Authenticity Is Magnetic: The Neuroscience of Being a Pattern Interrupt

manifestation, psychology, and real life tools that you can use right now to better your life get more of what you want and less of what you don't. I am extremely excited for today's episode. It came from a little bit of a revelation that I've had in my own life in the past. I think weaker so. It's all about the neuroscience of how to be more magnetic and get more

“of what you want in life, okay? Because science shows that you need to be a pattern interrupt,”

if you want to be successful. And that means being one of one. That means being different standing. Oh, I'm sure you've noticed that people that you look up to the most in this life, they are the ones that stand out, not the ones that blend in. I'm sure you've heard that before. Authenticity is the greatest power that we have. Authenticity is the most magnetic energy. And authenticity is obviously the goal here. I mean, after all, we came to this planet to be

the unique expression of life that we are. And so if we are not being that, if we are not being the unique expression of life that we came to this planet to be, then we're not in our power. It's as simple as that. And when you are being your authentic self, you are being a pattern interrupt. And we're going to talk all about the neuroscience of that and why that's so important, how to activate it a few steps in this episode. But first, I got a few announcements for you guys.

“I just actually want to say that this last master class, this live class that I held, if you guys”

don't know, if you're new to this podcast, never listen to it before, I hold free live classes,

teaching all about kind of my process, the exact system that I used to go from struggling with ADHD with my physical health, with my mental health diagnosed with depression, anxiety, a bunch of other things, a lot of problems and kind of going on a journey of, you know, obviously getting two degrees in neuroscience, studying neuroscience. I went on a pretty deep spiritual journey as well, I studied with monks and through that process, you know, going to my PhD, studying neuroscience,

I really, I completely changed my life. And I completely reward my brain. And on these live free classes, I teach the exact system, like in order exactly what I did to shift my brain and completely change my life. And if you guys have never been to a class before, highly recommend that you come to

one. But I wanted to give a little bit of a shout out to one of my listeners because I always say,

at the end of these episodes, I'm always like, guys, if you have questions, if you listen to this podcast, if you have questions about the podcast episode, if you have questions about my content, come to my class, I do a live Q&A at the end of my free classes. And you might be thinking, now, there's no way. I actually, one of my listeners asked me a question about my last podcast episode. And it was about a detachment and letting go and being authentic and actually her question

was about authenticity and kind of how that works alongside of detachment. And I answered her question on that class. And yeah, so shout out to Mira, I am super grateful for you listening to this podcast and also for coming to the class. I'm really happy that I got to answer your question.

So guys, that you've never been to my class, come through. Also, at the end of my live classes,

that are completely free, is the only time currently that I open up access to my program mindcraft. It is a coaching program and community and courses and it's really, really incredible. And it has completely changed so many people's lives. And so if you're ever interested in that as well, I talk all about that and you can learn more about that at the end of my classes. But the class itself is free. So you might as well just come. All right, let's get into the episode. Before I

dive into the neuroscience of being a pattern interrupts and all of that, I feel that the story behind this episode is necessary. And it's extremely relevant and it really paints the picture. As you may or may not know, I'm pretty, I'm pretty true to myself and I'm definitely different.

“I've been different for a long time. Obviously, I think everyone's different. We don't all give”

ourselves permission to be different and stand out. And we don't, we don't all do that. But something that I have found and that is really allowed me to access my full power is just being the most alien version of myself that I could possibly be. Like I identify as a dolphin alien from outer space. And I allow myself to be that. And I look, you know, I've told people that before and they're like, oh, like, yeah, don't worry. Like I won't. I remember telling someone that,

actually, and they're like, don't worry. I won't tell like you're following or you're audience all about. And I'm like, no, I tell that to everybody. I mean, I tell that to strangers. I don't care if that makes you not take me seriously or not. I don't care if that makes you, you know, disregard the multiple degrees that I have or, you know, the businesses that I build to the platform that I felt I really don't care because I'm here to be myself, right? And that's going to

repel people and that's going to attract people. But the truth is that if everybody likes you,

that is very true in life. But it's also very true on social media. Actually, in mindcraft,

“so many of my students, like a lot of my students at this point, they kind of go through the journey”

of revealing their most authentic self. And, you know, a big part of the process in mindcraft, especially the beginning part of it, is kind of investigating who you are on a sole level. Like, who really are you? Beneath all the programming, right? Because you grew up, your rain was programmed by society, your parents, families, teachers, your environment. And you are somebody, you are the divine life force energy beneath all of that, right? You came to this planet with a

unique set of gifts. So it's like, figure out what those are. It becomes very clear on who you are, what makes you special and unique. And when I have students that can tap into that, they pop off on social media. Just come to the pop off. I've had people, one of my students, suddenly. So while she was in the program, she actually let me know that she got a brand deal and made more money in one brand deal than she had in an entire month prior to that through one deal.

And I have people, literally, I have students online that come up on my for you page. I'm like, hell, yeah. But it's really, it's really powerful. Like authenticity is extremely magnetic. And

anyway, though, to kind of bring it back to where we were at, I've always been just very different.

“I think in the sense of, I'm not going to sit here. I'm like, oh, look, I'm special on”

more different than you are. But I mean that in the sense of like, you know, I was in a neuroscience PhD program fully, you know, wearing my cute crop tops, then my outfits and I definitely stood out. Like, I did not fit in. And that definitely, I had haters in the PhD program. I definitely had haters. I put it. They're probably still my haters. I people that talked about bad about me. I had, I actually had, I'm probably going to get some shit for this. But I actually had a pet rat to

whenever I was in my PhD. I feel like it's fitting, like mad scientist, pet rat. But I loved her. Her name was Doei and she was absolutely incredible. Like she was, she was like a little puppy. Like she would lick you and cuddle with you. Anyway, we could tell so many stories about Doei because she would escape and she would escape in the middle of the night from her cage and she would climb in my bed and cuddle with me. Anyway, she was adorable. And you're probably like,

oh, that's gross rats. But I swear to you, she was cute. And everyone that I show a picture of her too, they're like damn, no, yeah, she was cute. Maybe I'll include her in my next photo, don't. My point here was that I definitely did things a little differently. And I definitely stood out because of that. And you know, when you stand out, that brings a lot of success onto you. And the attention, just in general, it brings attention onto you. And so I've just that's just a

little bit of background. But anyway, the real story here is that multiple times over the past few months, I will be on the phone in public, like either in literally this most recent time I was in the parking lot outside of a coffee shop. But I'll be on the phone and some stranger will come up to me and tell me to get off the phone. So what happened was I was at the coffee shop, maybe a week ago, a week and a half ago. And this, I'm standing, I was inside the coffee shop writing and working.

And you know, people are inside, they're taking calls or having conversations. I, you know, I needed to make a call to my assistant. And I was like, I don't really want to continue to sit in here. You know, I might as well use this as a brain break. Go outside, get some sunlight in my eyes, walk around, look at the horizon. It's really good. Actually, to take brain breaks. So that's just a little fun tip that I wasn't planning on giving. Anyway, I gave myself a little brain break,

one outside, moved my legs. You know, basically I'm on the sidewalk next to the parking lot. And I'm

on the phone. And this man, he had been, he's sitting at a table that's up against the building. Probably 10 yards, 10, 15 yards away. And he comes up to me and he goes, "Can you take that phone call somewhere else or can you get off the phone?" And I just looked at him crazy. He was the audacity. That's insane. That is an, that's, I'm outside. I'm literally in the parking lot. So I look at him and then I look over at his wife that he had been sitting with at the table. And I look at her and

she goes, "Yeah, we don't want to hear your conversation." And I'm just like, "Excuse me. I mean, I don't say any of this, but I'm thinking it. I'm like, "Excuse me. Like, there are people having conversations inside the coffee shop outside the, there are people having conversations just because my conversations on the phone, you don't like it." But anyway, I literally didn't even say anything to them. I just looked at them. Like, "That's a crazy request to make and just kept talking."

So, often that happened though, I was reminiscing on a past time, or this has happened to me before, that people will come up to me and tell me to get off the phone. Whatever. I know, you know,

“I have the self-awareness. I'm pretty sure I do talk loud. I think I know that I talk loud.”

I know that I talk loud. I'm from New York. You know, us New Yorkers, like, we talk loud. But anyway,

so after that though, I was talking to my fiance and I was like, "Why does this always happen to me?

you know, our triggers, our teachers in this life, and when we face, like, challenges, especially

repeated scenarios like this that are so specific and unique and weird, it's like, "What is this

“situation trying to show me?" Like, what is it trying to teach me? What is it trying to show me?”

And what am I not learning? That is causing the situation to repeat itself. I believe that situations or patterns, you know, patterns emerge. Like, it takes, it takes two to create a pattern. Cycles will repeat until you disrupt the cycle, right? And so I'm like, "Why? Like, what do I need to do? Like, what do I need to change here?" So, like, what do I need to learn? Anyway. And so, my fiance is like, yeah, I mean, I don't know. And I'm like, I don't know either.

And so, I kind of just put it out into the universe and I, you know, said a little prayer, whatever, and I was like, you know what? God, like, please help me understand this. Like, what, what am I needing to learn from this situation? The next day. I am walking into the store. I am in a different town. Literally. I am walking into the store after I drop my brother off at the airport, actually. And I'm walking into the store with my fiance and he's, I go up, right?

And I order myself a mucher. And the girl, the registered, she's like, "I love your nails." And I'm like, "Thank you so much." And then a different girl is like, "I'm only like your matcha is ready." And I go over to get it. And she's like, "I love your top." And I come walking

“back. And like, my fiance, he's like, "I think what I've realized about you is that you just”

attract attention." Like, you just attract attention and comments and people approaching you. Whether it's good or bad, you attract a lot of energy. And I was like, "Whoa, I think you're right." That is facts. Like, that's completely accurate. I do. Like, I do everywhere I go. People say things to me. And it's actually really funny. Because after that, we went to a different coffee shop from me to do work again. And this woman comes up to me. And she says something to me. She's like,

"Oh my God, you're smiles so beautiful. Never stop smiling. Smile every single day."

Or something like that. And I was like, "Oh, thank you so much." Like, you're beautiful too, all that. And she's like, "Thank you. I'm Lebanese in Italian." And I was like, "No way. I'm Lebanese in Italian." And then we just started kicking it off. And this was an older woman. Apparently, she was like, "Seven year, something, but she would look young." And we ended up talking for like 15 minutes. And it was really cool though. Because this was right after my fiance was like, you know,

I think you just attract a lot of attention. Like, a lot of energy comes your way. And I'm like, you know, think you're right about that. It's not all bad. It's actually mostly good, most of the time. It's really positive. And so anyway, later, a couple hours later, when I'm at the coffee shop, and this woman comes up to me. I'm talking to her. She sits down next to me. And we're having a 15 minute deep conversation about this, right?

And then I honestly brought up this situation. That's exactly what I'm telling you. I told her. And she was like, "You know what? The same thing happens to me." And then I'm, as I'm, you know, talking to her, I'm writing about attention on that works in the brain. I'm writing about and I'm reading research papers and just reading about the different attention on that works in the brain, specifically, you know, the door-syllotention network and the ventral attention network.

Those are something that some networks that I've been reading about more often recently. And I, I'm talking to her and, and we're talking about, you know, we get all this attention, this energy, we check a lot of energy. And I said something to her. It just flowed through me. Like, I didn't think it before I said it. My brain was obviously primed for it because I was reading about it. But I go, I think because we are patterned interrupts. We are patterned interrupts. We stand like,

we interrupt the pattern. And now, when I said that out loud, I was like, "Oh my God, that's it. That's it." And after she got up and walked away, I was, I need to journal about this. So I would journal for about 20 minutes about being a pattern interrupt and patterned interruption. And this is where we get really sciencey. And we start talking about the neuroscience of this, of course, interwoven with this story. And in the meaning of it,

I basically was writing about, you know, being a pattern interrupt. And what is a pattern interrupt?

Okay, I'm going to explain it, because you might be like, tell us that Emily, it makes sense to me, it's going to make sense to you in a second. But a pattern interrupt is anyone that breaks the pattern or the mold or the model that your brain has for the world. Okay, your brain does something called predictive processing. And so it builds a model of the way the world works,

“of the way that you think about other people, the way life is, all of that, right? And then”

your brain filters all new information, everything you see here, feel touch, it filters all of that through this model that your brain has built based on the past and everything that you quote unquote know or think to be true, your beliefs, right? And so anytime that something interrupts

how we habituate to things, right? So when you, for example, whenever I first move to Arizona,

literally everywhere, it still is. I never want to get used to it because it's so beautiful here.

But when I first move into the first house that we led in, I remember just looking out at the view and then like I never want to get used to this. I never want to get used to this. It is the most magical, beautiful view I've ever seen, like, truly it was. And unfortunately, you do get used to it. Like, I did get used to it. And every time I could bring back that presence and be like an express gratitude and really soak it in again, you get all the rush of neurochemicals and

“dopamine and all that back. But the truth is that your brain starts to include that view”

into the model it has for life. And then it starts being a disruption or it stops being a disruption. It stops being a pattern interrupt and it no longer stands out to you. It no longer calls your attention, right? And we can, we can use some other examples of this. If you're, if you're trying to get some work done and let's, let's dive into the, the networks here. Like, the two networks I was

talking about, just a second ago, the door still attention network and the ventral attention network,

right? So the door still attention network is, door still is back or top, right? So like, top down, top down attention system. All right. And what does that mean? It means that you are in control. You're like, hey, we need to work on this task. We need to write this book. We need to, I, on the, hey, we need to film this podcast. So my door still attention network is going to be like, hey, let's sit down and get some work done. We love when the door still attention networks doing

it's thing. All right. But what happens is then, um, you know, you're sitting there and you're let's say your phone dings, notification, email, or even like some sort of alert or somebody walks into the room that's unexpected. Anything unexpected, novel, stimulating. You are ventral, attack attention network pulls you out of the task, right? So I'm door still attention networking, right in my book, writing away. And then all of a sudden I hear a ding ding. My ventral

attention network is immediately like, what's that? Now, obviously, there are, there are ways to

“train this. And there are, this is why you should, you know, remove distractions and all of that.”

And for me personally, if I heard a ding ding, I wouldn't turn and say, what's that? I would be and probably a little bit annoyed, though, because again, your attention is drawn to it, whether you want it to be or not. And that's my point. When something breaks the pattern, when something disrupts you, when something stands out, whether good or bad, you have no choice but to pay attention. No choice, whether you want to or not. You're walking down a street, you know, every day people,

and then there's somebody with some crazy outfit, your attention is drawn to that person.

Or, for example, I went to a concert this past weekend and it was incredible,

absolutely amazing. And there was, it was after this golf tournament, I used to play golf competitively in case you guys didn't know that. But anyway, so it was John Summit and then there was this art, so the important point here is that there is this artist that opened up for him, this name's Bunt, shout out about Bunt. He's from Germany, but anyway, so he is a magical performer. Like, he gets on and he is just into the music. Like, he's feeling it. He is, like, you could see it

on his face. And when you are listening to somebody perform like that, you have no choice, but to be drawn into it, right? And I'm sure that makes sense to me now, right? Well, with my content, people are like, oh, like, you're passionate. You can feel it through the phone.

“It's like, yeah. And honestly, thinking back in college for me personally, when I went to”

undergrad at UC Austin, I studied neuroscience from my first degree, I loved all of my classes. They were easy, ace. All of them had a 4.0 neuroscience GPA, like literally loved them. I had the best professors ever. They loved, at you could tell. They were passionate about what they were teaching. They actually loved what they were teaching. And you could feel that, right? And that made you more interested in it, right? Your attention was drawn to that energy. Versus, whenever I went into the

PhD, I'm going to be so honest, the professors, not all of them, but a handful of them, just boring, like, just snooze fest, just monotonous. Like, it doesn't seem like you really are passionate about teaching this information. And I'm sure you guys have experienced that in your own life. You've had teachers that you could tell really love and value and are passionate about what they're sharing, and it makes you passionate about it. And it's the complete opposite when your teachers

are not. But anyway, and so I'm at this concert, and this artist is clearly very passionate about what he's doing, clearly passionate about the music. And I'm literally one of his number one fans

go to other concerts. And so anyway, though, he was a pattern interrupt, because I mean, most musicians

“are very into it, right? But his energy is just different. If you look up him performing, you will”

see what I mean. His name's Bunt, B-U-N-T. If you're into, like, EDM or house music or electronic music, then you will like him. If not, then you probably won't. But you can just watch it on mute and watch him. Um, because it's just different. Like, it's, it, he's so, anyway. So, my point here, though, is that he was a complete pattern interrupt for me, his energy, and you could just feel the fact that he, like, exudes love. Like, he exudes love. And you can feel that. And it was, it draws your attention.

You don't want to look away, right? And I'm sure you've experienced this in other areas too,

right? Like, not a great, not a happy example. But driving, if you've ever been driving in,

there's a car accident, right? Everybody noodle next. Everybody noodle next. They look over to see. Does that make you feel good to go and look at a car accident? I mean, personally, it does not make me feel good. I would hope it didn't make the people felt feel good. But it's oddly satisfying by, in the fact that your eventual attention network is calling you to look, because it's novel, it's stimulating, it disrupts the pattern. You are called to it. Whether you want to be or not,

“you have to look. And so, this is why being a pattern interrupt is so powerful. You attract”

attention, energy, and whether other people want to give it to you or not, right? And so, that makes sense to me now. Why, you know, a lot of it is great. A lot of the energy that I

attract is amazing, a lot like most of it is. But then everyone, the scenario is stand out,

and it's actually only happened like a few times. It's someone's someone got the phone. And now, I know, right? Like, it definitely absolutely happened for a reason, because I was meant to have this realization and talk about this and realize this for myself too, because I needed to, I need to give myself permission to be a pattern interrupt and to not feel guilty for being that. And it helps you understand and make peace with the fact that not everybody is going to love the fact that

you drew their attention. Not everyone's going to love that. Some people are going to be uncomfortable with that interrupt, right? You disrupted their mold of the way they thought the way the world works. And when you disrupt somebody's model of the way the world works, either one, they're going to be like, whoa, I like that. Or two, they're going to try to minimize you. And they're going to try to downplay you. Or they're going to tell you to get out off the phone and remove yourself,

because they don't like the disruption. They stirs something up within them. And that allowed me to just have a lot of peace with this, have a lot of peace with, and it makes sense too when you think about even haters and having haters. Especially on social media or just athletes,

“a lot of people suck up so people, if you have haters, that means you're popping, right?”

And it's true though, because if you're not, if you're not doing anything, then no one's going to hate on you, because you're not nothing to hate about. So people, right? What your haters like you're a pattern interrupt for them, you would drew their attention in and they're mad about it. They don't like it. But you didn't give them a choice, but they don't like it. So what are they going to do? That's the coping mechanism that they have within them to try to downplay you or tell

you your wrong or tell you to shrink or dim or dull your life. And so this helped me make a lot of peace with this situation. And I know now that when this happens again, I'm just like, "Oh, I interrupted your pattern. I broke the mold that your brain has for the way the world works." And you can't make, you don't like that. So you're going to try to reconcile. You're going to try to reconcile. And if you're going to put me down, that's okay, right? Now I know, for me personally,

I understand the neuroscience behind why things happen. It just helps me a lot in life because it just, again, it also just, it helps you be less triggerable. It helps you be less offended by things. But it helps you be at peace. But it also helps you not to judge others, right? Because I, I, I, I, like, I don't want to sit here and be like, "Oh, that guy that told me like, "Oh, he's so mad and angry." Like, I, like, that doesn't make me feel good to judge, hate, criticize,

like, "I don't like that." Like, I talk about other people. Like, I don't, I don't like that feeling. And so it allows me to be compassionate, right? It allows me to be compassionate for people that come up, that fruit for this guy, for example, that came up to me or his wife that told me, "We don't want to hear a conversation. It allows me to be compassionate." And it allows me to be compassionate. Like, this is a very, that's a very specific example. But it allows me to be compassionate for

understand about the world." And they're, like, they don't, they're not being called to include you in

their mold. And that's okay. I don't need to take that personal. So let's talk now about the steps. The individual steps to becoming a pattern interrupt or allowing yourself to be one. And that's actually step one, is allowing yourself to be a pattern interrupt, to be disruptive, to break through the noise, to stand out, to be different. And, you know, I hate to be clushed cliche here, but it really is,

“you know, we've heard this before. Like, if you want to be successful, if you want to make it,”

if you want to even grow a platform, whatever it is, or you want to start a business, like, it has to be different in some way, shape, or form. It has to stand out above the noise. And it has to be, like, a clear signal. And it has to solve a problem. Or it has to stand out, right? Salting, my say, solve a problem. Like, solve a problem that hasn't been solved before. Or, you know, be a perspective that hasn't been shared before. Like, it needs to stand out.

And I think the easiest way to be a pattern interrupt and to stand out is to be you. Because there is nobody else like you. There's nobody else like you. And I, you know, there are a lot of people that, you know, want to follow trends and just be kind of like the cookie cutter mold of what they see online, especially social media. But doing that and trying to dress like other people and, and look like other people or act like other people or talk like other people,

be interested in the same things that people like that. That's not, that's not how you become a pattern interrupt. That's not how you stand out. And that's not even how you be yourself. And so when I talk about being a pattern interrupt and being disruptive and standing out and interrupting

“somebody else's model of the world, that really the best way to do that is just by being you.”

And I remember back on my own journey in the beginning of when I started healing and realizing the power that I am and believing in myself and all that and really realizing who I am really was what it is, like realizing exactly who I am, like on the soul level, not just my personality, but who I am on a soul level. And when I started to realize that I was glowing different, I was magnetizing things. And I remember walking down the street and people would come up to me

and compliment me or say things to me. And that was kind of, that was, I don't want to say that was the beginning of when that happened because I think people have honestly come up to me and said things to me probably my whole life. Honestly, I remember when I was actually a little little kid, I was selling my paintings on the street in front of my house in New York and or my parents house in New York, not mine. But I remember I was selling my paintings on the street.

For like 50 cents or something, I was a little kid. And this person noticed me and actually hired like offered me a job to model for a painting business and I was fully in painting ads in like home depot or loads or something. I don't know. This is a long time ago, but I was a little

kid. And so anyway, I always had stuff like this happen, but let's also recognize the fact that like

“what got me to that opportunity. I was selling my paintings on the street like who does that?”

You know, I wasn't just having a lemonade stand. I was selling my paintings on the side of the street. I'm not that there's anything wrong with lemonade stand. I had those too, but I did those different too, because I sold two types of lemonade. One of them was the jug lemonade and the other one was the real deal where we home made it and we charged more for it. I've definitely always been doing things a little differently than other people. I remember also like when I was in elementary

school, I used to give people tattoos with highlighters at recess. I used to paint kids nails at

recess and charge them for it. I guess I've always been an entrepreneur at heart. My point here is that

you attract, I remember when I first started becoming like very magnetic and and attracting things. And when I've actually, I guess now I'm realizing that all of the times in my life when I have been very attractive, when it comes like not just attractive physically, but attractive energetically to opportunities. People places things is when I was being really authentic and just being weird and letting my weirdness fly and and saw some people up with my flavor like that's that's the time

when I have been the most attractive energetically. And so the first step really is giving yourself permission, like giving yourself permission to be disruptive, to be polarizing, to stand out from the norm and to be different. That's stuff one. Give yourself permission to be a pattern interrupt. It is a requirement for being magnetic. It is a requirement for being magnetic. It's to allow yourself to be fully your authentic self. And if you dim your light, if you compromise,

and you don't hold true to your boundaries or your values in life, if you're not true to yourself,

“you don't say true to who you are. You're not going to be as magnetic because you're not going to be”

in your authenticity and authenticity is the greatest power that you have because again that is the reason why we are all here. Every single one of us was made different. We were all made different on purpose. If we were meant to be the same, we would have been made the same. We would have been constructed the same, but no, every single one of us was born different with our own unique set of skills and gifts and energy, our unique energetic expression of life, all of us were. And that is

on purpose. We were made different on purpose. We were made who exactly we are on purpose. And every time you forget that and you dim your light and you don't stay true to yourself and you shrink or you hide, you take yourself out of your power. So give yourself permission to shine, to be you, to stand out, to be different. Something that I like to say, I want to be as alien as possible. I've had every single hair color that you can have. By the way, I know a lot of people have been commenting

about my blonde hair. Obviously my hair is naturally blonde. Although it does pretty much look natural.

It's not like a permanent thing for me. I always change my hair color and I don't think people

realize that. But I have been ginger, I've had red hair. I've had like, I've been ginger and I've had red hair. Like the color red in my shirt. If you're listening and not watching the video, you won't be able to see, but it's like bright fire and red. I've had that color hair. That was an accident, but still, I had it. I've been platinum blonde. I've this color blonde. I've had blue hair. I've had pink hair. I've had purple hair. I hate the only color hair I haven't had as green. But

anyway, my point is that that's just a part of who I am. I like to have fun and be different. I don't take it too serious. This is my hair. It's whatever. The one time I was ginger, it was not even on purpose. I had black hair and I was trying to go blonde and I couldn't go blonde from black. I ended up ginger and I was like, "Well, I'm not. If you can't be an adjoin it, I like to be, I like to feel alien. And for me, like having different color hair is and makes me feel

different. And it doesn't make me feel different, right? Because changing your hair makes you feel different. Just like how changing your outfit makes you feel different. It helps you identity shift, which is cool fun hack. But that is really stuff one. Give yourself permission to stand out to be

“different. And then I think step two was what I unlocked after my story that I shared with you”

what happened. Step two is to stop feeling guilty or feeling bad when somebody else doesn't like the fact that you disrupted their mold that their brain has for life. Stop feeling guilty for it. And recognize that that's just what it is. That's just what it is. You broke somebody else's mold and they don't like it. And that's a reflection of them. That's a reflection of their mold, right? That's a reflection of their brain. That's not a reflection of you because you break other people's

molds and they love it. If you are liked by everybody, you're loved by no one. I'm over here sharing a lot of details about my life in these episodes and my past and how I grew up and all of that. And you know, I know for a fact that there have been people that are probably triggered by certain things that I say, but I also know that there are way more people that feel more connected to me because of this podcast that feel more connected to me because of the deeper things that I share,

the more vulnerable things that I share. I know that there are a lot more people that love me,

“right, because of this and because of me and my vulnerability and being open and sharing, right?”

And so this was actually something that I had to make peace with before starting this podcast. I actually procrastinated doing it for a long time because I knew that if I was going to do this podcast and be vulnerable and be in long form content, like, yeah, it'll help people feel more connected to me. But also, it leaves me more open, right? To criticism or people not liking me or whatever. Anyway, and so that I had to make peace with that and I had to realize, you know, yeah, there

there might be people that don't like it, but they're going to be a lot more people that feel even more connected to you and I love you even more because of your willingness to share. And so stop feeling guilty for interrupting other people's patterns of the way the world works. And I'm just going to give you an example here because, remember when I was saying, you know,

the pattern interrupts when I first moved to Arizona was my mountain view. Over time that became

the mold, but in the beginning it was a pattern interrupt and it was beautiful and it was wonderful and it was magical, and it made me just so happy. I got so much to open me from looking at it. That pattern interrupt of looking at the mountains and all that makes me feel great.

that I've shown the same view and they're like, let's just dirt, rocks and dust.

“And, you know, they didn't like that pattern interrupt, right? They didn't like it, all right?”

So there are going to be people that love it and there are going to be people that don't like it, but what determines the mountains are the same, it's the person, it's the beholder, right? The eye of the holder, beauty is in the eye of the holder. It's the person perceiving the view that determines whether it's not good or good, bad or negative or great and positive. It's the person, it all depends on the brain that is perceiving the thing.

And so, I want you to hold that close when you, or, you know, maybe recognizing that, hey, oh, I'm going to go, I'm going to give myself permission to be a pattern interrupt,

and I'm going to give myself permission to shine and be different and stand out and then,

you know, just kind of knowing like, yeah, they're going to be people that love it, don't get me wrong, but then there will be people that don't like it so much. And making peace with that and just being like, yeah, you know, and not feeling guilty for it, be like, okay, then, like, that's not my problem, that is not my problem, that you don't like it. I'm not sorry that you're offended, that's not my problem, that's a reflection of you,

that's a reflection of your brain's model, of the world, not me, with that being said, I want to start a little bit of a new segment on this podcast, and it's called, wonders of the week, the three wonders of the week or something like that. I don't really know the name of it yet, but I just kind of decided that I want to start doing it, literally, right before filming this, I want to incorporate this into the podcast,

because I want to train my brain to look for miraculous moments, because as I was filming this episode, literally, I realized that my brain is remembering the two times in the past few months that people have told me to get off the phone, but my brain hasn't been paying attention to all of the times people come up and compliment me or say something positive or, you know, whatever, all the positive interactions that I have with people, and in my story,

literally, my fiance was the one that told me, hey, you know, you just tracked a lot of energy

“and attention in general, and I think after telling you guys all this and doing this episode,”

I'm realizing that I want to go back and even with the mountain example, right? Like,

I make it habit by the way, guys, when I'm driving, I always make it a point to look out to mountains

and reinforce how beautiful they are, and I'm just like, damn, like, they're so beautiful. I love it, you're so magical. I love watching the sunsets here, and I make it a point, because I don't ever want to get used to it, and I never want to take it for granted. I want to start incorporating this into the end of every episode. I'm habit stacking. I'm leading by example here. I'm habit stacking, so obviously filming this podcast is something

I'm doing no matter what, and so if I want to start a new habit of training my brain to look from more of just the wonderful moments in life, then I think that, you know, that's a habit that I want to do, that's a habit that I want to have, and I think stacking it on top of this one is great, because I'm already doing this, and also sharing them with you will hopefully inspire

“you and motivate you to do it yourself in your own life. My wonders of the week, that's what we're”

calling it, the wonders of the week, and that might change, but for now it's the wonders of the week. Oh, and by the way, I am a huge fan of celebrating your wins, and even in Minecraft, I have people every single week share their wins, and how important wins are, and it is really important, like celebrating your wins, and sharing with other people the things that you've done great the past week. It's so good. It helps to boost confidence, boost belief in yourself,

boost self esteem. It's so helpful to celebrate your wins and train your brain to look for all the great things that you're doing and recognize that, because a lot of times we overlook our own accomplishments, but I think I want to take this one step deeper with our wonders of the week, and this is something that I used to do actually a lot. I used to, I used to keep track of my vortex moments, so moments where I knew I was in the vortex. For example, there's this one time

when I bought this hat, this like crochet, bucket hat, at the store at the mall, and I went online for this brand's website, because I love this crochet hat, and I saw that they had a matching dress, and I was like, oh damn, that dress is really cool. And then I was at a restaurant, literally a couple days later, and I looked out the restaurant, and through the window of a store, I saw the dress in the window of a store right across the way. And I, for example, so that was

something that I wrote down in my vortex moments, because it was like damn, I was just thinking about this, and now it's happening. And actually, now that I say that, there have been many times in the past, I think two days where I've had vortex moments of moments where I know them in the

that everything is connected. We're all one in this universe, and so really, and just to kind of

“bring it home really quick about the wins. This is different from celebrating your wins, because”

it's not results driven. It's not, you know, outcome. It's really just noticing the small things and practicing joy in the small moments, because real true happiness and joy comes from like being cracked out on life about this tiniest things. And so, wonders of the week is going to help us do that. It's going to help us train our brain with that. And so anyway, the first one is actually the fact that our frother died a couple of days ago, our milk frother. And, you know, it's a shame

when you, when your milk frother dies, and it wouldn't recharge, it wouldn't charge, and it's really just, you know, it's like damn, but this is such because the specific milk frother that we had,

it was so good, it was so powerful. And anyway, so it wasn't charged and we were like damn,

it's not charging. This happened two days ago. Yesterday, I got a PR package and guess what's inside of it, a milk frother, and it's the same exact one that died. And I, and I literally said to my the answer, I said, that's how you know that is real. That's how you know, it's my first wonder of the week, just a moment that really just reminded me that, yeah, wow, like, this really, like, we really just live in this, we live in a really wonderful world of everything is interconnected.

And the magic is there if you look for it. And I think it's especially important right now because

“yes, the world has its issues and its problems. And I think that's why it's even more of a”

reason why we need to train our brain to look for these small moments, these little wonders, because they are the things that are going to allow us to keep our joy and stay in our joy and in our light, because you cannot help other people and you cannot benefit the world and make the world a better place and help other people if you aren't in your light. You have to be in your light. You have to be on the path of love. Being on the path of love is how we propel positive

progress in the world. My second wonder of the week is very similar to the first in the idea that

it is about synchronicities and things like that. But I actually was writing about belief yesterday. I was writing about belief and I was right. I was using athletes as an example and talking about how our beliefs and our belief and the possibility of whether things are possible or not, actually determines whether they are possible for us or not. And when we believe something is possible, it allows us to break through mental barriers, our brain can actually help us go and

achieve goals when we believe they are possible. If we don't believe they are possible, Tao is a dopamine destroyer. Like our brain is not going to put energy and resources towards something that it finds that there is no point in. It doesn't can't find a point in doing. So if you don't believe in the possibility, your brain is not going to help you put an effort to try. And then I go out and I'm taking a break. I'm eating dinner actually and I'm standing in the kitchen

and the TVs on the Olympics are on. And it's this commercial about athletes, of course, with the Olympics. And it's talking about mental ceilings and believing in the possibility. And the question was, it was like an ad for like AI or something. And it was asking a question

“about using the Olympics. It was asking the question, how do athletes keep breaking records?”

And the answer was like, you know, breaking through mental ceilings and belief in new possibilities. And I was like, damn, because that is exactly what I was writing about in my book. I was talking about the form and a mile of record being broken and how before that everyone thought it was impossible. And then after someone did it, all of a sudden, now new athletes started being able to do it. Why? Because they woke up to the fact that it was possible. But that is my second under the week

because it was literally the universe being like, oh, yeah, mirroring back to you, what you're focused on, 10 minutes after you're focusing on it. My third wonder of the week is a shout out to my wedding planner because we're actually planning a trip next week to go and visit where we're thinking about getting married or wedding venue. And our wedding planner actually reached out yesterday. And she let us know that she was able to get us like 60% off per night for our trip

to stay at this amazing incredible resort. So I, you know, like shout out what in planner she's amazing and to extremely grateful for her. And also hell yeah, this is such a thing that's so cool that that's just happened. So anyway, that's my third wonder the week, just like just one of those moments where something works out for you that you wouldn't, I didn't even ask for. She was like, oh, maybe we can get through discount. I didn't even ask for it. So anyway, guys, you're amazing.

Never forget that. Go out there and sauce people with your flavor today. And every single day,

called to do. If not, just go be you. Just go be you and be unapologetic about it. I will see you guys in the next episode. Bye, Rylan.