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Welcome to the daily stoic podcast. Designed to help bring those four key stoic virtues courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom into the real world. You think you've read this book. A lot of people think they've read this book. I thought I'd read this book. This is Mark Shrely's Meditations.
The private thoughts and the most powerful man in the world.
But there are secrets. There are lessons inside this book that went way over my head things that I missed not just the first time I read it. But the second time I read it. And the third time in the fourth time there are things that I didn't understand in Mark Shrely's Meditations until decades after I read it for the first time. And there will be things that I will get out of it when I open it tonight on my bedside table.
I've done lots of videos. I've done talks all over the world about it. But I'm still getting new things and taking new lessons out of it.
“And that's what we're going to talk about in today's episode.”
The hidden lessons in Mark Shrely's Meditations. The things that might not strike you the first time. But when you really study them and you really think about them as I have for the last two decades, you'll understand at a deeper level. One of the things that Gregory Hayes notes at the beginning of his translation of Meditations, which I missed on my first few readings. I missed not only his observation,
but I missed what was so obviously not there to have like the dog that didn't bark.
Is that Mark Shrely's never says he is a stoic? We don't have any definitive proof that
Mark Shrely's was a stoic philosopher. All we really have is his thinking, which aligns with the stoic philosophy. And of course, his way of living, which is very, very stoic. So there's a stoic lesson in that too. As Epic Titus says, we don't talk about our philosophy in Body It. That's what makes Mark Shrely's a stoic. Meditations is not why Mark's really is considered a stoic philosopher. His life is why he's considered a stoic philosopher. Mark Shrely's
wasn't dogmatic. He wasn't saying this is the stoic orthodoxy. When Seneca talks about how he would quote a bad author, even if the line is good, that he reads from all the schools of philosophy, Marcus does this too. What Hayes speculates is that if you were to ask Marcus Shrely's, what he was. He doubts that he would say, oh, I am a stoic. He would say, I am a philosopher.
“Or I would say, actually, I think it's a better guess that he would say, I am studying philosophy.”
He's not interested in labels. He's not interested in giving himself honors. He's just interested in exploring these ideas and being better for them. It is striking when you think about it, that we can relate to meditations at all. I mean, here's a book written. 2000 years ago, not for publication, in Greek, by an emperor God king who owns slaves who has an arranged marriage,
Who heads this enormous blood-thirsty empire.
talking about? What does this have to do with me? What's going on? His life, his inner thought should
be incomprehensible to us. And yet, it is precisely because of the specificity of that,
“that Marcus really is so universal and relatable. And I think that's the achievement of meditations,”
which is that somehow, because of the earnestness, because of the vulnerability, because of the struggle of the inner life of this unfathomable man, becomes comprehensible and relatable and inspiring and accessible to us. It's like how the most specific comedy somehow becomes the most accessible and in some ways, the most timeless. There's something remarkable about what Marcus is doing. He's writing for an audience of one and yet manages to write the end for an audience, not just
cumulately of the millions, to all of us all this time later. Sometime around the year 1780,
the most powerful man in the world sat down to write. He had no idea that you and I would ever see
what he was writing. And miraculously, these writings survived. And within them are some of the greatest and wisest insights ever put down. Sometimes these insights are really obvious. They jump out
“off the page at you. But other ones, you have to understand that the deeper context you have to”
understand, what he meant, where he was coming from, why he would have been saying this to fully understand him, which is why over the last couple years, we developed this deep dive into Marcus really says meditation. A guide, a course, a challenge, a companion for understanding one of the most important works ever put down. In any language, in any era, by any person. How do you take the insights from 2000 years ago from one of the most impressive people to ever live and imply them
to your daily life? I'm calling Marcus really this month here at DailyStoke and we'd love to have you and you can join us, sign up right now at dailystoke.com/meditations. And actually, it wasn't until I was walking the streets of a Quinncom, which is the Roman camp outside Budapest, where Marcus spent some time
with the second legion. And they suspect that he wrote some chunks of meditations there.
But it hit me like, this is a guy who walks down this street. So yeah, he's a king. Yeah, he believes things that are so different and distinct from us. His his reality was so different from us. His language was different from us. And yet, he was a guy who was walking from this building to this building. He was walking over here to to this bath. He was using the bathroom over here. The end of the day, people are people. And when we stripped those people away of the legend that impressed them,
as Marcus really talks about in meditations as we deciserify them. We find how much we have in common with them, how fundamentally human and related we all are. What also hit me walking those streets of a Quinncom is just how far it is from Rome. In meditations, Marcus really says,
“life is warfare and a journey far from home. And I guess I sort of thought he was being metaphorical,”
but then in Hungary, you're in Budapest and you go, I'm nowhere near Italy. The Emperor of Rome was here. How long would it have taken him to get there? I mean, Marcus really dies in Vienna. Budapest is 800 miles from Rome. Like the size and the scope of the Roman Empire is unfathomable. It is enormous. And you realize that Marcus does have to spend enormous amounts of time away from home. So he would have been lonely. He would have been exhausted. He would have been in totally unfamiliar territory,
but that comes with the territory. And it certainly it shapes some of the writing and the observations. When he talks about being a citizen in the world, when he talks about our mutual affinity for each other, when he talks about how we have more similarities than differences, when he talks about taking the bird's eye view, this is shaped by the wide swath of the globe, the known globe that he was personally able to experience. And I think it Parkinson's to the idea of the overview effect,
you know, that astronauts see from a distance Marcus to us would have seen so much more of Rome than your average Roman, and that shapes him. And it also took its toll on him. David Hernandez, Dalea Fuente, he's this Spanish classicist, and I was reading this article where he was interviewed about the popularity of meditations. He's translated it in Spanish from Latin to Spanish. But he said strikes him about meditations, and it strikes me now, too, is that you have two voices
in Marcus and realists. Two voices in this guy's head. There's one that doubted and suffered. He says, well, the other was the teacher, right, offering comfort and certainty. It made me think of what Stephen Presfield talks about in the war of art that we kind of have the higher self and the lower self. And you can kind of see that what meditations is, as Marcus really is occupying where we all are, the lower self, when we're not what we want to be, when we fall short, when we have
Problems, when we're flawed, and then who we want to be, and who we know we c...
to get from here to there. And there's even a quote in meditations where he talks about this. He says, you know, you want to fight to be the person that philosophy tried to make you. And the idea that meditations is the minutes of that fight. We're seeing Marcus a realist battle with these two voices,
“these two selves trying to get from here to there. And that's what makes it such a beautiful piece of art.”
Why do I like the Gregory Hayes translation of meditations so much? Well, I'll tell you why I don't like most of the other translations. They're still to their inaccessible. I mean, some of them are products of their time. If you read one of the free ones on the internet, like the George Long Translation, you're reading a product of the 1800s. You're reading how the 1800s interpreted the year 18080. You are looking at it through these refraction. Marcus Riss was
writing to himself. So he would have been accessible. But he was also brilliant and poetic. He loved language. He was tutored by the greatest minds in antiquity. So it shouldn't surprise us that there are beautiful turns of phrases in there. Beautiful observations. He's writing in Greek the language of philosophy. I think Gregory Hayes captures that the most. It's a lyrical. It's poetic. It's exciting. Takes her breath away in some passages, but it's also deeply personal and real
“and earnest. And that's what meditations is supposed to be. It's our imagination of what the most”
powerful man in the world who've been trained in philosophy and rhetoric sitting down and trying to
acknowledge himself on how to get from the lower self to the higher self, how to be the person that philosophy wanted him to be. And if meditations isn't moving you, it's missing something. Because Marcus Riss was trying to move himself. It was trying to remind himself of the values and the ideas and the language that had inspired him as a young man. And more importantly, he's trying to escape the darkness of Rome at this time. The German front with the Roman army. He's writing it in his
tent. He's writing it at the Colosseum. He's trying to escape from the nastiness, the darkness, the awfulness of life. He's trying to create peace, trying to wash himself off, trying to retreat into his own soul. It is the mission of meditations. That's what obviously I tried to do. Now, of course, meditations feels very old to us. It's 1900 or so. Here's all. What's interesting to think is that it was very old to Marcus or really is too. Zeno is creating
what becomes stoicism in the fourth century BC give or take. So it's hundreds of years old by the time Marcus really gets to it. It says old to him as Shakespeare is to us. But 10 emperors come and go between Niro and Marcus. That's just Seneca to Marcus. So when Marcus talks about how some of these names feel ancient to us, how easily they're forgotten, he's running through history the same way that we're like, wait, how do you pronounce that name? Who was that? What I take from
this is that ancient isn't some fixed label. There's always an ancient to someone, even the people
who are ancient to us thought they lived in the future, right? Thought that they were looking backwards at what we now sort of compress into the single period. Marcus didn't live in ancient Rome. He
“lived in the cutting-edge future. That changes how we think about it. You know, I seem to remember”
my copy of Meditations just like arriving right away. You find something on the internet, you click it and it comes. But looking at my receipt, I see that I had to buy two other books to get free shipping because Amazon Prime didn't exist. When the modern library asked me to write the forward for it. I wanted to search the order number in my email just to see what came up. It was actually kind of mortifying. I saw that I was going back and forth with Amazon customer service
about the fact that it had been delayed in shipping. I had to wait in extra two days. I was like, what good is this two-day shipping if it takes four days? And I look back at that sort of immature entitled person who's taking for granted the miracle of like someone told me about this book in a couple of days later it's here and it's cheaper than I could have gotten it anywhere else. But I didn't yet know that I would need that advice in Meditations or Mark's really says,
"You don't have to turn this into something. It doesn't have to upset you."
That entitled teenage part of us, it's always there. I see it when people email the daily
still at customer service. But even though we do what we do is about stoicism. Just the profound on stoicness of the people who write in. I don't judge them because I have been there myself. We're so greedy. We're so entitled. We turn them into these slides into these grievances into these wrongs that have been done to us. Let me believe we should just be grateful. We should chill out. We should just wait until the thing comes. It's important that we understand that a
lot of what's in Meditations is not new. It's not even original. Marcus wouldn't have meant to imply otherwise. He's writing things that he's studied and thought about and and been told so many times that it feels like he owns them. Just like sometimes I find myself quoting the stoics that way.
When you really know your stoicism, you go, "Oh, that was a line from Epictetus.
that's him barn a metaphor that first appears in Pantitas. Here he is a looting to an idea
from Plato or Socrates. And maybe if we even knew more about some of the original stoics whose works were lost, we'd find Meditations to be even less original. The idea is that that stoicism, Marxist is a medicine. This is a collective work. This is a collective project. It's about the writing and rewriting in the way that hip hop is building on the music that came before sampling and remixing and making callouts and illusions and responding to and being inspired by that's
what Meditations is. It's a collection of all the philosophical influences and ideas that shaped Marcus, but that also that Marcus was drawing on in that moment. One of the things Marcus is really grateful for in Meditations is that his teacher roostook us taught him not to fall for every smooth talker. In the ancient world, these were softest, but it was also demagogues. People who told you what you wanted to hear. People who write to scapegoat, who focused on external enemies, people who
lie, think about the emperor, how many people would try to manipulate him, flatter him, think about the cults that people fell prey to. Just then as now, people were susceptible to smooth talkers. And part of stoicism, a core of stoicism is as epictetus is stopping and putting every impression to the test. Really asking yourself, what is this person saying? Is this true? What assumptions are in it? What's their character? Like, what's their motivations? Cicero would say,
"Cribono, right? Who benefits?" So asking why is this person doing? What is their motivation? What's their supporting evidence? This is really key part of stoicism and it was important in the ancient world, but in a world of AI and misinformation and propaganda and influencers.
“Myself included, you must put everything to the test and don't fall for every smooth talker.”
A couple of years ago, Jerry Seinfeld got really into Mark Serious. And there's a video of him holding his copy of our edition of Mark Serious, which I really loved. But one of the interviews someone asked him what struck him about Mark Serious. And he said something that I hadn't thought of, that I thought was really interesting. He was like, "I like imagining Mark Serious in his bedroom." He's like the leader of the entire world and an emperor, the Roman emperor, talking to himself.
Because what do you think this guy's bedroom is like? Is this sometimes a comedian's mind? Every person has a slightly different take on Mark's because what do you think this guy's bedroom is like?
He was struck by one of the same things that I've always been struck by that opening passage of book two
where Mark's is going, "Look, you're going to meet annoying people today." You're going to meet dishonest people today and he's like, "Why is this surprising to you?
“This is what every day is like, people are annoying." Which is true. And that's why Mark Serious's”
Meditations continues to resonate with people of all different walks of life. There's a famous story about Mark Serious where he is quite intimidated by the idea of becoming emperor. We're told that he even breaks down in tears when he is told that this is his fate, because he knows how many bad kings there have been in history. But then we're told that shortly after Mark Serious has a dream. And in this dream, he dreams that he has shoulders made of
ivory. This is the idea that he can bear the weight of imperial power. He can do this. He's stronger than he knew. And when I first heard that story, I didn't know what to make of it and then it hit me one day. Oh, he's talking about imposter syndrome. We all doubt whether we're qualified. We all doubt whether we're strong enough. But we do. We're stronger than we know. We have those
shoulders of ivory. We can do this. There's something I think very special about the most powerful
“person in the world being unsure about whether they're up for it. And I think that's actually”
the mark of a good leader. If you think the job is going to be easy, if you think it's yours by divine right. If you're not a little bit scared about it, you're probably not taking it serious. You're probably being egotistical. I think it's good that he had a little bit of imposter syndrome. I think it's good that you have a little bit of imposter syndrome. I have it too. But then we do these exercises. We think about it. Okay, actually I do think I can do this. It's honestly
impossible to comprehend the immensity of the tragedy that Mark's really experiences in his life. Starts by losing his father as a young age. He loses tutors and teachers that he loves. He lives through the Antonyne plague. He sees floods and famines. He sees war. And he also varies half of his children. You can't imagine how painful that would be. And it would have been totally reasonable for him to be angry for him to despair for him to give up for him to quit. And it makes
some of the lines and meditations feel all the more heart wrenching. There's a line in book seven where he's quoting a play from your rippities, where he says, "But why should we be angry at the world as if the world would notice?" Again, this is from a man who buried multiple children who
Saw unfathomable devastation and destruction.
indifferent to each and every one of our happiness and our feelings. It is not personal at all.
It is just doing what it does. And we can't add anger and resentment on top of that. We just have to do our best to keep going. Given the immensity of the pain and tragedy and loss and unfairness of Mark's realises life, I have zero tolerance for people who say that meditations is depressing. His life was depressing, that he didn't kill himself, that he got out of bed every morning, was an act of immense perseverance and courage. It is a profound statement against hopelessness.
It is a message of hope. Mark's realises is a hopeful figure, despite everything that life threw at him, despite all of it. He kept going. He tried to be good. He tried to be happy. He showed up for work. He helped people. He was the best he was capable of being. He laughed and smiled and loved anyway. And to me, that is the example that we should all be aspiring to live up to. Why do Mark is really a sinnero end up so different, right? They're both not born to power.
You're chosen for it. Both lose their fathers early. Both introduced early to philosophy. Mark is through his philosophy teacher, Junie's rusticist, Neuro through Santaja himself. And yet, Mark is a great philosopher, King and Neuro is a monster. What is the distinguishing
“factor? I think on some level, Mark is believes in so philosophy and Neuro never does.”
Why is one of them vicious and unhinged the other just and kind? I think the deciding factor is their mother. Neuro's mother is ambitious and calculating, uncaring and cruel and Neuro becomes all these things. Mark is his mother is the opposite of these. He writes at the beginning of meditations about her reverence for the divine, her generosity. He says her inability not only to do wrong but her inability to even conceive of doing it. And he says most of all he was struck by
the simple way that she lived that she wasn't like so many other rich Romans. And so when we want to think about multi-generational impact, it's the impact we have on our kids that matter so much Mark's risk is because of his mother. So where does Marcus get his profound and lifelong commitment to doing the right thing? To kindness, to charity, to justice, to living within his means.
“It's from her, it's from his mother. He says in meditations that the only thing that's important”
is to behave in your life towards the liars and the crux and those around you with kindness, with with honesty, with justice. I think even there, so many of the beautiful lessons and meditations are Marcus Aurelio's channeling the example of his mother. It's easy to miss but Marcus Aurelio's writing meditations in the midst of what's known as the Antonine Plague, a play that lasts for a decade and a half and kills millions and millions of people. And in fact, Marcus Aurelio's may have
himself died from it. But when you understand this context, it shapes what you see in the book, it shapes clearly, Marcus's worldview in the way that all of our worldviews were shaped and informed by the pandemic that we lived in just like a hundred years ago, it was shaped by the Spanish flu and what came out in the roaring twenties was a reaction to what had happened in the late teens. So when Marcus really says you could leave life right now, let that determine what
you do and say and think, if he was talking about a virus, he was talking about a plank, he was talking about the fact that all around him perfectly healthy people perished like that. So momentum, more he wasn't this abstract philosophical exercise from Marcus. It was a response to the very real and capricious world that he lived in. And I didn't appreciate that the first time that I read it. And so when you understand that Marcus Aurelio's writing during a pandemic during
“a devastating play, you have to appreciate so many of the remarks that he's making in different”
contexts. When he says convince yourself that everything is a gift from the gods that things are
good and always will be. Again, he's writing this in the midst of a plague that's killing millions of
people that's devastating Rome's economy that's devastating its civil society. He's actively having to work to convince himself that even the worst thing that could have possibly happened still has a silver lining in it that it's still an opportunity. And that is the work of meditations that despite the incredible terrible hand that Marcus is dealt. 20 years of peace and prosperity disappear like that they disappear into a plague which is preceded by a famine and floods. And then an endless
series of wars comes after all this. It's one thing after another as this ancient historian Cassie style would write. But Marcus convinces himself that this is a gift from the gods that things
actually are good and that they always will be. And that they can be good if he acts with good character.
He has good thoughts, if he does good actions, if he performs good deeds.
even in the terrible situation that he's in and he finds the good in himself. And he tries to
bring that into the world which is the fundamental task of stoke philosophy. And my favorite passages and meditations is this passage right at the beginning. And one of the things that Marcus writes is that he says he feels gratitude that he encountered Thracia, Hellvideos, Cato, Deon, and Brutus. He conceived of a society of equal laws governed by a quality of status and of speech and of rulers who would respect the liberty of their subjects above all else.
“Now, I think this is interesting because now, while that is a beautiful sentiment,”
nothing was further from that than Rome. And certainly nothing is further than that than Rome ruled by an emperor, a cod king with absolute power, over everyone and everything. And only essentially symbolic Senate rubber stamping these ideas. So how should we see this? Is Marcus a hypocrite? Is he just paying lip service to it? No, I think what Marcus is laying out there, we should see similar to how we read the opening lines in the declaration of independence.
Thomas Jefferson writes that all men are created equal, while he is attended by slaves. Again, does that mean the idea is hollow and empty? No, it means he is expressing an idea, an ideal that every subsequent generation has tried to get closer to realizing. The Rome of Cato and Cicero is not perfect. Certainly the Rome of Senacca was not perfect. The Rome of Marcus is not perfect. America or wherever you live today is not perfect,
but the idea is in the striving and trying to get closer. We certainly have gotten closer to it, then perhaps Marcus a really sort of ever even actually imagined is possible. In 1963, the March on Washington Martin Luther King gets up there and he says, "I'm here to collect a promissory note. He was coming to make good on the declaration of independence." He was there to make good on the emancipation proclamation. So we could say that Lincoln was a hypocrite,
that Jefferson was a hypocrite, but they didn't actually mean this. Maybe they didn't actually mean it, but they put it down. And so doing gave a standard a goal, a benchmark for us to aspire to. And if every generation does its work, if we get a little bit closer, we are passing a baton or we are keeping a torch lit, that's to me what it's about. So Marcus doesn't come close to realizing the dream of the Stokes, but the founders got a little bit closer, inspired in fact by Cato and
many other great dogs. And then we've gotten a little closer still, and hopefully the next generation of the next generation, if that's the idea that it's something we are striving towards together,
but never fully ever actually realizing. One of the things Marcus really talks about in
Meditations over and over again is seeing what's really there. He says, "Not wait your enemy sees and hopes that you'll see, but what's actually there." And I think we could take this to me and see the good and see the bat, right? See what's truly there to see it as clearly as possible. Not the thing that people want you to see and get depressed about and quit or afraid of, and at the same time not to see it delusionaly or in some exaggerated way, but to see what is
“actually there. That's what Stokes is in Meditation. I think this is super relevant in this time of”
like terrible news, right? To see what's actually in front of you, the good and the bad to not inflate it and also not diminish it, but to see what's actually there. That is the task of our time. You might not want things to be this way. You wouldn't have chosen them to be this way, but they are this way. Marx really says, "Let us accept it as if a doctor prescribed it." The point is, this is the medicine you gotta take. This is the hand you've been dealt. This is the
situation you are in. And when Marx really says this, he could have been talking about the pandemic that he lived in, the stresses of his job, the children that he had buried. All of it was. Wasn't fair, wasn't fun, but it was. That's what Stokes is when it talks about acceptance. It doesn't mean you passively lay there and do nothing else, but it means you accept that this is what has happened. This is what the doctor has prescribed for you. And now the question is, what are you going to do next?
Marx was going to be talking about his ill health, going to be talking about bad weather, he could have been talking about the noisy streets in the city below. We just know that what he was trying to do is accept what wasn't in his control and focus on what was in his control, which is what he was going to do about it, what was going to come of it. And then related to that
“is something I've come to understand as basically the most key of this door practices. Marx says,”
"Okay, convince yourself that this has been prescribed by a doctor." He says, "Now convince yourself
that it was a gift of the gods, that this is good, that things are good now and they always
will be easy to be grateful when everything is going great. It's easy to be excited and happy about things when things are exciting and you are happy. The work is can you do that even in the
Shit?
what stoicism is. But when things have happened to me, when things have been challenging or difficult.
Like when we were opening this bookstore in the middle of the pandemic or you know you get another
“flat tire or you have to deal with some other crisis or problem at work, you know there's some”
part of you that goes, "Why me? Why did this happen to me?" And I think often about this passage in book for a meditation. Marx really starts to say, "Hey, this is unfortunate that this happened." And it's true. A lot of unfortunate things happen to him and you only have to study his life to to really see how long the list of unfortunate things that he could have been referring to work. But then he says, "No, it's fortunate that it happened to me," right? He says,
"And that I've remained unharmed by it." Because that's not true for everyone, right? Not everyone
has the advantages you have. Not everyone has the resilience that you have. Not everyone has the
perspective that you have. Not everyone can do this work that we're talking about. Then go, "Hey, actually, I'm able to think about this differently. I'm able to see this differently. I'm able to find something to be grateful for in it. I'm able to find something to be excited about it. I'm able to turn this into something. Not everyone is capable of that, but leaders are. Leaders have to be careful. Leaders have to be able to do that. That's what
leadership is. That's what philosophy is. That's what being a static is to look at this thing. Go, "No, it's actually not unfortunate. It's fortunate that it happened to me." Look, people are selfish, people are obnoxious, people are ignorant and egotistical. They are all the things that Marcus really lists at the beginning of book two of meditations, right? They recline their seats on airplanes. They drive too slowly. They say stupid mean things on the internet. All the things back then and then
“all the new things. Now, this is just what humans do and who they are. That's why I think the”
passage in book eight has stayed with me and I think about it more and more. He says, "You can hold your breath till they're blue in the face. They'll just go on doing it." We're not going to be able to make them not that way. We have to make it less triggering for us that they are that way. We have to be prepared for it, which is what he's saying at the beginning of book two of meditations. And then we have to remember that we are punishing ourselves by expecting it to be otherwise,
by holding our breath, by being miserable that it is this way. We have to get better and not being rattled by it, not being thrown off by it, not being triggered and upset and disappointed and made cynical about it. We all have jobs. You do what you do, I do what I do, but one of the points that Marcus Reuss is making in meditations is that people have different jobs in roles in the spectrum of human beings. There are heroic, inspiring people. There are dishonest people.
There are frustrating people. There are weird people. Everyone is playing a role in the tapestry that
is human beings. He says, "Is a world without shameless people possible?" Now, there have always been
shameless people. So when you meet a shameless person, he's saying, "That's who they are. They are doing their job." I think the question that is what is your job? Are you the kind of person who gets upset with shameless people? Or are you the kind of person who is wise enough in command of yourself enough to go? This is who they are. They're doing my job. I'm going to do my job, which is not be like that. I'm going to be grateful that that's not who I am and that's not
what I have to do and who I have to be. A few years ago, I bought the rights to publish the Gregory Hayes translation of Meditations in a leather edition. Like my book had been falling apart. My paperback I had it for 15 years. It was showing its age. It was showing the many miles that I put on it and it was worse for where to be sure. The cover was taped back on. The pages are starting to fall apart. They were getting brittle. So I bought the rights to do this leather edition.
For many years, I've been working with this company. They're based in Texas, but they have a a binary in Belarus, which is where they manufacture it. Shortly after we began printing the addition, that the horrendous invasion of Ukraine happened. And Belarus has been complicit in that invasion from day one. It's one of Russia's closest allies. In fact, it was one of Russia's only allies at this point. And so I was sort of sitting and wrestling with the ethical decision
of should I continue to do business there. Now, some companies were forbidden from doing business there because of various sanctions. And it turned out we were not sanctioned. We were not legally prohibited from doing business in Belarus. But I just didn't feel good about it. It didn't feel right. So I decided to make a change. And I thought about Mark's really this is line and meditations. He says, "Just that you do the right thing, the rest doesn't matter." Righty saying it doesn't
matter, then it might cost more. It doesn't matter that some people might criticize you. It doesn't matter that we might run out of stock for a while. It didn't feel right. So I had to make that
“decision. And that's what meditations is about. It's about reminding yourself of these principles”
over and over and over again. So then when you encounter real-world scenarios, suddenly you
Understand what it means and you have to apply it.
we have to embody it. Now, you might think that, "Oh, everyone appreciated that or that it was
“easy." Yeah, sure, it probably costs a little bit of money to switch from one facility to another,”
but you find, you know, a good price, a good deal, and then everything's fine. And maybe I thought that a little bit myself, like I thought, "Hey, it may be it'll cost 10% more or 20% more." In fact, it costs like 100% more. It obliterated the margins on the book. But again, it's either the right thing to do or it's not. It's not. It's the right thing to do. If it's cheap enough, if it still protects your margins, no, it's either the right thing to do or not. And again,
Marcus embodies this in the depths of the Antonine play. What does he do? He sells off the palace furnishings to pay down Rome's debts. Now, this wouldn't have been fun. This wouldn't have been easy. It would have been nice if there was some easier solution. But again, it's either the right thing to do or it's not. If it wasn't illegal for us to make our books in Belarus, just like it's not illegal for me to manufacture stuff in China or in sweatshops in Guatemala.
These things are not just legal, but standard business practices for many of the things that
we all purchase and use. I've always thought about this with the manufacturing
practices that I use with daily stock and with my businesses. I think about a line in meditations, where Marcus really says that we shouldn't do anything that requires walls or curtains. Now, look, if you actually knew how your shoes were made, if you actually saw videos of that slaughterhouse or whatever, you would be appalled, you would be disgusted. But that's the point we create the walls or curtains to hide. What we would be disgusted by, or our customers would be
disgusted by. And I try my best to not have that practice. I try to make decisions. I try to run my business. I try to run my life in a way that if someone were to pour over the books, if someone were to look behind the curtain, if someone were to see the supply chain, they'd say, hey, they were trying their best. They were doing a good job. They were their principles were evident.
“And that's how I think about it. And I take that from meditations.”
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And yet here we are two thousand years later, still talking about him. And there's a really interesting interview I saw with Jerry Seinfeld, where he was saying, and that's my obsession now as Mark is really as he had this fantastic philosophical observations on life and you've learned what from that. That everything that you're worried about is going to be gone like that. The people that you that are criticizing you, they're going to be gone. You're going to be gone.
All this hand-wringing worry and concern over how are people viewing me. And someone said something bad about me and you get so upset about it is wasted time and energy. Mark is really, it says you're only focused should be on getting better at what you're doing. So to me the lesson you take from that is that fame recognition, even legacy, is okay provided that it's the buy product. If you're doing the right things for the right reasons,
you're doing great work, you're working hard, you're focusing on what you control. And then
“outside your control, you're remembered thousands of years later, that's great. And that's what”
happened to Mark's really. He wasn't writing meditations for us. He was writing meditations for him. And then in writing it for him, it ends up surviving for two thousand years. That's the way to do it. But I do think one of the things Mark's really points out quite eloquently in meditations is the insanity of caring about what people think about you after your dead. He says people
who long for posthumous fame, first I forget that they won't be around to enjoy it. But second,
that the people in the future are not likely to magically be smarter and better than the people now. Why are you holding out for this validation, this appreciation, this recognition by future generations? Where are you basing this assumption that people are going to be so much better in the future? You're going to be dead. People are still going to be people just focus on what you control now. Although, of course, the other insane thing is that we care a lot about
people's opinions now, even though they're not that great either, right? The passage I've come to in meditations over and over again, especially when you know I've been criticized or maybe something I wanted to do wasn't received the way I hoped it would or didn't sell as well as I thought, it says, why is it that we all love ourselves more than other people? But for some crazy reason, we care about other people's opinions more than our own. Over the years I've done a lot of different
talks to military groups and one of the tragic things about the military community is it has very high suicide rate. So when people are in the service and they're part of this group and they're all together things tend to be great and what happens is afterwards. After they get home, suddenly they don't have the support system, they don't have the structure, they don't have the close relationships and they, they, they wither, they get lonely, they spiral into depression and
there's very high suicide rates in the military community, which is why I always tell them not
just one of my favorite quotes from Marcus Rielis, but one of the most explicit military metaphors that he uses in meditations. He says, we are like soldiers storming a wall. He says,
“you have a mission to accomplish. If you've been wounded and you've fallen and you need to reach up”
to ask a comrade for help, he says, so what? I love like the shrug of it. The idea that it's not a big deal and it isn't a big deal. When people ask you for help, are you like judging them or are you looking down on them? You're like, what a loser? What a weakling? You're like, oh, you're like excited that they gave you the opportunity to help them and people are going to feel the same way for you. And so I do think it's important given this reputation that stoicism has of being vulnerable,
being superhuman, being tough, suppressing emotions. That's not what we see in the pages or in
the life of the stoics and I think it's really important and really powerful to have the most
powerful man in the world normalize. Make it no big deal to be like, I needed help. I'm struggling. Can you help me? Obviously, I think this is particularly relevant in communities where people are
“struggling with visible and invisible wounds, but it's true for all of us. You need to ask someone”
for help, so what? It must have been so depressing to live. Mark's really says time. Not only is there a famine and floods and a plague, but Rome is falling apart. Rome is decadent. Rome is
Hypocritical.
and disillusioning in so many ways. And yet, Mark's really is maintained to certain hopefulness.
I know that's not what we think about when we think about the stoics, but Mark's really reminds himself to dig deep. He says, "There is an inexhaustible supply of goodness down there in yourself in humanity." He says, "It doesn't matter how much dumb people fling on top of it. It doesn't matter how dark it gets. It's there." And he says, "You just have to keep digging and it
“will keep bubbling up." And when I think about our own depressing times, I think about our own”
dark times. I think of that beautiful image. It's there. We just have to keep digging for it. There's a line. I think it's actually attributed to that cartoon, the family circus about how there's a reason they call it the present, because this present is a gift. And as it happens, Mark's really is actually touches on this in meditations. He says, "Give yourself a gift." The present moment. And the think of it as a present. The think of it as a gift. It showed up here. You
didn't have to get this moment. As frustrating as it is, as dark as it is, as annoying as it is, as cold as you are right now, as hot as you are right now, as the siege or overwhelmed or annoyed as you are right now, you are alive. You don't have to be. None of this could exist. It could all go away tomorrow. It is a freak of freak accidents that the earth is here that we're walking around that you're alive. And here you have a fresh moment in front of you. You have 60 seconds in front of you or
however long you want to call a present moment. Are you going to show up for it? Are you going to appreciate it? Are you going to be grateful for it? And that's actually something Mark's really
“tries to force himself to do and see throughout meditations. He says that you have to convince”
yourself that everything is a gift from the gods. That this is good. That things are good and it
always will be. And again, you think about what this guy went through in his life. This is a guy who
attends a half a dozen funerals for his own children. This is a guy who lost his father at an early age. This is a guy who saw a war and disasters and pandemics and corruption and betrayals,
“who had health issues, who had experienced one thing after another. And yet what is he saying?”
He's saying this is a gift from the gods. This moment right now, my life, my existence, your existence, the day to dayness of life, it's frustrating as it can be. It is a gift from the
gods. It is good. It will always be good. That is if we choose to see it that way.
