31 Life-Changing Lessons from Marcus Aurelius

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courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom into the real world. This book right here has been the guide, the presidents, and generals, and leaders for almost 20 centuries. Theodore Roosevelt carried it with him as he explored a South American jungle, Frederick the Great, took it into battle. Arnold Schwarzenegger says it shaped how he thinks,

but the fascinating thing about it is it was never meant to be read by anyone. It was one man

writing to himself, and that man happened to be the emperor of Rome, Marcus Aurelius, the most powerful person on the planet. And that's what we're going to talk about today. The best lessons from Marcus Aurelius is meditations, and most importantly, how to actually use them. I think one of the reasons we have trouble with motivation is that we know deep down, that this thing

“we're doing, it doesn't really matter. It's not important. That's why Marcus Aurelius's question”

is so imperative. He says, ask yourself, is this essential? He says, because most of what we do and say, and think, is not essential. It's getting us further from where we want to go. It's something that society made up for us. It's just whatever one else is doing. It's pitally busy work. You know, he says, are you really afraid of death because you won't be able to do this thing anymore? Right? He's saying that we waste our time with frivolous, unimportant, meaningless things.

So he says, when you ask yourself, you end up eliminating the inessential, and then he says,

you get this double benefit of doing the essential things better. But I would say that the real benefit

is that if we only have a finite amount of motivation. If getting up the motivation, if made containing motivation is this difficult task, well, then we want to save it for the precious few things that really matter. Right? What's the main thing for you? You eliminate the things that are not the main thing, and then that Marshall's more resources, more energy, more motivation for the things that are the main thing. If everything is this battle between the higher self and

the lower self, right? If you're exhausting that resource battling for things that don't matter, that you don't actually care about, that you could say no to. Right? You're going to have to have so much more motivation than someone who is windowed down their frame of reference, their to-do list,

only to the things that truly matter, that truly are essential. Marcus really has had a lot to

complain about. A lot goes wrong. He doesn't meet with the good fortune that he deserved. He's betrayed. He's misled. People lie to him. People try to take things from him. He has a job that he doesn't even want. And yet no one in meditations. What he thinks is his private diary that no one is going to read. We never once see him complain about any of. He doesn't complain about being unappreciated. He doesn't complain about being abused. He doesn't complain about being put upon.

He doesn't complain about the stress. He doesn't do any of it. Because as he says in meditations, we should never be overheard complaining not even to ourselves. There's a secret to not getting upset, to not getting angry, to not getting offended, to not being bothered, to focus. And to concentration and it's simple. It comes to us from Marcus to really it's the great Roman Emperor. He said, "You always have the power to have no opinion." He says things are not asking to be judged by you.

Don't turn this into something. The fewer opinions you have, the fewer judgments you make, the more you're able to just leave things as they are, the happier you will be, the more productive, you will be, the more focused, you will be. And the easier you will be to get along with." This one is fitting here as the ocean crashes behind me. He says, "To be like the rock that the waves keep crashing over. It stands unmoved in the raging of the sea falls still around it."

Right, stoicism is not the absence of emotion, but it is about that even keel. Not getting too high and not getting too low. It's actually funny, you know, the Buddhists have a different image. They talk about if you grabbed a cup of water from the ocean or a river or a lake, it would be hard to see at first. But if you let it sit for a second, eventually it would settle

“down and that water would become clear. That's what Marcus really is talking about. The world”

is going to be noisy. The world is going to be allowed. A lot of things are going to happen, but if you take a minute, if you pause and reflect, you give things a second to settle down.

a kind of point of clarity. And in a way, that's what Marcus really is doing in meditations itself.

Whenever you're anxious, whenever you're worried, whenever you're stressed out, whenever you're doubting, you know what you're doing, you're extrapolating. And the ancient stoics would say that extrapolation is the enemy. Marcus really tried to remind himself when his kids got sick. He said, "My kid is sick. I don't need to tell myself they're going to die from it." He says, "You can't let your life be crushed by your imagination as a whole. You can't

“picture every bad thing that could possibly happen. You have to stick with what's in front of you.”

You have to stick with what is in your control. The anxiety is not being caused by the external thing." The stoics would say, "The anxiety is within us. We are the common variable between all the things that worry us, between all the things that upset us, between all the things that convince us the world is ending. We are the common variable. We are bringing ourselves, our opinions. We are projecting our feelings onto objective event." So stop doing that, stop

extrapolating, focus on what's in front of you, stick with idea and action and utterance, the stoics say, "That is plenty to keep you busy." Getting up early is no fun. It's hard every

single time. I don't enjoy it while I am doing it. But I am almost always glad after that I did.

One of the most famous passages in Mark's Relicism Meditations is his struggling to do precisely that. He says, "At dawn when you awake and you have trouble getting out of bed," he says, "You have to tell yourself, I was meant to do things. I have to get after it." And then it says, "But it's so much warmer here under the covers." And indeed, it is, it's nicer there. But it says, "That way you were put here to do, to huddle under the covers. Is that what you were

put here to do, to feel nice? Would you were meant for something more than that?" And by the way, you know what's nicer than staying in bed? What you experience in the morning when it's quiet out, when the sun is coming out, when you're the only one on the trail, when you're the only one on the road, when you've got quiet time to focus and work or read or spend time with people you love, that's amazing. So getting up early is hard, sure, but you'll be glad that you did it. Try and hard things,

focusing, getting after stuff. That's hard, but you'll be glad you did it after. Consentrate like a Roman marks through this, is concentrate on doing the thing in front of you,

“as if it was the last thing you were doing in your life. I think about that pretty often. It's the”

idea of, it's not that you're gonna die tomorrow for sure, but that it could be the last time you send this email. It could be the last time you have this conversation. It could be the last time that I sit down to write, or that I sit down to make a video. So am I going to be fully present? Am I going to concentrate? Am I going to do my job? Am I going to meet the standards of my people, of my profession, of my family? Whatever it is, I'm going to concentrate like a Roman.

I'm going to do it like this thing matters. Like I might not get another opportunity to do it. To me, that's the test. That's the standard to try to meet every day that you are lucky enough to be alive. You're being crazy, letting them determine whether you did a good job or not, whether you're happy or not, whether you're a success or not. Works for us as ambition is tying your happiness to what other people do and say and think. Sanity, he says, is tying it to your

own actions. Like when I work on my books, the writing of the book is up to me. How it does on the best seller list, what people think about it, what the review saying that isn't up to me.

“So my definition of success is an internal one. I focus on the parts of it. I control.”

Do I want other people to like it and care about it? Sure, I guess it's nice to have, but it's extra. It's not why I do it because to need it is to be insane. And of course, incredibly vulnerable. Like a lot of people I have a tendency to overwork, to overdo, to overcommit, to take things to intensely. Works to really warns himself against this in meditations,

and it's stuck with me always. He says, in your actions, don't procrastinate. In your conversations,

don't confuse. In your thoughts, don't wander. In your soul. Don't be passive or aggressive. In your life. Don't be all about business. Don't be all about business. When Marcus really talks about taking Plato's view in meditations, what view is he talking about? We don't know the tallest peak that Mark's really never gets to, but he might have been talking about something like this. I'm on the Hill Next to the Cropolis, which is right there.

And you think about how unique that perspective of getting the bird's eye view would have been in the ancient world. But up here, you get up and you see how tiny everything is, right? Even the Cropolis looks small behind me. Here's an ancient tombstone, right? From another Hill, you see the insignificance of something like that, how it blends in with all the others. But you also see how on top of each other, everyone is, how interconnected human beings are. You could, could have looked

out here to be a GNC and thought about how small even Xerxes fleet was as it amassed off the coast. Mark's to read this talks about taking Plato's view for the same reason that astronauts talk about the overview effect. When they see the earth as a blue marble, suddenly borders fall away and petty ambitions fall away. And what's left, the astronauts tell us is a sense of

this. Again, in the ancient world, they didn't have the luxury of staring out of the window

of an airplane or hitting the button in an elevator and getting way up there. No, they had to make a hike like this. They had to do a climb like this. But to get up there and imagine Mark is really just looking down on Athens, the city he admired his whole life, even though he's the emperor of Rome, he all he wanted to do is come to Greece. He comes to Greece and he's looking down and suddenly this ancient civilization is formerly huge empire. It would have looked very

puny to him, very insignificant to him. He would have realized how many thousands of people had made the same trek up the same hill, how many tombs and crypts and memorials and monuments and statues that were up and down and how they all blend together into a kind of insignificance when you get out it from the right angle. And what's left is just human beings. What's left is

“society. That's all you see from this angle and that being the most important thing. Look,”

a person can change, but people don't change. You can change, but the world, the world, the bite of forever. It is undefeated. It is exactly the same as it ever was and ever will be. This is what we see in Marx's Relicism Meditations is his complaints about humanity are the exact same complaints we have today. People complain. People are dishonest. People are jealous. People are lazy. People are loud. People are people. Right? We've been waiting on the world to change for a very

long time and it doesn't. This way, Marx really reminds himself don't go around expecting Plato's Republic. That's not where you live. That's not how things work. This isn't about being cynical, but in deciding not to be naive. We are setting ourselves up actually to be less cynical.

Right? The problem is our expectation. The problem is our false hope. The problem is our delusions

and when they get shattered then we get bitter and resentful. This isn't to say that you shouldn't try. This isn't to say that we can't make a difference. This isn't to say that we ourselves can't be a bright light amidst the darkness. No, that's actually the whole point. The world is going to stay the same, but we can change, we can improve and still wisdom has to remind us that for the most part this impact is going to be infinitesimal. Most of all we can't take this personally.

Most of all we shouldn't set ourselves up for disappointment or disillusionment. Don't stay

“up waiting for the world to change. It's not going to. If you want to see change, you have to be”

changed. Strict with others tolerant with yourself. That was Marcus Reelius's rule. They didn't just write this in meditations. He lived by. One of his biographers wrote that what was so great about Marcus Reelius is that his severity was limited solely to himself. One of Lincoln's aids said something similar. He said, you know, Lincoln didn't expect perfection of anyone. He didn't even expect of them the same high standards he had for himself. We have to understand it's called

self-discipline for a reason. It's our standards. It's our rules. It's our potential. We're trying to live up to. It's not a weapon we bear against others, right? Our discipline should be limited to ourselves. Our choices. Our actions. Our habits. Our expectations. And when we see other people following sort of our standards or their standards, we want to be forgiven. We want to be tolerant. We want to be helpful. We want to be encouraging. That's what self-discipline is about.

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same ideas over and over again. Marcus really says it was clearly fond of the philosopher

Heracletus. But one of the lines from Heracletus is the idea that we never step in the same

river twice. And so it goes with reading the same book. Even though this book is the same as it was when it first arrived on my doorstep all those years ago, every time I come to it, I'm a new person. The world is different. What I know is different. What I'm looking for is different. And so I find something new out of it each time. So I've gotten so much out of this edition, which I've read, and thankfully, a lovely flight attendant returned it to Austin found, and as able to get it in this

visit this book came back to me. But I have many other editions. My point is there are certain books that grow with you, that change with you, that aren't books that you have read, but they are books that you are reading. And Meditations, I think, is the ultimate book of that. And here that this month is the month of Marcus really says birth. If you haven't read Meditations yet,

I don't know what you're waiting for. There's a reason this book has endured over the last

20 centuries. There's a reason it's endured even in my own life over the last two decades, and if you haven't picked it up yet, you're missing out. It's unfortunate that this happened. You didn't want it to happen. You didn't choose for it to happen, but it did happen. Marcus really sprites that to himself in Meditations. It's unfortunate that this happened. But then he catches himself, and he goes, "No, it's fortunate that it happened to me."

It means that I think in part, because it didn't happen to someone else, but what he really means is, "Forget it that it happened to me, because he trained for stuff like this," right? Marcus really says, "Rain is one difficult thing after another." There's a plague. There's floods. There's a coup. There's economic problems. There's everything that could go wrong does. And he's talking to those who says, "It's unfortunate this happened. No, it's fortunate

“to me." And he says, "I've remained unharmed by it." Because that's what Stoic philosophy is about.”

This idea that we're not harmed by external things. We respond to those external things. That's what we control. That's what we focus on. So whatever it is that you're going through, whatever just happens, it's not unfortunate that it happened to you. It's fortunate that it happened to you, instead of someone else. And it's fortunate that you know how to deal with it. At his most vulnerable moment, Marcus really was betray. He was sick. He was struggling.

People didn't know if he would survive or not. And one of his trusted generals of video's Cassius declares himself emperor. This not only is a betrayal of their relationship, it puts Marcus realists in his family engraved danger. So Marcus had every reason to be angry, to be scared, to seek revenge. And he does it. In fact, he uses it as this opportunity. He says, "To teach future Roman generations how to deal with civil strife." He demands there be no

persecutions. He implores the Senate not to stain his reign with blood. It's a beautiful thing. But it's not really the point. When Marcus really talks in meditations about revenge, about betrayal. He's not just talking about this theoretically or abstract. He knew it intimately. Just as you might know it from being cheated on or having a business partner who stole from you, we know what it means when someone we trust takes from us or hurts us.

But Marcus really says, "You can't let this break or change you." He says, "The best revenge is to not be like that." Elsewhere in meditations, he rifts on how, like if you're in the ring, if you're in the boxing ring with someone in there, if they're cheating or gouging or throwing

“low blows, you can't just quit boxing altogether. You have to change your strategy around that person,”

but you can't let it make you quit. And so Marcus knew what it was to be betrayed, but he knew he didn't control what other people did. He knew how he controlled how he would respond, whether it would make him bitter, whether it would make him betray his values to get revenge, whether he would allow himself to be overwhelmed by his anger and rage and do something that he would later regret. So we don't control what other people do, we don't control that they

can be dishonest or sneaky or manipulative or mock-evalient, but we control who we are, you know, world where those things can happen. The people you admire aren't perfect. They screw up,

is how quickly they're able to get back to, how quickly they're able to return to their

principles, how quickly they're able to get back on track. There's actually something that works for us talks about in the meditations. This is one of my favorite passages. He said, "And this is Book 611," "When Jard, Unofuitably By Circumstances, Revert at Once To Your Self, And Don't Lose The Rhythm More Than You Can Help It." You'll have a better grasp of the harmony if you keep going back to it. Point is, it's okay that you screw it up. It's normal that you screw it up.

It's human that you screw it up, but you don't have to keep screwing it. But matters is how quickly

“you get back to it. If you want to live in good times, you have to do good things. We don't control”

what's happening in the world around us. We don't control what other people are doing. We don't control the economy. We don't control the government. We don't control the weather. We don't control the zeitgeist. But we control what we do. We control who we are. In Marx's Relicism Meditations, Marx's Relicism is lamenting all the shitty things that are happening around him. And there was a lot. He's living through a plague. He's living through a famine. He's living through a civil war. He has

health problems. His marriage is struggling. He says, "You know, I was once a fortunate man, but at some point fortune abandoned me." But then he stops the pity party and it says, "You know what? No, good fortune is up to me." He says, "It's good intentions. Good character and good deeds. If you want to live in good times, do good things. That's where we find hope. That's where we find bright lights. That's where we find something to be inspired by in our own choices, in our own actions.

Because that's the one thing we control. Marx is really clearly hated all the flatterers and sick offens and hangers on that came with power. He talks about it repeatedly in meditations, but the thing he hated most was the people who would say things in passing. Like, I'm going to be honest with you. Let me be straight with you. Let me tell you what I really think. He said to say those things was actually a confession, self indictment. People should know you're going to be honest. He said,

“"An honest person should be like the smelly goat in the room. You should know they're there.”

The second they walk in. When you preface your thing with, let me tell you what I really

think. Here's the truth. You're admitting that that's not the norm. That's not what you normally do. And nobody had to think that about Marx. In fact, from an early age, Marx really this was named Varismus, where the truest one. And we think that's because he was so unflinchingly truthful with Hadrian. His adopted grandfather, the most powerful man in Rome, the Marcus just told them what he thought. He didn't hold back. And neither can you.

Marx really is one of the great leaders of all time. What advice does he have for aspiring leaders for leaders today? Remember what? Don't be changed by your position. He says tries to escape being imperialized, being dyed purple by the Emperor's cloak. He learns from Antoninus to listen to experts and when not to listen to experts. He is convinced that the power he's been given has to be used for good. He says we're here for each other. He says know what is enough, right?

To be craving more and more, more, always brings about ruin. He says that you have to tie your

success to your effort to tie your ambition to what other people say or do. He says this is insanity and it will ruin you and break you. And then finally, he says you have to do the right thing. The rest doesn't matter. That's the job of a leader. You have to make the hard decisions. Sometimes you're going to piss people off. Sometimes you're going to have to hurt a few feelings. But the leader does the right thing because it's the right thing end of story. Bill Belice, a greatest

football coach in history tells his players do your job. Marcus really asks himself that same question and meditation. He says what is my vocation? It says to be a good person. That's the job. At the end of the day, to be a good person, to do good things, to make a positive difference in the world for yourself and the people around. I was talking early about how Marcus really said that

“like we're soldier storming a wall, you have to be able to ask for help. So what if you ask for help?”

I think this is really important, especially again when we're lonely, when we're struggling, we feel like we can't do something, we feel like we're out of our element or whatever. You have to be able to ask for help. There's a book I like to read my kids of the boy, the fox, the horse, and the mole. And he says something like asking for help isn't giving up. It's refusing to give up. Whether you just got out of the military, you just moved across the country. You were part of some group.

You were part of a community and now that's not there. Now you're struggling. You were in a marriage, that marriage fell apart. Got in clean recently and your old friends, your old habits, they don't work anymore. That's going to require adjustment and change. And it takes a lot of courage to ask for help, but you have to be able to do that. You have to be willing to put yourself out there. And help doesn't mean, hey, I need you to do all this stuff for me. It could be like,

hey, I'm going to do this thing. Do you want to come with me? I would appreciate it if you came with me. Asking for help, reaching out, putting yourselves out there, you know, courage isn't just like what you do in a military campaign. Courage isn't just betting your life on some big idea. Courage is also saying, I don't know how to do something, saying, I don't think, I know how to do something,

with independence, with a lack of connection, with an inability to ask for help. In fact, the stoics would tell you to be brave enough to do that very thing. Marxist could have been talking about his ill health, could have been talking about bad weather, he could have been talking about that noisy streets in the city below. We just know that what he was trying to do is accept what wasn't in his control and focus on what was in his control, which is what he was going to do about it,

what was going to come of it. And then related to that is something I've come to understand as basically the most key of the stoic practices. Marx says, okay, convince yourself that this is been prescribed by doctor. He says, now convince yourself that it was a gift of the gods,

that this is good, that things are good now and they always will be easy to be grateful when

everything is going great. It's easy to be excited and happy about things when things are exciting and you are happy. The work is, can you do that even in the shit? Can you do that even when

“stuff sucks? Can you do it even when things are hard? That's what stoicism is. If I was going”

to put a curse on someone, I think a curse I might put on them is that you are going to have very strong opinions about everything you see and hear, about everything that people do, about everything that people say. Right, this is a recipe for misery, for torture, for endless distraction, for missing the things that are actually important. This is why in meditations, Marx really reminds himself that we always have the power to have no opinion,

that we don't have to let certain things upset us, that we can ask ourselves, is this thing essential?

Is this something that I should be focused on? Does it really matter? So this isn't apathy, this isn't, you know, sort of checking out, but it is saying, hey, is this thing important? Does this actually matter? Is this a distraction? Is this something they're trying to get in my head about, right? And the ability to put those aside and focus on what truly matters, on what's actually essential? That is a superpower and that is the way out of the curse that we

wish on our enemy. We want our opponents to be endlessly bogged down in every single little trivial thing. Well, we focus on what's actually important and where we can actually make a different. You might not want things to be this way, you wouldn't have chosen them to be this way, but they are this way. Marx really says, let us accept it as if a doctor prescribed it. The point is, this is the medicine you got to take. This is the hand you've been dealt.

This is the situation you are in. And when Marx really says, as you could have been talking about the pandemic that he lived in, the stresses of his job, the children that he had buried

“all of it was, wasn't fair, wasn't fun, but it was. That's what stoicism is when it talks about”

acceptance. It doesn't mean you passively lay there and do nothing else, but it means you accept that this is what has happened. This is what the doctor has prescribed for you. And now the question is,

what are you going to do next? One thing that's never changed about the world is how much of it's

out of our control. 2000 years ago, it was largely out of the control of all of the stoics, even Marcus really is the most powerful man in the world. Most things are not in his control. And when things are out of our control, we have a way we'd like things to go. We know they might not go that way. What does that create? That creates anxiety. And so for thousands of years, the stoics have been dealing with this thing that you and I are still dealing with today. We get nervous, we worry,

we have anxiety, we have fears and dread. Marx really said in Meditation talks about how he had a good day because he escaped anxiety. And he actually corrects himself because actually no, I didn't escape it. I discarded it because it was within me. He's noticing, he's realizing that he is the common variable in all the situations that cause him anxiety, just as you are. An anxiety is within us. We want to work on it and think about it so it doesn't rule our lives or ruin our lives.

One of the things Marx really talks about in Meditation's over and over again is seeing what's really there. He says not what your enemy sees and hopes that you'll see, but what's actually there. And I think we could take this to me and see the good and see the bad, right? See what's truly there to see it as clearly as possible. Not the thing that people want you to see and get depressed about and quit or afraid of. And at the same time not to see it delusionaly or in some

“exaggerated way. But to see what is actually there. That's what stoicism is about. And I think”

this is super relevant in this time of like terrible news, right? To see what's actually in front of you, the good and the bad, to not inflate it and also not diminish it. But to see what's actually there. That is the task of our time. It's kind of crazy if you think about it. We all know ourselves better than other people. We all know what we're trying to do. We all know who we are. And yet, for some reason, we're like a weather van. We let public opinion or trans decide what we like. We

we let the criticism or the potential criticism of others decide what direction we go with our life. It's so absurd that Sarah Connolly trying to take it to its logical extreme said,

That's why I love this passage in book 12 of Meditations. Marcus Rios, the most powerful man in the world, the person who really had no reason to care about what anyone else thought. And yet,

to do his job well, needed to understand public opinion. He said, "It never ceases to amaze me.

We all love ourselves more than other people, but care about their opinion more than our own." If a God appeared to us, he said, "Or why is human being even been prohibited us from concealing our thoughts or imagining anything without immediately shouting it? We wouldn't make it

“through a single day." That's how much we value other people's opinions instead of our own.”

It's not that we shouldn't care at all what other people think. We should just care a whole lot that. I lived in this little apartment here in New Orleans with my now wife more than 10 years ago. And one of the things I think about when I think about when I lived here was how different a person I was, not just because, like, time has passed, but all the changes that I've undergone. The Stokes talk about how everything is changed. Marcus Rios quoting Heracles,

"We never step in the same river twice. I'm a fundamentally different person standing here

now. My relationship with my wife is fundamentally different. We're always changing. Just as the world is changing, even though this building is like 200 plus years old. Everything about it is different. It's different. Me visiting today. Then when I visited five years ago, it was different than the day I moved in. And so if you try to hold on to your relationship, you try to make it the same as it always was. You're missing what it could become. And I'm so much happier now that I was

then just why I try to be fluid and flexible in a just, even though you also try to be disciplined and

“principal, then systematized, and what you do, you have to embrace change, you have to grow,”

because if you're not growing, you're dying, I don't think that's what you want." Marcus Rios didn't like people. You can't read meditations and not see this. He opens meditations with a meditation on how frustrating and obnoxious other people are. And even this idea, this idea of the obstacle is the way. That quote is him talking about other people about how people get in our way, how people present obstacles. But he says that in that obstacle, there's an opportunity

to actually practice this philosophy that you say you believe, to be good in spite of other people, to be just in the face of injustice, to be temperate in the face of in temperance that's being rewarded, to be courageous when everyone else is being cowardly and being rewarded for it. For the Stoics, people are frustrating. People are an obstacle, but like all obstacles, they're also the way. There's something challenge we can rise to meet. We can be better for

wrestling with other people's difficulties. So don't resent people, use them to become better. One of the big Stoics shifts is realizing that past your misfame is worthless. Marcus Rios was incredibly famous in his own lifetime. They built statues of him, these statues were in people's houses. He was the head of an empire of millions and millions of people. He would have known that the deeds of other emperors and conquerors had lasted throughout history.

But he also stops himself and goes, "Wait, they're not around to enjoy this. What good is it to Alexander that Alexandria is still named after him?" In fact, in Meditation, Marcus Rios says Alexander the Great and his meal driver, they both died both entered the earth in the same way. His point was that how many people remember just a couple emperors before him. He says, "Who remembers now the name of Vest Passion?" And he lists not just the emperor,

but influential advisors, the celebrities of that time. And he says, "They're all forgotten." And his point is not just that most of us, even the famous people, even people like Marcus, are inevitably forgotten, right? We might be talking about him here in this video, but most people just know him as the old guy in the movie Gladiator if anything at all. But he says also, he says, "The people in the future are not magically going to be smarter

or better than the people are now." Right? So this idea that you're going to be vindicated by the future is also an empty and a silly hope. And again, even if you are vindicated in the future, it won't do you any good because you won't be around to enjoy it. So do what's right now because it's right because you want to do it. Don't do it because you're trying to build this legacy for the future. Don't defer the love of your family, don't defer being present,

don't defer your health, right? Because you're striving to make this thing that's going to last for eternity. It won't. And even if it does, what good will that do? This is one of the most

powerful passages in one of the most powerful books ever in 2000 years ago. The Emperor of Rome,

a person that many believed was a god that believed was immortal that they believed had so much power that no one in nothing could touch him. We have Marcus the Realist writing in his famous meditations. In book 221 he says, "You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think." He writes over and over again in meditations. You see him doing this

“momentum, more he practiced, remembering that he is mortal, remembering that life is a”

femoral, that life is short, that we are not in control, that we don't get to decide. And so we can't take this present moment for granted. We can't take our health for granted. We can't take other people

instead you choose tomorrow." Don't put it off. Do what you need to do now because you could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.