#3281 Southern Hospitality S4E04: Goodbye to Cucumbersome Friends

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Then, put say you. What a good episode. I mean, this show is so good. That's so good. Really, the reason I was a good episode

was different. I mean, there was drama in this episode. The past episodes of the season have had lots of drama that's been like soapy and fun. This one was actually, I thought, pretty fascinating.

“Should the complications of what it means to show up”

to someone as a friend? And I thought, we saw that with Maddie and Grace Lily, and we see that with Lake and Emmy and Brad, and I thought it was really, I thought it was pretty fascinating, actually.

It was sort of caught me by surprise. What about you? Pretty good. I think you did it. I think you did it.

Overall. Padma. Padma. Did you mean? Take it.

Grace Lily out on the same episode, where she came out as a drug addict. Okay. Here we go. Southern Hospitality.

Season four episode four. Saving Grace. Maddie narrates. What's been done? Yeah.

What's been done? So, Southern Hospitality, season four episode four. Saving Grace. Maddie narrates. What's been going on?

And then we are back to Molly and Lake's Girls and Gaze night. And Grace Lily is like, "I'm really need to be caught for I say something. I'm not supposed to say something to stop talking right now. I'm not going to say nothing then."

Yeah. And everyone is like, "There's like a slash." And Michael's has put his face into the cooler full of cucumbers. And they're like, "Oh my god.

Michael's, oh my god. He's going to die." He's going to die. He's like, "No. You all are doing too much.

I'm like ready to blame the game." So, Molly's like, "Okay, everyone. Okay. So, we're just going to pivot to this real quickly. Let's explain the game.

So, we're going to go bobbing for penises. Slash bobbing for cucumbers. And Michael's is like trying to get his cucumber. But he can't get his cucumber.

So, then he finally pulls one up.

It's like in his mouth. It's like sexy. He's like the dick in his mouth. Everyone's like, "Oh my god. I love my god."

He's like, "I'm used to having big things in my mouth anyway." So, like, "Don't be rude. You all do it." And so, they're going to play this game. So, it's kind of truth.

Like, you can either answer the question or you can bob for a cucumber. But it turns into answering the question and then bobbing for a cucumber. Yeah. I don't want to really pay his attention to the rules because they all want to bob for the cucumber. They do want enormous cucumbers.

They've also been all over Michael's and T.J. sticks. And no one really cares because I guess they've been in water. So, who cares? You know what else has been in water? Brain eating algae.

Yep. That's right. So, the game gets kicks off and me ass the first question.

I'm just going to do the cucumber thing.

So, then he takes off his shirt for no reason. It really makes sense. I'm taking my shirt. It's been 16 months since I've had sex. So, no, I don't remember the guy's name.

Oh, God, T.J., you look real good. You look good doing that. Okay, good job for you. I would watch you on a guy, Poorn. I'm going to laugh and now Molly.

Molly wins the last time you hooked up with Bailey. And that's her ex-boyfriend. She's like Wednesday. Oh my God, today's Wednesday. And now it's that Jordan girl's turn.

The bartender with the bruise. And so, they're like Jordan.

When's the last time you had sex with Justin?

She's like, oh my God, it was Thursday. And, sorry, come with God. What's your hair? Wait. I don't have any options anyway, but she can't really do it.

So, she just pulls a cucumber and put it in her mouth. And Lake is like, "Did you say yes to going on a date with Justin and why?" And me is like, I said, "No, I said yes initially and why?" Well, just, you know, because. And Jordan goes, "But did you even think about me?"

She goes, "No, no, I didn't." I'm not friends with Jordan. I barely know her. Like, I literally just get out of a relationship. So, a hot guy's in front of me.

I'm not thinking about you, sorry." Me is like, "I'm going to speak for the audience here and say I didn't think about Julia." Jordan. I mean, I didn't remember her name. I did not think about Jordan.

Okay? Still not thinking about Jordan. Okay. Also, he said, "Marbled and Finn." And that's like, "My favorite place to go."

And Jordan's like, "That's my favorite restaurant." Just, "Well, that's why I said yes." Okay? 'Cause it's a great restaurant that I probably loved. But, I canceled it.

So, free not because I'm not really doing it. And I couldn't imagine being on a date with him when Jordan's upset. Just kidding, just because I don't like him. You know?

“I mean, I'll look across from him and I think, "Oh, God, how could Jordan have sex with this guy?"”

Right, Jordan? Am I right? So, I just thought, "How many pathetic people does this friend group need? Jordan, you win." Congrats, Jordan.

I just saw this guy and I thought, "Wow, I just cannot be another one of those pathetic girls who lines up to date this guy." Okay? Yeah, I could get laid, but is it worth it? I mean, I think it's time that we women have more self-respect. Anyway, have a great time with him, Jordan.

Have a great time. So... You know, I just thought, "What came first?" The Justin or the Rouge, and I just didn't want to risk it. So, you can keep him Jordan, love the Rouge.

So, then, Michael's is like, "Girl, you should have known better than to go in Justin." And he just, like, "Yeah, I mean, like you really can't get upset." She's like, "Oh, no, I'm not upset about him dating. It's asking me out of date. It's like, "Not my issue. I'm like, not upset. I'm not upset." I'm not upset.

She's trying to make this a thing with me, but you're going up against the wrong person. And I don't like that her answer is basically insinuating. It's not about him asking me out on a date. It's about Mia who should be a girl's girl and not go out on the date with Justin, right?

“I think that's what she says insinuating, but you're at work.”

Like, you all fuck everybody at work, and this guy's told you a million times he doesn't want anything with you.

But then, we see him later in a scene where she's like, "Just don't date anybody in my friend circle." And he's like, "Oh, okay." Yeah, I could luck with that. TJ's like, Jordan can't get mad because she knows that Justin talks up with other girls. And like, it's like, "Yeah, she's at this man's house every single night, and they have a relationship."

And he has like a toothbrush for her, so like, it's just like fucked up. Yeah. So, you know, that's maybe a sign of a relationship, but it's also a sign of somebody coming over without a toothbrush. And you don't want to kiss them when they're stinky. So, you just have a toothbrush.

He probably also has like a 10 pack of toothbrushes. Or he's like, "Here, you probably does." Uh, Lake is up next to ask answer a question, so me as says, "Who's team are you more on?" Brad's or Emmys? And like, without like, that like a hesitation she goes, Emmys, and it was like, "Ah, you or?" She's just, and they're like, "Wow, no hesitation. I'm gone."

And Lake is like, "Why is everybody so shocked?" Like, literally Brad, friends on me, and then he made out with me, and then he got a girlfriend. So obviously, I would choose Emmys, like, "Huh?" So everyone's like, "Oh, no." So now, yeah, so now Grace goes, and she--

"Hey, no, I'm not doing that. I don't do that. I already been baptized." "I mean, do that. I'm not comfortable with it."

“And he is like, "You have to participate, just."”

"No, I don't think it's appropriate. I'm sorry." "Okay, I know Jesus and Buden. Let me tell you what, not the one of them did." "Bop for Dix, okay?" And then anywhere the Bible. Grace lately does not get on her knees to Bob for fucking cucumbers. Come on. I get on my knees for God, and for Bob morally.

[laughs] Okay, then Matty, your turn.

Everyone's like, "Oh, my God." Why? Because I have like a penis, it's like, "No, I mean, he likes in the butt, right?" "No." "I just thought I'd ask." She's got to heat up. Okay, she's coming for me tonight. It's like, "No, no, it's a real question. I want to know, does he like it in the ass?"

That's it, just a real question. She's like, "No, you've like been coming for me like since some moment I arrived here." Like, seriously. It's super clear that Grace is like trying to embarrass me, and I'm over it. Okay, I would not be embarrassed. Now, excuse me why, stick my head into a giant cool of water and pull out a cucumber with my teeth.

Ah, it's just real question. Okay, about TJ and Joe hooked up though. They're like, "What? Oh, my God."

And me is like, "Oh, my God, Grace, if I were her, I would never talk to your ass again."

But that's what TJ said. And they're like, "No, he didn't." And Grace is like, "Oh, that was real question." And TJ is telling us, "God damn it, Grace. I've never talked to Grace about Joe and myself." Like, if, you know, I'm finally in a better place with Joe and Matty, like, this is the last thing I want. And me is like, "You took it way too far."

And you act like this and you're like, "Why doesn't anyone call me your text when you're doing anything?"

“But that's why I am though. That's why I am.”

I mean, take a fucking joke, even though I just said three times as a serious question. We're playing a stupid fucking game. I say one wrong thing, and I'm crucified, and I'm fucking like Jesus Christ. And you know what? I think the biggest reason why I relate to that man so much is because he was human. (laughs)

I relate to a lot of people in that case. Yeah, you've got a lot, you've got no sense of people that you can relate to. So me, I was like, you know, you wonder why people don't invite you anywhere. It's because of shit like this, and your fuck ass attitude, you have it's fucking crazy. And then for you to look at her and say some crazy asshole hurtful shit like that.

That is getting wild. You're fucking crazy. I was like, "Hey, with legit question, though, Jesus with ass shit." Don't you remember in the Bible, Jesus turned him out to you and he said, "Do you like it up the ass?" I mean, no one got on him and bad it. I mean, granted he got crucified, but it wasn't because it asked questions.

No, it was not a legit question. I thought that they hooked up, though. Like her protestors were getting quieter and more like... But I thought it was serious. I thought he liked it up the A.L.S.

No, it's not loves it. Yeah, because you know it's not legit. You know it, and you put your t-t-t-s in.

Just TJ never said it, and you know that.

So get around on my fucking face. You know what I'm gonna punch her in the head. I'm gonna punch her in the head.

“We're just surprised that TJ didn't say anything.”

Well, if I were TJ, I would have been like, I never said that. What are you talking about? But he just sort of sat there and like had this look on his face. Hmm. It's time for commercial.

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So then Mia is like, Even though Maddie and I are not the best of friends. Because you know, cardboard cut out game. This is wrong. And I know I'm right from,

I know my right from my wrong. And Molly goes, "Um, hello. I think that you came in here and you were off the bat

disrespectful to me and my very impressive sharply red display. And then you created a really awkward environment for everyone in here. And then you came from Maddie.

“And now I think it's time for you to leave”

and for me to take your position on this show. Thank you. You can see your way out. And Grace Deli is... She's like,

"Okay. I understand. It's okay. Thank you for inviting me. I appreciate it."

She's like, very... Like... She's like, I don't know. I actually felt so sad for her in that moment.

I don't know why it was weird. Grace Deli was acting like a total idiot at this party. But it was not moment where, I don't know. I just, by her kind of weirdly broke for her,

or I can't explain it. I think because it's like she's in a group or nobody really likes her. And they're finally all telling her, like, "Fuck off."

You know? And even if someone deserves it,

it's always sad to see something like

when person getting the... the brunt. Yeah. But she did... Or in this one.

For sure. She did. Okay, I guess I'll go... Where pajamas in a place on others can't be pajamas,

'cause I told myself there'd be pajamas at home, man. Bye, bye, bye. Bye. Oh. There's my phone over there.

I think my phone's off. There's my phone there. Is it? Is it behind you? Where?

Which one?

Which one? Which is your phone?

I think it's maybe a fail in the crack.

Is it over there? It goes on for like 10 minutes. It's a pain. It's like the TJ. You know, it's lead between.

Just think of the couch as Joe's butt crack. And then my phone, TJ slide between it. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I thought it was some sort of what happened.

And it was just your personality. So she probably gets so awkward. It's really awkward. And so Michael's asked Maddie if she's good. I'm just exhausted.

“And he was like Maddie, you should've been exhausted.”

Last year in Vegas, bitch, I've been telling you. She's nuts. We have a flashback to last year in Vegas. And Grace Silly, going off on Maddie at that restaurant. You were so fake.

You were so fake. Well, she had your back. Like, no, no, she's not having my back. Yes, I have. The way you were speaking to her right now.

You can actually bring me to tears, which is very difficult. That was me. So Maddie's like, no, I know. You know, like it's embarrassing that I'm the one keeping her around. And then she, like, constantly will like implode on me.

You know, like, I feel like she constantly hurts me. And goes to bed at night. Like thinking she's like, holding her then now. Because she knows Jesus and boot up. And that guy who smokes a lot of weed and makes like,

Reggae music, but like, time is proven over and over again. That like, maybe we're just not meant to be friends. So now it's a new day. And Lake is face timing with her mom. And a mom's like, are you drinking water?

Are you drinking water? She's like, mom, no. It's been more liquor. She's like, honey. She's like, I know, mom.

Please make sure you're drinking enough water. Honey, it is so hot and Charleston.

“You need to make sure you're hydrating extra.”

It's everything. Hydrating Lake. Your name is named after an hydration.

So you would never forget.

And look what you're doing. Forgetting. Would you rather me name to you what your father wanted to name you? Galen Jug. Okay.

I chose a glass of your name and you're still forgetting Lake. Okay. I said it doesn't need to be so on the nose, honey. It's still you won't drink that water, honey. Please drink your water.

So Lake, get a red rocker. I demand that you drink your water. So Lake, like, well, speaking of Dad, I spoke to Dad the other day. And she's like, oh, you did. Yeah, like, it's like still kind of like, we don't talk every day.

But because we went from talking on the phone every day, multiple times, every single day to clear silence. Because like, I don't think he can open his eyes to the idea of me liking girls. So she's saying that last year, she kind of came out of the closet about her first girlfriend. And you know, how she had her sexual awakening with her best friend and girlfriend. And that her dad got really pissed.

She shared that on camera. And that he says that she's disrespectful and has no respect for anybody. And she's like, he made me feel like I killed somebody. And the mom's like, you know, like, he's just dramatic. You got that from him for sure.

Drama and not drinking your water. Because yeah, there's a lot of status quo when it comes to black. Southern generational wealth. And she talks about how her great her great grandparents were millionaires in the 30s. And there's a whole school named after her great grandfather.

And there's this whole legacy that their family has. And also subsequent family image that like there's a lot of pressure to uphold. And so Jerry, her mom is like, well, sometimes when people are angry, they react. And I don't think your dad really believes that you're disrespectful, a bad person. He just is not going to have, you know, some sort of therapeutic conversation, especially if you haven't been drinking your water.

He's not going to have a conversation with a dry person, like, okay. And she's like, well, like, Michael's just trying to call me, hold on. Let me decline him. And she's like, um, okay, well, I'd rather talk to him. Just kidding.

And Michael's, but, or what we call him in my house, Moisturized Michaels. Okay. Tell him I said his skin looks glowing. Okay. So if you're waiting for a long drawn out apology from your dad, manage your expectations.

Because it's your dad. Okay. But give him a decent meat filled sandwich, pat him on the back and just be thankful. He still loves you. He broke my heart destroyed my family, but like he loves you.

And that's what matters the most. Like, you know, I know. And you know, when you become an adult, you get to dictate the kind of relationship you want to have with your parents. I recommend a good one with me, a bad one with him. And the flip side is that your parents get to dictate the type of relationship they want with you.

Um, and in his case, he's just going to be a dick to you. So that's it. Okay, honey. Have that water. I'll talk you later, Mike. So then we go to Maddie and Joe at home and just like, oh, my God.

“Is that dragon fruit? Is that like dragon fruit in there, you're eating?”

Joe, how Joe? Can you just make me a tea? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. How do you tell you this? Apple. Every single day. It's an apple.

It's a wax apple. The same apple that's there every single day, Joe. It's not dragon fruit. Joe. Said a dragon apple.

That's dragon fruit basically.

So they make this Joe. Jack Valley capals, but they don't fruit too dragon meat.

If you keep asking me about the dragon fruit, seriously.

Wow, look at this. Such an idea. It looks so nice. Like hey, so nice. Anyway, a couple of Republicans later will be there. I'm just trying to walk my dog, sir.

Still still though. Got her. Showed it. Stop harassing the people on the street. Okay, not everything is about bringing people to Republic. Hey, wait. Hey, guy on the street.

Is this a dragon fruit? Joe, stop showing him the apple. Okay, wax.

“So like have as grace reach out, like have you touched a grace?”

Like no, not today. Like, I tried to keep her a part of this group. And then she just like embarrasses me pretty much Insinuating that like I peg you, which is like crazy. It's like, yeah, like it is crazy.

Like hold on. But I need to move this pillow over under me. It's just really hard. I did like that Joe just like laughed when she said it. Yeah, she didn't see me and then I peg you.

You guys can fall. Yeah, that's fucked up. Like I almost like want a laugh. I know what? I think I'm gonna laugh. I just laughed.

Okay. So that was the story of my laugh. And that's just like clearly a job to like hurt you. And like that. And why is she like trying to hurt you?

Like I don't know if she's like jealousy or else she has like some resentment towards you. But like, by the way, could be all the above Joe, just want to say.

But you do like a million things.

Or I'm like, you know, all just bring it down. It's like not front chips. Yeah. It's like a toxic relationship where like she can hurt me over and over and over again. And then I'm just gonna like forgive her.

And I can't do it anymore. It's like, it's like it's draining me. It's like, it's like, it's like it's like, it's like when you try to do stuff. Try to fruit on the counter. Joe, you can't even do it.

It's wax. And it's not a dragon fruit. Come on, Joe. So she says that there's something that they're not talking about here. And it's the reason that she sticks around as a friend.

And she says she has empathy for Gray. So what she's going through because she can relate to it. And she didn't want her to be alone or like God forbid something happens. And she misses that call.

Because you know, it's it's substance abuse, basically.

She's like in as someone who's in recovery. You want to be there for your friend when they're suffering. You know, and you don't want them to die or something.

“And you not be the one answer you have to phone.”

Which probably explains like a lot of Grace's behavior over the last season or two. You remember she was like super late for the performance. She's both the B.A. She was like, you know, she was super super late. She showed up last minute, you know, when you look back,

like, oh, maybe there was more going on in Vegas than we realized. But this is actually like, it's actually heartbreaking to see Maddie like this because, you know, this is a very, very serious situation. And it's a very serious, serious thing in Maddie's life. And you can see she just wants to help her friend even if it means that she has to take a whole bunch of pot shots about.

That's how pajamas in the process. But for real, she has to take, she's like, man, I have to put up with all this shit, but it's like it's worth it for me to try to save my friend. Yeah, and Joe's saying, well, look, everything you're doing is clearly not working. You know, so like, I get that you're trying, but it doesn't seem to be doing anything.

And Maddie's saying, you know, the selfless thing to do is to let her go and hopefully she'll change and stop hurting the people she loves. And she's like, I'm not helping, so maybe I'm not the person to help. And that's a hard pill to swallow, no pun intended. So Joe's like, yeah, maybe different phrase there. Yeah, and Joe's like, well, you've had a hard year too, you know.

So it's, you know, I don't know that we've all had this, I've certainly had this discussion in my life. It's like, well, okay, well, I've had that problem too, and people didn't abandon me. So if I have somebody going through that problem, how much are you there? How much are you supposed to be there?

“You know, like, how much do you have to take into account?”

I think everything is different. Every situation's different, and also like, at certain points, certain things are sort of out of your hand. And it's like, it's a lot of times, even when people ask for advice with relationships or whatever, at certain point you say, you gotta get professional help, right? Like, I can only, I can't help you.

I have a limit to what I can do, and I want to help all as much as I can. But like, not everyone, it's just like, it may be just too big for Maddie. And she shouldn't be beating herself up for that. Like, it's a, it's a big ask. You know, it's, it's really sad to see her going through it over this.

Yeah, yeah, it's a rough one. So now it's Sunday brunch, and Michael's is leading his meeting. He's like, all right, like, happy Sunday. It's a fun Sunday, right? So, you know, the weather's cool.

Okay, are you touching my nipples right now? I'm like, oh my God, it's so hard. Wait, just like, your nipples are so hard right now. It's like, okay, so let's get set up. Let's get Maddie.

Play some tunes, I guess. Okay, great pop talk, everybody. It's fun. And nipples are really, really hard right now. There's a girl named Bella there, and she's also playing with his nipples.

Okay, number one, come on, get to work. So Brad's mixes and juices is getting ready.

And he says he's telling, he's saying that he's kind of, he's going to say something to Emmy today. And he's like, you know, you know, like running into her in the event, and how she went mute on me in Julia is like, oh yeah. So Brad tells us a story that, you know, everything seems to be fine with him and Emmy at Folly Beach.

And then they went to an influencer event, and at one of his favorite restaurants in town, so adding insult injury. And she see, they see Emmy and they say hi, and it's nice and everything's fine,

but then when we'll walk in, Emmy shifted, and she just basically started giving them,

not just the cold shoulder. I mean, she was just plainly ignoring them, wouldn't make eye contact anything. And Brad's confused because he thought that they were working towards something better. And it just, he says, like, it's just like, oh, wait a second. The second, your fiance comes around, everything changes.

Yeah. And so Justin was like, yeah, you know, like, I asked her, like, you're making a mens because you think you feel bad,

“and you think you fucked up in that situation, and she's like, no, I think if I don't make a mens that Brad and TJ are going to ruin my fucking life.”

And Brad's like, what? And he goes, yeah. So then we see a flashback. I mean, Emmy is just such a dodo bird. She's not only saying this stuff, she says it all on camera, you know?

Yeah. She's like, oh, I don't want to say, I apologize to Brad, but Brad was terrifying. Or like, you know, okay, I apologize to TJ, but TJ does need to stop getting, guys, drugs, straight guys, drugs, so he can take advantage of it. And it's like, oh, then then this, here's another example.

She's telling him on camera. Yeah, I was like, best friends with him. And I've seen what Brad's done to his, you know, like, like, when his feelings are, like, I've seen out TJ reacted to Joe, you know? So like, it just makes me anxiety because I'm like, oh, I mean, all right.

Like if they want to put their heads together, like they could really try and fuck my life. You know, I'm like, what I'm learning is like, I'm sorry. Like, you know, I'm just, I just say, I'm sorry. That's all I do. But like, I'm terrified of them.

Oh, I think you'd ruin my life.

“I think Emmy is doing a good job of it on her own personally.”

I mean, I assume also what you was saying is like, Brad made up an entire lie about Maddie, Maddie's boyfriend cheating, just to get back at Maddie. So like, what, like, what spiteful thing might he do to me? But I kind of think that like you, you had this really nice apology moment with him. And like, just lean into that and try to grow your friendship.

And then you just call up this guy, Justin, he don't even really know. And you're going to say this stuff. You're like, oh, God. Oh, this is bad. This is really bad.

Well, yeah, it's like, what is she doing to she want this stuff to get back to them? That's what's confusing. Yes. Or she just bad at this. Yeah, I think she's bad.

I think she's bad, honestly. So now Brad's like, did I get played?

“There's like, not one second where you've been real to me.”

Everything was just an act. Your apology doesn't mean shit. And everything you said is all bullshit because everything you said is bullshit. So fuck you, I'm pissed. Come on, cheers.

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The first Mac for Gistony. Okay, so then we go to Grace Lily, which I'm was very surprised by this scene. I was really, I was really shocked that this is happening on southern hospitality. Especially with Grace. So Grace tells us that Maddie basically has not been talking to her.

And she needs Maddie because Maddie holds her accountable. And she needs that. And she says Maddie is the only one that knows what I struggle with. And I want to be better for myself and the people around me. And I can't work by myself forever.

So she goes to see what is he? Subriding coach. Subriding coach. Subriding coach named Isaac.

And basically we have a long and pretty powerful scene where she meets with Isaac and talks about.

Basically that she started doing ketamine a few years ago. And she started doing it more and more and more. And she's essentially addicted to it. And then she had a really scary thing to happen, which is that like one of her best friends died from the same batch of ketamine that she was using. And that was that's like obviously like terrifying.

And so we see her just kind of trying to negotiate this whole situation. She's never reached out for a professional help before. She hasn't really ever talked about it. She hasn't even told her parents. So we see her talking to this guy.

Um, you know, it's pretty. It was, it was like definitely her most like emotionally honest scene that we've, I shouldn't not emotionally raw scene we've seen from her ever before.

It was basically like an AA meeting on camera where she was like, I'm a drug addict. And I can't do it alone. And I need help and she cries and stuff. And it's, I mean, I was, I was surprised. It was a good scene, you know, good for her for doing it.

Yeah, it was powerful when she said like, you know, I always felt like I was stronger than this or I wouldn't basically fall into this.

“And my whole thing is my model in life is wavy, baby.”

And like, I'm sick of feeling trapped in my own body when I've always been a free spirit. I was like, that was kind of a powerful sentiment to express. And like, she just wants to be out there and free, but she's kind of like a prisoner to addiction right now. So drugs are always stronger, drugs are strong. You can be as strong as you want, but drugs are stronger.

They are strong. Yes, it's scary. So yeah, it's a good scene. Good for her. You know, we know that since this, she's been in trouble twice so far.

One should say so far. That's a redo to put it. But she's been in trouble twice. She's been arrested twice. One time was for having happy pills.

And the second time, I don't know what it was. It was drug related again.

But I didn't, I don't think they specified what it was that time.

So. So I love really clearly. I love her. I know we want her to just to get better and to like, to be able to persevere. It's very scary.

It is very scary seeing. She talks about this and then, you know, and like you said, her, like her arrests, et cetera, like you just hope that this is not a downward spiral. And that she continues to move upwards. But as Isaac said, and as many others have said before recovery is not a straight line up.

And so she's definitely on a journey. But we're so I'm so glad that she is now reaching out for help.

“And I think really brave of her to do that on TV.”

So, you know, yeah, you have a baby on TV because, and there's a reason that people avoided on TV. You know, they'll say, you know, like we talked about the Karen thing. Karen from real house was a batomac went to, went to jail for, drunk like her fourth DUI or whatever, and then had an interview,

and wouldn't really say out the word alcoholic she refused. You know, she took accountability kind of. But there's a reason that on shows like Southern charm or summer house, or they use terms like Adderall. You know, they'll pick the legal door, it was just weed.

I was addicted to weed. There is something very scary about coming out because addiction is in a straight line. And there's, it's not like you people expect on TV. It's like a story line. So you go on, you talk about it, and then it's over.

You get over it, and then the next season you're fine. And that's just not how it works. You know, it goes on forever. It goes to your whole life. You know, it's your whole life of dealing with it.

So, good for her, forget me. Good for her, and best of luck. And we hope that Julie comes out on top. So now we go over to Michael's new apartment, and he doesn't have to be in work until 4pm.

He gets to text from Leather. Oh my god, I'm going to get to sleep in tonight, thank God. So Lake comes over, and there are saying hi and everything, and they're just like gathering at, they sit down in the window sill.

And she's like, oh my god, I haven't been here during the daytime. It's like, y'all, because you're a lady of the night. She's like, y'all, I'm a lady of the night. Let me just sit on the IKEA bag. Y'all, it's like a work in progress.

It's like I'm almost on, be proud of me. So they start talking about Emmy. He's like, okay, so how do you feel about like after your intervention or whatever? And she's like, what?

And he says about Emmy. And so we see Lake sharing that she was on Emmy's team at the girls night. And she's like, well, obviously, like, I trust Emmy more than Brad. Like, I don't even talk to him anymore. Like, we made all like twice.

It's not like we had a million long relationship.

Like, I don't know that guy's shit. He's like, yeah, but, you know,

“you have to understand Brad because like today I worked out with them.”

And he said, I thought Lake would have more sympathy for the comment that was made. And she's like, oh, like the unsavedness the unsavedness and the microaggression. Mm-hmm.

And he's like, y'all, because he was like, Julia Solbsutt. And we see Brad was like, like, you know, four hours ago Brad's like, so I hear the space time call from Justin and you're not actually upset. You said something wrong.

And Mike was like, so you're not actually sorry because they're talking about Emmy. He's like, yeah. And you're not actually sorry about saying that I made you feel unsafe. And the only reason you're saying it is because you're worried that how I'm going to, like, what I'm going to do to you and how I'm going to ruin the life.

And I'm here to vent to you and tell you how I'm feeling because I feel like you would understand. It was 100% and Brad is upset. He's like, I would think that Lake would understand where I'm coming from. But I don't feel like Lake is condemning anything.

I mean, he said, it's just like disheartening. And so Michael says, like, yeah, he was expecting you to be like, hey, you can't say that. And she was like, well, I wish he would have come to me at the moment about the microaggression.

And Michael says, well, it's uncomfortable in the moment. Well, I know it's uncomfortable. I face this every day myself. Like, you face it every day, like being a person of color

And she says, this is pissing her off because the whole conversation,

“you know, like, she's this person that's always defended people of color”

and always defended her own people.

And she's always advocating. And so she's like, I understand it when it comes to that. You know, and I thought co-signing when you guys said something about it. I mean, you're just signing when you called it a microaggression. Was it not standing up enough?

Yeah. Right. And we see a flashback because basically Michael's in that confrontation says, look what you said could come off as a microaggression and like goes, yeah.

So, like, says, you know, like, she should have said that. Like, she should have said that that situation made me feel uncomfortable and left it at that, calling him scary is crazy. Michael's basically saying, yeah, but you didn't say any of this and that's a conversation Brad wants to have with her.

And like, out of respect for Brad, like, don't say anything, but I just want to let you know that this is how Brad was feeling. So, she's like, yeah, you know, she tells us about her family and her dad

and you know, how her dad made them read African American heritage books

and she knows her shit and she's like, and I don't want to be framed as that person who doesn't know my shit, okay? And that conversation makes me feel like I was framed. You know, she starts crying. She's like, oh my God, what the hell?

And he's like, no, no, no, no, you don't need to get heated. I'm just having a calm conversation with you. I just want you to be more empathetic. And she's like, well, I can be there for you in that sense, but also want to be there for Emmy as a friend.

“And, you know, that's why I was comforting her”

because my closeness lies with her and I don't talk to him every day. I talked to her every day. Which is where I thought this was really interesting. I thought it was a really interesting episode.

Like the pressures that are on people in different communities of like the intimate bonds you have with a friend versus like the community bonds you have with other members or community who you actually don't really like and like how do navigate that because it's important

to deal with all of that. And so I just thought this was like, I thought this was like kind of riveting to watch. Like how she was trying to have to grapple with these things, you know? And like what is she doubted different people?

So Brad is, you know, she's saying Brad, he doesn't know who I am. He doesn't know who my family is. He doesn't know like how I was raised. I'm a very educated woman.

I come from a very prominent black family that has come from the bottom to the top. He doesn't know me. And he also doesn't know how much water I have to drink every single day.

Oh, she's like a real lot of pressure for me. Yeah, that's interesting because she's like fuck that guy. That guy's a fuck boy. And she's my friend. So I don't think she was, you know, like I don't think she's racist.

“So that's why I'm standing up for her, you know?”

But then he's got a point. But she did say this comment, you know? Yes. She did say it. Yeah, obviously.

Yeah, I don't think that she's breaking up. I think that Lake is saying like I don't think she's at her heart. She's a racist. So that's why I thought she was being. Lake thought she was standing up.

We're being ally enough to Brad. But now she realizes that maybe she wasn't being. But then she also feels like she's also resentful of being, maybe being painted on TV as being someone who wouldn't be. And so it's just, I don't know, I think it's a fascinating thing to watch.

And like it highlights many of the complications. And this is what's cool is that like this has been between this and summer house or the past two weeks. There's been a lot of interesting discussions around all this stuff, which I think is, I think it's great.

I think it's great to see these conversations happening and showing the nuance of racial situations.

And how like it's just, it's not always cutting dry.

So now, I mean, who would have thought? So not totally in summer house. There's all places of reciriously. But now we go to Republic. And everyone is hot and sweaty.

Okay, tonight, we have a few bodies missing. Because Brad is like having one of his like, I don't know, like, body by Brad, things up the streets. So like, muddy, Joe and Justin over there. And like, they'll just be coming down and working later tonight.

So TJ and Brad will not be working this evening. So okay, everyone, let's get dressed up and ready to go. So now it's time to go. And now we go to the body by Brad event where he's there. And he's having rod is there from Southern charm.

And someone in Tommy Bahamas is there from Charleston. And 50 other people in Tommy Bahamas. And a lot of other people in flip flops. It's at Lamar's. So Brad comes out and gives a speech.

And he's talking about his personal training company. And he wanted to do more. And his girlfriend gave him the idea. Like, hey, why don't you go on tour? So now, body by Brad is going on tour.

What? What is that? I guess like exercise classes that you just go to sign up for.

And we would go to like the Civic Center for like these huge aerobics. I guess they were conventions. And there were these huge audiences. And it would be like 50 ladies up there doing an aerobics routine. And everyone's body.

So like, yes, get those ankles up girl. And it was the craziest thing I've ever seen. I wonder if it's going to be like that.

“I think it will be like Beachbody still sends like their trainers around.”

They do go to malls where they do like an outdoor audition or something like that. Yeah, it still happens. This should happen all the time. So keep an eye out for body by Brad. Everyone show the show.

You can't get excited. I live for it. Clench those barbox pay ball. Yeah. Traveling for this.

So anyway, just me and arrives and almost trips, or she does trip. Brad's like, whoa, you thought you ate. You thought you ate. So then Justin's like, wow.

So me and Reyn checked our day and then ultimately just ended up canceling it all together.

But like, as I put the puzzle pieces together, my mind like went right back to Jordan. It's like, what? Wow. What sort of puzzle piece was this like a two piece puzzle piece? Don't try and place scrabble against this guy.

He'll get. Yeah. And so we see a flashback two two days ago where Jordan's like, you can do whatever you want. Just don't hook up with anyone. Okay.

Don't hook up with anyone I know. Like, and don't hook up with me. Ah, that's all I ask. Doo-doo-doo-doo.

“So I think it might have something to do with Jordan.”

She literally said her name, sir. I'm putting the puzzle pieces together. But me, I can't sleep her day. It only makes me want her more. So, challenge accepted.

So me, I was like, yeah, Justin, beautiful young man. But I don't want to be juggled with other girls. Is that so crazy? Okay. All I ask is for someone to respect my cardboard cut out.

That's it. So Brad's like, yeah, I heard bits of pieces about this at the girls' night. It wasn't good. And she just like, well, I texted Grace in the next morning. And I said, hey, are you good?

And her text back was, I'll deal with the consequences. Okay. Okay. So she knows that she fucked up. Honestly, I have a soft spot for Grace Lily.

But she was one of my very first clients.

And we see a flashback to season one. I'm working out. And it's like, yeah, I'm sad that she's not here. But whatever's going on in Grace's life, I just wanted to take time that she needs to get herself together. And so Brad is giving a speech and Joe's watching him.

And he's like, you know, like, I'm almost 30. And like, Brad's 28. But like, I look up to him. Because he's a horror. Like, he gets up.

He wakes up like before noon. It's crazy. I see all these people younger than me. And they're like, more hell of me life. Like, it shouldn't matter, but it matters.

You know, like, I'm turning 30. My bump it's turning six. Like, I'm going to get my shit together. How I'm going to support you. So I'm going to set up the after party for you.

And like, we're going to get to work. Okay. Brad's a cool. Like, yeah, because I want. I want to work so that you guys can celebrate. And I'm like, I was not going to miss that.

Just just just see a nose. Like, yeah, it's fine. It's okay. I wasn't going to miss this. They're here.

So we see that you're here. I wasn't going to miss this at all though. Just really knows. Okay. We got it. So then we go back to Republic and Amy is talking to Justin and asking about Brad's event.

And he goes, oh, it was good. It was packed. Just yeah, well, the capacity is like 93 people. So yeah, I'm sure it was packed. But then.

Everyone just see more of her. Because she's like, obviously, you just made up with him two hours ago. And me. Jesus. So then, like, pulls Brad.

He's, she's like, hey, do you want to talk Brad? He's like, yeah, but I want my bottles first. She's like, okay. She's saying how she didn't sleep last night.

“And she has been like only thinking about this because it's so important.”

And she doesn't know what she's going to say, but she's going to speak with her heart. So Michael's like, okay, well, you know, so Brad, I talked during yesterday. And she came over and she just like wants to talk to you and clear it out. So it's like, okay, well, we'll see. So they go to the back to have a conversation.

And like, as Michael leaves them alone, he's like, okay, you guys don't need any moderation, fine. Good morning. Good luck. I love y'all. Like, I just wanted to pull you for a conversation.

I guess, well, I don't think we should even be having to have this conversation. Okay, Brad, just let her. Jesus. He's hard enough for her. My God.

And she's like, okay. So I was given an outline of what you and Michael's talked about. And I feel really strongly about that conversation. And he's like, which part? He says, the microaggressions and how you feel like I should have defended you.

And she says, there's a black woman. I do understand. And I wanted to address it to you because I know how important it is. I faced it every day.

And I've always defended and protected and loved all the black men in my life.

And he's like, but it doesn't feel like it. And then Joe comes in. He's like, oh, oh, hey, guys. And they're just looking at him like, hello. Do you see us having a scene?

Sorry, it's like the time when my shift was like, come in, I bump at it.

“So I'm just going to fix my bump at God, damn it.”

He goes to the mirror. He's like, God, damn it. You look good. Hey, you look like you could use a car wash. Fuck yeah.

The short shorts. Yeah, you better fucking do it. You're going to do this before your 31. God, a bitch. That's right.

Okay, guys, I'm done. I'm back to work. All right. You look at two. You look at two guys.

Look at two.

Oh, like, I am never ever in a million years ever going

to defend a microaggression. Ever we had that group conversation at the table at Folly. I mean, made that comment. Michael said, that can come off as a microaggression. I co-signed with him.

But I was also comforting her, but me comforting her does not discredit your feelings towards that at all, because it did not. And I'm sorry that you felt that way. I truly am from the deepest pits of my heart. I am.

“And like says, my brothers, my father, my grandfather, my uncles are all men.”

That look like Brad. And so when Emmy says something like, because you're scary, I felt it. It makes me feel some type of way. So I feel Brad on that.

And she tells me, I don't think you would hurt Emmy ever. And he goes, I'm not going to hurt anyone. I'm not going to hurt anyone. I'm not going to hurt anyone. She says, I know.

And so then the door opens again, and it's Emmy. She's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. She after she leaves the door, after she leaves, she runs into Ella, who's another server. And she's like, what's going on with Lake? And Ella's like, well, where is she?

She's like, she's on break.

And Ella's like, oh, I never talked to Brad, right?

Like, I think it's something about a microcretion that she's like defending you. I guess he tried to say that like what you said to him was a microcretion. Just what? What? I said on her.

And she's like, yeah, like what you said. What did I say about him? I don't know how you're scared of Emmy. Oh, my God. Emmy, did you not listen to one thing?

So, and this is all being caught by a camera way in the back of the kitchen. Like behind the ice machine. And so I don't even think they know they're being recorded. And she's like, yeah, you said you were scared of him. And she goes, oh, I'm a microcretion.

Are you fucking on crack right now? She's like, that's crazy. I mean, so Brad is like,

“I mean, don't you do remember that they all confronted you?”

They circled you. They circled around you and said, you just had a microcretion. Do you remember that? Why? I prefer ventilating like restart your brain like hello.

So back to Brad and Lake. She's like, he says, I don't think Amy's racist, but she's coming across and Lake is like, look, I wouldn't be friends with her if I thought she was racist. And it goes, yeah.

But like, even if you completely remove race from it. And so many apologizes to you. And then later you hear that they said, I'm only apologizing because I'm worried what they're going to do to me. Like, it's like, okay, that's a stab in the back.

You know, and addressing that's very important. And I'm on your side when it comes to this. And that's why I wanted to come to you and apologize. And Brad's like, I appreciate the apology. But this is also coming on the heels.

Like, he says with when in the example that he just gave, like, remove race from it. And if somebody apologized to you, but said they don't want you to ruin their life. As you mentioned earlier, Brad, you did just admit to lying about.

Yeah. So much like ruining someone's relationship out of revenge. You know? Yeah, you did.

So Brad is like, this is a side of Lake that I've never seen before.

Beyond the bubbly, fun, easygoing personality. There's a lot of depth there. I need to hear her. I need to hear her out of her mouth saying, Hey, I got you.

And I understand you. I'm with you. It means the world to me. I love this is such a guy thing. It's like, oh, actually just had to have a conversation with the girl.

I was interested in one point. I would discover that she actually has many facets and many nuances. Wow, who knew? Well, it's also she came in and completely agreed with everything I said. And was like, when long apology and being just being like, okay.

Okay. So you get it, right? Like, I'm with you, right? Brad is like, yeah, she's really deep. Lake is like, when it comes to Emmy,

I will take it upon myself to educate her on this subject. He's like, no, you don't have to talk to her because it shouldn't be, by the way, up to Lake, to have to do this. Yeah. So they have like, I'm a couple of fist bump.

But then outside, Emmy, they were just, God, Emmy's going to, it's going to be so bad for Emmy. We just can see this is a disaster. It's all right. It's so bad for me.

It's so bad for me. It's so bad for me. Jesus. So Emmy's like, oh, Justin, Justin. Brad is like going after Lake in the back.

He's like right now. Brad's trying to say I'm a fucking racist and Justin goes, when you what you said, Jim, she's like, yeah. And Justin goes, no, well, you were scared of how he was going to act and he took it as a microaggression because, yeah,

because he texted me, lower your fucking voice. You're done to me, too bitch. Like fucking grow, fucking grow man, saying that to me. Justin's like, I feel like Emmy is taking the low road in the situation and being come back about it.

And I feel like she's minimizing Brad's experience. And all you need to do to make it right is to tell Brad,

but I think the problem is, I think Emmy doesn't know what

a microaggression is. Oh my god, and this is the best part of the episode because they start playing clown music. And so they've got this music, like, don't, don't, don't playing under Emmy and check.

Yes, yeah, I mean, I know what a microaggression is. I mean, yeah, of course I do. Okay, okay, microaggression. Microaggression is when you, you make up micro, like a little, like a tiny, like little.

It's not little, but it's smaller than little. Okay, like, and so, like, you make like, like, like, an assumption, like a subjective assumption. I said, those, like, three, there's a syllable, two words and three syllables.

And like, you know, it's like based off somebody, you know, it's like, women, women or bad drivers. Yeah. So, yeah, so basically, yeah, like microaggressions are, like, tiny, subjective things.

And they're more, like, they're more so made towards people that, like, you don't know. So, maybe.

“Remember, like, microaggressions, those cars,”

they're, like, least small cars. It's like, if you, if you drive them really fast, that's like a microaggression. So, yeah, I wasn't even playing with cars. It was so funny.

She has no idea. And it means it's like, but don't, don't, don't, don't. It's like, microaggression. That's, like, fucking crazy. I, like, I can't believe they're saying that.

Like, what? Just because, but that's his experience, because I don't want to talk about it. I don't, you know, I want to get the fuck out of here. I want to get the fuck out of here.

[laughing] Storms out. Storms out of the restaurant. Yet again. Yeah.

Good, wow. Plus or hurt. Well, everyone. Jesus. What an interesting episode.

Thanks, everyone, for being here. We adore you. And we'll catch you on the next episode of Watch Your Crappins. Bye. Bye.

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