Net Worth Is Linked to Self Worth, The First Step to Rewiring for Wealth

It is my goal to share with you real-life tools that you can use every single day to manifest your best life. I have taken all of your most frequently asked questions on this podcast and just on my content in general. And I am going to answer some of them on this episode. I actually posted a story post asking you guys to submit questions and there were a lot of them that were very similar and there are also a lot of unique ones. So I got some good ideas for future episodes, but also I want to answer some of the ones that I felt called to answering.

So without further ado, let's just get straight into it. The first question someone asked me is the podcast easy for me to do now.

I loved this question because it really proved that this person has been on this journey with me. Yes, it is easy for me to do now.

“That would say honestly, it's easier for me to do this now than even create other types of content. I love it. It's been great.”

But the reason I wanted to answer this question was because I wanted to share the story for people that don't know when I was wanting to start this podcast. Maybe around nine months ago, I faced a lot of internal resistance. I found myself just procrastinating and I really just wasn't getting to it.

It went on for a while, months before I finally was thinking to myself, I am self sabotaging. I am sabotaging my own growth and my own success by not doing this podcast.

And I'm holding myself back. And I sat with myself. I did the inner work like we talk about a lot here on this podcast and in my content. And in my live classes, which by the way guys, come to my live classes. I also host Q&As at the end and they have been phenomenal fantastic. The last one I did, we literally were all just sitting around hanging out basically, just ch-chatting away. I was answering everybody's questions and I was on there for probably an extra hour just answering people's questions. It's super fun.

“So I found myself realizing through doing a little bit of this inner work, little awareness. I'm like, what could be blocking me? What is this procrastination, this resistance coming from?”

And there were a few things that I had identified and you guys know that I have, there are really three to four reasons why we procrastinate. And the ones that I resonated the most with in that moment were that one, my identity was not matching the identity of a podcaster. I did not identify as somebody who did podcasts, who hosted a podcast, had a podcast. And so that was holding me back because my brain was not going to help me go and do that if I don't identify as a type of person who does that.

So it was the first thing. And then the second thing was fear. A huge reason why we procrastinate is fear. A lot of times we subconsciously fear our own success without even realizing it.

“And so I was subconsciously blocking myself from the success that I desired out of fear around being seen. That's what I realized because honestly and you guys probably have felt this doing long form content and being in this setting.”

It is just a lot more vulnerable. Like I'm here. I'm being very open with you guys. I share a lot of my own personal life on this podcast because that's how I like to teach through my own personal perspective and experience because that's how I learn. And so I knew that it was going to require another level of vulnerability from me that I hadn't really done yet being that I'd only ever done short form content. But after I identified that fear and I realized that this was subconsciously holding me back, I did the work. And I allowed myself to kind of go down that road.

And this is something that I always talk about with my students in Minecraft and the people that I coach let's say you've identified a fear. Take it all the way to the end.

Okay. So what? All right. I'm fear. I have this fear of being a more vulnerable. That's going to make people what not like me. And I went down that road and I said, well, yeah, probably there will be people that don't like you and there will be people that don't resonate with some of the things that you say and there will be people that are triggered by some of the things you said. There have been people that have been triggered by some of the things I've said. Also, there will be people that resonate so much with what you say will actually feel closer to you because of your vulnerability.

And when I realized that, you know, that's kind of when I went on my journey of being extra authentic and really realizing that if everybody likes you, then nobody loves you, right? You kind of have to be a little polarizing in the space to make it. So that is that is that was why I learned and I put that into action and I pretty quickly got the podcast rolling and yeah, I mean in the beginning it was it wasn't muscle memory yet.

But the brain works that way, right? That in the beginning of this journey in the beginning when I first decided that I wanted to start doing this, there was fear and it blocked me.

“I identified the fear, I overcame it and then even then, right, it's not exactly a habit yet. I am having to be very intentional.”

Got to film this podcast, got to do it. It took me a while to set up at first. I was it took me, you know, I would I would make mistakes at first.

I would record a whole bunch and it would be out of focus. I'm just a lot of things that I, you know, and I'm still learning. I'm being so honest with you guys. I'm still learning.

We are still learning and growing. I'm only even doing this for a few months. That's really the beauty of all of this because that's that that's been the journey and now I'm at this point where I it I'm like, Oh, I want to talk about this on my podcast or oh, this would be a cool idea for the pod and my brain is just automatically now filtering for opportunities to make the podcast happen. And that is one of the coolest things that I've experienced when it comes to starting new, you know, starting the journey toward a new goal is that at first you will face resistance and then you get over that resistance and even then there is a learning curve right and that's through the power of neuro plasticity.

Those pathways will become stronger and then over time it just becomes second nature to you and I've fully experienced that that now like for me. This podcast is not something that I have to force or put too much pressure on myself to do. It's something that I just feel comfortable doing. So anyway, to answer that question. Yes, the podcast is easy for me now. Thank you for that. Thank you for that question.

“And thank you for following along on my journey. The second question is a question that I used to resonate with a lot and I actually have had to overcome this exact thing on my journey. So I want to talk about it.”

And the question was, how do you work through guilt of wanting more? This was something that I had to work through myself when I was on my journey in the very beginning. You know, I really started working on myself and I was experiencing just so much joy, so much regulation, so much productivity, focus, all of it. My habits were on point everything was just great. And I went to my PhD with studying, getting my PhD in neuroscience and I started to have other dreams desires. Of course, I mean, I personally want to make more money. Like if that is something that I am very open with about of click. And I know that it's very common out there, especially in the spiritual spaces to be to have the opposite and be like, oh, no, money is evil or money is bad and it's not good to want that and I just don't agree with that. I think money is a tool. It's not positive or negative. It depends on who's using the tool, right?

I could think of plenty of examples of how a tool could be used for good like building a house and it could also be used for bad like injuring somebody. So money is a tool and it amplifies whatever the energy of the person with it. I saw there's a study, a research study on testosterone and for a long time, I think they thought that testosterone increasing it made this is specifically an animal study, but they made the animals in the study more aggressive and that what they found in the study was that actually wasn't the case.

It actually just amplified the tendencies of what the animal, the specific individual. And so some of them got more cutely and more loving.

And so it's sort of the same money sort of the same way. I got to have some weird analogy, but money sort of works the same way. And I guess that is one of the first kind of things that I had to realize was that there are plenty of people doing really great things in the world with money. And I'm not trying to virtue signal at all, but since I have been able to make more money, for example, when there were natural disasters in Jamaica, like I donated because I like to travel to the islands. I'm actually traveling tonight to the Caribbean.

And I am like, you know, I love to go there. I want to support those countries that are over there and whenever there was a natural disaster that hit. And if I did not have money, I wouldn't be able to do that as effectively. Like I wouldn't be able to even travel and go there and help. Like I wouldn't be able to do that. I wouldn't be in the position that I'm in to help.

“So I don't think that it's a bad thing at all to want more. I think it actually gives you more time, more energy, more freedom to help and actually make a positive change in the world.”

So I don't think that it's a bad thing at all. I don't think that it makes you selfish. I think that it makes you human to want more. That's how we're wired. We're wired to want more, whether it be money. I'm using the example of money, but it doesn't have to just be money. It can be happiness. Actually, in Minecraft, in the program, I remember this came up a while ago and might be over a year ago now.

It's a common thing like I even have gotten hate before for like, well, how can you be happy when these things are happening in the world? And it's like, well, how can we make the world a better place if we're not being the change that we want to see in it? So long as you are not acting unethically and you are doing what you can do to improve the world yourself first, because it starts with you. And then the people around you, right? And then, you know, whoever else you can reach and through there through that becomes a butterfly effect, but I actually think that one of the best ways that you can help the world is be a positive light in it.

Focus doesn't have to be around wanting more like for me. It never was like, I want to make more money. I was never money driven. I was mission driven.

And then when I was mission driven and I loved, I love what I do. I love it. I love coaching and helping people. I love creating content. I love it. And so when you love what you do and you're, you know, when you're obsessed with it and you're passionate about it and you believe in yourself and you believe in your mission. We come good at it kind of by default because you love doing it and nobody could stop you from doing it. And then the money kind of just comes.

“There's this song that I was listening to for a while. This song is called Rich on accident and by the NAI created song. I'm not exactly sure. I think it might be, but anyway, it's called Rich on accident. The song is funny.”

It's not, you know, it's like amazing song or anything. But he's talking about it's an affirmation song and he's talking about, you know, Rich on accident because he just kind of was pursuing his dream and I feel, I don't want to say that I, you know,

started making more money on accident because I definitely worked for it. But it was never the mission and it was never the goal.

And it's kind of how I even became a content creator in the first place and started coaching and consulting and all that. It that happened completely unintentionally. Like that, that was not on purpose at all. I was just getting my Ph.D. in neuroscience and improving myself because I needed work. Like I needed work. And as I started working on myself and discovered all these tools that really helped me and learned through my own experience.

“I was like, hi, and I need to share this with you. That's, that's how it all started. And so I think the, the final step for me was actually whenever I was in my Ph.D.”

I was one of this temple and we're also saying to the spiritual master, teach and he, he was traveling the world, whatever teaching of these different temples.

And it was really cool. So I wanted to go listen to it, you know, download some wisdom. Another girl that was studying there, she actually asked, I think she was a monk in training or something actually. And she asked a question, she said, how do you not feel guilty for wanting to be abundant? Like how do you not feel guilty for desiring abundance? And the teacher said, it is actually in your true nature to be abundant. It is actually the most spiritual thing you can do because look out into the world nature is abundant. The universe is abundant, stars are abundant. The divine God is abundant.

And so you living in abundance is actually you living in alignment with the divine. That's when I realized, oh, yeah, no, that makes complete sense to me. It is in your true nature to be abundant. That doesn't have to mean money, right? That can mean in love, abundant in love, abundant in gratitude and joy. I mean happiness is love flowing out of you. So if you're living in abundance, then you're probably not living in alignment with God and with the divine. And again, that doesn't mean doesn't have to mean material abundance. I know personally from my own experience when I am living in complete alignment with the divine.

And I'm remembering that I am not alone and that I am divine life force energy and a human body. And that I am supported and divinely guided and protected in all that when I'm in that. Yeah, it's pretty hard to be mad, sad, super anxious, upset. Like obviously there are still times when I'm feeling that way. But usually it's when I forget that, right? And so when I remember again, I'm like, oh, yeah. And then the piece can come back and I can go back to living in alignment with my values and my joy and love and gratitude, right?

Gratitude and so aligning with your true divine spiritual nature allows you to connect to the abundance that you are.

“And then I think that there's a worthiness piece to that as well. You know, on the question is, you know, how do you work through guilt? And I think worthiness is a big, big, big, big part of this, right?”

So if you don't feel worthy of more than you're going to feel guilty for having it, we're asking for it.

Loving yourself. Like if you were in love with yourself, you would know that you're worthy of more. And you would not feel guilty for asking for it. I love, you know, I don't have a human child, but I have a dog that I fully burst from my own womb.

“At least that's what I claim. I love her so much. And when I look at her right, and sometimes I just imagine like, what if I had a daughter, how, what would I say?”

I would, I want to give my dog the world. Like I want to give her the world. She is worthy of everything she desires. If I had a kid, a human child, my child is worthy of, like, she is worthy of, I love her so much and I want to give her everything that I can. And so I think a lot of times also this comes back to kind of repairing ourselves and healing our own inner child, right? And in those situations, it's like, what would you say to your kid, the guilty of asking for more?

First of all, you are worthy of it, but second of all, if you don't believe that you're worthy of it, then maybe you're not working for it.

And that this was something that whenever I wanted to work on my ownworthiness and not feeling guilty of asking for more, I had to understand the abundance piece and also that I am innately worthy because I am like, I'm, because I exist, I am innately worthy. But then there's a third piece to that and right, and on that second piece though, like I was doing the affirmations, you know, I am worthy. I, I, I deserve to make money when I talk, like different affirmations like that, you know, I'm worthy of, you know, receiving for just being me piece, but then the third onworthiness is, all right, if you still don't feel worthy of it, something inside of you is resisting, because you are not a match for what you're asking for.

I feel way more worthy when I'm doing things and I'm showing up as my best self and when I'm getting up in the morning and I'm on top of my morning routine and I am, you know, making sure that I'm on top of my habits and not just working, but the habits that I know align me with myself, like, saying my prayers and meditating and exercising and spending time and at least having a conversation with somebody that I love every day and sending love out into the world, creating, whether that be a podcast episode or just journaling, like, whatever that looks like that day, but when I'm showing up like that, I'm worthy, I feel extremely worthy because I am moving as my best self.

If you're not doing anything, then it makes sense that you might feel a little guilty asking for more. Now, of course, the situation depends, right, this question was very vague, so this could be about asking for more love or attention.

And if it's love and you're in a relationship and you're feeling guilty for asking for more love, the second part of my answer answered that.

If you are in a relationship and you're wanting more love, then it's kind of like, okay, we'll love yourself more and raise the standard for what you deserve. And then you won't feel guilty asking for it.

“I think the long story short is just love yourself more.”

Self-love looks like showing up for yourself. It looks like respecting yourself, respecting your boundaries, respecting your values, respecting your own word and doing what you said you were going to do when you're doing all those things. You increase love for yourself, right? Take care of yourself, show up for yourself and when you're doing all that, you won't feel so guilty asking for more from others from the world.

So there's this meme and it says the universe isn't on a budget ask for more asking for more doesn't always mean that you're taking from somebody else.

Me having more joy doesn't take joy from anyone else. If anything, it spreads it to others.

“So making more money, I think a lot of times, yes, there are people that make so much money that it does kind of probably take from the world.”

But for me and you listening here, it's like us asking for more money that doesn't really apply. Ask for more, like just ask for more, all right? I'm giving you permission right now, so you can stop feeling guilty about it. All right, let's go to question number three, which is what would be the first step in rewiring your brain for wealth? Wow, so I'm just realizing that these questions really going in hand here and I think let's probably why I put them in this order. I think the first step to rewiring your brain for wealth is realizing that your net worth is highly correlated with yourself worth.

This is actually research studies on this. There are many research studies on this. You can look it up. They found that when even controlling for education, for IQ, for background, for socio-economic status, controlling for everybody's past factors when they control for all those factors. They found that people with higher self-esteem and self-worth end up with higher net worths.

You don't feel guilty raising your prices and charging more. You don't feel guilty, why? Because you learn yourself and you know you are worthy of it.

“I think that's the first step. Obviously, there are so many different mindset tips and tricks that I could share on this because I've learned a lot when it comes to the mindset around money.”

Because I grew up hearing money doesn't grow on trees. We can't afford that and just a lot of kind of those limiting beliefs that can really keep you from making more money. Because I'm just going to bust that one right now. Money is everywhere, everywhere. You go to the grocery store and look around at all the people going in their shopping. Every single person has a different job making money from a different way. Go to the mall, same thing. There are so many different ways that money can come to you. One of my students in Minecraft had someone they notified her that her condo, the previous owner or previous renter, overpaid by three months or something like that.

And she saved that much money in rent. People, someone just received a check for the exact amount of money that she paid to be in Minecraft, which is actually really cool so many different avenues for making money. I think we tend to pigeonhole ourselves and limit ourselves to thinking, "Oh, money can only come from this revenue stream, this job, this thing."

And I remember actually when I was first starting out with doing everything that I do now, it was actually another content creator that I was talking to.

And he said, "In this space, I think you just have to realize that you're going to make money from a lot of different places and don't try to pigeonhole yourself and only make money from one thing because you limit yourself when you do that." And I think it is important to open your mind. But the first step really would be to improve yourself worth because when you, when you love yourself, you feel worthy of more. You'll start asking for more and you'll put yourself in positions to make more money.

“The next question is a really good one. I think venting too much is counterproductive. What do you think?”

Venting too much, so complaining or just talking about your problems basically is what venting is. As with everything, there is nuance, right? But when it comes to venting, let's say you go through something and you're dealing with something and you want to share it with somebody else. That improves social bonding. So if I am struggling right now with a problem and I got on here and I shared my problem with you guys, you would feel more bonded with me and maybe not on this podcast. But in person, you guys get it.

When you go and something happens and you call up your best friend and you guys talk about it, that improves bonding when you share a problem with someone else. That actually is really, really healthy. And it's something that I didn't use to do at all. I used to bottle up my emotions and I used to not tell anybody when I was going through things.

“I just grew up very independent, never really, you know, I've been, I remember this one time when I was in my PhD right before one of my finals.”

I got horrible news, like horrible, horrible news and I couldn't even really study for my final still I said. But anyway, after that final I packed up my car on a drove to San Diego, like seven hours to San Diego. And literally just stayed there for days by myself depressed. It was sad. And then I went back to San Diego. I went back to Tucson, Ross, you know, doing grad school. And one of my friends, my best friend that I had made in the PhD, she said, "Why didn't you call me?"

I told her why I had gone and she goes, "Why didn't you call me?" And it was crazy because I had never even thought of calling her out.

I just was so used to going through everything by myself. And so that, I don't even know she realizes that that really changed my trajectory. When she asked me that, but it made me realize, "Oh damn, I can lean on people. I can lean on my best friends." And so that is a situation where I should have called her and told her what had happened and allowed her to support me. So venting does have a dark side though and I want to talk about it because, yes, it's true that venting too much is counterproductive.

It absolutely is. Getting your problem out there expressing it, sharing it with somebody that you love, that you can lean on, absolutely amazing for social bonding.

It's not great for you unless you come up with a some sort of resolution or reappraisal of the situation. If you just call up your friend and you vent a whole bunch about, let's say, let's use a kind of silly example of, "Oh, you just went on the terrible day, the guy or girl was terrible."

Or vice versa, like, "Oh, I hate women or whatever."

I just, I can, I use I hate men, example, because it's just so common. I hear all the time with women, especially that does not benefit you to do that. If that reinforces your problem and then you sort of just increased your brain's bias for looking for that problem even more and trained your brain and activated those pathways and strengthened them around the topic of that problem.

“Sure, it once, whatever. But if it starts to become a pattern right and let's say something happens and then you're talking about it with like four different people and you're just like, "Oh, yeah, that's why I hate men."”

And it's like, over time, you are re-activating the problem over and over and over again. And so they've actually shown there are studies on this. There are studies on this that venting too much is counterproductive unless there is some sort of reappraisal or resolution. That means that you have to go through the situation and be like, "Oh, but," and make something up. If it sucked, it sucked. That's fine. But you can come up with some sort of either resolution like, "Oh, this date sucked," but then they're like, "Okay, well, it was just, you know, this problem with a specific person."

And I am not going to take that into the next day. I'm going to learn from it and I'm going to say, "This is how I'm going to filter who I go on dates with in the future."

Right? You came up with some sort of way to learn a lesson from what the problem that you faced and then take that lesson, take the information that you learned and apply it in the future. That's where venting can actually be very helpful. When you talk about something, specifically with my best friend, I'll call her up, I'll talk about something with her.

“And I will usually come to some sort of realization or realization about a learning lesson that I needed to take away from this situation, right?”

And that's where sharing your problems is extremely healthy and very beneficial to you and your growth. And so kind of one way to make it beneficial is through taking extracting some sort of lesson. But then the other way is through reappraisal, right? So you can get some sort of resolution by learning a lesson that closes the chapter, right?

When you face a problem or a challenge, it opens a loop in your brain.

And when you vent over and over and over again, the loop stays open. When you extract a learning lesson that you can take and say, "Ah, this is why I was meant to learn this and now I can move forward and you close the loop and you can move on." So that's one way to move through a challenge or a situation. And then another way to do it is to reappraising kind of what happened. Like, "Okay, maybe this person was having a bad day, maybe all men or all women aren't all bad."

You know, reappraising the situation. And so those are two ways to make venting work for you rather than against you because if all you do is vent and continue to talk about the problem, without ever coming up with some sort of resolution or extracting a lesson or reappraising the situation and making sense of it and being like, "Oh, it's not that bad." Or it's not all bad. Then you just, if you don't do any of those things, then you just stay in the open loop and you don't learn anything, you don't level up.

And yeah, it's not helpful and also it's just energy draining as well. Like you're draining your own energy by continuing to focus on your problem without ever closing the loop. So draining other people's energies as well by talking about them over and over and over again. Okay, another person asked a question that honestly I could talk about this question for a long time. Someone said, "I can't be disciplined for more than two days."

That it really wasn't even a question, but maybe it was just somebody asking for help with that. And my immediate thought and reaction to that is yes you can. And as long as you tell yourself that you can't, you won't because whether you say you can or you say you can't, you're right. So start with telling yourself that you can, maybe you haven't done it yet and that's fine.

“But you need to believe in the possibility of your desires.”

So if it's something that you want to be is more disciplined, then decide that you can. And I just want to leave a little note here because it actually is I'm realizing now. It's very much on theme for this episode is self love and discipline in my opinion is self love. That's what it is. I was just talking to my assistant about this and she is allergic to gluten and she still eats it.

And then she's like, "Oh, but I know my limits because I'll get a rash." She's going to listen to this and be like, "Can't we have you called me up?" But you know when I told her, I said, "You need to love yourself more." Because why are you putting your body through that? Every single cell in your body is a living being that depends on you that works night and day for you.

No matter what, no matter how you treat it, no matter what you put in your body.

And you're going to do it dirty like that.

That's true for exercising. That's true for your routines. That's true for going outside and getting sunlight in the morning. It's true for how you eat. It's true for showing up and staying true to your word when you tell yourself you're going to do something and you don't do it.

You're teaching your brain not to believe in you. You're teaching your brain not to trust you. And everything else that we've talked about on this episode kind of just flies out the window when you don't trust yourself and you don't believe in yourself that really is such a core foundation for everything that you do in life. It was one of the biggest shifts I made in my life was deciding to love myself and believe in myself.

Now obviously it wasn't just deciding that I had to do a lot of work to get there. But if you can't be disciplined for more than two days, start by telling yourself you can start by loving yourself more.

“You need to love yourself enough to show up for yourself.”

You deserve that. You deserve you showing up for you. But then also check check yourself, right? Because what are you really trying to be disciplined at doing? Is it going to the gym?

Does it match your identity? If you're trying to do something and you have a goal and you're trying to work toward a goal or a routine or a new habit. And you're falling off after two days. It doesn't match who you think you are and that's the problem. But you might also have a cheap dopamine problem where your brain is just not going to put in any sort of long-term effort because why would it do that?

When short effort like picking up your phone is going to give you dopamine. So stop giving yourself so much cheap dopamine because it's teaching your brain that rewards don't require effort.

And they don't always have to require effort, like sometimes just you could just eat that ice cream cone.

So check your dopamine sources as well because that is a huge player. But then also just start small. If you're falling off after two days, start so much smaller. What if you're trying to go to the gym? If you're trying to work out every day, make it easier by two, five, go to the store, get two, five pound weights and do ten minutes of exercise at your house every day.

Like make it way easier to do and start so much smaller. Make it the barrier to entry so much more minimal. And it'll be way easier to do it and then you'll build momentum. And I feel like we've come so full circle in this episode because that's exactly what I was talking about with starting the podcast. After I started, there were barriers to entry, but I built momentum and we're here now and it's so much easier, right?

So start so much smaller. I don't make it easier. And the last question that I want to answer is a meaningful question that someone asked me and it is, what is your why?

“And I like that question and I think that I have shared that on this podcast before, but my why is my purpose?”

And my why drives me so I actually have a mission statement that I've created based on my top values in life.

And my mission really is to master myself through mastering my mind and my body like mastering myself comes first.

And spreading love and being joy and making an impact on the world, a positive impact on the world. That's my mission. Like that is my purpose here. To master my mind to be love and joy and make a positive impact on the world like that really is. That's that's what drives me every single day. And if I'm doing those three things, I am extremely fulfilled in my life.

If I am growing as a human mastering my mind, getting on top, I feel so good. And when I will say in the very beginning of all of this, I kind of had this realization that I really want to elevate the vibration of the planet. I just I just want to elevate the vibration of the planet. I want the planet to be a better place for everybody to live. That's that's what I want.

“And what I have realized is that all desires are selfish desires, right?”

Like of course, I want to help everybody out. But also, you know, the team is only as strong as it's weakest link. So I want everybody to be happier and healthier and in more joy. It's like when you go to the beach and everyone's on vacation. It's a great place to be because everybody's happy and free and they're on vacation.

They're having fun. Imagine if the world was like that. Imagine if our planet was like that where everybody was happy and in their joy and you know, living out their purpose and helping each other and spreading love and joy to each other. Like that just sounds like a great place to live. And it might be a delusional mission to be to be after and I understand that it is.

That's my why.

“And let's wrap this up to set up with the three wonders of the week.”

My three wonders of the week are one. I actually had a revelation about my book and I've realized that every single chapter that I've written of my book has called me to integrate. And really implement and embody the chapter that I'm writing. So for example, when I and this has become only really clear and hindsight as I'm finishing the book. When I was in it, it didn't really.

“I didn't recognize, but I recognize now that when I was writing the focus chapter, we were snowed in and I was writing the focus chapter.”

I my fiance's house where there were people and noise and distractions and the old version of me would have never been able to focus and not environment.

But I locked in and I was able to focus. And for example, when I was writing the beliefs chapter, I started doubting myself a little bit and then I started looking at some inspiration. And as I was looking at inspiration from some of the best selling books, I had this realization that. Wait, my book is going to be insanely good. It takes the best components of all these books that I like and put in it's obviously through my lens and it's my work and all that.

Well, all that, but it takes the these components from these books that I really like and it puts it all together.

“And it combines everything that I think is really important in one place.”

And I just had this realization like, whoa, I started really believing again and in my own work and in myself. And when I was writing the nervous system regulation one, I was I started getting really back onto my morning routines and everything. And as I was writing the the challenges are opportunities to level up boom, I'm based with tests and well, that's where we're at now. So that was my first wonder of the week and I just thought it was really cool and kind of magical and a little bit mystical that every chapter as I'm writing it, I'm living it and I'm being called to integrate it even deeper.

I think that's it's kind of really mystical. I don't know. It's cool. When I realized that I was like, whoa, it's interesting.

My second wonder of the week is my puppy trija. I just am absolutely obsessed with her and she makes my heart explode every time I look at her and I'm so grateful for her.

Like, I am just so extremely grateful for her. She's she blows my mind with love literally like, I feel like I'm going to explode when I look at her. Look, I love her so much. She's perfect. I'm so grateful for her. I would not trade her for anything. I love her so much. And on that note, my third wonder of the week is my relationship. My fiance and I just feel so grateful for him and I feel. Yeah, I just feel so lucky to have him and I feel so lucky to have met him and to have this person in my life. And yeah, I feel so like I just feel so grateful.

It's love is, you know, like, it is a blessing and it is an honor to be in a relationship where you just feel so deeply loved. Like, I feel so deeply loved and cared for and respected and cherished and honored. And of course, I feel the same way about him and on this past week we've been really locked in every single day. There've been nights where I'm writing till 2 a.m. And he's there with me. He's locked into on his own stuff. So it's been really amazing. And then I feel like it's kind of connected us even more.

So those are my three wonders of the week and I highly recommend you guys do your three wonders of the week to rewire your brains to look for more the good in life and you'll start to see it. Anyway, guys, I'm sending each and every single one of you so much love and the next time I do a Q&A box like submit your questions because I was looking through them. There were a lot of good ones. I'll do another Q&A episode for sure in the future. So be on the lookout for that. Until next time guys, have a great week. I'm sending you so much love. I'm proud of you.

Forgive yourself frequently and give yourself grace and recognize how amazing you are. And give yourself more credit. All right. I'll see you soon. Bye, everybody.