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“My co-host today, Gabe is in Salt Lake City, hey Gabe, what's up in your world?”

Dave, I'm here, that is me, Dave, it's nice to have you talking to me and I really appreciate you taking my call. Our pleasure. George, too.

So random question, so my dad is very kind, every time my wife and I have a child, he gives us

a one-ounce gold coin that's the kid that they own it right. I brought it to his attention, it's like, well, if it's there, then they can do whatever they won't let's invest it for them, so by the time they're eating you, they have a substantial amount of money, because right now they're between nature's one and seven. And so he doesn't want us to do that because he wants it to be like an heirloom type thing

or some sort of way to remember him, which I get that, but it's also really not doing them any favors having the coins sit in my safe, not doing anything, not getting any interest. And so I'm wondering since he gave them the coins and I'm a parent, I have a moral obligation to do what he says and not do anything with it or invest it and wait until they're

“18 to give it to them or if I can go ahead and do what I think's best for my kids and”

invest the money or the coins because right now they're worth anywhere between, you know, 40 500 bucks and a five grand announced depending on the day. Yeah, I mean, you've had a conversation and he told you not to do that. Yeah, but I just I don't I don't agree it's I'm like well, they're my kids technically they're not his.

So I'm like well, I don't, I don't, I don't know how long you may seem like I'm doing them in this service, anything just having it sit there. So, you know, um, I, I, I, I would come down personally on the idea that my relationship with my dad is more important than four grand. Yeah, I mean, it's not for me, it doesn't matter who it's for, it's for my kids for

grand for my kids and by the way, it's not really a $4,000 discussion we're having, it's whatever it would grow if it were invested versus what gold did and it would be, you know, it might not be four grand. So, um, is he doing this regularly? No, you one time when they're born.

So, you know, we have six kids who have six coins. All right. Yeah. How old is your dad? [laughter]

How's he feeling? How's he getting along? [laughter] He's, he's, he's, he's kicking. He's doing, you know, he's doing good, which I hope that means something good for me.

[laughter] So, I personally would just forget that you have the coins and put them in a safe and just

“not worry about it and you need to do whatever you need to do for your children's benefit”

and then someday that coin will be around. Are you investing for your kids outside of that for college or anything else? Uh, no, not we haven't started doing that yet, we need to. Are you on that? Okay, well, you shouldn't be until you get there.

But, yeah, we're so finished up getting out of that, get your emergency money place. You guys live your life and take care of your kids and then this becomes an irrelevant issue because you've taken care of them. Financially, you've prepared for their college financially and whatever. And my guess is once they're adults, they'll choose what they want to do with it.

And, you know, all kidding aside, when he passes away, I'm catching a man. But I'm not going to do that. So, my grandmother used to give my kids savings bonds every so often, not just at birth. Not substantial amounts of money, but not as much as these coins are worth even.

But I never really asked her about them.

I didn't say anything about it. I just catch a man. I didn't even bring it up. But now that you've brought it up, you've got a problem. You know, everybody knows.

I cashed him in and I put the money in a mutual fund. And when my grandmother asked me how the bonds were doing, I would give her an honest answer and say they're doing very well.

But yeah, but I would not have hurt her feelings or stirred up a relational strife between me and my granny over that amount of money. It wouldn't have been worth it to me. Yeah, if this is meant to be an heirloom sort of gift from him, it's like getting a pair of socks from grandma.

I'm going to keep him around because grandma gave her money. I got grandpa's pocket knife too. Yeah, that's a cool heirloom. But, you know, it's not going to sell it. And I'm not going to sell it.

And it's not worth anything except to me. So, that's an heirloom. That's what an heirloom is. An heirloom is not an investment. So, when you can convolut the two, you make a mistake.

And so, dad is making a mistake. Yeah, but, and the other mistake he's making is he's asking. He's giving a gift and then putting extreme conditions upon the strings. Our guilt trips, guilt trips upon it.

“If you sell it, they won't have anything to remember me by.”

Give him something else to remember you by. That doesn't involve a liquid asset like that. About a fishing trip. Teach them to water ski. You know, my grandkids are going to remember a lot of things about me.

You know, but I'll remember that you need a water ski. There we go. So thank you for that. Drug Georgia around behind the boat. I didn't do as well as the children did.

But I hung on for dear life. I'll take it off. He got up and rode, man. I'm a good teacher. And Georgia's...

You are just persevering. He's a great coach. But, I mean, that, you know, you remember that more than that gold coin I didn't give you. Hmm. You see?

The problem is it's worth $4,500.

So he's going, that's a lot of money for a child. 26. 25. 26 grandings. A lot of serious money.

Yeah, it's just... Yeah. But I do think the relationship is on the line.

“And so is it that's what you're really betting against?”

Yeah. If it was $4 million, I'm probably going to tell that, you know, hey, but for four grand, I'm not going to do that. You know, so that's the issue. And that's how we work it out.

So good question. So one of the things moms and dads that listen to the show, Grandparents that listen to the show, and even think about is what kind of strings are you putting on a gift? And at what point, how many strings does a gift have to have before?

It's not really a gift. It's just a control feature. Hmm. So, you know, I've got a friend that gave all of his grown children and their spouses a free house.

He paid for it. Wow.

And the only string was he had him sign a letter that said they would never borrow money.

I like that. Is that too much control for a free house? No. Not. But if a kid said, oh, no, I might want to borrow money someday.

So I'm going to have to deny that gift. Then that would be a fair thing. They could do that. They could say, I don't agree with you on the debt free living. I want to go and use leverage and other people's money.

I've been watching real estate TikTok videos. And so I want to get rich quick and real estate. So I'm not going to accept that gift. They could choose to do that. But you can't institute that after you gave the gift.

Yeah, that's a little awkward. You have to say that on the front end. Communication. This is what we're doing. And then once you've agreed to it, you've agreed to it.

And so in a sense, Gabe has accepted the coin with the terms they condition. What's the terms that he won't sell it? Because it's an airline. And so in that sense, that's the string attached to that coin is that too much. No, I don't think it is.

I don't think it is. I don't think it is. And I think if I was the giver of the. The other thing you could do switch. Switch places.

What if you were on the other side of it? And how would you feel? That's a good point. Now, the watch I'm wearing was an heirloom gift. And they said, just don't sell it.

As a guarantee, I will not sell it. I'm going to make grandpa happy. There you go. Is it grandpa? Yeah, my wife's grandpa.

Oh, he passed. And so grandma said, the watch is yours. You can fix it up until you don't sell it.

And so I will never sell this one.

That's a fair gift. I like it. I like it. Cool watch. Thank you.

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Hi Greg, how are you? I'm doing good, yourself Dave. I don't know how to serve. What's up?

“So my wife, just to kind of let you know from the beginning, my wife and I started your program back in 2010.”

My aunt gave me some CDs of yours. And so we've tapped to that pretty much our entire marriage of 15 years now, almost 16 years. We are now to the point that over that time we've had ups and downs in our finances in the sense of,

how much we make, but we have always been able to stay debt free.

And back in 2023, we purchased our first home. We could now officially purchase our first home and afford to do it. And but our children ages 13 to nine, we've got four children. Are now, you know, getting into those teenage years where my wife wants to start doing vacations to really build memories and different things like that because we've never really had a lot of money to do that.

Where I want to work on paying off our mortgage faster. We've kind of gone up and down in the sense of paying a few extra of $100 here and there on each payment. That she is really fighting against it because she wants to say that money for doing things and creating memories for our kids. Am I in the wrong here? No, this is the stage at which you would do vacations.

I'm assuming you're out of debt and have your emergency fund. Correct. Yeah, we've got about 40,000 in our bank account.

“Are you putting 15% of your income away for retirement?”

Yes. Are you putting more than that away for retirement? We are not. Are you saving any other money? So we have, no, we are not.

We've got a, I work for the state of Idaho. So we've got a Percy pension fund that we have. I mean, you don't have $100,000 sitting in cash over to the side just because you're a safer. No. No, but we've got about 40,000 in cash.

Is that your emergency fund? It is portion of it is our emergency fund. The other portion is just regular savings.

Just savings basically your savings been in envelope.

We've got the way our credit union works is we can make. Digital envelopes. Yeah, put them in, you know, but. So they are those savings are you're marked for. Yes, we do.

We've got one that's basically a miscellaneous that we. And how much is in miscellaneous? No, about 10 grand. You have a vacation envelope. We do.

How much is in that? About 3,000. Okay. And what do you own your mortgage? We own about 377,000.

Okay. And. Okay. And what's your household income? About 105,000.

And that's only been within the last three years as well. We moved up here big due to a job that. Yeah. Patus and not to to really do well.

So first I'm going to tell you that both of you, you and your wife have done a wonderful job.

You are really on top of this. I'm so impressed with where you are and how you've gotten there. The journey that you've been on. You you have worked the plan that we teach. Thank you for doing that.

And the success in your finances is apparent.

Thank you.

Now what comes to mind is a couple things.

The answer to your question sadly is you're both right. Nobody went here. Yes, we should do some more good. Yes, we should go on vacation. Right.

But and this is the stage four five and six where you live not intensely, but intentionally. And intentionally would be. We upgrade mama's car. We buy a couch. We go on vacation.

And we also want to get to babysit six and pay down this 375 because we don't want to just sit there and look at us. Okay. Yeah.

“So I think what we want to talk about is you and her.”

I would suggest you talk about exact numbers. Yeah. So when you say mom that you want to do. Some vacations with the kids. Let's put a number on that.

What what do you mean? Well, to kind of to kind of give you a little bit of the history on that. I come from a family that has traveled quite a bit. I mean my my parents we weren't we weren't ever rich. But my dad worked for the post office for 40 years.

So he, you know, he's and they've been extremely wise with their money, which has always been.

So I mean what does she mean when she said she wants to travel. She means she wants to experience the same thing. What does it cost to do what she wants to do? I'm sorry. What does it cost to do what she wants to do?

Is it 4,000, 10,000 or 40,000? Well, she wants to, you know, she's not the type of person that has to go to the. That's helping or honey.

“What does it cost to do what she wants to do?”

Probably anywhere between 4 to 5,000. Shut up and do it. You have the money. Use a little bit of that miscellaneous fund. That's not going to keep you from paying off the mortgage.

And then for the future, just set up that sinking fund. If you guys decide we're doing 6,000 worth of vacations. You have 3,000 of the 4,000 in the envelope. Okay. And honey, I'm going to agree to a 4,000 dollar budget.

And after that, you're going to let me do what I want to do. Which is everything past that. We're going to be chunking on to the mortgage. We both get what we want. Okay.

Yeah. So the 4,000 is not prohibitive in the scenario you gave me. You guys have been too good about what you're doing to, if I have 4,000. Keep you from getting to baby step 7, it won't do it. Well, and then, and that's not, you know, I mean, we've got a basement.

We're trying to finish. I guess that's where I was hoping we would be able to put more money towards that and getting the house paid off rather than. All you got to do is just sit down with these things and go, okay. But 4,000 there, what do we put on the basement? Or maybe we hold off on the basement because we're traveling because I still want to reduce the mortgage.

Or maybe we'll hold off reducing the mortgage. So I get the basement finishing. Then I'm going to reduce the mortgage. So all you do is line these things up and force rank them. But the thing is, I have found with my wife and I found with everybody I've coached with over the years.

The biggest arguments come because no one actually put an actual dollar to this and said, "Okay, does that actually fit in this jigsaw puzzle?" And if you put the actual dollar on it, it's surprisingly easy to pull this off. The first one of those I ever had, my wife was driving one of those horrible try-colored blue astro vans. Nasty.

It smelled like the family dog and goldfish were ground into the carpet.

“I'm not talking about real goldfish, I'm talking about the crackers, right?”

And she was, this thing had like 800,000 million miles on it and it's smoked like a tar wagon.

Like it was the Batman smoked mobile. And she's like, "I need a new car and I'm like, "Yes, you need a new car. What do you want to spend on a new car? I need a new car. What do you want to spend on a car?" "What do you want to spend on the car?" "I'm a car!"

"Yeah, I get it!" Okay, and then so we settled on, we're going to spend 15,000 dollars. Well, that settled it because I had 30 and I was wanting to do some stuff here at the office and reinvestment. I said, "All right, let's get the car and then I'll do the reinvestment. I can wait a little bit and let's get you a car because you do need a car.

But if you want 110,000 dollar car, no, we do have something to argue." It's unreasonable. So if we're not moving from the goldfish astro vans to 110, it wasn't that big a step up, right? Yeah, the villain here is not vacations, it's the lack of clarity.

That's a thing. That's a thing. And so I think you can set up the sinking fund and go, "All right, we're going to put 500 bucks away for vacations and 500 bucks onto the mortgage. If you have a thousand bucks left over each month, that's an easy way to do it.

But the fact of the matter is you're not budgeting. You're not sitting down going, "Where is every dollar going?" But you can't have these conversations where you roll your eyes and say, "Well, I just wish we could have fun." Well, he said, "I already did all the trouble and I was a kid."

What does that mean? I just wish we could enjoy ourselves. What does that even mean?

I'm having joy, okay?

So what are you talking about here?

Well, if I could just go out to eat once a month, well, then shut up, we can do that. We can budget. You don't need to roll your eyes to get that.

“You need to just give me a dollar amount and I can put it in the budget.”

You know, this is normal. This is normal. All a man wants his clarity. Yeah, and that really seriously, this is the argument that most people have. Put a number to it.

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And it was up 23% the year, or 26% the year before.

It doesn't always have those kinds of numbers, but it averages about 11% a year.

So if it doesn't make any more this year, that would be the average. And it does look like it probably will make more than that this year. Based on what's going on.

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Good, what's up? How can we help? Um, I sold a property that I'm the bank and I need to foreclose on it for nonpayment for a little bit. Wow, yeah, you do. I'm having trouble finding a lawyer that will do the work.

Why? Well, it's either two people said they were near retirement and they only did traffic court. Other people said they don't do that area. I mean, I don't know.

“Okay, hey, just jump on, jump on, can you jump on our website?”

How old are you, Cam? 51. 51. 51. Yeah.

Oh, cool. Okay, we'll jump on our website at RamseySolutions.com and look up the real estate agent in your area. The Ramsey trusted real estate agent or agents in your area. Pick up the phone and call them and ask them who tell them you talk to me on the air.

Okay. And a real estate agent will know a real estate attorney that does foreclosures. That's what you need. You don't need somebody that did traffic court. Well, no, I mean, they used to do foreclosures real estate issues.

But then they're near retirement, so they're slowing down. Yeah, wrong one. We don't, we want somebody. You've, you've waited too long to do this.

“You need to do have done this about five or six or seven months ago.”

And now that's a year late and you need to get on this this week. Oh, I know. Yeah, don't, don't sit on this. I want you to find an attorney in the next seven days and start to foreclosure. You just make that your mission, okay?

Yeah. Thank you. Yeah, if you'll go to Ramsey Solutions to Ramsey trusted, you can do the Georgia County and the other suggestions on how to find one. I mean, that's the best way to do it.

Ramsey Solutions dot com slash agent and every real estate agent knows a good real estate attorney because they've worked with a bunch of them. A lot of the title companies that do closings for them also have someone on staff that does foreclosures. Yeah, every title I've done, every closing I've done has an attorney there on site.

So, but they don't always, sometimes they just do closings.

They don't always do foreclosures. But they don't know. And I don't know how the market is set up today. Many years ago when I bought foreclosures for a living, there were about five attorneys in Nashville that did probably 90% of the foreclosure business. Yeah.

“And the big mortgage companies will like bring them a whole box here, do these 16, right?”

And that kind of thing. And so, it was a Dijk Tatum was one of the guys' names. I haven't talked to Dijk in 25 years. I wonder what Dijk is doing. He's a wonderful guy.

But I did a lot of deals with Dijk. I mean, because I was buying the foreclosure and he was the attorney. And I had to take him to the money to stop the foreclosure. Yeah. And so, but those guys--

I wonder if there's less foreclosures now. So, less people are finding that. There's plenty. There's plenty. They're just not as profitable as they used to be. Yeah.

So, I would, that's how I would do it. I would find a real, someone in the industry and the real estate industry that can guide you. Maybe you're an insurance agent, might also know someone, but probably more likely a good real estate agent.

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And don't take up like two hours of their agents' time. Just ask them for the name and name and the phone number and just jump on it and call them right then. And get somebody and get her done. Andrew is in Los Angeles, high-endry. Wow, I'm talking to Dijk and see how are you doing.

Better than I deserve. And George Campbell. Can you believe it? Wow. So, my aunt is in her late 60s and she was recently diagnosed with cancer.

She's getting her stairs. Yeah.

She's getting her stairs in order and she hasn't estate worked around $3 million.

And she doesn't have any will or trust. And my family asked me on the family to help her think of her option. So, this is a situation. She has one child, my cousin, who's in his mid 20s. And she raised him as a single mother and they've had a difficult relationship for a long time. He had a lot of curious behavioral issues growing up.

He had an issue of violence against her. He dropped out of college. My family worked very hard to get him in the college. He dropped out his freshman year. He struggled the whole job.

We've been stuck with her and at this point, he's eventually caught up all contact with her. He does not know that she has cancer. Not exactly a redeemable character, okay? So far, that's correct. So, um, we know very little about him.

By then this is getting the fact that she's going to leave everything to him. That's not where the judgment call is. It's a non-negotiable for her. Um, and we just know very little about him. Um, we're not going to be able to make the decision what we're really in touch with him,

because there's a lot of volatility that come from opening up that door. What we know about him is that he recently got married. Um, he, uh, he's not invited or be wedding. Um, and we know that he's applying himself for a skilled trade. Um, as a, uh, and so, um,

nobody in the family is opposing or, uh, or getting this money, but the concern is how we give it to him, because I know from what's in your program long enough,

that getting $3 million can derail somebody's life.

And the best case scenario for us is for him to apply himself and have a stable, constructive life rather than, you know, accidentally having everything go haywire because he's something that's really in dollars and no other way to deal with it. Yeah. Do you do a state planning work?

I had general familiarity and I have.

“But I mean, I would call one of your buddies in the legal,”

you know, another attorney that does a state planning work and try to get some suggestions. The only thing that pops into my mind, a couple of thoughts.

The first one is a trust with some wild,

almost bad B-movie, like traits to the trust. Like, you know, he has to meet these guidelines to see the money otherwise at, after so many years, the money goes to a charity, okay? And what will be the guidelines that he's not committed violence,

that he's, I don't know, in church. I don't know, he's held down a job. He's, I don't know. What measure can she put in a trust that of character that a trustee could measure against, you know,

an objective, measurable thing that would allow the money to be released, otherwise the money is not to be released. Because if she gives money to a bad character, it makes him a super bad character. Right.

“She is not helping him when she does that.”

She's harming him.

And the money will disappear instantly.

Yeah. You give money to a jerk. They become a colossal jerk. So you can get really detailed in that trust. Yeah.

And this age, you get this much. If he follows these guidelines, at this age, he gets a little bit more. I full amount is released at this age. I personally would encourage her if she wanted to listen to me,

not to give him the money. You said it's a non-negotiable, but I really would not give it to him. Is that right? Yeah, I really would.

I would give it to someone else or some charity,

something that she cares about,

“someone that would use it well and appreciate it.”

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Hi, Aaron. How are you? Hi, Dave. Hi, George. I'm very happy to get the idea dynamic duo. Appreciate that. I will let John Deloni know. Well, I need some outside the box thinking here,

or maybe a gut check. I don't know if I have a money problem or a relationship vision problem with my wife. So we have a baby on the way. Yeah.

Both engineers. Yeah, we're very excited. Comes at Timberocktober depending on when it happens. Our current expenses a month are about $5,500, but we want to go down to single income.

At least that my wife is getting really just overwhelmed with her work and being pregnant and the thought of having a baby with that is too much, and I agree with her. She works on a chemical plant, so it's over crazy hours, crazy work. But with a mortgage and with everything,

I see a money problem. We did a mock budget. That's about that. Little over $4,000 a month. But I see us being in the red by about 2,300 bucks a month if we went down to single income.

Did she see that?

She wrote it. Okay.

Okay, so obviously that doesn't work.

So what do we eat just? 40 grand in savings. 40 grand in savings will be gone.

“You can't have a burn rate on your budget.”

You need the opposite of a burn rate on your budget. And so no, 40 grand doesn't cover it. Is it'll be gone in about 30 or two years? I don't know. I mean, it's going to be a temporary.

Something has to adjust. How temporary? What's going to happen a year after that? And then what happens? She goes back into work and I'm making more money at my nine to five.

Not to mention, I have a hobby job, which I could bring in an extra $1,000 a month.

But that takes me out of the house and it's important to her that I'm here too.

Okay. There's no cake in eat it too. We have to be grown-ups. And so we need a plan that includes no red ink. I don't even care what the plan is.

But something's going to be uncomfortable. Let's decide in advance what that is. But no, I would not have a burn rate budget. So let's just decide. Are we going to move and get a cheaper house?

You guys are engineers. Are we going to sell the car?

“Look at the process and go, what are all the variables we can change?”

What must be true? Whoever's going to be flipped. And there's a lot. You have expenses and then you have income. Do we need to downsize in house if this is a sacrifice we want to make long-term?

Because I would not assume that she's just going to automatically want to go back to work after a year. That's a dumb assumption. What if she loves being home and decides, no, I don't want to go back to work ever. Well, now we have an immediate problem to solve. Yeah, there's a high probability.

That's what's coming. The thing I would think is, I think the easiest lever to flip is go from her unreasonable job to a some side hustle for her. The she controls the hours. And when the little chair of business sleep, she can work some from home. And probably make enough to cover this with a side hustle.

She's a freaking engineer. She's a great one. Yeah, but she's got an unreasonable job now from a stress hours. And so for a standpoint to be a new mommy. I'm not arguing that.

You're not arguing that. Okay. But that doesn't disqualify her from an income completely in order to make largely make her dream come true. Or, you know, you go work your side hustle. And she just says, okay, the cost of me getting to stay home and not work at all is that my husband's going to work.

So I'm going to tell his income comes up on the day job. That's a cost or the cost of me staying home. When our children were tiny, we had some friends that we both admired greatly.

They had a big, crazy, beautiful home, both professionals. They had their first baby.

And they felt like no matter what that she had to be home with the child. It was a decision they made period. And they sold everything. And they moved to a house that was half the cost of the one they had before.

“And because they said, what matters to us, what we value more than where we live is that she is at home.”

That was their value choice. And they were willing to sacrifice to stick with that primary value. And I'm okay with you guys having that as your primary value. But then decide what has to go for that. So for that being de-prioritized.

Yeah, something's got to go. Yes, sir. What does it look like to get your core income up by five or 10 grand? Is it a different title? Is it something else, a different company? I'm only 26. I'm only three years in the being an engineer.

So I don't have the most leveraging power. And the job I'm at is a great, great job for me to learn for the tenure engineer. Good, good. What is your side-posts in the job of? What's your side-posts in the job of?

What's your side-posts? I do my events, so concerts, weddings, festivals. And on some months, I control an extra couple grand. And I'm working in extra 30 hours in the weekends. So I'm not home, and I'm not present.

And she's made an apparent apparent that she needs me. And for me, this is not an emergency because we can forecast the implantate in emergency funds or it's her unexpected, but she told me that she isn't an emergency right now. I'm sorry, I'll be a... Bull crap.

Bull crap. Be a grown-up. That's just...that's a guilt trip from hell. No. That is not okay.

That's not an okay statement. I'm the emergency.

Seriously, be a grown-up lady. You're a freaking engineer. If you want to stay home with your kid,

“and that's what you're calling is as a woman.”

I got no issue with that. I matter of fact, I support the decision. But we're not going to call you an emergency. When? I get everything I want. No, you don't. You get to be a grown-up like everybody else, and something's got to give.

Bubba Husband going to be working weekends. You're going to pick up a part-time job working from home as your side hustle to cover this difference. Or you guys are selling a stinkin' house, and moving to a house you can afford with you staying at home.

Make a decision grown-up girl. That's what has to happen.

The answer to what sacrifices are willing to make, and the answer is none.

Then this can't happen. Yeah, the answer is, I'm the emergency. That's a four-year-old child. No. I'm not okay with that answer.

And if she called me, I would be just as mean to her in person. So, you're equal opportunity for that. That's just, you know, no. Because my wife is this. She's the opposite. She's hardcore too far the opposite.

Okay, so either way on the pendulum, right? But like, you know, we had a baby in April. I found bankruptcy in September. When she had the baby, I went to the hospital, obviously. I took her to the hospital.

Rachel is delivered. I'm sitting there holding Rachel. I'd been there about four hours. And she says, "You need to go to work."

“You need to leave the hospital and go to work.”

I'm going to get that out of here.

I'm good now. Because the lights are going to get cut off if you don't. Wow. You know, I mean, that's the other end of the spectrum. It was actually an accurate statement.

She understood the reality of the situation. Yeah, and it wasn't like, I need you. I'm the emergency. Oh, my. She would have strangled.

If I wanted my daughters and said that, my wife would have strangled them. I love that about Sharon. She tells it like it is. You need to go to work. Get up and leave the hospital.

So, you know, so we had a guy apply for, what is it? He's not going to be the guy that doesn't want to work. Because they had a baby. And my wife's like firing.

I'm like, oh, no, no, you can't do that.

That's a legal. She's like, I don't care. He's a worse firing. No, it's not because that's because he's a worse day.

“That's why you need to get rid of this guy.”

What kind of guy does that in her world? A completely world. That does not compute. Yeah. You know?

So, my Connie, it's illegal. You can't do that. So, we're not going to be doing that. But instead, we will listen patiently. And then there'll be FML like.

Oh, God. Yeah. [laughter] So, I think we have Sharon taking some of this. We're grown up.

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George Campbell Ramsey Personality is my co-host. Amanda is in Houston. Hi, Amanda. How are you? I'm doing well. How are you today? Better than I deserve. What's up?

Hi. So, kind of nervous. And I know this question is very ridiculous, but my husband wants to get a hair transplant,

Should we pull from our house savings account so that he can do that?

It would be roughly five to seven grand. You're asking a bald guy and another guy with perfect hair about a friend. That is kind of funny. I need to see him.

We need Rachel here with the hair extensions to chime in on this. She just got her as I cut off. Just took the hair extensions out. She's back to short hair. How long has it been wanting this transplant? Well, he just really started getting insecure about his hair

in the last maybe like six months to a year.

“How old is he getting kind of like more more notice?”

So he's 28. And based on what his dad's hair line looks like, it's not looking too good in that. He seems to be writing on the wall. The pattern is maybe a pattern bald myself.

I'd be pretty insecure about your household income right now. Oh, over hair.

What are you going to be late off?

I know. And that's what I'm saying. I'm more worried about that. And he just kind of like. He's more, he's more of the free spirit.

Yeah. Like you know, like your work out. What does he make? What does he make? He makes.

And again, I know this is also the sourdake list. But he makes 120,000 with bonus. Okay. What do you make? Plus bonus.

I right now I make about 83. And what do you do? I'm in supply chain. And oh, wonderful.

And you know you're getting laid off at the end of June.

Yes. And you've known that for how long? About a month and a half now. And I don't you have a new job in networking. And I've had only two interviews and probably applied the two to 300 jobs.

And applying for jobs as you have found does not work. Actually connecting to someone inside the organization that knows someone that knows someone that knows you. Someone gets your name out of the stack. We get 15. Yeah.

We get 15,000 applications a year at Ramsey. We hire a few hundred people. So putting your name in the mix with 15,000 is useless. Don't even waste your time. So you've got to find someone to connect with with the proximity principle.

And I'll send you that book.

“And you should have a job by now because supply chain is a high,”

least sought after wonderful career field that you're in. That's awesome. And how much is in the house savings fund? 29,000. Okay.

Do you guys have other savings? We have a 49,000 dollar emergency fund. That's good. And then we have, like, 401k. No, that's what we don't count that.

And you guys are how old? You told me this. On 27, he's 28. Yeah, you did, okay. Thank you.

All right. You're right. It is kind of a funny question, but it's also not ridiculous. It's something he cares about. And you guys have done very well with money up until you're losing your job.

His timing for the question is really horrible. And it's suggestion to not buy a home instead of instead I want some hair. I don't think I'm going to make that trade. But is it completely irresponsible to spend $5,000 on this for him? No, not in your all situation.

So what I would do is say, okay, under these scenarios is where I would get the money. Both of you are now, when you get your new job, you got to save up an extra five grand out of your budget. And then he does it. And so it might be Christmas. Merry Christmas.

Yeah, and that's probably what we want to go get it done anyway. Yeah, so just cash flow it with your new job and with as a budget item. But I, there's just something that everyone listening, including me and George and you, it just feels weird to do plastic surgery instead of a down payment on a house. Yeah.

When you're in a stressful time on top of that with the layout. Yeah, you're not going to buy a house right now anyway. You got to wait till you get your job. But I don't think I'm going to use my down payment for Botox, a boob job or get hair. I'm just not.

I mean, it's my down payment money. So you're more like separate money. So those things are all okay.

“If somebody wants to do them, that's what you want to spend your money on.”

That's okay. I'm not mad about that. And I'm not making any ball jokes. I'm the bald guy. I can't do that.

That's completely illegal. It's against federal law. But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing.

But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing.

But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing.

But for the hard work, it's a good thing. But for the hard work, it's a good thing.

Well, that's the problem.

“So I go play just how many thousands of years ago.”

I go play racket ball. And I got in the shower and I got out. And I got my hair dryer out. And my buddy starts laughing at me. And he's like, you don't need a hair dryer.

I don't know. And this is when I realized I was bald. I knew it was getting thin. I didn't expect that. Except to draw some clothing one time.

But yeah, oh, too funny. No, anyway. Yeah, I just embraced it and went on. Of course, I was too broke to do anything about it. You guys aren't.

Well, I know it's not coming from my down payment money. I would do it if it's something that means something to him. But I would do it as a budget item after you get back to work.

What do you think, George?

Yeah, I agree with that. The stipulation would be you're working again. And we save up different money outside of the style of payment fund or emergency fund. Yeah. And just, then you feel good about it.

I would feel shallow to use my down payment money for a home, for my family, for my own cosmetic benefit. Yes. I would feel shallow. It's not like a. And I think I might even call you shallow if you did that.

So just wear a hat for six months. That does the trick too. I'd still do that. But I know it doesn't come from Dave. I've seen this.

He's being served up all of these videos on Instagram and TikTok of these things. What you enter in something you get in the algorithm, then it's stuck into the vortex. But all these influencers are going to turkey and getting their hair transplants. And so that's what you know this. A hundred percent if we had her on the line.

She's saying, yep, it's he's going to turkey. It's a special thing. It's a turkey. Yep. Specific to turkey.

The other dog's not going to come in turkey is $5,800. I'm going there to spend $5,000 on my hair. I think it's not approved in America or something.

“I don't know all the details, but I think that's why people are going to get turkey hair.”

Yep. It's thick. I don't know how they do it day. This is too much Georgia. I think you can know about.

Because I'm not on social media and you are blow my mind. I don't know how it showed up in my feed either, Dave. Well, you got perfect hair. So they were shopping. I was just intrigued.

They were shopping. They wanted to look like you. I didn't like the foreign after. You see those billboards? That's really photoshopped.

Mine's gotten so thin. I used to for a while there. I kind of had that late Sean Connery version. Oh yeah. Not even that anymore.

You did. Can I say you look younger than you did 25 years ago. With the comb over. Yeah, the little comb over thing. Didn't didn't.

And the masterma go glasses. Oh. They didn't do it for me. Yeah. I missed that era of Dave.

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Fantastic. Good. What's up? Well, I've been a stay at home mom for 32 years. And my youngest just got married a few years ago and moved out. So we're empty nesters.

And now my husband thinks it's the perfect time for me to go to work and try and contribute something to our finances. But I honestly, I just don't want to. And I have a lot of reasons why. I don't want to, but I just don't want to.

And I want to know if I'm okay in that opinion. Hmm. Did the family need the money? No. I don't feel that we do.

Our homeless paid off. We don't want for anything from paycheck to paycheck. You have money going into retirement? Yeah, my husband puts about 35% of his checking retirement. He currently has about 680,000 in retirement.

And he will have a little over a million when he retires in eight years.

Yeah, and what's your home worth? Our home and our our acreage is about 560,000. We paid it off last year. And so your, if you're worth a million to a million and a half dollars. And he makes what a year.

One 18. Okay.

“What is it that you're unable to do that the income you earn?”

He thinks is worth it. The family is unable to do X because you don't work. And he wants you to go on. We're not unable to do anything. We go on cruisers.

We. Eat out. We buy things when we need them. We don't. We're not missing anything.

I think it's more of a finally I can contribute money where he has paid our way all these years.

I guess financially, but I've raised our four kids. And even though they're grown and now they're out of the house. They still live in the same city. And I would like to still give you a support. Hey, mom.

No, we don't support any of our kids. Okay. So we would call you a successful mother. I think I did a good job. Yeah, they launched and they're not on the goal.

That's unusual in America. You're in the top 10% of motherhood. You're not in your basement or on your payroll. That's a win.

“Yeah, I think you've already earned your retirement.”

Um, so have you point blank asked him what problem does this solve for me to go back to work? I have. I want to see what. Well, he goes. It's just extra money.

That's not a problem for the money. It doesn't solve a problem. So is it that he's worried? You're not going to have purpose and get store crazy and do retail therapy? Like, what is he actually concerned about?

I think he's just hyper fixated on. Now I have the ability to. To add to the income of this family. He tells me that a no amount of money will ever be enough in retirement. And then there we go.

There we go. There's a fear behind all of this. Yeah, there's a lack of content. He is worried that you guys won't be okay. Okay.

There's two. I don't know how to solve this for you guys. There's a couple when you may end up having to sit down with someone. But there's two issues that are at the core of this and they're both spiritual. Okay.

Spiritual issue number one is contentment. And that's a spiritual decision. When is enough enough? And he can't get there.

So he's never going to gain from hitting as money goes any kind of piece because he can't.

Because he makes statements like and believes things like. There's never enough for retirement. And so that's a fear-based thing. You guys are in good shape. You're a millionaires and you started from nothing.

Congratulations. Your baby steps, millionaires. You follow the stuff. It's a way to go. That's problem number one.

And I can't fix that for someone else. I can just point it out. And then let them decide if they want to work on it or not. But John Deloni always says around here on issues in your life that are giving you angst.

And in this case, solving for peace is sitting down at the foot of Jesus and saying,

“"Okay, right, Lord, help me find peace about this money stuff."”

Because the way I was brought up, my work ethic, something is driving me. This fear-based stuff is driving me. And I can't find contentment. And so I know where to direct him to. But I can't do it for him.

Then the second thing, the second thing.

And this is even more problematic for me. Because it's personal. My wife left the workplace when my oldest daughter was born. My first child was born. She's been at home the entire time.

And she did not go back to work when the youngest child left home either, which is where you guys are. We were multi-millionaires by then. And we had plenty of money. You've got plenty of money.

She did not need to go back to work.

“And frankly, I did not want her to because I enjoy her being available.”

If I want to go do something. And she's not tied down by a boss. And so if I wanted to go with me, I want to go and do an event in New York. Or we're flying up to New York City to do something. And she can go with me.

I can be on Fox and we can go to a plane and go out to eat. But she can't do that if she got a boss, right? And so I didn't want her to. I wanted her. So that's selfish on my part.

But here's the core thing that I want to address that's bothering me. And because it's, I've had a hard time convincing my wife of this and I need to convince your husband of this. One of the reasons that Dave Ramsey is a major national brand. And has 35 plus years of successful radio career contiguous.

Without ever leaving the air. Eight New York Times best selling, I ate number one best selling books. A thousand team members and hundreds of millions of dollars of revenue is because my wife was a successful mom. If I had to go home and deal with a bunch of crap every day, I couldn't have gotten the things

done that I've gotten done down here at the office. If I was having to deal with drama and I was having to deal with neediness. And I was having to deal with high maintenance. And you were none of those. So you performed a very professional high-end, well-done job of mother and home economist.

And he needs to give you credit for that. I'm giving my wife credit for it. And it's not false credit. I promise you. I've seen people.

I've seen men and women who were there. They're potential in the marketplace was derailed by a high maintenance spouse. Mine was quite the opposite. And your husband was quite the opposite.

Darling, you are the reason that you guys have a million dollars.

Not his pity little hundred and eighteen thousand dollar job. You are the reason because your children haven't milked you completely dry like a whole bunch of entitled millennial brats have done to their parents because you raised good kids. You raised people of character. You are the reason that the wealth is there.

You've already earned more than he has. You just didn't get economic credit for it in the way our system is set up. I'm kind of pissed off at him right now. Okay guys, let me ask you something. What would it take for you to switch your bank?

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All right, good afternoon. That's good. What's up? I am meeting to be pointed in a direction. My mother passed away in 2024. And my sister and I have inherited her commercial properties.

And they have tenants and them currently. So there is rental income coming into the trust. The properties are going to be beat it over to my sister and I. And I was told that we will likely need to establish an LLC for the rental income to flow into and then expenses to be paid out of.

The caveat is that my sister has a history of stealing half of 700. 56,000. And not paying her share of our father's income and estate taxes timely. So that led to me being threatened with garnishment from the IRS, because I was the only one gainfully employed.

“How many properties are involved in this transaction?”

And what are they worth?

One was a praise at 4.2 million.

And one was a praise at 2.4 million. Okay. I don't want to be on a bank account with someone who has stolen money from me. I don't blame you. Why don't you just sell both properties and you guys go on your way? And that was the original plan.

However, there is someone interested in purchasing the lesser valued property, but he can't purchase it right now. So he wants to lease it for five years. Well, then he's not your buyer, why don't you just get some bios to buy it? Unfortunately, the decision is not up to me.

My mom left all decisions to be made by a trustee. So, and I am a lesser beneficiary. My sister's 60%, I'm 40%. So I don't really have a say. Is the trustee aware of her behavior?

He is.

“And personally, I think it's a conflict of interest that he is also my sister's trustee.”

Okay. Well, you need legal counsel to force the trustee to sell it, to liquidate the properties, because you don't need to be in any kind of a deal with her period. Yes, okay. Because, and so I don't care what we facilitate here.

I mean, you can sell the 4 million dollar one, and you take a 3 million,

and she takes the other property in a million. That's not 50/50, but yeah, whatever, whatever, 60/40 works out. Yeah. But I mean, you can sell that property and take your share out of that. It's about 1.68 million.

So there's 6 million, and you have 40%. So 2.4 years, right? Right. And the other property is worth what? 2.4.

“Well, why don't you just take that and give her the other one?”

Um, I offered to do that in the trustee declined. Why? Because the person who is in the process of purchasing it, he really wants to give this person the chance of the opportunity of owning that property. Why?

Who is this person? Um, this person was a long-time manager for my parents' business. Mm-hmm. Is the business operating in that property? Um, our family business, um, ceased in March of 2024.

There is another retail business in there now, and he is managing that business.

Yeah.

“I think you and your attorney need to sit down with the trustee in person and explain to them that we're not going to accept a process by which I end up in business with my sister.”

If you continue to push that agenda, we're going to sue you. Okay. I think that's you and your attorney need to sit down with your trustee and explain that. Because the trustee's job, their fiduciary responsibility is not for someone that's not a member of the trust. To do good for the family, general manager, that's not his job.

He's violating his fiduciary responsibilities, fiduciary responsibilities to the beneficiaries of the trust, which is you and your sister. So what benefits the two of you, and when you explain to him that you are not going to accept being pushed into business with your sister, that we are going to break this up. Um, you know, as a matter of fact, there's nothing that keeps him from dating the 2.4 to you and the 4 to your sister if, and then you deal with the guy. You don't have to sell the 2.4.

You can become the owner of it and you're waiting on the other guy to take 5 years to buy you out.

You could do that. We could, um, and I, uh, however, my sister is refusing. My sister wants to make sure that I end up with as little as possible.

“That's not up to your sister. Your sister doesn't have a say in this.”

I understand. Um, but because she's the bigger beneficiary, the trustee has explained it to me that if he doesn't follow her wishes as the majority of beneficiaries. He doesn't follow your wishes as he's going to get sued. Okay. He needs to understand that.

Okay. Yeah, it's time for you to take the gloves off and punch some people in those here.

Because these people are just, um, you know, you don't have to be mean about it, but you just have to be real tough.

And just like guys, I am, let's start with a baseline here. She's a crook and I'm not going to be in business with her. So we're not forming an LLC and we're not going to own and operate property together. That's not an option. If you continue to push that agenda, I'm going to sue all of you.

And we're going to be in court and I'm going to screw up your lives for the next five years. And I'm going to have to spend a hundred thousand bucks in legal fees, but I'm going to do it. Okay. Or we can work out something where I get my share of the property and go on my merry way. It's a pretty obvious thing that the two point four mathematically lines up with that.

Yeah. And she can have the four and I'll have the two. And Mr. trustee, God help you. You're out of business. You got nothing to do now.

It's actually a good deal for them because she's legally owed 2.64 out of her share. And she's going to take on the 2.4 property. So I would take a loss to get rid of this barrel of fish hooks. Yeah. I mean, but they're going to gain 240 grand just by going through with this by giving her this other property.

So it sounds like it's just vengeance. And then I may or may not deal with this general manager from the former business and all this stuff. I don't that'll be up to me because I'm on that property. You don't have to sell it.

“And you want to work with a guy that'd be an added thing to make the deal work, right?”

But if you don't want to work with a guy, you don't even have to do that. So yeah, I think you need an attorney that has a really titanium backbone that walks in there and just smiles and says, "We're going to dance. Do you want a dance? We don't have to dance.

But if you continue to play the music, we're going to dance." And you just kind of have to have these discussions and take all their mythology and their feelings off the table. Because I'm threatening you. That's where it needs to come down to. I'm coming after you.

And because otherwise you're going to end up getting screwed again, some more. And you're right. Letters don't change their spots. LLCs don't protect you from people who are irresponsible and crooked. They're just a more fabulous, sophisticated way to get screwed. If you can't change people, don't do business with them.

Yeah, don't. Just don't state. You know, if you know somebody, you know, crocodiles bite. So don't put your hand in their mouth. Hello.

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[Music] [Music] Laura is in New York City. Hi, Laura, how are you? Very good.

Thank you Dave and friends for talking with me. Sure. What's up?

I'm a 58-year-old divorced woman with a one and a quarter million dollar life insurance policy.

Whole life insurance policy that I have let laps. I can reinstate it. It would be a hardship and the $8,000 premiums going forward still would be a hardship. I guess my question is, I'm on the verge of canceling it. And I will be hit with a $50,000 tax bill, of course.

What's your question? My accountant confirmed it and the insurance guy who sold me the policy 25 years ago also said. Well, that I don't trust him because he sold you crap.

“So the only way you have a taxable gain on a cash value policy is if you're with”

draw all amount exceeds the amount you put into the policy throughout the lifetime of the policy. Every dollar you put into it forms the basis. I cannot believe. I have some.

You've had a $250,000 gain on this policy.

I don't believe it. I have some figures. So what is the cash value and how much do you pay in premiums? Okay, the cash value is $361. The gains is a 169.

So I guess that mass. The gains. $192. How much do you pay in premiums though? What we put in, I have the well, I was $8,000 a year for about $20,000.

That mass should be close to $192, $192. Yeah, $200. Okay.

And so that gives you the 169 gain.

Yes. I'm leaning towards the cashing it in. Yeah, I've got a cash at in.

“I've got to tell you, I've been doing this for almost 40 years.”

And I've seen like four policies that actually had a gain. I mean, I'm a guest that you actually have a gain. And so I'm still stuck there. But I'm glad you have a gain. He said it did quite well.

Yeah. He said it did quite well, I guess. Well, no, not really. I mean, maybe compared to money. If you had put in $200,000 into a mutual fund,

it would be a lot of money. Yeah. So it did quite well. Yeah. Okay.

But it did do quite well compared to the other crappy sales. Yeah. Okay. All right.

“So you need to pay the 8K to reinstate it before you can cash in.”

And keep paying it forever. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Yeah.

I have to pay the 8 grand to reinstate it. And then I think in August is the next 8 grand. Yeah. I think I'm coming to the conclusion that the figures you have, I think are accurate, even though it's very, very rare.

But I want to triple check the basis numbers and the actual gain. Because if they write you a check, the cash surrender value, at the time you cancel the policy, is 3601. Is that what you're telling me? They're going to send you a 3601 dollar check.

Yes. Okay. All right. Then if 200 is the basis, then you have 160 gain. And yeah, taxes might be approaching 50 grand depend on your situation on 160 gain.

That's possible. Right. But of course, you're going to have 3601,000 in your pocket to pay 50. You're going to net. But I think you can take that if you live a few years and invest that money.

And you would have a lot less taxes on a lot more money.

If you take that even after the $50,000 hit. So I'm 100% sure I'm doing it anyway. But I do want to triple check the numbers. Okay.

“Because here's the thing, sometimes these whole life companies,”

they're so freaking scammy that they won't give you a cash value number that's different than the cash surrender value number. Okay. Oh, so I should double double. Yeah.

So if you don't get a 3601,000 dollar check that you can cash and put that number into your bank account, then these numbers are wrong. Okay. If you can show you saying 360. Yeah.

So you said 3601 is your cash value number that you're going to get if you cancel out. Yes. Okay. If that's true, then these numbers, then you've got a $50,000 tax bill based on the numbers you gave me. I don't disagree.

And I would do it anyway. And I would cash it out. And I would take the remaining $310,000 in the after taxes. And I would invest that well. And I would be glad to be rid of these people.

But I'm still afraid that they're going to come back and say, well, that's your cash value number, but your cash surrender number that we're actually going to send you a check for isn't that far less. Yeah. I'm afraid. But I hope I'm wrong.

“I hope you have to pay taxes because you get 3601,000.”

That would be a better deal for you. Yeah. This final receipt of this tax bill is just one final nail in the coffin. So let's recap here. All right.

Number one, this is a very rare situation. Number two, when you hear people say these dumb things on TikTok in particular, it's come back again. Oh, well, cash value is tax free investing. Did you not share tax free?

I didn't hear tax free. Did you hear tax free? I didn't hear tax. A lot of taxes that you're tax free, I heard lots of taxes. Big tax.

Well, like, oh, you can borrow against it. It's amazing. It's what the wealthy people do. Yeah. Well, wealthy people are sitting in New York City calling me saying, I don't want to do this anymore.

I'll calculate to see if she had just invested that instead of putting in this policy. $8,000 a year. $666 a month for 25 years. You know, starting from zero. You're talking on the low end.

800 grand on that you're talking a million bucks at 11%.

So, she missed out on $640,000. Because this is that bad of product. That's a big out-cheap. So, when you said, "Well, when they say there's no taxes, just remember this call."

“The only way there's no taxes is if you don't make any money.”

That's true. That's the way there's no taxes. Life, if you borrow money, because borrowed money is not taxable. You don't get taxed if you go to the bank and borrow 100,000 dollars. You don't have to count that as income.

It's borrowed money. And if you borrow your own money, even, because you borrow cash about, borrow against your own cash value, which is borrowed on your own money, paying them interest to borrow your own money. It makes no money. It doesn't have taxes.

But you did pay interest and you do look kind of stupid. But then you use after-tax money to pay it back. Okay. Oh, there's that. Which is called like paying taxes.

Dinging the $8,000 thing.

But you could have had a million.

Stage you got $361. And, oh, by the way, if that was in a good mutual fund, it'd be taxed at capital gains rate, not ordinary income. This is taxed at ordinary income. These people should be ashamed of themselves that sell this stuff. $8,000 a year for 25 years.

That's some brutal and good of an a million, and it's $361. So, can you evaluate the calculator? Well, it doesn't run backwards and allow you to calculate the rate of return she got. I think it's about a 3% rate of return. Oh, I could probably calculate that if you put in the end number.

3% is about 300 grand. So, 3.5 is 3.18. I've got pretty close. Look at me. We're at, it's closer to 3.5%.

She made 3.5% on her money. So, anyone that's in the insurance business that wants to sell you an investment, tell them to stick to insurance because their investments suck. Complex does not mean better. It just means a bigger commission for the person selling it.

3.5% on her money. I want to how rich the guy is that sold it to her. Go look at the house he's living in. You paid for it. Wow.

That's great. I want to know how rich the guy is that sold it to her. Go look at the house he's living in. You paid for it. Wow.

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in your studio. Aaron is whether it's in Canada. I earn how are you? I'm good. Thank you for taking my call.

Sure. What's up? I'm calling because my late boyfriend died about four years ago. And with his family was very supportive. And I wound up inheriting all of his asset.

And since then, I have maintained his tradition of gifting. Each of his needs is enough. He's a cash fund or education experience every year. But I've recently gotten engaged. And my new fiance does not think it is appropriate for me to continue doing this.

“And I feel stuck with what is the best way to move forward.”

How did you end up inheriting the assets? Did he have a will? So he did not have a will. I was listed as a beneficiary on his life insurance. But we worked together and we were together for eight years.

So we did qualify as common law partners. And so the courts awarded you the assets then. The courts awarded me the assets. And I essentially, the last four years of our relationship. I had been in school and he'd really been financially supporting both of us.

Yeah. So I had gone to parents. So the whole situation was treated as if you were married. Yes. But I had gone to family.

And I said, I don't feel entitled to all of this. So let's figure out how to share it between siblings and his parents. And they had said, no, we feel very strongly that Cameron would want you to have all of it. And we're fine and you keep it. Okay.

And how much is all of this? Between the life insurance and the house and his savings and pension payout.

It wound up being about 1.6 million a little less.

Okay. And how much do you gift to the children? It's $1,000 a year. And there are three things that there's a fourth on the way. And my intention, you know, right after Cameron had died was he used to give him 300 years.

But I decided I'm going to do a thousand years until they're 18. And then, you know, a nice college graduation gift. And then, you know, over 18 years I'm at the floor, it will come up to about $80,000 total. Okay. So you inherited a bunch of money over a million dollars as a common law wife from your ex.

And you were in a relationship with him for eight years. And so his family is still, you know, you're still emotionally attached to his family, which is logical. If we just pretend it, let's just pretend, let's just change the numbers. Change the scenario very slightly and say you were a widow that you were married.

Okay.

“Let's just change the discussion and say that because that's how the law is treating this.”

Okay. And how his family treated it for that matter. And you said, okay. You know, my husband who passed away eight years ago has three kids. And he niches in an effused mental high he used to give him $300.

I give him a thousand.

So it's $3,000 or $4,000 with a new baby on the way a year out of 1.6 million.

Exactly. We'll be. Okay. The interest in the safety is this hand of the appropriate. So he, so my new fiance, he comes from a very large family.

He's one of seven kids. And he feels that it's not appropriate for me to prioritize my late partner's family over his. So he thinks it is most appropriate for me to stop gifting this money or to get an even amount to his. He doesn't. I don't think it's about fairness.

“I think I think he doesn't like the emotional attachment.”

If this was a boyfriend you broke up with, I would probably agree with him. But he died. Yes. Yeah. How old is your fiance?

32. It's kind of an immature approach. Yeah. Why can he not just stand back and say this lady comes. This lady that I'm dating that I'm going to marry is comes with, she's a package.

And a package includes her past. Just like my package includes my past.

And her past includes 4,000 out of 1.6 million, which is irrelevant.

Yeah. It's buying up your buying a biscuit. I mean, it's not even a, it's not even a, it's not like you're giving a high percentage or something. If you were given them 100,000 a year or something, I might go, well, wait a minute. But I mean, it's an irrelevant amount of money.

But I think like he's that my late partner's family.

And you know, as I see them every summer, and he's always been very supportive.

“But I think he comes from a family that does not.”

A thousand dollars is is realistically kind of a drop in the package to my late partner's family. But that amount for his needs isn't that used would be more substantial. You're irrelevant. For him to ask you to do that isn't appropriate. Okay.

That's what's inappropriate. Not you giving the other kids money for him to dare to feel entitled for his family because his family's poor. That they should be getting some of your money. That's inappropriate. Yeah, the way you've presented this, maybe we left something out or maybe we didn't understand something.

But the way you presented this does not leave your fiance in a very good light. Yeah.

I think we need to grow here and get some maturity and go, okay.

This money was meant for this. She's carrying out the wishes and tradition over here. This is not clinging to some past. You clearly love him. He loves you.

“You know, even if it was just weird or awkward, it's not that much money.”

It's not a hundred thousand dollars. I'm not going to pick a fight with my wife over this. You know, I mean, there's a few things I might pick a fight over money. Yeah. And it might be over a small amount, but this is.

And then the argument is of a false narrative that somehow his family is entitled to. Is they're not saying this discussion. The 1.6 million is hers. It's not his family's. I would look at that as a blessing.

Like what a legacy this guy left to my now fiance. Yeah. And how is that her up? And, you know, you're going to be marrying a millionaire. Exactly.

So I'm not going to focus on this little speck over here. See, him wanting, him getting concerned about his extended family. Not, he didn't want it for himself. He wouldn't be in selfish in that regard. Is the very reason I talk about having a prena.

In situations where there's extreme difference in net worth.

Like she's got a million six.

She needs to bring up. So that his family doesn't think or he doesn't think his family. They don't come after her. Exactly. Single ladies are a pile of money too.

Yeah. That's sorry. We have prena. Yeah. We're going to go ahead and state up front.

Your family gets not a. Nothing. And if you leave, you get nothing. This is the prena. Yeah.

So, you know, or if I kick you out, you get nothing. You know, so yeah, that because it exposes the crazy weirdness. Yeah, the actual inappropriate one is him. That's the strange part of the call. Interesting.

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I have no consumer debt, $125,000 cash and savings, and I paid off home.

Friends have advised me that I need to take out loans and buy a real estate in order to have deductibles to reduce my future tax exposure.

“Is that a wise reason to get into real estate investing?”

I almost made it through without laughing. No, that is not a wise reason to get into real estate investing. For the deductibles. Deductions. Oh gosh.

These are the deductibles. Yeah, so you want to explain why? Well, I'm worried your friends have watched too much tick-tock. I don't know what you're talking about with future tax exposure. I mean, you have no debt.

You have a paid off home.

And so if they're telling you to try to have more right-offs, essentially,

to lower your tax bill, that's a really stupid reason to go into a bunch of debt and leverage yourself. Yeah, so there's two ways that real estate can create a tax deduction. One is you can depreciate it. The capital asset portion of it, not the dirt. But the improvements can be depreciated.

And that just lowers your basis and you get taxed later when you sell the investment property. But you avoid taxes on that. That's good. Nothing wrong with that. I do that.

The other way is to do what your friends are suggesting, which is to take out a loan for the right off. Now, the way a loan works for a right off is if you pay out in a year, $20,000 in interest, you can deduct that interest on a rental property as a business expense. So it lowers your taxable income as what a tax deduction does.

It lowers your taxable income by $20,000, which means you do not pay taxes on $20,000 of your income,

because you gave the $20,000 to the bank. Now, let's net that out though, a $20,000 tax deduction lowers your income. Let's say you made $100,000. So now you're only going to be taxed on $80,000. So what it actually saves you is not $20,000.

It actually saves you the taxes on $20,000. So if you're in a 25% tax bracket as an example, make the math easy. 25% of $20,000 is $5,000. So a $20,000 tax deduction saves you $5,000 in taxes. Now, here's the problem. You gave the bank $20,000 to the debt from giving the government $5,000.

So we literally stepped over a dollar to pick up a quarter. Exactly. So you don't give the bank $20,000 to keep from giving the government $5. And that's not factoring it. That's what your friends are doing.

“We haven't even talked about the leverage, the loan, the risk, the tenants, are they paying?”

Is it more than the mortgage? There's a whole lot of other variables here. Now, there's simply that you're going to trade $20,000 for $5,000 in order to do what your friends are suggesting. So moral of the story is don't take financial advice from your broker friends. They're stupid. That's where this comes from.

That's it. Jaden is in Miami. Hi, Jaden, how are you? How you guys doing? Hello, well. Good. How come we help?

Yes. I have a question about acquiring a business and I just want to know if it's a good idea to do it. Okay. So it's a barber shop and I'm currently a barber and I just want to know if it's a good idea to get one. It's in the step is barber shop. Correct.

Okay. And what does it profit? What's the net profit on the business? Right now, monthly it's about there's nine employees and they pay each a thousand. So it's around like 9000 and there's four chairs that are empty.

So there's space to put in 13 people for. Yeah, but there's not there now.

“So and they're wanting to buy this business, correct?”

Yes, correct, correct. What are they asking for it? Fifty five or sixty fifty. I'm leading more towards fifty five and he's coming down towards that number. Fifty five thousand dollars.

Yes. Okay. So it's bringing in a gross revenue of nine thousand dollars a month, correct? Yes, sir. To 108 per year.

Right. And so what is the profit on that? I mean, I assume you have rent. Yeah, the rent right now with everything included utilities at the end of it. It's four thousand.

So I'll be poverty in around five thousand to save. It's a bad lower if I added more things. Like utilities or other things that I buy for the barber shop. Which will be no problem. So I want to talk about him that's operating it today.

Yeah. His expenses are rent. 9000 minus rent is five thousand, right? What other?

What other expenses does he have?

Well, he has the, well, why guess?

“He told me the Wi-Fi, which the cable and stuff.”

He does buy waters like low waters or snacks for the venue machine there. So because the rent itself is 3500. But I put in an extra thousand. So if it would make 40, the save of 4500 total with including buying the waters. Buy an extra snacks for the venue machine, keeping everything in order.

Okay. Which would mean that he's got a profit of about 55 or 60,000 a year. Is that sound right? Yeah. Yeah.

And he only wants 55 or 64 the whole thing. Yeah. I just I was wondering because I do have some, some debts at the moment. Yeah. I just was wondering if there would be a good idea.

Because I, I currently am a barber right now myself. How much do you make on your own? I make around like 6,000 a month. Good for you. Okay.

Are you one of the chairs? Yeah. Oh, well, right. I'm not currently at the barber shop. Okay.

Okay. So I would be buying it from him. Is he one of the barbers there? No, he is not one of the barbers there. Okay.

Right now since he's moving out the country, so he's trying to sell it. And right now he has one of the barbers. Well, there's 10 in there, but one of them doesn't pay rent because he's the one managing. Okay. How much debt do you have here?

I have around 24,000. And that's including, I'm still in school. That's the student loans and stuff. What are you studying in? I'm doing finance.

What are you going to do with your life? Well, I want to stay within the barren industry.

“That's why I want to kind of acquire this barber shop.”

Because eventually I do want to segue into the finance industry. But you would just do like he did then you'd be an absentee owner. Correct. How much school do you have left? I have about a year and a half left.

When is he moving out of the country? When does this deal need to be done? Oh, no, he already is moved out. That's the thing. Okay.

Here's what's front of mine.

Let me tell you what's front there in my mind. The deal is not a bad deal. Number one, you don't have 55,000 hours cash. That makes the deal difficult. We'd have to figure out a weird word.

“The structure we can probably do that for a minute.”

Okay. But here's the, but it might be a bad deal for you. Even though the deal is not a bad deal and it might be a bad deal for you. Because it might cause you to take your eye off the ball of what winning really looks like. So five years from today what winning really looks like as you described it to me as you graduate

and you have a career in finance and you might invest in a barber shop at that time. But your intention is not to be your primary income and career is not to be the owner or operator or hair cutting guy in the barber shop. Correct. You really don't have any intention to do anything with it. This just came upon you because you're doing this right now as a side hustle to get through school.

Well, I would, I first thought that but barbering is like a passion of mine but so it's finance but it's just that.

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“Lisa is with us in Tennessee. I'll Lisa, how are you?”

Oh, I'm good. Dave, thank you. Thanks for taking my call. I have a dilemma here. I'm wondering if I should give up my late husband's pension from the fire department to get remarried. I'm worried about financial security if it doesn't work out. Okay. So how old are you? We're both 69.

Okay. And I make eight to nine hundred more a month and he does my income this. So what do you make? I'm not counting the pension. What do you make?

Social security, which is a thousand dollars a thousand 69.

So you haven't worked. You've been living off the pension. Yes. How long has he been gone? Two and a half years. I'm sorry.

Thank you. How long have you been dating? About a year. I'm just excited to get more serious on my end. He's all he's been pretty serious. What does he make?

He makes about 4,800 a month. He has like 3300 from Social Security 1500 from his retirement. But he has a truck payment and he owes about 100 grand on his house. I'm get free. I own my house. My car. I don't have any credit card bills.

I've got money in the bank. I get IRA and mutual fund.

“How much money in the bank? How much IRA and mutual fund?”

Well, not a whole lot. I've got about 40,000 in savings in the bank. And 120,000 in an IRA and about 30,000 in a mutual fund. How much is the pension? The gross is 54, but the net I take home 4600. Wow.

Plus Social Security. Huge. Yeah. Well, I see your pause. I agree with your hesitation.

I'm trying to think how to 100% of the time I'm going to get married. And money's not going to keep me from it. Okay. But I need to be wise.

“And I think that's what's giving you pause.”

I want to wise means I need to be very, very sure of this guy. Why is means I need to be sure of this guy's plan to quit borrowing money. Get out of debt and bill wealth. Get out of the debt business. Okay. Because you're out of it.

Why is means maybe even a pre-nup that says you get something in the event to offset the fact that you gave up the pension. You know, your married three years ago divorce, you can't go back and get the pension. So you would need to take a chunk of his hide with you. That's true. That's when we put it.

Yeah, that's the way. Otherwise, there's just too much risk. Yeah, because it's $50,000 a year income, which is the equivalent of a half million dollar investment that you're giving up.

But I always would tell you to go live your life and be married.

And I think your act, you know, your first husband would probably tell you to live your life and be married. Don't let money stand in the way of a high quality life and relationship, right? I would not, you know, I don't want to have that as my principal or my guiding light. So yeah, I want to do enough pre-marriage counseling and discussion in a length of engagement that I'm 100% comfortable. A, B, that would include us getting on the same page with money, which means he's getting out of debt.

C, I want a million dollar life insurance policy on him. Okay. Doesn't cost that much if he's healthy. Does he smoke as he overweight? No, no.

He's very, he's very, very healthy. Okay, then it won't cost a lot, even if 59, it'll be, you'll be surprised. Go to Zander Insurance.

And then C, and this is the, our D, this is the last one.

And I don't know how to do this one. But I really would want to come away from a, you know, maybe a pre-nup that faded away that if in your wanted be a lot, you know, you would end up getting his house. You're too, you would end up getting less, you're three, you'd get less, you're four, you'd get less and so on.

“To where after five years, you maybe didn't get anything, right?”

But if this thing goes in and you've been scammed somehow and you gave up 50,000 dollars a year, I would want you to come away from it, leaving him wishing he didn't do this. Well, let me ask you this, my house is paid for, and if he moves into my home and he sells his home for, say, $400,000, or does that money go? That, that's the money that could be parked into an investment and have your name on it.

And the event something goes bad, that could be your pre-nup thing. Okay. Because it's not enough, but it's at least enough to somewhat offset this. I don't, I don't think we can solve 100% for this. The way you solve for it is the length of engagement to where you get super comfortable, detail the end-depth pre-marriage counseling, where you get super comfortable and agreement and alignment on no more debt,

where you get super comfortable and then a life insurance policy and then, you know, kind of a pre-nup lean on, and I don't usually do this kind of stuff. But I just, I'm worried about you, and if I'm trying to think if I was on, if he called in and said, well, my fiance wants to do this because she's given this up, what I tell him to not marry you, if he called in with this, and I'm, I might.

I'm kind of fighting against myself for a little bit, but it would feel different if it was going the other way. But if I'm just designing this with you and mind only, which is not a good design, I, you know, I'm going to tie up something of his, like the equity from this house and a mutual fund sitting there

for the first five years of your marriage, and then it's released.

Or something like that, you see what I'm doing? Yes, and why didn't you know I'm just going to kiss you dies, and I get the problem. Exactly, we're going to put you right back where you were, but a little better. Okay, and my daughters are on, after my husband died, I put both my daughters. I wasn't smart, but I'm the deed of my house.

I thought about putting it in a trust, but so he moved in here, and we're married 10 years. He doesn't get anything that the house goes to my daughters. I'm not even sure how all that works. It's up to you.

“You've set it up in a will and a trust, and you need to do that too.”

So you guys need to sit down with attorney and have wills drawn and have a pre-nup drawn and work through this. And you need to sit down with some pre-marriage counseling. This is complicated. Yeah. But, you know, after 10 years, who do you want the house to go to?

Your 10-year husband or do your kids? I don't think either ones are you one. I hate to throw him in the street, so your kids got a house they didn't need. Right. But on the other hand, he could live here until he died.

I don't know. Yeah, but if he's healthy, that could be a long relationship. He's really healthy. Yeah, I probably wouldn't do that. I'd probably say you could live here a certain number of years and then you have to move.

Okay. So this is not the rug.

“It's not jerked out from under him, so to speak.”

And your daughters don't get all like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, kind of thing going. But then his money to sell from his house should go. It should go to him after a period of time.

Okay. But if he took off in the first three years to offset what you're giving up is what I'm trying to figure out. He's saying. Yeah. You're giving up a lifeline.

So I'm not usually there's most of the time I'm not a pre-nup guy. I'm not going to go that way. Why? Why is on the show? You recommended it.

Look at that. Look at me.

Well, the one was consistent because it was a million six versus nothing.

And this one is not that. It's just a, just trying to make it right now. What I tell him to do that is he's got to be sure she's worth this. That's true. He's asking her to give this up.

And he's got to pledge something, a dowry to cover this. That's what I promised. Not probably what he's telling to do it. Listen, your home is your most expensive asset. And now you're ready to sell fast and for a lot of money.

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“Beth is in Wilmington, Delaware, high bath how are you?”

I'm good, how are you guys? Better than I deserve, what's up? So I'm trying to learn about retirement planning, because nobody's ever taught me. I don't really have a mom or a dad, like a personal person to go to.

I don't know anything about accounts, investing long-term savings. I want to make smart financial decisions, but I honestly don't know where to start. I didn't know if maybe you could possibly help me. Sure.

You called just the show. Well, I'm proud of you for going, hey, I'm 38. It's not too late for me to build wealth. And a part of that is setting the foundation. So we teach a process called the baby steps,

and that involves getting out of debt, having an emergency fund, paying for the past, so that you can then build for the future with all of this margin. Because that's the main reason people don't invest. Number one, it's their scare, they don't understand it,

and number two is they don't have the money to do it. So where are you at on this financial journey? Okay, so three years ago, we filed for a chapter 13 bankruptcy, so we no longer have any debt. Because of my medical, we sold our home.

We no longer have a mortgage. We paid for a brand new home, so we have no mortgage. Currently, I have maybe less than $3,000 in medical debt. It's new since then. We make $157,000 a year.

I make about 75, he makes about 82, 90, depending, you know, how much over time he has. We don't have any credit cards. So that's kind of where we are financially. You guys have any money saved at all?

That's the problem.

“That's where we keep going, where are we going raw?”

We have no money saved right now. Currently, if I look at my bank account, we have $48. That's a budgeting problem. And so we have an app called every dollar that we will give to you, the premium versions, you connect your bank accounts,

and you need some making a plan for every dollar. Because you guys don't have an income problem. You got a spending problem. Yeah. So when you do that budget, it'll show you pretty quick

where all your money's going. When you start to list out every line item, compare to your income, and the goal is to have money left over. Because you're probably taking home. What nine grand at least?

A month? Yes. You are about right. And I also get bonuses. I get about $2,000 in bonuses at the end of the month.

Depending. Depending. So I think you open that app after we get off. We're going to give it to you. And you sit down with your husband and I turn off the television.

All distractions. And then say, all right, let's start looking at June.

We're right here at the first of June.

Let's say all right.

“June's income is here. What are we going to do with June's income?”

And give everyone of those dollars a name and assignment that the two of you agree to. And when every dollar is assigned for nine thousand dollars, you're going to look down and go, where are we spending all this money? Because you don't have trouble finding it all. Because there's a lot of waste in disorganization and in impulse.

And when you don't have a plan to guide you that you stick to, this organization and impulse. And so you're going to look down and see what you spend on Amazon and gag. You're going to look down and see what you spend on the restaurants and go, Oh my God, no wonder we have no money.

And you're going to look down and spend on whatever. So you don't have a car payment. You don't have a student loan. You don't have any dad except this little $3,000 dad. If that's what I think.

Okay, so no. I don't have student loans. Thank the Lord. I do have a car payment that which is $900 a month. It's about $61,000 in total.

I have the pain on that since 2020. Is that would be a dad? Yes, yes. That is a dad. I'm sorry.

My mom and dad never taught me any of this.

That's absolutely nothing. I'm sorry. But when you owe somebody a payment, you got that. Yep. Yep.

So I do have. I have that. And then we do have leasing. We lease the grounds that the home is on. If that makes sense.

Mm-hmm. But it comes with sewer. It comes with trash removal and a couple of other things. And it's less than a thousand.

And climbing. Mm-hmm.

Because of tax racing, so.

Sorry, you had a mobile home. The modular. Yes. The modular. In 2016, modular home.

So it's newer. It's not old. Mm-hmm. But, yeah. And did you borrow money to buy that?

No. So here's the catch. The house that we had prior to this. We bought 494,000. We set for five years.

Maybe six. I sold it for $3,000. And $22,000. What netted me over $120,000? Mm-hmm.

That's about. So we took that.

“After, you know, all the background noise.”

You know, everybody we had to pay. Mm-hmm. I had about $116,000. But I could put towards this. And I paid it.

I have no mortgage now. Mm-hmm. But it's going down in value. Pretty much. That's the stuffy part about it.

Yeah. The hooker is in the next two years. I have a decent lump sum that's coming in. We're netting anywhere between $100,000. That's going down in value.

You get that whether you bought something that goes down in value or not. Yes. So we want to limit the time we own this modular home. That's the other problem. We can't limit it.

So we can't even climb out of trying to get a credit card or anything at this time. We're here three obviously. Like I said on the big grub fee. So we're trying to build something like a credit. At least my husband.

No, you don't need a credit right now. You don't need to build credit. You've been through a bankruptcy. I was talking about how we sell this. Even if we end up renting something.

I would rather be a renter than owning a thing that's going down in value. This is large. Because this $100,000 is going to turn into 30,000 and about 20 minutes. And I don't want that to happen. So we need to start talking about that.

We need to start talking about how we're going to get rid of this car debt. Like sell it. We need to talk about how we're going to get in control with the money we have coming in. And then you're going to see that you're dead free. Except for the home or the rental.

And we're going to build an emergency fund. And then you can start talking about your long-term investing. And we'll walk with you through every bit of that. We can show you out every bit of that. Let's start with the basics and the basics are let's get out of debt on a plan and build an emergency fund.

And not own $100,000 item that's going down in value. Or a $60,000 item that's going down in value that is dead on it. That would be the car.

“So these are the things where you have to start.”

These are big moves. And after all you've been through. You're kind of thrashing about trying to find some footing. And you just grab the slippery rock instead of a good one to step on. That's the problem.

So hang on. We'll give you to every dollar. Also send you a copy of the book. The total money makeover and a copy of Georgia's book. And between the two of those, the two.

You read both of you read both of those. And you start working on this plan. And you just start listening to show. You call us anytime. And we'll help guide you through your new.

Financially savvy life. Yeah. But it's not too late. I just crunched the numbers for.

It takes a year to figure it all this out from 39 to 64 25 years of investing 15% of their amazing income.

They'd have $3 million. And so I think we can retire with that kind of money. You can still. So the future sounds like this. And then if in the next three years you sell the modular home rent.

A little bit. Just pile up some money. And part purchase a home that you then later get paid off. You get rid of all your debt, including your car. And you start living on purpose with your money.

And build an emergency fund. Three years from now.

“You start putting 15% of your income away.”

Then at. And just a few years. You're going to have three million dollars in your 60s. Yeah. And the most basic financial literacy and this is something you've done for 35 years.

Is this? Don't owe people money. Increase your income. Live on less than you make. And invest the difference.

That's it. It's about three sentences. If you just do that, you will be unbelievably wealthy and have a great life. And if you tell people that over and over and over for 35 years, people will call you Genius.

You're a genius. You're a genius. Well, the hard part is doing it. It's easy to say it. It's fun.

But you always say, you know, personal finance is it's 80% behavior.

It's 20% head knowledge. You know what to do. But doing it is a pain. She could have Googled how to get out of debt. The hard part is doing it.

That's the tough one. And so she might have. She's still like how to put her on the show. Maybe she found us that way. Could have been.

If our SEO is working well. I don't think that's the thing anymore, Jordan. They got rid of that with AI now. Yeah. I don't think new acronyms.

I think there's been SEO in a while. How could you be that far? Now I'm the boomer. Who knew? I can't win.

An aging millennial. Oh gosh. Oh my gosh. Getting old. Yeah.

But we did take two different air calls on the show. I'm glad I was here for it. Yeah. Me with none and you with perfect.

That puts us out of the ramps to show in the books.

We'll be back with you before you know it.

“In the meantime, remember, there's ultimately only one way”

to financial peace.

And that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace.

Christ Jesus.