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Hi Rick, welcome to Young Improveding Podcast. Oh, I'm really happy to be here. We spoke briefly before we started, and I'm thoroughly psyched about what we're going to be talking about. Thanks. I'm really excited too. I know that my listeners love this kind of content, so I'm sure they're going to enjoy this conversation. So welcome, Rick, for those who don't know you, you are a psychologist, you are the founder

of the well-spring institute, you are the host of the being-well podcast and a bestselling author. So we're going to get into your neuro-dharma book and seven ways of being in a bit, but first, I want to start off by hearing a little bit about your childhood. So I learned that you had a big turning point when you were just 15 years old. You were a little bit awkward, you were unhappy,

“and just pretty dissatisfied with life until you realized this big aha moment in your life.”

So talk to us about this turning point when you were a teenager. Oh, thanks for queuing me up there. So I grew up in a decent, fairly stable, lower mental class environment in Southern California, no abuse, no trauma, nothing horrible, and still for a lot of complicated reasons, including being really young while going through school, I was really unhappy. I was a lot of awkward, a lot of miserable, a lot of neurotic,

and it just seemed pretty hopeless. And right there, right about age 15, and I know it was about age 15 because I was reading Dune at the time, and the main character Paul Madib is also 15 when the book starts right about. And I suddenly basically realized that as bad as my past had been,

and as much the present might suck, the future was open to me. In the sense that I could always learn

a little heal a little and grow a little every day. I could learn how to be a little less completely tongue-tied around girls. I could learn how to be not so scared of these big aggro, you know, alpha male types in the locker room. I could learn how to manage my own mind, bit by bit, and in effect I learned that learning itself, knowing how to help yourself, to develop, not just memorize the multiplication table, but to develop as a person, was the strength of strengths.

Learning is the superpower of superpowers because it's the one we tap into to grow the rest of them. It took me many years, including becoming a neurosecologist, et cetera, to really understand the how of that, how we can actually heighten neuroplastic change inside our own brains, and gradually hardwire things like grit, gratitude, compassion, and happiness altogether into our own nervous system. And there are things we can do to do that, but the fundamental idea

that I was in charge of who I was becoming has shaped the rest of my life.

That's an incredible story, and I can't wait for us to dive deep on neuroplasticity in all the

ways that we can improve our brain and actually change our brain. But first, you've got some interesting things that I want to talk about in terms of your journey. So it turns out you started college when you were just 16 years old. So that's pretty incredible. How did you end up going to school so early in what was that like? Because at that age, two years difference in terms of college is the big deal. Well, thanks for marking that. So I skipped a grade, it was second grade, not a big deal,

and that was a bright little kid, and all the rest of that, and that had some advantages, but it

as my dad put it because he grew up in a ranch in North Dakota. So I felt really shy and awkward

going off to college though, on the other hand, breaking away from home and having a sense of being able to step into all kinds of new possibilities was wonderful for me. And to located in our culture, I started UCLA in 1969. So just imagine the height of the political changes of the time, the counterculture, all kinds of developments in psychology, the surge of eastern wisdom coming into the West, at the tail end of the 60s and early 70s. It was a wild time. It was a fertile time.

It was a good time to be in school. Plus, there was a lot of great music as well. That's so cool. I mean, it's so great. See, I thought there was going to be something more to it,

not that you just skip second grade, but that's it's super interesting nonetheless, and the fact that,

you know, probably some of those feelings that you had is what ultimately led you to becoming who you are and what you do and what you're passionate about today, which is just really

“interesting in itself. So a key part of your journey was wanting to understand why people feel”

unhappy and what sparks unhappiness. So how did this curiosity lead you to starting to study neuroscience and psychology? Maybe I'd like to kind of draw people to a level of, I don't know, a kind of tender, tender intimacy with themselves, a little deeper, and ask people, what are some of the things you knew when you were really young? Maybe you didn't have words for it, but you just had a knowing, you had a sense of what it was like for people around you or you had a sense of who you were,

your fundamental capabilities. Maybe there was a dream for your life that really was starting to take form even when you were in kindergarten. And for me, in my earliest memories, and I have a lot of memory of my childhood going all the way back, probably to late two years old, just in all of them is this wistful, poignant sense of the needless unhappiness, the needless strife, the needless bickering, nothing horrible, but the needless hassles, the needless stresses, the needless worries,

the needless feeling less than other people, or being uncertain about where we stand with other people, just Ick, needless. And so yeah, absolutely, I had this sense of it and this kind of movement, not just observing it, but a movement of compassion, a movement of compassion or action to do

“it one can. And I'm far from unique. I think so many people, I suspect for you as well, all right,”

in your own background, moving you to do what you do. There also was that sense that there's so much unnecessary unhappiness, and there's so much more well-being, and harmony, even in a very real world, including in a competitive marketplace that we can forge together, and there's a movement in you, a movement in me, and probably a movement in many other people as well, to try to be helpful in that way. Yeah, totally. I think you bring a really solid point across the

fact that some of you, so many of us, we live decently privileged lives, you know, and we all have food on the table, most of us are able to go to school, and just, you know, we have roofs over our heads, and we take all this for granted, and like the little things become such a big deal, even though

“we have so much to be thankful for, and so I think that's a really great point. So I want to”

talk about Buddhism, because like we just mentioned, you grew up decently privileged, you know, you're from LA, you know, it's pretty unique that your religion is, is Buddhism. So talk to us about how you fell in love with that ancient, ancient, ancient religion. Oh, sweet. So I grew up a casual Methodist. That was kind of the framework, and tons of respect, certainly, for for Jesus, as a teacher and realized being, that said, the forms of all that just didn't somehow connect with

me, the way I was communicated, just felt kind of small and dogmatic and kind of bossy. So then I land in college. The doors are kicked wide open, right? We're talking at 1969, 1970, and all the rest of that, and toward the end of college, I just had an interest in seeing, oh, what's out there in the eastern traditions, which I didn't know really anything about. And I encountered Buddhist teachings, which in the roots of them are arguably not even religious. They're psychological, essentially,

basically the fundamental observation of the Buddha is that everything is connected to everything else

it's going, we suffer less and we harm less. On the other hand, if we fight the fact that things

are changing, and if we try to cling to our experiences and try to make certain things happen inside our minds and we try to push away various things, we create suffering and harm for ourselves and other people, pure and simple. And so that's kind of where it really began for me. And I guess

“I should add as well, that that's what's been the heart of the matter for me. These fundamental,”

very psychological teachings about the deep nature of the mind and what are the causes of our happiness and well-being and welfare and harmony in the way we live with others. And then how can we embody those causes through personal practice learning, right? Now we're coming back to that principle of learning, personal development, cultivation of what's skillful and useful and good and enjoyable inside ourselves. How can we actually

develop our souls in that way? So that's my orientation to all this and later on I learned a lot about both clinical psychology and then certainly neuroscience. So if you think about the combination of hardcore brain science, clinical psychology and contemplative wisdom that combination of those three things is just packed with power and full of skillful means for how we can help ourselves and other people. Young and profitors, a few weeks ago my main video editor put in his notice

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So just starting off, what is the name mean? Oh great. So it's a word from India originally. It means essentially the way it is, the truth of things. And it also can mean accounts of the way it is. So like a body of wisdom, we could say, whether it's a body of wisdom and western psychology, or a body of wisdom, in a particular tradition, such as the Buddhist tradition, which has many aspects to it, Tibetan Buddhism, Xan, Pureland, other forms of it as well. And I put those two

terms together because if you kind of think about it, I'm going to get a little geeky here,

we can know ourselves in two ways. First, we can know ourselves subjectively from the inside out

in terms of our experiences. And that was all that was available to the early teachers,

“such as the Buddha. And certainly until very recently, that's the only way we could know ourselves.”

It was, right? But with modern biology and then neuroscience, and then especially in the last 10, 20 years or so, neuropsychology really coming together, we can know ourselves from the outside in, objectively. The combination of the two, these two ways of knowing ourselves is what I call neurodharma. And we can go back and forth, right? Here we are. We're upset about something. Somebody, our boss is frowned at us. Somebody else took credit for one of our good ideas.

If you're like, let's say a woman as our daughter is reported to us many times. You're sitting in meetings and you say something, everybody ignores you, then some dude down at the other end of the table says the same thing five minutes later, and everybody starts clapping. Like what? Okay, this is happening. It's happening inside your mind. That's what you're experiencing. Meanwhile, if you want, you can also know, oh, I've got this amygdala that is very sensitized to negative

experiences, and so it will routinely turbocharge something that's kind of a one or a two on the objective, yucking to scale, but make me feel like an eight or a nine in terms of being pissed off or wounded or hurt. Oh, I can know that about myself, and I can also know maybe objectively

that my amygdala got sensitized when I grew up in a pretty critical family or in a culture.

“That was pretty critical or shaming, maybe body shaming or who knows what else it was doing, right?”

And by knowing that objectively about the hardware, you know, the three pounds of tofu like tissue inside the coconut, now it's cooking away. Knowing that objectively, right, about ourselves can be matched together with the subjective internal experience, which then let's say might move you to his going. Knowing, let's say that the amygdala has oxytocin receptors on it. In other words, it has receptors for a neurochemical that's released with experiences of healthy

connection, and the action that those receptor sites on the amygdala is calming and inhibitory, like pumping the brakes in a car that's, you know, running away now down a mountain, knowing that, aha, there I am, upset about let's say this thing that happened at work, but I can now deliberately think about or draw in the feeling of being with people, real people, including maybe my dog or my cat, who actually care about me, and when I bring him to mind, I start feeling more connected,

more warmhearted, maybe my caring for them as well, and that is going to increase oxytocin activity in my brain, and calm down my poor little amygdala that's more flashing red right now. That's an example of neurodharma. It's super fascinating. I guess I want to ask you this question, why is it important to be in this calm steady state? Like why is that the best state to be in?

I've done a lot of rock climbing, for example, and you know, I can kind of get excited and intense and so forth. I think what's really helpful is to be able to sustain a kind of

“steadiness of self-awareness, and I think that's what you're really talking about around that steadiness”

of self-awareness, sustained mindfulness of what's happening inside and outside around that can be all the emotions in the world. There can be passions sometime. There can be great peacefulness and tranquility at other times. It's all okay. But meanwhile, there is this steadiness of mind. And that's why, as you know, unlike many people of interviewed me, you actually read my book.

Thank you. Do you credit? You know, as you know, the steadiness of mind is the first of the

seven qualities of ultimately awakening and that we can certainly use to great benefit meanwhile. And we can train and it's especially important to train in our hyper-distractable, multitasking, flooded with stimuli, endlessly distracted time and culture. It's really important to be able to stabilize your own attention. So you can plop it onto what's useful and keep it there or pull it away from what's not helpful, including reminiscing about something that's bugging you.

Totally. And it's so funny. Like you're taking everything from like a very scientific level. But I talked to experts in very successful billionaires and CEOs and they also just have gut feeling when I ask them questions like what is your secret to profiting in life. It's one of the last questions I ask on the show. And a lot of answers are being even killed, you know, don't be too high, don't be too low. If something really bad happens, you know, don't get into a

rut. If something really good happens, you know, don't get too cocky. Everybody says that, you know, you're taking it from a different perspective, but I totally agree there. Can I build on

what you just said there? Yeah. Sorry. So this is great. So I'm talking first. And I misunderstood

“you. I think a little bit about studying a combined. Additionally, you're talking about what”

could be called equanimity being even killed, right? Because you can have steadiness of mind while being roaring upset about something and super rattlepied. But at least you're steadily aware, which is better than being swept away. Additionally, I totally agree. And I think a lot about what it feels like, where in which we can be authentic. You know, I'm a long-time therapist, too. People are upset. Things happen. Other people are jerks. You're living in a time of COVID right now.

It's, we're tired. We're two plus years in. Come on. Right? We feel these things. We can

authentically feel what we feel. Nothing and what you and I are talking about is about lying

about how we really feel or suppressing it or joining with others who are trying to suppress how we really feel or talk us out of it or blame us, blame us for how we feel based on how they treated us. We're not saying anything like this. Well, we are saying, as you well know, is that a person can maintain and grow a core. What feels like a core of being inside themselves that has has resilient well-being in it is calm and steady and even killed, as you said,

even when the world around us is flashing red, even when there's physical pain or sorrow or fear or anger or flying around inside your mind, there can be that felt sense of a core of being. And what's really interesting is to build it out increasingly through positive neuroplasticity. We can gradually build up this kind of resting state, this sort of underlying touchstone. It feels like home. You know, you can get in touch with that. You can come home to it

and you can stay in touch with that. And over time it can become more and more your resting place. And as you look out at the world going, whoa, there's a lot of wild stuff flying around out there. Yeah. And I know it takes a lot of practice and it takes a lot of building to make it more of a habit and to actually change your brain like the makeup of your brain, which we'll

“get into. So I do want to dig in on some more definitions because I think the concept of awakening”

is one that a lot of us have heard about, but we don't really know exactly what it means. And I know the foundation of your book is about cultivating seven ways that are the essence of awakening. So what is awakening exactly? Okay, great. So I've, like I said, done a lot of rock climbing. And I've gone out with a friend of mine, several friends. And one of my friends, when we get out into wilderness, he just wants to plop in a camp chair with a cup of coffee, a cigar, and a

good novel. Okay, I get it. I can relate. My other buddy is a little bit more like me. Like after

or heal or peak. And we'll think, wow, it would just be super cool to get up there, right?

“What's up there at the upper reaches? So there is something in us that is curious.”

After we work through a certain amount of just feeling bad about ourselves and bad in the world, and you know, we're upset a lot with other people. And that kind of starts to stabilize some, we're done. Okay, we're done. Okay. For many people, there's a movement toward the upper reaches of human potential. How much stability of deep contentment, peacefulness and love, is actually possible. And what in the world are people talking about who are, you know,

all the traditions of the world, including those of the first people, the indigenous people, there are people who are like the Olympic athletes that said of personal development. And they seem radiant. Some of them seem saintly. Some of them function within a very specific religious tradition. Others seem to be outside of any particular religious tradition. And yet, they have qualities about them that seem very admirable and desirable. And we think to ourselves,

"Well, I'd like a little more of that myself." Right? So, one of the powerful principles,

whether it's in business, or athletics, or just everyday life, we look to people who are a step farther along, or maybe ten steps farther along. And we look at them and we do a kind of reverse engineering. What are the qualities that they have that we could internalize and live from increasingly

“in ourselves? Which I think is one of the great services that you perform in your podcast because”

in part yourself, and also those you talk with, you're giving the rest of us access to some of what it's like to be those people that we can actually, that's within reach for us to bring in to ourselves. And so, in that sense, I think of awakening very broadly as the gradual process of waking up and moving increasingly up the mountain of human potential. Whatever route we take could be an entirely secular route, it could be a more religious route, it could be a more spiritual route.

As we move up the mountain, those different routes start to converge. And we find as well that on each of those routes, the same seven steps again and again and again, which I'm sure we'll

get into in a second, what are those seven steps. But that's the fundamental process of awakening.

I think of it as the birthright of all of us. A person doesn't have to go all the way to the top

“to be inspired. I will never climb Mount Everest, but I'm inspired by what it is like at the top”

there and the fact that people actually get up to the very top. And I can use that in my more, you know, humdrum, you know, local rock climbing kind of adventures. So that's the thing I would just say and the things that we're going to talk about are not just for so-called spiritual practice, man, oh man, oh man, they are so useful. I have a good background in business and they are so useful in the trenches of everyday life. Young and profitors, a few weeks ago my main video editor

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mentally, you know, get to a red or do something wrong with other people. Yeah, also, yeah, what kind of I mean, almost all of us have had an experience or more where everything just clicks. You know, you're at the beach or the barbecue or your child is born or you're just hanging out or you walk outside, you see the stars, something and Kabush, all your cares and concerns fall away, you're

“still functioning, you're still aware of that email you need to write, the thing you need to do in”

the morning, but it just falls away and you feel just dropped in to a deep sense of well being and all rightness often with a sense of some kind of maybe mysterious connection to to everything, extending beyond time and space even. And we've all had a sense of that, most of us certainly have had a sense of that. Well, why not spend more time there, right? Why not have that be more and more of your daily living and when people spend more time there, they don't become selfish, narcissistic,

navel gaysers. They actually are moved increasingly to be helpful to other people to cause less trouble and to bring others along into their own stream of happiness. Yeah, why not go for it? Why not develop ourselves in that way? And, you know, as you're talking about this, I can't help but think of the opposite of that, which is really the monkey mind, right? So I'd love for you to explain what monkey mind is and how a lot of us really operate every single moment of our lives.

Well, it's a great term for this notion that the monkey, the internal subject, the eye as it were, is looking out through multiple sense windows, sites, sounds, smells, and then also looking

and the monkey's bouncing around, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And, you know, we all have that

sense that we're living inside a kind of popcorn machine. We're thinking about this, then we dart to that that our mind goes here. It's the definition of no steadiness of mind, right? There's

“no control. And I think of attention as a combination spotlight and vacuum cleaner. What we're”

paying attention to is illuminated by attention and through neuroplasticity, we are drawing what we're paying attention to into ourselves with a negative bias because the brain is like Velcro for bad experiences but Teflon for positive ones. So getting control of that spotlight and vacuum cleaner

is critically important and monkey mind is the definition of not having control. A certain key point

here, you know, people can sometimes dismiss this as new agey or a fairy or yoga camp or something or other but actually it's as hardcore as it gets because if you don't have this kind of quality of both steadiness of mind and that internal even killedness, you're not in charge of yourself, you're therefore not in charge of your life. You're not autonomous. You're a puppet, frankly,

“being pulled by the strings of your environment and the reactions inside your body mind,”

you know, to the your environment. And so if you want autonomy, if you really want to be in charge of yourself, the cultivation of steadiness of mind and you know that emotional balance, even killedness you talk about is deeply important. And also there's the opportunity to be competent to become more skillful at this kind of stuff. I know so many people who've invested deeply in getting good at stuff that they know doesn't matter very much that they're job or

their golf game or something like that and yet they'll hardly put five minutes a day into getting more competent at managing their own thoughts and feelings in their own inner world. Yeah, it is super important to do that because most of our thoughts are unconscious or subconscious.

“I think it's only four percent of our thoughts are actually things that we can control.”

And the rest is just good habits and really just redesigning our brain, like you talk about. So to help further drive this point, I'd love for you to explain how we actually react to things on a biological level. How does our brain influence the way that we react to our reality? Super deep question. Really great. So this is a major topic in science. Neuroscience is a baby science, especially if you compare it say to astronomy, you know starting a couple

thousand years ago. The basic idea is that we are having thoughts and feelings, we're having reactions, sites or occurring sounds, sensations, memories, images, plans, all the rest of that. All of that stuff correlates in some ways that are still not entirely clear with underlying neurobiological activity. So we have mind and matter two aspects of reality that are correlating together. Okay. The growing understanding is that our mental processes, our experiences, which are

enlisting underlying physical activities, processes in our nervous system to proceed, our mental activities that are enlisting these neural activities can force a kind of lasting trace to be left behind for our own growing, skillfulness, happiness, resilience, and well-being. We can actually use our minds to change our brains, to change our minds for the better through positive neuroplasticity. That's kind of the big picture. And there are so many

examples of that. There's tons of research that shows, for example, that people who've had a lot of stressful or traumatic experiences have sensitized, as I was saying earlier, they're amygdala, so they react more readily and more loudly. And chronic stress also through cortisol, release. We can's a nearby part of the brain, the hippocampus, which is supposed to put the

brakes on the amygdala, and also put things in context, and third, the hippocampus signals

the hypothalamus, another underlying part of your brain, to stop calling for stress hormones. This might seem a little technical or mechanistic, but it has actually huge implications that being irritated, frustrated, driven, pressured, contracted, etc., etc., etc., today, let alone being traumatized, today gradually makes us more vulnerable and reactive to stressors and pressures

does various things inside your brain that acts like a circuit breaker, so that we can be having negative emotions like fear or anger, flowing through awareness, but if we're mindful of them, there's a spaciousness, there's a distance from that that stops the reinforcement of the negativity and the sensitization inside our own brain. And as just a very cool, quick hack, I'll tell people two things they can do that are grounded in really recent research that are

super neat. One is, if you're upset about something, or you're in a stressful situation, or the oatmeal is really hitting the fan around you, right? Tune into the internal sensations of breathing. You could even do it right now. Get a sense of the air flowing in, and the air flowing out. It's not airy-farry, it's as grounded as it gets. The internal sense of your chest or, you know, lungs or belly expanding as you inhale and kind of coming back in as you exhale, just taking

privately, no one needs to know you're doing that in the board meeting, right? Just doing it internally activates a part of your brain that's called the insula. The insula is a region, or two of them, on the inside of the temporal lobes on either side. And the insula is very involved with interoception, technical term for tuning into yourself, including your gut feelings. So, as you tune into yourself, the insula gets more active, which immediately quiets like a circuit breaker,

the so-called default mode network of your brain, I call it the ruminator, which is where we go. When we're starting to spin out with our monkey mind resentments, regrets, self-criticism, what it could as sure to fantasies of engines and all the rest of that. Just tuning in to your internal sensations, and you can just kind of play with it immediately quiets the internal monkey mind, and relaxes the sense of being a beleaguered self. Just that. That's a quick hack. You know,

after five seconds, a few seconds, one breath, boom, you're starting to feel the benefit.

Second quick hack. Lift your gaze to the horizon. Look out the window, look across the

room, get a sense of the bigger picture, or just even imagine it. Neurologically, what that does

“is it moves you out of this kind of egocentric, self-referential. Oh, what are they doing to me?”

Or I'm going to get them, or my precious. Moose is out of that kind of tense contracted place into a more objective view, a big picture view, which feels much less stressful, much more in the present moment, and, you know, much more effective. So just right there, two little hacks, tuning into the internal sensations of breathing, or lifting your gaze to the horizon somehow can immediately neurologically. This is evidence-based. Change the way your

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“You need to practice with mindfulness, meditation, you know, hours, days, months, years so that you”

can actually change the biological format of your brain. And I'd love to kind of drive this point home by talking about how your brain changes depending on how experienced you are with meditation. So let's take a person who did like a three-day meditation workshop versus somebody who spent months meditating versus a Tibetan monk who spent their whole lifetime meditating. How does their

brain kind of change? This is great. So first off, neuroplasticity just basically means that

And the information flowing through it is the basis for what we experience in terms of our

“unconsciousness. All right. Those changes can happen within half a second actually as different”

neurons fire together or different neurochemicals flow. It's kind of extraordinary just to imagine how small things are. I mean, you could put the cell body of roughly five neurons, typical neurons, side by side in the width of one of your hairs. The little connections between neurons, the synapses, you could put several thousand of them side by side in the width of a single hair. Okay. So it's really, things happen really fast. More structural, not just functional

changes, typically take seconds or minutes or days. It's a longer process whereby new connections form between neurons, existing connections become sensitized or desensitized, neurochemical ebs and flows kind of shift over time, different larger regions of the brain can start coordinating more effectively with each other. Those kind of changes can take longer to stabilize, but the beginning of it is typically a breath at a time. And when we talk about how much it takes to actually

change things for the better over time, honestly, my kind of bedrock threshold is five minutes a day. Just five minutes a day. Most people will not put five minutes a day into some kind of personal practice, but even if you give it that much, let alone more. Like 20 minutes a day or 45 minutes a day. Any kind of practice, gratitude practice, compassion practices, meditation, affirmations, focusing on yourself, worth, building up kind of a lovingness in your own heart.

Whatever, or maybe even a religious practice, whatever, it actually might be for you. It's the law of little things. It's usually lots of little bad things that move just to a bad place, and it's going to be lots of little good things that move is to a better one.

“Which for me is extraordinarily hopeful. It's profoundly hopeful because that's what's under our”

control. It's the little things in the most important minute of our life, which is the next one,

minute after minute continuously. That's where we actually have influence. And so it's up to us to use that influence, and no one can defeat us. No one can stop us from doing that, which are just love fantastically. So all that said, I can tell you how your brain changes, because you seem like a meditator, and I can tell you how your brain has probably changed over time, and maybe others as well. And for key areas, I'll do this really fast, because it illustrates some larger points.

If that's okay. So yeah, first off, parts of your brain typically behind the forehead that are involved in regulating attention, and also that called top-down or executive regulation of our emotions and our actions in general, those neural circuits literally build structure. New connections are forming more blood is coming to those particular regions that are in effect kind of like the chair of the internal mental committee. You know, the physical basis for that

is located in prefrontal regions mainly right behind the forehead. Well, that's one major change

that happens. Second major change that is found in people who have a kind of a semi-decent mindfulness

practice with meditation as well is that there's more regulation of emotions. The sub-cortical areas of the Magdala, the hippocampus and so forth, those get better regulated. They're happier. They're less freaked out. They're less angry. They don't fly off the handle so much. That's a second major change that's found structurally in people who are longtime meditators. Their major change is greater body awareness. People become more in touch with themselves. And being in touch with your

body is the foundation of being in touch with your emotions and your deep, deep, longings and

“important values and most heartfelt desires. So that's a great third change as well, including”

through structural changes, particularly in the insula, which like I said is involved in body awareness. And then last, the sense of self. This is very interesting. People spend less and less time in the default mode network, the ruminator, which is very saturated with a sense of me myself and I, especially in unhappy sense of me myself and I. I've been cheated and mistreated. Why don't I get loved, right? Country and Western songless. And instead that activity decreases and there's

more activity and other parts of the brain, particularly on the sides of the brain, that are more associated with a broader, more open sense of who you are. You still know who you are. You still stop at red lights. You still speak up for yourself. You don't, you know, tolerate mistreatment of

kind of way, which is, wow, an incredible relief. So those are four major changes. Well,

documented in people's brains who have a regular practice of mindfulness and especially meditation. That's so incredible. You know, as you're talking, all I can keep thinking is that people who meditate and who practice mindfulness, they're just happier, right? They, their default state is naturally happier. And no matter what happens in their external, they know how to process those experiences to actually just be happy and content and grateful

and not let it totally off balance how they feel about themselves and how they feel about the

“world. So it brings me to this other really fascinating point. And I think one of the most”

interesting things I found in your book was this concept of ad on suffering. Because you basically

brought in this concept from Buddhism and, you know, tied it together with everything and it really just helped it all come together. So explain what ad on suffering is to us. inherently in life, there's just a certain amount of unavoidable discomfort, physical and emotional. You know, you care about other people. And if you see injustice landing on them or you just know, wow, it's really tough for them to be dealing with what they're dealing with.

You're going to feel it. That's in the Buddhist metaphor, the first arrow or first dart. In life, it's inherent. It's unavoidable. If we fight it, if we beat ourselves up about it, if we rage it, others about it, it just makes it worse. That's the ad on part. Much of our suffering, including subtle forms of an easiness or a annoying sense of inadequacy,

I always have to keep proving myself. I have to always keep impressing other people.

That is what we add to the basic conditions of life, which in and of themselves are often just conditions in life. They're basically neutral. They're not inherently negative. They're not inherently a first dart. But then we get agitated about them. And when you realize that, it's incredibly hopeful because if we are the makers of the majority of our own suffering, not diminishing, not minimizing the actual first starts of life. But when we start to realize how

much we add to them, with our complaints about the world in ourselves, our criticism of ourselves, our nastyness toward other people, are obsessing repetitively in ways that have no added value. There's no learning. We're not gaining anything from doing laps around the misery track. We're just digging that track deeper, actually, through sensitizing ourselves in part driven by the negativity bias of the brain. When you start to realize, "Wow, I'm the source of that myself."

"Hey, you might be depressed for a day or two or three." I have been when I realized, "Darn,

“I was a key factor in all those things I was blaming others for." But then you start to realize,”

wow, that is so helpful, that is so fantastic. Because if I can stop adding, you know, add on suffering, through my reactivity, my resentment, my self-criticism, my meanness, my obsessiveness. If I stop doing that, I'm going to be so much happier and lighter and more able to be good for other people as well. And more successful, I have to say that as I was reading this, I was thinking about all the, because I think everybody has a spectrum of their add on suffering. There's some people who

really do it a lot, and they hinder themselves from any type of growth, and then there's some people who do it a little bit, and they're more successful because they don't navigate the world, blaming everything but themselves in terms of where they're at in life. So, given everything we've learned about neuroplasticity, how can we counteract this? Oh, it's great. I think of people like you've described, including a business, particularly the top performers are kind of more this way.

They don't have so much friction between themselves in the world. I mean, it is what it is, they work hard, they have goals, you know, they have aims, there's a work ethic there, but you don't feel like they're having friction. It's like life, I'm doing this gesture,

“is a rope that moves through our hands. And as we kind of clench it, that's what creates friction”

and adds on all that heat, that extra suffering. So, how do we actually do that? I think of three keys, fundamentally, that are just a kind of summarized, as deal with the bad, turn to the good, take in the good. And that right there is really a road map, again and again and again, for dealing with life. So, first off, deal with the bad. If you have real challenges, take action. You know, there's a long-time therapist, I've really learned, man, there's no replacement for doing what

got it, totally sucks. And huh, what can you do about it? Inside your mind and out there in the

“world, right, including how can you give yourself a little jumpstart, that little spark that”

then, you know, can move you forward. So, deal with the bad. And part of dealing with the bad is accepting at mindfully. It's there. You're upset in the moment. It's how you feel. It's how you feel maybe because of your own history. If you fight how you feel, you just make it worse. It sticks around, you know, right? Well, we resist process. No. So, deal with the bad in this skillful way,

including through mindful spaciousness. Second, when you can and it may, you may not be able to do it

in the first shock or the first intensity or the overwhelming pain. But as soon as you can, also turn to the good, what is also true? Out in the world and inside yourself. Who are the people you can turn to? What are the strengths you can draw upon inside yourself? What is still working

“alongside what is just fallen apart? What are the flowers that are still blooming? What are the,”

what is the goodness in the heart of other people and inside yourself? What are the possibilities that still remain? Turn to the good. Not as a bypass. Not as a spiritual or other kind of bypass of what is the bad, the problematic and the painful. But, in part, as a way to resource yourself to deal even more effectively with what is gone so horribly wrong. Turn to the good. And then, especially, learn from the good. Most people skip this step. They don't take in the good.

They're experiencing something useful. A moment of feeling gritty, a moment of determination, a moment of commitment to work to their exercise program, or being more patient with their aging relatives, or being more rested in their own sobriety, or just simple happiness, or well-being. They're having that feeling, but they don't marinate in it for a beat or two or three, or a breath or two or three. They don't marinate in it. And so, in the famous saying, the neurons

that are firing together don't yet have time to wire together as well. Take in the good, slow it down. I talk a lot about the how of this. It usually takes a breath or two at a time. You can take longer if you really want, but slow it down to receive into yourself. You know, the hard one fruits of whatever year practicing in the time. So, to me, that's the big, those are the big headlines. Those three, and there's a lot of research that underlies the describes and documents,

“the neural psychology of this process. Yeah. And I think in your book, you said it in a really”

catchy way. You said, "Let it be. Let it go. Let it in." And I thought that was super catchy. And something that we could just do anytime throughout the day when we just hit any sort of obstacle, it's something that we can tell ourselves to kind of reset and focus on the good. Yeah, super. Thank you for calling that out. I have of course. Okay. So, let's talk about the seven ways of being that's steadiness, lovingness, fullness, wholeness, nowness, allness, and timelessness.

And you say that they go together and clusters naturally. So, let's start with the first three ways

steadiness, lovingness, and fullness. What are these ways of being? So, here's what I'm talking about.

Like I said, let's look at those Olympic athletes of human happiness and well-being. And then reverse engineer back to ourselves. What are qualities we see in them that we can develop in ourselves and even begin to see already inside ourselves. So, the first three qualities are steadiness of mind, a lovingness of heart, and a fullness of being that makes us, helps us be even killed, you know, a quantumist, as you described in your core. Around the edges, you could be

howling at the moon with good friends on a Saturday night, but in your core, the core of your being, there's a fundamental calm, steady clarity there. So, those three definitely hang together, and they're kind of psychological, they're probably very familiar to us. Interestingly, we can develop them even to the point of perfection. I mean, people who are really at the top of the mountain, and I know people, I know some people who are very close to the summit,

and I've accessed teachers who are hanging out there, basically, they have tremendous steadiness

of mind. The heart is warm, even if they're being assertive, and dealing with stuff, and underneath it all, you can tell. They're just rested in an underlying mood of peacefulness, contentment, and love. You could see that in them, and we can develop that in ourselves.

when you kind of hear me talk about it, or when you look at it inside yourself, you go, oh yeah, I have a sense of that, I have a sense of that. So, the next three are wholeness,

“nowness, and all-ness. So, I'm making up some words here. What do I mean by that?”

The first wholeness is a sense of letting yourself be as a whole, and accepting yourself as a whole,

without being divided internally, and it war with yourself. Just that, ah, doesn't that feel like a relief? Like, oh, there's other self-exceptance. You're still a work in progress, you know, you're still learning a few things, you're still healing a few things, you're still letting go of a few things, inside a context in which you really accept yourself, and you have a sense of abiding as who you are as a whole. Okay, that's wholeness.

Second, nowness, that means basically you're in the present, you know, the power of now, be here now. You're in the present, rather than obsessing about the past or worrying about the future,

“you're in the present. And one thing, for example, that you start to notice when you're truly”

in the present, kind of right at the front edge of now, receiving what's arising as it occurs,

is that most of the time, you're already basically okay. It may not be perfect in the present,

but no shark is chewing on your leg. You're not devastated by terrible news. You're basically all right, right now, in the present, whatever the future may hold. And that recognition, that you actually are, basically all right, right now and now and now is extremely grounding and strengthening, especially if, like me, you have any inclinations or toward anxiety, or you've acquired anxiety because of your nightmare boss or, you know, the guy down the hall,

over the years, you're basically all right right now. So coming into the present and for each one of these in the book, I talk about very current cutting edge plausible neuroscience that underlies each one of these qualities. What's happening in the brain when you have the sense of present moment awareness, you're really in the present and therefore how can we cultivate that so that

more and more you can be stable there? And then the third is almost fancy way of talking about

relaxing the contracted sense of self put upon by others, maybe frankly kind of narcissistic relaxing that relaxing self preoccupations, relaxing that urgency to keep impressing other people, as if you haven't already done enough, relaxing that while opening into everything, feeling connected, you know, you're connected, right? You realize that you're a you, like Hala is different from Rick, right? We're like two separate waves in the ocean, different causes and

conditions are manifesting as you and I right now and still we're part of the larger sea and our deep nature is water, which you can really go a long way with. So here we have that third cluster of wholeness, nameless and all-ness and this is a cultivation for a lot of people, you know, this is more of a personal development if you have a particular interest in it and still, wow, in every day life, the more that the chips are down and things are happening, the more useful it is to be

able to bring your whole self to bear without fighting with parts of yourself while staying in the present, not obsessing about the past or freaking out about the future, well being very aware of how many factors are in play and we're connected to many factors and therefore there are many things out there that might be useful or certainly are important to take into account. That's extremely helpful even in the middle of the worst day at your business or, you know,

your marriage or your life. Then last, timelessness is really the ultimate for some people

“that sense of timelessness is merely an extraordinary experience and that's how they understand it,”

that's cool. I'm fine with that, that's where they wanted to stop. For many, many, many people, they have had, you know, maybe they have in an ongoing way, a sense that there's more to everything than what we see. There's mysteriously more. In the Buddhist tradition that more is talked about in a pretty stripped down way as what is eternal unconditioned, not subject to arising and passing away

to that ultimate capital G ground. I'm not preaching here. I'm just naming things that people

talk about and feel and maybe your possibilities myself. I think there's more to it, you know, then what we see, school and both in my experience and my kind of rational informed view of things.

“And that's what timelessness is about. And again, here too, we don't have to relate to that in a”

religious way. We can relate to it as simply an openness to mystery, an openness to possibility, a sense of possibly a kind of underlying love, even. That's woven into the ongoing wellspring of emergence of reality, continuously, and with a kind of attitude of, don't know so much, not so sure could be. Just that alone is an invitation into timelessness. Super, super interesting stuff. If anybody wants to pick up your book, neurodharma, where can they find it? Well, thank you. It's

everywhere, you know, the usual places, you know, and all the rest of it. And it was, it's been extremely well reviewed. It's a really, I have to say, you know, it was my sixth book. And as a parent, you know, in a sense, I'm the parent of all my books. I love all my children, but I like neurodharma

“the best. It's a culminating book. I'm very personal in it. It's intimate. It's super practical.”

It's very heartfelt. And it's very well referenced. So if you want the evidence, you want the goods, our son who played poker, partly through college to put himself through college, talked about having the nuts, you know, in his hand, you know, having the goodies in his hand. I got the nuts in that book that support as evidence when I'm saying in it. I really encourage people to check it out. I agree. It was a really easy read, even though I'm not a neuroscientist, and it was filled with

actionable ways to actually get started and to learn how to meditate and you gave practices. So I really enjoyed it. How do you use this in everyday life? Not just in your meditation. And if you want to leave you with the five-minute challenge, sure. You want it? Okay. So like I said, most people

“won't give five minutes a day to their practice, but you could do this if you want to. And in the”

supports, what I wrote about in the book, not just in formalities of meditation, but in everyday life,

which is where mostly we're going to heal and grow in everyday life. First, as you flow through your

day, a handful of times every day, slow down for breath to take in the good. Like right now, I'm having a nice interaction with you. You're a solid person. We don't know each other well. It's not more than what it is, but it's not less than what it is. We can take in the good of those feeling that we have with each other and how much enjoyment I've gotten out of this certainly for myself. So slow it down, take in the good. That'll take you maybe a minute a day.

Second, no one thing in particular. You are developing inside yourself these days. What's one thing in particular? You're trying to grow. What's the superpower you're working on these days? It could be something very specific, like training yourself to be a little more patient when things happen

around you. So you don't just say the first thing that pops into your head. Or maybe you're working

on being less scared of public speaking or asserting yourself in a meeting or being less vulnerable to just brooding about a word someone used or a little bit of a dismissiveness you encountered and feeling really bad for days afterward. You're working on that. So whatever it is you're trying to develop more inside yourself as a strength, focus on opportunities A to experience that or some factor of it each day and B take in the good. Slow it down. Once you get that good song

playing in the inner iPod, turn on the inner recorder so increasingly it becomes a part of you. That might take another minute or so a day. And then third, make sure that every day, often just before you go to bed. That's a good time to do it. Do what I call marinating in deep green. In other words, instead of the red zone or the pink zone of feeling stressed and pressure and irritated and resentful and hurt over the course of the day, we deliberately rest.

We find an authentic sense in the present of peacefulness, contentment and love. Whatever way you can and I offer a lot of ways into this in the book itself. Whatever way you can, slow it down for a minute or two or three. If it's the last thing you do before your head hits the pillow, to just kind of reset and come home to this resting place inside

As you rest there, you will be changing your brain. You will be changing your nervous system

in your body and gradually hardwiring that sense of peacefulness, contentment and love into the core of your being so that you can take it with you increasingly wherever you go. That's the five minute challenge. I love that. So I was just going to ask you and you answered it for me, what is one actionable thing we can do every day to become more young and

profiting tomorrow. So thank you for that. And the last question we ask all of our guests is,

“what is your secret to profiting in life? Fantastic question because the way I'm going to”

slightly translate it, including from my own business experience, is durable gain, lasting gain, the good that lasts. So much of what we experience is nice in the moment, but it runs right through our fingers. There's no return on investment. There's no ROI. So what is it that leads to lasting gain, which might be translated, I have a business myself. I'm interested in financial profit, in addition to personal profit, if you will.

In terms of personal profit, lasting gain inside yourself, I think the thing that has really helped me is a kind of humility that makes me value learning. A kind of sense that, wow, we're vulnerable. We're frail. We don't know

“everything. Life is challenging. We depend on things, and that's not shame. It's humility that's”

as I need to value growing. I need to look for ways every day to become a little unburdened from my childhood and my life to become a little clearer, a little more skillful with other people, a little kinder, you know, a little wiser, a little happier. And I have the power to do that every day. And it really does come for me. This kind of intimacy of humility and a sense that says, "Ah, I don't know everything already. I really need to help myself grow and heal and learn every day."

It's so true. And it's like, you'd never stop. There's always room to improve and to continually

better yourself and your mind and the way that you operate in the world. So I totally agree there.

“Where can our listeners go find more about you and everything that you do?”

Very kind, Hala. I think my websites, the best place, Rick Hansen, S.O.N., Rick Hansen.net. And it's charcoal of freely offered resources, tons of quick little video snippets, audios, practices, things people can do. Access to all kinds of other tools that are grounded in brain science and contemplative wisdom and practical psychology. So, Rick Hansen.net, that's where I would encourage people to go. You might also like the podcast I do, like you do a podcast.

I do a podcast with our son Forest, the Being Well podcast, which is really rising in the church. Thank you. Thanks to him, especially. And we also have lots of great guests there too. So people might want to check that out as well. Be well. That's so cute that you do it with your son. I love that. You don't hear that every day. Thank you so much, Rick. This was such an excellent conversation. Thank you, Hala.