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>> Five, two, two, five. Reggie's kicking us off in Chicago. What's going on, Reggie? >> Hey, what's going on, guys? >> So there's little dilemma that I find myself in.

We saved up a ton for college for my son. Put it in the college fund, it grew to like $120,000. I thought for sure that would be enough to get him through like three, maybe four years.

And we're coming up on year two.

It looks like it'll all be eaten up by the end of year two. >> Wow. >> And yeah, I feel fancy school. >> Yeah, we thought he'd be able to get some help. We thought we would be able to get a financial aid package,

or for some kind of assistance bid. But so far, no luck because we're making too much money they say. We've saved up too much on the side. >> What's it cost every year? >> It's about $50,000 right now.

>> Wow. >> What do you guys make? >> Yeah, just over 200. And so the options we're looking at is I've got the house for it. So we've got a pretty nice house right now.

So we're going to take some of your equity out of there to help him. >> Oh boy. >> It's a study.

“>> You're going to take a he-lock to pay for your kids' college?”

>> No, no, I was just going to tell the house, so I had the one for cash and put the money aside. >> Okay, would you downgrade anyways, or was this just for the purpose of cash loan college? >> We are our house like doubled in value in about five years.

And so we were thinking about just like making some cash off it and slightly downgrading, we loved the place, but you know, with property taxes and everything else going up to. We thought we could kind of, you know, have a win-win here and put the money aside and help him as well.

>> What would be the equity, what would you take if you sold it?

>> We're looking for like 1.2 million

and then the buy something for about $7 or $100,000. >> Okay, let me ask you this. What's he studying and is he the only child? >> No, he's not the only child, his sister is coming up behind in about four years and there's not as much savings

for her accounts, but probably have the same problem there. And he's a filmmaker, actually not too far from you guys, they had built my university there. >> Okay, interesting, what's his end goal with the making? >> What's his end goal with filmmaking?

>> I mean, he's already put out his own documentary that's on Netflix and an easy game is on prime right now. Yeah, he was able to put up with that professionally in high school. >> That's nuts, what does he need school for? >> That's my question, I'm concerned about that.

>> People are going to school to get the degree to hopefully one day be on Netflix and he was already on there. >> I hear you, I hear you, so I have no degrees and my wife has 40 degrees. So we kind of see it both ways, I mean, I don't think you'd, I don't think you needed a degree to do something great.

>> Absolutely. Same time, I mean, he's still in it there and he's connected on music row there and with a lot of people there. So we do think there's some benefits there. It's also a Christian University.

So we're enjoying that aspect of him kind of growing up in that. But it's just more than we thought we'd ever end up pain. >> Have you heard of your outstrid, should we let him, I mean, even if he takes us a part-time job, it's not going to help that much, I mean, try to tell her.

>> Sure, sure. Talk to us here. >> So obviously, there's a problem to solve. I agree with you on that. You've explored the avenue of solving the financial side of it.

“Has there been any talk or exploration on what other education avenues there are?”

Like is there another way that he could pursue some education in the same field? That's not at the expense of Belmont that you guys can actually afford. I would love for you guys to explore that side of the equation because it does exist and I would hate for you to feel like you're back to against this wall. This is the only place he can go to school.

Yeah. >> Yeah. >> What have you guys looked at on that side of the equation? >> Yeah. We've looked around a little bit.

We haven't really done all of our homework there. He's kind of hard ahead a little bit. So when he finds the path, you know, that's probably able to put out his own documentary in high school based on it. He just gets stuff done.

>> That's true, but he's not getting done. >> He's not getting done. >> He has, well, can I talk to you like parent to parent? >> Yeah. >> It's not his choice because you're paying.

So you do, he doesn't get to choose that part, right? You can say we can either afford this or we can't. We're willing to do this or we're not. So you still do hold a level of say so in this conversation and I don't want you to forget

Jordan, I haven't asked you what you have in retirement yet. You know that the sister's coming on down the line and there could be some expense there. So let's ask those questions. What do you guys have locked away in retirement? Hopefully it's juicy.

>> Yeah, we've been teaching FPU for a while. We haven't done the last five years in COVID but we've followed the ramps. You print those for a long time.

So we have over a million in retirement right now.

The house is a million cloths. Awesome. >> And what do you know? >> What are you all kind of in her? About 110 or so right now.

That's good. So you'll walk away in profit of like $900,000. Something like that. >> Yeah, the goal is over a million. >> Yeah.

>> And then buy something for, you know.

“I'm fine buy something for Victor seven and you have to print some cash on the side.”

>> Okay. >> I like the option. >> It's going to be your choice. But here's your options.

Number one, of course, sell the house.

Use some of the profits to cash flow the rest of college. And probably lock some away for the daughter too. Right? >> Yeah. >> Option two.

We don't sell the house and we use this income that you have. And that's going to mean sacrifices in the budget to go. We got a cash flow of 60 grand of school out of our $200,000 income. That's option two. And then the last option is what Jay has been talking about, which is,

could he transfer to Middle Tennessee State if they have a filmmaking program and still be just as fine? >> And he's got relationships, keep building those relationships, keep getting indoors, keep working on set, like all of those on the job experiences is really what's going to help him. So yeah, those are the three options. >> I tell you this is, this company has hired a lot of guys who have went to film school

or have the audio degrees in this media creative space.

And they don't get paid more because they went to Belmont versus MTS.

>> I'll tell you that right now. >> So I just want to make sure that we're clear on the ROI of this degree. And again, he's the secret sauce in all this, not this piece of paper that says, hey, you sat in class and did great and maybe learned a thing or two. >> The real history arts.

>> Yeah, making the films, making the connections, building his portfolio, getting on Netflix. His professor probably doesn't have a documentary on Netflix. He should be teaching this class. >> Max.

>> Yeah, yeah.

“I mean, I think we're on the same page there, so just want to hear somebody else.”

>> So I appreciate the answer. >> Haven't watched this call and he can message me and, you know, just rip me a new one of these upset. But I just think he's so sharp that we need to look at this a little bit more, you know, cautiously to go, do you really want to graduate with a bunch of debt? No, that's off the table.

>> That's on table. >> And you guys selling your house, making all these sacrifices, you can do that. You're awesome parents. But it just feels like a pretty drastic move for something that's avoidable. >> Yeah, and I also want to call this out too.

And I don't know that this is true, but it's worth saying. >> I think a lot of times you can get focused on the notoriety of the way an university title sounds, oh, they went to Belmont. Oh, they went to, you know, Julie Ardo. They went to Harvard Princeton.

>> Princeton Ivy League. Sorry. >> A lot of conversations to have Reggie. I hope you can talk to him and come up with a game plan.

“The key is you guys are unified on what the plan is.”

There's no surprises and you make peaceful. Whatever decision you make out of those three, you got to make peace with you. >> All right, this is a season. It's not forever. We're going to be okay.

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Susie, welcome to the Ramsy Show. Thank you very much. How's everybody today? We are doing great. It's pleasure to talk to you.

Yeah. Um, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Um, we're tired. I'm 69 years old.

I have a security after Medicare. It's taken out. It's 1800 a month. I get attention. That's 29370 a month.

Plus twice a month.

“Maybe three times I do a little side thing on the weekend and make extra 100 each time.”

Which I pay my ties first.

I pay my bills. I have excellent credit. But if something comes up out of the way, my washroom tears up. I need new tires. Um, I have to put it on the credit because I don't have it sitting around.

Um, I had a emergency. Then, um, thousand saved and something happened that I had to use that. Now, right now, I have a bill where I've in the hospital, 500 cents. I'm paying that every month, I get it paid off. That I just feel strapped when I work and that's a nurse.

I may get many. I'm thankful for what I get. But it's something comes up. I'm just, I feel like I'm in the hole again. Yeah.

So any suggestions with help? Thank you. Susie, yeah. I can imagine how you're feeling. You know, it's just one thing goes wrong.

And it kind of just sets off a crisis financially. Um, how are you living right now? Are you on a paid for house? Are you renting? Do you have a mortgage?

What's going on there? I have a mortgage.

“And I've been in some to it because I great.”

If I can get an extra payment each year, then that takes off from me. That's around a year. So what's the mortgage payment every month? Like 400.

And from the 9, I've been putting the extra 40 or 50 with it. Okay. That extra. It was my parents' house for years. And then we've done him a swim for a while.

But then I bought it. What's left to go on that mortgage? Probably. I don't know if it'd be something or okay. Thousand.

And then I have a car that should be paid off within six months. Can you tell us what the mortgage is worth? Of course. If you were to sell that, I thought that you will. About 150,000.

Maybe I think I saw that. And that was where they raised the taxes to. And they said it was worth that. Okay. Right now in this area, some homes are.

About 1,000, something to 2,000. Well, I wouldn't be able to. So let me. Let me recap your debt here. You have about $500 in medical debt.

You've got the $50,000 on the mortgage. And then what's left on that car loan? Probably $6,000. That's what I'm saying. I'm a host to have it.

Okay. Anytime I've had many, along the way, I put it towards the principle. And so that's about what's left. And so I'm looking about six months. Have it paid off.

And is there anything else on the credit card, Susie? Because you said you were putting other things like tires and things like that? Well, before I got sick, with pneumonia, I had paid those back down to V-Rail. Okay. Right now, it's just what was left that the insurance didn't pay.

Okay. A couple of co-pays while I went in. But I've already paid 200 for that. So there's about 500 in something left. Okay.

And you're bringing home about 2,100 a month total? That sounds about 100 in that. Yeah. And we've been right in the 200 for that side thing I do.

But one of those side things I always paid my car insurance out of one, which doesn't take it all.

So we'll call it 2300 a month. Okay. To be fair. Now, Susie, what about your health? You mentioned medical bills.

Tell us about your health. Are you able to, if you did want to get out there and do something? Are you able to get out there and do a small amount of work if you needed to?

“Well, that's why I do that on the side, where I make the extra 259.”

Yeah. I'm so much for almost 30 years. So that's all I'm going to say. No. It'd be hard to do a regular job.

Right. Right. That shows that needs just keep on. Wow. You know.

I say, I know I'd pay ties, God's thankful, but he's just symptoms always open on.

And you know, I just get frustrated with what I call feeling strapped.

Absolutely. There's hard on that.

It's going to be hard either way.

It's going to be hard to sacrifice and work 15 hours a week. It's going to be hard to stay in the cycle that you're in. And so at this point it's going, all right. What's the hard that's going to get me to where I want to go? Five years from now, ten years from now.

You know, God willing you live another 30 years. Where are we going to be? How are we going to be living as inflation continues and our income stays fixed. Now, your social security will go up incrementally, but not enough to make a dent. And so what you're doing now is doing a lot of, you're doing a lot of good things.

You're just doing them all at the same time. And that's why you're treading water. So I would stop any extra payments on anything, except for your smallest debt right now.

“And really, you need to get the thousand dollar emergency funds stacked back up.”

So if you stopped all of your extra payments, you kept the sidewalk. Could you save up three, four or five hundred dollars in a month to put away in savings? I could say something. You know, I'm just not for sure. It just seems like I say it.

I always pay my ties first.

And so that comes off first. And we wanted to do that. So first have you ever done a budget so Z where you laid out. Okay, here's my 2300. Here's all of my expenses because you seem to know your numbers.

Well, down to the pennies. I have, well, I haven't said that P&E 2 if I can't find it. But I pretty much really go to the bank. Sometimes I even get up. And when I know it's in there and I pay everything else and then what I have left.

“Okay, so yeah, I think we want Georgian.”

I want you to get a little more organized and make the plan before that check it. And so we're going to make sure we give you every dollar. It's really easy to use as very intuitive. And that way, let's pretend you get paid on the 15th.

You can go in there on the first and start planning.

Here's the way I want to spend that money. And it'll kind of let you make choices. So once you've put your minimum payments in there, you'll be able to see how much margin you have. Margin is just whatever is left over.

And to George's point instead of saying, okay, I'm going to use that margin to put extra on the house. Or I'm going to use that margin to do something over here. Take all that margin and start paying off that medical debt. It's good that you're not currently putting anything on credit cards. Or what you can do Susie is kind of take that moment and look out over their horizon and say,

“Okay, what do I see that could potentially be something outside of my normal budget?”

Do I need a oil change? Do you know, am I starting to notice that the tires are getting bald? And really take that time to plan and say, okay, I actually might need to instead of putting extra on the debt. This one might need to plan for an oil change or I might need to plan to replace these tires. Or I might, do you see what I'm saying?

And the budget will really help you get ahead and be able to take care of the things. Because we think that you have the margin to kind of cash flow things as they come at least at this point. But if we can get you doing that and then gradually pay off this $500 gradually build up a little bit more savings beyond the thousand. Then suddenly you get in a place where if something pops up, it may be an emergency, but it won't feel like a crisis. And you certainly won't have to lean over and rely on credit cards or debt.

Susie, I'm more rooting for you to figure this out, get out of this consumer debt, build up an emergency fund. And at this point, it's going to be surviving for the foreseeable future, unless we can see a change in that income. If you can get your health and energy back up to work, even a little bit, we'll go a long way. If you can double that 300 to 600 bucks, that's some breathing room right there. And Jade, it's a stark reminder for everyone out there that social security will not be enough.

And if you're young, it may not exist. And I'm looking at the data here. The trust fund will be depleted by 2032, that doesn't mean it's going to go away. It just means that the benefits would be reduced by about 20%. Which for someone like Susie, imagine her getting a pay cut of 20%. Yes, it was already not enough.

And for Susie, if I were in your shoes, it sounds like you're in a good church community. I'd be looking for families who need somebody to sit with the kids for a few hours before a mom and dad get home. If you can get into that area, that's something that you can do to make a lot of money fast. You don't have to be on your feet all day or anything like that. So try to get involved with some families that need help with not babies but younger kids.

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We're doing great. How are you? I'm not too bad glad I got into it. Talk to you guys back. We're happy to talk to you. What's going on? What's your question today? So I've just been recently engaged and we're looking to get married sooner than later. But she has about $18,000 in debt between a car loan and student loans.

I live at home with both of the homes still. I have a very stable job and financial there. I have a lot saved up in savings. How much?

It makes sense about 135,000.

How old are you? 23? Wow. What do you make?

“Last year, I think it's a call like 88,000.”

Good. You're crushing him, man. Okay. So no wedding date. She's got 18k. You're debt free with a whole bunch of money in the bank. Pretty much.

We obviously like to get house sooner than later. But at the market, it's kind of tough right now. We don't want to just jump on something just to live together. We're both comfortable at home and everything. Yeah.

You know, we're looking better to save the money. But I just don't know. I totally agree with Dave's really. Once you say I do, you are your one. Everything should be together.

“And that's how my parents have made it work.”

That's how I see things. But would it make sense to start that debt free and clear our marriage pretty much from the start? Or am I better off put in that say 20,000 into investing even more or something? I mean, there's no date on the books. And so I would not put any money on to her debt until to your point until the day that you say I do.

In the meantime, because you've said that it's also important for you that you guys are thinking about buying a house. I probably would not invest that money. I'd probably park whatever's left after you paid off the. Well, and this is assuming there's debt left by the time you get married, by the way, because she should be working hard to pay that off in the meantime.

But I'd probably keep that 135 parked in high yield savings account. I'd separate it though. I'd put aside what you think is going to be three to six months of your expenses. At least three months of projected expenses once you were to move into a house. And then I'd put the rest aside and start piling up a down payment.

The reason I said three months of what you project your expenses will be is because you've said, hey, we want to move into a house. We know that that's going to be more expensive right than living at home. So really think about what that would be with a mortgage. And with some of the other things that are required living in your own place.

And I'd make sure to have that stacked up. But my biggest expectation is I'd be talking with her now and say, okay, these are my philosophies on debt. What's your philosophy? And do you plan on working hard to get this paid off in the meantime?

I mean, I know we don't have a date set, but I'd be looking to see if she's hitting the ground running on this debt. Yeah, no, I was saying she's paying pretty much like close to 70% of what she makes, throwing it into everything she has. Okay.

So what should mostly be gone? Yeah, whatever's left, yeah, let's pile our money together and one checking your savings account.

Let's clear the debt. Let's have the emergency fund. Anything left becomes our down payment money. And then see where you're at. Okay.

Now I will say let me just. Let me add this to the mix. So I feel like that part of the subject is kind of put to bed. Let's talk about the house buying part because both of you have been living at home.

It sounds like both of you have never lived on your own.

“Honestly, George, I would advise you guys to rent some place first”

as opposed to just jumping right into home buying because home buying is a fabulous thing. It's a wonderful thing. It's necessary to build wealth. But at the same time, it is a huge change in life. And if you've never lived on your own, I would start with maybe renting an apartment or renting

a small place together just to get the feeling of what it feels like. Get that first year of marriage under your belt. Yeah, getting married is already enough of a change. So to add home ownership on top of that is just going to feel like, I just grew up real fast.

So there's no rush to buy house. You were doing so well. I have no fear that you're going to buy a great house and do it with a whole lot of piece with this wonderful gal. So it's kind of logistics at this point of paying off the debt.

I would not wait until her debt is paid off to get married. I would go ahead and go, hey, we're engaged. What are we doing wasting time here? Like, don't you want to move in and spend your life together?

Yeah, what is the hold-up?

Exactly. So we've went together since high school. So we've been together seven years. And now it is seem like the right time where I felt financially enough that I could support our worst case or something happened.

But the main reason also right now is getting married soon and later is for health insurance. Okay. Oh, because you're going off of mom and dad's. Correct. Yeah, like I've had mine since I was 19 when I started my job, which I work for the state.

So it's very good benefits and very good health insurance. Okay. But she's like kind of in need of the insurance. And that was kind of the thing of what I was sure since it would be like a sooner than later kind of move in dating stuff.

“Are you saying she's on her parents insurance and she'd lose that once you're married?”

Correct. And then you can add her to hers and her parents. Yeah, like the main reason for getting married soon would be to get her on like the better insurance to see. Got it.

Got it.

You know, I don't love making a marriage choice based off of insurance.

I would much rather you guys make it based off of. Here's when we think it's time. You know, we feel good about this. The insurance is a part of it. That was just like the insurance is like the urgency of it.

Well, we've been saying like, I mean, probably three years. No, I've been saying I have a wife. It's just not married. Well, that's your neither here nor there. You got to get married before you have a wife.

It's like not that free. Other than this loan, I got to pay this for the girl. Yes. I'm going to say it again. If it's time to get married, go ahead and get married.

And don't let life insurance stop you. But my my my my biggest pieces of advice to you. There's three pieces. So this is your homework. Right, it down number one, you said this in Georgia and I said it.

Don't pay off any debt until you're married. That's number one thing. Number two is I would advise that you rent a little while at least one year before you get married. And think number three. This is a new topic.

When you do go to purchase a house. Please, please, please keep in mind. If you know you guys seem like your planners and you're we're going to do this. And then we're going to have babies and we're just when you buy a house. Think about what it might look like.

If one of you were to stay home with a baby. Okay, and make sure you're buying house based off what those plans are. Don't bite off more than you can chew because, you know, all of that matters in the grand scheme of things. Yeah, if you kept that mortgage payment to 25% of your after tax monthly income. That's a win.

Then anything she brings in is gravy. And now you guys are doing great. You could pay off the house. I mean, this is what my wife and I did hunter. This is not saying it's prescriptive.

You don't have to do this. But my wife and I got really aggressive. We almost treated baby step six paying off the house like baby step two. We knocked that thing out in 26 months. And then when we started a family and had a baby,

it wasn't a financial discussion about could she stay home. It was just an emotional one. And she left her nightmare career here at Ramsey. And so I want you to have those kinds of options.

“And that's why we don't want you to rush into anything.”

Do everything with piece or 23. Yeah, average homeowner is now 40 years old. When I saw that, I almost started my chair. So you are ahead of the curve. Don't let anyone say.

Hey, man, I'm going to have a 20. No, you got time. You got time, brother. You got a lot of time. I am not worried about him.

I have one more question too. Hibbing. What should I be putting into like for my future here? Like I have a 401k. I have a pension stuff like that.

Yeah. What else should I be putting into right now being this young and having the savings? Well, I got you hunter. I'm going to give to you a virtual ticket to investing essentials. It's happening September 1st and 2nd.

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That's the step that you're on currently.

“And the truth is, though, if you want hunter, you can weight up to three years.”

If you say, I want to forego investing for a while while we're saving up a down payment. And potentially doing what George said and paying full cash for home. I might absolutely do that. You're 23 years old. You've got plenty of time and to be able to buy a house in cash is really a major deal for you.

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Christ, first up next in Huntsville, Alabama. What's going on, Christopher? Hey, Doc, how you guys doing? We're doing great. What's your question today?

That's wonderful.

Hey, so I just want to say thank you guys first of all for everything.

I've been pulling the baby sets for the last three years. Having set to from a stable step one and currently, baby steps six. Wait, it go. Yeah, I have to have it gone through a few. And I have paid off about $50,000 in consumer debt and take up about $200,000 for nine mortgage.

Thanks. We do the question at hand. So basically, I had this lump sum for my mortgage. You know, I kept that far going after a paid off of the consumer debt. I met my wife, married my wife.

Shout out to her for putting up with all my crazy, random antics over the last couple of years. But we've kept that far going and we've been able to say about, you know, the amount of money that we owe on the mortgage. Wow. What do you, for me, I bought a house in Cove, it's why I walked in a really little interest rate, so it's an interest rate of 2.9%.

And I've got that amount. We've got about $200,000 saved. We owe about $150,000 on the mortgage. And so I'm really, really struggling. I'm definitely the nerd.

Super analytical looking at everything. You know, looking at all the numbers. And from some really rough calculations I've done, you know, putting that money into a brokerage account over the course of the remainder of the mortgage. It's about 24 years.

Essentially, the principal now made on that amount.

“What essentially pay the mortgage every month, right?”

And then at the end, I would still have that principal amount that I put into the brokerage account plus, you know, some additional money. So I'm just really, really struggling with knowing what to do, whether to take that money and put it in the house and just be completely free. No longer have the mortgage or put it into that brokerage account, you know, a brokerage account, you know, a safe brokerage account tracking that some piece of 100.

You know, that is going to get that.

You know, anywhere from 6 to 10 percent, you know,

it's not more yield depending on the year over the course of the next 24 years. I'm just stuck. I don't know what to do. Yeah. You've spreadsheeted your way into oblivion.

You're not, and Christopher, you're not, you're not wrong. I have. You're not wrong, by the way. To, to, I love that you ran out those numbers. And I love that you did the math on that.

And I'll be honest with you. This is probably one of the teachings that we have. That's not about the math.

It's more about the mentality behind it. And Dave will tell you, I'll tell you, Georgia will tell you. There's people forget to account for risk and they forget to account for peace in this equation. And I have a good feeling. Georgia, you've paid off a mortgage.

So you're probably better to talk to talk about this. But he's leaving out what it feels like to actually have a paid off mortgage. He's leaving out the idea of if you did have a paid off mortgage. Would you borrow against it to invest?

And the answer is, is likely no.

I mean, I could tell you, I've been hosting the show. Not as long as Dave, I've hosted for four years. I've never once heard someone call back and say, I paid off my mortgage and I hated it. And I'd like to go get another mortgage, please.

So that I can, I'd like to borrow against it so I can invest. I just never heard it. Yeah, Christopher. I can't out math you on this one because there's too many variables, right? We're comparing something that's a guaranteed obligation,

which is your mortgage versus something with a variable return. The market. And I understand 24 years, I believe you. It's going up into the right. And you probably could make a spread.

The question I have for you is, what's your endgame here? What's your goal? Is it to have 4.9 million versus 4.6 million? Because that's probably what we're talking about here. Yeah, no, 100%.

I'm really glad you asked that question because that ultimately,

“you know, I think for me it's ultimately what is the price of that piece, right?”

And that's what I got to decide. That's a decision I'm struggling with. What's your goal? What do you say about it? She supports me.

She supports me. She supports me. She trusts me with finances. But what's her opinion? Very involved.

What's her opinion? I know she trusts you, but what's her opinion? Sure. Honestly, I'm not sure. I mean, I think she supports whichever one it is.

I mean, if I decide, if we decide to pay it off, I think she's worth it. If I had to, if I had to ask her right now, I think she would want to pay it off honestly. Okay. Yeah, I find out from her.

And if she seems indifferent, I would challenge her to say, no, no, no. I want you to, I want you to formulate your own thought around this. And I want to know what you think.

“That's so important when it comes to your money.”

And I would, especially on something like this, I would get her opinion and make sure she has one to contribute, even though of course she does trust you. I mean, that should go without saying. A hundred, ten percent.

I've done a math on investing the payment. Once you pay it off. Not a hundred percent. And so I'm currently working with a couple of trusted financial advisors to kind of run the exact numbers.

Because for me, you know, that will really help me kind of understand what it is. You know, I, you know, really looking at to be able to make that decision.

Because in my head, if it's like less than half a million dollars,

so I have a hundred thousand dollars. And I don't say that like that's not a lot of money. And 30 years, right? If that difference is about five hundred thousand dollars, when we're looking at five or six million.

Okay, maybe it doesn't matter as much. But if it's like a million or a million and a half dollar difference, then it's like, okay, well, that's pretty significant. And so that is one piece that I definitely have I might have to do with to, you know, look at and evaluate to, you know, see what makes sense for me.

But to answer your early question, you know, my entire goal of all of this has just been to, you know, leave a legacy from my family, my future family. I don't have kids yet, but, you know, I just wasn't raised in a household with money, and I'm just trying to change my family tree.

And just, you know, that's my ultimate goal to answer your question about that. Well, one thing I will say, I loved hearing your heart around that. And it's no doubt about it that you're thinking about your family and thinking about what's going to be best for them. You don't have kids yet, but I will say this.

Having a paid off mortgage, we talked about this in the previous call. Having a paid off mortgage and bringing kids in the family. It creates so many options for you. And I just love that conversation of it. And I mean, the other side of it is from this side of the desk.

When people call in, I can tell you when tough times come in life, whether it's a job loss or a diagnosis or just things in life not going the way that we planned. The number one thing that people want to protect is their home. They don't want to lose their mortgage. They want to make sure that everything is okay because your home is your safe place, right?

Like that is the ultimate place that you want to find, you know, shelter and security and comfort.

“And so from that point of view, that's why I always lean towards it.”

People can make the choice that's going to protect that. Ultimately, it's going to give them the most peace. And if you're doing and making decisions from a place of peace and freedom and options, then you are going to make the best choice. So that's kind of where I leave it.

I think you're a really smart guy. I think whatever you do, you're going to do it in a really methodical and intentional way. So I'm really not worried about you, Christopher. Yeah, there's nothing on fire here. But here's how I look at it.

Do you want to spend the rest of, you know, the next 24 years, making the payment, trying to get the spread, checking the accounts, or do you want to spend it, just live in your life. And you do what you want with that payment. Maybe you invest a bunch of it.

Maybe you give some of it. Maybe you invest for your kids with that mortgage payment.

But there's so many things you can do, and I don't want you to get too short-sighted, going, well, life is about the spread.

“Life is about investing because we didn't buy a house to leverage it.”

You just sort of, this fell in your lap. This amazing once in a generation interest rate. And you're right, that everyone around you is telling you dude, that would be so dumb if you paid that off, bro. That's, you're going to, you can make so much money.

And again, we don't buy this home to make money. You make money from your job. You make money from investing. We don't need to do it based on a spread. So it's up to you.

I'll tell you, I did it.

I've never once calculated how much I could have made if I didn't pay off the mortgage

because I simply don't care. I got a toddler and infant a cripple dog. I got too much to worry about versus a spread. So I think you'll make the right decision that's right for your family. And again, you've got the option to always pay it off.

I just don't want you to be losing sleep at night over this decision. It's simply not worth it. And I will say, George just said something so true. You can pay it off. And if you don't like it, you can borrow the money back. It'll be at a higher interest rate budget.

That's good. It's going to be a 6%. That's true. That's going to crush him. Yeah.

That's true. And what's cool for us is 100% equity. The next home you buy, which everyone's like, that's my forever home.

You'll likely buy another home in your lifetime.

Right? Yeah. Now you have all that equity roll into the next one. And then you'll likely be a paying cash. That's what happened to us.

We paid off the mortgage, stayed in the house, sold the house, saved up along the way because we could because we didn't have a mortgage payment. And then all of a sudden, you're like, sweet, I just bought housing cash. This is crazy. And you know, there's a mental component to that that I really like.

Because a guy like you Christopher, let's pretend you did what you're thinking. And you put the 200,000 and you know, you invested it. A guy like you is not going to like the feeling of pulling from that nest egg to buy something in cash. But when it's already the equity is already in your home.

And it's kind of like earmarked for living. It's going to feel a lot easier for you to take that money and roll it into your next cash home purchase. So that is a really good point that George made.

“Life is full of uncontrollables and paying off that house is a force savings plan.”

Yeah. And I love that. It gives me a whole lot of peace. And I think you'll find the same Christopher. Hey, George Kamel here. Listen, if you've had your phone two or three years,

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Welcome back to the Ramsy Show and the Fairwinds Credit Union studio. I'm George here with Jade Warsaw. The number to call is Triple 8-825-5225. Melanie is in Philadelphia up next. What's going on, Melanie?

Hey, how you guys doing? Thank you so much for taking my call. Absolutely.

Yeah, so first of all, George, I love you, but this question is from a,

from another mister. Hey, okay. I appreciate that. I'm going to sit this one out. Yeah.

“Yeah, I think this is a back on this one for me.”

So I got to hair and put your question for my girl, Jade. All right. I want to color here, you know, how we feel about our crown. I do. And, you know, I'm in babyseptos with my husband.

I have a lot of that to pay off. We paid a lot, but, you know, we still got a little ways to go. How much? We spent, so we have paid off 92,000 of 258. Nice.

Okay. So we're getting there, but recently I had hair done on my waist. Cut it down in a short sixy cut. And now we're requires a lot more maintenance than what I'm used to. Okay.

So in I'm going to add nails in there too. So between hair and nails is anywhere between two to 300 hours a month. Okay. Which to me seems kind of a lot. But did you put that on pause when you were doing your babyseptos?

Sometimes I feel guilty that I'm spending this kind of money on my hair and nails. And I just don't know, I should scale back. If it's something I can continue to do. So I have about another 14 months or so before we finish paying off the rest of the debt. But what do you do?

What's your guess?

So we take home about 11 a month.

Okay. That's good. Um, okay. You take home 11 a month. Um, I can tell you what I did.

Uh, I did not get my hair done regularly. I learned to do it myself. And in order to do that, I changed the way that I was styling my hair. And I did that because I was like, hey, I can't, I can't be going to get a silk press. I can't be going to do all this stuff all the time.

It's expensive. And to your point. Yeah. I have a lot of dollars. Same thing with nails.

I saved it for special occasions.

I was a performer. So there were certain things that I did have to do for my job. And so it was a little bit different.

“You know, if you're going to go on stage, you have to come on stage.”

And so I did. I and there are certain things. Yeah, I invested. I had a lot of wigs. I had a lot of, you know, nails and things like that.

But when I knew that I wasn't on stage and that wasn't required. And it was a, I will say it was a very tough sacrifice to make. It was an extremely tough sacrifice to make. But I think if you can find a way, I think for you, it sounds like you almost did the opposite. You're like, man, I cut my hair in a style that requires more maintenance.

That may have been exactly what happened. Yeah. I was, I love it and regretted at the same exact time. Yeah. Listen, start growing it out and see if you can pivot into some other things.

If you need it, I mean, you got to go to work looking nice. I understand that, you know, there's a standard, I mean, it's just for somebody else that could be a man who has to wear suit and tie to go to work every day, right? So each of us have the things that we require to be able to show up in the spaces in the way that we need to show up. So I think that you can use your best judgment to determine what that level is because we all need grooming. And that is just part of life.

Now, $300 feels a little steep. If you can say, hey, I'm going to do the hair, but the nails, honestly, the nails are not a requirement. And I would leave, I would probably leave it at that. Nails certainly not a requirement, especially the articles I've been reading today, George.

“And I think you should jump in because you do have natural nails and I think any natural nails are the way to go now.”

I've been told on natural as in. So I'm finally on training for once. But I do like what Jade saying. And Melanie, I'll just jump in with this. I think it's less about the financial aspect and the mathematics because mathematically,

it's not making that big of a dent in your income or your debt. If you took 100 bucks and threw it at the debt every month out of, you know, the 166,000, it's not going to speed up your debt pay off that much. But what it does is it changes your spirit, your intensity. It is the, I remember having to sacrifice that much to get out of debt.

And therefore, I never want to go back.

And so I think it's more about that line in the sand than it is. Well, if we crunch the numbers, we can get out of debt half a week faster. Yeah, I don't think that's the exciting part here. I think the exciting part is, it's a new identity for you guys to say, where people who don't borrow money and we climbed out of this huge mess and never again,

is that going to happen because Mama likes her nails done. Yeah, George makes a good point too. Yeah, because I feel guilty almost about it. Like every time I go and I'm like, "Should I really be spending this?" And then I also have a six year old daughter sometimes you require to go to.

So then you're talking up in the three, five feet and four is for the both of us. Yeah. And it's just like, "Ooh, I can't keep doing that." Yeah, I would cut out the nails, keep the hair, and even maybe change what you're having done when you get there. And I think that that will go a very long way.

And to George's point, just to add on that, yes, I think when you're getting out of debt, and this is not just for you, this is for anybody listening.

“Whenever you're getting out of debt, you have to be careful with exceptions”

because to George's point, you're turning into a different person, and you've got to be very careful about where you draw that line in the sand. Because if you say, "Oh, well, this can kind of slide on a fence and get over on the other side." And then you'll start before you know it, you're letting a lot of other things in. And before you know it, you're not making as many concessions and sacrifices

as you wanted to, you're like, "Oh, man, I'm not as intense as I thought it was." On the way to get the hair done, you're stopping on the drive through, and all of a sudden you're on a shopping spree, and it just feels like there's a domino effect that doesn't happen. I'm going to send you a microphone coming up with bad habits, and I'm like, "Okay, we're on the right track here." And I just kind of feel like, "I don't want to go back, but I see in the guilt."

Yes, every time I'm there, so... Okay, I don't mind you my book. I'm going to send you what no one tells you about money because I talk about all this in the book, all of it. The guilt, the feeling of like, "I thought I was going ham, and then I looked up, and I realized I'm not going as strong as I thought." You know, you go up to the next level, and then after a while you go, "You know what? I think I'm not doing as much as I can be, and then you go up to the next level."

So, I'm going to send you that I think it's really going to help you. I enjoy this conversation, George. It was a lot of fun. Thank you so much, Mel. Thank you, guys. I'm doing so good. Thank you.

You're rushing it. Yes, the guilt part is interesting, Jade, because there is a level of shame and guilt around money, especially when it relates to "I shouldn't have done that."

No, and you shouldn't do that. I think we have to be careful because we've all done things like that early layer of buyers remorse when you're like, "Why did I buy that?"

And you can't really go back and change it, but you want to learn your lesson from it. And it kind of feels like she's there. She's coming home and going, "Gosh, why did I do that?"

“But she's not ready to learn the lesson. I think I just need to pull back or not keep doing that thing that I feel remorseful for.”

But I think when you feel that, that's just the right amount of, it's touching the hot stove and you're like, "Ooh, I felt that for a reason. Let me divert. Let me change my habit here and listen to the sting." Yes. But I don't want to guilt to be in the driver seat. You want to be focused on the future and the vision that you have for that person you want to be, the goals that you have.

And then the byproduct of that is, "All right, I'm going to cut this out."

Yeah. And let's, you know, there are things that aren't necessary in your budget.

And certain things that might be necessary and somebody else's budget may not be necessary in another person's budget. And we're not here to police anybody or make them feel bad. We're here. Remember when we were kids in school, you would do things like on your honor. And it's like, "Okay, it's on your honor." And it's like, "Yeah, you know, you feel good about that."

This is on your honor. Learn to trust yourself. Trust yourself. We believe that you're looking at your budget and you are a responsible adult who will look and say, "This is necessary in this part, absolutely is not." And I'm just going to cut it because I know that it's not.

One day, there's going to be a $500 line item for Melanie. Just for her. Just for her. I like that. One day.

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“Sarah is in DC up next. What's going on, Sarah? How can we help today?”

Hi, thank you for having me. My question is, should I follow the next stages that my babies have number four? I have I'm 43 years old, and I do not have any retirement at all. I'm a single mom now, and I make 28,500 a month or a year. But I also get child support and album for 58,000 a year.

That's going to dwindle down when my son breaches after college, basically.

And he's 13 years old right now, and I just don't know since where I'm at in my life at 43, if I should increase the retirement. Since I have none of that, I was married for 19 years. And so we saved in his accounts. And basically I got the house and he got all the retirement. And I'm writing how I'm living in a town home.

And I made 203,000 on that.

“When your son is 18, how much will the alamone dwindle down to in the child support?”

If he continues to go to college, it will stay till he finishes college. So that would be great for him to keep that. But it will go down 12,000 a year. 12,000 a year until it's gone.

Okay. Okay. What are you doing for work making 28,500? I just got a job as a library assistant at a high school. So I've been a state home mom. And after 19 years, I guess we, you know, he wanted to divorce.

And so we were doing the baby steps. And we had a lot of invested. But we kind of received that. And I had to sell our home.

“And that's how I meet into the town home.”

Okay. So I don't have a lot of money right now.

And I was thinking about getting a second job as well.

You know, to increase my funds. I do have a master's degree, but around here right now. It's like, that's a dime a dozen. Like, what was your master's degree? Kind of hard to find the human services.

Okay. So if I had a magic wand, what work would you be doing today? What job? Oh, I'd love to work for like. I would love to work like as a social worker or something like that. I'd try to get a job with the Department of Social Services.

But that doesn't work out. You know, they didn't hire me. So I'd just try to get my land, my feet somewhere for stability. And then, you know, I thought about just getting another job to, you know, they've at least one bit of retirement.

I do not have any retirement. So let me go back to that for a minute. Let me go back to that. Here initial questions.

So you've got the 28,000,

but you're getting another 58,000 a year in Alamony. I want to make sure I understood that correct. With child, with child. With child support. Competition.

Are you? I mean, I don't know any restrictions around that. Are you, I mean, that's income for you. Are you able to invest off of that?

“Like, it's normal income or are there any restrictions?”

Correct. So there's no restriction. Okay. I choose. So what I'm hearing is you at least have anywhere between five to nine years.

Right. Your son's 13. To be investing 15% of your, you know, $86,000 income. I'll crunch the numbers here for you.

That's a thousand, 75 a month. Okay. So if you're doing that and you, you know, have a rate of return that we suggest. Just that that number.

You know, now until let's say, what did you say George age what? I mean, depends on where we go to. I mean, if you go to a 65, let's say,

that's over a million bucks.

And that's assuming that as the start to dwindle, you're also getting your, your court income up. So the idea is you've got plenty of time and plenty of runway that as that starts to dwindle down, your own income is coming up to meet it and possibly exceed it.

Exceed the 86,000. And I see and hear no reason why that can't be the case. But to answer your initial question, yes, you need to be investing right now. If you are on baby step four, yeah,

“you need to be investing 15% of this 86,000”

to our point. It's a thousand, 75 dollars a month. Nothing should stop that. And then what do I do about my son? Because you know, I don't know how much

really I invest in his future. Yep. I mean, we're getting child support. So I'd love to put some of that money towards that. Yeah.

So I'm not sure like how much I actually should or not. Yeah. So what you were in, you're in baby step four, but it's actually baby step four, five and six that you do simultaneously. So you've got to do the 15% and then because you've got children,

now you've got to invest some amount of money in a 529 is what I would suggest. And the way to find that number is really to think, okay, we could do some calculations to see, okay, in my area, what do the state schools cost?

What do the community colleges cost? And really how much do you have in your budget that you can even put towards this? Because ideally you would be putting a little bit of money there and putting a little bit of money extra on this mortgage if you can. To for example, it could be a thousand bucks for investing.

That's your 15% maybe 500 bucks a month for the 529 for college, another 500 bucks for the mortgage. So that's two grand at the take home pay. We're going to apply to those steps. Wow.

But you don't have any obligation to cover all of college. No. That's a luxury, it's a privilege, it's an awesome thing to do. But I don't want you to feel like a bad parent, a bad mom. If you can't fully cover any school, they want to go to.

That's also ridiculous, you know, assumptions. So I want to free you of this Sarah. I can, the guilt in the shame and the hurt is dripping off of you right now. And I just want to free you from that until you, it's okay to heal. It's okay to grieve.

It's okay to have a season where you're not making a whole lot of progress financially. Because we need Sarah to get well before her financial future can become well.

There is no obligation because some plenty of parents don't have the margin to pay for college.

“But what you can do and honestly what in many ways I think is even more valuable is to simply start having the conversation”

and set expectations with your boy and say, hey, you've seen what's going on. What I need from you is when it's time to come, when it's time to start talking about college, we're doing scholarships. Okay, we're doing state schools, we're doing community college. Your work, our work, we're going to cash flow this thing because you are not going to go and debt. I can promise you that.

And if you can set that standard and then everything that you save is just a cherry on top of that, that is such a win, Sarah. Mm-hmm. I agree. Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate it.

Absolutely. We're rooting for you. Just know it's not too late. And so I think you're starting to believe your own lies because of the brokenness that you're sitting in right now with the divorce and the rejection from these jobs that is your dream job.

There's just a lot of her all around you right now and I want you to know that at 43, you got a whole second or third half.

Man, to fight this battle and live a whole new life. And so the dream doesn't need to die just because you had some serious life events beat you down for a little bit. So take the time to get well, take the time to get that core income up and you will find that job one day. I believe even if it takes getting licensed to become a social worker, you will create that margin over time if you follow these steps. A lot of women don't hit their good stride until their late 40s and 50s.

And it's your best earning years anyways. Yep. Kelly's over here not in Kelly Daniels. Absolutely. Kelly's she is in her stride.

She is crushing in that. She's that girl. She is. So it's not too late.

“I know it feels like the best years are behind me and man, that chapter of my life is over.”

And now I'm just going to do this $14 hour job and let her run. She's not done. You're worth more than that. So we're absolutely rooting for you. And that goes for anyone out there who feels like it's too late because guess what, everyone feels like they're behind.

The 24 year old is going to call and say, I feel like I'm behind because I saw it take the 34 year old is going, I know it should be doing better than I am. The 44 year old also feels like I wish I knew this stuff earlier. I made some mistakes. And then you get the people in the 50s and 60s.

It's because we do we do too much comparison George. We're looking at everybody else and thinking and measuring ourselves up to them. You can't do that. Yeah. But it's not a race.

Yeah. It's just your race. It's your run. It's your stride. It's your pace.

You don't need to look. Don't look to the left or to the right. Yeah. I'm not race and jade. I can't keep up.

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And say we're going to break down one of the top questions of the week, the main question. Why does Ramsey recommend only investing 15%. Only, I love that. That's a pretty good number if you have one. That's great.

I mean, what's funny is the entire financial planning community as much as I can disagree with Dave on. Everyone's like, yeah, 15% is a great number to hit. It's a great number considering most people are only at their match, right? Through your 4% anyway. 15% guys is enough to build wealth without sacrificing everything else in your life.

A fire, you know, those movements, people are investing 30-40% of their income. But at what cost and how long can you really keep that going?

There's a time in place to increase investing.

So it's not only investing 15% your whole life. Invest 15% while you save up for college for your kids, which is widely expensive, while you try to pay off the mortgage early with extra payments, which is going to take a lot of margin. By the way, you got to go on vacation and upgrade the cars and cover the kids. Generacities, activities, and give and so there's so much more to life than just investing.

“I think 15% is a good parameter to make sure you don't lose your mind along the way.”

Absolutely, yeah. It's a great number and make sure that you can do those goals that are really important, like George said. And if you invested only 5-10% then you'd actually be falling short of what you need for retirement. So 15% really is in that sweet spot of being able to accomplish your goals and also being able to have just enough and more for retirement.

If you keep the key things to know about the 15% George, this is based on your gross household income. I cannot say that enough. So if you say I make $100,000 a year before taxes, that's the number. The 100,000. The 13 grand a year better be invested.

And then your employer match doesn't count towards the 15%.

We get that one a lot. Well, my employer matches 5%. So I'm going to invest 10%. Cherry on top, it's 15% of your money regardless of what's going on with your employer because your employer can change. And you want to have that habit built up in the budget of being able to live off a 15% less in your take-home pay.

So that's important. And then the order is pretty simple. 401k up to the match if you have one. Then moved any Roth options you have, like a Roth IRA, max that out if that's still in the 15%. And if you still haven't hit the 15% threshold, go back to the traditional 401k for the rest.

Yeah, I love that. And remember, guys, the goal. We don't want you to just retire. We want you to retire with dignity. We want you to have freedom.

And this word again, it keeps ringing in options. Options is what you want. And I promise you, 15% is what's going to get you there.

“So if you want to crunch some numbers, ask Ramsey can help you determine what is 15% of your gross household income so that you're on track for retirement.”

Go ask all of your questions today at RamseySolutions.com or just click the link in the description if you're on podcast or YouTube. Sarah is in Charlotte up next. Sarah, welcome to the show. Hi. Thank you.

What's going on? So my husband, I love our jobs. We make about $7,000. We bring home about $7,000 a month. And the word blessed us with twin boys.

And we are struggling with the cost of childcare. Yeah. Yo, yeah. Because that's what it was 3,000 bucks a month. It is $3,490 in our current center, which we cannot afford at $7,000 a month.

So we're looking at other options. And the choices are between $3,026 for both kids or $1,200 for both kids. The mom heart of me is struggling with the lower amount because of the quality that we're losing with that. Absolutely.

“When you said $1200, I was like, what is that place look like?”

Yeah. Yeah. George has kids. I've had little and we know those numbers that you quoted are really right on. And how old are your twins?

They're 15 months old right now. They're still young. Yeah. Because the younger the baby, the more care and the more expensive it is. So you're right in the thick of it.

Of the 7,000 a month. How much of that is your income? So we make $7,000 a month. But minus our fixed brings us to $289.

So that's minus our mortgage, which is a little less than 25 percent.

And our utilities and groceries and staff. I'm confused. So what portion is your, what do you take home versus your husband? Uh-huh. Okay.

My take home is 3300. And he brings home about 3600. Okay. So it's pretty much a wash. If you stay at home, you're losing that 3300.

Could you live off of his income? Is that a preferable experience or do you want to keep working? I want to keep working. I'm a kindergarten teacher and it's my dream job. So I would not consider that.

Now, what about family? Do we have any options in the area that we can kind of offset this? And pay someone, but not maybe pay them what we'd be paying a daycare? My mother-in-law can watch them one day a week. But she can't do any more than that.

And we don't have any other options. But isn't that? Do you have a church community? We don't have the option to like have a babysitter or anyone else at a lower rate. The lower rate would be the $1200 a month like church option.

That is a church. That is a church. Okay. The reason I was asking is sometimes. I mean, we had a lady call in earlier that she would be a prime candidate.

A prime candidate to help with children.

They're looking for something full time that you can bring into the house, right?

“And get the same level of care, but it's in your home.”

And at least you're not having to pay, you know, the same premium here. So you guys are up against it. I would also look into maybe some nanny share programs. It might actually be cheaper in your case with the twins. So I would just do all of the homework you can and then make the best decision with the information you have.

And with the values that your family has. And that might lead you down the path where you go. All right, we got to pay it's 3400 a month because this is what we value. And that means sacrifice in all the other areas to make that work. Or it might mean and I'm not saying it has to be you.

I'm only saying this based on the incomes. It also could be that the person with the lower income stays home and does part-time work. So you're getting the value of bringing in some income, but you're also not having to pay the full, you know, the $3,400 or the $3,000. You know, the $3,000 every month.

And that, I kind of don't mind that because although you wouldn't be in your dream job for the moment,

you can always go back when they get a little bit older when they get kindergarten age.

And they're able to go off to school and maybe you'd be their kindergarten teacher.

“And this might put a fire under you guys to go, okay, how do we get our core incomes up?”

So what has your husband do for work? He's accounting degree. Accounting? Degree. Does he do accounting?

Yes. Okay. First thing, bookkeeping, it's kind of a person's there. He does all kinds of stuff. Yeah, you can make six figures in that role.

So what does the latter look like in his company that he's in or in his role that he's in to go? Okay, here's the next step up.

Here's what it's going to take from me to be senior accountant.

It doesn't need a certification. Do I need to really prove that I'm bringing out so much value to this organization that I deserve to be paid more? So I'd start looking into those things too because if he can double his income, we've just solved the problem, right? And that's easier said than done. But if he can go from making 50 or 60 k to 100 k,

Well, now the daycare becomes a much smaller portion of your life. You still have margin left over. That's what we're really worried about. Can we still live our life? Can we still do the baby steps?

If half of our take on pay is gone day one. Yeah, paycheck comes in. How old are you guys? Right. I'm 27, he's 30.

Okay.

“And how long has he been at this in this particular role at this particular company?”

Two years, I think. Okay. Yeah, I agree with what George said. And I would start looking out there and seeing are there other opportunities with his degree that he can be making more money. And if it requires you guys to, you know, go to another area.

I think that's fully worth it for you guys to get more income into the mix. Okay. Thank you guys for your advice. Absolutely. I feel for you, Sarah, that everyone out there who's paying a daycare bill right now is like, yes.

And I mean, when you know how it feels, when you find out you're having babies, you're like, oh, you're already like clutching your pearls. And then if you find out you have twins, like that is a whole different. That'll change your world. That's a whole different.

Well, it'll be fun down the road, but right now it's just like, yeah, how are we going to do this this month? And so it's going to be, you know, could be three, four, five years of some deeper sacrifice. But it's a season. Daycare is not forever. That's right.

And then hopefully the being public school fingers crossed instead of turning that into another private school bill. Oh. That people do it. It hurts my soul. But people do it.

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>> Hi. I am just recently listening to y'all and trying to make sense of the baby steps for my situation.

Would it make more sense for us to just pay off our house and then start paying on the rest of the debt?

>> No, but let's explain why.

“Do you have a chunk of cash that you're sitting on?”

>> No. >> Okay, really. >> So you're just thinking, okay, we need to start making extra payments somewhere. Where do we start? >> Okay.

>> You broke up on a speak directly in your phone. >> Sorry. >> So we've been making extra payments on our house for a little bit. But then I started listening to y'all and it was like, we'll pay off all the consumer debt. But then if we pay off our house, then they can't take it away from us.

That's the thing that would give us security and it would be hours then. Does that make sense? >> I like the way you're thinking, I think your mind is going in the direction where we want it to go, which is you want peace and you want freedom. Am I right?

>> Yeah. >> Okay.

“So let's talk about the best way to achieve that because we want that too.”

I mean, that's what this show is all about is about helping people build well so that ultimately they have financial peace.

Ultimately, they have options. Ultimately, they feel a sense of freedom with their money. And so what we found is the best way to get there is a series of seven baby steps. Are you familiar with them? >> Yeah.

>> Okay. So for those who aren't familiar, the very first baby step is to get a thousand dollars saved. And that's just so that you can have a cushion between you and life. You don't have to rely on credit cards if something pops up. Do you have a thousand dollars saved?

>> Yeah. >> Yes, I think you said yes Melissa, that's great. Do you have more than a thousand dollars saved? >> Yeah. >> How much?

>> Probably around 10,000. >> Okay. So you've got 10,000 dollars saved. So keep that to the side. The next step is, yeah, just like you said, we suggest paying off all of your consumer debt that's everything except the house.

And the reason that we do it that way is because we're building a foundation here. And we've got to clean up our mess before we start building wealth. So what you're talking about, paying off the house, that's a wealth building practice and we're not quite there yet.

We've got to clean up the mess first.

And by doing that, it gives us more of our hard earned money back into our pockets. All right, the biggest wealth building tool that you have is your income. The money that you make every single month.

“And as long as it's going out in debt payments, you don't have that money at your full disposal to really do what it is that you need to do.”

So by paying off our consumer debt, not only do we keep that risk out of our life, but now we're getting back our tools. We're getting back the tools it takes to build wealth. So we would say, yes, now let's pay off the debt. You've got $65,000 in consumer debt. So if you were to take 9,000 of the 10,000 that you have saved and put that towards the debt, we'd keep the $1,000.

Obviously, it's baby step one. That's going to give you a quick kind of leg up on this debt and now we're now we're ready to roll. You know, we got 56,000. Let's start paying it off and let's do it smallest to largest. That's called the debt snowball. List them out by balance smallest to largest and we'll help you do that.

And then we're going to attack the smallest debt with all of the margin that's left any extra money. So tell us about the 65,000 that you have. What kind of debts are they and how much are they? So it's it's really just two categories. It's about $3,000 on credit cards and the rest of it student loans.

Okay, and are those student loans split up amongst 10 or 11 different little loans? Two, just two different loans. Two, okay. What's the biggest one? What's the smallest? One's like 20 something and the other one's 30 something. Okay.

Very close together. Yeah, but those student loans scare me so much more than the mortgage does. The mortgage is in is tied to the asset of the home that's going up and value. These student loans have no real value in the real world and they're not going anywhere. You can't even bankrupt on student loans and they're likely at a much higher interest rate than your home.

Yeah. So let's knock those out. I know you wanted to get the mortgage knocked out. The good news is when you knock out a 30 K student loan and there's less than 30 K left in the mortgage, you're just going to keep plowing right on through and get rid of that mortgage too.

Yeah. It's going to feel easy after that. What's your income? What do you guys take home every month? I'm probably 11,000 a month. Excellent.

That's fantastic. So you're going to knock these debts out fast if you guys get intense. Yeah, do you have a budget? I've tried to create one which brought this question up. Okay.

What did you try to create when tell us about that? Well, I downloaded the free version of the every dollar app and it was like, we'll start paying off the student loans and I was like, that doesn't make any sense to me.

Okay. Got it. Okay.

Can I ask about this mortgage? How is it so low?

“Because, well, because everybody says you should pay extra on your mortgage.”

So since we bought the house, we've been paying extra on the mortgage. This is what everything else is. That is amazing. Well, usually we're just going to mortgage that low. It's like a double-wide situation and it's going down on the value.

So that was my fear. That's great to know. So you guys are going to be in Baby Step 7 and no time. If I were you, I would just keep on going. Same intensity and just be done with this whole thing.

And then you're making $11,000 with no payments in the world. Tonight with your spouse, add up all of your payments you're making with the mortgage. And go, that's going to be freed up if we stay in tents. And you'll probably do this in 24 months. You could probably be completely dead free mortgage and everything.

Yeah. Melissa. Yes. Well, no, it's a good thing when you built that budget. How much margin do you guys have left? Once you've made minimum payments, no extra payments, just minimum payments.

And you've kind of satisfied the things that you need for your month to month life. How much margin do you have? There was probably $45,000. Wow. Oh, yeah.

That's exactly two years. $95,000. And that's every four grand a month. You're done in less than two years. Yes.

That was everything. Yeah. And so then to continue on. So now you've accomplished baby step two. And you've kind of jumped ahead.

But after that, you can save three to six months of expenses. And that's going to make sure that that's like insurance.

It makes sure you never have to go back into debt again.

You never have to scan a credit card again. You never have to pull out a 401k loan. Not that you were doing that. But people do that kind of business. And so it's giving you insurance on your debt freedom.

When you save up that three to six months of expenses. And then from there, now we're really digging into building wealth. We talked about it earlier. But you'll be investing 15% of your gross income every single month. And you can do that simultaneously alongside baby steps five and six.

Baby step five, as you can put away for your kids college. And to a five twenty nine, you could do an ESA. But I love a five twenty nine. And you're putting extra on the mortgage, which you don't need to do. Because yours is going to be done, son.

And then after that, baby step seven. Live in like no one else. Just give it a little bit. It's a choose your own adventure at that point. It looks different for everyone.

But I love this picture for everyone listening out there. Imagine your life with no payments. And not just imagine, add it up. Add up all the payments in your life. You're making to the lenders, the mortgage company, the student loan companies.

And go, what if that was in my bank account every month instead? What would I do? What could I do? And it all comes back to those options. I mean, it's just so freeing to go, oh, all of my heart and income is for me.

And if you do the math on a calendar, you'd be shocked about how many days you're working for somebody else. Yes.

If a third of your take on pay is going to lenders, a third of your month working is going to lenders.

Yes. So imagine the first nine days you go to work. You don't need somebody else. Oh, I don't. Yeah.

Sally Mays put in you to work.

“Now, let's let's let's park back on what she said Melissa, because the truth is when you do start to lay out your debts,”

when you look at the baby steps for the first time, you look at it and you go, oh, great a plan. And then when you start digging into it, you go, oh, that's daunting. Like that. There's a lot of work. I said 24 months.

She said who that sounds stressful. Yeah. I went most people are going to live the next 24 years and stress and medium-ocrity. Yeah. So I'll take 24 months of sacrifice for the next 24 years of freedom.

Absolutely. You got to look at what's at stake if you do nothing. Where were your life? Where will your life be in five years? But if you do something today and you start doing the things that we teach.

In five years, you're not even going to recognize your old life. That's that old zig-zag little quote. You aim enough and you'll hit it every time. So let's aim in the right direction. Welcome back to The Ramsey Show and the Fairwins Credit Union Studio.

Brittany is up next in Las Vegas. Brittany, how can we help you today? All right. Thank you so much for taking my call. Absolutely.

What's your question? I'm okay.

“What are your thoughts on using surgacy as a way to speed up the baby steps?”

Wow. I mean, we talk about zell intensity and sacrifice. That's about the biggest sacrifice you could make is renting out your body. Wait a minute. Hold on.

Let me make sure I understand. Are you saying, because there's two ways you can hear this? Are you saying that you don't want to carry the baby so you can keep working and stuff or are you saying I'll carry someone else's baby to make money? I would carry someone else's baby to make the income.

Got you.

Is it something that's been on your mind for a while? Or was it like a friend told you about it? Well, my sister does it, but it's also my husband working day and night right now. 80 hours a week trying to pay off our debt. So as a thought to try to get him home back with us with our kids sooner that, you know,

pregnancy was kind of easier for me that it could be something that I could potentially do. I can't think of any world or pregnancy as easier than anything. Some women, some women they really enjoy it and their bodies don't seem to mind it. I don't know. Top amount.

Have you had a baby before? Yes, I have three. Oh, okay. How old are you? Old hat for you.

Yeah, 29. 29. And how much debt are we talking about? I need to see how desperate we're getting because this is getting to some desperate measures. We're 66,000 in consumer debt.

Okay. And what's the household income currently?

Um, so with his second job.

Um, and then I work full-time from home watching with the kids. Um, we're at 11,000. Okay. So you have a great income. I mean, we could knock this debt out pretty fast.

We're talking less than 18 months. Yeah.

“So the question is, do you want to spend nine of those pregnant?”

I mean, I mean, that's like, this is all things go perfectly. Uh, to get rid of the debt a little bit faster. Because 18 months, that's square and the average it takes for people to get out of consumer debt following our plan, 18 to 24 months. Yeah, one or, but my thought is, it would also help us find baby steps three.

Let me, let me get away from the numbers for a minute. Um, were you planning on having any more of your own children? No, we're done. Okay. Um, are there, what, what, what would you, I said I was going to get away from the numbers.

But what would you earn for doing this just so we can understand? Yeah.

Starting costs is about a starting pay is about 65,000 for first time circuit.

65,000. Okay. Um, here's, I'll just tell you some of the things that are floating around in my mind. You've had way more time to noodle this around. I heard it for 90 seconds.

So first thing I'm thinking is you got younger kids in the house. You're going to have to explain this to them. Um, and there's going to be attachment, whether you want it or not. There's going to be attachment for you. And there's going to be attachment for your kids.

Because they knew that they grew in Mama's belly. And then they're seeing somebody else growing Mama's belly. I'm wondering how that's going to feel for them. So there's an impact here that goes beyond you and your body. And I just want to make sure that we're thinking well through that.

Because there's nothing dire in your situation that I think that we're to that level. Your number, matter of fact, your numbers are very similar to the folks. The person that called in earlier, you had six, you know. Made 11,000. Yeah.

65 and consumer debt.

“And so, and I wasn't like, you know what, you should do surrogacy.”

So I don't want you to feel that you're in a desperate situation that you need to do something desperate. That's thing one. Now, thing two is, if you had said to me, and maybe this is true, and we just didn't start here. If you had said to me, you know what, Jayden, in George. I'm thinking about the ministry of surrogacy because I really have a heart for moms who can't carry their children.

And that's something that's really important to me. And I think I can help because I actually love being pregnant. Then now we're having a conversation.

So I think those are the two biggest things that I think we need to talk through beyond the numbers first.

Okay. So where do you fall? And you can be totally honest with us and can't hurt our feelings. Yeah, we're not judging you. We're just, we're chopping it up.

Yeah, no. I think it's about, I mean, 56, I mean, the idea of being able to help a mom. But at the same time, I see how hard my husband works and him, not sleeping, only in between shifts. Because he's working 80 hours a week and just sleeping anytime he has the chance to do that. He's, I feel like he's missing our kids childhood.

Okay. So let's stop there. That's your driver.

“I think your bigger driver is getting your husband the rest he needs.”

And you feeling some level of guilt or whatever for what he's having to go through. I actually, it sounds like I could be wrong. Sounds like that's a bigger driver than what I'm going to call the ministry of surrogacy. Is that fair? Yeah, I would say that's fair.

Okay. So let's solve that problem. Let's solve for husband first. And then let's see if all dials point to surrogacy. I have a feeling that they're not.

But let's, let's look at other things that that dad can do in getting some relief for him. How much is he working with that second job? How many hours a week?

Could he dial the second one down or is it required to be full time?

Um, it, it's, I don't think it's required to be full time. But he's trying, you want, he's at the same level. I am of trying to pay off debt. We're dialed into the Ramsey method and just trying to pay off debt. So he's doing the 40, the full 40.

Okay. Where's, where does he stand on this? Is he like, hey, I'm happy to keep this going. I'm doing fine, you know, physically. I can handle this or is he like, hey, I got maybe three more months for unburned out.

I would say it's about 50, 50 depends on the night if you ask him. I'm just wondering if we dial it back. Let's say it takes you guys two years to pay off the debt instead of 18 months.

But you can survive it and avoid surrogacy as a side hustle.

Does that sound like a good plan? Yeah, that's unfair. And I love that. That's if you have no increase in income with your core full time jobs. Because I'm just looking at a mom who's watching three kids working a full time job.

Now I had a pregnancy on top of that. It's going to be stressful for someone.

“And so I'm like, can we kind of, can you both carry some of the load?”

Maybe you work a little bit when he's home. He works a little bit, but not 40 hours a week. And then we have a middle ground here. Yes. And I want to say something.

And I think I can, you know, we love gazelle intensity. We love people to go fast and we love people to do whatever it takes. But also in a debt payoff journey, mine was seven and a half, not a little, you know, a decent bit longer than yours. There are what I'm going to say is there's times where you're really accelerating. And there's times where it's like, bro, I'm tired.

I got to just pull off the gas a little bit. And that's okay. It's okay to pull off the gas a little bit. You're still going towards the goal. That could look like I've been driving Uber and I hate it.

I'm just going to stop driving Uber as a side hustle for a while. And I'm going to give myself a month or two breather and then I'm going to pick up a different side hustle, right? There are ways that the debt free journal journey can morph over time. Whether it's speeding up or slowing down as long as you're still going intensely towards the goal. And everything that you're doing is done with intentionality.

I'm intentionally taking a 30 day break. I'm intentionally now coming back and doing a different side hustle. That's totally fine. What I don't want you to do is I'm hesitant to people when they're putting their bodies on the line. When they could potentially be putting their health on the line.

Because pregnancy, there's so many factors that can take place. And you have a family of your own.

“And for that reason, I think I'm going to say, I don't think you should do that.”

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That's worth $40,000. My husband and I had been paying off our debt. And together, we earn about $60,000 a year. We have about $30,000 in debt, not including our mortgage. I want to sell the new car and drive my beat up truck again.

Doing so would pay off the debt and give us a head start on our emergency fund.

The problem is, I know it would cause issues with my parents.

What should we do? Okey. This is sticky one. It's a sticky one.

“I mean, the truth is, if somebody gives you something, it's yours.”

And it should be unattached. It should be that way. But obviously. Okey. One day.

You're going to sell this car. One day you're not going to have it forever. And they were probably thinking in their minds, they were thinking, I'm going to give her a car,

That's probably what they were thinking.

Well, to be fair, it's a lot more exciting to give your daughter and I'm new car when hers is all beat up. And go, woo, this is fun. It's something visual. They can see its physical.

Yes, paying off debt is kind of intangible unless exciting from the gift giver's perspective. Yes. If they're not aligned with the Ramsey plan going, man, it would change their life if we paid off their debt.

Instead, let's give them a depreciating asset that they have to maintain for years. That's so true.

“And the other side of it is you have to ask yourself,”

and if you're the gift giver and somebody does something with the gift that you didn't want them to do, now you're talking about control issues. Because it's like, well, I want to give you the gift and I want to control how you use it and how you enjoy it.

So I have the right to be offended. If I give you a gift chain and you go sell it on Facebook, marketplace and go get your nails done. Like, well, why do you really? I'll be offended for sure.

I mean, that's a normal reaction as someone who gives a gift.

Okay. Because it shows that you didn't like the gift. You didn't, you don't respect me. But here's the things. Let's bring the level down a little bit.

Because we're talking about a $40,000 car. It's a $10 that I bought you a $40 sweater. And it wasn't forced green. And it was, what's the other color? Are you like--

I like all like maroon. Sure. And I accidentally bought you, I don't know, a purple sweater. Yeah, I don't do purple. And you're like, I don't do purple sweater.

So you went and took it back and got something that was more valuable to you. Sure. So, you know, I could be a little offended like, well, but at the end of the day, I'm like, well,

I actually want George to have what he wants. And I assumed he wanted a purple sweater. He actually wants a green one. Well, that's really what it is. Well, it could happen.

Let's walk through the different scenarios. Scenario one. They sell the car without talking to the parents at all. And it becomes probably a blow-up argument once the parents find out.

Yep. It's kind of behind their back, so to speak. Sure. Scenario two. She talks to the parents and says, hey,

I'm going to do this. And here's why. And they say, we don't want you to do that. And then she can then go her own way. It's like, well, I'm choosing to do it,

but I want to be respectful. And let you guys know that debt pay off is a priority. And I really love the car. It's a beautiful car. But right now, that's not a priority.

And it's such a, it would be a greater gift for us to have it. I agree.

“I think that the, the kind thing to do would be to let them know first,”

so they don't feel side-blinded. But I will stand 10 toes on business and say, truthfully, they should not require that. Yeah. I will say that.

Well, I mean, if they knew her situation, they know the 30 grand in debt. They know her life in their marriage. They probably should have gone like, hey, what would be the best use?

If we were going to give them $40,000, should it be in a depreciating asset? Or should it be debt freedom plus an emergency fund? I'm going ding ding ding. That one sounds a lot better.

Especially when she's happy with her beat up truck. Well, then, you know, it gets into the, the whole talk of everybody doesn't follow our principles. And they don't have to, but a lot of times,

people do get pushed back when they start doing this way of life because a lot of people don't understand it. Like, why would you go through this comfort? Why would you sacrifice a $40,000 car? It begs questions for a lot of people and that's okay.

But the other thing I think about though is the insurance is going to be real expensive on that car. Absolutely. It probably takes premium gas if it's a $40,000 car.

“Now they've increased their costs and their budget every month,”

just to drive a car. They don't even want to drive. And so, again, I don't have any problem with it. Personally, I would talk to my parents. If they're level-headed parents, this is,

you're hoping there's healthy people on all sides of this equation. Yeah, I'm hoping it's just pretty rare these days. But you have a conversation with them. And that way, they're at least not blindsided by it. They may not agree with it.

But it feels a little less disrespectful if you kind of bring it up. Yeah, how mad could you really be if somebody said, instead of having this car, I want to pay off debt or I want to invest the money or I want to do

something else way more financially savvy with it. How mad can you be? But I mean, it's pretty sweet gift. Not gonna lie. It is a nice day.

I'd take one. All right. Art is in Greenville, North Carolina, up next. What's going on, Art? I did in search.

My wife and I are in Babystep 7.

We have the opportunity to purchase a second home

in our neighborhood with a hope that her parents and her brother would reduce her. Why is that a hope? They can currently live three hours from us and they can afford to move here.

We can afford to-- You guys want to be generous. You want to have family close by. They can't afford it. So you're going, hey, what if we bought this house

and they can just move into it? And they wouldn't have any payments? Yeah. And they could gradually move into it. Because our, our four or five years old,

her parents are both about 80 years old. And they are brothers of the family. The three of them have health issues.

What's house going to cost?

It's about 425. How wealthy are you? What you're not worth? We have about 1.5 in brokerage and about 900,000 and about 401k.

Okay. And how would you pay for the house? That was another question. Pay for it outright or finance-- I wouldn't really want to finance it.

Is your house paid for your personal residence? Yeah. I'll have to pay for it. And we don't have any debt. Awesome.

I love that. Yeah.

“Cash would be the only way if you're going to do this.”

It's a second home. We see that a sort of a luxury toy. It's not making you money.

We'd never recommend going into debt for any reason on a second home.

If you're going to do it, it looks like you cash out a lot of that brokerage in order to make that happen, right? Yeah. The biggest purchase is made. It's in our neighborhood.

So it's more than what we were going to pay for our house. Yeah. Well, I didn't think about this. You're footing the bill for the rest of at least your parents' lives. I don't know about the sibling.

But are you okay with that side, too? I just didn't want to complicate it with. If they bought it, then how would it pay a spec for it and how would the wheel go? And so I thought it would be cleaner. Yes.

Yes. You paid ownership. Yeah. Well, I'm just looking at, you know, you're going to pay the property taxes.

You're going to pay the insurance.

Are you going to also cover utilities? Are you going to cover food? Can't wear it as this end. Yeah. Let's take questions.

Do they have any income? Definitely. Pay for those. They rent from us.

“They're living on retirement and Social Security.”

Okay. I'm just wondering, you got to know there could be a day where they go, hey, we can't even pay the utility bills. And you're going to have to foot the bill for that and go, hey, I can't pay for this. I don't want to pay for this.

So if you're okay with that, I'm not ever going to be against generosity. I just want to make sure we think long term about what this looks like. Obviously they're 80. So this is not going to be for 25 years.

We're doing this. And it will set you guys back quote unquote as far as you're investing goals. But if this is what you want to do and you think it's going to get them to move here, obviously have a conversation with them ahead of time. You know, you don't want to just hope and just buy it and go, well, they decided

they don't want to move. Because I don't know if you know this old people are stubborn. So they may go, I don't want to move. That's a big life change. I'm happy where I'm at.

Even if it's not that fancy, we're good. And then you might go, all right, instead of buying them a house, what if I just send them $3,000 a month? That's an alternative. That's an alternative.

You know, I want them to be closer to their grandkids. And if we have to carry them. Yeah, we get older. Yeah, we reach one closer. Yeah, I'd start those conversations.

And if you decide, hey, this is a great move. We're happy to cover the cost. This is a value for us. Then go ahead. I mean, you got that brokerage for a reason.

Options. It's a way to go, man. You guys are doing great. Hey, guys. George Campbell here.

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Tina, what's going on? Hi, George. I just have a question. Thank you for taking my call.

And, hi, Jay. Hey, how are you doing?

I met you about three years ago.

So I still have the picture taking my day. Oh, that's great. Yeah. So the question is, should we mean,

“Emma hasn't continued to have joint account or not?”

Because I just discovered about three weeks ago that he has been committed financial instability. Or the last seven years. And I secretly have the secret bank accounts away from the joint account. And spend the over $100,000. Oh, borrowing from his phone case.

And I didn't know it. It's cutting shocking to me. And I was pretty upset at him. But he's willing to change and promise a change. You're willing to go to therapy to fix whatever it is to cause him to do that.

What caused him to promise to change? Are you finding out? Um, yeah. I discovered that the money missing, like $15,000 missing last year.

So if you never found out, he would still be doing this.

Correct. He probably would do until he died. That's the part that worries me. It's like, well, I'm going to keep committing crimes until I get caught. And I'm going to promise to not commit more crimes.

And so what did he spend all this money on? It sounds like there's probably some addictions here. What do you think is going on as he told you? Yeah, he just told me the addictions. He did spend a lot of money on himself and on other women.

So that's the addictions on the deal. So it's not just financial infidelity. There's just straight back infidelity. That's right. So I was like, so far.

But he's willing to change. And we went to, well, I'm going to see merit therapy. The old past all so fast the last week. So he's willing to change. What's his track record for change?

Have you seen? Have you observed in your relationship that when he says, I'm going to do something that he's good for it. Have you observed that? Um, he said he, he had changed before.

It took a long way for him to join me to have a joint account. Went to a daily MC program some years ago. So that's why we decided to join. And we pay all of that. I'll include in the house this March.

Okay. And he threw this week without that. He, uh, addicted to pornography. And um, um, uh, then a lot of money on buying stuff. Yeah.

So, yeah. Okay. Um, I love that you're in counseling. Uh, I sense that you have a compassion for what he's going through. And you want to see it see it through to the other side.

So I commend you for that.

“I think that you're going to have the best litmus test on if this is worth trying to save.”

And it sounds like in your opinion it is. Yeah. He's a thing. He's appeared to be so kind in this like stuff like this. It's really good like so he walk around.

He went to budget every month together. And he, you know, I'm the one that leading. But because he doesn't like to study too much. Well, money. And that's my things that I love to review study.

And learn how to do a little correct way. And okay, as long as you participate in it, I'll be fine. Okay.

So your first question was.

Do I need to keep my money joined with someone who has a known addiction? And I would say no, you don't. When you want once you know there's an addiction and once you know that clearly there's. There's no self control present in the moment when that's going on. And we've seen that to the tune of at least $100,000 that you know about.

And so for that reason, I would work with the the counselor on setting what those boundaries are and saying, okay. What does that look like?

“And what does it look like for him to then regain access to the money over time?”

So those are the things that you want to set up is what does it look like to separate? And you have conservatorship or whatever you want to say over that money. And then what does it look like to create milestones where he can be let back into the process? If you do X for six months, then you will have access to a debit card or whatever it is. If after 12 months, here's where we'll be.

And after 18 or 24 months, we'll consider rejoining if the track record remains. So that's the thing with trust is it's easy to break and it's really hard to rebuild. And if he's really serious about this, and you guys are willing to work through it with the marriage counselor. And he's willing to give you full financial transparency, which is what you need starting today. Every account.

Every debt. Every paycheck. No more secrets. Every password. And that means he's pulling his credit report today.

You guys are going to go to annual credit report dot com. Pull him from all three credit bureaus and get a full picture of what is going on with all of this debt.

And we're going to freeze his credit, remove access for him to spend.

You've got to add so much friction to his life to help him avoid falling back into these patterns. Yeah, and there's two, there's. I'm not a counselor by any means, but I will say there's marriage counseling. And then he needs some separate counseling for what he's going through with the addiction. And you may need to see somebody separately as well.

“So there's a lot of relational and personal work that I think needs to be done here.”

You guys have a journey ahead of you, but, you know, you know about the 100,000 401k loan. What else is out there that you know of? Um, that's all you know. Yeah. Okay.

So that credit report will give you the truth. I'd pull yours as well, because there's the chance he took out debt in your name. Without your knowledge.

So I would pull both of your credit reports with all three bureaus.

Take a good look and then freeze both of your credit. So that you can't open new accounts without going through a whole bunch of hoops. That's also going to help. And then he needs to be transparent about where this money has been being spent. If it's on certain websites, we need to block that.

And we might need to get him a dumb phone for a while. Which we doesn't have access to the internet on his phone. All of those things, I know it sounds brutal. You're not here to punish him. You clearly love him.

“And you want to see this relationship heal, but you need to set up these strong boundaries to help him.”

Yeah. So I wish you the best. I mean, this is a big journey.

I mean, this debt that even just 100k, that's setting you guys back financially by years.

Yeah. And so he's got to have way more skin in the game than you do. He's got to be willing to sell all the things he bought. Need to get sold. And he needs to do that work.

Yeah. He needs to feel some of this, the weight of this. Thank you so much for your advice. I've been trying to talk to somebody. And I've been following your advice for so long.

And it helps us to help me to get out of that, even pay the house off. And I'm so, I was so excited until this hit me. But we can go and say, oh, it's, it's through me back. I can't imagine. I mean, it's a long period of time to be doing this behind your back with a lot of zeros on the end.

And so you have every right to be angry, to be upset. And so you don't need to sort of shove that down and go, no, it's fine. This is normal. It's not. This is a huge betrayal of trust.

And it's going to, it took seven years from to make this met. It might take seven years to climb out. Yeah, that's the hard part. Tina, call us back. If you ever need, you know, if you get to a point and you're like, I don't know what to do next.

Give us a call back and we're helping happy to help you through that. But this brings up a bigger conversation and it's worth having, I think, in this moment. So when we talk about the word accountability, a lot of people don't like the word accountability, because they, they, it's synonymous with control. I don't want anybody controlling me.

I'm a grown woman. I'm a grown man. I don't need anybody running around. So shoulder right. But I love the word transparency because then it's just like, it, it just helps you see.

It's like, it's a clear. It's, you can pass through. You can see through it. There's no veil. There's no door. There's nothing there. No walls. No walls. And so if you like the word transparency better than accountability, fine.

I'm with you. But the point is, when you're in a marriage situation, and I've said this, I know, I don't want to put any words in Dr. John Deloni's mouth, but I've heard him say somewhere thing. When people have, when people hide things, when they have something to hide. And so if you can start your marriage off with full transparency, I know the past code

to Sam's code. He knows the past code to mine. I have access to every account. He has every access to mine. There's nothing that I have that he can't get to. And I don't view that as him controlling me or me controlling him. It is, they are boundaries that keep us both safe and protect our marriage because it's the most precious thing that we have.

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“The worst thing that can happen is you become memorable."”

Or infamous? That's the thing. The difference between famous and infamous. Well, all right, Curtis is in Austin, Texas up next. What's going on, Curtis, how can we help?

There's some details to it, but the short version of the story is they got everything, including our starter emergency fund.

Oh, okay. How did this happen? So they pose as fraud agents and they did everything, how this is a credit union I've been with since I was in high school. They spoofed the numbers, they followed all of the same procedures and scripts as other fraud claims that were legitimate that I've dealt with in the last 15 years that I've been with them. And so all the numbers were all the phone numbers were the same, whether it was a text message or a phone call, so it was by the, I didn't realize what had happened until after I got off the phone.

And we immediately started trying to put the pieces back together. And we filed a fraud claim with my credit union. They denied it because of that they said it was a approved transfer, whether it was a legitimate or not that I approved the money under false pretenses and so it doesn't qualify as fraud. They're also still trying to recover the funds, which I don't understand, but they said it could be 90 days before they know whether or not they're going to be able to get them back. I recommended an IC3 report with the FBI, which I did, and then I did a police report that night as well. And so I've done all of that.

My question is my wife and I were talking shortly after this happened about how, how do we move forward? We're on babysitter two, we use every dollar every day. How do we go about recovering financially? Understanding there is a decent chance. We don't see any of that money ever again.

“Yeah, that's how I would live my life, otherwise this will just consume you and live rent free in your head. I hope you get the money back.”

How much was it? $6,848. And that's money you had in the account.

Yes, that was that included our starter emergency fund. I'd been my brother and I've always dreamed of going to a World Cup match. I'd been saving up for a ticket for that.

We had saved money to replace my wife graduated with her master's last month. We drove out to love it. We put money aside because she was out of leave. And so we knew she was going to get docked for some days, so we put money aside to offset that with all of that. Curtis help help help the listening audience and tell us how this happened. Tell us tell us how they contacted you. Tell us what they said. Tell us more so that if anybody else is because chances are somebody else is in the same situation and they're wondering,

I wonder if this is real or is this fraud. So give us tell us how it went down.

“Yeah, they called while we were traveling for my wife's cousins wedding. They called while I was trying to get the room key fixed and I ignored it.”

It showed up as being from my credit union. Like it had the name of the bank on the screen of my phone.

Okay. I didn't answer the first call. They immediately called back a second time and then again, so it was it was the same.

Yeah, exactly. And then when I got on the phone, they're like, hey, it's our fraud. It's the fraud department at bank name here and there's been some suspicious activity on your debit card. Did you spend $360 at a Walmart in North Carolina? No. And so they're like, okay, what about $65 at a shell in North Carolina? No. I mean, the time I was in Houston and not North Carolina.

“So how did the transfer happen? Did they say in order to protect your money, you need to transfer it here?”

They put me through to what they called the web services team. And again, that's another department that I'd actually spoken with on the phone in legitimate circumstances before. And so they said that you should have gotten a fraud alert over text message. And they, they, some, I don't, there's some parts of it that I don't remember, but at the end of the day, they started sending me text message alerts that I was under the impression were tests. And those text message alerts approved transfers, three transfers that took all of our money.

At any point, did you give them, I'm guessing at some point, obviously, you confirmed account information or gave account information. Did you know that they were doing a transfer or did that part happen without you ever even knowing it? Because it sounds like the credit union is saying, you approved a transfer.

Yeah, they're, um, and I may have, they, they told me the folks on the phone, the scammers on the phone told me it was a test for a fraud, they were testing my fraud alerts to make sure my account was working correctly. Wow.

“Did you, like, sell the money? I'm just confused how somebody can do it.”

Real, they, they was some, uh, when the, when I called and filed the fraud report that night, they, it was, uh, the real time payment is, uh, what the woman said on the phone. Okay. She shows up as RTP. Okay.

And you never checked your actual bank account to see if there was any weird transactions.

Uh, not, not before, not before all of that, not when the first call came in. So let's, let's run this back because, because usually you will see a transaction, if they say, did you do this? You can go back and see and it'll be sitting there pending and it's like, no, I didn't do that. So for those lists thing, yeah, you always want to verify it. Uh, and Curtis, I hate that this happened to you, but so many people are going to learn from this and we have millions of people that watch and listen. Um, the second thing is, you know, if you have fraud happened on your account, they take care of it on there and there's almost literally really nothing you ever have to do on your end other than say,

I did or I didn't do it. So if anybody's asking you to, you know, transfer the money, wire the money, anything like that, avoid it at all costs. And one thing that I like to do is if somebody calls me, I say, okay, hold on a second and I'll call back. And that way, you can make sure that it's legit. So then it's like, let me go on the website and let me find the number and let me call them back and say, hey, I was contacted about fraud.

And that way we know that it's a clean and open crime. Yes or no, yes, we actually did call you or nope. That wasn't us. That's a scam. But man, I mean, I would file a police report because you're going to need that to escalate anything. And I would also file a report with the NCUA, which is like FDIC but for credit unions. So it's national credit union association. That's the governing regulator for credit unions. So once you have that police report, I could file it there.

But again, filing all this stuff doesn't mean you're going to get your money back, but at least there's some attempts you can make. Do I treat it? So as far as the recovery, because we filed a police report, we filed the IC3 report. Do we treat this like a debt and pay ourselves back to try and get back on on our feet financially? Do we?

“Yeah, you need to rebuild. You need to start emergency fund. You'll need enough to cover your bills.”

And then once you kind of have your back to some status quo with your money, then you can start hitting play on that debt snowball. But right now, it is going to set you guys back probably at least a couple months, right? Yeah, we're at least two and there's a chance for that it would take us three with some health issues that we're navigating right now too.

I'm so sorry. I mean, I've always said that I got to put in my stomach for you. That is just the worst.

Sam and I have been there. We've been, you know, we had our credit cards, our debit card scammed at an ATM machine. And they cleaned out our account and it was heartbreaking. I mean, it is just, it makes you feel like you want to throw up. My mother-in-law just got scammed out of $35,000 this week. And so it is, guys, this is just running rampant. So please, just be careful out in these streets.

“Verify, you know, the best thing that you can do is if you get a text message and email a call and you're wondering, like, maybe this really is real.”

If your society senses are going off, if there's a lot of urgency on the other end, if they're asking for any kind of personal information, likely a scam.

Yeah, never click the link in the email, never click the link in the text, never call the number that they give you to call. Always go online.

And a lot of times you can Google the numbers and find out if it's a scam, or you can plug it in if you get the email, click it and make sure it's the real email and not just a front. Oh, man. Wow, that puts this hour in the books. Remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace, and that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace Christ Jesus. [Music]