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"Okay." "Ready? Okay, five, six, seven, eight." "Welcome back to another episode of two parents in a podcast. We've got a good episode today."

“"I think we were a great episode, and I think in today's episode is the prime example of”

the benefits of recording on a Monday, versus recording on a Friday." "This is the blueprint." "We just have 48 more hours of very noteworthy things to discuss."

"It was a busy 48 hours."

"The two things that most excited to talk about today are car and my travelled of alcohol have all happened after our recording. If we'd recorded Friday, and then too much time out of past, if we'd waited for the Thursday episode." "Okay, well, then I, so this is..."

"For those wondering about our debate, versus do we record Monday versus Friday?" "Well, I think we need to go a little more in depth on this. So obviously our episodes release Monday and Thursday, and the question internally has been to loop you guys in. And since we're looping you in, you could like and subscribe.

Since we're, we're going to have a group conversation here. The group could..." "Someone commented yesterday, and they said, "I watch every single week at the same time,

and I just realized I wasn't subscribed, have you read the Harrison?"

I was like, "Come on. More of you guys." "Okay. That's some accountability." "Like 70% of the people that watch aren't subscribed."

Guys, you're watching every week. If you're watching, hit it.

“Subscribers matter, 'cause like you got to remember, "Oh, so this is my job, but I do want”

to preface. This is not Harrison's job, and I went to a birthday in my friend Michelle on Friday night, and other pro for us recording on Monday." And I was like, "She was like, "Where's Harrison?" I was like, "Bit inville for Walmart."

She's like, "Why would he need to go to Walmart?" And I was like, "Do you think Harrison's full-time podcasting?" She's like, "I didn't know he had another job." I was like, "This is it's not his job." Never.

Never. I said, "We love doing it, but it made me giggle." And so anyways, what we debate about is, do we record Monday, mornings like we're doing right now, and then drop them Monday afternoon, which is like more, and it's a more IRL more updated feel, which I prefer.

And so that's something that we've been talking about, is what time do we drop, and then do we record the same day? And we're here right now, like we're not traveling anywhere.

“Yeah, and I think the big delineation though was like recording Wednesday to drop on the Thursday”

episodes was no big deal. The problem was this Friday to Monday gap. Yeah, because we would be so behind. Yeah, and you're just like, you're losing two days of content, because by the time, if you're recording Friday for the Monday episode, but you're not, you don't have those

two days of stories and experiences, and then by the time those would in theory come up on the Thursday episode, but like too much time has passed. But I do think that eventually we are going to go to three episodes a week Monday Wednesday Friday, and I think Wednesday is going to be some form of guest episode, and the Monday and Friday are going to be the UNI, or like IRL's patters.

The only request on that was no learning on a Friday, which is why the Wednesdays would be the guests. And I'm down to learn on a Wednesday. Okay, I do want to say one thing off the top really quickly, because it's been heavy on my mind.

I almost said it last week, and I forgot, but I think a lot of moms identify with this because I've been talking. So this weekend, we just had like a kid build weekend, and we were just around so many parents. I've Friday night, Saturday we were, I guess we had two things. I did a crawfish boy on the neighborhood, and then we had a swim party, all of which were

just like with parents, our age. And the number one thing I've been talking about and feeling internally is this sadness around having one month left with tape being our only kid. It's a tail as old as time when you introduce another baby into the equation, and I feel I'm like, oh, she's not going to be our only angel anymore, and I just hope she knows

how much we love her, and the more I read about it and the more I talk to people, it's like, she knows, and she will love having a baby brother, like instead of saying to myself, oh, I'm so sad about this, saying how good it can be, because of course she wants siblings, and of course, like, she'll be so excited about this. But it's, it's just been the three of us, and now it's going to be the four of us, and

that's in an equitable, you know, adjustment, and then hopefully there's the five and maybe

But it's hard right now, because it's like we're going from us three.

“I think the hardest jump is going from one kid, whether you're whole world to then adding”

in a second, because it's, it's the only time in our life when we'll have our one little

baby. Yeah, I, probably harder on me than it is you, because I'm a little more emotional right now. We're my, my, my, my, is very different, like, these beautiful one-on-one moments that we have together, or three-on-three moments that we have together, they'll just

now take shape in a different form, and we'll be able to add these now four and four moments, or one-on-two moments. So yeah, I, I, I, it's, I hear this, but it isn't actually something that's, that is blended, although, yeah, I think a lot about my, my mornings with her, yeah, with just pubs.

And, uh, but I know we'll find other, other special things that that we do together, because like, what I love with her today didn't exist six months ago, right? Like, or cooking in the mornings, like, that didn't exist two months ago, and so I just, like, I think that we want to be forward looking and not backwards looking. One thing I think a lot about is whenever we were, I was pregnant with her, or we were

pregnant with her. No, no, no, we were not pregnant with her. When I was pregnant with her, we were expecting her. Remember, people kept saying, "Enjoy this time, just the two of you?" Do you remember that?

Everyone kept saying, "You two cherish this time, just to do you. I cherish our time, the three of us, far more than I did the two of us." And then, that's kind of my point. So then, so those cherished the four more than three. I know, but it's hard right now, because we're talking about something that doesn't exist yet.

So, as the mom, I was just, I talked to so many people about it this weekend, and it's

“just this feeling that a mother gets, I think, before the next one comes, and I did say”

to what I want to reframe it, how good can it be, how exciting is this? But I do feel a little bit of like, "Two things can be true." So I was, so Tate knows now, Bubba's in the belly, and she'll point at my belly, and sometimes she'll point at her belly, which is really cute. So what I was looking up yesterday was, when can a child actually understand that there's

a baby in the belly and what that means? So Tate right now, we can say, you know, where is Bubba, or where is the baby? And she'll point, here's to point at her stomach. Where's she'll point at when it says, "Because that's where Yates is." Yes, and any time we see a baby, she thinks that's Bubba or a baby.

And so, I was looking up on-- Because Yates is her favorite Bubba. Her favorite Bubba.

I was looking up when can she comprehend it, and basically, they can't comprehend it,

really until they're three, and there's three reasons why number one, they have lack of object performance, right? So if they can't see a physical object, it's hard for them to understand that it exists. So you admit permanence? What?

Object permanence? Yes, that's not what I said. And I think you said performance. Oh, oops, lack of object permanence. So if they can't see an object, then they can't understand that it exists.

“Like, you're not talking-- like, that's why she's always pointing at things, and that's how”

she identifies something. The second thing is, OK, no concept of time. So they live in the now. They live like right now. You can't be like tomorrow.

We're going to go to the park. It's just right now we're going to the park. And that's all she can understand. No, you can't tell her tomorrow at grandparents coming because you won't get that. And then the last one that makes so much sense to me is, under three, they take things

literally. So they might think that you ate the baby. Like, they truly might think that's all they can understand. What do you mean there's a baby in there? Because they don't understand how babies would come out.

And so she might know. So right now, Tate is able to point like, baby is here. But does she really get the that turns into baby that we hold? I don't think so. Yeah, and that makes sense.

The one thing I kind of got to push back was on the first point.

Because, for example, like this morning, we were downstairs sitting on the couch. And Maria was in the kitchen and you were upstairs in the bedroom. And we did our thing, we go, where's Tate? Did you see? Tate?

And then I go, where's Mimi and she pointed to the kitchen. Where's Mimi? Where's Mama and she said, she pointed upstairs. So she knew you were upstairs. I do think though she understands, like, I am in that room.

Unless she sees me leave, then she doesn't understand that I'm not in that room anymore. She, I do, I do think she understands that. She saw you in the room. Did you, did you, had you walked in by that point you did? I, I typically take her in and have her say hi in the mornings.

Okay. So she knows I'm in there. If I ever walk in and they go home, like, I'm, I'm also, she gives her hug and then

So she knew I was in there.

So she sees her. And if she hadn't seen me leave, then I do think she understands I'm in the room. Yeah. Pretty cool. So I don't know how that is for object permanence.

I don't know. 'Cause you're right. And then when I left, when I was out of town, I'm put on Thursday night. What did she do Friday morning? She came into the bed.

I brought her into the bed to sing Twinkle Twinkle, Twinkle, a little star to her. And she was like, data, but then she, she realized you weren't there. She was like, data, data, like she didn't get it. Like in my spot.

“So that's why those are two things that have happened in the past couple of days.”

So I do. Joyce has an answer.

Well, just the object permanence thing, like it's not like all or nothing is what I'm

learning. It's gradual. So it used to be all nothing. So maybe we aren't fully developed because we took things so literally. I was nervous.

I was like, what's good to say? Yeah. Here we are. We're still on stage one and two of those things. No, I think that she used to have zero, yes, contact with.

So I do think we're getting closer, obviously. We're halfway there between the zero and the three mark. Yeah. But I'll say this because we Harrison and I used to have this question. Do you FaceTime your kid when one of the parents is out of town or both the parents are

out of town? And everyone had told us, do not FaceTime them. It just makes them miss you more because they don't have a concept of time right now. They don't know how long you've been gone. On Friday, Harrison was out of town and we FaceTime Tim and Tate was just like, data,

like she remembered he exists, she existed, she remembered that you weren't there.

And it just, it took her a second to recover and it was very sad to watch.

So I do want to say, I want to follow up on that. It is best to not FaceTime your kids if they're 18 months old because that was really tough for her to see. First time we've done it, I guess last time. So I'm banning the face.

“I think this is a good transition into my travel dilemma that occurred on Friday when”

those come back so I was gone Thursday night just so we're clear on, on the timing of it all. So and I saved part of this story so that way you get some of it live on the pod. Parallax, jewels you've heard none of this. Wow.

You know none of it. Wow. So I had an overnight trip and one thing I also didn't mention is like all week, I had a weird feeling about the travel of the trip. Oh.

Yeah, yeah. You still went, hate that. That's this day and age, that's when I'm just like I'm not going to canceling. Yeah. So it's just like something I just had like a weird like overhang of light anxiety into

looming into the travel. And so the flight on Thursday's smooth, the flight Friday back, we connect and Dallas and there's a delay and the unique thing about this delay is they're like, there's maintenance issues but they weren't letting us on the plane. And so I feel like normally when the deal with maintenance issues you're sitting on the

plane while they're figuring them out and so I'm like, all right, this seems like it'll be worse than normal. She's already talking about standby and trying to get us out tonight then, an hour and a half in, they get on and they say, all right, this plane is officially not going to take off tonight.

We need to find you a new plane. Not good news. This is 1015 PM Friday night. So at that point, this is when I'm like, all right, I am connecting in Dallas specifically for this situation where I can get home and I can just hop out a new.

And the kind of quick math I run is like, I'm like, best case, they find us a new plane in an hour realistically, it's probably going to take two. So we're somewhere between like the three to four hours before we get home, going Google Maps, find a car service, I'm like how quickly, like, find a car service, it's like DFW car service.

Like how quickly can you get a car to the airport? We can have one there in 10 minutes, I'm like, all right, is this guy good to drive to Austin, wind it is shift start, right, it's shift, because I didn't want somebody to be working since. Really smart.

And it's why I didn't do this on over a lift.

“And then I think guys, shift started at, whatever, 8 PM, 7 PM, sorry.”

And boom, 10 minutes later he's there, I'm in the car at 1025, I'm home in bed by 130. And my large mindset was like, it felt 50, 50, even if we were going to take off that night. And I just really wanted to be there in the morning so we could have a family morning,

So was that the right call?

Now what I actually have in a reality is I walked out of the airport, so I made the call at 1015 and I have the timestamps on this. And we boarded the airplane at around 1025. So I get in the car, I pull up the flight tracker, and it says, like, left the gate. I couldn't believe it.

I can't believe that. But now proceeds, so I have the whole three hour car right to check what's going on. They've been sat on the tarmac for two hours. Oh, I would feel so validated. The flight landed at 1251.

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“So like, what do we think about this whole, do we have any thoughts on this whole experience?”

So this is a toss-up always, and here, let me clarify for the listener if they're wondering

how far apart Dallas and Austin are, there are three-hour drive. We always will connect, Harrison, and I talk about this a lot. We'll always connect in a Dallas or Houston if we can't get direct to Austin, because we say you're an Uber away or you're a rent-accar away. So here's where I think you made the right call.

It's a Friday night. I think with airports and travel right now, we're seeing a lot of congestion. Depending on the tarmac for two hours, I'm sweating, thinking about it. It's so uneasy and they're not giving you updates. So you don't, they're never like, it's gonna be two hours on the tarmac.

It's 30 minutes. It's another 30 minutes. It's another 30 minutes. It's another 30 minutes. So to me being in the car right there, mentally, I'm a lot happier because I know 130

I'm home. The other pro for you is like, they landed at 1251, who knows how long it took Austin to get them to the gate. And like you got to go get an Uber. They were at the gate of 1251.

Okay.

“But then you have to like walk out get your Uber, like I'm happy being in a car in”

nighttime, just a straight shot down the highway, like I'm good. So I think you made the right call. If it was it to this whole thing was happening to a two PM, you can wait it out. Sorry. I would have waited it out.

And my home mindset would have been just like as long as I'm home that day. The wrinkle in all of it, it wasn't what you were saying about sitting on the on the traumatic, the wrinkle was the risk that I was going to need to spend the night in Dallas. And that to me was just like a no-no.

In 130's about as late as I want to get home. So 10, 10, 30 you have to make the call. You can't make this call midnight. Yeah. Yeah.

But I'm not as happy. And I called Alex Cost.

And I was like, here's what I was like, what?

“I was like, are you, am I thinking about this the right way?”

He's like, done. You just got to commit. And I committed. And then Alex Cost is such a good sound. I'm thinking board for you.

And do you know what I think he does? That's here. Sometimes I don't think he necessarily knows the answer, okay? Like in this one, there's no right or wrong answer, like do you stay or do you, he's, but he's so good at picking one and validating you and making you, just you got to commit.

And what I value so much for conversations is he avoids me making a really bad decision. So like that could have been a terrible decision. Like leaving the airport, you were asleep.

And like he's got a kid at home, he was traveling with me, he fully understands the situation. And he also knows like how we think very similarly about like, you know, the, okay, could at a night in Dallas be fun, but no, we're not in the mindset of it being fun because like, we just want to get home to our families. So he really understands how my brain works too.

“Does Alex Cost call you for as much as you call him for?”

Great, great, great question. The scale is definitely tilted towards me calling him, but it is not a one my relationship. Okay. Because I feel like it's a lot of times like you run things by me and him, for sure.

But like yeah, but I love that you're always running them by him, but I'm just wondering

is he running things by you? You two are just very thorough communicators. Like I listen to your phone calls and something that I would make a bullet point, you guys are talking through discussing, changing your mind, playing devil's advocate. I mean, these are thorough thorough conversations between the two of you.

Also, you guys are very blunt, honest, but my southern would translate that to blunt. People want Alex Cost on the pod. Really? Yeah. I would love Alex Cost.

I can't come out. I think you will come on the pod. Maybe postpartum. That's a good one. Oh my gosh.

Yeah. Because we were discussing our postpartum.

I can't imagine what you're doing right now, but I know you're going to tell us.

I've got a phone call from someone that doesn't normally call me. Would you like to pause? And so, no, I just said what's up. But this is a good transition point on why he may not be able to do the pod. They're dealing with a, their play is very full is his wife, Laura, opened a very, very

cool Pilotty studio in Chicago called vinyl Pilotty's. Okay, you're kind of outing me here. I did organically, already talk about that, but I guess now we'll tell you what's up. It's Alex Cost's wife.

When you left, there you got sick. We were talking about where Joel's from and where she's lived. She's like, I live in Chicago and I was like, they have an awesome new Pilotty studio. You know, that's Alex Cost's wife. Oh, cool.

Yeah. Yeah. And coffee and wine. That is it. Yeah.

I texted them in the group text.

“I said, hey, guys, are we still doing the free coffee and wine?”

I said it on the pod and they were like, yes. Okay. And so, but they do, like, they play, they play the vinyl record at the beginning of class at the end of class. This is like really cool brick building.

And Logan Square. And Logan Square. Yes. And Logan Square. Yes, that's it.

And yeah, it looks awesome. We are very excited to get to Chicago and go. Exactly. Yeah. And then what I'm going to do is I'm going to sign up for her, she would hate.

If hate. If I took her class. So what I want to do is I want to say we're coming, getting it through down on the shoes, David, like, coming to town on Monday and then sign up for her class on because like, she teaches a small amount of the classes and other instructors teach the other ones.

And I want to sign up on her an alias and take your class. Have you taken Pilates? Yeah. Okay. Because I love the football players trying to take Pilates because it's a different

those access muscles or you think you're like so strong. And you are. You're like Barry's strong, though. So I would love to see you in a Pilates class trying to like hold the poses. Yeah.

I'm I'm not good not bad. Like I like me in a Pilates class isn't drawing any eyes. You're not horrible at it. No, I'm not good enough where people are looking at you being like, well, they're great. I'm not bad enough where people are looking at it being like that guys.

Thanks. Yeah. Okay. Well, so you're just you're in you are as Joel said earlier, Kylie Jenner at all these award shows.

Oh, good take. You're just there to support in your drawing no eyes. But in fact, she's drawing all the eyes because she is Kylie Jenner so people are talking about it a lot which you in fact would be drawing all the eyes because I don't think there's a lot of guys in the Pilates studios.

Yeah.

I will say they're wondering as a guy taking Pilates, I always felt like it was how do I say this

without saying it. It's not a good setup, FTG for the girls. Yeah. You don't want to be the creep in class. Yeah, you don't.

So, I, you definitely don't.

“So what I would do is I would go to, would you sit on the end?”

Why would you normally go with, with a girl that I was dating? Um. Yeah.

That's a good.

That's actually a good strategy, I just, I don't really guy there like trying to pick

up chicks.

“Well, because that's, and here's the thing, I was thinking about this today because I was”

at a golf course, a lot of guys there, right? Yeah. Pilates studios. A lot of girls there because one of the guys was talking to me about this. He was like, you know, why don't girls come to golf courses to date guys?

And I was like, it's just the best question that's ever been asked. You know, like, I was like, there's all guys around here. Is guys golfing a green flag or a red flag? I think guys golfing is, it's a beige flag. Does that mean like, it's like neither, because if you're golfing, if you're obsessed

with golf and you're golfing all the time on the weekends, then we go into red flag territory as with anything. Anything to an obsessive degree, you're in red flag territory.

You're golfing with the guys and like, you've got a good life balance with it.

Like, do your thing. I'm all for it. But I don't think we can place a red flag on, got absolutely not. Because like, golf is a fun sport. It's really good with the guys.

I think it's social. I think people love it. I think it's challenging.

“Is it not fair to say how a guy's relationship with golf?”

Yes. Very clearly can then dictate whether it's a green flag or a red flag? Yes. It all boils down to the relationship. But that's the same thing with anything.

Tennis, gambling, watching sports.

Like, it can become just like a gaming, gaming's probably the best parallel.

How often are you doing it? Is it all we talk about? Do we love it more than work? Do we live to do it like then we're getting a little. But gaming is going to naturally skew red flag.

Why? Yeah. It's just going to naturally skew red flag. Very Timothy Shalamev, you know. But like, yeah, because I think the threshold for the amount you can play before it becomes

a red flag is really, really low. This is like, and I guess that's the question for the internet. How many times is a guy allowed to play golf a week? Or how many times is a guy allowed to play golf in a month before it becomes a red flag? Okay, I'm just going to, I want to hear what the audience has to say about it.

I think this may be a really good question. It's a really good question. But I'm going to take a, I'm going to take a gander here at that. Yeah. So I'm going to give them two per week, two per week.

Yeah. I know that's a lot, but per month, I'm going to give them seven. So one of those weeks, it's a one time, because I think you play on a Saturday and then I think you're going to Tuesday night. Uh-oh.

And we're, to be clear, we're talking orange, right? Yeah. We're not talking like, if you're old and retired, because I want to put, I need to put an orange on this. this is from call it 25 to 40 years old 25 25 to 45, okay, because if you're 21 and you're playing golf with or without kids, I don't think it matters because

I think that that if you don't have kids and you're spending four days or four in your playing golf four rounds a week, like that's a, no, with or without a significant other about what's wrong with the guy playing Tuesday night Thursday night Saturday. He's got, why not, he's got a job, let's go back to the core question.

“I think you need to say kids, I think you need to, you need to narrow down your subset here.”

There are children in the play. Let's call it 28 to 45, okay, this is what the question is, 28 to 45 with kids, one kid or more. How many times a month, you'll have to play golf, please share. Okay, now my answer, yeah, since I've thought about it further, I'm going to say, I want

to say three, but I'm going to say two for my girls because I know when dad goes and golfs all day Saturday, it's a lot on mom. So I'm going to say two, how long, how long is golfing? Four and a half hours. Four and a half hours.

And like, are you getting hammered or going because for the love game, the base, right? It's, when you're on the golf course, you're drinking. Yeah, because if you're coming home and then you're still no help, I mean, it's hard. And then I think it, I don't know, twice a month. I think two and a half.

Sure. Two and a half. Okay. I think it two, it's all good. I think it three, it's too much and now this is to be very clear, assuming that you are

playing as an individual and not as a couple, correct? Because one very cool thing that I have one specific credit in mind, him and his wife, they love golf and the two of these, they play all the time and they play with other couples. And I love that. That's cool.

As a day night or something like that, that's cool. The big problem, I think, is like weekends are some of the best bonding time you have

really go to a petting zoo in the middle of the week.

You can't really take them to a kids museum in the middle. These are things that are done on on weekends and like golf is largely a full day commitment. Yes, because especially if you're drinking 30 minutes to the golf course, you're warming up. You don't, you don't play golf to be rushed, you want to be having lunch after.

So I feel bad when I play golf just so you shouldn't, you don't play enough. You play seven times a year and I get really excited when you go and do things.

“I think I'm a once a month golfer right now.”

I love it. I love it. I love when you go golf because I think it's really fun for you and the guys. Here's my next question that I want to further this conversation on. Let's say your husband golfs two times a month.

Do you then get as the wife? Do you then get like two times a month where you go, "Majong, do whatever you want, have a shopping day of girls day?" The ratio isn't one to one because one round of golf is like for one round of golf is probably three games a Majong.

No, it's two because if one round of golf is five hours, Majong is two and a half hours per session, so it's two. Yes. But I always say... No, it's not a don't keep score.

I was going to say we always say don't keep score on here, but if you're golfing two times a month,

I think I would be like, "Can I play Majong with the girls?"

“But here's the thing now we're encroaching upon family time.”

Like we went yesterday or on Saturday, we had story time, then we had... No, no, no, no, no. The Majong to golf ratio is three to one because you always want to give more than you receive. It's a really good take.

One which I will accept. But I don't like... I think this is slippery slow because what it is is that we love family times on the weekends and so I don't know why we're dividing up our... No, I got to completely push back on this.

If you had a recurring Majong on Sundays, that sounds awesome to me. Which I'm trying to get square away for now. I think it's very different. And it's kind of like a family experience. It's in the neighborhood, it doesn't feel like you're gone for the day.

Versus when I know it, when you're golfing, you're out of commission. I think that we're talking true apples in orange is here. I agree with that. Okay, let's see what everyone says about the amount of time you're allowed to go because we are coming up on golf season.

I think this is one where the guys are going to be out one extreme and the girls are going to be. Or let me rephrase that. The golfers are going to be a one extreme and the non golfers are going to be the other extreme because I do recognize that there are female golfers. Absolutely, Priscilla is one.

I'm okay at it. I would love to play. Do you get it? Yeah, I'm good enough at it. I've got an update for you guys on the IMA drink.

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These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. So let's discuss your birthday because so what we didn't include last Thursday was the hair some was going out of town after the episode in the reason we didn't include that is because we don't tell you guys when it's going out of town.

As why would we? So he went out of town that night he went to Bentonville for Walmart. So I had his birthday dinner on Saturday night and what we did was we did Oma Kossay in

12 total. And then their significant others. So there was 12 of us total it was very fun but the one takeaway that you loved so much was all the guys were texting and this is like a very easy thing to do and they set a theme it was Canadian Tuxedo.

So as they all walked in one by one like the first guy that walked in here was like y'all you weren't Canadian Tuxedo and then like number two was like okay you're in a kid and then by the third one he was like everyone's wearing a Canadian Tuxedo and it was just a really cute little added touch that I thought was nice.

Yeah a couple things here as always.

As not a birthday guy it's I feel very awkward how much time we're spending talking about my birthday so I do want to keep this segment very very short. I love your birthday more than I love my birthday. If you went far above and beyond in the planning of everything from the day to the party

“to the dinner Saturday right I think what I'll say I think you're best the touch that”

resonated most with me is she baked the cake. But beyond baking the cake Alex knows that my favorite dessert ever is Moant and Chocolate Law of Cake and she had Moant and Chocolate Law of Cake waiting at home. Then I also made what that you also made which not only is the best dessert but also the best dessert when you're drunk so double brownie points.

And then yes like the the place was really cool people showing up in theme especially theme where people like you know you're not like you're not it's not like silly it's like it's still a cool you gotta get what I'm saying it was a team that's a vibe there you go it it it's a great amplifier to the night like I loved it I think they were thrilled to also do it I also like for my birthday every year I think that like that

“maybe as the non-birth they got I think the thing I may want to own is like every year”

it is Canadian Tuxedo themed like whatever we do for it even it was just me you bobs in our new guy like everyone was Canadian Tuxedo's no matter what okay the other

that's my thing so that's your thing and my thing is I always want to make your cake because

I didn't last year and I thought I could do it this year and so I would always like to make your cake and I'd always like to make bobs this cake that's phenomenal I mean there's nothing better than homemade dry cake brutal I love the Harry Potter cake it was so accurate so accurate I haven't even seen Harry Potter but there was a photo yeah I've never seen Harry Potter I try I've seen the first Harry Potter I was bored out of my mind things that I haven't seen that I should

see the notebook Harry Potter in friends you know I'm Jenny's name Jenny no why Jenny name Jenny Harry Potter that's so funny I had no idea have you seen Harry Potter not really I'm sure have you seen the notebook I haven't seen the notebook have you watched friends probably yes 100% I've seen I would think safety assume every episode like we watch that growing up yeah I just those were three things that I just missed what do you think you think she'd be Rachel I've not watched

friends like that shawls no I've seen a lot but I'm not a fan I like I yeah I just see some clips of it but I don't I don't know okay anyways I'm moving right along so anyways that was the birthday party and the outfits was very special now let's move on to the next morning so Sunday morning our neighbor comes across the street knocks on the door and I like open it and he's like God did you see your car I was like no he's like it really got hit I was like no way

so he went outside because I just drove at home from the birthday dinner and I got home like 11

pm the night before and what I did was I parked on the street and I never parked on the street

and I parked on the street because I had to carry in the cake and I had to carry in a bunch of things so I just parked the closest route to the front door and I was like whatever it's fine like it's fine of course it's fine people parked on our street all the time and yeah somebody came and just gave me a nice little kiss so we got a really nice one of them we got to put the video up let me got to put the photo up yeah it um one like I've never had a hit and run happened before

“me either uh number one number two is I think like one of the the most like entertaining”

parts of this whole ordeal and I was like it's turned into like a neighborhood crime where the entire neighborhood is involved in this yes like I can genuinely say that we have heard from every

footage from most 80% of them and there's a hunt to find this person and and that's been a

really cool thing just to see is like how much the like the neighborhood is getting behind like like there was a wrong committed here and we want to solve that wrong I'll say that I'm a little disappointed in myself because like we have all of these cameras around the house and a security flaw was exposed was that we don't have a camera shooting for license plates so we have multiple angles of them hitting but none of them that get the license plate so we're going to add

two new cameras which are licensed plate focused for people zippin down um we're adding those this week but we have footage of the license plate coming because we've been able to detect the

route that they drove yes due to ring I'll tell you ring cameras or similar cameras yeah we

need some people have a Fort Myers situation that we do and they delivered like seven angles so yeah I feel good that we have the footage needed to track this person down maybe we'll give them like uh maybe you can make a TikTok video which is like all right we have we've identified you

“give 24 hours to to come clean before we turn it over to your 30s well here's the thing”

so somebody backed into the catty the other day she came right to the door our ring footage camera picks up her talking to her husband she's like I couldn't feel worse I just feel terrible she leaves the note on the on the door she's like I hit the catty I'm so sorry please call me to

me like two days to call her call her I was like girl you just added character to the car thank

you for bringing a good person thank you for telling us we're all good here this person you could watch her remorse on here we're sitting there what I'm like what did she hit like you and we get home and we're like it's fine this this person the reason I was so mad yesterday you could hurt somebody because I'm I don't want to say that they're for sure drunk but I am going to say it's safe for me to assume that they were doing some of those some shame it's 207 am

and if if you watch the footage which we put up and so maybe you all have watched it by now they don't even hit the bricks it's like they they thought my car came out of nowhere and they didn't like I couldn't believe they didn't get out of the car to like assess the damage they just dirty reverse and kept going so there's two things here number one you hit me going you you could have hurt somebody really badly and you don't even stop to like investigate

number two it's a hit and run you got to leave your number you got to leave your phone number and the windshield wipers being on as rain here in days the windshield I was like this got this guy's fumble on around he doesn't know what's going on with his car but windshield wipers on

“before it hit or did the collision caused the windshield wipers to go on because that's how hard”

they hit us hey well oh look what guys talking to know um and then one of the horns honked I just couldn't believe we didn't hear it and I just think like now this person listen I went really light like not even light I just I think if you're a good person you get rewarded for that this person you just officially pissed me off yeah I mean it's not okay I just think this isn't how we go about our daily lives and we have to be held accountable for that now

feel like the world is mad at insurance okay and so one thing that I'm very interested to track and that I want to I think would be interesting to like share live with the viewers with the listeners is how this this tracks with insurance so like how much is the damage and how much is insurance gonna cover and how much is our deductible go up because like premium premium thank you jules because this is why you have insurance it's this situation but then

your premium what is gonna are but so let's see let's see how the insurance companies act are we

“gonna report hard members I think we should okay I'm down do you know think so yeah we'll tell you”

okay so we it so we did though we have to file the claim online yeah times two with Austin police report and but we didn't we didn't want to give we wanted to have the car before we filed the claim because I think that's a little more juicy it's a little more fun a little bit of the footage and we're gonna deliver the footage and then and then the thing about the insurance companies they're not gonna want to pay they're gonna want this guy to pay I now want this guy to pay just because I

think on principle you can't do hit and runs at 207 am and you can't even knock it out of your car

the law can you talk about the car seat thing yes so this is interesting very fascinating and I was

really happy to learn this so apparently when your car gets hit upon impact and if it's a high impact collision which this is a high impact collision even though we weren't in the car apparently your car seat depending on the making model is void and so you know which I think could be a liability issue for the car seat companies which is why they do it that way but just to be safe we did we order the new car seat yesterday nice that we're not gonna put Tate in the car until

it arrives but I think you overnight it so it'll be here today but we did get a new car seat because she doesn't love our car seat anyways we like waiting on this on the perspective she hates our car seat hates hates our car seat our the neighbors have the Nuna Rev which swivels that what's the proper word for that rotating the Nuna rotating car seat and she loves it and it's also so much easier to put her in it so very excited for that to arrive so for when you get rid of your old one

“the tip the I read online is that you should either cut the straps or put like a piece of tape on it”

and say crashed because people will take it from the dump and use it and it could potentially there could be something wrong with it so so you just want to mark it as damaged and and I love knowing that out of way for them to like to send it somewhere where they can actually just like lock in the type of damage you're not that's what I was wondering and I was gonna text Jamie and line forgot so so enlightened baby is a is a baby store here and they I was looking to be like

certified car seat specialist so I'm actually gonna bring it to them and see what that is yeah

it basically what I read online is it could have internal like it could look fine but it could have

internal damn yeah would I just don't think anybody's willing like for us right I was like I'm not willing to chance this it's like we're just gonna get a new car seat last thing is that you're insurance company could cover him oh our parents come big could have covered the car seat

“no I think you could still submit it oh we can okay I don't know that that's what we'll do”

I just learned a lot last night so we know a lot about our medical insurance right at this point we're about to get real familiar with our car insurance our auto insurance yeah stayed fun haven't haven't done it with them yet haven't really even called them but we're gonna get to know them and see if we like our our policy or not but I'm just like annoyed because our feel like the car was just in the shop and I'm glad I got the warranty because it covered the

tire and they were out of loner vehicles I'm curious the big thing to read they didn't let us buy the car without insurance so this insurance yes it better work you can't buy a car without insurance then how are people driving around on a shirt like because your insurance can expire you can't cancel the insurance so you can get it to get the car and then cancel it I guess okay okay it's cool it's cool to know that the insurance could cover the car seat that's good all right other things

we did yesterday so then we moved on to housing final orders um Harrison's mad at me because we were trying he gave me a deadline if oh my god we have a bit because of the week yeah this is our bigger of the week okay so end of day yesterday was my deadline to the house the house updates and all these new furniture that's arriving and all the the new player mental this is my idea okay so I started this beast and I'm loving where it's going I love the way it looks but I haven't taken

over it I haven't taken over the breakfast look over the finish line so he finally ordered the table

but now we need to order the chairs okay and people like why don't you like your chairs white chairs with a toddler's a joke I don't get the right style she also was rubbing pizza and garlic bread yesterday on the banquet suit which I was able to get out but like I'm not doing that on the chairs so we're getting chairs that are a color and we've decided on the peach color we're going to pull that out of the couch we're going to do the peach color so anyways I had

and they wrote it down to three chairs let me just add my color here is you've done a phenomenal job with with the updates to the house the nook was something that that was a a big high conviction project of yours and and yeah we got the banquet seats in and then and then nothing had had happened and I just wanted to get make sure everything was here before the due date so that way he's coming home to a great house it looks good and we're just not worrying about it anymore

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I say said I've never seen it's so unlike you to not finish this but I want to it's weird but like

we have the wrong size table there and well I want to respond to you on something okay so one thing about me is like I didn't care once the right couch arrived versus the wrong couch like we did get our correct facing couch it faces the TV now I love having the couch in there the part of the table that I needed to arrive was the banquet seats because these are the parts that make the function way of the house better everyone has somewhere to sit when there's the sectional and that

area to me already feels more warm and cozy but where that doesn't add up is like when you have this like random sized table sitting in front of it like it's where you're making a game it's where you're perfect look absurd when you walk into our house right now but now we've ordered the table which one does that arrive uh hopefully at some point next week okay love the table love the table anyways I didn't know what chairs to get and there's a lot of times where I love the internet

for example the car seat situation for example they were they actually some of the comments had the car right about which car hit us um because now we know which one it is but like they had it

right here's the here's what I'll say so then I put up my chairs when I put up the chair options

options one two and three and four all of them were in stock and could arrive next week

“everyone was like I think the overwhelming winner was option two so last night by the end of the day”

when my deadline hit store to the chairs I say Harrison get four of option two he goes online and they're back ordered you said about the chairs like do you think and I was like oh my gosh oh no because I was like putting the website on there and everything where I met it myself is like why did I not affiliate link codes I get nothing for that yeah I just I'm really upset in the future I think we need like if we have a leading candidate I think we need like order them

because I feel like you have 48 hours so I cancel your order so that way this doesn't happen because now we don't know what chairs we're gonna get chose do you have any ideas for a chairs? no I did like that you you were going coral though what are the color you mean yeah I like the color yeah I think that's the best option for the color I think it's added depth like that one was an actual deadline I was like let's get these things ordered well I had a deadline to order chairs and you had a

what I have no idea we'll reprimanding in the kitchen a lot of cooking with fobs it's the cheese getting everywhere it's it's everywhere's an understatement and I love it and I want you guys to do your thing together and you clean you know but you do a guy clean and there's a difference between a guy clean and a girl clean because a guy clean you get out the vacuum and you do the best that I think your eyes can see but the girl clean were wiping cabinets I'm getting every bit of the

cheese off of it and I just think dad clean versus mom clean like even know you're cleaning it even though hold on dad is cleaning it up mom still has to come in and do the mom clean where the counters wipe down where I'm vacuuming in the little crevices did you see bobs face when she ate

“the frozen berries I didn't I didn't see that so that's why I'm so happy that I like actually”

video these things because like she's in front of me and so I can't see her facial reactions it was so cute bobs it was stunned she was very unhappy well the number one she kept what did what didn't get shown in the tech dog is like she was like chowling down on those frozen strawberries like five minutes so I could come with you to make the she kept going back for more I've got to pick her the week for us okay I've got an actual

bigger of the week yeah so tape was wearing a target pink sweatshirt and she was cooking her

and I was like can we take that off can I spray and wash it and can I put it in the wash and hair someone's like she's a toddler can we do that in like five hours and I was like no we need to do it right now or we're not going to be able to preserve the sweater because we got to get the berries out of it and he was like or she can just have a sweater with berries in it like this sweater can just have berries on it and I was like that is so dad of you to be like let's

do it later but I felt the pressure and the need to like preserve the sweatshirt whereas he was like

“who cares let her keep going so I want to know what the internet thinks I think all moms are to be”

on my side all that's going to be on your side I mean yeah we ended up taking the sweater off and getting putting it in the wash but like with with the cooking and eating situation going on right now like I guess what I could just do is put a bib on it but I figured she's like doesn't like bibs she likes bibs when she's eating she knows she's eating and she knows she needs a bib you've been not when she's cooking that's the thing I don't it oh my hair's in

what a mini apron matching aprons like how did I not do that for your birthday gift that would have been a birthday gift I would love you did more than that for my birthday though but that would have been unbelievable what would be Easter gift yeah oh my gosh bob's in an apron and you having one too she thinks if you have it like it's so much cooler little chef hats oh my gosh it's super formative you see I bought our cowboy huh

I did she likes it you guys go to Cavendor's all the time

yeah Cavendor's it's a great family experience you will you never take me I was napping

they were letting me nap yeah it was a little upsetting there was like a lady there who was like really hogging the boot section tough and and like really like wasn't playing cherries with with like the section bobs wanted to be in so we ended up going for the hat did the bobs understand that what bobs understand it like they we had to share the section no bobs like they they overtook the section so bobs couldn't really get in there the way she wanted

so she like didn't there's like a section of all pink boots I gotta tell you some things you can give this so we went to the park bobs and I and we kind of had our first experience of a kid being not so nice to her oh my goodness she wasn't the the kid was for it was a girl and then tate is obviously 18 months old and of course this is going to happen of course some of the older kids are going to get frustrated with the little kids and of course

throughout life there's going to be like no you don't do this you don't do this but they were both trying to go down the same slide and this four year old just pushed bobs out of the way and then went down the slide and she just had this look on her face and when I tell you my heart broken to half and I just wanted to like grab her and hug her but then I was like it's okay this is life she doesn't care and what a bobs do nothing bobs did nothing she did on this slide yeah she went

down second she went about her merry way but the first time that somebody's like mean to your

child it just like breaks your heart even though the kid met nothing by it heartbreaking it's heartbreaking it's really heartbreaking we're taking bobs to go get a look that again today hopefully it's all

“recovered yeah I think it will because she's had the cast on 24/7 so I'm actually feeling really”

good about this appointment we'll update you remind us to update on the cast we're also going to the petting zoo tomorrow which very ironic of you to say nobody's going to the petting zoo in the middle of the week but it's spring break this week so some of the parents they had trips planned and like ironically they're not going anymore and so everyone was like can we do the petting zoo on Tuesday at 10 a.m. and I was like yeah we can come in we're gonna go to the Austin rodeo

just saying you're gonna play golf and after all okay let's move let's talk about something that Harrison submitted he doesn't submit many things to the topic pod but you want to talk about his reality TV make you more dramatic what what do you think about this Jules do you think reality TV makes makes people more dramatic why don't you expand upon the whole she weighs in that's yeah okay I don't think I've watched reality TV in I don't know it's called five to 10 years

okay growing up was always I'd say I could had it would tune in when things would would start

were you watching growing up we didn't have reality to be growing up did we yeah like what real housewives like big brother just like the child okay survivor survivors actually and I'll say this

“the only reality TV show I would ever do is survivor and I think I would like to do survivor”

you know how reality shows it at their moments I feel like I would tune in for those the one that has has popped on my radar is no southern charm okay from a survivor to southern

hilarious okay I never watched it and I probably I probably had a couple of seasons of that

so over the past two weeks I've tuned into southern charm and these people they live in a consistent state of chaos and they make the smallest things

“as dramatic as as one can okay like I'm watching I think I'm watching the last season”

and like they'll go there's this one guy his name is Craig all right like the drama queen of drama queen a lot of us have heard of Craig because the page is Sorbo okay this guy he like they went on a on a trip to the Bahamas and there was three bedrooms for four guys melt down melt down

then didn't have his own bedroom when they're staying in the presidential suite like and just behavior

that like you don't tolerate in life right like if I had a friend do that it'd be like like go home right and this guy's actions are consistent like you got you got to leave the party man and so but I wonder like if I'm watching this is now going to is that going to make more susceptible to just like acting as dramatic is that gonna yeah open up my my dramaticness are little things in life you're gonna because there was a situation at a restaurant the other day

with um around beer and and it was so dumb and I caught myself getting a little worked up

and I was a situation I never get worked up about I'm like am I getting worked up about this

because this fucking show I'm watching where where they'd freak out or is this uh because it

“doesn't feel like a me thing so here's what I think I think that they become trained I think we're”

seeing it with secret lives and Mormon wives which I haven't watched I'm like now I'm like three seasons behind but it was my most recent and only reality you know this correct guy yes we know Craig page the Zorozac's boyfriend yeah Craig Coniver yeah unbelievable character yeah I don't know how he is on the show but here's what I'll say I do think what you get into the reout you got I got to tell you another Craig story you get more air trying more dramatic you are this this really

nice gentleman on the show uh who's the nice gentleman I'm blanking on his name tall guy blonde I know who it is um he goes over and he tells Craig he's like hey Craig you're not being a good friend and he's like you know I want to see you more Austin that's this name and he like this Austin guy is being a good guy he's like being a good friend hey man like would would love would love to spend more time together you know Craig's reaction what Craig just stop being friends

with him you can't you can't tell me to change and it was he's he's just saying he wants to see you more man like he's being really nice yeah this Craig guys unbelievable in a good way though but

“here's the thing he's Craig making good TV you're talking about it I'm tuning in I'm excited for”

this next season so Craig's putting on a show can we find out what I just want to look at what season I'm watching and how far behind I am you're definitely behind but do I think that watching reality TV makes you more dramatic no I think it does I think it's a youth I think it but I don't think these I don't think Craig I don't need these people or that dramatic in real life I think they know they have to play it up for the show and and so I guess that's my next question is

how much of of them being dramatic is how they're cutting it versus who they actually are in real life so I'm on season 10 how many seasons are there well and by the way I started on season 10 for the record I didn't watch 10 seasons why are you watching this that's the right way why what problem did it because I I want I just really kind of like background shows before I go to bed not just changing your behavior I'm going to be on the lookout for this I'm going to take a

accountability for you I'm going to say if anything gets a little dramatic I'm going to say this is another charm am I am I dramatic I you can be it's situational but I think your I think your drama is appropriately applied like with the car thing for example no drama from you this is like I would say that I'm like not a dramatic gag I don't like I don't fight with my friends you definitely know if I with your friends like I I'm pretty low conflict but you you really are you're on

you think the Oscars are boring and like we've talked about that four or five times now this morning so

kind of a one track mind but like the car something that could be drawn you couldn't be bothered

this is life we'll find him we will handle it we'll move on yeah I'm excited to see what I can show I think if you went to dinner with Craig I'm just guessing here I think you wouldn't I don't I think you would find him not as dramatic and I think you would laugh and say yes sometimes for the show

“I put on a little bit that's what I I I I I think that that when it all started if we want 10”

seasons to go and have I dinner with them season one or season two or season three I think that that we probably would be friends I think that the the things have gotten so dramatic for the reasons you've said that I think these probably like the chaoticness I don't know I feel like it maybe passed a point in the return so maybe he did not have dinner together so maybe he's lost the plot in his own mind maybe reality TV's actually bad for him and his

brain is rewired now to be more dramatic that's that's kind of what I'm getting to yeah for you I don't think we can let that happen are we beefing no it would be one sided beef okay dude does he just ridiculous to see if the pillow company who is the pillow company Craig Converting has restaurants what's going to be the restaurant well you know the restaurant

“I think a carriage house is him what what a carriage house in New York City”

no way it's like right on 10th yeah Craig Converting's carriage house it's like uh in Austin no no in in New York like you would know it with the phenomenal beefy he lives in New York I thought he lived in Charleston he was splitting his time because he was dating page just or bow page has been in the show for 20 minutes total well she's in she's not a director of the show she's not a car she's on summer house she's so she doesn't

have to be on that show yeah carriage house in less village mm-hmm yeah just long story short the the level of chaoticness is is something that uh I haven't really seen in real life before and I I just I hope it doesn't influence me who has the pillows we walked by the pillow store I'm looking at carriage house when we were in Charleston and there was the there was those girls outside taking selfies and they were like this is somebody also Craig yeah there was somebody

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for life oh this is so not the next the next topic on here I assume we're going to we're going to

you okay AI tells you you are right like 50% more than humans so here's what I would like to say

Alex cost us better than AI he is not telling you you are right 50% at a time the second thing is I've been seeing memes about this and it's like hey chat I robbed a bank and I was wondering what I should do and they're like you were probably having a really tough day so don't be hard on yourself do you want me to send you some options for lawyers it's like so likes there's two parts to the study so part one is showing that it's it's 50% more how how do they describe it AI tells you

you're right like 50% more than humans so so that's part one to to the surveys but the second part to the surveys is they they tested a like more deviant AI which was like way more agreeable with you through bad actions versus a norm like an AI that would you know be more

deviant more agreeable AI higher in terms of satisfaction surveys and so the problem being that

consumers like an agreeable one more which then only reinforces it to be more agreeable even when it shouldn't be so the builders are then incentivized to build it to agree with you versus build it for truth this is where we have to be we have to hold ourselves accountable as a society though this is where we have to say we we don't know how to verbalize this but we have to be better humans than this because you have your gut it does I mean it's it has social media

works like the social media platforms are very well aware of you know the negative effects addiction of social media but they build these things to keep it hooked so as a society what should we do try to steer away from the deviant AI's no I think it's self accountability I think that

“that's what I'm saying we just need a yeah we need to recognize where the vulnerabilities are like”

we all collectively as a society learn I've come to terms the negative effects of screen time that's why we're consistently trying to implement ways to reduce it will I pull up my screen time this week absolutely not because on that three hour carad back from we got it the whole time from Dallas what did I do screen time scroll for three hours well I want to keep I want to keep the driver company there's a time when a place for scrolling and that's one of them why I you did 15 minutes every

15 minutes I didn't check with them here's what I didn't go to bad so I just did take talking

between them so the pendulum I was always swinging one direction or another and it's always taking as a while as a society to learn about the effects of things so screen times are really good example of this and I think now we're over indexing on less screen time because we've learned the effects of it AI I do think will be this I think in 10 years we'll be pulling back on AI some versions of it I do think there's some good to it like I think there's some good to screen time

“but I do think we are going to have to number one remain self accountable like you have to”

with with your own screen time but with AI also you're going to have to say with to be good humans and you have to have a good character but I do think in 10 years we'll learn the effects of AI and big while people stop thinking yeah but in the interim I think it's just really important for

us to recognize like while there's amazing benefits to these new technologies there's there's

also there's also negative effects and so when you look at where we should be using it more and using it less but I also think too like like advice like using AI for advice versus using AI for to Photoshop your curtains and your kitchen like come on yeah I think if you need if you need AI to paint your house for different colors to try it on a black a white a gray and a blue I think that's fabulous because I think that's working smart and harder if you're going to AI

“being like I'm in a dilemma what should I do like you need to call a friend that's where that's where”

AI can't take a human's job totally because they're robots they don't have feelings they don't have do they have moral compasses from right and wrong no so we're at the mercy of who programmed to them that's the place that I want to go and their biases and their bias and that's some woman and that's not that's this gentleman on your radar kind of not really this gentleman he has turned into the villain of Silicon Valley good why I don't know anything about him but I'm

down for a villain in this story he's the open AI guy but it's interesting that he hasn't turned into the villain of like more of the mainstream media yeah okay well we're going to surprise that he's not on your radar well I know is I know who he is what's he doing like the villain story but what he why is he villainized what's he doing so I think the number one story that that people villainize him on is AI started as a nonprofit and so all of these all of these people put billions

and billions of dollars into into open AI under the context that it was going to be a non-profit and now he's switching it from a non-profit to unrelated but did they lose their their tax breaks on like donating to a non-profit and then switching it back I don't know the intricacies of it but the way it was started and I think the mission of it of it day one versus where it is today is very different and a lot of people who put a lot of money into it aren't being

aren't being compensated for it the other point to it is I think that people believe Sam has some pretty extreme views that are then programmed into into into the models how can we get a non-biased AI as being non-biased programmer like I think that yeah inherently

model sits and well grak has great use cases there's bias there well perplexity is great

where clot has great use cases there's bias there and just understanding the biases of each model

“well I just think if you want to recipe then fine please use it okay use use your your chat”

but if you want to talk about problems and things that you're feeling or how you should handle it treating a friend or what you should do about a crime committed we cannot be asking AI okay we want to okay so in the comments we got to follow up on both of these number one dogs can use the family bathroom that was we were discussing last week if you missed it the the question started with if you're a dad and you have a little girl the needs to go

to the bathroom should you go into the girls bathroom or should you go into the guys bathroom and overwhelmingly dads in the comments were saying this this is this gives me so much anxiety I don't know the answer to this question and women in the comments were saying come into the girls bathroom everyone's welcome in the girls bathroom there's also the point of there's journals in the guys bathroom which like aren't super private whereas in the girls bathroom

it's all private stalls which does make sense but then to think about a guy you know a grown dad going in there that is awkward and if you're in an airport bathroom or if you're at like a sports game those bathrooms are really crowded so I do think it's weird for dads but the number one

“point that was being hammered home is like this is why we need family restrooms but I think the”

reality of it is not everybody has not all areas have family restrooms so I don't know I guess if I have to give like a number one consensus it's dad going to the ladies bathroom and like announce yourselves go straight into the stall I don't know it's tough it's tough but it does sound like the overwhelming majority would you agree is dads can go into the girls bathroom yeah but I imagine even doing that like for a grown adult is hard so I don't know I'm still torn on it

there's no winning there's it's like a win-win lose lose like it's a tough one to tough one for dads so right now if you're going to the bathroom with Bubbs where you're going at this age she's still little but if she's six years old where you're going we'll see at the time I don't I actually don't know well the comments want you to go into the ladies bathroom and announce yourself so it's good to know it's good to think about yeah the reason I ever went into the family bathroom

the first time P and I were talking after we recorded last week is because Jenny hopped out of her

“bag once and went under the stall and that is a comment occurrence and that's why I ever”

started going into the family bathroom interesting now that's a real yeah I'm surprised the bag

something close Jenny's never been close she is it's so mean to close a dog in the dog bag I think

yeah and she's a perfect angel with it open she's a devil with it close so with the bathroom though but everyone's everyone in the comments they're saying the family bathrooms are also for everyone the one thing I don't agree with well I'm gonna get canceled like everyone's like dogs are family like okay come on we're going to the the family bathroom not because dogs are family but because I need some extra space where what I thought about afterwards when I was not a walk was

who I wanted to hear from was somebody with dogs and kids yeah I think that would be the most unbiased response because like I'm coming out of with kids you're coming out of with a dog so I'm like I don't think we know the answer somebody with both I think would have the answer yeah also not going in there for 15 minutes it's like quick in and out and we're done exactly I actually have a new beef with bathrooms and I've noticed it mainly in Miami but it's the

single bathrooms where it's a girl boy but there's just one stall in there I think people are going in these bathrooms and scrolling on their phone for like five to ten minutes and taking forever I'm coming out holding their phones and I just want to knock on the door and make put your phone up because like I know you're done but put your people are it happened to me so many times in my Miami and I was like I know they're on their phone and I believe in my phone and all you do when you go to the bathroom you just do

just do it a little handle down and that wakes them up wake some up because I know I do think people are getting stuck on their phone scrolling I totally agree and I think it's one thing at a giant bathroom but it's a whole other thing and bathroom is where there's just a one-in and a one-out especially when people are drinking or when they're pregnant and they're peeing a lot it's like come come on you can't stop talking about Craig and all these

issues always draw all these dramas of Craig I can't really Craig so dramatic on the show

genre I can believe you know I need something brainless to watch before bad I just think there's

“butter I'm on this Persephone show I'm loving it Persephone it's um yeah it's like a girl it”

gets married for a dowry like she likes saves her family because her family needs money and so she

marries this guy and they never met I mean it's like way back in the day like I don't know

1800s so there's this other character she can I keep talking about it this lady cam I've always liked her no there's no cam in the show oh it came not on any more I've never watched there's this lady oh Miss Patricia she's the queen and when Miss Patricia calls you to the house you go to the house it's very southern of them and in Miss Patricia she had dinner with just the boys but she is the queen this lady's phenomenal have we talked about this did you call people miss

something you know we so in Oklahoma the way we would handle misses or formal names

was never missed their first name it was always miss their last name or I would call them by their

first name because I knew them well enough like I called my my best friends mom by her name yes did you do misses and misses we're a casual yeah casual crew did you do misses and

“misses I think like the default would be the first interaction you'd say Mr. misses and then there”

always be the like call me ex yeah I think the parent always says yeah but I think the older you get like I do want buffs to know the first time she meets an adult when she's like 16 or 17 like you know yeah she starts at Mr. misses right for sure I missed your Smith it's nice to meet you yeah I missed his Smith and then they can say call me Tom yeah and you can call him Tom oh speaking of Tom Burger King another thing we need to answer Burger King did call us back but it

wasn't Tom I'm ready to discuss this no I don't think we actually need to say it oh so they did the BK called back there's one three point four miles from our house so if we want to go it just it has bad ratings and the one that has good ratings is six miles from our house but like I'm down to try it also I've been thinking a lot about the McDonald's he looks people are I mean they're really

“going hard after him still haven't heard of from him I think that people are trying the archburger”

well the funny thing is the burger look good I think it's working and I just hope he knows that because he clearly doesn't understand internet banter but I just want him to know people are trying the archburger you weren't feel bad for this guy is like you know it's like the first time he's ever kind of like popped his head out of the whole publicly and like kind of said hide of the internet and they just whacked him right back and whack him hold him back he's not he's not coming back

I'll never do it again one taste of the internet and goodbye and he just did not lean into his own joke

yeah he had as we said he had his moment and all right happy Monday have a great week we will talk to you guys on Thursday we love you thank you're listening thanks for listening to another episode of two parents in a podcast power by just media house if you enjoyed the show don't forget to like subscribe comment rate and review stay connected on Instagram tick talk to YouTube and Facebook at two parents and a pod

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