Follow These Rules For Meeting The Family

So I think of you whenever they're annoyed. That's right, gotta be a fun call.

“Hello, and welcome back to the Friday feels episode of the U.A. podcast.”

I'm Jordan Abraham. And I am Jared Fried. It is so good to be back here with you, Jordan.

And welcome back again. We gotta give you a second welcome back.

Thank you. This is like your settled in. Yeah. Now the show's happening. This is the real. No more, welcome. No more, well Honeymoon's over.

Honey, that's over. No more cuddle time. We're into real, the business of dating and relationships. That's what this show is. It's a dating relationship show, modern dating, modern relationships. How to deal with the intersection of relationships and technology.

That's what this show's all about. Well, speaking of the Honeymoon phase. Yes. You are newly in a relationship. That's right, we're gonna mind this thing for all I can.

Seriously, I have so many, there's so many, I'm so excited. This show is gonna have a new life brief into it. We're gonna have so many topics to get into. Absolutely.

Like, you know, there isn't a single question that feels new to me at this point.

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So send in whatever you'd like, we can answer every question that you have. But it is nice to know that we're getting into this like a known territory of relationships. I'm interested to see if you're perspective on things. And maybe shifts or evolves, but you have a big milestone coming up in your relationship, a big, a big topic.

I'm sure people write in about all the time. So what are you doing after this recording? I am going to meet the family, the whole family. The whole family. Yes.

The whole, like, immediate family, you're like the whole extended family. I think the immediate family. Okay. This is the immediate. Okay.

The immediate. The immediate. That's what I call them. Yes.

You were my first meeting.

Get your cousins the fuck out of here. Get them the fuck out. Yes. I will do an immediate visit. That's it.

That was what I contractually agreed to. Aren't I a fun boyfriend? Yeah. You sound fun. Well, that's what I mean.

“That's where I'm headed with this is like, how do you feel going into this?”

Are you like nervous or excited or you like excited? You're pretty good with the parents I bet. I can, I can sing dance and dust. I can really put on a show, especially for a mom. I mean, by the end of it, I feel like I'll be snuggled between her titties and just

tellin' her all my hopes and dreams. I hope she hears this clip. [LAUGHTER] Boy, I really ruined it before it even began. No, it's going to be great.

Welcome to the family. Is there anything, you know, we talked about this like a while ago, but is there anything that you feel like, like, she, like, is anything she told you warning about anything kind of like things that, did you tell her, she met your parents? So is there anything that you told her?

Like, don't be. I said get warning, anything. Don't be what? A warning and nothing about it. With my family, get in the water, jump in.

You're going to be treated as if they've known you 1700 years. Like, that's kind of how it goes. I, you know, for me, I'm not, you know, I'd be, you're meeting the parents. If someone agrees to meet your family or wants to, or asked to, as I did. I was like, I've wanted to.

You asked. Of course. I wanted, let's get it going. The only one. Can I meet yours?

Let's do this, you know, oh, you can cut, you know, because we're distance.

“So then you have to like negotiate, traveling and schedules and all those things as, and”

that's kind of the communication part of distance relationship of any relationship of course. But, you know, I, I have no concern because I, I generally are respectful guy. I think I'm respectful. I don't really, I've generally get along with people. So I, I, I hope they don't hear that whole, you know, snuggle in their titties part.

But I hope they understand this is a podcast where we make jokes. You know, those are concerns, you know, I don't think that there's, like, okay, listen to your content. That's like a concern dish. No, if they heard my content and had a question about it, I can answer to everything

I say because I speak honestly, you know, like I, and when I, if someone's like, you just made a joke about, like, did you say you're going to like, if we do well, you'll be in my titties, like if that came up, so you pulled hands, right? Oh, that a copy you've been doing for a while. Right.

Like if that was the question, I'd be like, well, you know, it's a bit, right? Like we, we had this, you know, like I can speak to it, you know, so like there was a review

reviewed and it said that it wasn't nuanced, you know, it was saying all men and wasn't nuanced. I'm like, well, sorry to, you know, I can speak to that, you know, I'm happy that you said

that because I believe that there isn't a lot of nuance to a man you're dating in the first

few months and a man that you're dating in the first year, you know, so there's not a lot of nuance to I have made a commitment to someone and now I'm ready for all the things that go with it. Right. You know, if someone I was dating was like, and my parents are going to be there, I would

go, oh, okay, that's something I need to acknowledge. Am I ready to meet someone's parents and my at that mindset? Do I, am I okay with the responsibility that comes with that? You know,

“and if I wasn't okay with the relationship that I probably wouldn't be okay with that, that's why”

when we give advice here, when I give people things to do, it's not me telling someone to do.

We're not going to say let them, you know, like that's why that advice from my, my argument to Mel Robbins would be, I think you are giving advice that isn't something someone could actually use, you know, because the person that is so concerned with their dating life, they're not the typed generally just let anyone do anything. Right. You know, and see how they feel, that's just not like, but when I say, hey, you're, you're texting with someone on and on and on, you keep

texting with someone they don't make a plan and I say, hey, send this text. This has been a lot of fun, but I'd really like to get to know each other in person. I'm free next Tuesday and Wednesday at eight, make a plan and I'm in. Now, there's the directive. You've gotten an answer, they'll

make a plan or they won't meet your parents or you won't. Right. I'll be there. You won't.

So you guys are long distance. We are long distance. Right. How do you, do you have like, how do you, what's the cadence of like, when you see each other? Do you have a plan? Is it just kind

“of like, you're on tour a lot? What is your, it's kind of like a looking month to month thing?”

Okay. Let's look a few weeks out and see where we can come together, where maybe she can come with me with certain location and where I could come to her. Like, here's, so this, this weekend, we, we had a plan to be here taping today. So, okay. I would like to go to New York, do shows the comedy seller wake up, do the podcast, and then I'd like to come to you because she lives in Philly. Okay. And how would that work out? Oh, well, I can do that and also

my parents are home and I'd like you to meet them and they want to come to dinner with us. Great. That's kind of how the discussion happened. Okay. Now, next week, now I'm going to Salt Lake City this weekend and then I go to Tempe Arizona. That's where I am. This weekend, if you're here, if you're there, come to the show, assemble the group chat. Oh, she's like, I have work stuff I can do in Arizona. Okay. Okay. Great. So why don't you come with

me to Arizona and we'll have a weekend there? But, you know, also while knowing that that's a work weekend and she's really, she's been good. It's been okay with respecting that like, I do, I can't just do like us galvancing around Tempe. Right. You know, I have to work and I have to, and again, so I want to be up front about that because like, I've been, I've been on dates where it's like, you're toting someone around to like, show to show and you can tell they like,

is this the date? Right. It's just the vacation. Yeah. This is the vacation. Right. And so I want to be up front about that and I think I have been of like, yeah. And that's an expectation. Yeah. Right. The expectation of like, and I know she wouldn't do this, but I would be like,

“hey, if you want to go home for the second show and not be up all night and want to like,”

right. You know, hang at the place or go do whatever you would like to do. You can do that or not come. Right. You know, I'm going to make this as good as possible, but I'm also going to like, like, you know, like, there's other things I have to do. Like, I, I, I think that's the hard part. I 41, I'm better at that than I was at 31. The hard part about doing any different career, you know, whether it be the arts or, you know, your entertainment sports, whatever it is,

just any different schedule is like, hey, like, this may seem like a hang and it's fun, but like, there's also like work that goes in here that I have to do things, you know, right. So it's hard because sometimes you get in the space where it's like, and I've had this happen in the past where hey, I want to, you know, come to the show, but then it's like, this one I need my own brain. Right. I can't split my thoughts. Yeah. It almost feels like with you, it doesn't matter

that much that it's long distance because you're on the road anyway all the time. So it's not like,

it's probably more of a different thing where you can see each other like casually multiple times a week.

Now, like, you're always traveling anyway. So you might actually see someone more. Yeah. I, my issue with

that, my, my feedback to that, if like I was the, oh, you're on the road anyways. It's like, you do have to preserve your, your time. You know, I have to like, you know, like when I take a flight to New York and I'm like, I'm going to get three, three things done on the plane. If I'm with someone on that flight, I have to like, you're not getting anything down. Not getting anything down the plane. Until you've been in a relationship for a while and then you don't

need to speak to each other. Right. And, but then you set up a precedent of like a year-in-while you used to talk with me on the plane ride. Right. But we hear you and you might live together and then you might be like, well, we just spoke, all right. I mean, listen, I, I, and I'm trying the one thing with this is I'm trying, and it's happened a couple times where I'm almost like getting ahead of arguments I would have with an X that I had. Okay. You're pretty fighting. I'm pretty fighting. Like, yeah, I'm like,

and I'm like, I can understand why people who have, you know, who are in their 30s and 40s who get in relationships that were in other long-term relationships are like, they kind of like, the other, the next person kind of pays the price or gets a better version. Right. You know, goes both once because I, you know, like, I'm like, there's sometimes where I'm like, hey, I have to do this show and I can't do otherwise before I have to get my thoughts together and

I've had that be like, well, why would, you know, I've been gotten in arguments about that in the past and now I'm like, saying that to this person, but they don't have a problem with it. I think that's

“good. I think that's what you like, your better communicator than you used to be. Probably. That's”

a way to look at it. Yeah. But I don't want to like hold this other person to this, the problems of another relationship, but I guess that's, no, I think it's a good thing. She's getting like the clearly communicating boundary setting person. You're right. I'm a fantastic boyfriend. I mean, that doesn't, nothing you're saying doesn't sound bad to me. I'm trying. You know, it would be weird to be, again, I said this in the last episode, it'd be weird to be 41 and be,

like, you can't be held to the same standard as a 25-year-old boyfriend. Yeah. And I think that's, but I think that's the problem, a lot of the conversation around dating gets into. You know, you have these 40-year-old women who are telling these younger women how trash the new guys are and you're like, they're acting like 25-year-olds. You know, like, I can't sit here and act like I'm on a high horse. You know, like, it's easier to be a 41-year-old boyfriend than it is to be a

25-year-old boyfriend. Right. Well, I don't know what to do. Right. I'm not trying to like take away credit for myself, but it's easier to be, you know, have disposable income and, yeah, a career and

“a direction that I like. And that's kind of what I wanted. That's why, you know, again, like,”

looking back at not getting into a relationship before, you know, when you're trying to figure

out your career, that's just one thing that was like always on my mind. And I've kind of

just, I'm a little bit more at peace with that. Yeah, I think that's great. I think, I mean, timing is part of it. Right. Is, I think, a big part of it. It's underrated part of it. Well, we're talking about today. Let's get into our episode. Let's get into our episode before we do. I am on the road as comfortable as I am in my career. We have some tickets to sell. And I want you to come to a show. You know, West Hampton, I'm coming this summer. I'll be there.

Jordan is going to be there with you. I haven't seen your set yet. I know. You got to see it. I'm in the process of really like getting into the, the set right now. I had one set that was an hour and 20 minutes. I'm chopping in a half and concentrating on the beginning. Is that the better half, I would run. It's just different. Okay. It's a different subject. They're two different subjects. Okay.

“The second half, I think, is about my relationship life and stuff I'm going through now. So I'm like,”

I got to like work that out. Yeah. Okay. So I'm on the road. If you're listening right now, Tempe Arizona, I'm also going to be in St. Louis, Missouri and Norwalk Connecticut, Las Vegas, Nevada,

Los Angeles, California. Jacksonville never been there for shows, Austin and then West Hampton Beach,

Portland, Maine. That's the calendar, Jaredfree.com for the tickets. Also walking red flag the book. Yes, check it out. Just pre-order it. I made an announcement last time. If you pre-order it and buy it for a friend, I'll send a cameo. Just send me the receipt over DM and then tell me a little bit about you and the friend and I'll make a video. You better have hundreds of thousands of cameos. We need, I would love to have that be my biggest problem. I want to be a New York Times

Wow. I want to be both. Oh, that's so sweet. Let's do it. That's right. Jared's turning into a

“little cheese ball. That's right. That's me. I love it. I love it. I love it. She's a free. She's a free.”

Amazing. All right. Let's do and it's your picky. Let's do it. All right, high-change,

a feather feather. Love the pot. I'll get right into it. I, I'm a 34 year old female in single living in Hollywood, California. I'm fairly extroverted and have good luck meeting men in the wild because I have a really cute dog who introduces me to cute fellow dog owners. Totally get that. I recently met this guy who lives across the street for me because we've been outwalking our dogs around the same times every so often. He's German, which I have been learning on dual and go for the past year.

Okay. What a coincidence. It's kind of random. It's weird. That's probably with a Gotham talking.

Yeah. He's like, I'm doing dog for a walk and she's like, I'm so proud of you.

Mrs. Dog. I'm proud dog. Even your German is really impeccable. Thank you. I can tell you've been doing so much now. I admit I'm a sucker for an accent. It's interesting. I wouldn't think of the German accent as like sexy. I think it was, well, I don't think I did it a lot of justice just now. I don't think you did, but it's very, I mean, my grandparents, my dad's parents were like German from Germany and they sounded like terrifying. Really? It was not. It's a scary one. Yeah. It was like, your

father is gaining a lot of weight. I'd be like, oh my god, you're terrifying me. I didn't know

“they were the dean from a school, you send your kids away to. That's what I'm saying. It's”

their father's been gainsing weight. Yeah. It sounded a little bit like a horror movie, but you know, love the Germans totally. Who's your father? That could be sexy. Yeah. Anyway, she likes the German accent, not for me, but we met a couple of times. We met a couple of times before

he finally asked for my Instagram. Wow, he asked for her Instagram. That's a real

lag. Everything is really making sense here. I should mention I'm also a model and I shoot mostly E-Com campaign and social media for content and social media content for brands. That's very LA. Very LA, very like new age version of JC Penny model. I could see that. You know, it's like, you know, I just do some slight chair modeling. Right. This is, I mean, it's, yeah, I'm a model, but I don't do, run way. Run way. I'm catalog. Catalog. Catalog, that's right.

Okay. I wouldn't say I look like your typical Instagram model, but I have more of that girl next door vibe. After a few weeks of following each other on social and chatting a couple of times, since then, he asked me to go out to a bar for drinks. I said, yes, the next day I posted a photo of some new glasses a brand set me to promote an exchange for commission. So I touched a very

“simple link because I'm honestly, because honestly, I ordered the wrong prescription, but they were”

cute, so I posted about them anyway. I don't know if that's relevant, but very nice. Okay. Good for you. His response really kicked me out, and she attaches the screenshot. I'm looking at the picture of her. Okay. And yeah, daddy like. She's got some cleavage. She's got some, I mean, she didn't, she's cute, and she's definitely, she, would you call this a sexual picture? Yes, and no. Okay. No, because she has some glasses on. Well, she has some, what's it called? When you,

she has some deniability. You can't, unless it's a link. Well, the link, but also, I'm just taking a picture. And, oh, my titties are there. Okay. Do you know what I mean? Like, look, cleavage. It's not like she's wearing a bikini, and she's like posing. Right. This is the picture that we all take, where we know we look good, but we don't want it. We're not saying we look good. And, and someone writes you, oh, thirst trap. And you're like, come on. Really? Me? Right. This is one of those pictures. And she

may even be hearing me and getting it out by me saying that, because now I'm taking her inside the mind of the man who picked her out. But I'm saying, when I see this picture, it is sure there's glasses there, but like, and it also, she didn't just take a picture. Like, she, she took it, retook it, took it again, and then, you know, like, made sure the lighting was right. She's facing 'em window. Like, sure, she looks good. She looks good. But I'm saying this is like, yeah, I know what

and to the men, men watching who are attracted to her will go as a hot pick of a girl. I think is hot. Right. You know, so. Simple as that. You know, again, we're like one road away from like where she wants everyone to be thinking. Most men are, you know, you're one standard deviation where I'm like, you know, I don't look at that picture and go, she really looks put together and, oh my god,

“what do we do we, do we blow a gloss? She looks like girlfriend material. That's what she wants”

you to think. And that's not what we're thinking. We're saying. She looks like someone I could really be with. No, no, no, no, I'm looking at this. I thought that would do titties on the, uh, are you ever seen a picture of a woman and thought that? Like, is that something that women just

think men might think? Never thought that. Never thought never been like that could really be with

her. No. No, I think she looks great. That probably be as nice as, as, as like normal as I would be. Oh, she looks good. Oh, whoa. Oh, shit. Okay. Oh, whoa, balls moved. No, I don't know. I want to go on. I date with her. I, well, it's not that. Right. It always starts with, oh, whoa, oh, shut. Right. First you check in as you say with the penis. The penis is a strong dictator and will not allow you on a date that he doesn't want to go on. Right. So that's the first barrier to go through.

That is just imagine, when I'm looking at Instagram or any guy, it's their penis just looking at it. Just gone. I, you can come in now. It's a bouncer. That's the bouncer. Right. So, but I do understand where she, like, again, that is not up to her to teach a guy. Right. To go back to make this more,

right, to make me a feminist. Of course. It's not up to her to be like, you're just, this is just

what you're getting. It's like taking your net and swat and putting it out of the back of the boat. You're going to get fish, but you're also going to get tires and metal rods and, you know, all the scum of the ocean. Right. Okay. All right. So she posts this picture and he responds. So he responds to her picture of her with the cleavage in the glasses. See, even the order I put in it, cleavage and the glasses. You disappointed a lot of people with this link laughing face emoji,

laughing face emoji, laughing face emoji. Huh? Why? New glasses, duh. It looked like only fans link. Okay. So she writes, it's like the most disappointing response. I know. Because her being like, well, her being, like, glasses duh, you're being delusional. I would not know what he was talking about though with, like, with the link. You know, I agree with you. I wouldn't be like,

“I would be a little confused as to, like, what do you mean, where did you think this link was going?”

Right. Like, there's ways to compliment someone's looks without, no, this isn't that. I don't know why you do that. Right. For him to even mention, you don't mention only fans.

It is fight club. The first rule is the only fans. Right. The only fans is one of those things.

I even hear like, guys talk about it. Like, I was on it. Like, I heard a guy recently. He was like, I was on a rolly fans and I, you know, I'm now off it. I'm like, I can't believe he said that I'll loud. Is that something like a lot of most people have? I don't like our own. Under two men, look at two men. Have you ever seen someone's only fans? I'm not a member of anyone's only fans. And I just kind of thought that was like a, don't ask, don't tell the

thing. Yeah. I heard, I'm trying to think back when I heard it, but I have this, like, weird memory of like, someone being like, oh, I was on that only fans and I had to get off or, you know, my time was done there. Like, I don't know, this might be disappointing every woman who was listening. I'm just saying, it is a thing being used. Right. I'm sure we live. Especially by content creators. And they're like, right. And well, and being used by maybe your boyfriend. Okay. So I was saying,

like, the idea that like, every, all these people have only fans like and no one's subscribing, people are subscribing. Like, this is a real business for people. Yeah. People make a lot of money in there. Okay. So she writes, his response really kicked me out. I'm a curvy or girl with proportional boobs. So men tend to sexualize me, but I make a point not to share any photos that are too revealing on Instagram. And he only sees me when I've just rolled out of bed.

So it's your picky. A man assumes I'm an only fans model because I share my work on social media.

“I think, listen, I'm not here. I don't think it's hard to respond to because I kind of disagree”

with her perspective. I wouldn't see all right. I mean, do you think this is her just sharing her work on social media? I'm not saying she deserves. Right. This isn't me being like, low-cut shirt. You were asking for it. I'm just saying, you got a gross response. You're turned off. That's okay. But like, let's not be shocked here. I think yes and no. I don't think women think about how disgusting men are like that often. I just don't like, to me, I don't think about

that much. I wasn't like the first, I first noticed the glasses as opposed to you. So I do think

“there's a little plot plausible deniability here. She's like a little like, I think she thinks”

she looks great. But I think she also think I think her face looks nice. Like, I don't really necessarily think she's, again, and I'm not looking at this picture going, like, I'm joking, it's a little bit going, oh, titties, titties, titties. But I look at this picture, I go, this is a picture where she's looking sexy. Right. I don't feel like a this picture and go, oh my god, this ad for glasses. I might as well as Roman who's not looking at her books,

but I could see what you're saying. And I'm not just looking, again, I've made 30 million

jokes better boobs. I'm just saying, I look at this again, men are like bees. You know, with our eyesight, just like you squint a little and you get a little fuzzy, hot girl, hotty. Him mentioning only fans is like crazy to me. Best in converse. The legendary checkout from Shopify for either the shop on their website, this is in the social media and UberIDOT's vision. That's a music for their own.

Videos of the rest of vendors, with Shopify, can't sit to an action-hit burden. Start it on Test noch heute für nur einen Euro pro Monat auf Shopify.de/recorder. I was trying to think of how only fans could come up naturally, and I couldn't really think of whether, like, how could only fans come up and a guy could bring it up. Like, do you know anything where it wouldn't be weird? Because any mention of only fans, you're just basically saying,

“I want to fuck you. Right. And that's what he's saying. Right. So it is perfectly normal for”

her to be like, "Ikta out and be like, I don't want to go out with them." Now you know exactly what he's after. He is not looking for a date. He looked free. You know, and there were clues.

He's for your Instagram. That's just for your number. He never made a plan.

Oh, now he's responding to Instagram stories. This guy is as hacky as they come. Yeah. We've seen this before. There's been clues. Right. So the fact that he said it is almost a blessing. Right. You don't have to wonder, maybe he just liked wanting to see my Instagram. Like, he asked anyone who asked for your Instagram before your number is not trying to seriously date you. Not at all. Trying to fuck you, trying to keep it about what Instagram is about, which is

the looks, pictures, the no-depth. You know, Instagram doesn't offer depth. I know your caption was really well written, but no one read it. We looked at the hot picture where, oh my god, look of them titties. Maybe she'll suck me off. Wow. That's the reality. I'm sorry to shock everyone in this room. What is going through his mind when he sends that that what is logic when he's like, you disappointed a lot of people with this link. What is he hoping happens there? I guess you

just, what does he hope? When he says you're disappointed a lot of people with that link, it's not only fans, that's him saying you disappointed me. I was really hoping to see you naked. Right. And would you like to come over after the dog park one day and maybe roll around like those dogs do. So he's shooting his shot at that. This was his like side door version of come over and blow me without any responsibility. So sweet. Here's ways I'd bring up and let me,

these are ways I bring up only fans. Okay. And let's tell me if it's weird. I have a cousin who has an only fans crazy, right? Would that be weird? Were you on the topic? We're on the date. Okay. You mentioned your cousin, I go, you know my cousin has only fans. Isn't that crazy? It's doable. It's doable. Yeah. Okay. Maybe you want to talk business. Well, okay. So the only fans that I would ask how much they made. Okay. Right. We're going to that

direction. Yeah. Okay. The guy from only fans that I created has just passed. You know that?

No, I didn't know that. So he just passed. Who have never only found the who have never

only been. So we're talking about that. You know, only and then I say this. Only fans of platform, right? Cheer for them. But I don't think I could get over the hump to actually pay for it account. What's the hump? And I'm paying for this very feeling personal relationship with them.

“Would that be weird for me to say? I think it would still be, or would data be on?”

Two. No, two early for the other hand. Two early to think about you purchasing only fans. What if he said this to people assume you have an only fans because you model? That has to be tough to not be taken seriously. That sounds nice. That's nice. Yeah. But is that actually skinny? It's a little skinny. Like, yeah. I don't know. I just, I was thinking, I was like, is there any way to show this? You're so hot. You could be an only fans model. People would

pay for your not like a cover model or anything. You're not that hot. But like only fans. Sure. JC Penny catalog and only fans. Absolutely. Definitely you. Yeah. I would only subscribe to an

frequent heard her Instagram account. No. No. You can't say that. Okay. So I'm kind of trying to

“know. All right. Listen to her. This is a runaway. Not a walk away. Or if you want to hook up,”

like that's what he's looking for. Yeah. If that's you're looking for. But that's why, and that's why he everything he's doing is leading to trying to hook up with you. Right. It all leads to let me see you naked. Let's do another email. All right. 29 year old virgin and he did rivalry. Jordan and Jared. First, first, let me say, it's firstly a word. I think so. First, first of all, should be first of all. Let me start by saying I love the podcast with love you take on my current

situation. I've been seeing a guy for about four months. He has a lot of qualities that I want in a long term partner. I really like him and spending time with him. The issue is we haven't gotten

past making out. He's shared with me. He's never had sex with anyone. And I was taken aback by this,

but assured him it's okay. And we can do whatever feels right. That was a month ago. We still haven't progressed past a heavy make-out session. At this point, I don't feel like I'm in an adult relationship. It's giving 15. First boyfriend vibes. I also can't help but think there's something else going on. He's not telling me. Not to mention he was also very interested in eating rivalry. What are your thoughts on this? Am I putting too much weight into this? What do you think?

So she's asking us if he won't have sex with her because he's gay. Right. I mean, here's the thing.

If someone, if you're looking to be in a more sexual relationship and this person is very sexually inexperienced and not looking for that, it's okay to not want to date them. Right. It doesn't mean you need to speculate on why. It doesn't mean, you know, it could be for a number of reasons.

“But like, though, I think the only thing that matters here is she wants to be with someone who's more”

sexual with this guy, isn't that sexual? You're in the same page. I think she's doing with a lot of women do is need a reason for why it didn't work out so that they're not considered an unlovable cat lady. I think it's also like, you don't want to feel like you threw away a good, a good guy. Sure. So you need to kind of like Bill and I said, right. And it's like, because what you're saying is it's two different things. Right. Is he gay? Not your problem. That

goes under the category of not for something for you to deal with. Right. You don't need to investigate it. You don't need to look for clues. You just have to say is he meeting whatever needs that I want and which sounds like he's not. Right. You want a guy who's looking to get a little freaky with you

and explore parts of your body that have never been explored. And we encourage that on this show.

So find your guy, your Marco Polo that can explore your body in a way that's respectful and delicious. That is the going motto of this podcast. I love it. A delicious respectful time. Something for you guys to think about. Delicious and respectful. That's my new merch. You're going to get a hat? DNR. Delicious and respectful. Isn't it? Do not resuscitate. No, yeah. I think what she's doing is immature. This is like, you know, again,

you know, any love. This is something she can talk about at the brunch table. And it's fun, fodder. Right. It was, you know, it was weird how much she was into that. But it's not

“about, I don't think you need to figure that out with him. Right. You need to figure out that you”

would like to get off with a guy that you trust and have fun with. The same that guy. Yep. It's over. We said dating again. We did it. We'll be back next week. Boom. That's it.