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“Hey, Emily. Do you remember the field trip we went on to this story?”

Yes, we went to RippedBottis. For anyone who doesn't know, it's the store that's basically devoted entirely to romance novels. But this isn't like your mom's Fabio bookstore. It's like a romance novels across all different kinds of genre and storytelling. It's really cool. Recently, I kind of entered that world. I got sucked into this world pool

that's called "Book Talk," which if you don't know, is basically lots of TikTokers reviewing books. And a lot of the time, they're kind of spicy. Like what? What have you been reading? So, I started reading these romance fantasy books about dragons, and they were so fun, Emily. Like, so fun. But I felt really embarrassed about how much joy they were bringing me. It's kind of like I didn't even want to be enjoying them. Oh, that's kind of sad.

It was kind of sad, and I was really frustrated with myself A for liking the books in the first place, but then B for being frustrated that I like them, like not allowing myself to just enjoy them. Yes. This is like a guilty pleasure. Mm-hmm, for you. And pretty much immediately, I was like, I need a better excuse to think about all of these conflicting feelings more. So, I called pleasure activists Sammy Schalk in what would be the start of the reporting

journey for this episode. So, what did Sammy say? That it's a wider problem than just me.

“I think there's a way that people just don't take seriously. Folks who are too”

open and joyful. I think there's an association with childhood, too. Of it being childlike to really unabashedly love something. And as adults were supposed to have, like restraint within our emotions, and that includes our joy. I feel this too much.

I feel like as an older sibling, especially, I always feel like pressured to tone it down.

I totally get that. And after talking to her about some of these social aspects of pleasure, I really wanted to know what is going on in our brains to make us feel so bad about feeling good. So, I turned to someone else. He describes his job as studying the good things in life. That sounds like a dream job. It's so awesome. It's such a good job description. Morton Kringleback is a neuroscientist at the University of Oxford, and the director of an

entire center dedicated to studying how humans flourish. And he reminded me basically that at its core, the point of experiencing pleasure is the survival of humanity. We need to be able not just to survive for ourselves, but also to survive as a species, which means that the fundamental pleasures are the ones where we can have some food. That gives us the energy to go on, but also sex that allows us to basically work as a species.

Pleasure is so important, and researchers like Morton have started to understand that it's really not just one thing in the brain. Pleasure happens in this cycle. We want something, we like something, and we learn that we like it. But like everything else in life, the cycle can fall out of balance. So, day on the show, the neuroscience of pleasure, what it is, where it lives in the brain, and how to have a healthier relationship with the things that just feel good.

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Okay, Rachel, so you revealed earlier that pleasure, it's not just like a feeling, it actually works in a cycle. What does that mean? Right. So, I've often thought about pleasure just as this singular experience. I do something I like, and then I feel good. Yeah. Same. And for a long time, researchers also thought that was the case. When I started in this field several decades ago, I thought that there was one unitary system in the brain that mediated both wanting and liking

“for rewards. I think most neuroscientists did think that at the time. That can't bear it.”

He's done a bunch of work with Morton, and he's a professor of neuroscience at the University of Michigan. And as he studied pleasure, he saw that there were these different components in the brain, liking and wanting. Oh, so it's not a unitary system at all. These are separate parts, liking and wanting. They're separate, but usually these two things wanting and liking go together,

That's so interesting. So Rachel, walk me through how this pleasure cycle unfolds. So it all starts with the wanting stage. You and I both drink coffee. So let's take the example of our morning coffee. Say, I get to work around 7 a.m. And I haven't even seen or tasted any coffee at this

point in the morning, but I'm anticipating taking that very first sip. This is how most of my

morning's go. Yeah. And maybe like around 7 30, you might be motivated enough to get up from your desk. I usually am, and I'll go and make myself a cup of coffee. So scientists can actually measure this motivation by looking at how much work someone will do in order to get to their goal. So say I do get up, but there's no more coffee in the office coffee pot. I'm devastated,

“but how much effort am I actually willing to put in to go get some, like, will I make a new pot?”

Will I leave the office and drive to go get more coffee? Okay. So that's the wanting part of the cycle. Yeah. That's like measuring the motivation, which is wanting. Researchers mainly see this in the brain's reward system, which is a group of areas deep in the brain, like the nuclear succumbins in the ventral striatum, parts of the amygdala. They're all queuing us up

basically to expect something good. Okay. So once you move beyond the desire and you finally get

that cup of coffee and it smells as good as you thought it would. And then it tastes really good. What happens next is that the liking part? That's the liking. And Ken and Morton both say we can measure this liking in a few different ways. So researchers can look at something like whether or not a rodent, which is the animal of choice for most of these studies, eats the food that it's given. So like if you give a rat sugar water, the sweeter the sugar water is, the more the rat

“when they get slips. And caregivers have done this with babies basically forever. You give the”

baby some food and look at its facial reaction to see if it likes it or not. Yeah. Okay. And if the baby does like it, it might lick its lips or stick its tongue out. And if it doesn't, it's probably spitting that food right out. The opposite of liking. Yeah. So when it comes to pleasure overall, though, I tend to think of dopamine, the feel good chemical. Does that have a role to play in any of us? I'm glad you asked that because we've often heard about dopamine in relation to pleasure

just in general. Yeah. But it's actually specific to the experience of wanting. That's the first

part of the cycle we talked about. Dopamine is the most famous reward you know, transmitter in the brain. But it turns out it doesn't actually generate pleasure the way we once thought it did. It does however generate intense wants for an an urge for these pleasures in life. Ken's talking about the difference between wanting something and actually enjoying that thing once you get it.

“Okay. And he says if you lower the dopamine levels in rats or even in humans, they can still”

like things that second part of the pleasure cycle, but they just might not be as motivated to work for those same things. Gotcha. So dopamine truly is related more to the first part of the cycle, the wanting and desire exactly. And you said that happens in the brain's reward system. So where do we see liking in the brain? Emily, this is my favorite part of all the research Ken and Morton told me about liking lives inside of these tiny sites in the brain in rodents.

They're like little buttons nestled right inside of those reward structures we talked about in their brains. We call them hedonic hotspots. These hotspots form like an interconnected web in the brain and they can't even be stimulated with drugs to produce either more pleasure or less pleasure. Earlier you kind of hinted that these two components wanting and liking, they can get separated, rod of whack with each other. Yeah. It's true. Sometimes parts of the cycle do fall out of balance,

like with addiction, which we mentioned earlier. But I do want to be clear there are lots and lots of theories of addiction. We really could have whole episodes on them. But some of Ken's research suggests that the brain might be kind of stuck in the wanting stage. A person might be extremely motivated to do something even if over time that thing doesn't actually bring them pleasure. Okay, even if they don't experience the liking stage exactly. And Ken talked about how many of

us can also see this pattern to a lesser extent in our daily lives. We can all have wants triggered by rewards, reward cues, things like fluids and consumer items and video games and little social messages. These things can trigger dopamine release, Mesolithic activation, and we want to engage with them. Even if we don't even like them. This feels consistent with a lot of people's relationship to social media. Okay. So just to go back to the origin point of this episode, you're sharing

that you love these dragon romance novels. But you feel a little guilt. Where does that guilt part come from? So there's not a ton of neuroscience research that specifically focuses on guilty pleasures in the brain. But I did ask Morton to think about his previous research and then

change those good feelings. They engage these kind of higher social networks. And those social

networks then have the power to make us change how it is that we are running from that glacier cycle. The power of other people. It's big. So this idea of a guilty pleasure could be an example of something we really do like, but don't want to like or it could just be a way of signaling to other people. Like, hey, I'm separate from this thing that I enjoy. It's kind of hard to say. Okay. Although there is some behavioral research that suggests feeling guilty about doing something

might actually make us enjoy that thing more. Okay. Tell me more about that, about liking something,

“even if you should feel guilty about it. I talk to Kelly Goldsmith about this. She's a behavioral”

scientist and professor of marketing at Vanderbilt University and she did a whole series of studies

in 2012 testing the associations between guilt and pleasure. Oh, wow. She and her team basically

got people to be thinking about guilt without being consciously aware of it. How did they pull that off? So they'd have participants do things like unscramble a bunch of words and for some groups, those words were related to guilt. And then that group would go to another kind of task. So like for one of these studies, Kelly gave participants unlabeled chocolates and then they rated how much they liked the chocolates and how much they'd be willing to pay for them. And you can probably

guess which groups said they liked the candy more. The ones thinking about guilt? Yeah. And this pattern was true for a bunch of other studies Kelly did. Humans are fascinating. We're just like

“a conundrum of contradictions. Totally, and Kelly did tell me about how it's really easy to say,”

like, this one thing is bad and this one thing is good. But a lot of the time as we know in science

and in life that's so not the case and things that we identify as bad might be good or vice versa. Our lives are so constrained most of us most of the time. We show up for work. We eat the breakfast. We get our kids to school. It's like holding down a spring. And when you're just going to chance to let go of that spring a little bit and do something a little bit naughty, it can actually feel pretty excellent. Absolutely. Like the joy of rebellion. But I do recognize how it can get out

of hand. So how do we go about honoring our pleasures in a healthy way? Emily, this is something I heard from pretty much every person I talk to that for the most part we really should just lean into the things plural that make us happy. Morton talked about has some of the most fulfilling pleasures give us a sense of meaningfulness. So being part of a community, cooking with friends and family doing social activities. I think the take home message for my research is that there's

not really about moderation and it's not really about will. It's about variation. It's about realizing that there are many different pleasures out there and most importantly you shouldn't be

“somebody who just does it for themselves. You should share the love. This reminded me of something”

Sammy told me too about how when we emphasize our negative feelings about a certain pleasure, we really risk cutting off potential connections with others. Connections that could bring us the kind of meaningfulness and pleasure Morton and I talked about. One of the things that I really try to encourage folks when we're talking about pleasure activism is to address what I call like the pleasure police in your head. Because just because somebody else doesn't like something,

doesn't mean it's not good. Yeah, we don't have to be all or nothing about the things that give us pleasure. It's like what Kelly said, nothing has to be entirely bad, nothing has to be entirely good. We really exist kind of in these in-between spaces and so does our pleasure. Rachel, thank you for diving into something so complicated in this liminal space of pleasure and all of its attendant parts. You are a queen and I hope you can enjoy those books without shame

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