Ep 1324 | Christian's Viral Post About His Wife’s Past Sparks HUGE Backlash. She Responds | Ashley Sheatz

X about part of his wife's testimony saying that she was formerly promiscuous before she

“became a Christian. He was a virgin. They got married both as new creations in Christ. And”

this post went viral. Got lots of backlash, not only from non-believers, but also from professing Christians and conservatives saying that this was disrespectful rude. People calling his wife all sorts of names just because of common Christian vulnerability and sharing a person's testimony and the power of the gospel. While I was completely taken aback by this backlash and I wanted to give Ashley the opportunity on relatable to share her testimony for herself.

So Ashley is here today to talk about how she came out of the new age and darkness in all kinds of

demonic oppression into the light of Christ. It is a powerful story here on relatable today.

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“guest episode today. I wanted to make sure that you heard this testimony as soon as possible. We”

have Ashley sheets. And she has gone viral because her husband has gone viral because of an ex post about his relationship with his wife regaining sexual purity after having a past of promiscuity and marrying a virgin. Ashley has a storied past before she knew Christ that included demonic activity and the new age, even maybe forms of witchcraft and lots of sexual immorality that she has been very open about and her husband Trevor was a virgin when they

got married and he posted this on ex and got so much backlash and 34 million views. He said

my wife was formerly promiscuous. I was a virgin. She was then radically born again committed to church evangelize constantly. Puritan books in her bedroom prayer journals, grief over past sexual sin etc. We got to know each other for well over a year, dated for four months. Engaged for two and a half a didn't sin sexually with one another. Our first kiss with each other was at the altar on our wedding day. We've been married for over five years now. He says and she's been the most

wonderful and godly wife, mother to our three children and homemaker. You could imagine. She's more pure than most virgin's. His biblical purity has less to do with past sins, though they matter and more to do with one's current posture of the heart and daily decisions to honor the Lord, Matthew 58. We're far too quick to forget the story of the woman labeled as a known sinner, likely a prostitute in Luke 736 through 50 who was washing Jesus' feet with her tears

while kissing them too. The Pharisees were shocked that Jesus let a public sinner do this. Jesus responded with a parable about that's being forgiven and ended with this powerful

“conclusion. Her many sins have been forgiven. That's why she loved much, but the one who is”

forgiven little loves little, super powerful. He also quotes first Corinthians 1, which is one of

my favorite passages. As I can Corinthians 517, if anyone is in Christ, they are a new creation. He also goes on to say everyone seems to highlight the benefits of virginity. It's certainly is a blessing, but we forget to highlight the benefits of being forgiven much as well. My wife knows the depths of Jesus' forgiveness. A woman or man's past sexual sin matters, but what matters far more when it comes to deciding who to marry is if the person is truly

born again. If their repentance is real, if they truly have a heart for Christ, if they truly follow Jesus and obey his commands. So I read this post on X, and I saw that it had thousands and thousands of replies. And usually, when a post has thousands of replies, it's like some kind of engagement bait where people are trying to stoke outrage or say something ridiculous, so a bunch of people respond, or a question, and a lot of people answer. So I immediately

wanted to read the post. It had to have been something ridiculous, something that I was really going to disagree with, because that's the other reason why a post would have that many replies. As if they said something really dumb, really bad, really controversial. I read the post, and I was like, okay, that is, you know, standard Christian testimony, that is standard Christian theology. I don't understand what's controversial about this. It must just be a bunch of secular

progressives who are angry about a Christian testimony. The demons are screeching. That could be the only explanation for this being considered controversial. I read it. I didn't find anything controversial in it whatsoever. But then I was so surprised to see conservative Christians responding negatively to this. I saw Robbie Starbucks, for example, and these are not personal attacks on these people. I was just surprised to see their response. He said, do dot dot, delete this,

For example, here is Michael Nulls, salt one. Purity, ultimately, has more to do with one's

present state. As long as we're oriented toward God, as long as our desire is turned toward God,

“and we're moving in that direction. That's what God really wants. That's what Delight's God,”

and if we're moving in the opposite direction, or we're despairing or giving up or whatever. That's a big problem. But all of that said, I agree with so many of the points he's making, and yet this is some wrong with this post, right? You shouldn't call your wife a horror on social media. I think you don't need to talk about your past sins all the time. Sometimes that can be powerful testimony, but sometimes it's a little awkward and weird. Sometimes it can be humiliating.

Sometimes it can serve selfish purposes. Okay, so he goes on. You can, you know, find his whole monologue for the entire context on this, but he also said this on eggs. I saw a lot of people saying that, that okay, find, well, and good, but you're humiliating your wife, and you are lacking discretion. And Michael even says, right there, sometimes it's fine, but a lot of times it's not. Well, as far as I know,

these people don't talk about this all the time. I went through trevours tweets. I had never seen

him tweet before, but I don't see him talking about his wife's story path or her promise guilty a lot. He felt compelled to share her testimony. She's felt compelled to share her testimony publicly. And so they decided to do that. And I thought that it was beautiful and to see so many professing Christians and conservatives. Not, I'm not just talking about Michael Nulls, but a lot of people with a lot more intense negative reactions. I mean, I saw a lot of feobros out there saying,

wow, you're calling your wife a horror on the internet. That's the one I saw over and over again. Oh, this is so sad for the young men out there who are going to think I'm using their words who

“think that you have to marry a horror. I can't believe you just called your wife that. And I'm”

like, whoa, whoa, whoa, he did not call his wife that. You called his wife that. You called another man's wife that. You called a new creation that. Like you called a person who has been redeemed by Christ who has been sanctified and made new and is pure as the driven snow because of Christ a horror. That is on you. That is not on her husband. Okay. And so just the hyper patriarchy bros who call themselves Christians out there who just want to take any opportunity, not only to

denigrate women, but to denigrate the work of the gospel. It's just, it's just insane. It's like this very obvious tinnit of Christianity that you have become a new creation is now like, oh, well, maybe that's just a little nuanced. And then, of course, you do have people which, okay, who say, yeah, all that's well and good, but still, like, we shouldn't be promoting this kind of thing virginity matters and all of that. Again, I would say Trevor said that. Trevor didn't say anything

against virginity. He didn't say that that doesn't matter. He didn't say that sexual sin doesn't matter. He just said that his wife has been made new and that is true. That is true. Like, think,

“let's hold multiple thoughts in our minds at the same time. I believe in some of you out there. I”

really do. I mean, sometimes you make me want to lose my belief in you, but I'm really trying to hang on. Okay. We've got some more negative reactions in just a second. Let me pause and tell you at our first sponsor for the day. And that is Adele Natural Cosmetics. Adele is a Christian founded family owned cosmetic company. I love them so much. I'm actually out of my favorite product.

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For a lot of conservatives out there that even if you are not a Christian, like there is an understanding of the testimony that Christians give when we say, okay, this is how we were when we were dead in our sin. And this is who we are now by grace through faith. And because I am a new creature and a new creation, the old has passed, the new has come. I have a new identity. I am a new person because of Christ. That is what I read from this post. And then you have someone like Dr.

he posts a screenshot and was like the just highlighted the first line. My wife was formerly

“permissuous. I was a virgin. Dr. Kevin Young says, nothing after this line matters. There is no”

reason ever under any circumstances in any universe where it is appropriate for a man to make this statement about his wife true or not. With or without her permission, this is her story, not theirs. This is what is wrong with evangelicalism. Look, this is just a misunderstanding of marriage, of the situation, of what went on here, of this person's consent to her sharing her testimony. There are so many assumptions going on that he is like pimping out his wife's story for money.

That is not what is happening here because you can see if you go to her social media, how often she has shared this story publicly. Now, there are a lot of Christians who are supporting them. Like my friend Samuel say, he says, "Professing Christians who are offended by this are telling

“on themselves. Jesus is going to marry a formerly permissuous bride. The church. Hello. Some of”

you are acting like you won't be a part of the wedding. Mike Drop." Samuel continued quoting Proverbs 1822 and saying, "He who finds a wife finds favor with the Lord. He advise users to take their advice to their users, to take their advice from God over fools on social media, Owen Strand, also defended Ashley and Trevor and also pointed out that actually shared her

testimony publicly on an online platform in 2020. So this is certainly not the first time. Again,

that her testimony has circulated. She's gotten all kinds of insults. She's been denigrated in all kinds of ways just because not only her vulnerability but because her husband, along with her, but on his account, also shared her story. And yeah, that's going to seem scandalous to the world because most people can't understand that level of honesty and transparency and the lack of

“shame that you have once you are in Christ. I for one thought it was a beautiful testimony. I think”

Ashley's testimony points to the grace and redemption and the opportunity that each and every one of us has in Christ. And I'm so thankful for her courage. She posted, "Becoming a Christian in general opens you up to ridicule, slander and shame, but it is worth it for the sake of the gospel. Jesus is where the blessed are you when people insult you in persecute you. She's quoting Matthew 511 and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me." So that is her perspective on all

of this praise God. Ashley is here today to share her testimony with us coming out of the darkness of abuse and the new age and promiscuity and into the light of Christ without further due. Here's our friend Ashley Sheets. Ashley, thank you so much for taking the time to join us. So first I just want to hear from you. What was your reaction when you saw your husband's post go viral and then get so much backlash? Thank you so much for having me. I was surprised, you know,

when Trevor told me that he made this post and it's really doing well. I was like, okay, he's done great posts before and that have gained traction before. So I didn't really think of anything of it, but then it just kept getting more and more traction and it's reaching millions of views. And it was shocking, but I wasn't embarrassed at all by it because again, I've been sharing my testimony for years. It was more of a praise God. Praise God that my testimony is being seen

by millions of people, millions of unsaved people and the gospel is being magnified in that. I'm zero shame. And my husband knows I do not mind him at all sharing any aspects of my testimony. He's a wise godly man. My trust, what he does and he is discreet when he needs to be. And I had no issues with it. And even though there's been a lot of backlash,

again, I always praise God when I'm reviled and persecuted for righteousness sake as

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that's vom.org/allee. I've already talked about this with my audience at the beginning of the episode, but I was really taken aback, not only that the postment and viral, because I read it, it's a beautiful post, but I'm like, this is the, you know, the Christian testimony. We hear these kinds of things a lot. Christians are very famously vulnerable, open about what their past look like, how got her deemed them. So I just thought this is another great Christian testimony, but I not only

saw secular progressives saying, wow, this is so weird, which I've come to expect after years on acts, but then also like professing Christians, people in the conservative world, same,

“this is embarrassing. How could you throw your wife under the bus like that? Was that hard to see?”

It might have even been people that you were fans of. Yes, yes, it's been hard to see you know, other people who you've looked up to in the past look like, yeah, this is absolutely horrible,

and you know, calling me deronatory words, which Trevor never said that. Sure, the word was

permissuous, and you can relate it to that horrible word, but he still, he never called me that, and it's in and of itself that word is deronatory. So yeah, it was, it's hard, again, but it's been a blessing. Yeah, so we've seen all of the public backlash, but has there been anything privately, either bad or good that has surprised you, messages that you've received conversations that you've been able to have? So of course it's been, I'd say more backlash than

anything, of course it's reached over 34 million people. Yeah, I totally gonna expect that because Ali, as you know, the way is narrow in the Christian walk, and this is a dark, dark world. Why would I expect to be praised and admired by over 34 million people when Jesus himself was heated for his message? And it was shocking in the sense that, you know, as a human, it's hard to be persecuted and even attached for my looks and all, just all the words that you could think,

but I have also received such beautiful messages from people saying, I am so happy that I found

you and that God led me to you and your testimony because I have a similar past and I never thought

I could experience, like, the blessings that you've experienced now with, you know, having a colleague husband and just people messaging me that they're just been crying from reading my testimony and have been blessed by that. And even that just cancels out like all the bad, you know, and, you know, you probably, you know, description, I can't think of it all the talk of my head,

“but how heaven just rejoices one one sinner, repents over all the righteous people, you know?”

Totally. And praise God for that. And there will be stories like that that you never even see, until you get to the other side of glory. There will be someone you meet any turn to be in heaven who will say, you don't know me, but I heard your testimony through this crazy viral post and

when it seems like God is doing one thing, he's actually doing a million things and so often we can't,

we can't actually see what those things are. And I know that you're not fishing for compliments, but you are really, really beautiful, not only just beautiful in your face, but just beautiful because I really see the light of Christ and the peace of him shining through you. A lot of people would be broken over what they're seeing on the internet about them, as you said, it's really hard, but you have peace because of Christ. And so I just want to hear your testimony. It is

because the hardship that you went through in your life really starts when you were little, right?

“Yes, yes. So I never grew up in a religious household at all. I never knew who Jesus was,”

and I grew up in a family, a broken family, really. My mom and my dad were never married. In fact,

they split up when I was about three years old. So I have no memory of them ever even really being together. And both my dad and my mom are, they don't have any religion. So I never grew up with like religious or, you know, virtues to really practice. It's just all about living your life now, and you figure it out as you go. But I actually, I have always had a sense. Maybe this is just the Lord's hand over my life. Always had a sense that this world is not it. I never really believe

that I'm just going to live this life and I. I wanted to seek truth. But I never believed in God,

either. I had no, again, like I said, I'd never really dope into researching different religions

when I was younger, right? But when I was about 15, I ended up wandering into a Barnes and Noble section and was really drawn into the spirituality section, really just new age and assistism and self help all about you, all about lifting you up, all about enlightenment and it's just such a focus on you. So of course, I was drawn into that. So I ended up gathering like so many books, reading them, front to back all the time. Thinking I was just this amazing spiritual group, I got really into

yoga and different religions. Of course, every religion, but Jesus, again, never went into Christianity,

“never to have like a natural distaste for Christianity or was it just not one that you had considered?”

I did. I did and I never even knew if Jesus was and I've talked about this with my sister before

because she was with me at the time. I remember when I was a teenager and we were walking through like a senior living home because my grandma lived there and there was like a Christian sign on the door just about how Jesus saves and I remember just saying Jesus isn't here. Jesus can't save you. I'm like, I don't even know who Jesus was and I'm just saying that and when I look back on it's like it's so much demonic influence in the world that just keeps you from seeing the light

of Christ. When I look back on those memories it just it makes me smile now because it just shows you the realness of Jesus. You bring up every other religion in the world and no one bads an eye

“but you start talking about Jesus and everyone is like, why would you start saying that name?”

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on your first order, PaleoValley.com, code Alley. So you turned to new age Hinduism. You considered yourself a very spiritual person. This is when you were a teenager. You said about like 15, 16. And then you started turning to partying psychedelics things like that, right? Yes, yes. That path led me down to what the first one is. It's being a promiscuous woman. And I became heavily addicted to drugs and psychedelics. And I thought

such a crazy experience, I guess, with being spiritual. I thought this was leading me closer to

knowing whatever truth was out there. And yes, I saw worth and satisfaction in men and all these different religions and these bugs that just puff you up so much. And I ended up being with just the wrong crowd of people. They were all into drugs thinking and telling me as well that you have to take these drugs to become enlightened and that you had experienced this wonderful experience

“with God or souls or whatever you want to call it. That's what new age mystics will call. Oh,”

or the universe. Okay, I can't forget that. The universe. You want this experience with the universe.

And again, I became really addicted to these drugs. I was taking them almost every day at some point. And mind you, I'm under each. I was living with my mom at the time, my mom and my dad was split up. And my dad was actually a police officer at the time as well. But since I was living with my mom, I was able to get away with a lot. I love my mom, but she just wasn't. She was a bit naive in the sense that she believed everything I said. And I was a horrible liar. And I

“like to talk about my testimony from the point or making clear that this is not like a”

sob story of how Jesus saved this poor victim. I was an absolute culprit. And this is my testimony on how gracious, loving, merciful God took a culprit from the pit. And I had very long dreadlocks. I considered myself just this enlightened hippie. Pretty scared. Yeah. Yes, spiritual. Very, yeah, these long dreadlocks. I after my dad said that to me that shook me up. And when I got out of the hospital, I cut all my dreadlocks off. I thought this was going to be

like a new beginning, right? And of course, it was, it wasn't because it was with my own strength. I thought I was going to be able to have this new life. And what only thing happened a few months later? I ended up going to another festival and getting back in a drug,

“finding the new boyfriend and the same pattern continued. And was this just to get my timeline?”

Was this the, you had a boyfriend who was 50 when you were a teenager, correct? You've talked about that. God. Yes, I didn't, I wouldn't consider him a boyfriend. Okay. He was, he had his own male religion. This guy was a very manipulative in my life. Very brainwashing. I was abused by him many times, but I felt like I couldn't get out. And this was an angry man. And any person who tried to help me escape from him, he was angry and would yell and like I was his possession

innocence. And I never wanted to be with this man. It was just, it was, it was just horrible

situation. Yeah. He was basically like a cult leader. He was, it was absolutely a cult leader. Yeah. No doubt. Yeah. And he, he still has it to this day. I, well, we looked at it not too long ago to see if it was still a thing. And yeah, still has this whole main religion, probably still deceiving people and immense hatred for Jesus, immense hatred for Christianity. Yeah. Wow. And you talk about also within this period, both before and after your near-death experience,

before and after the dreadlocks, like experiencing demonic activity and feeling like a sense of demonic oppression. Can you talk more about that? Because a lot of people, they don't believe that or they just don't really even know what that means. Yes, definitely. I was very suicidal in the season of my life as well. So on the outward, you know, I appear like on this spiritual, I happy, he'd be everything's for his spirit and love. And yet, on the inside,

have scars to this day. And I consider that such a demonic influence as well. From just everything,

“I was also reading and consuming, I remember I was listening to like dark, screamo, heavy metal music,”

and then I would self-harm. And I, yes, I was suicidal. I was just didn't see any joy, real joy in life. I was also having like dark nightmares all the time. And uh, yeah, just just darkness all around really. Yeah. And you had moved to New Mexico with your boyfriend around age 18. And you continued, you know, doing drugs, yoga, and then online prostitution as well. Yes, yeah, when I moved to New Mexico, I lived with, yeah, that boyfriend for a couple of months.

And then money was just a rough thing at the time. And I remember I was following different it wasn't even only fans back then. It was something else. But all the, you know, some models

in that, um, line of work. It is basically only fans, but a whole different kind of website.

So I remember telling my boyfriend, you know what, I could do this for a few months. That's fine. And yeah, I did that. I made different videos. And I was just trying, I didn't have like a huge online presence or anything. But it was just in the background, something I would do. And um, I didn't, I didn't even think that was wrong at the time. And which is crazy. When I look back upon it, you guys, this is just such a public thing. And, um, yeah, so I, I did do, if you call that

online prostitution as well, then yes. Yeah. And that was around the time that you overdosed.

“And you were having seizures and you found yourself in the hospital where you're dad met you, right?”

Yeah. So this is all the year 2017. Oh, yeah. It was actually I was 18. So thank you. I got it mixed up with, I thought I was 17. It's hard to remember. But yes, um, after years of just being from his viewers and going into drugs, I ended up coming close to death multiple times. I had a really big overdose when I was about 17. And so close to death, I was, um, I can barely remember the experience just from going out of consciousness. I was having seizures. And, um, I woke up in the

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relying on yourself. You were so relying on things like yoga, self-help, the new age after that.

You got back into drugs and so the whole, I'm going to pull myself up by my own spirituality didn't work. What led you to Christ? Yes. So yes, I ended up going back into festivals in the month of

“August, I believe. And then I moved out with another boyfriend who I met at the festival to”

organ for a month and I actually had a yoga retreat planned for the entire month of October. So I had to leave organ and because I was going to be gone the whole month to be trained to be a

certified yoga teacher. So I left to Guatemala and actually the day before I left to Guatemala,

I remember just praying on my knees. I was feeling really just lost and hopeless and I remember a video that I came across before going to Guatemala. Just a random YouTube video and it was talking about how the shock was and Eastern meditation and this false spirituality is all hiding

“Jesus from you and that really freaked my heart. I feel like that was just the Holy Spirit”

starting to lead me to Jesus and after that video I was on my knees just praying to the God I didn't know at the time I was just praying. I don't know who you are or what you are, but I least just show me the truth. I just want to know the truth. I don't care. Whatever it takes, I just want to know the truth. And then I went on this yoga retreat for an entire month. It was I didn't have cell phone connection and it was just me every single day practicing yoga and I

ended up getting certified after that month and when I came back home and God's Providence, I came

across another YouTube video and this is from me searching too. So that first video was in my head

about Jesus. So this started leading me down a rabbit trail of looking into who Jesus even was in what the Bible actually is. So when I came across the second video this time it was all about how Jesus alone is the truth the way in the life and no one comes to the Father but they're in which is in the Gospels and and different verses just about Jesus being God and the one true God.

“And I remember just breaking down in tears. I was crying and I truly feel like I felt the Holy Spirit's”

presence with me in that moment. And I after that video I was just crying and crying and I called up the only Christian I knew. I I had no Christian friends. I had I yeah I know I didn't know any Christians really except this one man who has been in my life because he was friends with my sister and he got radically saved from being in a gang and would come over and share the Gospels. I was so young so I didn't really understand what he was saying but he was the one Christian I knew

and I called him after that video just crying and asking if he could help me understand who this Jesus is and the Bible and that I was just so confused. I feel like my whole life has been a lie and I don't know how to comprehend it and he ended up coming over cleared out his busy busy schedule for me talked with me for 10 hours straight and he showed me like you have gravely sinned against God you know we went through my promiscuity we went through my lying and

I've broken all of the 10 commandments. I've sinned so greatly against God and I recognize that and he showed me that I was in great need of a Savior. I cannot get to heaven by my own works. There's no good works here it's gone. He showed me that Jesus came in the form God came in the form of Jesus and he lived the perfect life that I couldn't live

later and all I had to have to do is to repent actually turn from my sin give my all to Jesus

“Christ believe in the gospel and I will be saved and he walked me through all my questions as well”

and that night I gave I live to the Lord I confessed my sin I committed myself to Jesus and I said whatever it takes Lord I want to follow you I want Jesus I want the true living God no matter what it takes in my life completely changed I got rid of my library of new age books that night my family thought I was absolutely bonkers but I've lost my mind and I threw it all in the trash three of all these like new age spiritual idols in the trash I got really into Hinduism so I have this

Hindu false God on my arm and I threw it all away I was just me in my Bible in a bare room and I

“read through that Bible so fast Ali was like within a month that Bible was well done and my life”

radically changed I've never went back into that alive again and I've been saved from nearly 10 years now

praise God and you got baptized there's a picture of you yes getting baptized beautiful I love that so much I mean you can just see like the renewal shining from you because of Christ and just I know that we can't go into detail about what the last 10 years have been like but I would love just to hear a little bit of an overview of your walk and sanctification and then how you met your husband yeah so I got saved that December of 2017 and the man who led me to the Lord brought me to church

that first weekend and I'm still at that same church to this day and I was going every week reading my Bible constantly this man he was pouring into me he was such a great brother just instantly brought me into such amazing solid theological your showed me amazing theological men and pastors to read and I was reading John MacArthur right away and Paul Washer is my absolute favorite preacher and just solid solid men and brought me to a solid church right off

“the bat and I truly believe that that is what helped me grow in such a great degree in the span of”

that first year of being a Christian reading godly books constantly like my full my love for reading as you can see and did up going into a good direction so my whole library filled with just the best godly books yeah that you could think of I just kept putting my eyes on Christ and learning what it means to be a godly woman in a woman after god's heart and I know I desired

to be a wife after I became a Christian I never thought I would be a wife or even desire that

before I was a Christian but after reading you know what god desires for a woman in the scriptures that became my desires like man I would love to be a mom and a wife at home and a homemaker and but I also knew I needed to focus on Jesus and that whole first year was focused completely on Jesus I met Trevor and that first year I was saved actually my friend who led me to the Lord introduced me to him we were in the same small group and he was the only one and that small group

who was really answering all the questions about the Bible and he just had such a heart for Jesus in a love for Jesus more than I had seen any man around me like such a deep love and a deep knowledge of the scriptures they called him a Bible and cypopedia because you ask him anything and it's like he knew the scripture to it and I just loved that about him so I ended up talking to him more so we kept in touch here and there I would ask him or I would text him a few questions

about the Bible and ask him like his favorite sermons or pastors to listen to and

so we never hung out like one on one or anything but this is the whole year of 2018 this is

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use patriot mobile if you go to patriot mobile.com slash alley you'll get a free month of service that's patriot mobile.com slash alley but end of 2018 in December Trevor was good friends with the family I was living with at the time it was a family from my church they took me in I really wanted a mentor and that the woman I was living with she just poured into me for like six months just I was under her roof she was teaching me cleaning

and home making we were diving into the world together pretty much every day such a sweet woman and Trevor actually looked with them before too and we had no idea about this so in a day in December he wanted to visit that family and I happened to be there and when he came to see me I was showing him around in my room and he me and I'm just really hit it off we had such an amazing connection and just a mutual deep love for Jesus. It's all we would talk about with each other

it's just how much we have been forgiven and how much we love Jesus and we loved evangelism as well and he ended up coming out again to see me after that day we only a couple days later and we spent

like the whole day together with the woman who was mentoring me so we were never like alone together

I was a conviction of ours we just wanted to get to know each other around friends and Trevor he he also felt that deep connection with me and he wanted to meet up with me again after that and I texted him asking is it your conviction as well to have a shepherd room

“around us wherever we go and then he said in his head that was like oh my goodness I think this”

actually might be turning into something I need to clear the air immediately and he faced time to me a couple days later and just laid out his feelings and he said I want to pursue you I think you are a godly woman and obviously we have this connection but I only want this to be an intentional friendship this is not a relationship I'm interested in you but I want to get to new you as a friend first and he had a year time frame in his mind so we were intentional friends for

this whole year this is the whole year 2019 you know never holding hands nothing romantic just

always hanging out with each other either with an older her older colleague person around us

I was just a big conviction of ours we wanted this to be solely focusing on being friends

“and that's what we did but whole entire year and it was hard because obviously our”

affections were being more and more drawn to each other and it was hard to not want to like hug on him or hold his hand it got difficult in that sense but he was he was very adamant about that and I'm so grateful for that yeah yeah and I just have a I just have a couple more couple more questions for you I mean after that year y'all eventually you got engaged and of course done married but going back to kind of what he said in the post that he was very open he was

a virgin obviously you have the past that you've just shared with us can you just tell us like what was that like sharing those things with him and how did he respond because people who are

listening to your story might think I could never tell someone like I'm a question now but I can

never tell the person I'm gonna marry all of these things what if they don't love me anymore don't want me anymore so tell me how you kind of overcame those fears and had that conversation pal that's a great question even from when I first got saved I was even clear about my testimony and the baptism of and he went to the same church as me of course so I was reading like a page-long thing of my testimony and just also how it was in the drugs and lived with this

promiscuous life and everything else that didn't go into too much in detail but he knew about my past from that as well and of course it in our intentional friendship it came up as well of course but I wasn't afraid to tell him because honestly I just saw God's addictive hand in my life I didn't think it would be something that would repel a godly man I the reason why I wasn't like ashamed to tell him my past as much and I want to

“clear this too I think virginity is a wonderful thing and that's what all Christian women”

who aren't married should be pursuing I have experienced so much pain I experienced so much pain in

that life and was hurt so much and it brought me so much grief and pain never you know last

you enjoy if anything it brought me way more pain in scars than anything it's not a life to live and it's not this life that you can just go into and have fun and then you can just repent of it and be forgiven and you're just that's it's easy to do because you had all that fun like no it was horrible even being in it you're being used and abused by men and all you want is like a real love and you're not getting it because you're searching it in all the wrong things and

was sin comes always destruction sin always bring some form of death and I just want to make

that clear there have also been challenges in my marriage in the first few years you know I was having just flashbacks of when I was abused sexually and it was hard for us to work through that and or even in the beginning of our marriage for me to feel like this is wrong like to be with my husband like I felt like I couldn't even be with him sexually in a marriage so we had to work through those things and I totally recognize that you're not going to have those issues if you're

“both versions and that's beautiful and that's something that you should pursue as a Christian woman”

and it's a beautiful thing but onto the question I Trevor has always been such a sweet godly understanding man and anytime I ever told him anything of my past he has only met me which just graced and just wow look at what God has done in your life he is all about the gospel all about Jesus and he saw how much Jesus changed me and the key thing is that person who I was is not

live in Christ Jesus and a Galatians 220 says I have been crucified with Christ it is no longer I

who live but Christ who lives in me and Trevor understands that spiritual truth that actually is no

“morning she has gone she is a new creation in Christ and he only saw me as that and that's how I saw”

myself so that is why I wasn't afraid or ashamed to tell in my past because although that's a very

real part of my life is not who I am I am a new creation I'm brand new thank you so much Ashley

“for just being vulnerable and sharing your testimony and now you are on social media and you are”

sharing the gospel and just sharing your life as a wife and mom with other women who need it so

where can they follow you? I'm on X and Instagram it's just Ashley sheets yeah well thank you so much

“and I just encourage people to support you and pray for you because there will continue to be commentary”

around that tweet but you know as you mentioned God can do anything and he uses people testimonies to bring glory to himself and so thank you for just being a vessel for that and I'm very grateful that you took the time out of your busy day to come on the show and to encourage people so thank you so much thank you so much I'm seriously honored to be on your show as well thank you Ashley thank you