Harrison’s birthday, new screen time rules & family trips to Disney

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Yeah. Okay. Welcome back to another episode of Two Parents in a podcast "Why Are You Laughing Jules?" It's interesting, it's interesting.

“Hey, do you have to remember when we start that you're on camera?”

What? And we're rolling. Does the YouTube just show who's talking? Kind of. You can get my on camera when she's talking on these--

Sometimes. Oh, hmm.

I realized I never thought about that.

Look live. I'm very live. Um, well, we'll spare you singing, you happy birthday. Oh gosh. That would be crazy.

Wouldn't that be wild? I've been doing so much singing lately because I'll sing "Bubbs" Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. And she knows when it ends. And so she starts to do more.

So I think I sang it for 18 minutes this morning. You got a very nice voice. Thank you. You're soft. I do have a soft voice.

I don't have like the best rhythm, but I do have a soft voice. Um, what we've been laughing about with "Bubbs" before Harrison opens his presence from "Dules and P" because they brought him presence. And I was like, can you open these on camera? Um, I have to say one thing we were laughing about this morning with our neighbors is how

Winnie and Tate do more. But not always in, um, in. For food. For food. What does that mean?

Not always in.

“I think we taught it to them under the context that they'd use it to tell us when they”

want more food. But now they use it when they want more anything. So if you're like tickling them or kissing them or hugging them, we're singing to them. And they don't want you to stop. They just keep going more.

And it's the cutest thing ever. Um, okay. Go, birthday boy. Where we have to give him etiquette points is he, he did want the card. So we could open the card.

He reads cards so fast.

Like he'll be done with this in one second.

I feel like I need to talk away for the listener's sake. If you're on YouTube, you can see him out there. The delay was I was reading what the, the, what the card company wrote. No, but they wrote yet. Oh.

Um, there was a golf choke. What does it say? What does it say? Wishing you the very best year by par. Ha, that's funny.

Um, I guess pee was on card duty. Yeah. By par. Uh, I have a golf birthday to go to tomorrow. Okay.

So very nice message from Peejo's wrote. H, H birthday. Actually. Yeah. She didn't read happy.

Just H birthday. I almost wrote H, B, J. And I don't think I did. H, B, J. That's very nice card.

Thank you. It's very nice card. Thank you. No gifts necessary. No gifts necessary.

Okay. What's open them? No, no.

We're just card is perfect.

No. H open the gifts. Come on.

“It provides like a topic of conversation.”

I think. Okay. I just wonder what jewels and Peejo. Okay. This would make sense.

I think we have a cookbook. Yeah. This is a phenomenal cookbook. I love this cookbook. I do have one in this cookbook.

I know what it is. I love it. It's actually phenomenal cookbook. I, I meant to get it. This is a great cookbook.

It's awesome. It's the awesome cookbook. The awesome restaurants. Yes. And they're actually, they have the good restaurants in it.

That's why I like it so much. I got this. Yeah. I, this is on my tabila. So this is a phenomenal gift.

He does not have this. They got like swear tea. They've got like some great barbecue joins in Terry Blacks and Franklin. They have vera crews. And we did get you the ingredients to make the breakfast taco.

Oh. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Love it.

They're 10 or 10. This is what I deal with that. Damn it. Because it was just Jules' birthday, right? And I'll just tell you guys that we ended up giving her.

We gave her money to buy. I said glasses. Hopefully. Because I was trying to pick you out of pair cool sunglasses. I could do it.

So I like she can pick him out. And Harrison said, you know what? The thing about Jules is she's the best gift give her. Like the most thoughtful. Like the cookbook was nice.

And then there's the bags of the ingredients. Yeah. The thing about Jules on camera is that we do need. I need to get it to put a couple things in the refrigerator. That is so nice.

That is phenomenal. So much. And what's their secret ingredient? Because the vera crews tacos are our Harrison's favorite. So what I find so cool about this that I'd love to know is.

Did they get the the restaurants to actually like give like. They've got what so did do which is one of the best kind of like meat places here. They got the wild boar carnitas. They have from mats the barbara. I'm strong dip.

Oh yeah. They like nail the Austin staples.

But what's from Fonda? They have the.

The Chipotle lamb loin chops.

Don't keep reading them. You do work. We got it honey. They got something from clerks. They got something from Jeffries from Lambert.

Okay. Okay. Well.

“What's the secret ingredient in the vera crews taco?”

Well, I thought you told me that. Nothing. I don't know. What? Cheese.

Page 159, Joel says. So to give you guys the background of vera crews. These are our favorite breakfast tacos in Austin. Because they don't and they also they use all a car oil. I actually don't know if they do.

They do. I really. I just I actually happened to look on Sunday because I was there. Wow. Yeah.

Oh, 159 was maybe the salsa.

159 potatoes, sausage breakfast tacos. Yeah. Half cup of diced peel potato for eggs, pepper. No, tablespoon of vegetable oil. I didn't get the oil.

Oh, that's what we'll use avocado oil. Cup of sauces of choice, corn tortillas, onion, cilantro avocado. And their vera crews. Much of air day. So that's the salsa that they teach you how to make on 223.

I think yeah, I love this gift. So thank you so much. It's a great gift. Welcome. I'm really glad we did it on camera actually.

Good job, guys. Are you happy that I knew what it was? Well, I just got scared that you had it. No. First.

I like having meant been meaning to buy it. And well, I wondered if you're getting your cook books from the bookstore. So I saw it at the bookstore, but where I was going. I and that bookstore's awesome. It's a book, people.

Where is going? Wasn't going home after. And it was walking. And so I was like, OK, I'll get the citilated date. So where I have to give it to Harrison is he has been referring to cook books.

A lot. Like he really is going to his. You've got four now, I think. And I've created a app where I'm storing all my favorite recipes. He actually has.

He showed it to me last night. It's very impressive. So you can search the recipe very cleanly. And then it it shows the recipe, a photo of it. And if I make a video of me making it or there's another inspiration video, you can put that in there.

It's actually like really legit. We were looking at it and he's got it separated like breakfast lunch dinner snacks. And then you can also search by cuisine. So I went to snacks and I went to Goldfish and they was on there. Yeah, so that's pretty cool stuff.

Did you? Harry's kitchen.

“When you were meeting someone yesterday, did you accidentally text me?”

Where are you? Because I was going to the bookstore and I was like, how does he know that I'm going to give you this gift right now? Where are you? No. I texted you because of that video that I needed to film.

Maybe we'll just do it now. Got it. Oh, wait, that's in that creepy when somebody does that. Well, I was like, I felt guilty. Like going to go get the game.

Right. You're like, what do I do I lie? That's about our bigger of the week is is kind of along those lines. We could do our bigger of the week right now. It's to it.

Okay, this is fun. We'll do our bigger of the week off the top because it's not our bigger of the week. It's a scenario.

So basically this girl went to the grocery store.

Do you want to tell her what me too? After you. Okay. So this girl went to the grocery store. And her husband wanted her to get him a key lime pie.

And she came back and she was like, they're out of key lime pie. And he was like, no, they're not. You didn't even look to get it. So he calls the store. And she, this is where the video comes from.

She films him calling the store. And the store's like, yeah, we have key lime pie.

“So the question is, is that an okay lie in a relationship?”

So the video of this is hilarious. Like, because she's recording herself. Wow. He's calling the store. Okay.

She knows they probably have key lime pie. We will. So I'm not sure if you told this story the right way. I was kind of zoned out. She went to the store.

She just forgot the key lime pie. She forgot to get it while she was at the store. Yeah. Yeah. And she just came home.

What's the fish you're making? She was recording herself because she thought. She got home. And she realized, like, oh, shit. I got caught in the live.

Oh, okay. And so I'm going to record myself because this is hilarious. And they as a couple had a lot of fun with it. Okay. That said, my take on it is like, while it was a funny video,

I'm out on the lie because I think when you introduce any element of lying in a relationship, it creates a very slippery slope. Yeah. It's just a slippery slope. Is this a red flag on her?

No. It's like funny. But what she should have said is just like, yeah, I forgot it. But I love that he called the store because I would do that pregnant. He came home and said, I don't have, I didn't have your case.

So I beg they do have the case. Yeah. Where I also like got to sympathize with with the person who made the food.

Like you know you have a very specific craving. And like that's not like gets milk. No, it's not. That is like niche. And I want it tonight.

Yeah. But they were funny about it. But they were funny about it. But they were funny. But I definitely all in good fun.

“I'm, I'm, I'm anti, I'm just anti lying in a relationship because even on,”

even on the small things because then it, it starts to stop very slow. No, I agree. I agree.

And then if you hold yourself to the count to the standard of like I never can lie to them,

then you, those little things don't get to slide. But I bet some of the listeners have some funny things of like I always tell my husband, X, Y, Z. Yeah. Now, there, I also think there's a difference between asking for forgiveness and asking for permission.

Okay. That's a whole other, okay, asking for, I'm not fired. I don't have it had enough of my coffee yet. I know what that means. But what are you talking about in this context?

So, like. It doesn't apply to the key line pie. I'm just trying to think. So, I guess there's lying, which happened. I asked for forgiveness, not permission on your birthday.

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Okay, do you want to tell the story? Uh, yeah, well it's funny. I haven't given, why don't you say it and then all add any, any tidbits? Okay, so on Tuesday night, we had a happy hour in the neighborhood where we went and we talked about the school in our neighborhood. And so there was also mommy and me dance class for Taden Winnie.

So obviously we couldn't go, so I said to the dads, you guys are on duty. Number one, I saw them leave at the time that the class started. So I was like, this is already bad because it takes 20 minutes to get there. But I was like, whatever, like it's just cute the dads are taking the girl somewhere. Then I get on Instagram and I'm like, they're out of pool.

That's so not dance class. I loved it though. Like, I think, listen, you guys went, you had quality time with them adorable. Like, you didn't go to dance class. Yes, so neighbor Tenai, when he didn't even know we were on dance class duty.

And I called him up and I was like, I was like, are you where we're taking the girls to dance tonight? He's like, no, well, now I am. And we were just like, oh, I like should we take him to, should we take him to dance? Should we take him to do something else that's fun? And like, it just kind of came up and let's take him swimming and let's ask for forgiveness after the fact.

“And I think what we felt is like it's most important that they're out there and they're doing something and they're learning and they're developing.”

And like, whether that's in the swimming pool or in a dance class, like, belt very much tomatoes, tomatoes.

Like, as a collective group to go and do it, like, I don't think the girls cared.

The girls had a blast at the pool. Oh, I'm sure they had so much fun. And so that was a great example of like us asking for forgiveness. No, and I and I will say, I stated that I thought it was right for us to ask for forgiveness. Because I think if we ask for permission, it could have created conflict.

And then we would have gone against your wishes potentially. Yeah, that's so true. It just wouldn't have been nearly as fun to, to give you guys what have asked for permission. Because I don't want you to have to ask me for permission to miss dance class.

“The only thing I like about dance class.”

Well, number one, I bet he's listening to me. If you're listening because he emailed me and he was like, hey, did you guys get a new card? And I was like, yes, we did get a new card. Harrison will be at dance class tonight and he will give you a new card. And then he responded back and he said, if McDonald's doesn't have arch manning,

actually do the burger challenge, that's a huge miss on there, part and I laughed to myself thinking, okay, he either saw a clip or he saw the pod. So if you're listening, sorry Harrison hasn't come to give you our new card on file yet. Yeah. I did pay the balance, but I was just funny.

And the last thing I'll add on it. So there are two other things I'll add on it. Is driving to dance class 20 plus minutes? Well, because it's at five. Driving to the pool.

Three to four minutes. And so we factored in like girls in car, girls don't like car. And there's a really fun restaurant by the pool called pool burger, which we figured we could go get girls bunch of food after. And they had a blast.

They played in the rocks. Funny enough, we had some friends show up. The last thing we talked about, how do we tell them? How do we ask for forgiveness? And we thought that we'd be funny if we posted a story.

Okay, you have to listen to this though. If you tell me things on a story like, remember that one time you had my last bottle of breast milk and you dropped it and told me on the story.

“I think that's hilarious because that's like Harrison, you have to realize this about you.”

If you didn't take bugs anywhere inside at home and you were in your laptop the entire time. That's a big problem. I would be so annoyed because that's not fair to bugs. If you guys want to play hook you on dance class and take the girls swimming and like go have a blast. As a mom, like at my partner doing that, it's like the best thing ever.

And I think this is going to be like what happens with school as well.

Yeah, you're going to always going to be like, I'm going to be gone.

You're supposed to take bugs with school. You guys don't go to school at all and I'm just going to laugh and make that it's so her dad. But only because we're having a different type of developmental day. Yeah, but it's adorable. Like I, on my list of problems, that is so not one of them that to me is a good thing.

So I think it's really cute. I did joke when I got home and I was like, did they, because in dance class, they teach the girls to take terms. They teach that it's not your turn and then you have to wait in line. So I asked at the pool where their lines, did we learn to wait in line? Yeah, the dance class.

There is a lot that they specifically learned in that class that I'm supportive of. And they learned to say their name. They learned that they have to take turns. They learn that they have to put toys up. It's good.

Yeah. But like if they miss one, I mean, they're missing next week too because it's spring breaks. Everyone's off. You go back to the pool. But I think it's great. We taught them how to splash each other.

That's so cute. And they really got good at it by the end. Who, where did these outfits come from? Um, so good. Maggie's mom bought them for 8 to money.

Cute. Yes. And did you just like happen to have them in her car? No, we packed bag. Oh, you guys, do you knew you were going swimming?

Yeah, this was planned earlier in the day.

Oh, you were never, oh, wasn't on the fly.

No.

“That's why that's why it was an example of asking for forgiveness.”

Oh, is that why when I said, oh, my gosh, you have to go to dance. You're going to be late. You kind of laughed. Because I remember at 450. I was like, here's when you have to go to dance.

You're going to be late. And you were like, okay. No, that's a man. Like I cannot explain to you how I'm actually the opposite amount. I'm like happy about this.

I love little misgivious things like this. Yeah, this was part of the plan. Okay. So this is a very different I agree. The very different scenario of asking for forgiveness, not permission.

Yes. And when I think the key there is not lying and saying you, like dance was good. Well, that's a lie. You'll get caught in in one minute. Exactly.

Because I'll walk in next time of the break. We've missed you the past two weeks. Not like where was I? So that's just a, that's just a, you can't lie about that one. All right.

Let's move on to the bigger of the week. Wow. We're so out of order. Let's go to things that are happening. Okay.

So I went to this bump student event, which I knew was a bread making class. But I didn't know like for sure how, how intense was the bread and in depth was the bread making going to be.

We got a starter.

And we got two starters actually.

We got one that was already like made.

“And then we got another starter that we fed.”

And so whenever I got home, I got to bake a loaf of bread. And then I had my starter overnight in this morning. We made sourdough pancakes with it. And like I'm just having as much fun as I thought that I would with it. I love that you've taken this over.

Number one. Because I like really wasn't going to do it. Someone needed to do it. And I love how much you love it. How how did the bread turn out?

Amazing. It was good. It was. I cannot tell you. It was doughy. It was soury. It was bread.

It was awesome. Did you do the TikTok thing? We did it. I cut it. And I opened it to the camera.

I have the video. What's it called? Edited. And oh, no, I'm starting to lose my train. I thought really badly.

Our cut. Draft it. It's in my draft. So I'm going to oppose it after this episode actually. Okay.

Amazing. I'm excited to see it. So do you want to hear the perfect parallel between making sourdough bread? Yes. Do you want to make your bread skip?

Okay. So I thought about this. Because last night. They are truly the same. Except for you don't have to tend to your brisket every three hours.

Do you? Depending on how you cook it. Yes.

“Because you need to do temperature control.”

A lot of different brisket methods. Like some. Depending on the style you inject with juice. Some. You're like, you're the same way in sourdough.

Like you're putting. Doing part of the cooking process like. Let off. Let on. Let off.

You do wrap it unwrapped first wrapped.

But okay. Let me ask you this. Yeah. Do you have a, do you don't have a starter? They have to keep alive.

No. But like. You're saying it's an all day process. You're saying they're, they're direct parallel because it takes all day. And then.

It takes all day. You put a lot of effort in. And then. And at the end of the day, you're. Getting an end product that isn't generally nearly as good as what you can.

Get in. In the store. Mine was bet. Oh my gosh. That is.

I'm sure you're. That was such a bad take. You can truly tell the difference between. Homemade sourdough bread that's like only going to last three days. That on the counter versus this like because at the store.

They are just a little more shelf stable and like you can tell. So I actually have a very interesting. So you're going to take. I was going to ring you mine versus somebody else. I wish we did that.

I wish we did. Because what we'd actually blew my mind is. We buy this sourdough from like what I thought was like a good bakery here. And they had the ingredients on the back. The ingredient label was like horrendous.

They jacked it up full of so much stuff. And so I am. You're right. There's a massive advantage of the home baked. I thought the sourdough we're buying was like a three ingredient sourdough.

No, mine's a three ingredient sourdough though, which is yeah, which is amazing.

But the same thing like when you do buy when you do get like brisket a lot of the time, like it is jacked up with a whole bunch of stuff. You wouldn't want to accept obviously at the classics like Terry B's. Right. That's just a clean.

They do it the right way. But a lot of times there's like hormones and things injected into the meat to at barbecue places.

“Like that's why whenever we have ribs at home.”

I don't have like the meat sweats. But sometimes if I go out for barbecue, like I don't feel so good afterwards. Like it's just tons of crap in there. But your ribs at home like I really feel fine after. How did the meat matters?

I could do some ribs soon. All right. The other thing. Oh. So this is a little random.

I love random. But I'm just going to pivot here really quickly. Love a pivot. You got a suit. One thing we didn't cover in Orange County, which I wanted to cover.

Was Harrison got a suit for Baby Boy's birth, which I think is really sweet. And additionally, I love the suit you got because we talked about when he came home from the hospital would take he wore like a pink coat blazer. And he got a sport coat in Newport. It's really good looking and it's blue.

Yeah. I think I've told this story before, but if not, I was getting some. You know, before the birth, I spoke quite a few different people on what to expect. And one piece of advice that Tom Pitts gave me was. Well, I asked him about him about his about the birth of his kids.

And one of the things he mentioned he did is I brought a suit and got dressed up and took the kids home. And then I was like, interesting. He's like, if that isn't an excuse to wear suit, I don't know it is. And so I followed that lead. And in life today, there's like, I don't have a lot of suit and jacket occasions.

And I want to do it with every kid. And now the jacket means a lot to me.

That pink jacket, I always look at it as the jacket that I took.

Take home from the hospital and this blue jacket will now be the jacket. I took our summer when the hospital. I love it. And one day I can give it to them or her husband. I'll crazy with that.

And, uh, or turn it into like a blanket or something. I would say we can make a bear probably really cool bear. Anyone who's a parent knows feeding decisions are to one time thing. You make them again and again, stage after stage.

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“I think you should, why don't you wear it on the pod one day.”

Perfect. Yeah, the working out is, that's why I'm wearing a lot of workout stuff because it's just easier. But I got my body spec yesterday. Okay, tell us about your body spec. I'm in the exact same shape I was almost to a tee of right one tape was born.

Okay, interesting. Let me give you a compliment because not only. October 1st. I did my last. I did a body spec October 1st.

2024. Well, after tape was born. Yeah, so like, write that. Okay. 2 weeks after tape was born.

Yeah. So generally, directionally, the shape I was in when tape was born. Yeah. And I was trying to figure out where, like, went on October 1st. Did you have time to get a body spec?

Like, we'd never left the house for a second.

Yeah, I'm quite sure the date was October 1st. Okay. I mean, they're right beside our house. I believe you. And they take five minutes.

Never been. Uh, and so we're interested after that. It was all downhill from a health perspective. So I am quite curious if like this will be the peak of I can keep on my current. So here's the thing.

Hs remember you guys his New Year's resolution. I don't know if we ever set it out loud on here though. Was by he wanted to get in shape. He wanted to dial it in mentally and physically before the baby boy arrived. Okay.

And I have to give you major kudos because every single week you've done it. You've cut back on drinking almost entirely. It'd been like so impressed with that. Once a week. Once a week he drinks.

Um, and you're working out how many days a week, five, six. Fiveish plus minus five days a week and you're working really hard. Like you're just dialed right now. Very focused. And you didn't just do it for a month, like we're in March and you've done it.

So you're going to do it up until the birth of the baby boy. What are you saying with Tate is after that at all went to shit. And I get that. Because like then you're in newborn land and I think that's a tail as old as time.

“Like that's how the term dad bod comes into play.”

So yeah. So you're back where you were with when Tate was born.

Why I'm hoping I can stay on this trajectory is because where my workouts got blown up.

The last time was I was doing them in the morning. And now I'm doing a lot in the mid noon. Right. And the morning workouts just don't work. And the afternoon workouts don't work because either like.

Well, you can there's no better excuse than I'll just do something different besides the afternoon workout. Yeah. And like you really once the child can and it's like you want to be there. You can't be home. Leaving one person to take care of either one or both of the kids.

So yeah, and I was talking to Alex Costa about this yesterday. Like the the thing that I really noticed about working out in health is you do get to a point where like in the early couple months of working out. Like every time you go to the gym or every time you do physical activity. Like I feel like you're just climbing a mountain.

But then you like reach a point where the workout doesn't feel uphill.

It almost feels downhill. And so the idea of like, all right, I have an hour window. I can whip for a quick run. Like feels easy and natural versus like, you know, is full of of feeling like there's a mountain front. So I'm hoping I just like at that point.

Like a run just doesn't feel like a big deal. Nothing feels like a big deal. And I can just go and stay on the current trajectory. But I know exactly what you just described. I know exactly what you're talking about that feeling.

I'm very far away from it. But I have felt it many times in my life when you get in shape. It's when you get in shape.

“Yeah, but like I think you need to be in really good shape to feel that.”

Yeah. Because even though like I've been on a good couple months ran here. I'm still like not there. Like the idea of just like after this just like impromptu. You know, taking a five mile.

Gander. That's the right word. I get that feels like a mountain. But you could be, it's still like, I've been in rumble shape, right? We're like, I can go do a rumble class easily.

No problem. But then I go do a berries cloud because it's a different kind of in shape. But I do think there is such thing as like you get acclimated to what you're doing. Um, I think this is a good little transition to. An interesting study. I saw on the relationship between sleep working out and health.

Okay. Tell us. Um, I am just going to pull it up. One quick moment. Okay. Okay. So these are two sleep studies.

Both from the University College London. Okay. You see how. Okay. And the first one is they looked at nine thousand people.

And these are nine thousand adults over and they look at these adults over 10 years. Okay. And people aged 50. And the key finding was that highly active people in their 50s and 60s. If they didn't, if they slept less than six hours,

a night they lost the cognitive advantage that exercise provided. I have two things to say on this number one. It always gets me when these studies are over the course of 10 years.

“I'm like, who have the attention span to study somebody for 10 years?”

And who also have the attention span as the study E to like show up and turn in their data?

That's always incredible to me.

Number two, they say sleep is the root cause of everything. And I've tried to outrun that many times in my life. I think I could do five hours of sleep. It always come like I'm better if I sleep. Yeah.

And so it is their reminder of like, you know, as I'm like out there trying to eat really healthy. Trying to work at all the time. Like you can't forget about like this low hanging fruit of nailing sleep, which is obviously like really hard to do when when you have a newborn. But I saw a very interesting study this morning.

Okay. Also from UCL. Okay. UCL crank them out. Which talked about how I'm going to pull it up again.

So I can nail it, naps slow brain aging by six and a half years.

“And so I think that with parents a lot of the time like there is nothing you can do”

to fight, there's nothing you can do throughout the nights of early, of early babies and toddlers. But like, let's lean into the naps. Let's find, let's find the nap window. Well, if naps are slowing brain aging by six and a half years, I'm good. Yeah.

I'm napping once a day right now. Yeah. And so a couple, a couple focus items for me on sleep right now. Okay.

And this is the big thing that I want to do around my sleep.

“Because I think my sleep is pretty good.”

Okay. But I saw a tweet from the CEO of eight sleep. Okay. And if you don't have an eight sleep mattress and you like a cold temperature. And by the way, I think they say that you're supposed to sleep at like a 67 to optimize your sleep.

Eight sleep is phenomenal. It's also great because one side of the, um, of the temperature. One side of the mattress can be one temperature. The other side another for your partners. You can, you can both be very comfy.

I love my sleep. Example, my side's off because I like to sleep normal, but his is cold. My is very, very, very cold. So he said one of the biggest drivers of optimizing deep sleep is not eating within four hours of bedtime. Interesting.

So you're supposed to eat at five, let's say. Exactly. Sort of bed at nine. Yeah. And why is that?

Because I think I would be hungry before bed. But why? What is the study say as to why? He, he didn't point to study. I think what he was referring to was looking at customer data.

So I think he was looking at customer data with in the eight sleep community. And I'm sure some polling that they did, which is all right. When you look at the people who have the, the most hours in deep sleep. What are the commonalities between their behavior? And one of them was not, not sleep, not eating within, uh, within four hours.

I'm going to bed. I think the why in that is your body. Just eat your bodies focused on breaking down foods and digesting as opposed to doing that when you're awake. And when you're sleeping, your body can focus on resting in recovery. I think it makes a lot of sense.

Um, and I'm down, not pregnant. I'm down for that. I'm down to at least try that.

Because I always think like, you do feel a bit groggy if you eat, then go to bed.

Right.

“And they always say they say walk like the best thing you can do after eating meal is walk for ten minutes.”

And I'm always seeing people talk me about that. And what I like that you're talking about right now is just a couple like consistent things that have been around forever. Number one, like walk. Number two, eat before you go to bed. Number three, prioritize sleep.

Like we can do that. I can do that. Those aren't these aren't pads. Yeah. And so I think we just like, back to the point of routine.

Another, so I kind of look at what are the key things to do to optimize. Talk when I sleep and look at what are we doing. What are we not doing? Um, so yes, walking after you eat,

getting sunlight first thing in the morning.

Um, but where I want to go, oh, the other one was routine was going to bed at the same time. I think both of us can once the baby comes. I think that that's something we can dial in on together. We can move up an hour right now. We waste an hour and I've just chilling in bed.

I totally agree, but it's kind of nice. But what I was going to say is like, if you're adjusting our routine around, all right, if we're going to eat at five, I'm going to eat at five with bobs, like, making sure we have enough time for her to go outside.

Because she's because right now we eat and then play. So right now we play and then eat. Yeah, we could change that up. Bubs love to go play. What we kind of play eat play.

So, you know, how about, okay, so, we eat and then all play, right, which would be good for us because we go outside and walk. Okay, I like the stage. I like what you're talking about here. So, tates on this thing right now where she goes to the door and she knocks on the door because she wants to go outside all the time.

And I was talking to a couple of my friends whose kids are in or around the same age as Tate, which is like that 18 month old mark and they're all doing it. All kids are wanting to go outside. So, I wonder why that is. They're fun.

It's fun for them. It's fun to go outside, but I just also think it's really cute because it just kind of came out and know. We're at one day. The other thing she's doing, which is like right out of a movie is like at the side of our house. You can look out.

You can see a yard. We're now the kids are starting to play a lot. And like we brought her in for dinner and like she just went right to the couch. And we're just watching all the kids play and like hitting the window. And it's like she just like wants to play with kids right now.

I think Bubs like we got up dinner and once you have dinner you can go back and play with them. Like that such like storybook classic family interaction of like the kid wanting to play and meeting to come in for dinner. But Bubs, it's dinner time. You got to eat. Let's be honest, guys.

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I've been really emotionally about a lot of things. Your birthday had me emotional this morning with you and Bub sitting at the table. Because I just thought about this photo. I took a photo of Tate and Harrison eating breakfast this morning at the table.

“And I'll always remember that was your birthday.”

And those are the moments that you look back on in 20 years. Oh, this is you and your daddy, you were one here, it's his birthday. Which I just think is really special. And the other day, Bubs was up really late and we were both holding you. We were taking turns holding you and singing to her.

And I just thought to myself like these are the days.

Like in 10 years, these are the days we're going to wish we could go back to. Not in 10 years, but in 50 years. And whenever I see her looking outside the window to see those kids, I think this is very like nine. Our street is very 90s childhood.

Which I love, which reminds me of the conversation I had. Whenever we went to this school happy hour and what the school happy hour was. It was a mom on our street. She was like, okay, a lot of us have questions about the local school. So what we'll do is we'll get a group of moms of kids that go there.

And then we'll get a group of, you know, moms that are looking at going there. And we'll do a Q&A. And so we did one. And they said two things that stuck out to me. And the first one was, which this is great.

Our pickup line is on foot. So a lot of times at school, you hear the thing of like, "Oh, I had to get there 45 minutes early just to get in the car line." Well, at this school, you walk.

“The majority of the parents, I think it's like 70% of the parents can either walk there”

or they park their car and they walk anyways. Because there's not really like a spot to form a long line either. So a lot of the parents get to know each other number one. And number two, she was saying a lot of her other friends that go that they have car line pickups.

She's like, "You know, I've never even really talked to Sally that much because we're always in our cars that pickup."

But they're always on foot at pickup. And so they're like going to coffee afterwards. She said sometimes you'll stand out there for an hour and just talk to people. And I thought that's a really cool dynamic that I haven't thought of. Because I remember walking out of my elementary school and looking for a mom's car.

And then it pulls up and they call your name. Whereas this one you walk out and you just look for your parent in the crowd. Yeah, my elementary school had a pick-up lane. I think majority have a pick-up lane. The school does not have a pick-up lane.

It does not have a pick-up lane. Number one, it can't. Number two, it doesn't. Which that I want to say something else about that reminded me of what one of our friends said to us, which is always do pick-up. Always, if you can be the one that picks them up in the car or picks them up on foot, do it.

Because what happens right after school is the kids have a ton of energy. And they're talking about everything that happened to school. And so did this happen with this teacher. Oh, my gosh, there was a food fight. But by the time they get home and they see their parents.

And you say, hey, how was it? Good. But right after school and they're all talking to each other. Just stand there and you'll get all the scoop. And I thought that is the best idea ever. Yeah, I want to clarify my understanding of what she said.

Is she said, I think the delineation was that when you pick them up and you're picking them up with a friend. Because then you hear them in the friend talking. Well, so it's both how willing and open and much energy they have to talk to you. But I think a lot of it is like you actually sitting and hearing what they're talking about with their friends.

“But I think that's how I understood what she was saying.”

I think it's twofold. I think that's as they get older. They talk to their friends a lot about things. But right when, I mean, you know how it is. Right whenever I leave a meeting, I want to call you right then.

Yeah. Because all my mind and it's fresh. And I want to tell you everything. Okay. By the time I get home, I'm like, I don't know.

It was fine. Yeah. I understand that. So I think like the point is it's like hot off the press. Right when school ends.

Yeah. So either way, just be the one that picks them up. What do I think is a great tip. The other thing they talked about with this school, which I loved is. It's not the nicest school on the planet, right?

They don't have the cream of the crop when it comes to like technology or something like that.

They, their curriculum is great.

So if your kid is advanced, they stay in the class.

“If your kids fall in behind, they've got tutors there, right?”

So it's like they're very academic savvy. But also she said, the way that the school feels is warm and fuzzy and happy. And it feels how school should like imagine the cafeteria. You can pull up every morning. What's for lunch and say, like, don't make it pack your lunch or do you want to have lunch at the school?

Or mom and dad can bring you lunch? Like it just made me think about how my elementary school was that way. It was warm and fuzzy and it was happy. And they said a lot of times like the nicest X, Y, Z doesn't translate to like the richest experience. And this, this school has that very sweet, happy.

You seem to walk away from from the evening with a real positive taste in your mouth. Very positive taste in my mouth. I was really excited about it. It was just everything I wanted for buffs in terms of school. Like, I just want her to love school and this felt like a place where a lot of the students love school.

But it was funny. You know, I had asked questions about safety. You know, I was like, how do they know if, you know, and tutors are coming in the building? One mom had asked about how do they handle bullying? And I just thought, wow, I'm really a parent.

Like, I'm officially like I'm asking these questions.

“And you have to like raise your hand and be like, okay, how do they handle this?”

How do they handle if it kids having a hard time reading? These are the things that I know. What audiobooks? Audio books? Audio, yeah.

They just listened to the books. I should have said that, Joel. So I'm like, oh, have you heard of audiobooks? Same thing as reading. They can just listen.

But one, one, yeah. So I don't know. It was just awesome. I thought it was cool. There were so many moms there and I just thought it was like a really cool city.

I was like a really cool city. Yeah. If you were to ask me, and I'm going to kind of go back to something you're talking about, because it's struck a chord. Unlike our street has a 90's feel.

And there's a lot of older kids. Like kids two, three, four, five.

And they're always outside playing.

They often shut down the street and then a group of young kids is just biking. And we're running around and chasing each other. Drawing chalk. And the list goes on. And I could keep the list going on, but I know you and Jo's don't want me to.

We don't.

“I think the commonality when I talked to all the parents is like, they are massively avoid”

a ton of screen time. But here's the thing. All of the kids every day. Yesterday, it's actually at six. All the kids were outside in the lot.

Next door. Like these kids are outside. But Austin hasn't had fun. Yeah, but we have a good climate for it. But also it's taught me the importance of living near other kids.

Totally. Because it bobs didn't have anybody to run outside and play with. I don't know that we'd be saying the same thing. Because it would be a lot harder to entertain her. But I also love that the mindset of the neighborhood is get the kids outside.

Like, you know, we're talking a lot about the street. But when you go to the park, the park slammed as well. Yeah, we tripped and fell and moved into a phenomenal area. And I think we liked the house and we liked the walkability. For sure.

We were going off the diet coke index, which I don't know if you guys remember. That's Harrison saying how far is it to walk to get the nearest diet coke. We have a great diet coke index. We have a 10. I would say no.

We have a 9 diet coke index. We have a 9 on the diet coke index. And what we weren't looking at at the time was any of the stuff in terms of the street or with kids, and we got really lucky there. So it's great.

Now, I want to talk on this. One of the things that Harrison and I DMed each other was the American Academy of Pediatrics updated screen time guidelines for kids, which is exactly what we're talking about. Okay.

And basically, they used to ask how much screen time kids were getting.

Now they're asking what why and what is it replacing. They compare it to dessert, which is it's just it does not replace a meal. It's a nice to have. You don't have dessert every night. But it's something that you can sprinkle in after one meal, right?

We all know that we all know the spot that dessert plays in our life. Yeah. Okay. So toddlers 18 to 24 months. They said it should still be very limited.

If used, it should be high quality programming. And this is the part co viewed with parents. So they're starting to talk about not just popping your kid in front of a screen and walking off, but can the parents be part of it? Yeah.

Can we watch the wheels on the bus and can we do the motions together? Ages six up. There's no strict universal number.

So it doesn't interfere with sleep.

Physical activity schoolwork play time. That's where it becomes a dessert, right? So it's not, it's not instead of physical activity. You don't watch a screen instead of going outside and playing. It's not instead of schoolwork, and it's definitely not instead of family time.

It's a Saturday morning slot, right? Yeah.

“No, I think I love that there's so much attention now being put on the matter.”

And our government agencies are consistently looking to update their guidelines based off the latest.

It feels like generally this is a step in the right direction. I think the dessert anecdote is super interesting. I love the suggestion around doing it together. I don't think you touched on this, but like the added point of being able to discuss it with them after the fact. My take those, like, it still feels like far too lenient or far too like encouraging of obscene time and like, I don't know.

I think that to not have limits, it probably leads to a situation where things get taken advantage of what you got to look on your face. No, I did, and then I forgot what I was going to say. Well, I'll, I'll kind of, at the end of the day, like I'm just hoping that our children spend as much time out of the house developing real world skills as opposed to behind the screen behind screens. Don't get out. I remember what I was going to say.

Sorry. What you guys have talked about before. So the old guidelines that did focus on like a number that you should or shouldn't do.

“Yeah. And the new guidelines are just how you should do it. And I think that's just reflective that technology and screens like are more and more inevitable.”

Because I don't remember when those last guidelines were published, but like maybe they were published 20 years ago when. What was the suggested time on the last one do you have that? Um, zero to 18 months is zero, 18 to 24 months. It's also very limited to to five is one hour per day and six plus no timeline. To me, it's surprising to not have a timeline on six plus and like an hour day seems like a lot. I don't know.

Yeah. To me, like, a hour feels like, uh, like if you look at it, if kids are on average, if kids are home from four to eight, okay? Four to seven. So let's say there's three to four hours where the home after school. You tell me that anywhere between 25% and 33% of their time is like spent on screens, that feels like way too much. I get screens are going to be part of every kids lives and they like that is the reality of our situation.

I do hope we spend as much time with our children outside of the house and helping them develop real world skills and. And I, yes, sorry to cut you off, but I do get it. I do get, you know, like give a parent's birthday and they're like, we just, we do the hour of screen time. I get it like you've been at work all day. You guys get home. It's, it's a lot. And so I don't, I definitely don't knock it. I just think for us, you know, we've got our area. We've got our strengths and our weaknesses. I think one thing we talk a lot about is like trying.

Heck, we try to limit our own screen time. Let's see how for her little brain like trying to, too. Yeah, and that's where I think that's where I know I want to put my effort.

“Yeah, is on and that's what it takes. It takes effort.”

It's on exactly because spending as little time as possible with them behind the screen as much time as possible outside and how and fun.

Because what I've noticed with Bubs is it's 20, I mean, we yesterday Harrison was gone from 5 to 5 40 and I'll never forget Bubs and I were outside.

But I was drenched in sweat and she wanted to do the same slide over and over and over again. And it's just like, these kids have the most energy, like they're not, she's not going to sit down for 5 minutes with me and like drink a water. So it's go, go, go. Yeah. It's just constant go, go, go, which is the cutest thing on the planet, but it's as a parent you have to be more alert.

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Apparently. Show her like your on TikTok. Yeah. It's like shocking to see. So like I've heard that when you turn your screen into the gray mode, it just makes it a lot less fun.

A lot less enjoyable. So like. Wow. It is a lot less enjoyable. Yeah.

I'm sorry. Like I put your on TikTok. It's enjoyable. My screen time, let's just do an accountability check. Okay.

We'll see what my screen time is. Maybe to you and then we can be bit. So it's a bit of a past week. Okay. That's really good.

Let's see how it goes down better than mine. Okay. Let's see. That gray. Wow.

It's really boring. Yeah.

But it's like watching black and white television first color.

It's a tail as old as time. Black and white is not as fun to look at. Yeah. Should I say how you turn that mode on? Yeah.

Tell us. Okay. I'll just pull it up quickly. Oh. I should do it with you.

But I don't want to. Because I love seeing. I love color. Okay. So when you are on your.

iPhone, the way to do it is you go settings accessibility display and text size. Color filters on and then gray scale. And then what I've done is I've created a shortcut as well. And so to do that, you go settings accessibility accessibility shortcut and color filters. Wow.

And so that way like when I do want to turn it. The color, you just hit that three times and it turns it the color. Oh. Yeah. You know what?

I don't like the shortcut.

So.

“Do you know why I think you need the shortcut?”

It's because like we do do a lot like a posting and you can't post in black and white. Why? I just feel like you're not going to like pick the best photo. Oh, but you can. Yeah.

You can do it. But like, you know, especially. Yeah, especially for you where like, you know, it's. I don't know that I'm jumping on this band. I'd number one.

I'm proud of my screen time. What's your screen time? It's good to be bad this week. How do I know how to find it? Well, I'm about to travel.

So when you travel, it goes up. My first and yours. What is it? I can't believe it. What is it?

530. That's the highest. I've been in a very long time. Tarn it. It's because I've been in bed a lot.

I don't. You don't feel bad about that. Please. But I'm happier when I'm reading. Like I just am.

Maybe try your Grace. Come on. Maybe I will try it. Okay, maybe you can turn on the shortcut for me afterwards. Usually I'm in the threes on my screen time.

I'm like pretty upset by that. Okay. Let's go. I want to talk about something else. Okay.

All right. So she was just giving us a head nod. No, I just love this topic. I think it's really interesting. Yeah, I love this next one.

So basically. All right. This next topic we're going to talk about.

“Where should a dad take his daughter to go to the bathroom?”

So a dad made a video. And he said, hey, guys, I'm a girl dad. Today we were on public and I didn't know which bathroom to take my daughter. And what I did was I went to the girls bathroom. I opened the door and I leaned inside and I said, hey, guys, I'm a male.

Isn't anybody in here? Nobody was in there. So it took his daughter in. And then he heard somebody come in. He stuck his head out.

He said, hey, I'm a male. I just want to let you know. I'm in here with my daughter. And he said, but I don't know where I'm supposed to take her to go to the bathroom. Can you guys weigh in?

I'm just a dad looking to do my best here. So I looked at the comments. And the comments said overwhelmingly, it was women in the comments saying, as a woman, we don't care if you come into the bathroom. So please bring your daughter into the girls bathroom because everybody is safe in the girls bathroom. She's welcome in there.

You're welcome in there.

That's like all of the comments are saying, but then I was thinking about it. As a mom who's got a little boy on the way, I know let's say I'm in the airport, which is a very crowded bathroom typically. Okay. I know when he's three or four years old, he's coming to the bathroom with me.

“And all the time in the airport, for example, do I see moms in there with their sons?”

That's where the son goes to the bathroom.

I've never thought about where you would take tape to the bathroom when she's three or four at an airport.

Because that's a really crowded bathroom. You can't stick your head into the bathroom and it airports as anybody in here to be packed. Yeah, I have a couple comments on this. So the first is when it comes specifically to airports, they all generally have the family bathrooms, which are very good. And I find the respect of usage around this family bathrooms is very good.

Like maybe I can count the amount of times on my hand where I've been normally they're open, but where I'm waiting and the person who comes out isn't with the family. Like nine out of ten times, the person who comes out of there is with the family. Totally. If they aren't with the family, then they get my best dirty luck.

I have a question. Yeah. Sometimes I will go in one when I have Ginny at the airport because it's easier for me to handle. Like otherwise, she's like in a little tiny stall with me. So is that okay?

It's okay if it's not okay. But sometimes it takes an install with me. Yeah. 100%. But like my dog, I have no problem with it.

It's a problem. I bring her in the stall all the time, but if the family ones open, I'll use it. Because she's sitting in her bag on top of my suitcase.

“You have to like push that in and then push it out and then she's just like chilling.”

I don't know the take on dogs. I don't know. I don't have a view on this. Okay. Well, that tells her view.

I want the listener to weigh in here. I want to hear the listener be on this. Have you guys seen the funny? There was like a viral TikTok though of all of the dogs hanging on the back of the bathroom. It's so funny.

I have not seen that. I want you to clip this one and I want to know. I'm actually very curious. In Virginia, I want to dog emoji so they know Ginny dog. I don't think it's because I do see both sides of it.

I do both. Yeah, because like I listen, you're not. Here's where I think we have to delineate with you. Here's my question.

“Have you ever walked out and they've been a family waiting for you?”

No. No. Because I will say that even when I'm in like when I'm in there with butter and I walk out and there's like a family with like three kids. I feel terrible. My heart drops.

I feel like I shouldn't have been using it. Obviously, I didn't see them there beforehand.

I got there before them, but like I do want to call out those airport changes because like the airport family bathrooms because they are amazing.

Now when it comes to this specific situation on the dad wondering, I hadn't thought about it because at this point right now butter comes into the bathroom with me. So she comes into the boys' bathroom. Do you guys have changing tables and boys' bathroom sometimes? Normally we do.

Okay, great. I'd say like as I thought about this question, most of the time we that she goes to the that I take her to the bathroom, it's it feels like it's at restaurants where like it's two bathrooms for both genders.

But H you got it. You got to answer the question. You're out of sporting game. There's no family bathroom. They're very crowded bath.

There was a girl's name. My initial default would have been. And what I've been doing is I take her into the boys' bathroom. I don't know at what point that changes. I would have thought that like I wouldn't have been allowed to take her into the girls' bathroom.

So because I see where this dad that made the video nailed it, I imagine he's at a very not an awkward place. I'm imagining the coffee shop by her house where there's a girls in a boys' bathroom. There's two stalls in there a lot of times they're completely empty. But I don't know how he I because I agree with you here.

He can't go in to the girls' bathroom at a really crowded place.

I don't think I would never care if I saw him in there.

But you'd feel so weird. As I think about this, it does surprise me how many bathrooms we go to are like one-off stalls. And I know that isn't helpful for this. So I'll give you a take.

Yes. Okay. My take is right now like we go into the guys' bathroom. If there's an age at which it changes, I'd love to know when that is and when it should be on my radar.

Totally agree because I would like it on my radar too. Because I want to follow the best procedure, the best practice on this.

You want to come correct and like for me it's easy.

She goes with me and we have a little boy he goes with me because that's very normal.

“And I always remember that's just a thing.”

When does he stop going with you though? Okay, that I do think about a lot though. Like when can I don't know six? Seven is that when you let him go by themselves into the bathroom? I don't know.

I have no clue either. People can let us know. Yeah, the people with kids older than ours will. Yeah, I feel like it's probably correlated to like a series of other things you let them do on their own. Yeah, but like yes, sending your kid into a bathroom on their own.

Yeah, I mean you have to stand right outside of course. We got to make sure it's also a bathroom with only one entrance and exit. Like at stadiums, you have two. Yeah, what if they get confused in there and go off the other side? Oh, man, there's so much to think about.

Do you remember the first time you got lost? That's a great question. I don't think I've really been lost knock on wood. I don't remember the first time you got lost. No, no.

Yeah, I don't think I've been to start now, but I don't know how to do it. I don't think I've been lost in the Alex. Have you ever been lost?

“Never in like, like for an extended period of time.”

But like I definitely recall like getting lost for like short periods of time. Like from your parents. From my parents. I recall like at the grocery store like needing to go to the front and like ask him to approach my parents.

No, so that I've never had.

Yeah. Oh, you were probably so scared. Being lost was very scary, yes. I know. But I know that they'd never like leave me.

No, you wandered off. I would imagine, no, you. Yeah. You know what I, so this is actually a funny story. And like I've stopped doing pranks.

I pranked certain part of my life, but we went to we got the grocery store the other day. And I was there with neighbor T and I thought we were going to the grocery store together. And he just scampered off. He wanted to divide in conquerors. Very felt very lonely, very abandoned.

You wanted to go together. And so my game plan was like, I'm just going to go to the front. And I'm going to page him. But he got to the front and he was already there checking out. Oh, he totally left.

He also didn't have his phone. Of course not. Yeah. It's so funny. So they're going to do a page.

Okay. So speaking of talking about, you know, somebody wandering off. Okay. Where in here there's a leash. There's a leash topic.

I want to find. Ah. Okay. Listen to this. One of the most common reason kids end up in the ER at Disneyland is for dislocated shoulders.

Parents grabbed their hands when they run off. Who knew, maybe a time in a place for leashes. Food for thought dislocated shoulders. Because they want to run off so bad in mom and dad are pulling them back. So leashes dislocated shoulders?

No. Leashes would solve this problem. They're saying the kids trying to run off. And the parents are yanking them back. And it dislocates their shoulder.

One of the most common reasons that kids go to the ER at Disneyland. Someone told us that in the comments. Listen, if there's a time in a place for leashes, I would think Disneyland would be one of them. Yeah. You want to say, like, how does that happen?

But then at the end of the day, kids can bolt it. Especially at Disneyland. That's like magic for them. That is the magic kingdom. Of course they want to run off.

So have we talked to Disneyland yet or no? No.

“Let's talk about it because I think about it a lot.”

When do we think we're going to take Bob citizen on for the first time? So I didn't grow up as a Disney kid, right?

And I never went to land or world.

I always said before I had a kid. I was like, I'm not going to be a Disney parent. We're not going to Disney. The way Tate's eyes lit up even this morning when she saw your birthday balloons. I cannot not take this kid to Disneyland or Disney world.

And I'm so excited to show her all of it for her to dress up for us to stay at the hotel on the property. Like, I want to go full Disneyland or full Disney world. So no, we haven't talked about it. I don't know what age we do, but I just want to let you know I'm down. I'm almost down to go yearly.

So I think it's the cutest thing ever. Have you been to Disneyland? I've been to Disneyland one time for like an hour. And do you know when? Whenever I lived out in LA.

I didn't even write, did I write a ride? I like went for the food. I also want to do like the around the world drinking thing. But I saw TikTok on this. They're only like they're all very close.

All the worlds are very close. And so you don't even have time to sky. Who was making the video about drinking his mango margarita. He was like, you would think when you went to drink around the world that you'd get your mango margarita. And you'd have enough time to drink it from one world to the other.

One continent to the other. But you don't. It's all. You don't know around.

I'd say I've always wanted to do it.

“Expo West is across the street from Disneyland.”

And I didn't know that. Two years ago, we like walked over to the, like, there's part of Disneyland you can go into without having a ticket. Yes. And like I was very impressed by just like the general vibe that was going on there. Yeah, I'm sure.

And so. Why don't we do that? Why don't we always tack that on? Why don't we say to Bubba, we go and work to it for dad and we go on a fun trip for bobs? What does comfort that carries you from the morning tonight?

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With that's what I like had this conversation with someone and I guess it was Alex cost. Yeah, it wasn't me. Okay. Yeah, I think that that tagging. Why don't we take him and his family too?

Yeah. So this little conversation we had. And I thought a really exciting component of it is like you tag on like two days a new port beforehand. So my trip is new port. Your trip is exposed and bugs and little bugs trip is Disney.

Now let me ask you this. Do you know it, Disney? There are restaurants and things there too like at night. Is it just, this is a full kids trip or is it like we can go get a nice meal somewhere? I, I, so what is it in Typhoon that is very close to the property and then Typhoon is one of the best restaurants in the world.

Okay. I think it may be like the highest grossing best food chain. So good. That exists. I've seen people who know.

In terms of dollars per restaurant. Okay. Fast food. Quick service restaurant. Chain restaurant.

Chain restaurant. Chain restaurant. Yeah. So yeah, it's like. No, I'm excited.

“They, they, I think they've got it dialed.”

I think that we're going to want to do it our way as well. So that way, but I think they make it so that way the adults can also have fun. Clearly, they do because they, they've, all I know about Disneyland is they've just, or Disney World, they've just done something so right that it stands the test of time. People still go back.

They make family trips out of it and the adults seem to love it too. Like something about it. They've nailed. I don't know because I haven't experienced it. He loves it.

He loves it. He loves it. And, and something about it. I don't know. I don't know until you don't know, but like, yeah, but I think that speaks to it is like, is

it, is it? Can be a magical place for, I'm sure it's a people. But here's where I met in life. Yeah. I was so excited for your birthday today because I wanted to put bobs in her happy birthday

to the best dad outfit. Mm-hmm. Like everything for me is so much more magical being a mom. Easter include like I decorated for Easter.

I've never decorated for Easter in my life.

Totally. And I've already got her Easter basket. I've got the stuff that goes in the Easter basket. Like we're, like, we're, I've already got recipes I want to make for Easter. I don't know.

Do you know what else? I've noticed how myself in 2026. Fill in this blank. Hold on. Fill in this blank.

My 2026 hobbies is the year for me of hobbies. Okay? I bake sourdough bread. And I play Majon. Two things that I never thought would be in my vocabulary.

What? Do you know what the third thing is for me next? What? What comes with this? Does anybody know?

Can anybody in the room? Guess? Somebody that Majon's bake sourdough bread. What's usually grandma? Peat?

I have no idea. I don't know. The needle pointing cross situation.

What is it?

I got, I got you that for Christmas.

Yeah, I'm going to be like crocheting something. So I have my take on Disneyland. Okay. What is it? I want to do one day.

Oh, no. You got to do two days because you're going to lean into the one day. But do it more often. So if I don't want it to be like three days every five years, I want it to be like one day every year.

But because I think that one day, I'm sure she'd want to go for three weeks. Right? She would want to go for three weeks. We go for one day.

We nailed the one day. We're all in. And we do it every year. Around I exposed. I have to push back on the one day because I think on the,

I think you got to at least do two powerhouse days. Because I would imagine on the one day you get there and you think you know what all you want to do. But then they're like, can I please go to that right? Can I please try this?

“And you have to have the second day to do that.”

I'm with you.

I don't want to go once every five years.

But I would like to go once every two years. Okay. I love to throw just Disney out. Like I just think how. The other thing is I think you got to plan it around like non-work days.

I think you got to avoid it on weekends. I think you want to do it on like a Tuesday Wednesday. I think you must. I don't, I bet that it doesn't even matter though. Really?

I'm sure. Oh, I like to me. There's no way. I guarantee there's no way that that Tuesday is busy Saturday. And what's going with the fast passes.

You just pay to get to the front of the line. But. But. The genie pass, which is what? Like they look.

Yeah. Oh. You can book it ahead. Oh, there's a genie pass. So you can book your rides ahead of time.

I might be doing that. Yeah. Yeah. But beyond that.

“I don't think you can avoid it just being a zoo.”

You want to avoid it being a zoo.

I think it's always a zoo.

It's what I'm saying. You know, I don't think I don't think Tuesday, 10 am is. Some people be able to tell us. Somebody will tell us. He's telling us right now that I'm right.

Tuesday. Tuesdays Wednesdays are the same. It's worth like taking the day off. 100% worth of it. You can do more and.

Look. I mean, listen, Disney's for sure in our future. And I can't wait on the day. I'm excited. Like, I love the phase that bobs in right now.

But I can't wait till bobs starts to want. Like right now she wants to go outside and I love giving her that joy. I can't wait until she wants to go to Disneyland or something like that. And we get to give her that joy. Like it'll just be awesome.

Um, okay. Okay. Speaking of travel. Travel it. Because we talked about this last week where I said, every time we travel,

I feel like we get back and take hits a milestone of some kind. To which Harrison said he doesn't think that that's actually I think. To which the comments say travel actually does help kids with milestones. Number one.

New environments stimulate the brain. So getting them out of the house. When toddlers travel they experience new sights, sounds, people, languages, foods and a new routine. This novelty activates learning networks in the brain and

can temporarily increase curiosity, attention and skill practice. Yeah. I want to read clarification here because like that very much describes my mantra around parenting. Okay.

It's just like putting her in new environments, giving her experiences and letting those experiences lead to her developmental progress. What I was like kind of debunking or what I was pushing back on last week was like you take her for a trip and then like,

you know, there's like a switch flips. Like to me it's very much a gradual part of her growth and development. Well, the last bullet point. Okay. I was in a state.

So routine disruption can also temporarily boost development, which is exactly what you're talking about. Being slightly outside a normal routine, sometimes pushes toddlers to practice new skills like communication, flexibility and problem solving.

Also this though, development often happens in bursts after stimulation. So that's what I think it is. That that to me summarizes what I'm saying. She goes on these trips.

We get home. Boom. She knows new words. Boom. She knows how to knock on the door.

Yeah. I'm very pro travel for a bunch of reasons.

“And that's why she's traveled so much here to for.”

But I'm just saying there is a direct link between us getting a normal trip and her unlocking new skills. Okay. All right. I accept and I'm glad and happy to be wrong.

And I'm also prepared. I think that I said that we're pausing. The. Have we said that we want to pause the travel? Only for big occasions now.

We have to pause the travel because I'm on baby. But I meant like, yeah. The travel is great for all ages. I'm upset at myself for not giving travel accredited deserves. Travel is great for people in their teens and people in their 20s and people in the 30s and people in their 80s.

I love travel.

So many of my amazing life experiences.

Okay. We know you love travel. So I don't know what I'm saying here.

“I'm just saying I thought that I thought that there was something happening.”

Every time we got home from a trip. That just shows that there is some signs that backs up. Yeah. And and you're right. And I should have been more on that.

But we don't have to travel every month. So like a locks. Like that's all with the same. Yeah, for sure. It's just saying yeah when you do go on a trip.

And like we are home for a while now. That's why I'm doing sourdough. Yeah. What what does jump and strike a chord there is like. The routine is so nice.

And she's so good in every teen. And having that reminder that like there are benefits to breaking the routine. Even though that is like it's harder. But being off the routine constantly is also not good. They need structure.

But structure is the foundation spontaneity. It's that. No, it's a fun balance of of parenting. Okay. The last thing that I wanted to discuss is Costco now offers cheaper access to IVF treatment.

Which the number one comment on this was. Can they run the country? Like what a really cool thing to give people. A affordable access to IVF treatment. Costco isn't doing IVF itself obviously right.

But it partnered with the healthcare platform called Sesame and a fertility clinic network. To help members access fertility specialists and IVF treatments more easily.

Which I just think is amazing because I want everybody to have access to this.

Hold on. The big savings here comes from medications. Okay. Quality drugs a major part of IVF costs can be up to 80% cheaper through Costco's pharmacy pricing. Which is amazing.

Okay. So this could save patients five to ten thousand dollars per IVF cycle. Which is huge. So members can pay about ninety nine dollars a month to access consultations, fertility evaluations, care coordination.

And then get referred to IVF clinics with discounted pricing if treatment is needing. For context. Let me tell you this. IVF can cost 15 to 30 thousand dollars per cycle in the US. This could save you.

And the goal here is to reduce that obviously. Okay. So this could save you five to ten thousand dollars per cycle. Which is just incredible that they thought of this and did it. Yeah.

Fantastic offering. And I think strikes two chords. A one obviously giving people a price break on something that is very, very important.

“And then I think secondarily it's like, then taking on this offering and the awareness”

it brings is is also obviously a really positive thing. So this is this is really cool and great to hear. Yeah. It's really cool. And I think that it's something that a lot of people struggle with.

So I think somebody like Costco adapting this.

Doesn't help normalize it right because it will never be normal to those people.

But I think it does help normalize the conversation around it and further giving them access to this. I think is an incredible thing. So I'm really happy to hear the Costco's doing this. And then the bear I said that was the last thing.

I do want to do this because Dr. Ari did answer it. And you guys love the Dr. Ari episodes. So do we because we learned so much from her. But it's nice to see that you guys are so many questions for her. Yes.

I would like to ask you a question on that. What? So we obviously love Dr. Ari and are keeping those recurring episodes. If is there anyone else that you think would be helpful to get in the mix? Oh.

As either a guest or a potential recurring guest. Let me help you also. Let me further this question for you because we love having Dr. Ari on and actually want to extend our invitation to her. Because she just gives us a wealth of knowledge. So we don't need another pediatrician.

But is there is there another topic you guys are curious about with a specialist that we could talk to that wouldn't be a topic that your pediatrician would know. So is there one of us? Or recurrent. Yeah. Like speaking of the Costco stuff, we did a fertility specialist with a Dr. Lucky.

Like is there anything like that that you guys want us to do? Let us know in the comments. Okay. This is a question for Dr. Ari and she did send over her response because of the thorough gal she is. How do you introduce allergens to kids if you have an allergy? Are your kids automatically allergic?

Long answer. Allergic disorders are hereditary. Exima food allergies seasonal allergies asthma. A child has an increased risk of having an allergic disorder. If one parent has allergies and an even greater risk,

if both parents suffer from allergies.

“But the best way to reduce that child's risk of developing a food allergy is to introduce the higher”

allergenic foods into a babies diet by by slash at six months of age and offer them regularly. Particularly eggs and peanut products three times a week.

For example, I'm lactose intolerant when I'm not pregnant.

Okay.

“This was one thing that I had read about.”

So I started giving tape. We give a real milk real cottage cheese so she doesn't develop the allergy. And we started that at six months. If the parent has a food allergy and an extremely sensitive even to skin exposure, create a food prep area cutting board utensils for your baby that won't risk cross contamination

and wear kitchen food prep gloves to clean the high chair and your baby after meal time. Let's face it meal time. Can be messy. So that's a really, really, really helpful response. My biggest takeaway in it is if the parents let's say both parents have a peanut allergy.

Introducing it at six months, three times a week can help decensitize the baby to it.

As always, thank you, Dr. Ari.

She's the best. She was an expo. She was an expo. I heard you came by and said hi to you. Yes.

She's really sweet. And I looked forward to our next episode. I look forward to all of our episodes with her. Okay. Happy birthday, Harrison.

We love you. Thank you. I love you too. Thank you. That's very nice.

Oh, you guys, it was Joseph's birthday present on Monday.

Today's Harrison's birthday present. Please subscribe to the podcast and send it to a friend for his gift from you. And you know what else for your birthday? What?

“How old are you guys to go follow him on Instagram?”

How Alex? What are you at Harrison? Are you Harrison Daniel Fugman? What's your, what's your at? At Harrison Fugman.

Thank you. I mean, I had to block you on block you this morning from my story because I wanted to upload your balloons last night. Um. I was like, how are your balloons?

I always spoke to him. I was like, how do you know that? How do you know I have balloons? All right. We love you guys.

Thank you for listening. Thank you.

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