The Girlfriends S4/Bonus Ep 6: How to Put a Spotlight on Your Story

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Hi, it's Katija. In this episode, we're going to explore how to use the media to take control of your story. And draw attention to the causes that matter the most to you. But I just wanted to give you a heads up that in the process of doing that. We'll discuss domestic abuse, sexual assault, violence, and murder.

If you or someone you love has been affected by any of the things that have come up in this episode. We've left some links in the description that offer resources and support. Take care of yourself. And this season of the Girl Friends. We've been discovering some difficult truths about the city we love.

Delicious prosecution, extortion, sexual violence from police officers. It seems like the wheels really came off in wild.county. But in my opinion, it's not just law enforcement that failed us. It's the media too. They failed to report adequately on what was happening in our community.

They failed to be a check on the police department as it went wrong. And a lot of our media still misrepresent and underrepresent the very people who need it the most. Throughout my work with justice rewind that. If there's one thing I've learned is that if you want answers and accountability, if you're trying to find a missing person or discover why a loved one was murdered,

or if you're a survivor yourself, looking for justice, the media may not always feel like you're free in.

But it can work for you. And if you really want your voice to be heard, understanding how the media works. Whether it's news media, social media, our podcast like this one. Getting wise is essential. I'm kidding you hard away for the teams at novel and eye-hard podcast.

This is the Girl Friends Untouchable. Bonus Episode 6. How to put a spotlight on your story.

When Stacy Quinn, Rhonda Tribule and Monique Allen,

among many other women in our county were murdered. There was little media outrage. Certainly not enough to make people take any real notice or stop crimes like these from happening again and again. We know that there is a nationwide problem with black people being unreported as victims and black women are murdered at nearly triple the rate of white women.

Black people make up 40% of the misopersonance population and only get 7% of the media coverage. That is less than 1/5 of the coverage they should be getting. I have busted a gut throughout my life to try and get attention and accountability for black women. And it hasn't been easy.

“So how can you get the media to work for you and with you?”

To chew over this difficult subject, I'm talking to Tamara Cherry,

a celebrated crime reporter and journalist. She's the author of the trauma beat, a case for rethinking the business of bad news. Which looks at the way news media handles victims and their trauma. Challenging the industry to re-examine the way it does business. I started out by giving Tamara a little insight into my own experience of the media.

I have a love for journalism when I was a little girl. My dad nicknamed me KDJ because I used to act like I was the radio station and every aspect of the radio. The weather man, the disjockey, the news reporter. I do have a love for media when I took on the advocacy of women in Y and I County.

“Even though I'm a black woman and I've set in spaces of media.”

I feel like I very much have been put on. It just didn't feel like that way for us collectively. I found myself in some very hard spaces. Losing friends in media because I just wouldn't back down from the ideal. The exposure of the bad characters needed to happen.

We do find in the media here a lot of hurdles when it comes to just being black and female at the same time. We're both females. Can you tell me a little bit about yourself? Thank you for sharing that.

First, I've met many people with similar situations where they're in advocate roles and have personal histories that are connected to some of their work.

“But they've felt that same sting and the way that stories are reported and the way that things are portrayed in the news.”

It's just another nail in the coffin. They don't care about us collectively. I hear you on that. In terms of my background, I was born and raised in Regina Saskatchewan, Canada, which is where I am right now. I go into journalism and I fell in love with news.

And I fell in love with telling stories that could make people care. And I really wanted to be able to affect change through the craft of journalism. I ended up working in television news for a decade as the crime reporter for this big newscast. And I was very celebrated for the work that I did. Well, to marijuana and alcoholize for her work, the culture she was working in did not serve the goal she was sitting of effect in positive change.

Nobody ever talked about trauma and how to work with victims and survivors of traumatic events and how to report on things in a way that was actually causing good things to happen and said about things to happen. The community is telling you like what you're doing is is harmful or we don't want you hearing our that sort of thing. But then everything else is signaling that you're doing the right thing you're getting nominated for awards. And I was celebrated when I got that quote unquote scoop where I got the grieving mother on TV.

And even though it might not have been in her best interest, my boss is accelerating me for it. You know, if there was a homicide and an apartment building, I would be searching through every phone number listed in that apartment building looking for witnesses and ran into a really unfortunate situations. It's too soon. They don't have the proper supports in place all that that's a whole different part of this conversation. And, you know, you say talking about, you know, knocking on somebody's door in that vulnerable space.

You feel like the media companies you were working for were exploring stories. There's absolutely exploitation that happens. But I don't think it's happening consciously for the most part. Can you tell me a little bit about how you see media is portray when it comes to individuals like myself?

When reporters don't realize it, in my book, I talk about this case actually throughout the book where there was a young man who was murdered in East St. Louis.

“And his mother, Latasha Stewart, was screaming from the rooftops to get the media to pay attention to her son's murder.”

She had created a Facebook page that she created like a group. She got herself on Twitter and she contacted the Montel Williams show for crying out loud. Like, she was doing everything and nobody was paying attention. It was not easy. She screamed from the rooftops for so long.

But she got the media coverage. She is incredible and it shouldn't have had to be that much of a struggle.

That was wrong. That was the system working against her. Just as it has worked against people of color for generations. Pretty much everything I'm going to ask you is something that I have experienced and just kind of tying it together with someone who has experienced this in the media. Where I found myself is that at some point I realized this is trauma and their trauma is beginning to impact me and become trauma on me.

“When did you have that moment when you felt like you had that aha, like this is not what I'm reporting.”

This is actually something else and something needs to be done about it. My specialty in my crime reporting was the domestic sex trafficking of women and girls in Canada.

And when I first was introduced to the term human trafficking, I like so many other people thought,

somebody's been brought over in a box car from Russia or whatever, you know, I was reporting on all these international cases. A woman from Russia who had answered and had to work as a model in Canada and has turned out as an escort. And then I got an email from a vice investigator who said, "Why do you come out and talk to us?" They opened my eyes to all the other human trafficking cases.

“They are in poverty, quite often they come from group homes, quite often there was sexual abuse when they were younger.”

And it's a lot of them follow the same pattern, but none of them was what I had in my mind is human trafficking. Some of them are white, some of them are black, some of them are indigenous, but marginalized in some way. That's when I started noticing in the police news releases that would come out or run away. Or somebody who's gone missing, she's gone missing before, and as a result for years, I dedicated a big portion of my career to exposing that. And to writing about these stories that otherwise weren't being written about.

One thing that became clear to tomorrow is that who you are to determine how the media reports your story. Marginalized people in general are treated differently. How a young marginalized woman from poverty and has gone missing many times before might be referred to as somebody who has gone missing several times before, even though she's a 15-year-old girl and very vulnerable. And so she's immediately labeled as, well, habitual runaway who will just come back, whereas if a more affluent white girl were to go missing, there would be more immediate alarm bells.

Right? The police narrative is always the primary narrative.

The journalists are not getting proper training on communities. And in general, they're never given the proper training to understand communities. There is the systemic racism I had mentioned, the homicide of Gregory Stewart and East St. Louis. And what was interesting when I was working on my book was going back into the history of East St. Louis and the segregation. And the role that the media played in that and in inciting violence, like going back to like the 1930s. And seeing the actual racist roots that exist in the media, even though journalists today there, might not realize it.

Something to merit say that I relate to is that bias comes from a number of issues. Yes, there are racist roots to the media. But there are other kinds of bias that combine to stick the deck against us. One of the things I talk about in my book is the fact that the media doesn't report on planes that land. They see the news as uncommon things that are happening.

So there are much more likely, for example, to report on a white affluent person who is murdered because it doesn't happen statistically as often as a black impoverished person who is murdered. You just said something you need to me and that's that they report on the white victim if he's affluent rich, right? But they don't report on the black. What they report on the black is the criminal.

The media doesn't portray us in a good light.

“It doesn't want to tell our feel good stories.”

We know that these problems of under-reporting and misrepresentation are happening on a mass scale. I want to hear more of what we're doing about it. After the break, we're going to talk about ways the media can do better. Two percent. That is the number of people who take the stairs when there is also an escalator available. I'm Michael Easter, an on my podcast, two percent. I break down the signs of mental toughness, fitness, and building resilience in our strange modern world.

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I don't know what that means, but I just know the groundlings. I'm working my way up through and I know it's a place they come. Look for up and coming talent. He said, if it was based solely on talent, I wouldn't worry about you. Which is really sweet. He goes, but there's so much lock and ball. And he's like, just give it a shot. He goes, but if you ever reach a point where you're banging your head against the wall and it doesn't feel funny more, it's okay to quit. If you saw it written down, it would not be an inspiration. It would not be on a calendar.

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This has been serving pancakes and we'll catch you on the website. Okay, presented by Capital One, founding partner of iHart Women's Sports. Journalism is a major two for addressing injustice in our community.

As of 2022, black people made up 6% of the journalists, which is a lot less than the 14.4% of the population, which black people make up in the US. Given the history of our community, it's even more important for those in the media, especially white journalists, to think carefully about how they report on us when we're at our most vulnerable. We find that most journalists want to victim in the rawest form,

“which I think puts them in a very vulnerable place.”

Oh, and I've seen it play out with sexual violence survivors here in Canada,

where they go to the media first, they share their story,

and then I go and I'm sitting in the trial for the alleged perpetrator. And oh, you're saying this now, but you said it differently when you spoke to this newspaper reporter a year ago. That's something I advise sexual violence survivors in particular about as well. When we're talking about journalists, you know that they want them in the more vulnerable position and I was the same. You want that raw emotion. You don't want them reading from a prepared statement.

You say knocking on somebody's door in that vulnerable space. Did you feel like the media companies you were working for were exploring stories for capital gain? Most news managers who are telling us to go cover these stories, their intentions are overwhelmingly good. They want this violence to stop. They want people to care.

I don't think that there's a conscious will to exploit.

“There may not be a conscious will to exploit by all media organizations and editors,”

but it is often the result of prioritizing the most shocking stories to sell newspapers

and get more clicks and subscribers. You want it raw because it makes for a more compelling story. What I teach journalists now though, because I do a lot of like trauma informed storytelling training, is about the impact the trauma has on the brain,

and recognizing that if you bring that survivor into that unsaved zone, activating their trauma responses, then you might not actually be getting an accurate story. A lot of journalists, they're going into newsrooms that are mostly white, and they don't reflect the communities that they are reporting on.

Along with the crisis of representation, there's also a crisis within the press industry.

“In the age of the internet, local reporting and investigating reporting”

has struggled to find resources to do good work, as to mirror a found in one of our jobs. We were so short-staffed that I would come into the office some days and be like, "Hey, I've got a really great scoop on this case. I need time to work on it," and they'd say,

"That's great, but you're one of two reporters working today, so we need you to write half the paper." So you're just going to rewrite eight press releases instead. So in that way, I'm regurgitating whatever's coming out from police by and large, and I don't have the time where the resources to actually dig into anything,

because it's just like, "I got to get this stuff filed and then get out the door."

Ultimately, we need more black journalists and editors calling the shots.

And I can only hope that as awareness spreads about the harm done by sensationalizing stories, there would be more urgency to change things. There are journalists out there who are becoming trauma-informed, and when I tell them that actually a lot of what you're doing is harmful, they're surprised, and they ask me, "How can I do better?"

And then I teach them, or they read my book, or they listen to my podcast, and then they reach out to me and they say, "Tomera, I've been doing this job for 33 years, and I just wanted you to know I just did this interview differently, because of what this survivor said was harmful for her in the past." Change is happening, trauma-informed practice still remains the exception

rather than the expectation, but it is happening, and if you can find that good journalists, or newsroom manager, or advocate who has those connections, you can actually have an experience with the media that is healing, instead of harmful, and can help you reach your goals. I have to be honest, I am still skeptical about the role the media has played,

and continues to play in our communities. The news media is still by and large, a for-profit business driven by what sales. But what Tamera has described seems like a Ralph forward, and may be called for optimism. I hope Tamera is right, that we are moving to a more compassionate

and thoughtful culture of journalism. After the break, we are going to talk about survivor and power in it, and what advocates and survivors can do to amplify their voices within the media. 2%. That is the number of people who take the stairs when there is also an escalator available.

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“I was like, and dad, I think I want to really give this a shot.”

I don't know what that means, but I just know the groundlings. I'm working my way up through, and I know it's a place to come. Look for up and coming talent. He said, "If it was based solely on talent, I wouldn't worry about you, which is really sweet."

Yeah. He goes, "But there's so much lock and ball." And he's like, "Just give it a shot." He goes, "But if you ever reach a point where you're banging your head against the wall, and it doesn't feel funny more, it's okay to quit."

If you saw it written down, it would not be an inspiration. It would not be on a calendar of, you know, the cat just hanging in there. Yeah, it would not be... Right, it would not be that. There's a lot in life.

Listen to thanks dad on the I-Hart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. In 2023, former Bachelor Star Clayton Eckard found himself at the center of a paternity scandal. The family court hearings that followed revealed

glaring inconsistencies in her story. This began a years-long court battle to prove the truth.

“You doctored this particular task twice in silence, correct?”

I doctored the test once. It took an army of internet detectives to crack the case. I wanted people to be able to see what their tax dollars were being used for. Some likes the greatest disinfectant. They would uncover a disturbing pattern.

Two more men who'd been through the same thing. Greg O'Wespie and I could mention it. My mind was blown. I'm Stephanie Young. This is LoveTrap.

Laura, Scott State Police.

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Whether you're following the final push of Love Season, or just love the game, serving pancakes brings you closer to the action and the people shaping the future of volleyball. Jordan, Thompson, had that microphone out. God forbid we'd make mistakes or cuss at our coach.

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Presented by Capital One, founding partner of I-Hart Women's Sports. I got you, I got you, I got you. When it comes to the media and getting your voice out there, there is a lot stacked up against women, especially marginalized and black women.

We saw what that looked like for so many of the women of Winder County who got caught up in Galuci's web of abuse and word "nord." But I know for my own experience, the media can work for us. We'll be talking through some of those tips and tools to help navigate the media while dealing with trauma.

And one of the most dramatic things we'll deal with is when a loved one goes missing. Getting the media's attention can be the difference between life or death.

The chances of being found after the first 48 hours go down sharply.

So every moment counts.

when you go to the media,

if a news release goes out 48 hours later saying a runaway, quote unquote, is gone. Your number one mission is to humanize your missing loved one.

“It's not something that you should have to do.”

But the unfortunate reality is if it's not getting media attention, it's because they're being treated as just another statistic. Another runaway, you know. I have dealt with a many of people who said their loved one was missing. What I usually do is I challenge the individual that is looking

for their missing loved one to let me know what organizations they belong to. Are they disabled? Are they a veteran? Descriptions about them that connect them to other people.

If you can find the people that associate with that individual,

you can find the best help. It has helped rescue at least five people that I know. In my community. Another situation where you might need to get your voice heard by the media is if a loved one or a community member is murdered.

And if you're black, news flash, you're going to have a hard time getting your story heard. According to a study by Stanford University, in majority white neighborhoods, murder victims are around twice as likely to be covered

as a complex and rounded person than those in majority black neighborhoods. And that goes to a whole new level when you're speaking out for young black men. You know how it goes.

They must have been in a gang. So breaking through prejudice takes some hard work. So how can you humanize them? I think back to a campaign that I did about a teenage boy who was murdered several years ago.

And on the surface, this homicide would have gotten not the most compassionate care from the media. I had conversations with the family. And we put out this video of him. And it really showed how young he was.

It really tugged at the heartstrings. And just by putting out that video, we got media attention that we would not have otherwise gotten. And we got the story covered. Because it humanized.

It was no longer just this teenage boy was murdered on this neighborhood. It was this human being with loved ones who care about him. Who is now missing from our collective lives. His family is hurting.

And this is how you can help them. We like to call that empowerment. We do believe that the more a person knows, the more experience and influence they have with their own situation. Walkin through it.

The better they can help the next person. You may find yourself in a position of being a survivor of a crime. Navigate in the media after a terrible experience.

“So what is the best way for you to fight for your own justice?”

I do believe that there are so many ways to use the media want don't overshare your story. But to make sure that when you tell it is powerful, it's impactful. And you're telling it to the right people who can help you.

Most people don't know how to tell their story. And they think instantly something should happen as a journalist and somebody who has worked with trauma survivors. My message is first, decide what you are comfortable sharing. What message do you want to get out there?

Think about the trauma that you endured. Are you actually comfortable talking about the event? Or do you just want to talk about the impact that event had on you and your family or loved ones? I identify as a survivor, but talk about something else that you're seeing in the news.

Because journalists will always try to get to that personal story.

But if you don't know going into that interview very clearly what you want to talk about, you can end up going down a very slippery road that can cause you more harm.

“You need to have a clear understanding of what do you come to be talking about”

to everybody surrounding that survivor. That survivor needs to be wrapped in support when dealing with the media. They should never be doing it alone. Whether it is with a lawyer or an organization or like a nonprofit or whatever. A part of the process of telling your story is about making compelling strategic campaigns

that punch through the left care and get your story heard. One way to go about that is to focus on social media campaign. It's free and anyone can do it. And if you have a community behind you, it can really make a splash. I don't know if you agree with this, but sometimes when we don't get the coverage,

we will share the story on several social media outlets, tagging those news outlets with that light that story, comment on a story or how viral that story goes.

Social media can be a very powerful tool.

One caution I would give about social media is it can be a very dark, awful place full of trolls. There needs to be somebody there ideally with some media literacy and who's trauma informed and is looking out for the best interest of that survivor. I tell people there's a big difference between social media influencers.

And one that's the credibility that is going to go behind something that's published from a licensed journalist as if an article they say came from the Washington Post.

“That's why I'm saying you make that social media campaign with your vertical videos,”

but you also produce those videos horizontally from mainstream media to use.

And so you're fighting it from both sides. I work with a lot of organizations that have very small social media followings. And so it's like we create this whole social media campaign. It's really not going to be seen by a lot of people because they've only got, you know, a few dozen followers, but we take that to mainstream media and they amplify it in that way.

And it also drives followers then to their social media. Today social media plays a bigger role than ever and getting the word out. But traditional media platforms can change you to be important.

To build my minimum around your story, you need to be smart and have multiple approaches to campaign.

“Oftentimes when we think of media, I would say just as far as not necessarily has fairet.”

Well, we need to be more impactful. And so how do we do that? You are not expected to be an expert in the media. Surround yourself with people who already have that media literacy. Learn about the media, create those relationships.

And magic can happen back in November, which in Canada is domestic violence awareness month. One of my clients is an organization that provides wrap-around services for victims and survivors of intimate partner violence. And they wanted to do an entire campaign around strangulation. So we created a campaign called Taking Your Breath Away. And it was a social media campaign that included something like 18 or 19 videos.

Here's a survivor who is part of the campaign and she doesn't want to do media interviews. Here are video clips that we've created with her protecting her identity where she shares her story. Here are these experts from San Diego who are experts in strangulation that are a part of it. Here's the executive director of the organization that we created a whole mainstream media campaign around this, where we had a news conference with a campaign launch video.

We created a whole media frenzy around this.

“Whereas if somebody were to just call a news station, say why don't you ever talk about strangulation?”

Well, that's a lot of work and I don't have time to do that because I'm filing for sex or I'm doing this. But if I hand you the story on a platter, then you're golden. When she starts speaking the experts language, they're going to want to talk about indisectic. And look at it from an in some cases, give you strategies that you wouldn't have thought about before. And we refer to that as being empowered.

Mm-hmm, for sure. Another way to control the message is depending on what is happening in the news. Write an op-ed, like write an opinion piece that you can then submit to the local newspaper. That is a great way because you can control that message. And it doesn't need to be tied to specific work you are doing, but it's presenting yourself as the thought leader because you have done X, Y, and Z. And newspapers love to run a piece that presents a different point of view to what has already been reported.

I've been working with the press for years and despite the wins we've had, just being her continues to be hard. I don't think it would ever be easy. Working with survivors whose stories are definitely newsworthy, we can struggle to get the media's attention. That can be for a number of reasons is the victim from the wrong neighborhood, the wrong race, and the wrong line of work. Are they too poor? Sometimes I feel like I'm being ignored, not because of what I am saying, but because my face just doesn't fit.

In the beginning, I felt like the princess of wind up because everyone wanted to hear what I had to say, and I was tied to a white organization at that time. When we broke free of the white organization, then we noticed that they would put the white organization before our movement. If you are working in a market where they're not going to talk to you because you're black, go to a different media market where you can talk about this issue. With a local newshook, it's like, okay, let's find a newshook in Detroit, for example, where there is a more friendly reporter perhaps who will do this story.

There wasn't until we decided that we would not deal with our media.

“I would gravitate toward activists outside of Kansas City who had a media platform who could post and share the things.”

And when they did that, that's when we began to see the New York Times, Washington Post, and news outlets that put us on a national platform. From where I'm standing, no one can stop you. If you are said on your go, if you hit what feels like a wall, don't give up, find another way. Find the good reporters, get the good stories done, and then all the rest of the media will start to pay attention.

What you did, it was brilliant.

I just want to say thank you again for sharing with me. It's great speaking with you, journalism. I know is, it's not an easy job. You need it in a lot of communities.

“And I appreciate the ideal of having trauma response reporters.”

I would love to see trauma informed journalists here in Kansas City. Thank you so much for having me. It's been so wonderful to learn about the work that you're doing, and I look forward to following your journey. That was tomorrow, Cherry, writer, journalist, and reformer.

Pick up her truly amazing book, The Trauma Beat, which is calling for reform and showing the way to a better media landscape, which would be more victim-centered.

I got a lot of hope listened to to Mary, seeing that we can shape the media narrative, and that changes happening in journalism.

“There is racism at the heart of many of America's institutions. The media is no exception, but we have to challenge it, and speak out for our communities. It's possible.”

I know because at Justifu Wanda, we have been able to make a splash. You can make change too. She just have to find the right partners and use the right tactics. We need a mass movement to meet this challenge. Let's do this together. Hi, this is Nikki again. Nico, Kadisha, and I have been on a long, hard journey to fight for the women of Kansas City, and while this is the final episode of the series, our story isn't over. We're still fighting for police reform, and doing what we can to make sure the people most affected by the story feel seen and heard.

And we're not alone. There are thousands of people across the world fighting to improve the places they live, doing the often slow, but necessary work needed to hold the authorities to account. But as we've learned, while the path to progress is long and winding, it's worth the ride, because if we keep fighting back and refusing to accept this that is quo, we can work together to create a future where nobody, even people in positions of authority, can ever get to the point where they think they're untouchable.

This time, Aniston Field will be back with another season of the girlfriends spotlight, and more untold stories of women winning. Until then, thanks for listening and hold your girlfriends tight. The girlfriends, untouchable, is produced by novel for iHeart Podcast. For more from novel, visit novel.adio, this episode was hosted by me, Gadija Hardaway. It was written and produced by Muhammad Ahmed. The editor is Joe Willer, the researcher is Ayanna Yusuf, production management from Cherie Houston and Joe Savage.

The fact checker is Vindo Fulton, sound design mixing and scoring by Daniel Kempson, with additional engineering by Nicholas Alexander. Music supervision by Rafaera Mazurura, Nicholas Alexander and Joe Willer, original music by Amanda Jones. The series artwork was designed by Christine Alimku, novel's director of development in Selena Mehta. Willer Foxton is novel's creative director of development. Max O'Brien and Craig Strakhan are executive producers for novel.

And a special thanks to colleague Franco and the whole team at WME.

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“That's the number of people who take the stairs when there is also an escalator available.”

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What's up, everyone? I'm Jacob Odom. My next guest, it's Will Ferrell. My dad gave me the best advice ever. He goes, "Just give it a shot."

“But if you ever reach a point where you're banging your head against the wall, and it doesn't feel fine anymore, it's okay to quit.”

It's not written down. It would not be an inspiration. It would not be on a calendar. You know, the cat just hanging there. Yeah, it would not be. Right, it wouldn't be that. There's a lot of light. Listen to things, dad, on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. In 2023, Bachelor Star Clayton Eckard was accused of fathering twins.

But the pregnancy appeared to be a hoax.

“Doctor this particular test twice in silence, correct?”

I doctor the test once. It took an army of internet detectives to uncover a disturbing pattern. Two more men who'd been through the same thing. Regulaspianne, Michael Manchini. My mind was blown.

I'm Stephanie Young. This is LoveTrap. Laura, Scott Stelpoise.

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