1031. Q&AF Ft. Tim Grover: Avoiding Discomfort, Staying Motivated After Big Wins & Becoming Your Best Self

Say goodbye to the lies, the fitness and delusions of modern society and welcome to Mother Fuckin' reality, guys, today we have Q&AF, that's where you submit the questions and we

“give you the answers, DJ, how can they submit their questions?”

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Today you're going to hear a Q&AF, like we talked about, and then other times you're going to hear CTI, that's crews the internet. That's where we put topics on the screen, we speculate on what's going on, we talk about it, we talk about how ridiculous some of this shit is, and then we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in the world.

Other times we're going to have real talk, real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes and we give you some real talk. And then other times, we're going to have what's called 75 hard versus, that's where somebody who's completed the 75 hard program comes on the show, we talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use the 75 hard program to transform their lives.

Your unfamiliar with 75 hard, it is the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which is the world's most famous mental transformation program ever, and you get it for free it up to so 208 on the audio feed, again, that's 208 on the audio feed only, it's not on YouTube. You can also go to AndyFercella.com, and there's a book called The Book on Mental Toughness,

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if it makes you laugh, it gives you new information, it helps you get better. Don't be a ho. Sure, the show. All right. Well, subdued.

Good morning. Yeah. It's going on. Good morning, huh? Yes.

Some of it. Morgan's good. Yeah. Cool. It's going on, bro.

Nothing, dude. Yeah.

“You're looking a little beat over there.”

Dude, I'm exhausted. Yeah. Did the Murphy today? You did. Dude, I was literally writing up a caption for my IG post.

That is something that I've avoided for six fucking years. Yeah. And they got done the day. Yeah. You know?

And now we're going to go again. Next year. Oh. Yeah. It's a one to year.

I mean, let's run a prep for it. Yeah. I'm going to beat my time. That's not my standard. And it will get beat next year.

Well, speaking on the book on mental toughness, we have Mr. Tim Grover here with us who wrote the fallward for the book. I couldn't think of anybody better to write it. I got some good ones for both of you. Oh, you got some.

Some really, really good ones. Some really good ones. Get ahead of yourself. Let's get back to you looking like you just got your ass beat. Yeah.

Yeah. I did. I beat my own ass. Yeah. It's better than beat in your own meat, huh?

Well, no, I mean, it's good to be as good as that. No, dude. It feels good, though, man. I'm sore. It feels good.

You are ready, sure? I'll throw.

I was sore when I had to run the second mind.

I know I was already in my garage, you know, but I, but no, dude, I'm, you want to explain to the audience what actually you did. They know the Murphy fish. Yes. What the Murphy fish is.

Yeah, so it's a memorial day challenge and honor of Michael Murphy, Lieutenant Michael Murphy. You start off with a mile run, then it's 100 pull ups, 200 pushups, and then 300 air squats, and then another one mile run. And you can do it.

Wait. I think that's like what's recommended. I did it. I think I used wheels. I think it's like a 20 pound.

Did you do it in that succession? No, I did rotations. I broke it up. So I did my mile first, and then I did 20 rounds, basically, five pull ups, 10 pushups, and then 15 air squats.

Yeah, I did 20 of those rounds. Now, I know you didn't do clean pull ups. No, absolutely not. No. I mean, it was a sister scaled it out.

Yeah, I just got it out.

But, you know. I just curious.

That's what I'm listening to.

That's like, I mean, that's a goal. You know, I'll throw. I will throw a fat dude. I know what pull ups are all about.

“It's like when you're in grade school, and they put you up on the pull up bar, and”

you just hang there. That's right. That's what it's like. And then you're like, all right, you kind of like, and then you get off. Yeah.

Now, but the standard has been set, then you're short as often, and you're like, yeah, yeah. We've all been in all three of us. It's the worst row. Yeah, I feel good, though, man.

I'm, you know, you got it down. The standard has been set. Good. So, good. Feels good, though, man.

Yeah, how are you doing? Yeah, good, man. You look good, man.

I like you with the classes.

Oh, yeah. Yeah, I do. Well. It's just, it's giving something, man. It's giving.

It's just something like that. Yeah, the youngster stayed there. Yeah, you guys got to be careful. You talk about beating meat, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night.

Well, let me go in here. I'm getting ready to step up. Yeah. Yeah. I'm getting ready to step up.

I'm getting ready to step up. I'm getting ready to step up. I'm getting ready to step up. I'm getting ready to step up. I'm getting ready to step up.

I'm getting ready to step up. I'm getting ready to step up.

I'm getting ready to step up.

I'm getting ready to step up. I know we pissed you off a lot of times, but you saw the result. And until like Andrew said, when you made the decision, that's when everything happened. And we're both extremely proud of you. And just keep just keep going.

Yeah. What he's saying is don't get fucking fat. Yeah. Yeah. Just keep going.

God just listen. When you go home, that fat person is waiting for you. Oh, yeah. Yeah. He's in there.

He sits in the car. They go to sleep every every every single every single day. He's just waiting there. They're just they're just waiting to whisper in your ear. Yeah.

Jesus, Jesus. You know. Pizza. Tap it. Tap it.

Tap on your hula shoulder. Yeah. He goes for all of us. Bro, listen. I know that because he's still in there talking to me.

Yeah. My dad hasn't paid rent so long, but he's been living there. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

No man. It's awesome. It's a great day to get better today. There it is. And an honor of having Tim on.

I got some really, really good questions for everybody here. So let's make some people better. Shall we? Let's do it. Guys.

Andy. Tim. Question number one. Andy. I'm 24.

“And I honestly think comfort has become my biggest enemy.”

Anytime life gets hard, I instantly look for distractions. Like food or my phone or sleep. Anything to avoid discomfort. I know discipline matters. But how do you train yourself to stop running from heart things when your brain is wired

to avoid them? Well, I don't know. How do you get muscles? You lift heavy shit. Okay.

How do you be able to run 20 miles? You start trying to run. All right. You got to understand that your discipline is a skill set that has to be cultivated and trained in order for it to work.

So when you say, well, I know discipline is important. No. Discipline is fucking everything. It will decide whether or not you actually become what you want to become or not. It will dictate your physique.

It will dictate your income. It will dictate your spouse. It will dictate your family. It will dictate every single thing in your life. The problem isn't that people don't know what to do.

It's that they lack the ability to do it. It's the ability to adhere to a plan. And you can get any recipe for anything out of a book. And literally read it and make the best possible version of that if you follow the directions. It's not that the plan is not out there.

It's that you can't follow the fucking plan. All right. And that's what you have to understand. And instead of looking at discipline as if it's some sort of mystical force like all of us did at some point in our life. You have the opportunity as a very young person to figure out that this is a perishable skill set that needs to be trained on a regular basis.

“So that would be my first thing to say to you is that you have to understand that you have to invest in this.”

You have to train it and you have to train it by making the hard decisions that feel very hard for you right now over and over and over again. And as you make those decisions and as you do the thing that is required. Instead of the thing that makes you more comfortable. You gain strength that muscle that discipline muscle begins to develop. It gets stronger, it gets bigger, it gets more capable of making the right decisions.

But once you develop that muscle and once you develop that ability, the decisions that you're struggling with now become almost automatic down the road.

All right, no different that when you first go into a gym and you start to lift some weights and those weights feel very heavy.

“You have to continue to lift those little weights and look stupid and feel stupid before you can get to the big weights.”

And then once you get to the big weights, you go back to lift a little weights and it's very easy. So these decisions that you're struggling with while they seem very hard to you, they're only hard because you lack the skill set of discipline that you haven't built. Yeah. Yeah, and you described this before too. Because I know we talk about this on CTI, but like I mean, these young kids now with social media, the phones, like all of these things, they are inadated with it.

It's a trillion dollar industry that's being pumped to them and you've described discipline before it was like the pizza or the food, is this like inanimate object not having power over you. Yeah, not can you dive into it because maybe like this is very simple. You're literally going to give up your entire fucking life because something sits in front of you that has no, no, not a single thing in it has control over anything. And you're going to look at that thing whether it be alcohol or food or whatever it may be and you're going to allow this inanimate object to fucking beat you.

What is fucking weaker than that? No. That is the weakest shit. When you say it like that, that is the weakest fucking shit. You're literally losing to something that has no fucking power.

It's like it's not even alive, it's not even a real thing. You're losing to yourself. And that's what you have to understand.

DJ, read the first part of the question again.

I'm 24 and I'm honestly think comfort has become my biggest enemy. Okay. Keep going. Anytime life gets hard. All right, stop right there.

24 and life is hard. I mean, Uncle Tim, sir, baby. Yeah, bro. That's the, you know, I get that. But, you know, you don't know what you don't know.

Right? Like you don't know that a keeps getting fucking hard. I'm like, dude, you can't even run the car yet. Yeah. Yeah.

“And Lily, look, you have to go, this person has to go back to the way he was brought up.”

And somewhere down the line, you'll know exactly why you are the way you are. And when you recognize that and you're willing to deal with that, this will start to change. Otherwise, you're going to be sitting here. You're going to be asking the same question at 30, 35, 40, 45. You're just going to keep doing the same thing over and over and over again.

All right. Deal with what made you this way. Whether it was your upbringing, whether something that happened or everything was just everything was just everything was just hand it to you.

You never had to work for anything.

You're addicted to it. You have an addiction. You don't want to deal with. It starts and ends with you. And then when you're going to, when Andrew talks about the discipline stuff.

Everyone, you have to master everyone tries to discipline themselves in multiple things. Discipline yourself in one thing, master it. Then discipline yourself in the other thing. Master it. Everybody wants to go from one thing to the other to the other to the other.

And the other thing. Listen, do you stop making fucking excuses, all right. This is like, you know, it's everybody. Yeah, you know what the brain is designed for comfort. The brain is designed for relaxation.

But everything you want and everything you look at on your phone all day.

“You say, man, how are they doing it's not a secret.”

It's not a secret. He just gave you the, he just gave you the solution in five minutes, literally in five minutes. And like he said, the recipe is out there. He's looking, he's looking.

Yeah, you know what? Start to 75 hard. That's why we built the program. It's not a physical program. Start to start to say, and are you going to fail?

Absolutely. You're going to fail. But you're going to fail. That's something you actually put some fucking effort into it. Dude, the thing is with 75 hard is the, you know, people are like, oh,

I got to get the day 50 and start to fuck over. Yes, that's how fucking life works.

Okay. You don't fail. And then get to take a fucking vacation and be who you used to be. If you really want to fucking change it. Like you really want to change it.

And at 24 years old, I, dude, I would be exactly where you are right now. Being exactly where I am right now. I don't have to know shit about you.

I would fucking trade places with you in one second because you are aware enough to understand

that you lack the discipline. I was not until I was 36 years old. Okay. That's 12 years that I fucked off from the time where you are to the time where I've finally figured it out.

You have an opportunity right now to figure this out to the point where you could develop this skill set, which will allow you to execute in a way that nobody else your age is going to. And by the way, it's not just your age. It's almost everybody. Everybody quits when it gets hard.

Everybody seeks comfort when it gets hard. Oh, I deserve this. Everybody lies to themselves about what they've done to deserve these things. Dude, it's all a lie. It's all bullshit.

Do you really want it or do you fucking not wanting?

If you really want it, do the fucking program because that will help you understand and consistently invest in this skill set.

“That's why 75 hard is not a one and done thing.”

Okay. It is a program. The Live Hard program is a program that is done literally every year. You know why it's done every year the same reason you take a fucking shower every day. Because if you don't practice discipline, you become less discipline.

It is a perishable skill. And if you can learn that at 24 fucking years old, dude, you have no idea the advantage you have over everybody else. Because everybody else is going to do exactly what Tim said. They're going to go to next year. They're going to start with next Monday.

Right? This all goes because I did this. You know what? I need to get in shape. I need to do this.

I need to do that. Well, fresh start on Monday. And then by Wednesday, they're already given in to all this comfort bullshit and they're like, fucking, I'll fucking start again on Monday, fresh. And because I'm going to start again on Monday for now until Monday, I'm going to do all the

shit that I know I won't be able to do for the next, you know, however long. Because I'm starting Monday. Right. And then what that does is that starts to compound and it's just math. You're spending four or five days of the week trying to do all the stuff you know you're not supposed to do, which then creates a bigger mountain and a bigger mountain and a bigger mountain and a bigger mountain.

And eventually I'm not so big that people look at it and they're like, fuck it. I can't fucking do it. Okay. And this all comes from your inability to overcome the very small decisions on a daily basis, which challenge you. And so instead of looking at these things like, oh, they're hard,

“you need to develop a little bit of fuck you.”

Okay. And what I mean by that is, oh, that's a test. That's a test. This isn't going to fucking break me. This fucking beard doesn't have any power over me. This fucking pizza doesn't have any power over me. Fuck that shit.

I'm stronger than that. That's what I mean by fuck you. And you are stronger than that. But you have to understand that it's by overcoming these little things in the day to day that allow you to have the disciplines do the big things that create the big outcomes that you're after.

And to be real with you dude, you are in a great spot because you're 20 fucking four years old.

People will 99% of people will never fucking figure this out.

They'll go their whole lives and they'll say, man, I wonder why that guy's got all these, why is he so disciplined? Why is he so good? How can this guy do this? How can that person do that? I wish I had that. The reason they have that is because they made a conscious decision at some point in time

to not let external circumstances dictate the outcome of their fucking life. And you have to make that decision. Am I going to live like everybody else? Am I going to do what everybody else does? Am I going to do have whatever everybody else has?

“Or am I going to become the best that I could fucking be?”

And that's your fucking choice. And there is no other choice, by the way. You don't get to be in the middle. It's either you did or you fucking did it. And that's it.

So I would make the decision right now to come to an understanding that discipline is something that you can build, create and use to create the life that you want. But you sure is fuck, aren't going to create the life that you want. If you can't conquer a mother fucking beer, okay? One thing that everybody in this room,

every individual that's done something extraordinary. I'm talking about from writing books to poetry to businesses to sport.

At some point they all wanted to quit and they didn't.

That is it, man. And they didn't.

“The other thing is I do give him assuming it's a guy.”

It's a guy I'm assuming, okay. The courage you took the step to write this out. So now you have recognition, recognizing I have an issue. I need to figure this out. Understand thing about discipline.

Not being disciplined is a discipline. That's just like when people say, "Oh, the cutest success consistency." Well, the fuck are you consistent? You're just consistent in the wrong things. Yeah, so you don't tell me you're not just disciplined in the wrong things.

Yeah, so you are disciplined in the wrong things. Not being disciplined is a decision. It's a decision. All right. Yeah, dude.

This is not this look. I agree with you, man.

Like number one, this, we're talking about greatness here.

We're talking about extracting what God has put in you. This is why you have this feeling. The reason you have this feeling of being behind and not being good enough and, you know, not doing, I need to do this and this and this. That's because that was put in you for a fucking reason.

Your purpose is to pull that out and share it because it's going to create greatness, not just in you and your life but in society. And when you think about like, where most people are, they think about this in terms of making money. But this isn't just about money, bro.

This is about, like Tim said, contribution. It could be art. It could be music. It could be anything. Whatever you want to be great at and I do give this young man credit.

Not just for asking the question, but for being aware enough to acknowledge your own shortcomings. Because it starts with a really hard look in the mirror. We are biggest liars. We will lie to ourselves about fucking everything. And if you will not stand in front of the mirror and take a real true, honest, unbiased,

accountable assessment of your own life. You cannot win. You cannot win.

“There is going to become a time if you want to create what it is that you want to do.”

Now you're going to have to look at yourself, dude. And you're going to have to realize it's nobody's fault. It's fucking not your parents fault. It's not your friends fault. It's not your coach's fault.

It's not your boss's fault. It's not your girlfriend. It's not your boyfriend. It's fucking you. It is you.

And until you have that conversation, you can't even develop the awareness that this young man has already developed and say, hey, this is where I'm weak. How do I fix this? Okay. So yeah, I give him a ton of credit.

And honestly, it excites me of someone being 24 years old and coming to that. And there's a revolution. Yes. And that recognition. And no tell us you don't have time because this generation, you have more time available to you than anything.

It's unbelievable. You don't know. It talks to somebody who's a little bit over. Well, we had to do to create this, create this time. That's that's not an issue.

Bro, and and also when you're young, dude, you want, this is when you want to develop this skill. Because and by the way, if you are 40 or you are 50, it's not too late. All right. That's not what I'm saying. But what I am saying is typically when you're younger, you have less obligations.

Okay. You probably don't have a big mortgage. You probably don't have four kids. You probably don't, you know, have all these things. The more of those things that you put onto your life, the harder it is to climb that mountain.

It's no different than a shirt, a climbing up Everest dude. The more shit you put on your back, the harder it is going to be for. But it doesn't matter how good it is. You should do it. Yeah.

But it's it's harder. It's going to be harder. So, you know, this whole idea that we hear about so often about young people going out and finding themselves. Well, listen, man, there is no fucking finding yourself. That's not a real thing.

You make a fucking decision about who you're going to be and what you're going to be and what kind of life you're going to live. And you go out there and you fucking build it. Shit doesn't just fall into you.

Nobody just discovered themselves, you know, successful or great or an amazing athlete or a wealthy entrepreneur.

“That's how a fucking works, man, and you guys have been lied to with this idealistic bullshit about finding yourself.”

You know what you're going to find? You're going to find yourself fucking broke. That's the fucking going to find the end of that journey. I don't know about you. You don't know about any.

I don't know about, you know, you'll follow my flight.

You know, I need some time to find myself. You dad, look at you. I found you. Yeah, right there. That wasn't even a real conversation.

I got to go. What are you looking for?

“Now taking runs to assessment about what you're into and who you want to be.”

That's okay. Right. You should do that. Like, what do you want to do? And you may not have the right answer, but you probably have a general idea.

You probably understand, like, I don't want to be poor. You probably understand that you're like certain things. Okay. You just kind of have to start going in that direction. And then as you do, and you're developing these skill sets of being able to adhere to a plan,

great forward to perseverance, the ability to overcome endurance, you know, mental resiliency, physical resiliency, as you develop these things, you become skilled at following the path. Okay. And then that way, when you start to narrow it down and the path starts to become a little more clear, you have the skills to go down that path and create.

Like, dude, this is, it's, it's completely opposite as to the narrative of what's told to these young people, which is, try a little bit of this for three years, try a little bit of that for three years. You do like a gap year. Don't do shit. Bro, you got to understand mother fucker.

There is, you are running out of time. That's a real thing. You know, oh, I don't like hustle culture because of urgency. Okay. Well, then fucking don't listen to it and just go live your life.

The same for everybody. It's not for everybody. Winning and greatness and building shit and becoming who the fuck you're supposed to be. It's rare. Winning is not the expectation for everybody.

Okay. Building and creating and becoming that's abnormal. That's not greatness is abnormal. It's not a normal thing. Okay.

Like, we have this idea that like everybody's going to end up in the same spot.

“And if you want to be great or whatever it is that you do, you're going to have to fucking”

start now. That's it, man. Yeah. I fucking love it dude. I love it, man.

Guys, let's get to a question number two. Andy, Tim. What keeps you motivated after achieving big goals? I am roughly two weeks out from getting the fruits of my labor for the last 14 months. I can smell it.

But one of my friends asked me the other day what's next.

And at first, I felt a little disrespected because I guess I wanted the acknowledgement

of the achievement. But then thinking on it more, I think I understand what he meant. I'm just not sure what to do next. So what keeps him motivated after achieving big goals? Well, first of all, he hasn't achieved this.

He's still two weeks away. A lot of shit happens in two fucking weeks now. You celebrate now already? Ooh. You celebrate now already.

You count in a confetti? He's doing all that. What the fuck are you doing? You're not finished. They're all you're talking about.

There's been tons of deals at the last minute. Like, yeah, this ain't happening. They're saying happening. They're going to be a shift in the world. And in the world, that's something happens.

The same done yet. What fruit are you labor? 14 months. You know how you, you know how you're guaranteed. You get those fruits.

You set the bar even higher and go after that right now. And those things will automatically come. Yeah. You'll close that gap immediately. Exactly.

Unless if you, there always has to be a next.

There always has to be a next. Always. Especially for people that have high drive and high vision. You know, we're told all the time, man, that like, it's unhealthy to not celebrate in these things.

But the problem is, it's no different than 75 hard day. When people get done with 75 days and then they literally celebrate with the things that made them dissatisfied with who they were in the fucking first place. Okay. Let me get a 70% discount.

You know how you're fucking celebrate? You celebrate by saying, okay, cool. Now I'm going to do this. Because now I have the opportunity. I climbed up those first four stairs.

Now I have the opportunity to go the next four. That's a fucking celebration. That's worth celebrating. Hey, here's what I created. Now we can take it to this level.

This level. That's where the excitement comes from. Okay.

“So like when you talk about motivation, like what keeps you motivated?”

It's, it's, it's the idea of constant progression. All right.

You, you got to understand, dude, that most people, we've always heard these stories,

right? Like about, oh, you know, guy went out and built a business and, you know, he got all this money, sold this business and then he fucking killed himself. Well, he didn't kill himself because he had all the fucking money, bro. That's like what people want to believe.

Oh, the dude, that's the money that he made.

What happened was he lost his purpose.

He lost his drive, lost the next. That's right. So instead of, instead of raising the bar and realizing who the fuck you are, and this is true for most people, you just don't know it. Most of us are built for achievement.

Most of us are built for winning. We're just brainwashed in thinking that that's not us. Okay? And the reason that these dudes go out and kill themselves and become miserable fucks is because they have not done what we're telling you to do.

They cross the finish line, miraculously, they get a big check, they get celebrated, you know, it gets recognized. And then that becomes the thing, right? Like, oh, I won the fucking, I won the MVP in the homecoming game. And when I was in high school, no decurs, man.

But when he gets a shit, okay, oh, I did that. Nobody cares what you did. Nobody cares what you did. And they probably don't care about what you're doing either.

“So the reality is is you have to learn to set the bar past.”

Like right now, you're 80% of the way there. Okay? Like let's just say you are. I don't know if you are. You say you are.

I don't know. Championship people, people who become fucking great.

Those people are not looking at that first goal anymore at 80%.

They're already fucking, they've said a new this line's already moved. Yeah. And that's the thing, dude. Like that's why celebration is such a dangerous thing, man, because it can become something that lasts way too long.

And that's why I have a rule, man, and it's a 24-hour celebration rule. All right. Like when you see the greatest coaches of all time, I'm not talking about players. I'm talking about coaches.

Well, some players are like this, too. You could probably vouch for this. Celebrate hard. Don't celebrate long. Yeah, that's it, man.

Like that's it. And dude, but like the psychopaths. Bro, there is times when Nick Seaman has, Bill Bellachek, okay, when Bill Bellachek has a picture. Yeah.

When Nick, these guys, literally walk off the fucking field from winning the biggest thing that you can win in that sport. And you know what they're looking at? They're looking at all the shit they fucked up during the game. Hey, we got a lot of work to do.

We got to do this. You know, tonight, you know, the guys are going to go, but we're going to be back in. Dude, Nick Seaman, go back in the office the next day. A fucking four-hand out.

Yeah. Okay, like, it's already done.

“I remember this, like you said, it's an video.”

They had won the National Championship. And they were doing the interview and he goes, it goes, what's next? He goes, I'm six weeks behind of next season already because the recruiting's already started.

Oh, yeah. Because I'm six weeks behind. He goes, I'm six weeks behind. And coach, aren't you going to celebrate? He goes, I just did.

Yeah. Yeah. I just, I just did. All right. And people just looking at him like that.

They can't comprehend that. You know what? Everybody has the same idea of what a celebration is. It's supposed to be this month long or two month thing or a whole off season with all this parting and all this thing.

And people can fill in you up with all this bullshit over and over over again. And you get sucked into that. And then if you go on and tell us, listen, I'm already, I'm here already. I'm over here.

“And then they look at you because what you're doing is,”

they feel like you're, they want to celebrate your achievement for doing nothing. So, it's not about you. It's about how they were celebrating. Yes. It's how they want to celebrate.

It's just like, all right. When you go, if you just, you just talk about, you know, alcohol and drinking. All right. If you're a regular consistent drinker, all right. And then one day you go, I would your friends say, I'm not drinking today.

What's wrong? Yeah. You know. Yeah. It was like, I'm not telling you guys not to drink.

Drink whatever fuck you want. Yeah. I just decided that they look at you like you. You know. Yeah.

And it's a reflection. It's a reflection on them. It's got nothing to do.

And it goes back to that discipline from answer first question that you said.

Holy fuck. He's got the discipline or she has a discipline to sit here with all of us. Well, we're drinking. We're doing all this up. And they're not.

Yeah, man. I wish I wish I wish I wish I had that. So, instead of saying they wish they had that, they start to attack you. And it's saying they're not attacking you. They're attacking themselves.

They're attacking what they lack in themselves because you have something or develop something as Andrew would say that they haven't developed. Well, dude, think about this too, man. Okay. Let's just say hypothetically.

Let's say Bill Bellachek won one Super Bowl.

For most people, that's what they hang their hat on for their entire life. And while that is a pinnacle achievement, there will come a time where people stop fucking talking about it.

And what we're talking about on this show always is greatness.

We're not talking about winning once. We're talking about greatness. And if you want people to care about your greatness, winning one time is not enough for that.

“You have to cross the line from good to great to iconic.”

And the way that you get there is by winning so undeniably, consistently long, that eventually when you do, like Nick Sabin now is a commentator, when Nick Sabin walks in the motherfucking room, there is no, it's not, oh, Nick won this championship and that championship. They just look at him and say that's the fucking greatest motherfucker ever.

This is fucking Nick Sabin. Okay, that's fucking Nick Sabin. And that's the recognition that y'all want from winning once, but it doesn't come from winning once. It comes from a lifetime of winning.

And that's what you have to understand. So if you truly want to be, because like, dude, that's a real thing. Okay. Some people, the recognition is very important to them. Some people don't give a shit, some people just play for the game.

That's how I am. I don't give a fuck about who I don't care. I don't care. I don't care. I don't care.

And it's hard for people to understand that that's real, because they, they care. But there is people, one of the six human needs and significance. They want the recognition. They want those things.

That's a big driver for a lot of people. Well, if that's really a driver for you,

“you have to understand that what you are seeking will not come”

from winning one time. It will not come from that. It will come from a lifetime of winning to the point where, you know, Nick Sabin is 70 years old and he's considered, he's, for Nick Sabin could disappear

and never say another word in public.

And he's going to be considered one of the greatest that ever did it. Not enough. Period. John wouldn't.

Same thing. The guy wins, you know, what was it? Nine out of eleven years in a row. The national title. That's the level of winning.

It takes decades abroad to create the level of recognition that significant seeking people are actually looking for from winning once. And that's a, that's a big disparity. You have to commit yourself.

And the only way to get to that, because, you know, this, this guy said, oh, well, I was a little bit offended, but I kind of understand what he was trying to say. Well, that tells me that you,

recognition is important to you.

Okay, it's probably also your first win.

Okay. Okay. But dude. But dude, that's where most people fuck it up. He hasn't gotten his first win yet.

That's right.

“That's what I'm trying to, he's looking for recognition.”

I look for it. And he hasn't even, he hasn't even gotten it yet. He hasn't even gotten it yet. You know, common back in two weeks and show us proof that this actually, that this actually happened.

Don't create something with fucking AI. Show us that this actually happened because there's somebody in this office that's going to call and find out if you can actually verify this thing or not.

I mean, dude, how many times we've seen this in sports bro? They got, they got it. He's wide open. He's running in the field. He starts to celebrate and he's throwing the ball.

He's got the ball hanging out and some do wax it away. That's it. Okay. Like that can happen. That, that happens all the fucking time.

Okay. And life it happens way more than it does in sports, especially in business. My recommendation is for you to be real with yourself about what it is you're doing this for and why you're doing it.

I'm not here to judge why you're doing it. Okay. Certain people do things for impact. Certain people do things for their own benefit. Certain people do things for recognition.

Whatever it is. The ultimate reality of all of that is that a lot of good comes from winning. So we're not here to judge the moral positioning of why you're trying to win.

I don't give a fuck. I know why I want to win. And why you want to win might be different. Winning, winning runs the world, bro. Okay.

Like winning runs the world. That's the thing that you have to understand. And for you as someone who is seeking significance and recognition to get the level of recognition that you are seeking, you are going to have to win for a long fucking time.

Yeah. Okay. A long time. A long time. We're not talking one win.

We're not talking two wins. Okay. I had a quote go viral. The other day. Like nobody gets lucky for 27 fucking years in a row.

Okay. Like I win. Motherfucker. Like I'm a fucking winner. Like if you have me as an enemy, you should probably pick a different one.

Just go pick someone else.

Okay. Learn for me. Model me. This is that the other. You try to compete with me.

“I'm going to run you the fuck over dude.”

And they want to know. Listen what people can look at what he just says as arrogance. Oh yeah. It's confidence. All right.

And then you know what? It's only arrogance when you haven't proven it. Right. And here's the thing. You know what?

You know what? Winning is a drug dealer for confidence. The more you win, the more confident you are. You are. Dude, and not only that, see, I understand what I'm prepared to do.

Yeah. Like I know. Like, okay. If I'm going to take a big L, let's just say I take a big fucking L. Let's say all my companies explode and fucking.

It doesn't matter because I'm going to fucking go back to where I was with the knowledge that I have. And I'm going to keep going. And so while you may think in your mind that you're beating me today, I could promise you that unless you are fully committed to go your entire life, I'm going to fucking end up

ahead of you. Yeah. And that's just reality, dude. And that's not for everybody. Not everybody's like that.

It's perfectly okay to build something and go through different season of life. And this and that.

“But like you have to understand, dude, the fucking psychopaths that get the recognition that you're”

fucking after. These motherfuckers are wired for one thing. Okay. They might not be the best dad. They may not be the best fucking family guy.

They may not be the nicest person. I don't fucking know. It could be all kinds of different things. But that level of recognition comes from a psychopathic commitment to doing whatever the fuck you've got to do.

And yes, you should do it with class. You should do it with the set of moral standards. You should do it the right way. Treat people good. All of these things matter.

But my point is, is that. True recognition for being great does not come from one win. And if you're driven by recognition, you should be the kind of person that you have to be, the kind of person that is consistently setting the bar higher and higher and higher. I mean, actually, guys, that's real quick on this.

We were talking about this the other day in the locker room. Is winning relative? Is it relative? What do you mean? Like, you know, a win for me is a win for me.

It might not be easy to do. Oh, dude. Yeah. You know, sometimes like, dude, like, I forget that sometimes. Yeah.

Like, sometimes, like, people will tell me their wins. And like, the fuck you talking about. Like, that's that's easy for me. Yeah.

And we have to understand that that probably wasn't easy for me when I first started.

Yeah. Okay. So you do lose sight of that sometimes as you go down the path. I'm guilty of that. Yeah.

For sure. Like, I sometimes I have people tell me things that were a big win to them. And I'm like, I have to remind myself, like, bro, this is, this is you 20 years ago. This is you fucking 25 years ago. So yes, the wins are relative.

And they teach you, like Tim said, the confidence a little bit at a time. What was a win for me, fucking 20 years ago is something that now, like, it's like, I don't even, it like doesn't even do. It might even be considered a loss at this point. Well, no, I'm just saying, like, look, man, I'm talking about the mental overcoming.

Okay. Like, like, dude, I just give you an example. Like, like, I used to have no control or my food. None. None.

Okay. None. Like, when I say, hey, man, fuck that shit. That's the attitude that I had to develop to get past it. Okay.

If people invited me to dinner, like, dude, you know me, even a dinner with me 4,000 times. I order the same fucking thing everywhere I go. Okay. I order clean food. It's, I don't even think about it.

Like, I don't look at the rest of the menu.

Back, when I first started that, you know, I'd open up the menu.

And then automatically start, like, just to find.

“Oh, I want the, I wanted the, the nachos and I want this, you know what?”

I'll start tomorrow. And like, the brain automatically started the lie. Now, it doesn't even, it's not even thought. So, this is the benefit of developing this discipline muscle that we're talking about. And so, yeah, dude, the first time that I went into a restaurant,

and I ordered what the fuck I was supposed to order versus what I wanted to. Dude, I walked out of that restaurant and being like, fuck, dude. I can't believe I did that to fucking win. That's a huge win. Yeah.

It's a huge win. So sometimes, reality, these things that seem like they're not a big deal are really setting the foundation for you to be able to make the decisions that are a big deal. And so you can't discount someone else's small wins against, you know, your scale of winning.

Because like, dude, I know what it's like, bro.

Like I know what it's like. I know what it's like. And I know what people are capable of. I know who I am. I know how regular I am.

I know how not gifted I am.

“And when I look at someone, like, I understand because I'm seeing myself.”

Yeah. So like, when people hear me and they're like, man, he's really fucking hard on people. And this is not no dude. I'm just telling you the truth about yourself because I've been there and I understand. Like, and you could sit there and say, but Andy, no dude, there's no buts.

You are capable. You are far more capable of what you think you are. You just haven't been able to overcome the small little decisions that start to build this up. And again, this is, I'm not trying to make this a pitch for 75 hard, but this is why the program exists. Because it teaches you how to do these things in 75 fucking days.

Okay. And then once you, like, there's no program that's ever been developed or whatever be developed that can create that kind of progress and that short of amount of time mentally. You can't learn that shit any other way. So, you know, what we're talking about here is a few different things. The recognition that this is something that you can build, the understanding of who you are and what,

honestly, motivates you. Okay. Like, what are you actually after? And it can't be what you can't be what you think everybody wants you to say. Like, it's got to be the real shit.

What do you really want? I know some very successful people that are, they are highly driven by recognition. I think the shit's stupid. I'm like, but that's what drives them. And because that drives them, they make the right decisions.

And then those right decisions compound and that creates a life that ultimately inspires people to go after the same thing.

So, like, if we're being real, you know, this more posturing about why, why did you do this? So, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter.

“What matters is, is that the outcome happens because the outcome is what inspires other people to understand that it's possible,”

which is ultimately what I believe our duty is as humans. We are writing a story of inspiration with our own existence. And you can preach it, you can talk it, you can go on stage, you can show slides, you can do all this shit, but at the end of the day, none of that shit matters if the outcome's not real. So, like, you know, like, a lot of people are like, "I want to be a professional speaker."

Okay? Well, you understand that, you can talk all that shit you want, bro. But that's a temporary thing that you say, "Oh, I really want to help people." Well, unless you've created the outcome for them to see in that life of yours that they want, that fucking little blurb that you don't care how good you are at saying it.

That's temporary. It's temporary. So, you have to be able to understand that, like, dude, we're the artists. And we have this canvas. And our job is to paint what the fuck we can in a certain amount of time.

And time is running out. So, are you going to draw with everybody else, Drew, just because it's easy and it's comfortable? Are you going to be honest with yourself and say, "This is what I actually want. This is who I actually want to be. This is the outcome I actually want to create."

And this is what drives me to create that outcome. And then understand what's going to do that for you, and then be able to go do it. Yeah, I love it, man.

“I think where he gets frustrated, and when you talk about the wins, is you're not frustrated with the win.”

You want to know what's next. Yeah. That's the frustrated. That's the frustrated. Great.

You have this, right? But if you tell my man, I just got this win. And now I'm about to, you'd be like, yeah, yes. It's just when they stop, right? You need to, like, okay, you just stop.

It's like when people tell you. Because I know they're going to go backwards. Right.

So, you know, it's like people always talk about their hopes and dreams.

I want to hear about your hopes and dreams. I want to hear about your decisions and actions. That's the next conversation. Yeah. You know, my hope, I hope it's not a strategy.

You know, my dream, listen. First of all, for your dream to become a reality, it's got to be a nightmare first. You've got to go through the nightmare. Fuck yeah. You've got to go, you've got to go through the nightmare.

You know, in the book, winning, I talked about, listen. You know, your nightmares, they're the ones that come visit you. On a regular basis. They're the ones that keep you up late at night. They're the ones that, you know, take away from time from, from your family and all this

You have this nightmare going on in your head.

And I say, I got to, I got to figure this figure this out. And most people, they turn around and put the fucking pillow over their head. Or take something to, like, make it go when you wake up. You're not in, I only say you're in the same position. You're actually in a worse position because that day is not gone.

And the next day is going to be gone. The next day is going to be gone. And the next day is going to be gone. And like you said, Monday turns into a Monday and turns into a Monday and turns into a Monday. And you feel you have one, you have 52 Mondays in a year.

All right. That's not a lot. No, man. It's, it's, it's literally going to be, we're, this year's already almost half done. Yeah.

It's, it's literally, it's literally all half done. Look at, you look at, how old are your brothers kids now? Nine, oldest nine, nine, six, nine, seven, seven, seven.

“I remember like, yeah, and you look, and people like, what happened?”

You look at me like, what happened? That's how quick this goes by. Like, what happened? Yeah. And that's a perspective that you can't have until enough times pass.

Right. And so like, it's very important. The one of the biggest lies when it comes to winning is that, like, there's a finish line. There's not a fucking finish line, bro. There's, there's things along the way that happen that are great.

But, the minute you get to the finish line, remember, doesn't matter. You soldier business. You're, you're one the trophy. You won the championship. Whatever it is, man.

The minute that the finish line is crossed and you decide that that's the finish line, you're going to have to deal with a couple different things. One, are you okay with that? Is that, are you, are you good with what you accomplish? Because if you're not, then it's going to eat you forever.

Okay? And it'll be shit you can do about it. No. Without start, you got to start again. No.

And it's really hard to get started again once you've stopped. All right. If you get to a point, and like I said, there's seasons in life, right? There's times where, you know, like I know guys who have built companies, and then they've sold them, and then they've turned their focus into something else.

But that's something else is also a new thing to master. Right? Like I've got a buddy of mine who, well, MJ does this. Okay? He retires as the greatest player of all time.

Well, now he's figured out I'm going to compete in fishing. I'm going to compete in NASCAR. Okay? And those, so like now he's working to do this other thing. Right?

“And if we don't have that next thing, you have to understand that your story is over.”

And you have to be okay with that. That part is closed. And I think a lot of people, they mistakenly think that they're going to get to a number. They're going to get to a, it's usually a number, but a point where that it's just scratched.

But if you're truly built for the game, that it's, that it's just never fucking scratched.

Dude, and the minute you try to fit into the boundary of everybody else, just kind of cruising, you're going to self-destruct. Whether you like them or not, look at Elon. Yeah? You like them or not?

Yeah. So not a political thing, alright? Banda doesn't have to do anything ever again. No, and he's constantly still going. He still keep going.

But you got to know yourself, dude. That's the thing. It's like you've got to know yourself, man. You know, there's a number of days. Like this happens to me all the time, man.

Like I go home and I'm like, what the fuck am I doing all this for? Like especially on the hard days. I'm like, why am I?

“Am I fucking doing, I don't have to fucking do this?”

Everybody has doubt. Everybody at some point has that, has that doubt. But at all points, at all levels. And all, all lovers exactly, that you question yourself. Why in the fuck?

But you know what, when you question yourself, you have the fucking answer. Yeah. You have the answer from everything that you've built all the way. You look at what would be like, if I didn't do it, and what if I look like, if I keep going and you're like, yeah, this is not even an option.

If that conversation is short, but we've all had that conversation on a regular basis. And you, and people think we don't. We don't, we don't have, we have those conversations all the fucking time.

Dude, and the answer is, it goes like this.

Okay. I understand this is frustrating. This is hard. Let's say you did stop. What are you going to do?

And if you can't answer that question about what are you going to do, you shouldn't stop. Because that's where you self-destruct. Yeah. You know, I've seen so many entrepreneurs, you know, fuck, athletes too dude.

Like, get to a point where they feel like, okay, I've done what I can do.

or the impact they're after, hasn't truly materialized yet. And then they stop, they take a break.

“And then if you want to start again, it's like just as hard as starting from the beginning.”

So you have to like know yourself and you have to know what it is you want. If you are going to pivot into that next thing. For a lot of people, you know, the pivoting into that next thing comes to early. Okay. You haven't really won yet.

You haven't, you did a couple things good. Okay, you made a couple bucks, you did a couple things. You sell your shit, you get out whatever. And you think that you're going to go like sit on a beach broke. And I'm going to tell you, you're going to like that for about three fucking days.

And actually, you're probably going to like it for about one day. Because the second day, you're going to be like, oh, okay. What am I going to do next? You know, and like, and then the third day, you're like, I'm not doing anything. This sucks.

And, you know, this, if you're already in a point. And it doesn't matter what level you're at, dude. If you're already at a point where you're thinking about your life as what can I achieve? What can I do? What can I build?

What can I create? You've got the bug, bro. You're built different than everybody else.

Most people that thought never even goes into their mind.

They live like everybody else. They do whatever everybody else does. They measure their standards and success. The same way that everybody else does. And they never real with themselves about what they really want. And because that happens, they end up living a life.

That at the end of it, they're like, well, I didn't do anything. Well, the guy who's unaware, and this is why awareness is a really. It's a, it's a, it's a plus and a minus sometimes. But when you have the awareness. And you don't exercise your capabilities, it will destroy you.

When you don't have the awareness and you live in ignorance. And which is fucking okay.

“That's why the saying exists ignorance is bliss.”

Those people can live their whole lives. And at the end of it, they don't even like question. They say, oh, my life was great. He lived a great life. That's right.

That's right. But if you're not wired for that, dude, you're going to be the guy at the end of your life. And fuck, I fucking didn't do anything I wanted to do. So like, you got to really be honest with yourself, man. And if you're already asking the question, that means you got it, right?

Because most people never ask it.

Everything's impossible to somebody does it first. Yeah, man. Yeah, I love it. I love it. Guys, we got one more.

Yeah, third and final question, guys. Question number 30, 80. I have this realization recently that I spend a lot of time talking about the person I want to become. But my daily habits still look a lot like the old version of me. And that gap between who I say I want to be and how I actually live is starting to bother me.

Was there a moment for you where you realized you had to completely change your identity and not just your habits? Yeah. It's what I just said. It's when you become aware of it. Yeah.

The myth you become aware that you aren't living and you aren't becoming and you aren't creating. Who you want to be and what you want to do and you do nothing about it. That is the first day of the rest of your life of a miserable, bitter, unfulfilling, frustrating, hell that you will try to escape or convince yourself that you, you know, should be this other way.

“So like the minute that you become aware of this, you have to go, dude, you have to go because now you now you could see, you couldn't see.”

So for me, you know, there's been a couple different moments. I could tell you the most pivotal moment for me.

You know, when I grew up, I always wanted to be successful.

I didn't want to depend on anybody. When you knew inherently, I felt it my whole life that I was supposed to do something different. I could feel it. Even when I was a little kid. When I got to be 36 years old, I was already worth, you know, nine figures.

I built what most people would say like we talked about earlier. I had a one, you did pretty good, right, right, except I was looking in the mirror and I was 350 pounds. And I realized that if I did not change who I was, the best thing that I would have ever achieved in my life was making a few dollars. And I was 36 years old. And I started seeing myself, okay, well, where am I going to be at?

And then I was like, well, where am I going to be at?

I'm like, oh, fuck. I'm going to be dead. Yeah, those people are last long. Right. So, so for me, I realized that.

“And then I also realized that it wasn't fair to all the people that it helped me, believed in me.”

And I found me with their careers that this was just about me. And I knew that I had to fix my shit. I knew I had to transform and become the best I could because due to I was honest myself. I knew that I wasn't good enough to compete. I'm not good enough to compete.

That's what you guys got to understand.

I'm not good enough to compete unless I'm the best that I can be.

There's other people that are smarter than me. There's other people that are more gifted than me. There's other people that have better relationships than me. There's all these things. I'm aware of this.

Okay. But the one thing that I could control is how fucking hard I go and how well I control the things that are within my control. And I am willing to bet that there are very few people on this motherfucking planet that are more in control of those things than I am. And that's when I say like, hey, you might be beating me today, but this is temporary. You should enjoy it today because eventually I'm going to pass you because I understand who I am now.

And I understand that I can control all of the controllables of my life at this point in time without really even thinking about it. And that's what happens when you create tremendous discipline muscle. Okay. It gives you a superpower because every single time it gets hard or even somebody who's conditioned for hard things, there will be a point that fucking breaks them. And I am unbreakable, bro.

I'm unfucking breakable at this point in my life. So I know I'm going to stop you right there.

“The key point and what he just said at this point in this life because in order to be unbreakable, you have to be broken so many fucking times.”

That's right. I've broken so many times but they cannot break you anymore. Yeah, dude. And that's that's just real shit and there's going to be more hard times to come my way. Yeah, there's going to be, I could get sick. I could get injured. I'm going to have people close to me that are probably going to fucking die.

I understand these things. I understand that that's going to happen. And I'm at that age where people I know, context I have in my phone, people I know personally, people I've done business with are starting to pass. Yeah. And dude, but you're a realist about it.

Yeah. Okay. Like, if you can build yourself into that, which you can, all of you can, there's nothing that can stop you, like there's nothing that can stop someone who has built themselves into somebody that cannot be broken. You can't stop them. You can't stop them. It doesn't matter what storm comes their way.

It doesn't matter what tragedy comes their way. It doesn't matter what hardship comes their way. They will continue to wake up and they will do what they can. They will control what they can and eventually they will overcome. And that should be the goal for every single person listening.

“You have to become the kind of person that it does not fucking matter what is happening in your life.”

It doesn't matter. You are still going to keep pushing. You are still going to wake up. And when you become that, that person is unbeatable. Because everybody else, especially relevant to these, like a lot of times when you're young, you look around.

I did this too. You look around and you're like, man, that guy's fucking parents invest in his business. You know, that guy got lucky here. He had this happen or that happened. You know what the biggest blessing for me has been in my entire life.

Nothing came easy. Nothing. And I haven't any of that. Nothing came easy, okay? And that taught me more than anything else.

So if you're out there and you're struggling and you're looking around and you're like, that guy has this and that, that's temporary. Because that motherfucker that had that good thing happened to him that you didn't.

When that first storm comes in his life, it's going to fucking wreck it.

You're learning how to overcome these things now. And when you can become this kind of person that is mentally prepared to handle whatever fucking stone their way, I'm not saying you're going to do it with a smile. I'm not saying that you're not going to go home and cry. I'm not saying that you're not going to have a breakdown.

But when you're done, you're going to get the fuck up and you're going to keep moving. If you can become that kind of person, you can't beat that kind of person.

Yeah.

“So this person here, it goes back to what you, you had said earlier.”

And I say this all the time too.

We lied to ourselves more than anybody else would ever lie. Yeah. So when the talk that he's having, he's literally, he's literally lying to himself. And when he talks about the self talk, it's not a self talk. It's negotiations.

He's losing the negotiations with himself every single day or the most of the time. And we all, and he just have to be like, I'm not, I'm not going, no more negotiations. No more negotiations with myself. Are they still going to be chirping? Yeah, they're still going to be chirping.

They're still going to be taught and said, it ain't happening. See, dude, I give that, I give that person a name. Okay. I identify that voice. I use it for you guys.

I call it the bitch voice in the boss voice. Yes. If you've read my book and you've listened to the podcast when it comes to 75 hard, we talk about the bitch voice in the boss voice. I name that person.

I know who that is. That's fat Andy. Okay. Fucking fat Andy.

That's who's fucking talking to me.

And when I can name that person, then I can look at that person and be like, fuck you. You fat piece of shit. I'm talking to myself. That's right. That's right.

“But when I can name it, and I know who's talking to me, it's really easy for me to be”

like, fuck you, dude. I'm not fucking doing that. It's when we don't, when we have trouble identifying this weak person inside of us. Give it a name, dude. Who is it?

What's that person's name? Oh, that's fat DJ. Oh, fat DJ is telling me to fucking skip my work. I say fuck you. Right.

That's what the fuck matters. Okay. Give it a name. What is that? Oh, that's weak Suzy.

Oh, well, fuck you, weak Suzy. Oh, that's pussy Peter. You know what I said? Well, fuck you pussy. Whatever you got to do, but like, dude, it's eat, like you got to do it.

You got to learn some fuck you man. And like, dude. You know, maybe there's another way to do it. That's how I feel. You know, maybe there's another way to do it.

That's how I feel. That's how I fucking do it. You know, but like I know that that fat Andy is in me. He's fucking in me, dude. And he's whispering all the fucking all the time.

All the time. All right, listen. When you roll out of bed, there's all those listen. There's everything that's waiting. There's comfort waiting for you.

There's negotiations. There's negotiations. There's lazy. There's all on this victim. There's all that stuff.

They're way. They're literally waiting at the bed. And I get up every morning. I acknowledge them. Hello.

Hello. Just fucking keep going. Yeah, dude. That's the great. All right.

“I think it's important to understand that never goes away.”

It never goes away. It's what you feed. It's like that saying. There's like, there's the fucking white wolf. And there's the dark wolf.

Whichever one you feed more, whatever the fuck the saying goes. But there's truth to that. Okay. Like, dude, there is. There is fucking fat Andy.

And then there is unbreakable Andy. Mm-hmm. I answered it unbreakable. I don't answer to fucking fat Andy even more. That Andy fucking cost me decades of my fucking life.

That Andy cost me tons of pain and tons of frustration. And tons of years that I can't get back. I fucking hate that motherfucker. I fucking hate him. And in many, he starts talking to me.

I automatically go to fuck you, dude. Fuck you. And fat Andy is going to keep talking, keep talking. What do you got the strong, what do you call the other one? You're unbreakable.

Unbreakable. And he's just, just waiting. Yeah. We doing this or not. Yeah.

I'm not having a conversation with you already. No. You already, you already know. We doing this or not. All right.

And if you're not, I'm still going to go do this. And then you're going to feel so, you're going to feel so guilty because you fucking didn't. And it's going to hurt you over and over and over again. You don't win.

You don't win them all, bro. No, no, no, no, no. If I'm, if I was sitting here, because this is, this is a game of averages. Okay. You want to win that you want, unbreakable Andy to win 99% of the past.

Yes. There are going to be times where that weak version of you does fucking win. And like you're talking about him, it's going to create so much shame and so much regret that that even creates more fuck you like, oh, you fucking got me motherfucker.

That's never happy to again, right?

Like, and you, that to me has been the biggest difference for me is to be able to become aware of these two versions of myself and learn to obey one and to ignore the other. And it's not simply ignoring it. It's like an anger towards it. It's a fucking, it's a fury towards it.

Because dude, I hate that motherfucker because of what it's cost me. Okay. And though, oh, would you hate yourself? Yeah, that part of myself, I do fucking hate. And that's okay.

Because the result of that is so fucking good that it's worth having a little bit of that. And honestly, I don't think, I think that if you don't have a little bit of that, you're kind of fucked. It's my only lines. Now listen, I've lived my whole life being me. Okay.

Now maybe there's other people that don't have that. But I actually think that most of the people that come out and they put on a pretty smile and they act like everything's positive. And you know, you know this too, bro. You get them in fucking private and you get them to tell the truth. They fucking have it too.

They just don't fucking show it on the public. They have it. Okay. And I would, I would cultivate that and I would lean into that. And I would identify that because then it helps you not just be aware of your bitch voice and your boss voice.

But it's an actual person living inside you that is trying to fuck your life up. What would you do to someone who was coming in front of you every day and was trying to get you to do all the wrong shit all the time? You'd be like, dude, get the fuck away from me. Yeah, fuck off. Right.

“That's how I treat that version of myself and that version of myself has gotten quieter and quieter and quieter and weaker and weaker and weaker as I obey the unbreakable part of my stuff.”

But it's never going away.

No, it doesn't. And if I start to fucking give into it, you know, one day and then two days and then three days. That week version of yourself gets much stronger, much quicker than the strong version of yourself. So you got to understand, it's not equal playing field, okay? You give that weak motherfucker a few decisions. All the sudden bro, he's got some fucking strength back if you didn't need a lot.

You know, this guy over here, he needs a lot. He needs a lot. The strong guy needs a lot of investment. The weak guy, he only needs two or three days bro to fucking grip your ass right out of. Okay.

It is. So like I'm on Andy man, like dude, you've been we've been working for like we've been on one year fucking sure we take one night off. Welcome man. And you know what? Sometimes I do.

Yeah. But that's your choice. But I'm gonna say that's your choice. That's your choice. It becomes a choice as opposed to an order that you're obeying.

Yeah. And even that one day, it is not, it's not over the top. I've seen it. Yeah. I've seen it.

Yeah. You used to be over the top. Oh bro. It's no longer this. Cool.

Yeah. A beer. Whatever it is. I'm good. You start to recognize the slippage really quick.

Yeah. You know what I'm saying?

“I think I think one of the biggest things to recognize here is that when you're kind of just starting to identify these things and build them up.”

It's hard for you to recognize the backward slips. You're not understanding how fast it can get out of control. You look at a place.

You look at the one thing I always marvel every time I come.

I come here to headquarters is how spotless this place is. Just apps every single room, every single corner, every it is spotless. So you see some dirt on the floor. It's easy to identify. It's easy to identify.

All right. If you if you place inside of you. Your mind said whatever it's totally dirty all the time. It's very hard to find what you look at what you're looking for. And that's what it's used on.

It just takes a little bit a little bit a little bit a little bit. You let one thing slip. You let one thing slip here. Another thing slips. It's there's no negotiation.

This is what we do. This is how places are going to be run. I was looking at the sign in your in your way room.

First day 30 days suspension second your terminate.

That's it. Yeah. That's it. Those are the standards. That's it.

And there's no negotiations. There's no nothing. Here the here the 10 steps. This is what I want you to do. There's don't there's no exceptions here.

Here it is. And if you don't do this. These are the consequences. If you continue to do it. These are the.

These are the rewards. That's it.

“And also I think it's important to recognize that.”

The more you obey the boss version of you. Okay. When you talk about changing your identity. All right. The first little victory is not going to change your identity.

All right. The identity changes after you overcome test after test after test after test over a period of time. And then it becomes your identity which becomes the standard. And when your standard resets, you are far less likely to move back to who you used to be.

I made the decision that I was going to change my identity. But my identity didn't actually change until I had created a track record out to where I could be like, I am who the fuck, I think I am with the caveat of understanding that I could very easily be that person that I used to hate very quickly. All right. So yes, you can change who the fuck you are today in your brain.

But it's going to be a fragile decision. Okay. What you live in currently, no matter if it's good or bad, was created by a past version of you. All right. That version of you literally created the outcome that you live in today.

And that is why your identity, if you are not doing well, feels like, well, my identity is like losing. All right. When you make that decision and you say, this is enough. Yes, you aren't technically no longer who the fuck you were. But that hasn't cemented yet.

That hasn't become like as permanent as we want it to be.

It's never fully permanent.

Okay. The strongest foundation can still be fucking cracked. But as you go down the path, it becomes stronger and stronger and stronger. And eventually, you say something like I just said, we're like, I'm fucking unbreakable dude, I'm fucking unbreakable.

I don't give a shit what the fuck happens. And I'm sure there's going to be tests that come my way that are going to challenge that.

“I know there are because that's what life is.”

I've had it happen to me over and over and over again. But I've done enough and I've pushed through enough of those to know who the fuck I really am. Okay. And you have to be able to invest in that identity, not just say this is who I am.

Okay. That's the biggest difference. But I'm going to tell you something, dude. You're aware of this now. This person is aware of this.

If you don't go, the rest of your life is going to fucking suck.

The minute that light bulb turns on and you're like, oh man, I'm not living to what I should be. I'm not who I should be. I'm not this. Oh, I like to have this or that.

That's awareness creeping into you. And that's a great thing. But it's a terrible thing if you're not willing to fuck into it and build something around it. Because you will fucking suffer your entire life. And that is very important for you to understand.

Once you become aware of what it is you're supposed to be. And you do not pursue that. You are at the beginning of however many years you have left on this planet of living health. For real.

“And that's a very important thing for you to understand.”

You don't have a fucking choice, dude. For whatever reason, God shined a light on you and said, This is what you could be.

Even if it was a fleeting thought.

Even if it was something that just like. And there's none you can do about it. Bro, you already seen it. So now you can't. You can't just write it.

You know, that's right. DJ, how much weight have you lost? Uh, and told I'm at a, I'm at like 105 right now. 105, all right, you lost 105 pounds. Basically lost a person.

All right. Everything. Now that the weight is off. It's better for you to do. Oh, 100%.

Everything. Everything. Well, yeah. Everything. Everything.

Shopping. Night time. You know what I'm saying? Everything. Everything.

Everything. Yeah. Yeah, bro. It's, it's, it's, it's, it's worth it. Yeah.

Yeah. It's, it's, it's, it's, it's about it. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. You know what I'm saying is like, there's, it's not like there's not a reward here.

Right. Right. Right. The progress that you make is the reward. It's not, it's not a, it's not a finish line.

It's not, it's not a fucking number. It's not a check. It's not a trophy. It's who the fuck you are, bro. That's the reward.

The reward is knowing who the fuck you are and being proud of who you are. Because you have the awareness of what you could become and you chose to become it. That's the fucking reward, man. And eventually, you know what, you're going to make money. You know what's going to happen to?

You're going to lose money. Okay. You know what I mean? Yeah. Like, you're, you're going to, you're going to go through the ups and downs.

And this, that, that's not, that's not the dictation of, of, of your greatness, dude. Your personal greatness comes from your ability to get the fuck up and keep moving. And, and, and the real world we talk about competing.

“That's why it makes you such a formidable competitor.”

Because while other people stop and celebrate or other people break down when the storm comes,

And when you're that person, you cannot be beat.

You cannot be caught. People can't make up ground on you. And once you get ahead and you will, because everybody else will naturally quit or fall off or stop moving, you get so far ahead to where it becomes the ground cannot be made up. Yeah.

You know, if you, if you're just aware of your surroundings and where the people you're around, everybody looks for individuals who are really successful to inspire them and so forth. Sometimes you just need to look as if I said, I'm fucking losing to that. Like, seriously, I'm losing to that. All right.

You look at it slowly.

“I'm really losing, that's what I'm, that's what I'm fucking losing.”

I'm losing to a fucking bucket of beers. Yeah. I'm losing to a pizza. I'm losing to that fucking shitty version of myself that I see in the mirror. I'm losing to that dude.

Yeah. I'm losing to that. Are you fucking Kate Broke? Come on. We're all better than that.

Yes. Every single one of you listening. We're all better than that. You just have to look at it the right way, man. And like, what you're describing.

And then this is why I resonate so well with like with relentless and winning and everything that you're about him.

It's because, ultimately, that's the message.

You are losing to your fucking self. Yeah. You're not losing to other people. Are you in a competition with other people? Yeah, probably.

If you're in a business. Absolutely. If you're an athlete, absolutely. You're losing them too.

“But the reason that you are losing to them is because you're losing to yourself first.”

Yep. And that's the responsibility part. That's the accountability part. Just when I change, I change when I made my wife take a picture of me. And actually, I can tell you exactly when I change.

I can tell you fucking exactly. I was on a fucking private jet. And the dude asked me if I need to seat belt extended. Oh, man. Yeah.

It's fucking, I got so fucking pissed off dude. Like I wanted to fucking kill the dude. Did you need one? No, I didn't. But the fact that he thought I did, dude, it made me so angry.

And for like 10 minutes, this is that the beginning of the flight.

So for like the first 10 minutes of the fucking flight.

I was like, I'm going to fucking choke this motherfucker. Next time he walks by. Yeah. And then, you know, he went up in the cockpit, you know, and it was a private flight. And I'm looking at an Emily and I'm like, I can't fucking believe that motherfucker.

And I started getting embarrassed about what I was saying. Hmm. I started to get like, dude. I thought you're fucking fast. He knew he knew he was right.

Right. I knew he was right.

“And by the time I had landed on that flight, I had made it by mine.”

Yeah. And it was no fucking option. So we were, I don't know. We were doing, um, we had to, we had an engagement at some island. I can't remember where it was.

Wasn't Epstein's. It was one of the, it was a prop, it was a prop plane, and they were taking everybody's, they ask everybody how much you weigh, and they had a nice step on a scale and so forth, because there was a lot of big people, and they had to distribute, like you can't sit, like if you were traveling with somebody, you can't sit here, you got it, oh my god, trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the plane, they're trying to even out the

And they look at the share of myself that said, you know, you guys just come on. We don't. We'll fit you guys in. I'm sure you were embarrassed. It's fucked with other people that weren't.

And I'm just like. Yeah. And. But I'm just. The situations is like, you got to look at something man.

I'm literally. That's that's what I'm losing to. There's so many people out listen. There's so many people that inspire me every single day. Not to be like them.

No man. If he wants you, you know, there's a few people you want to be like. But if you really look at. He said, there's so many. There's more people that will inspire you just look at.

I don't want that. It's not the life I want. I don't want to look like that. I don't want to feel like that. I don't want to do it.

That should be if that ain't enough. I don't know what the hell is. And exactly what you said, you're losing to. You're losing to, you know, a glass of beer. You're losing to a pizza.

You're losing to what you're losing to a hot dog. And there are going to be times that you lose. I talk about this all the time. Fuck it. Every time I go to Costco and I'm checking out.

I have fucking menu is calling me. I'm on over here. $1.50 hot dog. It's good price. It's good price.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, great. And sometimes it wins. Come on, go ahead.

All right. And then I just look at myself. I'm like, what the fuck did I just do? Sometimes when you get really good, what will happen is you'll take a bite of that first bite of that pizza.

No, no, no, no. Yeah, yeah. That happened to me with that with a beer. Yeah. I was about to have a beer.

It was probably four or five months ago. It was up to Billy G's at order to beer. I took one drink of it. Now I'm not fucked that. I want that.

So it's, let's say, we're no different than anybody else who's listening to the show. We go through the same trials and tribulations. We probably have gone through more.

“Well, that's what makes you more powerful.”

Yeah. All right. You should lean into those. All the time. Yeah.

All the time. All right. Dude, I think the thing that is most powerful, though, when you say, I don't want to be anything like that motherfucker is when it's a past version of you.

Yeah. Like, when I look at pictures of myself, when I was being in fat, I was like, bro, I know it sounds harsh. I fucking hate that motherfucker. Like, if that were a physical being,

I would literally physically fucking murder them. What? You know what I'm saying?

But the problem is that person always lives inside of you.

You can't completely kill it. You can't completely kill it. Yeah. It's always there. It's always there.

And I think one of the biggest mistakes that people make is they do think that they've conquered that. They think it's, they think it's already been beat. I'm not that person. No motherfucker.

You are that person still. That, this is why people who drink alcohol and they get addicted to alcohol, they have to fucking never drink it again. Because the minute they feed that version of themselves, that version gets like a lot of its power back.

And the minute they do it two or three days in a row, that person's back to full strength. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm doing it.

Yeah. That's real shit, man. You don't have to give that weak version of yourself a whole lot. For some reason, that version gets a lot stronger. If a little bit, then the unbreakable version.

No, that's real, man. Yeah, bro. Guys, Andy Tim, my man. That's a hell of a way to, I guess, keep people moving the object. Yeah, this is a little midweek special here, man.

Yeah. Yeah. This was amazing, man. Guys really appreciate it. We got anything else?

Now that was it. I got a question for you guys. Yeah. All right. I want to say it to ask about this.

You know, people put out, and this has got nothing to do with the questions. So people have bucket list.

You know, they always do bucket lists.

All right.

“Andy, I think you had a bucket list that you might be the only person”

that ever had this on the list in the world. Come on, we'll make sure I got this right. Did you two drive a fucking tank to a gas station? [LAUGHTER] Yeah, we did.

Yeah, we did. Yeah, we did. Yeah. Who has a kid? It makes a bucket list and say I'm going to own a tank.

And I'm going to drive it to the local gas station. And fill it up. And drive it up. I might be, I mean, we might be the only people that ever did that. Yeah.

That's nice. Yeah. Yeah. I'm like, they're certain like, like, I was thinking about this. This is like the weirdest thing ever.

Like, I think of like sentences that have never been said. Like, you know, like, no one ever said ever. Like, well, fuck, maybe I'm wrong about this now. But like, no one ever said, I'm going to take this hatchet. And I'm going to cut off my own dick.

[LAUGHTER] But apparently someone caught all of this. That has definitely been said.

But I always think about like, I always think about weird shit like that.

Like, I'm like, okay. It has, and I know for like adventure people, like, they're like, has a human being ever stepped on this piece of soil. Right? Right?

“And I think about that in terms of like things that have been said, which like creates like all these wild ass things.”

Like, like, like, what are sentences that have never been said? Like, this combination of words has never come out of somebody's mouth ever. And it's funny because like, I never thought about that tank thing. But, you know, that's gotta be, I mean, if somebody has done that, it's, I mean, I'm not sure they did it in like wars, right?

Like, they go in the gas station and they fill up their tank. But I don't think anybody just like did it casually. Yeah. So the next thing is next time you knew wife go out to eat, that late. Yeah.

Pull it up. That's good. Pull it up. That's good. Pull it up.

Pull it up. Well, this dick hit the road. Yeah. She's got just like, yeah. This is like, I'm like, these two motherfuckers.

[LAUGHTER] And fill up. I had to watch it again. I'm like our next trick. [LAUGHTER]

It's going to be a patchy. It's very popular, right? Like, laying it right on the roof. Yeah, man. I think about weird stuff like that all the time.

You know, I mean, athletes do this, right?

Oh, it's like, like, how, like, look at the four-minute mile. No one ever ran a four-minute mile. Now, it's like, if you're, if you want to compete, you have to. Yeah. You're not even in the class, right?

Right? You know, like, yeah, it's just, but that's what, you know, people say, think outside the box, there is no box. Yeah. Just, you just figured, I'm going to, you know what?

Let's go do this. Yeah. Yeah. Let's go.

“And that's why those things are so admirable, right?”

Like, you know, like, you look at, like, guys who have, you know,

written their bicycle around the world or done, like, Greg Anderson right now is doing that row from, from Washington to Hawaii. And while that, you know, other people have done that. I mean, very, very few people have done that.

And I was, yeah, man. Like, it's like something you've seen in a movie. Like, people would be stopping. I could just be like, oh, we got, people saw, yeah, people saw it. Yeah, people saw it.

You know, that's some kind of way where you're drinking something.

You seem to have a guy you've got to look at it.

And I'm like, fine, see what I just saw? Do you know what's funny? It's like, normally, when I go up there, you know, and I'm driving one of the cars. Like, people will come over and look at the car and shit.

That day, we took the tank up there. Nobody came around us. Yeah, no.

“Nobody was like, I think they were totally like,”

what the fuck? You know, that was like one of my most viewed Instagram stories ever. That was good. Yeah, man, rap gets it, too. Yeah, the M rap's cool.

Yeah. But yeah, man. You know, it's, uh, there is no box. You can do whatever you want. You can become whatever you want.

You can create whatever you want. But I can tell you this. It isn't going to happen if you keep talking and listen to that bitch voice. Nothing great comes with nothing great. And you're only hope.

You have, you have two hopes, okay?

“One actually something does come with that.”

You become a great bitch. Yeah, that's true. Yeah. Yeah. And there's a lot of those.

But, you know, if you're listening to the show, you're already kind of fucked. Okay? Hmm. Because you already have the awareness that you want to be better.

You already have the awareness that you want to become more. You already have the awareness that you want to create something. And you can't go back. Okay? So there's ignorance and then there's awareness.

And once you're aware, unless you pursue it, you're fucked. That's it.