How to Easily Feed Your People

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So I could talk about meals, my entire life, and like never run out of things to say.

You listen, you eat multiple times a day. A sizable portion of you listening are responsible for the meals of children, maybe partners. There are so many decisions with food, things like seasons, budgets, baseball, dietary restrictions. So many things impact all of those food decisions. It never ends.

You will be feeding yourself and maybe other people forever. Forever. So I have put together 12 ideas to make it easier to feed yourself and your people. These are the greatest hits of lazy genus meal planning, all in one place.

Plus, until the emergency soup rerun from a couple of weeks ago when I lost my voice, we have done only two food episodes on the podcast in the last two and a half years. What? I did an episode about snacks in June of 2024 and then an episode about when you don't want to cook in August of 2023.

You guys, that is so much time without talking about meals. Plus there are so many of you who are new here. You don't know about brainless crowd pleasers. You don't know about planning your hot dogs. You don't know about my three-fifths rule.

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level. These are the most dependable meal tools out there and I am so pumped if you cannot tell my voice that we're going to have a whole episode dedicated to them today. After we more easily feed our people, we're going to have a little extra something where I share some of my favorite cookbooks for dinner recipes.

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You don't have an easier time feeding your people, but if you use multiple over time, I cannot tell you. You will be in such tremendous shape in the kitchen. You will not be able to stand at. So let's just jump on in. So your first tool to make it easier to feed your people is having a list of brainless crowd pleasers. Brainless crowd pleasers, or BCs, which I will sometimes use.

BCs are those meals that do not take any mental effort to make their brainless, right? And they also make the people happy. They're a crowd pleaser. When you have even one or two of these, they're like the booze in the choppy waters of

“dinner. They're so good to have and use regularly as often as you need to.”

Now here is an really important distinction about brainless crowd pleasers. Brainless does not necessarily mean easy. One of our best BCs is chicken tikka masala. It's not super easy, especially if you've

never made it before. It's not like a dump in stir. You have to get a lot of ginger and garlic

and chop up jalapeno. You have to be comfortable cooking quickly over high heat, because you add a bunch of spices and tomato paste to those aromatics after you saute them. You have to cut chicken into pieces ahead of time, so you can simmer it in the sauce. There's multiple steps. In some ways, it's kind of a dump in stir, but you've already prepared the things that

you're going to dump in stir at a time. It's not the easiest thing, but because I have made this dish so many times, I could do it with my eyes closed practically. I don't have to look at a recipe. I don't even have to think. I know exactly what it is. It's brainless, almost meditative, and a win for the family, because most everybody likes it. So it is for sure a brainless crowd pleaser. So as you think through the meals you currently make,

don't discount complicated meals from your list. It's especially if they're brainless to you. The point is to have a list of meals that require little mental effort to make, and they make most everybody fairly happy. This list will save your life, even if you just

that worked out fairly well. Make it again until it becomes a brainless part of your meal prep.

And then you can just add that to the list. It's like, well, that's everybody likes that kind of, and I'm getting better at that. Let's put that on the brainless crowd pleaser real. List. Make it your goal to build up that list. The longer that list is, the easier dinner will be. Number two, choose consistency over variety. Consistency over variety. All right, now a caveat out of the gate. If variety matters to you a great deal, choose variety. That's great.

Consistency is not better than variety. I am intentionally speaking to people who struggle to get

dinner on the table. And for those folks who feel like dinner is a struggle, variety is going to be

“in obstacle. That is why an important tool for you is consistency over variety. I think it is”

better to slowly build your dinner-making muscles with the same five meals over and over, then to keep trying new things and getting discouraged because the dinner-making process remains rocky. New recipes are like, "Lotted," and we do love the idea of variety. But if you have not yet developed the muscles of making dinner night after night without it being a huge overwhelming chore, new recipes are just going to make it harder. They're just going to make it more overwhelming.

So consider taking a season. Maybe the next month or so. And just make the same dependable

things again and again. Get into a rhythm of knowing what's for dinner and making it night after night again and again. Even if it's cereal and eggs, get into a consistent rhythm, develop those muscles. It is, mmm, hear me. It is much, much easier to add a new recipe or a new technique into a rhythm

“that's already working. Okay? I'm putting this one at the top. It's number two because I think it's”

that important. These are not listed in order of importance, but also I want you to be here. I want you to hear this. If you do not already have some level of consistency and ease in what is for dinner and getting it on the table, I want you to find it with repetitive, easy meals. Learn to walk before you run. Walk with spaghetti and hot dogs and slow cook or barbecue chicken and whatever feels like a cop out or too easy in your head. It's not. Those things are not. It's all dinner.

It all counts. And you're not only eating, but you're learning how to get dinner on the table without a feeling like a herculian effort. You know how I say it's more important to learn how to pivot,

“then to learn how to plan. When it comes to meals, I think it's more important to learn consistency”

rather than learn how to cook. I think it's easier to add cooking and new skills into a consistent rhythm. So start small. Take your time. You're going to be making dinner forever. So it's okay if you take a while to learn some new things. Consistency over variety. Number three, use a meal matrix. All right, a meal matrix is my name for any type of dinner decisions structure. It's like kind of like a plug and play for dinner. Tacos on Tuesday. Pizza on variety. Past on Mondays. Leftovers on Sunday,

right? That's one version. Like a particular meal on a particular day. Now you can also decide that you'll have like one rice bowl meal a week, one pasta meal a week, one meal off the grill every week. And then you just put those meals on the days that make sense for that week schedule or for your energy. You can choose anything for any day. In fact, you can make just one decision per week and still call it your own meal matrix. Like how it's done, how many days it encompasses

none of it really matters. Just decide some things and do them week after week after week. That is your personal meal matrix. The Adachi family meal matrix is well, it's evolved over time as most things do. We used to do pasta Mondays and then homemade pizza on Fridays like religiously. Now we do the most beloved brainless crowd pleasers on Mondays because my middle kid hates pasta and also hates Mondays. So like giving him his least favorite meal on his least favorite day

I spend more of my baking energy on pastries bread desserts now. Plus we found a great local pizza place

“that everybody likes even Annie who doesn't actually like pizza. She would not eat my homemade pizza.”

Well, weirdo. So my meal matrix, it's adjusted, right? So it's almost always brainless crowd pleasers

Monday. We do Tony's pizza on Friday. And then on the other days, weekdays, at least one rice and chicken dish, one pasta and usually there's like a night of leftovers. Usually Sunday but it might adjust. I try to throw out a new recipe in there or riff on something familiar. So my kids get used to new things and then maybe another brainless crowd pleasers or we'll go out. That's seven things. Since our days change week to week, I am also trying to get the kids more involved in making dinner.

The meals are more or less the same but they're not dependent on the day and depending on who's going to help me with them. You know, it all kind of adjusts. But that works really great for me in the season of life as it things aren't necessarily tied to a specific day. I can decide which meal fits where based on what's going on that week. So use a meal matrix. The fewer dinner decisions you

“have to make. That's the point here. The fewer decisions you have to make. The easier it is to feature”

people. Okay, that's number three. Number four. Use a dinner queue. Okay, what you think about your Netflix queue, right? It's helpful to have a smaller list of shows and movies to choose from rather than everything Netflix has to offer, right? The same is true for dinner. If you try and plan dinner

from every option ever, you will as the kids say crash out. To illustrate this point, I always

look to Google the phrase chicken recipes. Just to see how many results there are. But the first search result that I just did, it is a list of 105 of the best chicken recipes. So the first one is actually like, here are 105 of the best ones. Now, there are wildly more than 105, right? Way more. But also, you don't even need 105 chicken recipes. Especially not right now. When you're

“just trying to figure out what to eat in an hour. So instead, I want you to have a dinner queue.”

A dinner queue is a curated list of recipes that work for you in this season of life. Whether it's like the rest of spring or the rest of the school year or whatever boundary you want to create. Create a selection, a queue, of meals you're going to choose from. Some old some new. That way, you're not searching all of the internet when it's time to make dinner. Cookbooks are natural dinner cues, right? They're a limited number of recipes in one book, boom. A Pinterest board,

some tabed recipes in a favorite app, or just your favorite brainless crawl pleasers, and just that's it, right? All of those are natural dinner cues. You could go really simple and make your dinner queue. You're a list of brainless crawl pleasers, and then like one cookbook you already own. And not something enormous like Mark Bittman's how to cook everything. Like something simple that might give you a handful of things to try from a trusted source. And like I said, I'm going

to share some favorites of mine at the end of the episode and a little extra something. Here's how our dinner cue works. I have two dry erase, like monthly calendars on the wall in the kitchen.

And that way the kids can always look rather than mom what's for dinner. I'll just say look at

the board or sometimes they just look at the board, but they still ask. But I have these two calendars which is where I'll be a plan. And on the side of the calendar where it's like, you know, a place for notes or whatever, that is where I have written down our brainless crawl pleasers. Along with a few other options, that is a great cue to pull from when I'm planning. I don't have to depend on my brain. It's right there, right? I also have this little notebook where I write down my favorite

new recipes I want to try from cookbooks. I, I know this might be a little weird. I prefer cooking from my own notes than from a cookbook. Again, might be weird. But it's just how I work. What I'll do is I'll read a recipe. I'll get the gist. And then I'll write it down in my own way in a tiny notebook. So that notebook is also part of our dinner cue. It's almost like a little Apache family cookbook of things that we've tried. So just the point is, don't pull from every recipe that's ever been made

ever. Have a small selection of recipes that work for right now in the season you're in and plan only from those. Choose only from those. It's so much easier. And then you can revisit the cue

you go through all kinds of soups on there, but you might not want those in summer. So you can just

“adjust your dinner cue based on the season that you're in. Okay, number five, remember that not”

everything has to be a matter. But it's sort of so important. It is wildly helpful to remember for the rest of your cooking life. Not everything has to be a vanger. Not every meal has to be awesome. Like you can nourish yourself and your people with mediocrity and it's fine. Once you take the pressure off yourself that everything has to be a vanger, you don't feel as scared to try something new. And you definitely feel less discouraged if something new that you

tried wasn't great because that's not the point. You're just trying something. Maybe it'll be great, maybe it won't. But the expectation is not everything's going to be a vanger. I also think it's important to have a gauge for yourself on what counts as a win. And not a win in like, am I good at this or whatever? Like a win of what I make this again? What I make this recipe again? Most new meals that you try that come with cadiots. Like rarely does a new recipe

hit it out of a park the first time. Well, I have different preferences and skills,

everyone's learning, everybody has different spice tolerances, all those things. But it's so nice to have an idea of what makes something worth making again. This is not technically counting

“as a tool, but it's like a little side tool. And it's my gauge for that of like, what do we keep?”

Is our three fifths rule? We have five people in the house. So if three out of five likes something, I'll make it again. If it's less than three out of five, we skip it. That's it. I can count on one hand. It's so sad. I can count on one hand the number of five out of five meals. One hand. There are not many. We've got a lot of four out of fives and a few more three out of fives and to me that is wildly successful. Now, what I like more meals and everyone loves, of course,

of course. And when I make something new, I hope it becomes one. I hope it's a five out of five, but I don't consider that the line of success. If I did, I would be constantly discouraged as I make dinner forever. So give yourself like a reasonable measurement or gauge on what makes something worth making again and don't expect everything to be a barrier. It's like the most freeing tool around. That's number five. Number six, put your happiest meal on the hardest day.

I said this before and it's pretty standard approach to put your easiest meal on the busiest day and I stand by that, but a really good variation is to put your happiest meal on the hardest day. Each week will have a different heart day. It might be Monday, just because it's Monday, and everybody's struggling to get back into the groove after her the weekend. It could be Wednesday because like the kids this week have standardized tests and they're just zombies at the end of the day.

“It could be a day when you know you have to fire somebody at work. That's going to be a really”

hard day. You know, put your happiest meal on the hardest day. This is why I like planning a week at a time. I can make a pretty educated guess about what's going to be busy, right, which gets an easy meal, but I can also anticipate what might be a hard day and that gets a happy meal. In fact, I am realizing, as I'm speaking, that today is going to be a hard day for my family, and I did not put a super happy meal on the menu. So do you know what I'm going to do?

I'm not going to adjust dinner because some things are like already prepped actually, and I can't quite yet, but what I am going to do is I'm going to go bake some chocolate chip cookies that I have in the freezer to make dinner a little happier on a hard day. Put your happiest meal on your hardest day. Food is comfort. Happy food, whatever that is for you, it revives the body in the soul. So like make that part of your meal planning and make it more alive, not so like robotic and a chore.

Number seven, have your people choose. If you are planning and cooking just for yourself, this one is less relevant, but if you live with other people, especially with kids, have them choose. On Sunday afternoons, that's when I meal plan. If I just don't have it, if I don't have the energy at all, or if it's like, let's flip them choose. I'll go around my three kids and I'll say, hey, what's something you want to eat this week for dinner? Because they all like different things,

I'll get three different answers, always. I never get repeats because they all like different things. But I

will get that's three days of meals right there. Like who cares if it's what we just had last week? Consistency over variety and I'm being kind to myself in making dinner easier. So have other people choose. Let them choose. Now if they say something that's like just not doable, like they say

sort of fancy like New Yorky situation. You can be like, hey, great idea. That will have to say

“for another week. I will go right down so we don't forget, but like what's your next pick?”

And then go with that pick. You know, let the people choose. It might not make your meals more varied, but it will make them easier. And that is the name of the game. Number eight, one vegetable per meal. Now some people love vegetables. Some people have kids who love vegetables. Some people have no problems getting multiple vegetables into their meals. This tool is not for those people. This tool is an easy decision maker for dinners that seem meat or carb heavy.

And you want to get more nutrients into your family that is actually a little bit harder to get vegetables into. So just have one vegetable per meal rule in your own head. You can release the pressure of adding more than that when you're making a recipe. And you can also just like cut up carrot sticks, or throw cherry tomatoes in a bowl and call it good. Like it's fine. The vegetable doesn't have to be cooked every time. It's also okay for the vegetable to be a potato. Potatoes are vegetables.

They're full of great stuff and often one of the most cost effective vegetables to buy.

“Like I'm not a dietitian, but I think it's okay for you to give yourself permission to eat”

potatoes. Basically this tool is like a pressure valve. It releases what's built up over months and

years of cooking, maybe for your family, or yourself, thinking that you have ruined them or yourself, because like they don't like salad. Because you're not cooking bountiful green sides every meal, you skip the vegetables all together. It's like the consistency over a variety mindset. You might be sacrificing your ability to get better at consistent dinners and get food on the table, but you're sacrificing that because you feel guilty repeating meals. Similarly, you might be

sacrificing you and your people eating vegetables because you're trying to go for many when you could go for just one and you're allowed to make it a potato. One vegetable per meal start there and see what happens. Don't worry about variety yet. Just start with one per meal. Whatever that looks like is good for now. If that is something that matters to you. Okay, number nine. Don't be a freezer hoarder. If you use your freezer for like ready to go meals,

it is easy to keep them there. You're like wanting to save them for when you really need them, but who decides that? Plus, your freezer, it has limited space. Eventually, you're not going to be able to fit anything else in there. Use your freezer, use what you've stored, grab the bag of chili you made when you double it because a food blog told you to double it and thought that chili and eat it tonight for dinner. Use your freezer. Don't hoard what's in there

for the best possible time. The best possible time is now. If you tend to be a freezer hoarder, maybe you can make a freezer meal part of your meal matrix for a while. Like once a week, you eat something out of the freezer. Put it on your busiest day so that it's easier to get dinner on the table. Call a good. I already mentioned that we have to take a masala thoroughly often, and recently I had it on the calendar to make for dinner. Well, the day kind of went upside down a

little and even though take a masala is brainless, I did not have the time, much less the brain, and then I spotted a bag of tikka that I had frozen after making extra a couple of months before, and I was so thrilled that I did think for a moment. Should I say that? And then I was like, no, I saved it for right now. Like this is the time that I need a meal that's ready to go.

“I think it's a mindset that takes practice, especially if you've been a freezer hoarder for a long”

time, but just use your freezer. Not just when you're desperate, but it's a general way of making dinner. It will ease the pressure week after week, making it easier, not just making dinner, but it makes it easier to freeze extra again because you're freeing up room in your freezer. Use your freezer. Use your freezer. Number 10. Go one more day. This is a great phrase and a tool from Kate Strictler of nap time kitchen. This is her phrase. Go one more day. Many of you already

know and love Kate. Her black bean soup is legendary, but one thing she says often that is a tool anyone can use is go one more day. In the world of stocked pantries and endless grocery options,

it can feel necessary to always have everything available to you. But budgets and time don't

always allow that. And it might stifle a little creativity even, a little resilience in making something unusual for a dinner. Kate says that when she and her husband ate were young and poor,

It forced them to eat what they had and find joy and simpler things. Not to mention,

fewer dollars spent on groceries. Plus, this tool makes you eat from the freezer. It makes you scour the pantry for stuff long forgotten. It makes meals that are unconventional, but no less tasty or filling. If you feel obligated to this sort of unspoken rule of like new ingredients and new things and new meals is often as possible, I want you to practice Kate's idea of going one more day. Just go one more day. Release that pressure. You could do a fridge clean out dinner,

make a weird meal, you know, you call it. It's weird dinner day, or it's just like disconnect things that you have around, make a dinner board of those things, whatever. But try going one more day, rather than continuing to go to the store for foods that make dinner feel more complete. It doesn't have to work like that and it might be complicating your dinner. So that's number 10. Number 11 plan your hot dogs. This is maybe my favorite tool. I can get a little yelling about it too,

which is always fun, but let's paint a picture. It's Tuesday morning. Let's say. You don't know

what's for dinner and you feel bad about it, but you don't have time to figure it out right now. The day is weird, with whatever your weird day has, and you just don't know if you're going to have time to make something from what's already home, much less make something that requires a trip to the store. So in your head you think, uh, we're probably just going to end up having hot dogs. If you hours later, you still haven't decided dinner and you also don't know when you're

going to have time to decide. The hot dogs loom large in the distance making you feel guilty because it's another cop out. Then by the time you get to dinner, you're like fine screwet, let's just have hot dogs, but you're moody and pouty and eat your hot dogs with guilt and annoyance

“and low-key hate everything. Okay. Same Tuesday morning, new story. You don't know what's for dinner”

and you're not sure when you're going to be able to know what you have time for. So you decide right now to plan your hot dogs. You say, we're going to have hot dogs tonight. I might have time for more that doesn't matter. Hot dogs it is. Then you go about your weird day without guilt or the weight of the unmade decision because you already know what's for dinner. Both scenarios end the same way. They both end with eating hot dogs. The only difference is one was planned and you,

your attitude is probably different. Y'all, plan your dagham hot dogs or whatever hot dogs are for you, like plan the easy meal that feels like you're not cooking. You're not, but who cares? Cooking is not a requirement for dinner. Plan the hot dogs. Take away the guilt and the unmade decisions and enjoy the margin that a planned hot dogs can provide you. I will shout this from the rooftops

“for as long as the internet will have me. Plan your hot dogs. Okay. Finally, number 12. Name what matters.”

Too many things can matter in meal planning, like so many. Variety, nutrition, ease, simplicity, ease and simplicity or two different things, experiencing new cuisines, comfort, teaching kids how to cook, learning to cook yourself, eating based on a certain dietary plan. Like there are so many things that come matter and under no circumstances can you choose them all. I just, it's impossible. You know that old saying cheap, fast, good. You have to pick too.

I've always heard that in the world of construction and like home renovation. If you want something

cheap and fast, it's not going to be good. If you want something cheap and good, it won't be fast. If you want something fast and good, it won't be cheap. I think the same is true of meals. Plus a million other things. You simply cannot have the unicorn meal. You think you can have on a regular basis. You cannot have a wide variety of recipes. A hearty supply of healthy vegetables cooked in a multitude of ways in each one of those. And meals that are also quick, simple,

budget friendly that are always pleasing to your family. This world does not exist. Not without

“a personal chef, maybe. So you have to name what matters. You have to. I mentioned this recently”

in a previous episode, I think. But when I did the lazy genius kitchen episode with Aaron Moon, I have a video series on YouTube. It's six episodes where I'll go into people's kitchens and lazy genius their kitchen, a problem in their kitchen. And I did an episode with Aaron Moon who we love. You can watch her episode in any of the six on YouTube. She said that what matter to her for dinner,

things where are simple, quick, and had one vegetable. Now in order for that to happen,

she needed to depend on convenience foods a little bit. Quick, almost always requires something

convenient. And for it to be simple and include a vegetable, most definitely, past to have a little convenience in there sometimes. That Aaron kept getting hung up on homemade food. She got a weird when we talked about convenience foods, or like when she showed me some of the packs of pre-made meals in her fridge, she'd get a little squirrely. It gets what didn't matter to Aaron. Homemade food. It didn't actually matter. It frankly couldn't matter. If it didn't matter

more than those other things, then Aaron would have to make different choices for her life.

“Would she be allowed to do as do you? That you have to choose what matters to you about dinner,”

not for forever, just for whatever current season you're in, name it, and plan, choose what's for

dinner, or lunch or breakfast or whatever, based on that thing, on what matters. It's going to make dinner so much easier. Now, I know that there are a number of you who, this is where I get feisty. There are a number of you who are women who cook for a husband and children. And when I say this kind of thing, especially like consistency over a variety or whatever, what matters to you will often come through beautifully. You're like, yes, I'm all in Kendra, thank you, say more.

But your husband has a hard time with it because he would like more variety, or more meat and

“three meals, or whatever it is. Now, I've said this before, I will say it again without sarcasm”

or malice. If it matters enough to him, he can figure out how to cook. He can take over a couple of meals. He can prep on the weekends to make it easy for you to get dinner going. After getting all the children to their things on top of their own job, it is not the rule for every family that looks like this that has a man and a woman in children. This is not the standard necessarily, but I get enough comments from people that I know this exists a lot. If your husband wants more

regular varied dinners and you cannot support that based on the life you lead, while he as it work, he can adjust. You do not have to. It is not all or nothing, it's not every day, and it's also not something that can happen without some sort of loving discussion. But to expect you to cook more without extending help in that area, especially if homemade and variety matters to him and

not to you, then he needs to make it matter himself. So the 12 amazing all-star meal-plating dinner

making tools are use your brainless crop leasers. Choose consistency over variety. Use a meal matrix,

“use a dinner cue. Remember that not everything has to be a banger. Put your happiest meal on”

the hardest day. Have your people choose one vegetable per meal. Don't be a freezer hoarder. Go one more day, thanks Kate for that one. Play in your hot dogs and name one matters. Even starting with one of these things is going to make dinner easier. You start easy multiple. Listen. I'm not saying making dinner will be like the smoothest thing ever but it will definitely be easier than it is right now. And that is how to more easily feed your people.

Hello, I'm Elizabeth Day, the creator and host of How to Fail. It's the podcast that celebrates the things in life that haven't gone right and what if anything we've learned from those mistakes to help us succeed better? Each week my guests share three failures, sparking intimate thought-provoking and funny conversations. You're here from a diverse range of voices, sharing what they've learned through their failures. Join me Wednesdays for a new episode each week.

This isn't Elizabeth Day in Sony Music Entertainment, original podcast. Listen there wherever you get your podcasts. Okay, for today's a little extra something, I'm going to share my favorite cookbooks for making family meals at least our family meals. We tend to lean on the same set of recipes,

that I get them. So first is actually not a cookbook. It's an app. It's the New York Times food app.

Listen, I think it's stellar. I pay $6 a month for access to all the recipes and there's also a lot of baking recipes because I use those too. I can easily place recipes in different folders, you know like winter dinner, summer dinner, general dinner, whatever. I love the reviews that people leave because people share how they adjusted recipes to work better for them and these are really smart people who are making this food. It's good. It's so helpful. And then I've only had

a couple of us like they're dependable recipes. It's like having a whole store of cookbooks in my phone that I can just tap ones and I'm like, "Oh, it's good." And it's like, "Say the for me. Am I

a little cute?" I love it. So the New York Times recipe app food app, I'm not exactly sure if it's

“a recipe or food, but that's what I love that. So the next cookbook or the first cookbook”

is the Cooks Book by Brie McCoy. Yes, Brie is a dear friend of mine, but her cookbook would be top tier even if I didn't know her. The recipes are delicious and she teaches you how to cook through the process of making her recipes. And she's such a good teacher. The photos are great. It's just a top notch book. It's beautiful. It feels good. It's pretty inner shelf solid. Another favorite is Cookish by Milk Street and Christopher Kimball. So these are simply

put together recipes. Very easy to follow. And I've shared this before, but my kids like weirdly

trust this cookbook. I don't understand why, but they're like, "Is it from that? Is this from

that one cookbook?" Sometimes I will lie. It'd be like, "Yes, it is." Just because it's like, I mean, who cares? I don't know. Maybe it's bad that I'm lying to them. It doesn't have a very often, but otherwise they're going to be like, "Oh, it's suddenly they don't like it the same anymore." And it's like, "Guys, it's just food. Calm down." Anyway, they love this cookbook.

“Now, one thing to note about Cookish, I think, is really important, is that the recipes are incredibly”

simple in that they use just a handful of ingredients to pack a bunch. Right? That's what makes them simple. Now, if you don't like a particular ingredient, you don't like the recipe because there's nowhere to hide, you know? So that's just something, it's good to keep that in mind as you're trying recipes from that book because you're really putting a lot of stock and just one or two ingredients per recipe. Another book I love is "I Dream of Dinner" by Ali Slagol. Ali's been on the podcast

before. It is a great book, especially if you like cooking with traditional pantry staples. Her chicken and rice soup is an absolute go-to in her house. We call it "Feel Better Soup." Her recipes are very simple. Again, not a lot of ingredients, incredibly budget-friendly, very budget-friendly. Lots of, like I said, pantry staples and nourishing on a sole level.

“The writing is really great too. She's a great writer. An honorable mention, just because it's not”

a dinner cookbook, but it's a baking cookbook that I lean on all the time. It's sweet enough by Alson Roman. I have so many baking cookbooks. I have more baking books than I do, dinner books, but this one I reach for all the time. They're just simple recipes, super flavorful, crowd-pleasing, just like good home baking. It is a fantastic cookbook. I love it so much. So, for new recipes, I primarily use the New York Times recipes app. The cookbook by Brimacoye,

cookish by Milk Street, I dream of dinner by Alice Lagel, and sweet enough by Alson Roman when it's time for dessert. And that's today's a little extra something. Okay, now it's time for the lazy genius of the week. This week we have a voice message from Ferial, sharing her creative take on meal planning. Hello, lazy genius folks. My lazy genius idea is about meal planning, and I generally meal plan once a week, usually on Sunday evenings for the week coming up.

And what I do is I have my own separate Google calendar for our meal plan, and I will populate an event for each night of the week with the dinner, and I will include a link to the recipe in the calendar event, so that no matter who's cooking me or my husband, we both have access to the calendar, and that person cooking has access to the recipe, and we can move the calendar events around or duplicate them if we're doing a repeat

meal. And it's been, we've been doing it for years, and it's such a great system, and we love it. So, I hope it helps. Thanks. This is a great idea. I love the idea of calendar items on a separate Google calendar, especially because you can repeat things if you use a meal matrix.

in the calendar item, like Ferial does, but then you can just like set it to repeat every week,

“or every week, or every month or whatever you want to do. If you use this idea and you find it”

works, I can even see changing, like once you've lived with it for a while, I can see changing the color of new meals. So, you know how often you're trying something new if that is a priority to you. So, this is just such a great idea. It's sustainable, versatile, works with the person's way of life.

I love this. So, thank you for sending it in for sending us a voice memo, too. Those are always so

fun to get. Congratulations on being the lazy genius at the week. If you'd like to submit your own idea, you can email hello at the lazygeneyscollective.com and put lazygeneys to the week in the subject line, or you can go to the link in the show notes to submit your audio recording. You can also do that at the lazygeneyscollective.com/voices. All right, to close, let's have a mini pep talk for

“when nobody seems grateful. I think this is a great episode to speak into that. Making meals is just”

one of many things that so many of you do, that might not get a lot of notice or gratitude. It's hard to do so many things over and over again, either on your own or for your family and not feel like anyone notices or sees it or even cares. And if you live alone, there's no one even to thank you for that or to even notice how much you're actually doing. So I try personally to not like depend on that gratitude, but like, man, is it nice to hear

sometimes, you know? So here's my, here's my slightly odd encouragement for when nobody seems

grateful. Be the first one to show gratitude. If you live with a partner, kids, and you wish they

said thank you more. You can definitely tell them that. You can be like, you know, you can honestly say, you know, it is, it's hard to do all that I do and not feel appreciated. I know you probably do appreciate me, but it would be really helpful to hear it more often or even just hear it right now. Like, you can do that. And maybe even should. And you'll probably have to do it more than once because we're forgetful people. But I know for me, when I am not feeling the gratitude from others

and my family, I withhold gratitude for them. Like, I don't say thank you when they help with something, when they like tidy a space, whether I ask them to or not, when they, when they do what's even what's totally expected of them, I withhold my gratitude because I'm either like a little snippy because they're not showing me any or I don't even think about it because it's just what

they're supposed to do. Well, it could be that the same is true of your people. You always make

dinner or you always pick them up from practice or you always fill in the blank. It's just a normal part of things. Gratitude might not be coming, not because they're not grateful, but just because it's not anything new. Like, everybody does that. So my encouragement is to go first. Show gratitude to your people even for things that they always do or are expected to do. That doesn't mean it isn't hard or that being grateful to them is an important. You going first, if no one else is

already going, it helps create a culture in your home of gratitude. If that is something that matters to you, if you regularly show gratitude to them, it might spark a little more from them. So yes, it's normal to feel like no one sees what you're doing and it's good to share what you need

“and also show gratitude first or sometimes a little too hard to want to. But I think that's”

exactly what it's the most needed. Not for them, but for us. And that's a mini pep talk for when nobody seems great. If this episode is helpful to you or if you've been looking for a way to support the show, please share this episode with someone you know or you can leave a kind of view on apple podcasts. Every mention, every share, they all make such a difference in turning more people into lazy geniuses, so thank you for being so supportive. This podcast is part of the Odyssey family

and the office ladies network. This episode is hosted by me, Kendra Adachi, and executive produced by Kendra Adachi, Jennifer Sure, and Angela Kimsey, special thanks to Leah Jarvis for weekly production. If you'd like a podcast recap every other week, be sure to sign up for the latest lazy lessons email that goes out every other Friday, head to the lazyginesscollective.com/lissons to get it. Thanks y'all for listening and until next time, be a genius about the things that matter

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