You Must Learn to See | The Stoic Lesson of Marcus Aurelius' Crumbling Statue

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You must learn to see.

“It can be an ugly world, it can be a boring world, it can be a world of distraction.”

Which is why the artist and the philosopher must learn how to cultivate their eyes. In 1940, the writer James Baldwin was walking in New York City with the painter Beaufort Delaney, his friend and mentor. As they crossed the street, Beaufort stopped the young Baldwin, look, he said, as he pointed down into the gutter, what do you see?

All Baldwin saw was a puddle. Delaney told him to look again, and then he saw, as Nicholas Boggs recounts in Baldwin

a love story, a reflection of buildings moving like mercury in the gutter's black water,

distorted and radiant. It's clear in meditations that someone did this from arcs to really is. How else can you explain his beautiful observations of seemingly ordinary or even unpleasant

“things, from the way in all of rocks on the ground or the foam flesh on a bore's mouth?”

What else could explain not just his terms of phrase, but his ability to find philosophical truths in his own struggles as a human being? Perhaps it was rusticous, his philosophy teacher who taught in this, or Fronto, his rhetoric teacher, or some poet or writer he met, but in any case, as Baldwin said of Delaney, the reality of his seeing caused me to begin to see, and so it goes for us.

We must cultivate this ability to see beauty and poetry everywhere because it is everywhere. We must look into the gutter. We must change our aperture and perspective so that amidst the muddle and puddles of life, we can see what the artist and the philosophies. And in fact, Marcus Aurelius is someone who helped me see, and my reading and reading of

this book has changed my life, and it has changed a lot of millions of people over the last 20 centuries, and it is also why we have meditations month here in April, Delaney's Stoic. We've been putting together what I think is the perfect companion for reading and understanding Marcus Aurelius' meditations.

Delaney's Stoic Meditations Guide, like a book club or an annotated version of your favorite book. It is designed to be your personal roadmap through the nuances, subtleties, and complexities of Marcus Aurelius' and meditations. It's not spark notes or some read, there's no substitute for reading meditations.

It's not a shortcut, but it's a guide that will help enhance your understanding, help

“you really get everything you should get out of it, and hopefully guide you not just”

to read it once, but time after time after time. I'm really excited for you to check it out. Go to DelaneyStoic.com/meditations, click it on the show notes, and also I would say if you haven't read meditations, do grab our edition, we sell it, and the DelaneyStoic store. The Gregory Hays edition, it's leather, so it'll hold the test of time on a link to that

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But it's actually a stoic lesson in this, because yes, 19 centuries later, a monument to his accomplishments still stands. And even though it's a little worn down and need some restoration, you might say that this disproves Marcus's reminders and meditations that posthumous fame doesn't last, and no one will remember him. But I actually think the fact that it's still there is precisely the point. Because if you look at the top of this column,

there's not a statue of Marcus Aurelius on top. It's actually Saint Paul. In the 16th century, Pope Sixtus, the fifth, decides to take the monument to Marcus Aurelius and reuse it for his own

“purposes. And in the end, that's what Marcus Aurelius's greatest accomplishment becomes a pedestal”

for somebody else. And that is what Marcus is saying. That's what history does to all of us, even those of us famous enough to be remembered for one year or one century or one thousand years. It history takes us and it remixes and reuses us. It perverts us and undermines our legacy. It contradicts us, it absorbs us, and it uses us for our own purposes. On a long enough timeline, everyone's will and legacy is ignored. Their graves are lost and obscured. Their memory is written

over. And we should remember this before it's too late. And let's say it didn't happen. Let's say it was still shiny in gleaming. Why would that matter? He says in Meditations, "People who are excited by Posture Mis fame forget that the people who remember them will die soon too, and that those after them in turn, until their memory passed from one to another like a candleflame, gutters and goes out." And then he says, "Suppose that that actually wasn't true. Perhaps you

are remembered forever." He says, "What good would that do you?" And he says, "I don't just mean when you're dead, but in your own lifetime. What use is praise except to make your lifestyle a little more comfortable?" It's trying to remind himself that reputation, fame,

“impressing people that doesn't matter. Who you are as a person? That's the only thing that”

counts who you are as a person to the people around you. Did you do good with the resources that you had? It's like the Shelley poem about Ozzie Mandius, right? The statue fallen over in the desert, two legs, the head there laying in the sand. A colossal recce is boundless and

bare, even though this person was so powerful and important in life, very little of it remains.

Now, this is not the state of Marcus Aurelius's monument. You can go see it. It's still standing there. I've seen it myself. And yet, the same stoic lesson is actually there if you look for it. Okay, so if he's saying that being remembered is not important, that posthumous fame is worthless. What is he saying that does matter? Well, he does address this in meditations, too. He says, "Forget everything else. Keep hold of this alone and remember it."

Each of us lives only now. This brief instant, the rest has been lived already or is impossible to see. The span we live is small, small as the corner of earth in which we live it. Small as even the greatest renown passed from mouth to mouth by short-lived stick figures, ignorant alike of themselves and those long dead. He's saying that all you have is this moment, all you have is who you are in this moment. Creating some enormous legacy that other people get to

live in, focusing on impressing people who you will never meet. What good will that do you?

“He's saying, "What matters is that you do good now, that you live a good life, that you live”

a good life as a good person." That's what Marcus really is striving to do in meditations. And the irony is, in not caring about posthumous fame, and not caring about his accomplishments last night. And just trying to be a good man to concentrate on what he has to do as he writes in meditations. To fix his eyes on it, reminding himself that his tax is just to be a good human being and to do it, he says, "Without hesitation to speak the truth as he sees it with kindness and

still talking about him today.