As a business owner.
What would you say is your number one key to success? - Alignment and nervous system regulation.
“And I think with nervous system regulation,”
so I guess the number one thing's nervous system regulation because it's so easy to be an alignment. - You say six-month reset to somebody who runs a business, whereas running a very successful enterprise,
they're gonna look at you like it crazy. - Well, so I think if we're privileged enough to take a six-month reset, if you push yourself that far, then sometimes that is the antidote. - Nicole LaMaster is a compassionate, insightful,
and trauma-informed therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and somatic experiencing practitioner dedicated to helping people heal from trauma, regulate their nervous system, and reconnect with their inner wisdom.
- What the fuck am I doing? - I don't think a book like this exists, so it's like kind of supporting people going through a process that I support them, going through when they're in trauma therapy with me,
or when we're doing the dream coaching.
“And it's really taking you through this nervous system realm”
and really supporting you, living your best life. With all my clients, I love to use the word micro-dosing regulation. Like right, micro-dosing is such a big word right now and the psilocybin world in Ayahuasca
and ketamine even, and I think there's. - It spans the globe, like a super high school, Internet Elvis, ready, high school. - Today, Apple is going to reinvent the phone. - It's not over, I'm telling how we're...
- The living your legacy podcast, or those who live, to leave a legacy. (crowd cheering) - Welcome back everybody to another episode of the Living Your Legacy podcast.
I'm your host for today, Jason Tyler. And today, I am joined by Miss Nicole. Lee Master, it's Lee Master, not "Lum Master." - You can live your dream. - Welcome back everybody to another episode
of the Living Your Legacy podcast. I'm your host for today, Jason Tyler. And today, I am joined by Miss Nicole. Lee Master, it's Lee Master, not "Lum Master." - Well, in French, it's "Lum Master."
- "Lum Master." - Lee Master is how I was great. - I wanted to make sure I got the pronunciation on that. We could put the call, welcome to the show. - Thank you.
- Thank you for being here. - Yes, thank you. - So we're about to go into filming your episode of "Women In Power,"
first of all, how are you feeling?
- Good, excited.
“- Got a little bit of nerves, any jitters, anything like that?”
- I'm up, there's a paradox going on. I'm oddly very settled and feeling like it's time. And it's hoping the jitters that I'm able to get my point across, clearly. - Got you, got you.
So you're feeling someone at peace? - Yeah. - Nice. - That's exactly the energy that I look for when we go into the recording session
'cause a lot of times we end up drumming up some trauma and things like that, so I want to make sure everybody's got good energy going in, but if you had to say what would be like the number one thing you want people to learn from your story?
- That transformation is possible and easier than you think.
- And so this is the audience's sort of first time
getting to know Nicole. So walking through a little bit of your story, talking about where you grew up, how do I get to the Nicole that's sitting across from me right now?
- Well, that version is long, so I'll try to condense it. - Yeah, I should do it. - But born in New York raised in Arizona, we moved from New York to Arizona because my parents bought a home in Love Canal,
which is one of the biggest known chemical dumps that homes were built on. And so that was found out and so we got displaced and my house, particularly was born on a diacs and hotspot. So I had environmental trauma immediately from birth
and then my parents wanted to just move as far away from New York. - I was gonna say, 'cause you went like, used to west, real fast, yes, yes. And then it was raised there and then I became a flight attendant
and I've lived in Chicago, Indiana, Washington, DC. - Love Chicago. - Yeah. - I love the city of Chicago, it's so enough, but I tried going there in the winter time
and I was like, never again.
- It's actually the only reason why I didn't stay there forever 'cause I did a couple winters and I was just like, I can't-- - But Chicago and the summer-- - Oh my gosh.
- Orange, it's so gorgeous, I love it there. I was a matter of fact, you know what, I'm gonna book a trip, but so you've been kind of all over
The place.
- Yeah, yeah.
“- How do we get from flight attendant to where we are now?”
- So it's really interesting, I feel like,
so I'm twice exceptional. So I got labeled as dyslexic but way in adult life. And so I really, really struggled through school because I went undiagnosed. And but I'm really creative and I'm super verbal,
so it kind of just did not get caught by the education system or my family. And so I kind of felt like I wasn't smart, right? And so college, like, started feeling like such a far reach, yeah.
And so my mom actually, she was so sweet. And she was like, okay, so what do you wanna do in your life? 'Cause I was really struggling and not knowing the my direction. And I was like, oh, I wanted to be a astronaut college. Look, obviously not going to happen.
- One major barrier, you treat there? - Yeah, beauty pageant queen. And I did a couple beauty pageants and it wasn't for me.
They wanted me to be not me, right?
Like, blow out your hair. - You gotta have the straight hair and you gotta wear all the freely outfits. - Well, I'm kind of really right now, but. But it just wasn't me.
It was like too much of a mask.
“And so the only thing left was a flight attendant.”
And on my list of three. And so synchronistically, I became a flight attendant. And I realized like, through all of my jobs, being a flight attendant, I was helping people with anxiety. I was a bartender, I was helping people with their problems.
- I was a bartender as well. And you kind of, funny enough, like, my dad's a psychologist. And then I kind of come from that psychology background. Like, we had a huge library of psychology books in my house growing up.
- Well, me and your dad would be at a long man.
- And then I went into bartending.
And I was like, oh, I'm kind of a therapist. - Yeah. - Like, it's kind of the same. - Yeah. - 'Cause when you're working the bar,
like you're getting people, especially when you have, like, your regulars, you're getting all of their trauma. - Total, all of their woes. - Total, no, I mean.
“- And then the antidote is, ends up being alcohol, right?”
Which, like, kind of didn't, like, right, your, the connection was part of it. But right, the antidote in those situations ends up being actually the alcohol. - And then you get to watch them kind of make this transition
from like, I came in here. It's an upward curve, right? I came in here, it was in kind of a social mood and then I got really, really happy. And but then as the alcohol starts to take effect,
it's like, oh, now I'm like, I'm even worse off when I came in and it's like, yeah. - I feel like I did that even though. - Yeah. - You know what I mean?
- Yeah. - You start to take on a little bit of guilt in that scenario. That's why I stopped doing it. - Yeah, similar actually. - We're, we're right there.
In bartenders all know this subconsciously. - Right, that's really interesting. It's like, yeah, and it was a really fun time. Like, I enjoyed my bartending time, but it wasn't like, my purpose.
And so then fast forward, I'm still being a flight attendant. I moved to San Francisco, the Bay Area, but I got Beast and SFO. So, and I thought I was gonna do that forever.
That was like my dream to get to like, the collective space where consciousness is like, really explored and I got there and I was excited. And then I got pregnant. And it was kind of not a planned pregnancy.
And I ended up having a miscarriage on a flight as a flight attendant with an emergency landing. That needed to happen. - Wow. - Right, yes.
And I think because of all my developmental trauma, I didn't ever think I wanted to be a parent. And what happened in this short amount of time being pregnant and then going through the miscarriage was this like, wow, I really,
I really do want to experience this. So then I had my son and he was planned and he brought so much magic to my life. And I had this moment because I was off for a leave. You get to be off on leave.
- Mm. - Oh, I can go back and fly in a year. Doctor wrote the note, oh, I could go back and fly into years, Doctor wrote the note. And then I was like, I am not going to China for six days
leaving my son even when he's like eight years old. So what am I going to do? And I actually hated running, this is so bizarre. I hated running, I still hate running. - Me too.
- I despise it. - Oh.
- Still do it, don't enjoy it.
- Don't enjoy it, not one little ounce of me.
And so I had this thought, like if I can run a marathon which I did. - That's a large jump. - Yeah, going from not running to running. - A half marathon.
The most you're going to get on me is a five K.
“- Yeah, yeah, that's how I was before too.”
That I could do anything. That was kind of like, I don't know, what in me kind of formulated this idea but it was like a real thing. Like if I could do this thing, I hate and do it,
I can do anything. And so I ran that half marathon. I cried across the finish line. It was a beautiful run. I got to run across the Golden Gate Bridge.
It was really beautiful.
And like the last mile was so hard.
- Grueling. - So hard. And I decided to go back to school after that. And I faced kind of all of my peers of not being smart enough or good enough or any of that.
- Beautiful. - Yeah. - Beautiful. And so you have your book with you. - Yes.
- I do want to make sure that we shout that out. - Thank you. - Talk to me a little bit about that. - Okay. - WTF am I even doing?
- What the fuck am I doing? Which is a fantastic title off the bat. Like if I saw that in a bar is no one, I'm like, I'm gonna pick that up. - Thank you.
Thank you. - Great cover, great presentation for it in general.
Talk to me a little bit about first of all,
what got you into writing. And then second of all, what is WTF am I even doing with the book? - Yeah. - Talk to me about that.
- Yeah, so writing is an interesting paradox and way of doing things for me because I am dyslexic, right? - Exactly, I wanted to touch on that 'cause writing as someone with dyslexia is a journey.
- Yeah, it's been hard. And it's been worthwhile.
“And I think it, I've always wanted to do something”
and this is just really a collective piece of me in writing that people can access me easier and go through a process that I don't think a book like this exists. So it's like kind of supporting people
going through a process that I support them and going through when they're in trauma therapy with me or when we're doing the dream coaching. And it's really taking you through this nervous system realm and really supporting you, living your best life, right?
And inside this book, so it's really interesting, I'm a somatic therapist and obviously 'cause I emphasize nervous system. But my master's was actually transpersonal emphasis, which means I love young and I love carotrangers.
And so there's this way that these expanded states of consciousness really speak to me and yoga, in breath work, in dancing your life away on the dance floor. Like there's a lot of ways and ways that I think this book
helps thread these things that people feel good about but they don't really know how to capture unless they're on the dance floor or unless they're on the yoga mat, right? And so this is kind of teaching you how to kind of weave
these states. - And also kind of the correlation between not only the state of being but why you feel good in that state. If you can understand a little bit of the why behind it,
“you can kind of reverse engineer it in other places, right?”
- Yes, yes, and so it's kind of, so it kind of has some psychoeducation in there and then a little bit of my life and my journey just a snippet and then the rest is a workbook and it goes through all seven chakras
and there's a yoga pose for each chakra and then there is the nervous system questions for you to explore and take your time and understand yourself in a new way. - Beautiful, beautiful guys make sure
if you're tuned in, still at this point, make sure that you check out her book, WTF, am I even doing, which is, this is published already, it's already out there on the shelves, people can go find it.
- Amazon. - Go find it on Amazon. We want this to be our next Amazon best seller, so make sure we go do that and then for our audience,
their super business minded, the very entrepreneurial, for you now as a business owner, what would you say
Is your number one key to success?
- Alignment and nervous system regulation.
“And I think with nervous system regulation,”
so I guess the number one thing's nervous system regulation because it's so easy to be an alignment. - It's, I found in my life like once I picked up a camera that was just kind of like the light bulb flick moment for me where I was like, all right, this is the alignment.
I know that this is a path. All the other details I can kind of figure out on the way, what the nervous system regulation part. And I think a lot of business owners struggle with this specifically because at least,
most of the ones that I've spoken to, they have this sort of go-go, go-go, go-go mentality
and they never sit back for a moment
and take a look at what they're actually doing to their nervous system and then you hit burnout. - Totally. - And, or get sick. - Physically, like you can become physically ill
or on the flip side, you can deplete your body of your feel good chemicals, your dopamine, your serotonin, your neropinephrine. - Oxytocin. - Oxytocin.
- Your adrenal glands literally burn out. Cortisol raises. - And you describe, like a business owner will describe it as this feeling, oh man, I'm really tired, you know, but I work 90 hours a week, I work 120 hours a week,
like it makes sense.
No, you don't understand what you're actually doing
to your body, like your body has none of that of those processes left and you actually need to, you think a two week vacation might fit, you might actually need like a six-month reset. - Yeah.
- You know what I mean? And I've talked to different business owners about this and you say six-month reset to somebody who runs a business, running a very successful enterprise. They're gonna look at you like it crazy.
- Well, so I think if we're privileged enough to take a six-month reset, if you push yourself that far, then sometimes that is the antidote, right? But I think the nervous system really wants homeostasis.
It really, really does.
“- And you have to engineer that in your day-to-day life.”
- Yes.
And so like helping your internal and external world
to be congruent, right? And so learning to tune to yourself differently. So you can make these small micro shifts. Like I have, like with all my clients, I love to use the word micro-dosing regulation.
Like right micro-dosing is such a big word right now in the psilocybin world in Ayahuasca. And just the cadamine event. And I think there's beauty in this idea of titration. Right?
And we can really help our nervous system get these small, beautiful resets, which can add to resilience and capacity, and then potentially, if you're not in a space that you could take six months that at least--
- You can micro dose your way to getting that regulation. - Yes. - Yes. - I love that. I love that as a concept.
Guys, if you're still tuning in at this point, I want you to make sure that you check out Nicole's episode of Women in Power, which will be coming out shortly after this podcast episode, As we kind of wrap up here, Nicole,
where can people find you on social media, website, all of the things? - Yeah. So my dream coaching, which has nervous system work, is my name, NicoleLemaster.com.
And then my trauma therapy website is interconnectedheart.com. And you can find me if you Google NicoleLemaster, I'm pretty active on my platform, so things come up for TikTok and Instagram and Facebook.
And I would love, love, love to have you there. - Make sure you follow her on all of the things, guys. All of the things.
“But with that, I think we've covered a lot of ground here.”
Are you ready to go do your interview? - Yeah. - Let's do it. - Okay. - All right, guys, this has been another episode. Make sure you check out the book.
And make sure you check out her episode of Women in Power coming to you shortly. Again, I'm your host Jason Tyler and I will catch you guys in the next one.
