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Got it. OK. Shall we go there? Sure, we're going through a smoothie area in our house. Oh.

So that was remnants of the frozen berries. Yeah. Big smoothie area. It's quite nice. Well, Bubs above started at Bubs Love Smoothies.

And then the problem was, when we would order iced coffee to the house, she would think they were smoothies, and she wouldn't understand why she couldn't have it, so we started making her smoothie. And then we were like, we want to smoothie. And now, all of us just drinks through these all the time.

Can I share the recipe? Sure. Of course. The manna, frozen berries, protein scoop, Greek yogurt, Greek yogurt, and splash milk, and peanut butter, peanut butter powder.

Nice. No ice. Oh, I put ice in mine. No ice. The frozen berries do it for you.

“Oh, that's why mine was running today, probably.”

All right, ready? OK. Welcome back to another episode of Two Parents in a podcast, Happy Monday Morning. Happy Monday Morning. We are here in the studio recording, and I was excited to record today.

As was I, it feels like it's been a long time since I last recording. This gap from Thursday's Two Mondays feels like a long time, but there's so many things I want to talk about. What do you want to talk about? Well, some of the top of your mind.

There's one thing. OK. In particular, that will be a surprise to you, but not like an exciting surprise. Oh. Yeah.

I should have prefaced that. OK. I'm not as excited as I once was, but still tell me I love a surprise. OK. So let me guess.

Yes. Please try to guess. Give me a hint. OK. This week.

Plans this week. Oh, we're going to the rodeo. No. That is not the surprise. OK.

Because I think we're going to try and do that anyways. Yes. Yes, for sure. OK. Where am I this week?

Here? Well, I told you so. LA. No. I said something about this week.

Where am I this week? I don't know. Where are you? Am I gone any nice this week? I don't know.

This is a trick question. You do know that. Yeah. You're gone one night. OK.

You're coordinating with the friend who's coming in. Yeah. To stay with me. OK.

“Well, like, what do you know about this about this?”

She's for sure coming? No. Oh my goodness. This is not going according to plan. Am I am I gone any night this week?

Yes. What night? We don't typically tell the listeners. OK. We can believe that.

[BEEP] OK. Where am I going? LA. No.

Chicago? No. Bittenville. No. Well, Target Headquartered Minnesota?

No. Well, are they headquartered Minnesota though? Yeah. Fuckies.

You never asked what I was doing.

I thought you were going on a work trip. And I figured you were going to something. I kept all I carefully said was I said, I'm out of town this night. Where are you going? You never asked what I was doing.

This is a price for me or you. It's a surprise for me. Where are you going? I signed up for a race in Houston. I'm driving in Houston to do a race on Thursday.

Here's it. Yeah. But I would go. I don't-- I don't-- you and Bubba's don't want to drive three hours. Oh, but I'm really proud of you.

Do you know why I'm so proud of you? Why? This means you want to cry. That's what you're going. Yeah.

Oh, okay.

“That's why that kind of read it thing like landed.”

The what that thing I sent that maybe we can read later. What was it? About like the guy eating the pizza. Oh, yeah. Doing it by himself.

Yeah. He's like, I-- Like, Simmons, you got to do stuff by yourself. It's a nice, you got to order. Yeah, pizza.

Like, what was-- This had to be a me thing. Garlic rolls and sit outside and then hide the evidence. But if you guys want to come, I'd love you to come. I just-- I didn't want to put any pressure on you guys to come.

Which is why I didn't tell you about it until now. Because you said like, all you want to do is nest. You don't want to leave the house. So I thought it would have been unfair to put any form of pressure on you to come. And I felt like I needed some workout accountability.

So that's good. The bad is my training for this race is horrendous. And I'm not going to do very good. So I almost didn't want to talk about it. Because there's a bunch of training that I was supposed to do that I didn't do.

So it's a high rock race and there's eight exercises.

And I still have never done three of the exercises.

So I'm set up to fail, but I'm still going to do it. What are the three years you haven't done? So the three that I haven't done is there's a sled push, a sled pull,

Wall balls is the heavy balls you throw against the wall. Yeah, I haven't done the weights of them. And apparently like the ground is really, really hard. It's like the ground creates a lot of friction. So it feels like a lot more than a weight.

And so you're supposed to go ahead and practice your technique. And then the wall balls, well, I've done wall balls before.

“You have to throw the ball to a certain height.”

And I've no idea what that height is. So I haven't practiced them, and you need to do a hundred of them. What? What? And that's the last exercise after you run five miles.

Okay, well, you've been running. Yes, but my goal is to is just to get through it and finish. But I'm not, I'm feeling the three out of ten on it. And do some people not finish. I, oh, I assume so.

I assume so. It's really hard. It sounds really hard. The exercises are tough. But I just want, I want to try it. I want to get it done. Hmm.

Right, here's two things I'm going to do. Yeah, the second person that knows. Who's the first outskost? No, he does not know. I told you.

You told you. Oh, I told number T. We told number T.

Um, so here's what I'll say.

I'm really, I'm actually very proud of you for this. Because when Bubba's was born, you signed up for a high rock race in Dallas. And you didn't end up doing it. And I saw how hard it was on you because I don't think

you typically sign up for things and not do them. 100%.

“So I think you just got a little bit of milk on you,”

which I think you're going to just want to get off. There we go. Um, and so I'm really proud of you now. Because your goal this year before this baby boy arrived was to get your health in order.

And this is very symbolic of that. Hmm. So good job. Thank you. Here's where you and I are different.

That's here. So when I had to run the mile in high school under eight minutes and 45 seconds to start on the volleyball team, the anxiety it would give me. And I know that's not very hard,

but I'm a short distance running on our long distance runner. I would be worked up with anxiety for three weeks leading up to it. There was one time where I tried to break my own ankles, so I didn't have to run it. The fact that you know this is going to be this hard

and it's like going to go down there and just like do it, I would be wrecked. I've done the best I could.

Because basically I signed up for three workout sessions

that were like high rock specific workout sessions. But I had to miss all of them because of the. I had to take care of bugs at those times. Wow.

“And so you should be really proud of yourself for that though.”

Age could job. You like really put the family on your back and you're going to go do this race. Yeah, but now we just got to hope I finish. But age, you're going to be in so much physical pain. That doesn't scare you.

Good for you. No because because the reason why I like this race a lot is it. It's something that I can hopefully do either once a year or twice a year. And it's the same race format every time. And it just allows you to track how good of shape you're actually in

because the exercises are. They're a great combination of both strength and cardio. And so I just want to rip the band that off on the first one and see like am I. Like I think I'm in while I think I'm in solid shape. Does it have anything being in solid shape and being in race shape?

Completely. And so this will tell me how far away I am from being in like actual race shape. And then I think I'll sign up for another one towards the end of the year at the beginning of. Next year but more likely towards the end of this year and hopefully I'll see if I can improve. I'm laughing at you driving the what the wagging your Excel to Houston.

I'm going to take the von Lane. What? Yeah. Oh you're taking a bus. Yeah.

Well that'll be nice because then you can work people love the von Lane's. Yeah I'm taking the von Lane for two reasons.

The first is I want to we didn't want to take the car away from you.

And the second is driving back after that. Like there's so much like work on like there's this squatting exercise. There's the wall balls that we beat. Yeah. I didn't want to be driving back and how my legs cramping all the time.

That's why neighbor to you. I told neighbor to. Why? In case you wanted to come. And he doesn't.

He can't. If you wanted to. Because he would want to come. Yeah for sure. He would he would be able to just do that too with you.

Was it the right read for me to not put the expectation on you to come? Yes because now I really want to come. Although I can't come. I just I have no energy. I think it would be a bad idea for you.

I would love you to come. I think it's a losing proposition. I really want to come and support you because I'm proud of like what it symbolizes for you. And I just think like the fact that you missed the three actresses. I just because you were taking care of bobs.

And you were taking care of bobs because I was upstairs sleeping.

I don't know what I was. And I just think that's really sweet of you. So thank you. And I'm really proud of you for doing this. We'll see how it goes. Well, it doesn't matter how it goes.

It just matters that you did it. Like I didn't work out this weekend. I was supposed to do like the last part of the training regimen.

“I was like, oh, do I now not go or talk about it on the pod?”

No, you go. Is it'll be embarrassing. But no, you go. But don't finish or do bad time. That's life.

But if you don't finish. I don't even. I don't even think that matters. I think the hardest part is going to be starting.

You know, we never talked about it.

It's maybe a little old by now, but changing the L.A. Marathon that you've marked us finished at 18 miles. That's ridiculous. This was hot. It's absurd.

I will not take any form of finisher metal unless I finish the full race. Let's put that a record. There's probably been worst conditions. Yeah. It was like, I think only like 85 or something.

I don't know what it ended up being. The hardest part of the marathon is like miles. Probably 20 or 20 to 20 to 24. And you can. Like the last two.

You've got to power through. But I remember the first marathon I did. Like I locked up at mile 20. So the legs just feel like they're truly like. And like boat anchors hold on to the L.A.

Marathon said if you ran 18 miles, you finished. Yep. So this was before the marathon actually happened. They said your option is to go the full 26.2 or at 18 as a safety measure. You can just stop and still get your finisher metal.

That's absurd. We're marathon runners in general so mad. I did ask.

“I did ask Eileen for her opinion and she was like, what?”

I mean, that to me is absurd. And what she said is no one runs the L.A. Marathon thinking it's not going to be hot. So like what are we doing here? That would be like an F1 the movie where I really where it's raining. And they were like deciding on if they should race or not.

If they were just like, you know what? Well, that happens in F1. Drive a half lap. You still get your finisher metal. They do call race a short in F1.

That's actually a real safety measure. That's about parallel. Yeah. But I do remember and then the guy says is Brad Pitt racing. And then they go, what do you think?

Because of course he is. It's a great movie. It's a really good movie. It's number one right now on Apple. When can we go see a product, how Mary?

It's just tough. It's tough because you don't want to get a babysitter to go see a movie. I disagree. I think that that you used to be. I used to be a line on that.

Take. I'm not. I think it's a great use of time. Going and seeing a movie with the babysitter. Yeah.

Here's here's my caveat though. I don't want to miss out on time with clubs to go to a movie. What I do think would be good is if after Bubb goes to bed at seven. Did you send me a movie? Did you send me a movie?

Now here's what we did here.

We did here that there is a theater here in Austin that does kid movie times. So before noon on Tuesday, apparently you can take your kids to see a movie. Elamo draft house. I would imagine that this theater is chaotic. I just have zero interest in it.

But I do kind of want to take Bubs. Is it kids movies or adult movies? Adult movie. Any movies. And you can just bring your kid that up.

Because I get it when they're like, you know, 10 months in below. You could chance a movie. Especially when they're in newborn. But they might cry. Would you take your kid to a movie?

Would you have taken Bubs to a newborn? As a newborn to a movie? Oh, so we talked about it. In that first six months. Like when she was.

When she would just be like seven public fish. We wanted to try it. But we didn't have the like the right kind of set up for it. So for baby.

Yes, if we could redo it again in the first six months.

I would do the Tuesday slot. I don't think you can take a newborn baby to like a Friday night at 5 p.m. movie showing. Of course not. On the off chance they cry. Of course not.

That's who this Tuesday is for. But you couldn't bring Bubs to a movie theater in any form. No, because right now she would just be running around the movie. Yeah, and it'd be dark and she'd like trip and her herself. Yeah, and that would be scary.

But I do like the idea of a of a kid friendly movie like slot.

“I think this is one of those love it in in theory.”

It's a nothing burger in reality. But unless unless the baby goes and they're really really really early on. Because like postpartum the first three months going to a movie would be lovely. Have you been to Alamoja after us? Never.

Phenomenal theater. I've only been to the one in San Francisco. Okay. But they like have they have like a elevated food offering. Good seats.

Is that not the same here? We just don't need all that at the movies. Like we need I see some popcorn. Jewels. That's a great take.

Okay, because this is the new thing with movie theater. Jewels. Jewels like. I am see road. I see.

I see. And pop corn down to like.

No. The data is very unsupported of jewels on this. Really? Go look at the market cap of the theater companies. I was at AMC on Friday and it was that empty.

Exactly. Because you need a unique offering now. But I had fun. AMC to me is the classic experience. And I'm with Jewels.

You just need popcorn in an icy otherwise. We're putting too much emphasis on food. Like you're there to watch a movie. And they have these now. They have bowling alley movies.

You can get wine at the movies. But you need a win over home.

The problem is is now they're there competing with the home.

And so to compete with the home.

“You need to have a lot more other than the screen.”

Especially because so many movies are just incredibly underwhelming these days. You're right. And they are all released. Like why? What movie theaters have to be so mad that people are releasing things on Apple TV a week

after it comes out in the theaters. That's killing the theaters. Yeah. But I think it's just a great case. I'd like the theaters not.

Not an acting. Well, no. But I do think in some cases that like what else could the theater do? They're offering alcohol. They're offering real food.

They're just more expensive to do. Yeah. I think it's a question that is a lot. Like the answer doesn't spring to mind because it hasn't been saw. But I think you could have said the same thing about the record labels in music.

15, 20 years ago. And Spotify figured it out. And I think there was a golden opportunity. And inherently. It wasn't.

Wasn't salt. I guess not. The only thing about a movie theater is like you do have to hold like it is nice because you hold yourself accountable to like I don't check my phone in the movie. I think if you check your phone in the movie, it's diabolical. But at home, if I'm watching a movie, you know, on my own couch, I will check my phone.

And sometimes that experience sucks. Because then you miss half the movie not taking it so seriously. So when I'm in the theater, I do take the art of watching the movie a lot more serious. Yeah.

And like you're, I'm always like five minutes away from being like, all right, if this isn't good enough, I'm just going to turn it off.

And in the movie, the threshold to leave a movie is so much higher than the threshold to change the channel. Starting something new isn't just hard. It's terrifying. So much work goes into that one thing. And you're not even entirely sure it will work out, which is the most unsettling feeling.

Just like starting a podcast or starting a business.

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It's the only way back and saw the second time. I thought it was so good. So I won a third time.

“I just thought it was the best movie I'd ever seen.”

I couldn't believe a movie was so good. And the third time I was just bored to death because I saw them too quick back to back. So I left. That was like that for me. You saw it so many times.

Yeah, never. I love that. There's a show. What?

You're going to never watch the movie to show.

Oh, book. Pipeline. Okay, so that's we can wrap the bow on. Did I tell you what I do in Hong Kong? No, tell us.

It's interesting. I would imagine. On Sunday nights. You did tell us you would go to a movie. Get a sub.

I would go to movies by myself. Would you get a sub sandwich? Interesting. Interesting. Interesting.

Interesting. I would. There was a subway at the. Main. Terminal that I would.

I would go to quite often. How often I would bring that to the theater. Ew.

I'm blanking on if that was a thing. If I said it was a thing. It would make me think it was a thing. No, no, I don't. I would have caught if you were bringing it to the theater.

“I think you went and got a sub sandwich and then went to the movie.”

No, no, no. I would have only brought it to the theater. I would have smacking in. Do you think that there's a correlation between like food that you could bring in the theater versus food? You could bring on an airplane which like a sub would be on the no flies.

The subway sandwich.

Those smell like when I go into a subway for one second and I leave.

I smell like subway. Do you know why I would eat subway so much in Hong Kong? Because it reminded you of America. The nostalgia of growing up like I would eat the spicy Italian and high school probably every week. And it was really just a taste of hope because like they don't have, you know,

Chipotle. They now have a shake-check but they didn't have a shake-check when I was there. And so like all even a lot of the quick service restaurant concepts out there. Like they weren't the same as home. Obviously they have McDonald's and so subway was.

But what would you take a subway sandwich on airplane? Alex Claus is a massive sandwich on airplane guy. But a subway sandwich. We used to do Luca Deli in San Francisco. That was a primary.

You would just rip it on the plane. Airplane sandwich. And now Jiotta's is go to. Shout out Jiotta. I don't think you can be taken so like sub's on a plane.

Oh for sure. It's a good transition on past food. To our favorite burger-fast food restaurant in America. Burger King.

Burger King called us back.

Tom called us back. Called you back. And you came upstairs just beaming.

“And I was like, who are you on the phone with?”

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But the problem with the man cave is I felt like it was lacking just a few little pieces to bring it all together.

“So I think I tracked down a good chunk of those little pieces.”

And we'll do a big reveal. So we got coasters. He got Texas University of Texas coasters. And he got University of Oklahoma coasters. And which thank you for that.

And owed to me my alma mater. We also have a UT helmet and all you helmet. Sure do. Now we have the original Texas flag hanging in there. Yeah.

Well, the right side of the sports memorabilia is all tied to you. And then left side is all tied to me. And I love that. Thank you for that. Of course.

We should call it a just a TV cave. No man cave. We should just call it the cave. Or the WoWN man cave. You know, I don't spend as much time down there as you do.

It's okay for it to be your deal. We got a great flag. Got a great flag. So it's all looking good down there and are you happy with it? Very, very happy with it.

Okay.

“And is there anything else you'd like to say on the matter?”

No, but it has me. It has me excited for the next layer of the pool. Okay. So now we found out. I'm Friday that our pool got approved.

Which in some cities might sound like of course it did. But in Austin, it's a little harder to do. And most of the time, especially in the area that we live maybe your pool doesn't get approved. Anyways, ours did. So we were thrilled.

And so today we're going to go pick out the tile for the pool and like the cement. I think they're going to ask us the cement color. So we're very excited about that. And then the follow-up question that I got when I posted that a lot. I got a lot of a lot of questions is are you going to do a pool fence?

And of course we're going to do a pool fence. We have a friend who has a beautiful glass pool fence. And that's the one I want to get ideally. But we take water safety very seriously. And Bubbs is of the age where she can.

Obviously she's walking obviously she's walking. She's running. So it's just like top of mind for us. Actually speaking, so Bubbs starts swim less in April 30th. And so that'll be before so she'll be in some lessons before the pool is done,

which is very important to us.

“And then the other thing is yesterday we took her swimming in this girl.”

She's a fish. Like she wanted a dunk her head. She wanted to go underwater and blow bubble. She wanted to dive on this like. Fountain thing.

She was like loving it. She was loving it. So it really solidified. I'm excited about the pool. Yeah.

Yeah. I'm excited about the pool because you're excited about the pool.

Now the second piece of it is we have a four o'clock appointment today.

Okay. I thought we had a new appointment. Well, we have a new with the pool guy. Okay. But we have a four o'clock with the landscape designer.

Okay. That's important. And so it felt like there was just like a gap. Yeah. In like, in going from like we had the architect come up with the actual layout.

But we need someone to like design what the fence is going to look like.

And so this lady who's coming over for that is what she is going to do. So that way we're going to have because right now like all of it is just like. Chatchy between mockups. Right. Combine with the architecture plans we submitted to the city.

Right. We need the actual mockups. I'm excited. I'm probably most excited about her. Yeah.

Me too. And then we had another friend give us another recommendation. So we're going to try two people.

“I think that's really good to try two people on this.”

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And what I'll say, I would like to do like a third.

Okay, because I have under a month left and I want to be honest about how I'm feeling where we're at blah blah blah. And I'm excited. So I'm excited about this pool and I'm excited about all these things that we're doing because I feel like they exist after I have the baby. Right, like it gives me something to look forward to, which is really nice. But I will say yesterday I broke down.

I was just sitting on the couch. I just started crying and I was like, I feel pathetic.

“Like that's the only way I know how to do.”

And those are harsh words to say, right? But I was like, I just feel really pathetic because I have a list of three things I want to do today. One of them being as simple as we've been doing gardening outside. And I just wanted to sweep the porch off and get all the leaves off and get all the dirt off. And like, I couldn't even do that because I was getting dizzy and I felt dehydrated.

And like, I was just frustrated with myself because I felt really tired. And I was just happiest laying down. And Harrison, you're so sweet because he just came and he sat by me. And he just said, look, he pulls up these things. Like, he'll pull up my accomplishments for the year.

And then I'll also tell me, you know, you're making a baby. And then I'll point up bubbles and bake, you made that. And like, it's nine months of sacrifice, but it's a long-term gain.

And so you always make me feel so much better about it.

But I do really struggle in the last month. I forgot how hard the last month the pregnancy was because this boy is going to gain half a pound. You know, each week. So you're really hungry. Your stomach's heavier.

Your back hurts worse. And like, you're more swollen. And what I found is it's like truly slowing me down more. Like being in bed just is my happiest place. But then when you're in bed, I'm not getting anything done and not doing things.

And I love to do things. And so mentally, it's nice where I feel really good is I know with tape with your first baby. You don't know if you, if that ends when you have the baby. But now I know that ends. There is an end date in mind.

It's less than a month away. So I absolutely can do it. I can put in front of the other. And so I'm so excited for the baby. I'm so excited to not be pregnant.

I'm so thankful that I am pregnant. It's just the last month. Like I don't want to make it seem like it's easy because it's really kicking my butt. You're doing phenomenally well.

“I think it's quite impactful that you share the struggles.”

And both the highs and the lows. I especially because like when you're like right now, your energy is like so like while we're recording like your energy is like so high and you're so positive and. And yeah, yesterday was understandably so it tough day and. But you're kicking ass. But I know how to get out of it, too.

Like I had what I find to get me through right now is plans. So yesterday we had pool moshong plant and being in a pool pregnant is the best thing ever because it takes all the weight off your stomach.

And so I went over with a lot of my really good friends to our friend Tony's house and Tony and Caroline's house and we played moshong in the pool. And like I had the best time and it distracted me. And I even told them I was like, oh, I just like I had a morning. And then I get to get there and then we have our friends over and that distracts me and so right now. If I can attend plans.

I think that's really important. But like we were going to go to the rodeo afterwards and I was just like I can't. I will fall asleep on the way there and I will be probably crying halfway through.

“But I do think I think a lit if I can do a balance right now things I get excited about like a coffee day with a friend.”

And then no like I'm going to have to get in bed. So I was going to say I feel like it's for you about making the right plans because I if there's the other side of it where sometimes I feel like. They'll be plans that you'll may you'll you'll have made and you'll be then develop like. I don't know things I do is the right word but like. When you feel like you've made the wrong plans and it's not what you want to do and it's going to take energy away from you.

Then it creates this negative effect versus like yesterday where it felt like the plans you made like you. We're looking forward to them and then they had a positive effect on you. Does that make sense? What I just said. Yes, it's also important for me right now. Do you know what I what I realized when you were saying that?

When we were the first trimester when I would make plans.

And I would it would it would truly. What I've just realized is this is way better than that. Because this is an energy deficit as opposed to like being nauseous and throwing up with the plan. Yes. So like I will really take this over that all day.

But what I'm experiencing right now is like I'll take a nap and the nap doesn't. I see the I've talked about this before but I see all the dialogue online about like. Newborn exhaustion versus pregnancy exhaustion and what this pregnancy exhaustion is is like in the third trimester. Especially the last month you can drink. A coffee go right to bed.

You can drink a diet coke and go right to bed. And I know there's some of you that are like no caffeine. I drink caffeine when I'm pregnant and my OB thinks it's safe. So that's not what this conversation is about what I'm saying is. You can you can have your caffeine and then still go to bed.

And if you take if I take a 3 p.m or a 5 p.m nap. I can still go to bed at 8 or 9 because that nap. It doesn't give me energy. It just extends your day. Like it's not it doesn't if I took a nap post part of my bed. Well, I'm not going to go to bed till midnight because I've got so much energy.

Whereas these naps just they make it to where you can get to the end of the day. Totally.

“So I don't know I think a lot of people that listen to this are moms and I think I run into a lot of you out and about that are pregnant.”

And I think sometimes it seems like I have a lot of energy on this podcast but I do want to say like. I don't have a lot of energy Harrison. The number one question I get on in the stories I feel like is how are you balancing a toddler with being pregnant?

Or people thinking about getting pregnant but they have, you know, their first baby.

And I'll just say 99.9% of it is falling on Harrison right now. No, no, no, no, but that is how. But I'm caring the baby but you're helping so much with tape. You're doing phenomenal. But I think we need to be honest about how I'm doing it and a lot of how I'm doing it and I'm really lucky is Harrison is taking the bulk of tape.

At least the least I can do how are we able to take tape swimming yesterday Harrison comes. And I had five of my best friends there helping to like and so at one point I laid on the lounge chair put the towel over my head like I just I think. It's I don't I don't want to paint the picture that I'm running around with tape. You know and have all this energy because I definitely don't. And so thank you.

Thank you. Okay, well we're going to move on past Xeng to hear some feels awkward because he doesn't want to make it about it. I'll make the pregnancy about the father. Well, it's not I'm making it about you. I'm just saying you are you are having to take a bulk of tape.

Well, you're doing all the heavy lifting. Thank you. And the last thing about bobs, bobs got a gardening, a many gardening kit and a lawn mower. And she won't go anywhere without her lawn mower. So like even if she goes down to the basement, she goes and gets her lawn mower and takes her lawn mower to the basement with her.

She took it to the coffee shop yesterday, but here's what I'm.

“How long did it take you to get to the coffee shop?”

Occlusion on the lawn mower. Okay, what? She does not know it's a lawn mower. She thinks it's a stroller. That's why she likes it so much.

I think she can push. She like sees us pushing her all the time and so she wants to push something like it's okay.

She's no idea that it's a lawn mower.

“Like she doesn't know it's supposed to cut grass.”

But the gardening stuff, she, like, she takes the shovel and shovels the dirt. Because she sees me unsuccessfully shoving shoveling the dirt. So like the gardening kit, she actually understands the use. Where's the lawn mower? I don't, I think she misunderstood the use of it.

I don't think she's ever really.

She's never taken it to the grass.

She only puts it on the sidewalk. Yeah, I don't think she's ever seen a lawn mower. Exactly. So yeah, I don't think she thinks it's, it's to cut grass. But I think she does think it's something that she gets to push that's purple and pink, which is very exciting for her.

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I wasn't going to talk to you about this. So we've learned a lot in the comments lately. We'll go there. We'll go to that section.

The first thing before we know we can address this first.

Okay. So I stand corrected because last week I had said we're not going to get our daughter the play kitchen. Because she cooks in the real kitchen with you. And so she doesn't understand the difference between a real banana and a fake banana. And she actually puts all the ingredients in the cup. So I don't want to confuse her with the fake kitchen things that you can do.

Well, then I saw a lot and this is why I love the comments. And then I did some research myself, right? So basically what we learned in the comments was both are good. Real cooking is good, but fake cooking is also good. Mainly for imagination development.

Okay. So imagination pretend cooking and real cooking are both useful. Useful for toddler development because they develop different parts of the brain. So real cooking does fine motor skills, right?

“So you're stirring, you're actually pouring, you're following directions, right?”

And then you have sensory learning. So you get the textures, the smells, the heat awareness, like she knows caliente. And then confidence in responsibility because she does get to make it. And then she does get to eat what she made. But pretend cooking really good for imagination and creativity.

Language development. So her telling us like I'm making soup. I'm making muffins, social skills because she can serve others. She can role play and then independence and storytelling inside their heads. Which I do see both of. So I think it's beneficial.

I've got to push back on that. All of those things you get from real cooking. She does not get imagination from real cooking. Yes, because you have the imagination and coming up with what you're cooking. But she doesn't know what you're making. You're telling her we're making egg bites today.

Whereas in her kitchen she can be like I'm going to put the banana in the soup. Which makes no sense. But she does that when we cook. Like we don't follow the recipes. Like it's six eggs, Bob does eight.

Like if she sees anything on it, she's grabbing it and pouring it in. Is there much paprika? She put on. I did see it. Uh, what do we make on chick cheese? It was basically a paprika dish.

I think I think of you 30 minutes. And you want like I don't think that that bait cooking is bad. That makes a lot of sense.

I think it's a much better use of time to do real cooking as opposed to fake cooking.

“I think it's very beneficial to have both because here's the thing.”

You pick that you guys are going to make the chick pea cheese protein balls. When she goes to her kitchen though, she gets to say I'm going to pick all these. I'm going to pick all these ingredients. She can do that in real cooking as well. But she's not tall enough to go to the refrigerator.

She's one and a half years old. She can't go to the refrigerator and pull out the eggs. So I do think maybe we should get her the little play kitchen so she can do both. And she can learn where I struggle with it is does she know the difference. And taste kitchen versus dadas kitchen.

Dadas kitchen, you get to eat the food you make. Taste kitchen.

I'm sure she'll figure it out.

And obviously if you want to get her the fake kitchen, let's do it. And I understand the use case of the fake kitchen because it takes a hundred percent engagement to do real cooking with her. Right. And often as parents, we don't have a hundred percent engagement.

And so that's the time to use the fake kitchen.

“But I think if you have 30 minutes and you're wondering what's the better use of time,”

I find hard to believe that that data would be supportive of fake cooking over real cooking. Well, and here's the other thing, the fake cooking will be a lot cleaner. That's very good. So I think that I actually think if we get her the fake kitchen at this point, she would really understand it.

I'm sure she'd love it. I'm very pro fake cooking. I'm very pro the fake kitchen. I just think like to put them on the same level. I need to see the studies behind that because that doesn't line up to me.

I don't know. I do see what they're talking about with the imagination and the creativity and being her idea. I like that. I'm actually very into that. Here's why things happen.

I think we're going to get our fake kitchen. Yep. And I think it's just going to be fake bananas everywhere. And we'll just see what that looks like. But I was, I thought, wow, lucky us.

We get to skip the fake kitchen stage. And then the comments were very quickly like, no both are good. And I mean, they were overwhelming the like both are good and I was like, okay. And I think both are good. I just think one is better than the other.

“But that's why I love the internet too is like, I never would have thought.”

And I don't even know how all these people know all these things. So anyways, with that being said, the question becomes, is it good to get her a baby doll? You know, and start changing the baby doll's diaper and get a stroller. So when I'm pushing this baby, Tate is pushing that baby. Is it beneficial to get your toddler a little baby to take care of before you have a sibling come along?

And I thought the answer to that was no, we were going to do baptism by fire just like bring them home. But after reading what the comments were saying, they're saying, give her a little baby now and let her start taking care of it. I don't know, it's like, I don't know what I don't know. I just wish somebody would tell me this is the best way to do it. What I have landed on that I do like is a friend told me when you're in the hospital because I was debating should she meet her brother at the hospital at home.

And the favorite thing I have heard is when you have 30 minutes, like the last 30 minutes before you wind up to go home from the hospital, have her brought up there so she can meet Bubba and then everyone leaves together. And I love that idea. But should she have a baby doll that she's pushing while we're pushing him, I don't know. Because that's going to make her grow up so fast.

My mom would murder me if I didn't say this. She's been asking me to tell you for weeks. Okay, what was nori minutes wanted to know. Nori that. The number one thing that I think no one told her that she was shocked by is that when Tate does come to the hospital,

you're going to think that she grew five inches and like is three years old now that it makes your first child look so much older and bigger.

The second you have your your second. So Jules, I have heard this in some of my DMs. I am not ready for Bubbs in under a month to just catapult as a teenager. Like this is just like so hard on the mom and the dad, I feel like we were sitting on the couch last night, three of us doing tickles and she kept saying more, we were doing tickles.

And I'm like, you're telling us our baby girls about to grow five inches. And then we're going to have a new baby boy and then she's going to be taking care of her own baby doll. I was looking at her feet this weekend and her feet are just like so big. And like when we go and now compare it to newborn, but I don't know. Once again, I do wonder how different we're going to feel because like there is another baby at our house five to seven days a week or where we're at their house.

So like that baby goes home.

I'm also saying in terms of like we see tape beside yates pretty much every day.

Like we see her given him hugs and kisses. And so like where I just kind of like to bring back the initial question is what is the pre where month out. So if we're going to do the pre stuff, we probably got to start it now. So my question on that is what are the one or two things we should be doing. If anyone has has good advice.

I'm good going either way on this. If we don't give her responsibility ahead of time, I'm not overly concerned.

And part of why I'm not overly concerned is because she does interact with another baby every single day.

I don't think it's the same thing.

“I think a lot of babies are around other babies and those babies go home.”

I think it's going to be very different when that baby cries in the middle of the night. And mom and dad are holding him because right now she's used to waking up and it just being us. But what I will say about it is I just do wonder if that really is what creates like eldest daughter mentality. Like are we going to start that at one and a half by giving her a baby doll that she takes care of? Like then does that just bring out every caretaker gene in her and then it's just like because I don't want to really put that on her.

Well, there's that great study that you sent over.

Yeah, we can go there now. That was that was the things we learned this week, which is is I if you have a toddler and then you have another baby born, right? So this one's going to be baby brother and you bring home baby brother. If you start to see your toddler acting like a baby or becoming super cling cling to you. It's not because they're acting out in a bad way.

It's because around two years old that's where attachment is the strongest and so they feel their safety threatened.

“So they're like wait you're supposed to be taking care of me, but are you also taking care of him?”

And so it's just because they need attention and the study says every ten minutes they need to reset knowing that they're safe. And I think that makes a lot of sense. So by giving her her own baby doll to take care of I wonder if that would train her like I have to take care of myself and this baby doll. As opposed to mom and dad are taking care of me. I don't know.

I think I've talked to myself out of wanting the baby doll. I think I really want. I don't think I wanted out the baby doll. Yeah, my brain kind of went somewhere different because it was kind of back to something that you said a little earlier. Okay, what was it?

I do think it is unique how much time take from like month three has spent with other babies. Okay, and so I'm very curious how this transition will be relative to how it is in most situations. And I could see a world where the way she interacts with our new child is very different than one would traditionally expect. Do you want to give her a baby doll? If there's an overwhelming amount of like either positive supporting data behind it or you know friends that we.

Friends that suggested I'm all good for it. But I if once again like I'm good either way. Yeah, like I'm not going to take the lead on getting her the baby doll.

“But if if the information is presented that that's what we should be doing and I'll definitely research it after because I actually now do want to know.”

Then and then I would I would take the lead on it. So one thing I do like about us is that we we don't know we don't know right so I do like that we're kind of saying let us know because on the play kitchen I thought I was like of course we don't get her one because she cooks in the real kitchen. But now understanding the difference between the two is really helpful so I am with you on this I just I've had a lot of messages saying nobody said get a baby doll. That's even the comments some but the messages I've had for my friends I've been have mainly been like just bring them home and trust me it will be wonderful.

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And and then the question to kind of what you said before is is the first time she meets him.

We're going to go home is she not going to meet them leave. You don't want so apparently what we don't come back no apparently what we don't want.

“We're going to come up there see mommy and daddy. With another baby. Oh my goodness. That's the worst thing we can do that would be.”

Oh my goodness. So what do you want to be in the center just like the grasping her seeing that. Harrison it would break our heart. To think about that. So the two options are. Bob stays home the entire time and we bring her brother home. Would be that that feels that doesn't feel like the move or she comes to the hospital before we leave and she meets him but the key here is we all leave together.

I don't know if I totally understand and that thing is what makes far more sense in the first.

I think the hospital I'm going off of when you introduce dogs but you got to do it in a neutral territory. Because if you bring the baby home and you're bringing it into Tate's home maybe she got a little defensive. I mean because that we were talking about this last night. Tate thinks we're in her living room. You are. That's her couch. Those are her toys. And so. For her to break yeah it's for us to bring home a brother to her. That that visual of her seeing us with the new baby and then leaving has planted a massive seat of doubt into what I was saying earlier about what.

How much it's going to affect her? Oh are you getting sad? She's resilient. I trust that she will thrive. Where I think she'll get it. Where I think it will click is when we walk upstairs and we just put him in his crib for one second and explain this is Bubba's room. Like this is your brother's room. This is why the walls are painted blue. This is why you move. This is what this room is for.

And I think then she'll be like oh my gosh. I think she'll get it then. I know it's a lot. It's a lot to think about. I keep covers.

“I think about it all the time. Each like this little girl who has constant mom and dad attention, right?”

Not not just in our constant attention, but like we're two on one right now. It's going to be really confusing for her to be like whoa now I have a brother. But I think I just know to though like she loves all these other little babies. I just know she's going to love it and I think she's going to be so excited about it. Yeah it'll be great.

What's that look? What did I just say? I'm looking upon his bummer.

What are you two mad?

Because I don't want to talk to myself when we podcast.

I don't look at my phone or my gadgets. It's not fair that you look at yours when just when you're not talking. You just take it.

“I was looking at photos of Bubba because you were talking about Bubba. What was I saying?”

What was I saying about Bubba? No tell the class what I was saying. We have it on record. So we all know what I was saying. We were all paying attention. Has anyone else in the room check their phone? I haven't checked my phone once.

He has peace admitting that she's checked hers. You talked about how you're just doing such a great job and how appreciative I am of you. No! You're thriving. No, I was saying this little girl. She's got 211 right now.

No, I listen. I can actually repeat what you said. Please do. How she has all of our attention and how it's going to be so crazy for her when there's someone else in the room now. What do you think about that? Yeah, I think I've said all I have to say on the matter, which is this transition is obviously going to be massive.

I think she's as well positioned as she can be. And like all things in life, when change is presented, you adapt. And you lean in and I'm very excited for this new chapter to begin. Even if it's going to create, I'm sure some challenges. It's like it's so, I'm so excited for it.

It's so worth it. I know it will, but yeah.

Okay, and I always think about it. Everyone goes through it.

Like, this is just a tale. Yeah, we're not like the first people to have two kids. No, my gosh. It is hard though. Like it is hard to think, oh, my little name. It feels like we're almost like overcome the kidding yet. All right. Well, let's not do that. Let's go to the bigger of the week.

So everyone has one go to pan in their household, right? Yes. But the question is, should your stove be panless or are you allowed to leave your one token pan out? Constantly. So I care waycent. This is great pan. Okay.

That pan is used for everything 95% of our cooking. Yes. I think that pan belongs on the stove should always be on the stove. My sister and mom are very much of the mindset. When you are done cooking, there is no pan on the stove.

“Here's the thing about care away, though, and this is not a care way add by any means.”

That's a pretty pan. I believe designed. I don't know if this is part of their tagline. But these these pans are so pretty. They're kind of designed to be left on top. Now, sometimes I think we take it too far and I think once you leave one on top, sometimes we have three on top. That drives me crazy. Agreed.

I can handle one on top. Yeah. I think one on top is the is the is the milk. But I'll play the other side of the token here for the sake of the bigger the week. Okay. I do think after every single time. It looks a lot nicer if you put the pan up.

And then the stove is clean because I do think you're setting the president. I'm okay leaving things out on the counter. Now, we've got the blender out on our counter. Constantly, because we're in a smoothie era, driving me crazy. So I do think we're setting this we're doing a slippery slope.

Once you do it once, if you leave one pan out, why not leave two?

“Jewels are you pan on the stove or non pan on no pan on the stove?”

I have a glass stove, so I would never like I have a glass cooktop.

Right. I would never. I think on a range fine on a on the glass cooktop, that would look weird. Agreed with that glass glass cooktop, I would say absolutely not. On ours, it's gas. It does look fine, but I think we should we should tuck it.

But I think here's the question, right? Like when you're done cooking, do you put the pan underneath? Well, I'm playing the other side. No, I'm four. I'm on your side here, remember? Don't forget. I'm just.

Okay, because last night when I brought this up, you did say you'd rather the pan be underneath. I leave the pan's out. But I was going to say you said that, but you do leave the one pan out. I leave one pan out. I think everything else.

That big Lake Crusade thing that I make the sourdough in. What's that called? Yeah. I touched on that thing when you leave that. I'm like, put it under the sink.

That. So the thing about this one pan. That just is our backsplash though. It's really pretty. But the thing about the one pan is it's breakfast, it's lunch and it's dinner. All the time.

and Bubbs and Winnie's food is probably used north of six times a day. Totally. So that for me is fine to be left out. But the Lake Crusade Dutch oven, that is once a week max, goes under. Mm.

Probably two to three. Goes under. Yeah. I'm with you. I'm with you.

Okay. So we're in general agreement on this. Yes, we sure are. Okay. So this.

Bubber. Sweet. Bubber. All right.

In response to us experiencing the first time that a kid was mean to take.

And we put out that clip, right? And people were commenting, "It is okay to say something to another parent's child if the parent's not saying something. That to me, I was like, no, it's not." Wait, what?

“So the question is, is it okay to parent other people's kids?”

Not a chance. The scenario is you're on the playground. Their kids being really mean to your kid. People in the comments were saying, "It's okay to say something." No, you got to talk to the parent.

You don't talk to the kid. I agree with that. I actually wouldn't talk to the parent. I'm just from the school of dollars. Let's just take our kid away.

Let's just go play with somebody else. I think if it's if it merits a conversation, the conversations with the parent on the kid, I think it's wild to parent someone else's kid. I would agree with you.

But I'm not even talking to the other parents.

I'm just saying, "Let's play somewhere else." Just play somewhere else. But people in the comments were saying it's okay to say something. I don't know, maybe we're not at that age yet. It takes just one and a half.

But I'm just, I'm just reporting to you what I read. Yeah, that was just like my general instinct on the situation. Yeah, the question is, though, you know, maybe... But when we were thinkery, they were these two boys. And there was this really cool activation.

And it was wind. And you put these little wind tubes. And you put the ping pong ball on the wind tube and it would shoot it up. And these two boys, and they must have been seven or eight years old. And they just were hogging that area.

They would not move. And Tay was there first. And like Bubbs and Winnie were like trying to get in there. And the guys were deciding boxing them out. And they'd run and pick it up and then like move the girls out.

And like I was looking... You were looking at the mom waiting for her to look up her phone. And she just didn't look up her phone the entire time. And to me, the comment to be made was would have been to the mom and not the kids.

“But like, hey, do you mind talking to your son so he can give the girls a chance?”

It's not to talk to those boys. Because I think that you just don't know how that parent wants to parent. And I think that's a slippery slope. That's my instinct. And I don't know, maybe my instinct.

My instinct in the situation is less play on something else and come back. But I do agree.

Like I'm always trying to look out for in dance class and things like.

Because I do think as the parent right now, it's our job to step in. And say, hey, guys, give her a turn. Yeah, and I totally agree with you. Like my general instinct would be and as it wasn't that situation was just to move on. Right.

If a talk is to happen, though. Yeah, I would rather do it with the parents I agree. Okay, but yeah, in that situation, we had we had bubble and money leave. It would just let those go to something else. Yeah.

But I do think it is. I think and correct us if our wrong if we're wrong granted, like we have only been Ipad died. We've only been parents. For a year and a half, like a lot of people were saying you can say something to the kids. I guess a lot of us know how you do that and in like what scenario.

Yeah, my assumption would be that you can only say something to the kid if you know the kid. Right. So for all the kids on our block. If the parents said something to take, I'd be very understanding of that. Right.

Because they know us. They know our parenting style. They know take. Right.

“And I think and so that what I would understand, but like a random person just going and telling.”

Take what to do on the playground. That would be tough. Especially because we're very encouraging of her exploration at adventure. But we're also very encouraging over like she has to take turns. She has to share and we have to do all of those things.

But we're not ever on our phones at the playground. So like I would think we would catch that. But yeah. But it's why I do. It's why I love like the one year in podcast.

Yeah. Because then you can be monitored in the situation of what's going on. But also not people. Totally. Totally.

No. No. To strike on your phone. I'm curious to do people say on this one. Because to me, I was like, whoa, you, you would say something.

Interesting.

And also speaking of people saying something. I really got, I landed myself again in the land of. I cannot believe you would show your belly pregnant.

“And do you want to know the one comment that got me?”

Because like, okay. So I made a TikTok of my outfit on Saturday night, which I thought was really cute. And people were like, I just don't know why we're showing the belly. That's fine. I think on this, we agreed to disagree.

I'd love to show the belly some people don't. No big deal. There was one comment that got me. What was it?

I never showed my belly because I don't need to feel like I have to prove something.

I was like, prove something. What am I prove? I think I've proved it. Like, even if I was wearing like a head to toe gown that covered me, you can see the belly. I just thought it was a bit of a, I don't like to use this term lightly.

But if it picked me comment because we're not proving anything with our stomachs sticking out, wearing a six pound bait. Like, I think we've proved it. Like, I don't show, you know, like, we're not proving anything. We've got the baby in there. I think people can see that. You do what you want.

No, I just thought, oh my god, I'm not proving it. I just think the belly out is, listen, it's not, you're not pregnant forever, right? So you've got nine months with it. And, well, actually, what I've realized was doing the math yesterday. You get 10 months with it.

We were saying I'm eight months pregnant. Do you know that I'm nine months pregnant right now? Is that right? You're, you're, it's 10 months. It's 10 months and I'm in the ninth because it's in it 40 weeks.

Yes. How many months is that? 40 weeks? That's 10 months. 10 months. So I'm, I'm nine months pregnant.

And I'll hit 10 and when I hit 10 is when I'll have them. That's very confusing to me. I love her. I've heard nine months for my whole life.

Well, everyone always says, yeah, you, you're pregnant for nine months.

You're actually pregnant for 10 months. So you're only pregnant for 10 months. And I was thinking about it.

“And I was like, if you want to show your stomach, show your stomach.”

Like, you can show your stomach any, like, no, no problem. I don't have any problem with these comments. The one that did kind of strike me was like, I don't think I have to prove it. And I was like, well, you know what? Helen, I don't feel like I have to prove it either.

I just sometimes want to wear crop top. Well, there was one comment I saw in that comment was a lady saying that she wished that she leaned more into her pregnancy body and her bump when she was pregnant. And she loves that you're doing it. No, and I'm going to keep doing it.

I love doing it. I don't think that I think people are allowed to say it's not for me or it is for me. I love doing it. And I didn't do it as much with tape. And so it's fun for me this time.

It's also like really hot here. So it's fun for me this time to like embrace the bump. And I'm good with people being a house divided on it. I'm not good with people saying people that are doing it are trying to prove something. Yeah, I just-

We already proved it. I'd love coming upstairs and- We're like waterlink. You're so excited putting on that outfit. I loved the outfit.

And you look phenomenal. Thank you. And I still love the outfit. Those comments don't bother me. I think people are allowed to say that.

Like I knew they're allowed to pick. It's not for me. That's all good. But then there was another comment that I'll address because this one got me. And it was when I said that you had to do the gardening.

Some come to doesn't he do everything. And then I responded and said he doesn't carry the baby. Yeah, and I really got him on that one. There you go. Yeah, I was like, well this is obvious.

This one's- this one's a slam dunk. Gardening is not speaking to me. It's really not speaking to me. All of our flowers that we planted are dead. Like I don't want to go do it.

I'm clear. Like I'm not like a lot of roles and responsibilities. Like I'm excited to take on. Like even- I want to do the steps. I'd love to do the steps.

But like this whole gardening thing. It just feels like-

It was rewarding for a second when we planted the first two rows.

Because they looked really pretty. And then I watered them a ton. And I put the growth fertilizer stuff on it. Which I know I'm not allowed to touch. She'd put it on there.

And then I watered it on top of that. And then they were dead. That was very deflating. But we have the rest of the flowers which we have to plant. We got to take it over the finish line.

From there I think we can outsource it. It's not our jam. Yeah. It just feels like one of those things where I- To-

You really need to put the time and effort into it. And I don't have- I don't have the time. We don't have- We also don't have a green thumb.

We've had to change our orchids to be fake.

“Like we can't keep an orchid alive. Why do we think we can plant a garden?”

Yeah. That- This was a total mist mark. It's not like sourdough bread, which you can just do like that. Oh, please. You said you were going to make some.

Yeah, my puts pretty full right now. I-I need to get a starter from our neighbor. I officially like art. The starter I have sucks. Not sucks.

I just-I need to feed it more. But I used it all so I got to get the starter from the neighbor. Okay. Yeah. Can I bring a starter back from like this much?

Then I can bring our starter back.

I'll start that today. All right. Okay. Well, you guys.

“We love you all. Thank you for listening.”

And happy Monday. Or start two week whenever you're listening to this. Oh, we didn't talk about reality to you. Oh, give us- Okay. You need to give us our update.

We cannot not do that. Okay. I slacked this week. Okay. I just wasn't into it.

But I may have a show for us to watch. What is that? Have you ever any feedback on it? Did you ever see jury duty? See you's no one.

Love. Really? You watched it. I thought. What is it?

jury duty. It was like with James Marsden and a couple other known people. But they like pretend it was a pretend case. And they were just like messing with this one guy that didn't know everything was fake. No.

Just, what are you watching? Sure. I feel like they set up a fake jury. They had one guy on the jury who was a real person and everyone else on the jury was fake. And they just trolled them.

This was a comedy show.

“It was almost like mockumentary style in a way.”

Yeah. So the new season is out. Okay. It's a season two. And it's season two.

But it's not a jury this time. It's a company retreat. So they have a guy who interviews for a company. And it's like what I love it. It's like the office.

So everyone in the entire company is a pit actor except for him.

I watched the first five minutes of it last night.

I think there could be some legs to it. Okay. Let's try. They like have the guy interviewing. I was wondering how they were doing that because I saw it was a company retreat.

But I was like, how would someone not know? I didn't realize they were interviewing him. That's great. Yeah. So they interviewed the guy.

The way it starts, they interview him. And they say, hey, for the interview, it's your job to focus on this retreat. We have the whole thing being documented. So you got to be okay being on camera. Okay.

And so they set the stage really well. That's really funny. And I'll say the guy, initial read on the guy, is like very good cast. Okay. Very good casting.

You know, really, just a really nice dude. A really nice dude. That's incredible. I get that they can't do jury duty twice because the person would know. I mean, would they?

Maybe. I mean, I wouldn't have. I wouldn't have. That show was so good.

“You have to watch the first season if you haven't seen it.”

I haven't.

I have never even heard of it.

Oh. I don't know. Maybe if I see it, then it'll sparks thing me. But I don't, I don't believe I watched it. So, okay.

All right. So, but I don't want to, I don't want to say we're for sure going to watch it. I might watch it. I'm happy this is at the end because I don't want to talk. I don't want to tether ourselves because we're not really in the plate.

We are banned with this pretty spread then right now. So, are you able to record on Thursday? Um, we'll discuss. No. We're going to need to record Wednesday morning.

Okay. All right. We'll discuss this. Um. Okay.

Well, I wish I told you Wednesday. No, but that wouldn't have been enough. No, because you knew I was going out of town. I wish I told you Wednesday. Okay.

So, I don't want to say we're for sure going to watch it. I'm going to say we might watch it because our plates are pretty full. But if we do get to it then we get to it. We have another suggestion for a show that we should watch together. Please let us know.

Yeah. Let us know. We love you guys. And my only request is not to give us a show. That's like 10.

Like that's more than five seasons in. Because that's crazy. That's, that's overwhelming. I've already watched Grey's Anatomy through twice. Okay.

Yeah. Your subcrush is what's your name? You're an eighth grade. Yeah. All right.

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