that fleet this is amazing this was this was a joy to my heart

and you're right it is just the beginning it is just the beginning yeah yeah of of our relationship too in our relationship please special way but yeah thank you thank you the best thank you