How a Single Mother Reclaimed the Dream She Never Lost

They never knew that I could write songs.

I was buried in responsibility with taking care of my six children that I adopted a child, which is my niece. And my mom had MSO, she lived with me for 15 years, right? But I got it done because I remained consistent with trying to work on my craft. And the dark, even when I couldn't go to a studio, even when nobody knew my name as far as a musician,

even when nobody knew that I had talent. G. G. Hynes is an author, musician, and transformational voice helping people reclaim who they are after years of responsibility, fear and self-doubt. Through her upcoming books in her music, she's using her own story to help others come back to themselves and remember the passion they thought they lost. Did you listen to what the world told you and forgot who you were, and how do you get back to that person? And when I was a kid, I love music, and in full circle today, it never left.

Yeah, and I think one tip, you know, whether it's business, finding something that you loved as a kid, now days I just try it. And you need to listen to that voice that good feeling telling you. It's not over, I'm telling how we're... The living your legacy podcast, for those who live to leave a legacy. Hello and welcome back to another episode.

So I'm here today with G. G, we're going to dive into life, legacy impact, everything, all the amazing work you're doing, I know we're going to talk about. And, you know, one thing you said to me, I'll fly in which I put my attention, she helped people reclaim their voice. So I'd love to start with that. Tell us a little about yourself and what that is.

“That is so important because it's part of identity, and you must know who you are, right?”

You're in order to do your prepping work as a world, right? So I help people reclaim their voice. And I think that's so needed, sorry, to kill you off, but like so many people are too afraid to be themselves these days, right?

Exactly, my mom used to always say, be yourself.

Yeah. And I kept, she said, so much that was like, okay, I think I am being myself. But what does that mean, you know, and sometimes we don't know what it means. And you might need a little help doing that, try to figure out. Am I living on purpose, or am I just living and working and doing what it has to do to make ends meet or whatever.

It feels better when you know who you are, and you can provide outwardly to the world. Something great, something that the world needs, because apparently we're all here for a reason, right? So we all here for a reason, and we need to know what that reason is, so that we can do our best work.

“And you know, I think it's interesting, because I always teach and I have this loud, bold brand and stuff, right?”

And I think I've always been successful in business and do works. I'm not afraid to be myself and I love it. I luckily grew up not caring too much about what people think. And I've noticed that the coaching people and seeing people throughout life and my staff and friends is we live now in a world. I think because the social media more than ever that everyone cares so much about how they look and what other people think.

Exactly.

You know, I always say one of the freeing, freeing, most freeing gifts of life is to not care if I was in that care.

See, that was my problem before I always care. I always care what people thought, and if I was saved to myself, if I could be like that person who doesn't care. And I can really shine, right? You know, and I look at you with your hair hair and everything, I love it. You know, and now I'm, I'm starting to become that person and teach other people how to become that person.

And it's incredible when you do that. Your happiness goes up, you know? Doesn't it? Yeah, it's like throwing the middle finger and I wouldn't do that. But it's like, who cares?

At the end of the day, people, even if they don't like something about you, they have to, they'll learn to respect your confidence. They'll learn to respect something about you that they wish they had. Yeah.

“You know, so that's why I'm doing what I'm doing with the quiet, reclaiming book that's coming out.”

It's a mirror of my own journey, my own story is, it starts, of course, with my rearing as a kid. Because you know, that's, that's the basis of who we are. You know, and you look back and you say, well, I'm like this now, and you got to go back and we won the time. And you realized, oh, that was something in my childhood that helped me become this person. Yeah, it hurt me to become this person.

Yeah, I think most people, they all brought up to like, hey, don't do that. You got to fit in, hey, the kids will pick on you. Hey, the teacher will be telling you off, right? Exactly. I mean, one reason I don't care too much about other people thing is my parents were pro athletes.

So they were long doing their own thing.

And that was in a bad way. But you know, I could, I kind of like, you know, had braids in my hands. Yeah, I'm like, died in my hands. Yeah, freedom. It's, you know, and yeah, sometimes yeah, you would get bullied in school forever.

You learn to deal with it. You know, I know.

“Yeah, so I think that that helped me get, get like that.”

And I think it's like training a muscle, if you grew up and you've always care about other people thing.

It's really hard to shed that skin and train that muscle. You can get comfortable. That's so impactful what you just said. It's like training a muscle. It's not even about what you're doing.

It's the ability in having a confidence to be able to do it. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. That's big.

That's huge. So in training at muscle. Yeah. We train like kids. We were trained.

And sometimes we have to retrain muscle. Because sometimes we pick up some old bad habits and things. Old bad thoughts, doubts. Belief systems, right? Yeah.

And those beliefs systems. They change. They impact how we go on about the rest of our life. So I think sometimes it's called, get your mind right. You got to get your mind right.

I have a mid-trial that used to tell me that all the time. I'm like, what do you mean? My mind is right. It's like, no, you got to get your mind right. That's okay.

He says, but sometimes we don't know how to get out of my mind. Yeah. So we got to do something that lead us to becoming that person that we, it's transformation. Yeah.

A lot of times. A lot of times. You know what I mean? When you eventually get there, you know, like I said, it is much more freeing and happiness.

Yeah. You know, you get so comfortable. You know, now I kind of, you know, we're actually looking through photos and videos with me on social media. And you know, my hair is so red.

Yeah. I was joking with my family. I'm like, like, I already did Christmas. My hair is, you know. But just deal with it.

I get all my sides of it, so I got this red wig on my head. You know, it's so fun. But you got to apply it. It's your brand. Yeah.

And then people expect it after so long. Yeah. And then you're consistent with it. Yeah. So that's another thing that I noticed that being consistent is what gets you,

where you want to be, whether it's something silly. And you start doing it. People expect it. But if you can make a brand out of that. Yeah.

I call it the gimmick. You want to gimmick. You're not going to gimmick. Yeah.

“People remember that you don't remember the everyday average person.”

Right. You're on your ever remember the crazy thing. There you go. My friend told me since that we went to that event last night. I posted some pictures on Facebook, right?

And I showed her this hair. But I let her be the first one to see it. And then she goes, no, gee, I wouldn't have picked that for you. And she's like, why did you do it? Like, you know, as I said, well, hey, you know, if it becomes a brand,

everybody will remember me, right? So then I just have to live up to it. That's all it is at the end of the day. So, like, welcome to the quiet reclaiming. It's no longer quiet.

Yeah. Yeah. I like that. So, you know, you've got the book. But let's talk a little about, you know, how do you help people.

Obviously, you bring in the book. Yeah.

It's always to work with you.

Yeah. Yes. Definitely, I want to talk about that a little bit because the quiet reclaiming is called quiet because there were steps that I was taking along the way. I was buried in responsibility with taking care of my six children.

Then I adopted a child, which is my niece.

“And my mom had MS, so she lived with me for 15 years, right?”

And quietly I was working on my passion, which is music. And I went to college and, you know, it was tough. I had a very tough time trying to balance everything. Mm-hmm. But I got it done because I remained consistent with trying to work on my craft.

And the dark, even when I couldn't go to a studio, even when nobody knew my name as far as a musician, when even when nobody knew that I had talent. My best friends of 30 years right now never knew that I was a musician. They never knew that I could sing. They never knew that I could write songs.

Mm-hmm. So what I did was I kept working on it. And now that I'm writing the book, it's going to be a transformational guy to help people learn how to come back to themselves. Man, woman, boy girl, it doesn't matter gender, right? It's going to matter about where you lost in duty.

Where you did your shrink. Did you listen to what the world tells you and forgot who you were? And how do you get back to that person? What was that thing that made you alive? Well, that thing that made you have so much joy and passion?

We all have at least one thing that we can go back and think about that. You know, when I was a kid, I really liked this or that. And when I was a kid, I love music. Mm-hmm.

And in full circle today, it never left.

Like, I thought it was like I was too old now, right? Well, six kids and they are all graduated. My oldest son is my 36. Hey, I got a teenage boy that's 16 now. But then everybody's graduating and I said, "Oh, it's too late."

You know, some little voice, you know, I always had this voice on the left voice on the right.

The other voice is saying, "No, but I like that." You know, I don't want to get rid of it. What do I do? How do I get back to it?

“Anyway, you know, and you need to listen to that voice that gut feeling.”

Telling you, this is where you were born to do. Yeah, and I think one tip, you know, whether it's business, find in something that you live as a kid. Mm-hmm. Now, days, I just try it. You know, okay.

I think, I mean, we're so worried about like, we become over on a liticle as we get old. And the reason kids have fun and play is they don't analyze things. And this is the same reason they fall over and hurt themselves. But the core purpose is they're not over analytical, right? They don't actually have that part of the brain developed yet.

And as we grow and become older, we develop that too much in many cases. So you want to try singing or you want to try becoming, you know, getting to painting, right? Well, unto DJ, you know, just spend $200 on Amazon and try it. What are singing? If you don't like it, you throw it out.

Yes, exactly. What's the word for being able to analyze it for months. Instead of actually just pulling the trigger and trying it. So now, you know, I've got much better about trying things. Okay.

One year, I wanted to learn music. I picked the piano, bought a piano and I didn't put the piano to come on. So, and I was at no music bone in my body. Wow. But that's because I got used through business.

I mean, more of just, you know, let's try it and figure that and see how he goes.

“And I think, you know, a phrase I was used.”

It's what's the worst that can happen. What's the worst they can happen? You learned something new. That you decided, oh, well, that's not the thing that I want to do. But at least I know how to do it.

Yeah.

And you can have stuff to bag you up and be, you know, that second thing that you can do.

If all else fails, you can go right back to it. Yeah. So dancing for me was, was that other thing I used to dance. You know, I was a ballerina growing up, you know. I want to say ballerina, but it was more like I was in tap dance, modern dance.

Oh, yeah. And jazz, you know, all of that stuff. And so that's another part of the passions that I have. But I just really want to help people that have been in the situation similar to mine. It's where they were buried in responsibility.

As you can tell, when I say it, I have six kids or seven kids. And then I have my step mom. And then I didn't even mention my brother and sister. I had to take care of them because when my mom took sick, they were four and five. So from all the way into age 18 to have to bring them along.

So you're talking about a household of nine, ten people. And I want other people to know that if you're struggling with caregiving or children and they lost themselves, it's not over. Well, I think this so I have so much of that. Yeah, I'm fortunate.

I was a younger than I've kids and all that stuff. But I meet so many people sat in this chair or at my events. And you know, I'm like, business is hard enough.

I could never imagine having that razor.

It was the ability to look after a massive, a big relative. And I think that's, you know, so inspiring to hear that. It really blows my mind because it's like, but I think it's so great for people to hear those stories. Because I do think people, you know, I understand it so hard. But you can even use it as an excuse not to piss you your dreams.

Or you can try and still pursue your dreams. Yeah, I love the stories where, yes, you have all this juggle. But you don't use it as an excuse not to pursue your dreams.

“Because I always believe, like, you should never sacrifice all your own happiness for someone else.”

It's like, you never put the mask on on in the plane when it's going down. Because if you're dead, you're not any use to anyone else. There you go. And I do believe that in your own happiness. And I mean, too many people do sacrifice their own goals and dreams for other people.

And if they never come back to themselves. Yeah, you've got to, you've got to have that balance, you know. That's it, that balance is, like you mentioned, you have to have that balance. And you have to, like, let it use you use it for fuel. In other words, all of my struggles are turning around and use it for fuel.

It's like, you know what, I'm not upset that I'm dealing with this. But I am concerned that if I don't do something for me, it's, I'm not going to be able to live it out. Yeah. And who wants to know how it comes back to not worrying too much.

You know, having that conversation or creating those boundaries. Again, not everyone does it because they don't want to upset someone else. Exactly. Well, you've got to be able to also take care of yourself. Yes.

Self, self first before anybody, before you can help anybody else. You've got to be able to help yourself. But sometimes we go wrong when we are helping everybody else.

And we never think about us.

That happens to me once and I create, I experience the burnout. And I never wish that on anybody else. And I'll never do it again. Yeah. Learn from your mistakes.

Yeah. Good. Good. So last couple of questions, you know, everyone on hairs on a mission to help people change the world. Yeah.

Like I say, what does that mean to you? What is your mission? My mission is to, I'm going to leave a legacy for my kids. I want everything that I'm doing to be impactful to someone else's life. And if I could just help one person, I think God will be happy with me.

I'm sure you can.

“I think the story is the, you've done, you know, that's why we're here doing these things.”

Yes. Yes.

The beauty of modern day world is the media and the ability to reach millions of people.

And that's why we do all this to, you know, people to hear that message and realize they're not alone. Oh, you're not alone. You know what, what you've gone through and, and we're trying to create these things. So I love that. So last question, people are inspired motivated or fascinated by you and your journey.

“Where can they find you and the functional those things?”

Sure. So my website is gghynes that's spelled with two g's, h i g h n e s s dot com. And of course, Instagram, Instagram is gghynes. And also they call me ant gg. So my books, well, I'm saying books because I will have more than one.

Many clients. Yeah. Yeah. Actually, I started off with one and it split into three because I have such a big story. So I said, I'm not going to condense this in over where anybody else. And so yeah, you can find my books.

It's called a quit and the quiet reclaiming and then that's going to be on Amazon. Also, the book of rock. That is a more spiritual book. It's like, you know, the breath of God and he breath over the world and he may things happen. We have abilities, the spiritually that we can start putting that into this universe.

But it starts with us.

“You have to know where you are like in a deep on the GPS before you can know where you're going, right?”

So yeah, that's second book and my music, my music.

Just look for me on all the major platforms, Spotify. It's going to be Amazon, YouTube, Apple. And even Pandora, eventually. So yeah, get ready for it. My first single is called It's Our Time.

I love it. Yeah, it's my time. It's your time. It's our time. Very fitting.

Yeah, excited for that. So everyone, I hope you enjoyed that story and we're inspired by it and maybe some of you resonate with that. And, you know, can take something and apply it into your life from what we discussed today.

So as always, keep working hard, have impact, have legacy, and I'll see you guys soon.

Take care. Peace out.