1039. Q&AF: Giving Advice Vs Letting Go, Leading Without Micro-Managing & Feeling Behind Despite Success

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I got three good ones for you, man. So let's dive into these guys. Andy, question number one. Andy, I'm 33. And one of the hardest things for me lately

has been watching people I care about make the same mistakes over and over again. Same financial problem, same relationship issues, same excuses at some point, I stopped giving advice because it felt like they didn't actually want help.

How do you know when to keep trying to pull people forward and when to let them figure it out on their own? Well, I would ask you, like, what are you doing? Okay, like, how's your stuff look? How's your life going?

Are you in a position to give advice? How do you do anything that's gonna make people listen to your advice? You know, we see all these people online giving advice about all these things,

but if we really look at their lives, nobody wants it. So you gotta realize that for people to want to listen to you,

“you have to represent something that is worthy of them”

achieving, okay? The advice has to be qualified. And I think with social media, especially we've come to this time in the world where everybody thinks that their advice is valuable

and it's not, you know, not everybody's advice is equal, not everybody has equal amount of value to provide, and just because you get a microphone and a few followers on social media, doesn't mean you're giving good advice.

So, you know, the truth of the matter is, is that unless you're achieving something that is worthy of achieving, nobody's gonna listen to anything that you say, and this is a big problem why so many people have problems

getting traction as a content creator on the internet. Well, because you haven't done anything, okay? What have you done? And what qualifies you to give advice, okay? So that's the first thing.

The second thing is, there's like 2% of the population that actually are achievers and winners. Okay, everybody else doesn't give a fuck. They live by the list. They go to school, they get married, they have some kids,

they never ask themselves what they actually want,

and then they go through some sort of midlife crisis, you know, in their 40s because they're like fuck, I never even thought about what I wanted. So that's most people. So you got to realize that if you're not living something

worthy of them to observe and aspire to be, they're not gonna open their eyes to what's possible for themselves. And second of all, even if you do, a lot of them don't want it, okay?

So like, why are you that worried about it? No. You know what I mean? Like, bro, the best thing you can do is worry about yourself, go out and win big,

let the people who are gonna also have the propensity to want to win big, observe that winning. And then when they reach out and they say, hey, man, this is awesome. I wanna do this.

That's when you say, yeah, you can. Here's what you gotta do. So stop giving unqualified advice in ways you're energy on people

“who quite honestly aren't gonna do shit with their lives.”

It's almost like a sense of like false loyalty to the wrong people for some reason. Well, I think when people win, you want everybody else to win, especially when you're like a normal person,

and you haven't come from much, and you come from, you know, regular America, and then you realize that you can win, and you realize that it's not as hard as people say.

And then you realize it's worth it.

If you're a good person, you're gonna want that for other people. You know, one of the biggest reasons I do what I do is because I understand how normal I am and how regular I am,

and I understand that everybody else out there that's normal and regular also has the capacity to win, but you gotta want to win. You gotta have those dreams and goals. There's a lot of people that don't do.

There's a lot of people that don't even think about tomorrow. They don't even think about anything past Friday night. You're not gonna magically say something to those people that's gonna make them wanna do it. Even if you want it for them, you know,

“the best thing you can do is win and then they can see that”

and then they can say, oh shit, and maybe a light bulb will go off, but maybe it won't, but if it doesn't, they don't, I mean, you're just wasting your breath. - Do the advice pieces, you two, man.

I feel like we've talked about this before. It's like, you know, being very careful, obviously who you're taking advice from, but it's like just because somebody can give you good advice in one area of your life doesn't mean

that they can give you good advice and all the other thing. - I mean, how many of these people have we seen our mind, you know, give business advice and all of a sudden, now they're giving marriage advice and then their marriage falls apart

and who they're fucking idiots, right? Like, not even Jesus.

- Yeah, all right, that's what it always comes back to.

When people are out of options and they burn their credibility so hard, then they become like, you know, holy rollers. - That's right. - And I'm not a dog and anybody that's, you know,

found Jesus and lives that life, but it is awfully convenient for a lot of these people, right? Like, they don't all kinds of bad shit. Now all of a sudden, it's Jesus' time.

“And, you know, that's how it's supposed to be,”

but not when you're, it's your brand, you know? But, yeah, man, I mean, look dude, yeah, you're not an expert on everything. Just because you're winning doesn't mean that you know everything about everything else, you know?

So, like, I try to stick to my lane in terms of navigating personal development and business and how to win and make money and success because I understand that pretty well. I don't give my friends advice on other areas of shit, you know?

Like, I'm not giving my brother parenting advice

when I've never had fucking kids, you know what I mean?

That's real. Let me actually do this. I mean, this is an interesting topic. How diversified is your friend group at this point? I don't know, you're black.

(coughing) You're fucking Indian over there. You're a Bosnian. I say it's pretty diverse. I mean, I mean, 'cause your circle is small, right?

You know what I'm saying, but like, have you ever heard? My friends are all different kinds of people. I'm friends. My, I have friends that are worth a billion dollars or more. I have friends that are fucking just getting going

in life, man. To me, you know, but here's the one thing they all have a common. They all want to be better. And whatever it is.

Right. So they're all positive people. They all want to win. They're all good people. They're fun people.

They usually tell pretty good jokes, except you. All right, we're working on it. I mean, we're working on that, but, right? But, you know, the character qualities are the same. Regardless of where the financial level is, you know.

So, and dude, you know, that's a good, well-rounded friend group. Because, you know, there's a lot of value in helping people who might be younger than me who are hungry and they want to win. Like, I enjoy that, just like my friends who are older than me that are more down, they enjoy helping me.

And, you know, that's where friends are supposed to do. So, I'd say, you know, I think people would be surprised. Yeah. For sure. You know, I think people probably would be very surprised.

Yeah. You know, I don't judge my friendship based on their income level and shit, which is kind of weird because it seems like a lot of people do. A lot of people do. Yeah.

A lot of people do. I would say that's not real friendship, though. Yeah, but, I mean, you look at guys like, I mean, dude, like, we're just talking about Dana for a second. All Dana's friends are like that.

Yeah. All different guys from different walks of life who make different amounts of money. But they're all the same character type of person. Yeah. Yeah, that's real.

That's right.

“And that's what I mean, like, just diversity and expertise.”

Yeah. More or less. Like different industries differently. Yeah. But the character is still there.

For sure. You know, they're ambitious. They're hungry. They're well-rounded good people. You know, they don't take themselves overly serious.

You know, like, no. I want to hang out with them. You know what I mean? Yeah, that's cool. You know, I don't like hanging around people who get offended at all, like, because I'm

going to offend you.

Like, if you can offend it, I automatically think you're total pussy because you allow words to affect your emotional state. You know, I can't be friends with pussy. No. It doesn't work.

What? I love it. Yeah. Be them up. That's right.

Yeah. Right. Yep. Yeah. Guys, Andy, question number two.

Yeah. Hey, Andy. Hey. I'm 31.

And I'm about to be promoted to my first managerial role within my company.

I'm very detailed and process oriented, but I don't want to be a micromanager in the new role.

“How do you navigate not micromanaging your employees?”

Let me actually first is micromanaging a bad thing. It depends. It depends on the situation of where the person is. I mean, I mean, dude, look, like, have you taught your girls on a ride a bike yet? I've taught them how to do one.

For sure. No, yeah. Okay. Well, when you're teaching your little girl on a ride a bike, do you just throw on the bike?

It's a run down the street or do you like grab the seat behind and like, you know, run with them. Right? In the beginning, when someone doesn't know what they're doing, you know, you're going to, you're going to, what people would call micromanages, which is really just coaching

them on how to do the job. And, you know, we're microman, so yes, to answer your question, or no, it's not always a bad thing. Yes, it's sometimes it's required. However, micromanaging generally comes from the manager overestimating their own abilities.

It's an ego problem. Okay? What I mean by that is, a lot of people who are further up the chain, they assume that they are the only person that can move up the chain. So they're like, I'm up the chain and you're not as good as me, and you're not going

to do things as well as I am. And so they refuse to let that person ever show them what they're capable of and what

that creates is a circle, a vicious circle of basically your employees never developing.

And you always having to try and do everything, which is only caused by your own lack of trust and your overestimation and underestimation of their abilities. So, you know, a lot of people, they will complain, I'm like, where do you find good employees? You don't find them. You've got to build them.

“And part of that building is that you have to allow them to make mistakes.”

You have to allow them to learn. You have to allow them to display what they can actually do to be great. And if you're always up their ass and you're there like you are on day one, on day one hundred, how are they developing it all? What are they learning?

They're not really learning anything. And by the way, you're buffering their everybody wants to be valuable. And some people have this assumption that everybody's lazy, but that's not the truth. People want to feel like they contribute. They want to feel like they're part of the team.

And when you micro-manage people pass the point of them, you know, be able to ride the bike on their own and you kind of let them go a little bit, you're suppressing their ability to feel like they could tribute, you're also suppressing their ability to actually develop. And that creates job dissatisfaction where they end up leaving.

So then you're in this vicious cycle of people coming in, never developing and then leaving

because they're frustrated, and you think it's because it's the employees when really it's your poor leadership style. So, you know, micro-managing dude, like the fact that you're aware of this is a good question because a lot of people never become aware.

“And I think it's a great question because a lot of leaders struggle with it.”

You know, they think I know you don't, I'm here, you're not really able to be here. When that person below you might become even better than you at what you do and by the way, a lot of people are afraid of that. But as a leader and as a manager, the one of the most valuable things that you can do is develop personnel and replicate your own skill set to your level, or even better.

Like if I have a person who I know, I could put other people with and they will come out the other end of that tunnel in a year and be fucking amazing, what's that worth to my company? Yeah. That's worth a lot.

Okay, that's worth a lot. So you can't be afraid of letting these people develop because I'm afraid they're going to take my job. That's like loser thinking, your job should be I'm going to make this person the best that they possibly can be.

And hopefully they will not only do as good as me, but hopefully even better.

happens.

“Essentially ends up being ahead of you, how thankful are they going to be for you helping”

them? Think of that relationship. Okay? So it's kind of like, you know, I said, I wouldn't get parenting advice, but I'm going to give some.

All right. It's kind of like when, you know, if you're a good parent, I think, you know, your job is to make your sons and daughters more successful and have a better life than you at. Right.

And that's the same thing as being a leader. You can't do that if you're hovering over them in micro managing the whole time.

So, you know, the answer is, you know, yes, it's appropriate sometimes.

It's also appropriate when they're off track. Like let's say you got somebody and you've let them ride the bike and they're did a pretty good. And then all of a sudden they start fucking up. Well, dude, they might not have enough awareness to understand where they're messing

up. So you got to go back and kind of examine and then show them, okay, here's why you're off. And then, you know, let them go again, right. And a lot of people are also afraid to let people make mistakes because it's going to cost the company money.

“You have to transition the way that you think about this.”

If you fire someone every time they cost you money, every time they make a mistake, you're going to go and you're going to hire a new person. That person is going to come in.

And you know what they're going to do.

They're going to make that same mistake and it's going to cost you twice. Then you're going to fire that person again, then you're going to hire a new person. That person's going to come in. And guess what they're going to do, they're going to make that same mistake. Now you're going to have it three times.

So the best way is to allow them a little bit of fucking runway and their ability to make mistakes, protect them from being able to make, you know, company sinking mistakes. And look at that as an investment in their development as one of your key players, right? Okay, you made a mistake, you know, across the company $10,000 or $1,000 or $100,000, depending on the size.

Hey man, did you fuck that up? Yeah man, I'm so sorry, what, what did you do wrong? Well, I did this and this and this. What did you learn? Not to do that.

It's right. Okay. And that's, that's the way that you insulate yourself from having someone and having the company make the same mistake over and over again. So just like we talk about, like, with success, right, as an individual, there's really,

you know, two real things that you got to have. You got to have the ability to persevere when things are hard and you got to have the ability to learn from your mistakes. Well, that's also true for a collective company. Okay, your company won't develop.

Past where it is right now, if you don't allow the people that make up the collective of the company to make their mistakes, learn from their mistakes, and then keep moving down the path with them. Okay. So think of, you know, yourself, right?

I'm adding my skill set every time I make a mistake and I discover the solution, and then I do skill as a collective, it works the same way. You see what I'm saying? Absolutely, bro. You know, it's probably like being around here, for example, just even at one p.

One thing that I've noticed too, it's like, even when a mistake is made, not only do they accept the responsibility of everything they take, but how, like, fired up, they are to fucking fix it. Oh, yeah. You know what I'm saying?

I think that's a big piece too. There are a lot of people don't, like not only allowing them to make the mistake, but there's almost like a chip on the shoulder now, to fix it and make it more than right. Well, especially when it comes to disgruntled customers, I mean, it actually presents one of the best opportunities in business, because when a person is upset with your company

for whatever reason, maybe if you bad service, maybe they didn't get their shipment on time, maybe, you know, you shipped them the wrong shit, you know, who knows what it is. And they're super pissed off. That gives you an opportunity to not just correct that problem, but go extra for that person in an unexpected way and create tremendous amounts of value to where that person

now, instead of thinking that, you know, all these guys don't care, and they're just like every other company, now they're like, holy shit, man, these guys are special. And you get to leverage all the other companies, not giving a fuck about their employees, or I mean, I'm sorry, you get to leverage all of the other companies, not giving a fuck about their customers, and this is why customers, like if you guys, you know, have

real companies and you deal with customers, like a lot of times, you know, you'll make

“a small mistake and they will come in so hot, because that's what they're used to having”

to get the problem resolved. But when you could say, hey, dude, I get it. We fucked up, you know, and then you fix it and do a little extra. Now you've, you've disrupted that

person's expectation in a positive way to where they'll never forget that ever again.

of people will ask me, especially in RTA, we get this question. You know, you know,

“what do we do when customers are just like abnormally pissed off, where you got to understand”

where that comes from? How many of you guys have dealt with a company? You can't even get a fucking response from you know, they don't give a shit. And then when you bring it to them, they're like, well, tough shit. That's our policy, right? Like, do we've all dealt with that? We've dealt with that for years. And then when you find a company that actually is like, dude, you're right. We fucked up. I'm going to fix this for you today and not only

going to fix it for you today, and then you do some extra shit for make, you know, make them know that you value their business. And by the way, notice, I didn't say, make them think you value their business. You make them know you value their business. That's a big difference. Now you've created a lifetime customer. So the fact that other customers like our, our other companies treat their customers like shit is a, is a, is a huge leverage

point if you do shit the right way. Have you seen that, that kind of involved a little bit because I'm thinking as you're talking about that, just the, you know, a lot of other companies they just, they just suck at that. Yeah. But combining that with the instant gratification of the, the customer themselves, how we expect everything so fucking quick. Like, has it involved ridiculously over the last, you know, 27 years you've been in every scene

that change. I would say, like, is there less grace now than there was? Oh, yeah, I, I, I, actually think there's two parts to that. I would say, yes, there's less grace because there's, look, man, I'm just going to, to my own horn here. Okay. We were one of the

probably the first company to revolutionize how those things are done the right way.

Yeah. Okay. Up until that point barely any companies gave a fuck. And if they did, they were a whole books about it. Okay. Now I would say that the companies have increased their care because they understand how valuable and how competitive it is. And I would also say that what you said was right, I would say that customers expectations have gotten better too, because there are many more companies out there doing it the right way than there were even five

“to 10 years ago. Yeah. So, but I think that's a good thing to do because ultimately what that”

does is that creates good ethical business. Okay. So the businesses who do things the right way when it's as capitalism do, the business, the market awards the companies that do the right thing, the market does not reward the companies that don't. And social media accelerates that. So I, I see that as a really great thing. And I've noticed myself like, you know, a lot of the companies that I've dealt with lately, like, for example, I've had to, because I got back in the right

and after taking, you know, basically, like 10 years off of writing, I've had to like buy a bunch of new shit,

bro, almost all the companies I've dealt with have been amazing. You know what I'm saying?

I've, I've ordered shit from West Coast shoppers outside of Jesse's friendship. Right. Perfect fucking service. I've ordered things from NBT, perfect service. I've ordered things from, you know, area, perfect service. Dixon, perfect service. You know, like that, that wasn't the case 10 years ago across the board. And I think it's becoming more accepted that people understand they have to do things that way. Yeah, absolutely. Last little piece on this. I want to ask you because I'm going

back to this question about the micro management piece of it. You know, there's that age-old quote,

“it's like, you know, if you want to done right, just do it yourself, right? And to your point,”

though, that, that is the ego problem. What did this idea come from, though? I mean, that's just it. I mean, look, dude, if you're unwilling to invest, I think the fundamental underlying problem here is that perception of finding good people versus building good people. Okay.

Most people still think that there's like this pool of amazing talent out there that you can just

pick from. And, you know, the companies that have tremendous employees, they're just good at picking. That's not what it is, man. It's that those companies are hiring people that fit their culture and then they're training them on the skill set. Okay. So you have to like, remove some of these old ways of thinking that, you know, oh, I'm going to go, where do I find good people? You can't do that. Okay. So the fundamental reality of what we're talking about is that you have to be willing

to invest in other people. You have to be willing to coach them. You have to be willing to do things that would be outside of what people would think an employment situation would be. You know, like, maybe the dudes haven't going through a divorce. Okay. You got to be there for man. You got to have a talk with them and, you know, be there friend. Like, it's like your part-time

And it's a lot of hats. It is. But the companies that aren't willing to do that and they just

expect to pay for talent, you can't pay enough for that kind of talent. Not as a small business. You can't, you know, so when you get into sea level stuff like where guys have, you know, like, for example, you know, as our companies grown, we've had to hire some sea level guys in from the outside that have experience in certain areas that we don't have. Those guys are proven. They've gone here and they've won. They've gone there and they've won.

They've gone here and they won. They come with a skill set. And the challenge with those guys is to get them culturally aligned because some of those guys come from different places that do things different. And sometimes they think because their skill set is so good, the other shit doesn't matter. And so they, you have the opposite problem. They're walking to like, where's the cake for, for example. Yeah, but, but like, dude, so like there's, there's pros and cons and different situations and

“different timings, but ultimately you have to get away from the thought that you're the only one that knows.”

You're the only one that can be good. You're the only one that can do this. And these young little kids don't know shit. Like, bro, some of these young kids run fucking circles around you, based upon their hunger and their willingness to learn. If you just allow them the rope to run and fucking go learn. So, you know, yeah, I mean, that's pretty much it. I love it, dude.

I love it. Guys, Andy are third and final question, man. Guys, Andy, question number three.

Andy, I've listened to you since the start of 2020. You've changed my life. I'm a single 25 year old guy earning $176,000 per year. Hold 25, okay? Make it in the 176k year, living with my parents.

“Why do I fill behind? No wife, no kids. My friends do and have those things. Why do I fill behind?”

Because you're an idiot. You don't have the perspective of knowing, okay? You don't understand how it fought. Dude, when I was 27 years old, I was making $695 a month and I had to move back here with my dad, okay? You don't understand how well you're doing because, and by the way, I would say that's great that you're living at home and maximizing your savings and getting their shit together. I would say I would say honestly, like, I don't know what you do,

as long as it's legal, I would say that you are fucking doing exactly what you're supposed to do. You go out and earn, you minimize expenses, and that's going to put you so far ahead whenever you are, you know, in your 30s and the fact that you're single, I think it's smart too because you're not going to attract the level of mate that you could once you have all your shit in line. And I think a lot of people do all the wrong things. They go out and they get attached to some girl that they

met in a bar and they're attached to her because she was willing to fucking and, you know, then they go out and try to build a business and they get a nice car and they get out of there, they get a house and they get attached to all this debt and then they can't do the things that are required to win. You're already doing extremely fucking well and the truth of the matter is, like I've said many, many times, that what you have is a gift, okay? Most people don't think, like,

oh, man, I'm behind. Most people think, like, oh, man, everything's good. It's all good. I'll take care of it later. It's no big deal. You know, like, when I was fat, you know, and I would go drink five, six beers, I'd go in the bathroom with a restaurant, take a piss, and I'd look in the mirror and I'd stand sideways and I'd suck my gut in. I'd be like, man, you know, I'm looking all right. And I'd tell myself this lie, right about everything was fine. It was all good. You know,

I'd fucking do me. You know, saying like, like, I'd make up this story about everything was good.

“And that's how most people do about their lives. So when you're ambitious and you're hungry and”

you're driven, you almost always feel behind, okay? I feel behind. I feel like I should be

much further down the road than where I'm at. And then when I look at the math and I look at the numbers and I look where I'm at, that's just factually untrue. You know what I mean? So don't try to

But you should also acknowledge once in a while and talk yourself off the ledge and be like, no, I'm doing okay. I just got to keep going. You know what I mean? Because that can mentally wear you out, bro. Like when you when you constantly feel behind, especially when you're winning, this is where a lot of overly ambitious people, you know, find themselves in a really dark spot. Because everything's going well, everything's, you know, moving, they're doing well.

And they're always like, fuck, I'm so behind, I'm so stressed. And they live in this

constant state of high stress and anxiety because they refuse to have gratitude for how far they've come. And this is why when we talk about like what happiness is really derived of, you know, gratitude's a massive part of it. Okay. You know, the other parts are discipline and purpose. You know, if you're missing any one of those three ingredients in your life, you're not going to be happy. So you could have a big purpose at high discipline and be out earning everybody you know

at your age. But if you can't remember where you came from, you're going to feel shitty. Okay. Again, you could be grateful for where you are, be earning all kinds of money and not have a bigger purpose and you're going to feel shitty. Okay. You can be, you could have a big purpose. And you could be grateful for where you are. But if you're not a control of your life and you

“like discipline, you're going to feel shitty. So you have to have all three of those components”

in order to feel happy. And I would say for you what's happening is you're refusing to ever have a moment or consciously think about where you've come from and what you've put in. And I think it's important. And I think you probably don't do that because you don't want to get complacent. And that's, that's a big problem with high achievers. High achievers, I fall into this. It is a big problem for me. High achievers don't like to take credit or give themselves credit.

It's, it's the opposite of what people think. Most people think that high achievers all want all the credit and all the shit true like killer high achievers. They try to stay away from that because they are terrified that that's going to like dull their edge and that it's going to keep them from winning. And it won't. You've just got to make some dedicated time on a daily basis to be grateful. And a lot of that comes from, you know, I think prayer, you know, sitting down and

saying, man, God, you're really taking care of me, man. And, you know, I really appreciate it. You know, and just being grateful for where you're at. And I think it'll help you deal with what you're dealing with. But dude, I don't think having that feeling of being behind is something that makes something.

“It doesn't, it's not wrong. It's not in the alarm that you need to go turn. No.”

Yeah. What would you also say, too, though? I mean, you know, 25, we have a, you know, we have a lot of younger listeners this show, too. But it's like, I mean, you're only 25 though. Yeah, but like, dude, when you're only 25, you don't realize how fast you go from 25 to 45. Okay, because you've only gotten a 25. So you feel like you've lived this really a long life. You know what I'm saying? It's just perspective. Yeah. Like you don't understand how early you are. That's like when

people are like, oh, man, I'm 35. And I'm feel so old. It's like, bro, I would trade places with you

in a fucking second, as long as I got to keep what I know. You know what I mean? And by the way,

I share with you what I know and you can be 35 and know what I know. You see what I'm saying? So like, um, that's just perspective, dude. When you're, you know, when you're 25, you think your old, you know, when you're, you know, how many, like, do I remember on my 22nd birthday, man, I was like, fuck, I remember exactly where I was. And I was like, fuck, 22. Man, I'm old. Like, you know what I'm saying? Because like, I wasn't 21 anymore. Yeah. You know, I look 22.

What does that mean? Like, you know, I don't get any prize for being 22. And then now I look back. I'm like, how ridiculous was that? And then I felt the same way at 30. And I'm like, how ridiculous was that? You know, and then I felt the same way at 40. I'm like, fuck, dude, 40 sounds all right right now. You know what I mean? So it's all perspective, dude. And you don't know what you haven't been down. So I think that's a normal feeling. And I think I think it's a good thing to

“feel behind because that's what drives you to continue to push down the path. So I wouldn't”

try to, like, get rid of that. I would just try to counterbalance the anxiety and the stress that comes with that with gratitude for how far you've come. You know, I think another thing that contributes to this obviously is the internet, right? We have all these 22-year-old kids talking about how, you know, throwing these numbers around like it ain't shit. Oh, I mean, I saw this

dude the other day. He's like, oh man, you know, I've had 10 million dollar months. Get the fuck out

of here, dude. Like, they're just throwing around these numbers, dude. You know, oh, my company

serious? Do you know any companies do 100 million dollars a year? Very, very, very, very few. Okay.

And these kids are running around throwing these numbers around completely lying with no ethics, whatsoever. And you have these other people who are doing $4 million or $2 million by the way, that's a really good start. Who are like, fuck man. I suck at this. No, dude, you're comparing you against yourself against something that doesn't even exist, right? Like, if I were to say, like, if there was some, like, if Iron Man was a real thing, right, and like, Tony Stark was a

real dude and like, there's really an Iron Man and he's making all this shit, which I guess Elon Musk is kind of like that. But, you know, outside Elon Musk, like, you know, like, let's say you had a guy that, like, figured out how he could fly with no fucking technology in shit. We'd all be like, fuck, and then find out one day he's made the whole thing up. And we're all feel like shit because we couldn't fly. You know, saying, like, so it's just an illusion, man. And I think that

contributes to that feeling as well. But I don't think that's a bad thing. I think it's a good thing to feel behind because that keeps you moving down the path. And nothing kills entrepreneurs or businesses more than complacency. So what's the opposite of complacency? It's drive. It's hunger.

“It's ambition. It's feeling behind. It's being competitive. And that's why I always tell people,”

you know, when they say, oh, what comparison is the thief of joy? No, not really, not if you're trying to win. It's only the thief of joy if you sit on your ass. You know what I mean? If you're trying to win, it's what drives you to win and produce all these other good things in your life. So you just gotta make sure you're comparing to the right things. There you go. It's crazy about this question. So when I was reading it, I'm like, all right, 25 year old, you're making that

much and you're still living with your parents. I think that's a good thing. But now looking at as I shit that actually, probably that bad. Now, bro, listen, listen, man, you should stack and minimize minimize your fucking liabilities and stack your cash flow and income for as long as you can

who gives a fuck when anybody says about it. Because that's going to ultimately put you in a

bunch of better position. Now, if you live with your parents at 35 and you ain't trying, okay, now you're a fucking loser. All right. We have to talk about it. Yeah. Right. But, you know, if you don't have a wife and you don't have kids and your parents are cool with it and you're able to stack you know, that's in line with almost every culture around the world, okay? Like America's the only place where their kids turn 18 years old and they're supposed to go out and start over on their

own. That's, that's not how it works in almost every other place. And almost every other culture, the kids grow up and the family contributes to put the kids out in a favorable, favorable position to do better for the family and then the younger kids grow up and then they take care of the family.

“And that's, that's how, that's how almost all, and you want to know why like the family structure”

here is broken. Well, because every time their kids turn 18, it gets, it gets broken intentionally, you know, a kick them out, get on your own, get out there, get a fucking job. Cool. I couldn't get down with that. But like, how about, you know, we keep the family together and minimize the financial liability we all get ahead of fucking overhead is right. Yeah, bro, that's what happens in most cultures. So like, we're only places that does that. It's so taboo here. Well, well, but we got at

why, yeah, where's that come from? And why is it? Because it creates more tax revenue, it creates more debt, it creates more worker bees and they're less successful long term because of that mentality. So I personally don't have a problem with people staying at home as long as they can to stack and get their, get their mind and their business and their life together. I mean, if I had kids, I'd be, like, if I had a kid and he was 25 and he was living with me and he's

out making fucking couple hundred grand. I mean, I might make him buy me some fucking dinner once

“right. That's what I was saying, but like, but like, I'd be like, all right, dude, you know,”

you know, and then when you meet a girl or you meet a, you know, and you want to move out and do your thing, like, you're going to be in a good position to do that. That's real, bro. That's fucking rude. That's just why personal opinion is rude. I wouldn't think of it like that. I know, but that's because you've been told your whole life that if you, if you're fucking 18 years old and you live with your parents, you're a loser, or I was out of 17. Well, it's crazy. I mean,

there's nothing wrong with that either. I mean, it definitely teaches you how to fucking survive. I had, but it was like, didn't have to be that way. Well, shouldn't be that way. Well, I mean, what, look, there's flip-flops to it, right? Like, there's also the fucking side of it where it's like,

okay, well, then they never learn independence. They never learn how to live. They never learn how to

do the things. Well, if you're a parent and you're allowing your kid to stay in, uh, you know, the house and they're out earning money, then wouldn't it make sense to like teach them how to manage

the complete, it's, it's either, because it does, I think, I think, I just think there's nuance to it.

Yeah. I think if you have a loser kid who's sucking your dry, who's 25, and who isn't doing

“shit because it's comfortable at home, you should fucking kick him out. Yeah. And you're probably”

being a crunch. Okay. But if you have a kid who's 25, and he's pulling 200 G's a year, and he's

working his fucking balls off, and he's getting better and better and better, I would have more

leeway with allowing him to stick around and get his shit stacked up. You know what I mean?

Yeah. I don't know. That's just me. Maybe I'm wrong. But like I said, I try not to give advice on things

“I don't know. But hypothetically, that's how I think about it. No, I love it, dude. I love it.”

Well, I'm 31, dude. I don't know my dad. When you want to move in, you can make some hand. I mean, you can make some hand. Yeah. No, man. I love it, dude.

“Uh, guys, hey, that was three. All right, guys. Well, let's get out there. Let's have a good week.”

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