1030. Q&AF: Fighting The "Broke Mentality", Does Success Change Treatment & Social Media Success Pressure

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Little Memorial Day special. Yeah, cool out there. Yeah, this is being released, obviously. Yep. Hell yeah, man, it's a beautiful day.

Sure is. Yeah. Sure is a beautiful day on the Friday. We're recording this for much. That's right.

Dude, it's cold outside. We're betting it's going to be beautiful while we listen. We are betting. Wherever it is, it's going to be beautiful. You're beautiful.

Well, I don't know about your person. That's right. That's right. DJ. Oh, no, I'm beautiful.

Inside and out. Big black and beautiful. That's right. I was going to have to have a fuck with you and you're like, something about the show is a little different.

Like, I'm a racist. That's what I'm, that's what I'm, that's what I'm, that's what I'm, that's what I'm, that's what I'm, that's what I'm. I have this half of this art, but it's not to have to think. That's right. That's right. No, man, it's a beautiful day. Guys, it's a great day to get better. I'm this beautiful Memorial Day. Amen. That's what Memorial Day is about. Yeah, so maybe we recognize the men and women who have sacrificed for us to have the opportunity to get better. And when we do not take advantage of that opportunity, we're actually violating the covenant in the agreement and the duty that

“Memorial Day is all about. Right. So while you relax today and have a hamburger or a hot dog or whatever it is that you do, remember that your opportunity to get better came with the very serious price for a lot of people.”

And that's something that we really believe in on this show every day, not just on days like today. 100% do you keep that in mind. Yeah, 100%. So let's get better. Yeah, let's do it. Let's get better. Guys, Andy, I got three goat runs for you. Question number one. Andy, I am making more money now than I ever thought I would. And then you're fucking goals are too small.

I still think one bad month is going to wipe everything out. Does that ever go away or do people who grew up without money always carry that fear a little bit. Why do you want that to go away?

“Why are you so concerned with that going away? You have to understand that that feeling that you have is what is going to secure that you never lose what it is that you're building.”

Okay, so you have a couple things here. Number one, if you're already making more money than you ever thought you were going to make, you need to expand your goals. Okay, because I'm assuming this is how old they are. No. Okay, I'm assuming you're not old. Yeah. Okay, so you need to fucking think way bigger and whatever your money you're making now, you need to realize it's probably not that much money. Okay, what they tell us in school about what a lot of money is is not a lot of money. All right. When I was in school, they used to tell us, get your degree and you're going to make $60,000 a year and that was considered a lot of money.

Yeah, right. Yeah. And back then, okay, yeah, you could you could live on that. But the reality is is that that's not a lot of money. Okay, and a hundred thousand dollars or two hundred thousand dollars or three hundred thousand dollars when you're making 50 sounds like a lot until you start making it in your realize that you're still feel broke.

“Okay, so whatever it is that you're wanting or whatever you're making now, you need to take that in like 20 times that, okay, because that's you have to understand your money is consistently being devalued over the course of time through inflation.”

You know, the pretty good more money. There's all kinds of things that happen naturally that make it so that whatever you make now when you're 50, it doesn't equal the same, right. If a guy had a million dollars and the year nineteen fucking 90, and he's got a million dollars now, that million dollars is different today than it was then. And you're going to be alive for a long time. So what you think is a lot of money now is not going to be a lot of money in 20 30 years. You have to understand that. All right. So you need to take that goal projected out to when you're 50, 60, 70, 80, and what do you want to live? Okay, and that should be the reflection of the monetary goal that you have now.

So it needs to be way bigger. Secondly, let me tell you something, dude, that coming from nothing and having that fear of losing it all is a fucking gift.

That is a gift. You just don't realize it because it causes you anxiety, but it doesn't actually cause you anxiety. It causes you to go hard. It causes you to keep working. It causes you to keep building and thinking bigger and bigger and bigger. And that is the greatest insurance that you're going to have against losing what it is that you have. The most of the people that that when at one point in their life end up losing because what happens is is they get comfortable and they stop pressing the gas down and then everybody else catches up or passes them by.

What you're doing right now if you were to just let off the throttle is go it ever away. Okay. So you have to understand that mentality coming from nothing and being hungry and being scared and being afraid of being broke and having a mentality of fuck dude.

“I mean, that is a gift. That's a gift and you need to remember that and never forget it. A lot of people don't have that people who come from money will never have that.”

That is a different kind of hunger. That is a different kind of drive. And that is the insurance that you're going to have that you won't be broke.

So the fact that you actually have that instead of seeing it like it's something that you want to get rid of, you should say I'm grateful to have this because I understand it's going to keep me building and moving. Okay. There is no finish line for entrepreneurs. It doesn't exist. All right. The closest thing to a finish line for an entrepreneur is building something with enterprise value on the back end selling it for, you know, millions of millions, maybe billions of dollars. And then being fucking miserable the rest of your life because dude people who are entrepreneur builders, they have to have things to build. Okay. If they don't have things to build and create and become they're fucking miserable. So this lie that is told about making all this money and sitting on the beach with your fucking corona.

That's going to make you miserable. Okay. You have to understand. You are cut from a different cloth than everybody else. Everybody else is cool sitting around. You're not. You are gifted with a drive that other people don't have and that's not something that you should be trying to get rid of. You have to understand that. I don't think I've ever heard you explain it like that. That's why, like the very thing you're trying to get rid of that that's actually going to be what you do. Why do you think I come in here seven fucking days a week? Why do you think I flip out over fucking little bit of things?

Yeah, right. They think I'm being falsely humble. Yeah. They think I'm like, no dude, you don't understand. That is who the fuck I am. Okay. I am built to fight that battle. I am built to build. I am built to create. I am built to become and I am built to progress down the pipe and I'm a fucking warrior at it. And if a warrior doesn't have a war, they don't have a purpose. And if you don't have a purpose, you're going to lose and you're going to be miserable. You're entire world.

“You're an entire life. So you have to understand what you're trying to get rid of is actually a thing that's allowing you to make the more money that you've ever thought you were going to make.”

Well, let me actually this, right, because so you're in that spot. How do you, like, how do you try to like keep that then when it's like obviously for you. I do the 10 realists. You're not going to lose it all.

I don't know. I've seen people bigger than me lose it all. Yeah, it's not like a super real fucking. I don't know. It's really enough for me to be worried about it.

If it could just like I talk about all the time, what one man can do, another can do. And what could happen to one man can happen to you. And that's real shit. So there's been people much bigger than the meat of fucking lost everything. And I'm very aware of that. Okay. I'm still there's real for you. Yeah. It's still still still still. What do you think? Yeah. You've been around me every day for the last six years. You see me fucking off? No. No. Like, bro, why do you think I, why do you think I do all the shit that I do? Like why do you think I, why do you think I live the live-hard lifestyle? Like, bro.

You know, people think that I'm some sort of fucking like smart person. I'm a fucking idiot. Okay.

I'm just a guy who is smart enough to learn from his mistakes and tough enough to continue fucking move down the pipe. That is it. And I've made every motherfucking mistake in the world. So the reason that I go so hard is because I know what I'm not. And while people may look at that external reality and think, oh, man, he's so smart. He's so gifted. Every motherfucking thing that you see was earned through a mistake or pain or frustration or getting my balls kicked in. And I don't like that. Okay. So I don't want those things to happen. So I try to keep my shit together. You know, I keep my fucking, my brain tuned. I keep my body tuned.

I do the best that I can because dude, I know that there's other people that are more gifted than me. I'm aware of that.

“Okay. Like I come from the fucking place that y'all come from. You know, that's why I don't have any sympathy when you say like, oh, I come from here motherfucker. You don't even understand.”

The people who do the biggest things in life come from those places because they learn how to fucking fight when they were young. They learn how to overcome when they were young. People who win, they have bad childhoods. They have tough stories. They have things they had to deal with when they were younger. And that's what's created the fucking monster that you see them as now. Okay. So the shit that y'all tell yourselves about, oh, come from here and so again, do that. That's bullshit.

Yeah. A hundred percent. Not only is it bullshit, you're failing to acknowledge the gift that you were given to learn how to fight and overcome that other people will never have.

So you need to pull your fucking head right out of your ass and understand that if you come from nothing and you don't have anything, you're actually equipped to much better than the person was gifted everything. Oh, man, let's keep moving dude. I got question number two for you, bro. Andy, I lost about 80 pounds over the last few years and it completely changed how people treat me. Yeah, that did more respect, more attention. People actually listening when I talk now. Honestly, it messed with my head a little bit because it made me realize how differently the world responds to you based on how you carry yourself.

It does being successful do the same. This does did success ever make you look at people or relationships differently in a way that you were not expected. Does money do the same thing. Yeah. Okay, look dude. There's idealism and then there's realism. Okay. Here's the idealism answer.

“The only thing that matters is in your heart. All it matters is that you're a good person and that you're nice to people. That's all that matters.”

That's all that matters. All that matters is that and everybody's the same and everybody's this and everybody's that that is not true. Is it important to be nice to people? Yes. Does it matter to have strong character? Yes. But how strong is your character if you actually aren't the best that you could be? Okay. How good of a person are you actually if you're not actually trying to put your gifts that were given to you by God into the world?

Okay. You have an obligation to become the best that you can be. And this idea that you could sit around and waste your life and some morally posture yourself is this good person.

“That's just not real. It's not true. So the idealist people will say shit like all that matters is that you're a nice person.”

No. That matters. That's not all that matters. Okay. And the realist answer is everybody's going to judge you based upon how you carry yourself, how you treat people, how you look, what kind of money you make, how your successes. These things fucking matter whether you think it's right or wrong. It's just reality. You walk into a room and you are fit. It sends a message. It says, I have my shit together. I could control things that other people can't control. I take my life serious. That person automatically gets more respect. That person automatically gets more trust because people know they're not going to fumble the ball and little shit.

So yes, the world treats you massively differently depending on how physically fit you are. Now when it comes to money, it's the same thing. A lot of that shit comes from, you know, People wanting to get a little piece of it. Okay. They will treat you different. There's a lot of people that will treat you different because they want a little bite of your fucking off your plate. That's not the people I'm talking about. To be successful, it takes other people that are successful to recognize that you are somewhat successful and that's where the opportunities come from.

Okay, not everybody keeps saying, oh well, your network is your network. Not if you're a piece of shit. It's right. Okay. It doesn't matter how much you pay. It doesn't matter what room you're in or I've got to get in the right room. If you have your shit together and you are a big fat mother fucker and you're not doing things in real life, you're still not going to get the opportunities no matter how hard you try to impress the other people in the room because they're going to see if for what you are.

You're someone that can't fulfill promises, not even to yourself. You're someone who's not detail oriented. You're not serious about taking things serious. People don't trust people like that because it's the truth. If you can't keep promises to yourself and you can't hold yourself to a high standard. Why would any of these other successful people want to do anything business wise with you? And that is required to get the certain levels. Okay. So yes, your network is your network. Sort of. As long as you like fit in with those people and I don't mean be like those people and not wear the same clothes.

“I mean hold yourself to a high standard. I mean taking yourself seriously. I mean living what success is supposed to look like.”

And then what happens is these people up the ladder from you, they will recognize this and they'll say, you know what?

I'm worth a billion plus dollars. That guy's only doing, you know, 500,000 dollars a year, but look how fucking much he has you shit together.

Let me help this dude. Let me do something for this guy. Let me work with this guy because they recognize the effort and it's being put in. Not because of what you say, but because of how you look and what you're actually doing and that is real shit. And that goes for business relationships that goes for personal relationships that goes for your friends, that goes for girlfriends, boyfriends, potential mates like dude. Here's the one thing I can't understand is like you see all these fucking dudes out here that don't have their shit together.

They're overweight. They don't make any money and somehow they feel entitled to like the most beautiful women that are like that most desire. What the fuck, who the fuck do you think you are, bro? They don't owe you shit. They have assets and they're looking to have match with someone who also and your job as a fucking man is to be a provider and a protector. And if you're a sloppy idiot that plays video games all day and doesn't make any money, doesn't have to shit together dude, you're not going to, you're going to get what you are.

And really, that's, that's the bottom line. That's the bottom line. You are going to get from the world what you are.

“That's it. And you've got to build that first. So does it matter?”

Yeah, it doesn't matter a little either. It's like fucking everything dude. Now I'm not saying you can't be marginally successful being out of shit. I was, when I was, when I was, when I was, when I was, when I was fucking don't know that dude, most people do not know you, you were, you were 350 pounds. You were awesome. When you hear me fucking talk about, when you hear me say, hey, fat fuck. Understand, I could say that because I know what the fuck it's like. I know what it's like to not go to a pool party for 10 fucking years because I'm embarrassed to take my shirt off.

I know what it's like to wear the same outfit every mother fucking day because I thought that it was like fooling everybody and looking that I was slimmer than it was.

That's why I know the body positivity movement's all bullshit. And now you all know it's bullshit too because here's the reality.

All those people preaching it two years ago and I took a zephic and they've lost 200 pounds. So they were really fucking happy with who the fuck they are and then why do they lose 200 fucking pounds. That's right. Okay, they're all full shit. Okay, you could convince yourself all you want. You could say, oh, it's not that bad. It's not that that's you negotiating with yourself. That's you telling yourself lies. And that is the exact reason why people who are ahead of the head on the food chain don't want to work with you because you believe your own lies.

“Oh, that's the worst part. That's the worst part, dude. Those people don't know that. I remember I think we were in California doing that talk to remember that guy that's fucked up.”

You know, he fucking stands up and he goes, you know, he's at least three fifty at least at least at least.

I would say I'm giving him some fucking credit. It's been stands up and he's like, yo, man, I'm this, you know, I'm just like you dude. I got the same mentality and this is not killing it. And I looked at him and I'm like, okay, there's thousands and I said this. I said there's thousands of people in this room. Do you really want me to address that right now? Yeah, yeah, that's what I said. Well, you're fucking full of shit. You're fucking three hundred and fucking 80 pounds bro. You ain't nothing like me.

You might think you are, but you're fucking not. You might want to be, but you're fucking not because you have not fucking earned it. That is the truth. And people say, well, no one's better than anybody else. That is another fucking lie. Okay, there are people that are better. That's reality, dude. Okay, and we can lie to ourselves and say, well, you know, and we can argue whether it's right or wrong. But that's not what we're talking about. We're talking about what isn't isn't. And what is is that people will treat you entirely different based upon your physical appearance, based upon how successful you are, based upon all this other shit.

“When your mom told you, when you were fucking nine years old, that all that matters on the inside, that's a lie. That's a lie. How that work out for you, bro?”

Did all the girls appreciate that? How that work out for you? I'm not saying it doesn't matter. I'm saying there's other things that matter too. So make no mistake. Being a good person is the fundamental foundation of all of this shit, because you could be fit, you could make money, and you could be a shithead and you still won't get ahead. Okay, and there's, that's another common belief that's total bullshit. All these guys at the top, they're all bunch of fucking blah, blah, blah. That's just lies that broke people say about these people. Okay, the most successful people I know are also the best people I know.

That's the truth. They're good people. They do the right thing. You can't have 500, a thousand, 2,000, 10,000 people that want to follow you or work for you when you're a fucking piece of shit. It won't work. Okay, so yes, your model was correct. Being a good person is the fundamental fucking foundation for all of it, but there's a lot more that matters than just that. That's not going to get you where you want to go. You've got to have to be the whole package. So do people treat you different fucking A way different. It's not even close. It's not even in the same ballpark. It is literally alpha and omega difference. Okay, it's A and Z. It's life and death.

It's that much difference. It's a polar fucking opposite. Okay, and I know because I lived it. All right, so when you hear me say this shit, understand like when I was fat, nobody was fucking wanting to work with me. Nobody was taking me seriously and I used to get pissed until one day I realized they were right. And I fixed it. Yeah. Yeah, and like for context, you were pretty, you were pretty, you were doing okay, even when you were big though, right, or at that point, right, 100 million dollar business. Yeah, that's crazy.

So I'm just saying that the rest of my life was fucked up. I wanted a good leader. I wasn't, I did like look dude. Whatever it is you're doing right now can only be amplified by those things. And they will come a ceiling that you get to unless you're just absurdly family wealthy and it doesn't matter. Okay, like you take a guy like Pritzker, who's the governor of Illinois, okay.

“That's blood money. That's 400 pounds. I think he's lost a little weight, which I give him credit for not a political fan of him at all.”

You know, I think he has lost a little bit of weight. Good for him. But he could not have gotten that position unless he would have had that family backing. It's not based around who he actually is. It's based around what he brings to the table and he brings enough leverage to the table monetarily that it got him fought, it got him pretty far. But guess what? That ain't you.

And he never going to be you. So we can argue about what's right along or what is or is it or we can just address the reality in the bottom line of what it's going to take for you.

Every single one you are not good enough to beat these other people at half your game. You're just not I'm fucking not and I'll beat the fuck out of you.

That's right. It's right in business. It's right. It's right. It's real. So it's like it's like doing it. It's a thing that like nobody really just wants to admit it. So you like I'm speaking to the person listening like you treat people differently. You know you do you know you do. Just from how they look how they like you treat them differently. But nobody wants to admit, but like nobody wants to admit that. Well, that's because they're idealists. Yeah. This shows call real. It's not called ideal. This is this is this is the truth. And this is not another podcast or it says, oh, you know, you're enough.

No, no the fuck you aren't. You're fucking you could you could be, but you ain't right now.

“And that's what you got to realize. Okay. You are a raw fucking piece of granite that has not been shizzled out yet.”

And you need to get the fucking hammering so that you could chisel out what the fuck you're trying to create. And then once that thing is sculpted, people appreciate it. Nobody appreciates a big block of granite when it's just sitting there. It's just, nobody comes in and says nobody comes in and says there's a, there's a, there's a, look at this. That sculpture of David is just as beautiful as that block of granite.

There's not a fucking single person in history. It's ever said that. So you think you're going to be the first one. Now, do you have the ability to do that? Sure.

Are you doing it? Maybe have you done it to your maximum ability? Probably not. And if you want to be what it is, you say you want to be, you would become that. I love it, dude. I love it, man. Guys, Andy are third and final question. Got a young book here. Question number three. Andy. I believe social media has completely messed up my perception of success. I'm 23 and every day I see people my age claiming their millionaires. They're buying watches. They're buying cars, buying houses. Meanwhile, I'm trying to figure out my career and pay for my rent on time.

Realistically, I know comparison is stupid, but it still gets in my head. So how do you recommend I stay focused on the real world when the internet constantly makes me feel behind.

“Okay. There's a couple things here. Number one, you have to understand, you're not wrong. Okay.”

I have watched the internet evolve. All right. When I started on social media in 2012, you had a few entrepreneurs that were giving good advice that had actually built real things.

Like, and what I mean by real things is like, you could see them. You could order their product. They were like, they had real shit real businesses. Okay. Now, this has evolved into a big horse and pony show and these kids, what they do is they go out. They create some sort of hustle and then they take all that money and they go lease a fucking Lamborghini for whatever for, you know, a 12 year interest only lease. Trying to pasture so that you, the actual, we'll look at them and say, I'm going to buy whatever they're selling. There must be doing something right.

Right. This has completely fucked the perception of what entrepreneurship is actually about. Entrepreneurship is the hardest fucking job you will ever choose in your entire life. And when you see some kid out there saying, I'm the guy that got this at 23, how did you get it? Where's your company? Where's your employees? What do you ship? What service do you offer? Can I talk to your customers? Where are they? Who are they?

“Okay. And you have to learn to vet this shit out because it doesn't take a whole bunch of selling widgets or bullshit to afford a $3,000 a month lease”

to then pretend to be successful. Okay. You have to know the difference. And if you lack to this sermon to be able to tell the difference, you're not going to be successful anyway. Because you don't have enough intelligence to do it. That's just the truth. There's a bare minimum intelligence that's required. And being able to do do diligence to understand if someone is real or not, that's one of them. And part of the problem is we want to believe that story. Okay. Especially when we're 19, 20, 21, 22, we want to believe that we can be the guy who's on a yacht, you know, and driving a fucking Bugatti when they're 24 years old. We want to because that sounds fucking awesome man.

Well, when I was 24, someone was saying, oh, dude, you could drive a Bugatti. I'm for sure what about the shit because I'm like, how the fuck did they do it? So you lack the perspective to understand what it's actually about.

But they're not built for it, bro. It's hardest fuck. It takes everything you got. You have to be willing to give things up. You're going to lose relationships. You're going to lose friends. You're going to lose fucking a lot of shit to be successful. You're going to pass up on a lot of shit. And you're going to have to do that for a really long time. And that entire time that you're doing it, you're going to have to wonder if it's ever going to work out.

Very few people are actually set up to just hammer and hammer and hammer and hammer and never know if it's actually going to materialize.

That is a fucking special kind of person. That's a special kind of mental toughness and not everybody's equipped for that. And not everybody wants to give up their weekends and their nights and their dinners nor should they. There's nothing wrong with earning an honest living and having a balanced life that makes you happy. You don't have to be this. You don't have to.

“But for the ones that really want it, you have to be able to discern what's real and what's fake.”

And there's so much fake out here that it's almost impossible for them to tell. Because these people are good at faking it and you lack the perspective that someone like me who's built really fucking massive things in real life has from looking back down the mountain. Okay, like when you're at the bottom of the mountain and you see someone that is, you know, a quarter of the way up. And you're like, fuck, how do you get there so fast? Well, you didn't see the helicopter come over and drop in the fuck off.

You know, that it's a green screen. Yeah, yes. You need to see that ship. Yeah. So you have to realize that like literally 99% of these people on the internet are full of fucking shit. I real talk full stop 99%. If you can't see their company and you can't over their product and you can't talk to their customers or they don't have a service or they don't you can't recognize the businesses or they won't tell you the businesses or they like that's all red flag shit.

“But you have to fucking understand every, let me ask you this.”

If you had real businesses and you had this massive portfolio of small businesses and shit and all these things going on and you were actually trying to wouldn't you tell what would be the reason you wouldn't tell people that. If that's what you're trying to help people do. Why would you hide that? There's no reason for you would be showing people you would be going into the businesses. You would say, Here's this business that I'm partners in. We're doing this and this and this. Here's this business that we're doing this and this.

Here's this person that I helped. They went from here to here and that person would say, yeah, I did it. Like there would be real world evidence. You'd be able to go order their products. You'd be able to read their reviews. This you have to verify this shit. Okay. If you can't do that, they're fucking lying because if they were doing it, it would be an asset and a marketing advantage for them to share. So, understand that. There's all these people out here that are selling digital coaching that are saying, Oh, I made all this money doing this and this and this and this and this and this and they got like they might have a couple cars.

They might have all right, but their businesses. What what are the names of them? Where are they?

How come you're never shooting? How come if you've, how come if you have these things, why are you shooting content and you're front fucking yard?

Why aren't you, like why we never see you in your office? Why we never see you? You see what I'm saying? Yeah. Why? Because they're lying. Okay. And they're making all of their money selling you something that they never actually did.

“Okay. So keep that in mind. Now what you have to understand is that there's a, that's the bullshit.”

The reality is that you are going to have to be prepared to run the mother fucking gauntlet and guess what?

The gauntlet never fucking ends. It's not something there's an end to.

You're not going to get to the end of it. There's no light at the tunnel, bro. It's a constant fight. That's the path you're choosing. You are choosing a path of a constant battle that's going to last your entire life. And what you're going to get out of it is a lifestyle and an experience that other people will never have. And we can argue what's better or not. But that's the reality. All right. You're not going to have to worry about paying for dinners. You're not going to have to worry about where you go to vacation.

You're not going to have to worry about what's car you want to drive. You're not going to have to worry about making mortgage payments. Those people are going to have to worry about them. But they are going to have things that you don't have. They are going to have their weekends. They are going to have their nights with their families.

So we got to understand the reality before you fucking sign up for it.

Okay. And your question was, I always feel like I'm behind.

Well, yeah, man, because you're consuming internet bullshit. Yeah. Okay. You know how many motherfuckers out here are out here building real careers. Doing real shit and real companies that are becoming very successful. That probably feel like they're way behind because these other people are lying. Like, dude, it's a big problem.

And you just have to remind yourself, dude, that it's just not real. It's just not real shit. Okay. I've been doing this long enough. Okay. And the personal development game, I can really go any higher. That's the truth. Okay. To the point where I got tired of doing it, that's when I switched off at MSEO in 2020.

“Like, it's like, I won that game. You know what I'm saying?”

I just don't, that's a whole other thing, because now it created a vacuum for all this stupid shit.

You guys got to understand, man. There's nothing wrong with building something real and it taking a long time. That's actually how it goes. Okay. And all these people were telling you different and then saying buy my shit. They're making all their money off buy my shit. Okay. It's a fucking act. Yeah. It's a fucking character. And if you're out there and you're working hard and you're working smart and you're genuinely building something,

I could promise you this is not going to look like Bugatti's in three fucking years. It's fucking not. Do not let these liars make you feel like you're doing it wrong, because it's hard for you. Do not let these people make you feel like you're doing it wrong because it's taking longer than it maybe took them. Because you're already way ahead of them because you're building something fucking real. Okay. Easy come, easy go. I was just about to fucking say that.

It's an appearance. Fast money comes, fast money goes. You want a foundation for your whole entire life that's going to create generation of wealth to the point where You know, you know, my age, you know, I don't have to, I don't have to do anything.

“I could never show up here again and it doesn't matter how much inflation happens.”

I'm going to be living the same life. But again, I'm built for the motherfucking game. I've been doing this so long that I'm addicted to it. You know, oh, that's not healthy. Well, it's not healthy for you. Because I tell you what's not healthy for me is not doing it.

Because every motherfucking time I've tried to relax and be a normal person, you know what happens. I end up sitting on the couch thinking, fuck dude, I'm a fucking kill myself. This is fucking horrible. And I don't say that figuratively. I mean, literally. So for me, I have to fight. I have to go.

And if you're really built for it, you understand exactly what I'm saying. And if you're not built for it, it sounds fucking crazy. Okay. But if you are built for it and you try to live like everybody else, you're going to be fucking miserable. So don't let these people talk you into like, you know, oh, you got to relax.

So you got to do this or you got to do this or, you know, you got trauma or relax or, Bro, that's for you. This is what I do. And the world fucking requires people like that.

“What if there wasn't a bunch of crazy psycho motherfuckers that were addicted building shit?”

What the world would look like? Okay. The world needs fucking people who are willing to fight.

People who are relentless. People who never give up.

People who are addicted to the game. All the great shit that's ever been built that you utilize every single day. The place you go to eat, the closure where the fucking cars you draw. They're all built by people like that, bro. All of it.

Okay. So if you're one of those people and everybody's telling you one of those people, it's probably a good thing. Yeah. All right. No. But you got to understand, dude.

They're speaking a different language than you. All right. All that shit you see on the internet. That's for other people. All that feel good shit. That's for other people. All that shit.

All that idealistic bullshit. That's for people to feel better about not pursuing what they know they're supposed to pursue. The reason they're depressed. The reason they have anxiety. The reason they're unfamiliar.

It has nothing to do with how much they've done. It has to do with what they know they should have done, but shows not to do. And there's wrestling with it on the inside.

Okay. It's really hard to be depressed when you have big goals and big dreams that you're working on it.

Really fucking hard. All right. So I know I said a lot there. But at the end of the day,

“Fuck these motherfuckers on the internet.”

There are a bunch of liars. If they can't show you their fucking receipts, they're lying. Period. Because if they could show you the receipts, they'd fucking show them because it would help them do what they're doing. Mm-hmm.

Oh, you would just know.

You would know those names of those companies.

Yeah. Yeah. Come on, dude. It's bullshit. Yeah.

Okay. Now are there's people? Now are there people that have specialized skill sets that know that know how to help and do can sell around those things? Absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely.

But those people are also wealthy for real.

Because they've utilized those skill sets to build that wealth. All right.

“So you have to be able to discern all this shit.”

But I'm going to tell you right now. Okay. I've been around this a long time, dude. And I'm just being real. Okay.

Most of it. And I'm not talking about 80%. I'm talking upper 90% is total smoke and mirrors. I said. So you can't let it fucking.

You can't let it make you think that it's like it's like comparing. Oh, and by the way, there's another part of that question. He said something about comparing. What do you say in there? He said realistically, I know comparison is stupid.

No, it's not stupid. That's the point. That was what I was going to say. That was the point. comparison is a fucking amazing thing if you're comparing to the right people. Right? Okay? You are in a competition. You can pretend you're not. People can say you're not. Everybody can act like it's wrong. But the truth of the matter is you are in a competition. You are trying to do something that only a certain amount of people get to do and you're trying to do it at a level that only a certain amount of people ever get to get at. And that means it's a fucking competition for who the fuck gets there.

This whole idea that everybody can do it, it's not true. Because there's other people in your lane doing the same thing that you and there's only so much market share. And you have to own that market share to get to that result. And if you don't you won't. So it is a competition. A fucking very real one. Probably the fiercest toughest, most brutal competition you could ever sign up for. It's harder than fucking anything.

“And this idea that it's not a competition is total shit. That's what people tell people who have given up on all their shit and want to feel good about it.”

That's why I say a lot of these people are predatory. They know what they're saying. What's a bigger market to sell to you. The 2% of entrepreneurs that are actually successful out of the 8% of the total population, 8% of the fucking, 8% of the population, 8% of the entrepreneurs, 2% of fucking successful of that 8. Okay. What's a bigger market? That 10% or that 90% that feel bad about their life going the way that they want to go and you could sell them things that make them feel better. That don't know any better. These people are salesmen. Like when you hear all this feel good shit about inner peace and all this fucking shit, that's for them.

I'm going to tell you something, dude. You're signing up for the hardest battle ever. It's very rare that you get inner peace. Okay. You don't get to sit around and rub fucking bowls. You're signing up for fucking hard ass shit. You're signing up for 2 AM phone calls. You're signing up for getting out of bed at fucking 4 o'clock in the morning. You're signing up for getting your balls kicked in every motherfucking day. You're signing up for losing money over and over and over and over again. You're signing up for losing girlfriends, losing boyfriend, losing friends, losing relationships, missing out on all cool shit quote unquote. That's what the fuck you're signing up for. That is the path.

But then again, the reward is much different than what they get. Okay. And dude, what they get, they should just appreciate it. Like if you're one of these people who's not in that 9% or not in that 10% bro, live your life, do well enough to live your life and enjoy your life. Don't agonize yourself in a thinking that you need to be an entrepreneur that you've got to make all this money or this or that bro. You have a gift too. And by the way, that's most people. And you know what? Those people usually, if they don't antagonize themselves with these fake dreams about who they aren't, are actually the happier people.

Okay. Well, don't you want to be happy and I am happy because my fucking what I do makes me happy. You don't understand that.

That is not the same thing. Bro, if I went home every day, fucking four o'clock and sat around and then every weekend and I have shit to do, I would be fucking miserable.

“It lasts a couple of days. Oh, dude. For me, at this point, I can't even do it for a day. And why aren't you going on two-week vacations because bro, that's I can't do that.”

I'm not into that. It doesn't make me fucking happy. That doesn't make I'm a builder. I'm a creator. I want to be in the fucking fight. That's what makes me fucking happy. And why are that way? All right. You're wired a different way. That's fucking totally cool, man. Okay, but like this whole thing like this is why like people that are wired the other way.

They always say, well, you should do this in this and this and this and you know, but you're not, you don't seem to be happy.

Yeah, because you don't understand what makes me happy. It is inconceivable to you that someone would be happy living in that kind of a battle. But if we didn't have people like that, what the fuck would the world look like?

“So if you're one of those people, you have to realize that you are a very important person society that provides a ton of value for people and they're going to fucking take you crazy for doing it.”

But they're going to benefit from it. So it's like, be what you are, dude. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. There's nothing wrong with it with either way, but you got to know what you are and you got to be true to yourself. Otherwise, you're going to fucking be miserable. Yeah, that's the, that's the, that's the, like you can be extremely successful as an entrepreneur. Oh, dude. Extremely, dude. Listen, the happiest people are very effective entrepreneurs are people who are part of an organization who come in, who kick ass, who are very skilled.

They get paid very well because they provide value and then they still get to have the benefits of going home and enjoying their family, going on vacations and doing the things that normal people do and they love that. Those are the, actually, the happiest people because they get enough financial freedom to live their life. There's, I actually like, real talk, dude. I wish I was one of those people a lot of times. I just, I'm just not. And I tried to be one of those people. I had a very, I had a person that I respect a whole lot who's a good friend of mine one time try to convince me that I needed to like,

chill out and relax and, you know, this, and I tried to do that, bro. And I went through the hardest darkest time of my entire life like where I got literally suicidal about it. And I felt like, bro, what the fuck is wrong with me? And I was sitting with my other friend. And I was sitting in my, my cigar lounge having this amazing conversation. I was explaining this to him. He's like, and, you know, the guy is so smart. And so simple to, you know, he's like, did you ever think that, you know, you're built for the fight, like, did you ever realize that people like he's telling me what I'm telling you.

And what, what's that clicked? I was like, oh, game on my focus. Yeah, all right. This is what the fuck I am. Right. You know, it's like, it's like trying to be a fish and climate tree, like the shit doesn't fish a swim. That's right. You know what's saying? Like, go swim. Yeah, go swim. You know, and, and fucking raccoons climb trees or whatever man, I'm one of them. You know, I'm not the same as you know, and there are different kinds of human beings. So, you got to know what you are, and you got to go on that path and you got to choose wisely. Now in the beginning, you have a lot of doubt.

Because right now, there's a lot of young people listening, like, fuck, which one am I? How do I know this? How do I know? Yeah, here's how you know.

“Are you willing to have that life that they have? That's it. Are you willing to have whatever everybody else has? Is that appeal to you? Is that what you want?”

If that's not what you want, and you want more, you're never going to be happy with that.

Right. There's a secret sauce stuff. That's it. I love it, dude. I love it, man. Beautiful and more, your day, man. Yeah, guys, Andy. That was three. All right. All right. All right. Guys, we will see you tomorrow with CTI. Don't be a hug, shut the shot. Don't bang, roll, can't fall. This is no hit, shot, case, close, close.