You Are Failing Your Kids By Not Teaching These 10 Life Skills

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longer articles are hard to come by but this was in your tango dot com very good article written by zeta slab slab of corn

slab of corn

“zeta slab of corn I mean you have to work to find a name like that”

after travel far and wide and the title caught my attention so i decided to go through some of the concerns

data i think it's a female

kids in the nineteen eighties learned ten life skills that modern parents have pretty much wiped out of children today why i've been

hit this drum haven't I so starts out by making a statement overall kids from the nineteen eighties lived much more independently than kids do today why

why because they entered the world without over protective parents they were expected to mature

“and to live independently from a young age”

oh my son and daughter 34 and 62 when they're still at home

this means that kids in the nineteen eighties learned many skills that modern parents have pretty much wiped out of children today eighties kids were prepared for their grown-up lives

in a way that today's gentle parenting and convenience oriented society ignores from watching younger siblings

to entertaining themselves in managing boredom through unsupervised play play why somehow remember growing up with weekends or summer

had breakfast left the house did not come back until short of dinner time

you're out in the neighborhood doing stuff with no cell phone oh my god oh my god my kids survived don't say no cell phone

oh my kid won't make it through life oh my god okay so i'll go through some of the points she makes to make a plan

of their own without parents around to step in during social interactions to manage their responsibilities kids in the eighties

were expected to make plans through their homework managed their schedules from playing outside unsupervised and making friends on their own in the neighborhood to entertaining themselves without a parent around

they learn to plan for themselves that's a life skill that offers kids the chance to practice independence and self reliance number two

entertain themselves when they're bored

“i remember one it's still annoying to me but you know”

i think she was right said to my mother i was a little kid six five six and i said my mom i'm bored and she said okay face the wall which i did

now bend at the waist so the top of your head is facing the wall so i did that and then she said run as fast as you can into the wall and i stood up when i went

it's no

“and she said okay will then find something else to do”

i thought that was so mean

find something else to do and i did which is why i really don't understand not being able to entertain yourself be it reading playing with your dogs walking listening to music being creative with some form of art

i do not get not being able to entertain myself i don't get it i got tons of things i can do and

i can call a friend and do things with a friend hmm in the eighties before cell phones and modern parenting styles that encourage parents to be

always present for their children

we had to find ways to spend time alone playing outside no structure no supervision making friends of the neighborhood learned all this early on at a failure might so many view get married hook up

shack up to all these kinds of things could your board and you don't know how to build the time and you don't know how to be with yourself all the most incredible scientists and artists in all history created when they were alone

do you realize that okay kids in the eighties were expected to learn life skill of socializing you don't rely on parents to solve issues with teachers school or step in for conversations

“i just remember use a problem you go talk to the teacher”

you go talk to the coach

now the rescue team is set in swat parents

to make your life more comfortable no no no no no parents job is not to make your life more comfortable parents job is to teach you how to face a life that has a lot of discomfort in it i remember every Sunday

i had to walk a half an hour to restore even in the snow to go to the store and get the newspaper and come back was an obligation not a choice it wasn't would you please it was Sunday that's your job

okay when i came back pancakes whatever actually liked it i liked walking through the snow quiet

pretty i actually enjoyed that no resentment i enjoyed it

“the Sunday paper was heavy though i gotta say”

okay next how to handle delayed gratification most of you parents listening to me suck at that and have ruined your kids what is delayed gratification when kids are taught

you want it you need it now comfort instantly you know this is how your kids turn out

more impulsive distracted just a desire for constant entertainment stimulation not hunkering down and taking on responsibilities

at all because without the chance to master patience the art of waiting for what they want they end up seeking dependent relationships

adopting entitled behavior sabotaging their own sense of meaning and purpose in life because they can't stand to wait so without the constant stimulation of cell phones convenience

centric society that we are in now kids learn the life skill of avoiding instant gratification had a chance to appreciate a long time

develop emotional regulation skills before as adults being subjected to the pressures of the world today in the 80s that's when technology just started to grow and parents had to help their kids learn

new technologies and teach them the art of resourcefulness adapting from one thing to another

and resourcefulness

“serves as a buffer against mental health problems”

and other life struggles

the more adaptable you are at leveraging your resources

and solving problems for your life healthier you are healthier you are number six she added reading a paper map

instead of being entirely dependent on phones to get around and understand where they are in the world life skill reading paper maps it's almost a game

“printed map quest directions in the oldest paper maps in the glove box”

where the only options had to think

and think too dimensionally very cool seven had to be okay being truly alone kids today call alone being on social media texting their friends

in the olden days you handled your borham boredom and you appreciated solitude

it's about being independent

solitude learning how to be independent or else you're dependent upon input input input stimulation input stimulation these people

can't figure out a job they wanted direction to go in or what's meaningful budgeting you got allowances now they get credit cards allowances

if you didn't save your allowance or get a job you didn't have stuff which made them more financially literate nine had a form and independent identity oh my god you go on social media and say what do they call it?

you want to be somebody else it's constructed for you you compete with other people on social media curated versions of people online not real at least in the olden days

kids were real he had no fantasy stuff it was real

“so number ten goes back to patience but I think I covered that already”

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